011: How to Break Free from Repeating Lessons

As great as it would be to have a miracle way to know exactly what you're purpose is, it doesn't work like this for most people. In today's episode, I share some no-BS info on the hype that is finding your purpose, while offering you 10 steps to discover yours.

One thing I point out is that you do not need to have a flashy purpose for all to see. A purpose is about what fills you up most of the time, whether it's big or small. Remember, if you're a mom, you already have one massively important purpose.

Key Topics

• Discovering your purpose requires you to believe you have a purpose in the first place. (3:30)
• The first 9 steps to finding your purpose (9:31)
• The 10th, most important step and the key to discovering who you are and what your purpose is. (14:34)

External Links & Contact Info
I referred to the habit episode. You can find the link below. 

• Episode 017: Learn to Accept & Let Go with Actual Steps

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Today's episode is number 25! It feels like a big number, so I'm celebrating with a guest. Nicole Dake is a mother, an award-winning author, a spiritual life coach, a blogger, and a social media influencer.

In the show, Nicole shares her personal story and her trauma-healing journey. She talks about awareness of what's happening, self-acceptance by accepting where you are now, and the need for self-compassion as a part of the healing process. While we speak about trauma, we also refer to the importance of overall mental health.

During our conversation, we discussed two of Nicole's ten books. One is the Trauma Survivors Guide to Coping with Panic Attacks, which won the Bookfest Award for Best Mental Health Book 2022. The second book is Compassion is the Ultimate Goal of Spirituality.

If you or someone you know has experienced trauma or you want more information about trauma and mental health, then this is a show you don't want to miss. 

Key Topics

• The definition of trauma and what emotional trauma is. (06:20)
• How mothers can start on a healing journey. Tip: The first step is always awareness. (11:39)
• Accepting where you are now as part of the healing process. (15:28)
• You cannot heal if you keep beating yourself up. You need to be kind to yourself and find value in how you are. (18:58)
• If you're not ready to open up to a therapist, there are many support groups. You are not alone. Yet, therapy will bring you the most benefits and luckily the threshold is lower than it used to be. (27:11)

External Links & Contact Info

Nicole's books are available on Amazon. You can connect with her on her website, Millennial Mom, Twitter, and Instagram.

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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In today's episode, I'm joined by Karen Smith. Karen is the owner of Aunties Kitchen, an Indigenous business providing fresh, healthy and delicious catering services. After working for 25 years in the government, Karen decided it was time to stop working for someone else and instead, follow her dreams.

During the show, we talk about reconnecting to who you are by returning to what's important to you. Karen describes that without taking risks, you will never know the outcome and how a positive mindset gave her the courage to leap. We get into boundary setting, values, pushing through excuses and so much more!

Key Topics

• What happens when you take the scary and hard risks? (6:04)
• How Karen feels now that she's following her dreams. (13:17)
• Why changing your perception can give you the courage you need. (19:14)
• The importance of surrounding yourself with like-minded people and focusing on what you want to help you move forward. (22:31)
• Karen's brilliant advice for mothers who are wondering if they should follow their dreams. (26:40)
• A key question to ask yourself if you want to leave a legacy for your kids and how to do it. (31:05)
• There are times when it's better to keep your goals and dreams to yourself. (36:37)

External Links & Contact Info

You can connect with Karen on LinkedIn , Facebook or through her website www.auntieskitchen.ca. 

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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In today's minisode, you will discover 8 strategies to help you find that much-needed work-life balance. I call it the work-life-motherhood balance or integration. As mothers, this almost seems like a mythical creature at times. But your life does not have to be a juggling act of swapping from one role to the next without a second to breathe in between. 

Tune into the show and find out how you can start implementing strategies that will get you the balance you're looking for.

Key Topics

• The 8 simple and effective strategies for creating a work-life balance (4:17)
• Why finding a balance is so important for mothers (13:46)

Episode Links & Contact Info

I referred to the habit episode. You can find the link below. 

• Episode 008: 10 Self-Care Tips for Busy Moms

Want a free gift? Go to www.kylievangelder.com/journal to download your FREE Mama Needs More 30-Day Journal and get started on an amazing self-discovery journey today!

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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In today's episode, I dive into a topic I'm passionate about: food and the impact this has on your mental and physical health. I briefly explain what unhealthy food is and what it does to your mind and body. So I don't scare you off, I am all about balance – don't touch my pasta!

In balancing things, this also means getting enough of the good stuff in. This is why I explain what the good stuff is. Lastly, I offer tips and tricks on how you get more of it in your daily life and sneak it into your family's food, too.

Key Topics

• This is what happens to my kids when they eat junk food. (5:12)
• You know what unhealthy foods are but I also list them here. (8:32)
• The negative impact of the Standard American Diet. (12:40)
• Reversing the damage of unhealthy food and using food to heal. (15:23)
• Improve your mood with food & the gut-brain axis. (18:43)
• Tips and tricks to boost the healthy option in your household. (23:25)

Episode Links & Contact Info

I referred to the habit episode. You can find the link below. 

• Episode 018: Creating Healthy Habits the Easy Way

Want a free gift? Go to www.kylievangelder.com/journal to download your FREE Mama Needs More 30-Day Journal and get started on an amazing self-discovery journey today!

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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In today's episode, I give you my top 10 busy mom strategies to set yourself up for success in the new year. I make it easy to combine things, so you feel like you achieve more throughout the year. If you follow the tips, you will definitely do just that!

I also highlight why starting before the year ends can help you get the most out of the year to come. This creates a feeling of "Yes, I ended this year on a positive note and set myself up for great things next year!"

Key Topics

• Get the most out of the end of the year (2:51)
• The top 10 easy-to-achieve strategies for personal success in the New Year (4:51)
• An important end of the year message from me to you (17:18)

Episode Links & Contact Info

I referred to three other episodes during the show. Here they are in order:

• Episode 017 Learn to Accept & Let Go with Actual Steps 
• Episode 008 Unlock Your Inner Calm with 10 Self-Care Tips for Busy Moms

Want a free gift? Go to www.kylievangelder.com/journal to download your FREE Mama Needs More 30-Day Journal and get started on an amazing self-discovery journey today!

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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In this minisode, I talk about the fantastic ways daily self-reflection can help you increase your self-awareness and confidence. It's super simple and doesn't require much time. Bonus!

As it's the end of the year, I also share the benefits of reflecting on your year and what you want to do going forward. I walk you through the questions I ask myself and provide you with details on Naikan, the Japanese art of self-reflection.

Key Topics:

• The benefits of regular self-reflection (1:20)
• My end-of-year list of self-reflection questions (4:23)
• The Naikan self-reflection questions (7:17)

Episode Links & Contact Info

Want a free gift? Go to www.kylievangelder.com/journal to download your FREE Mama Needs More 30-Day Journal and get started on an amazing self-discovery journey today!

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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Have you ever wondered about the benefits of being positive? What about when someone is too positive? In today's episode, I dive into the good things that happen when you have a healthy balance of positivity. I also get into toxic positivity. This is when someone ignores negative emotions and covers them up with extreme positivity, to the point that it becomes toxic to them and those around them.

Before wrapping up the show with strategies to create a healthy positive balance in your life, I also talk about what is so great about a positive mindset. More specifically,  the mind and body connection found through the words you use.

Key Topics

• The good side of positive and what it looks like to have a healthy balance (2:21)
• What happens when being positive is toxic? (5:58)
• The amazing result of having a positive mindset and the mind/body connection. (13:11)
• Strategies to help create a positive balance and gain all the benefits that comes with it. (15:27)

Episode Links & Contact Info

I referred to three other episodes during the show. Here they are in order:

• Episode 017 Learn to Accept & Let Go with Actual Steps 
• Episode 008 Unlock Your Inner Calm with 10 Self-Care Tips for Busy Moms
• Episode 003 Reduce Your Inner Critic's Impact & Regain Control of Your Thoughts

Want a free gift? Go to www.kylievangelder.com/journal to download your FREE Mama Needs More 30-Day Journal and get started on an amazing self-discovery journey today!

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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It's almost the New Year and I'm sure you're thinking about a New Year's resolution. Let me stop you right there. This show is all about creating healthy habits starting now. In the episode, I explain why postponing a new habit won't get you very far. I also emphasize how important it is to start taking action today. Luckily, the action I'm suggesting is small, tiny even, down to just a few minutes a day to get you on the path to healthy habits.

I also grab a few goodies from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. This book is brilliant if you're looking to get started with small changes today. I highly recommend it (no affiliate link). 

Key Topics

• Why you can't go all in with a new habit & why NY resolutions don't work (2:52)
• The habit loop, how to use it to your advantage  & give your brain an orgasm (9:14)
• The easiest way to start a healthy habit is slowly (13:02)
• Great habit-building power from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear (18:00)
• Two moments when you can take advantage and create a big change (25:46)

Episode Links & Contact Info

Here's a link to Episode 017 Learn to Accept & Let Go with Actual Steps. It's around minute 18 that I discuss the importance of values. 

New to the show? Check out Episode 001 Introduction & Welcome for all you need to know about the show.

Want a free gift? Go to www.kylievangelder.com/journal to download your FREE Mama Needs More 30-Day Journal and get started on an amazing self-discovery journey today!

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

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Mama Needs More season 2 returns! In this episode, I open up about the challenges my husband and I have been facing and how we have been practicing the “sometimes annoying” art of accepting and letting go. If you’re like me, those words might drive you crazy. Well, in this show, I give you ACTUAL STEPS to learn the technique and release yourself from the shit that’s dragging you down.
 
I share steps from David Hawkins’ book Letting Go, as well as my own techniques for releasing negative emotions (such as anger or sadness that causes guilt) and aligning with my values. I emphasize the importance of taking control of your own reactions and choosing a path that is aligned with your personal values.

Key Topics

• Situations when you might want to let go (05:44)
• Learning to let go using David Hawkins' steps (14:00) 
• Discovering your values to align with the life you want (19:15)
• Finding the positives in a shitty situation (23:31)
• My husband’s steps for letting go (24:59)

Episode Links & Contact Info

New to the show? Check out Episode 001 Introduction & Welcome for all you need to know about the show.

Want a free gift? Go to www.kylievangelder.com/journal to download your FREE Mama Needs More 30-Day Journal and get started on an amazing self-discovery journey today!

If you would like to connect with me, you can DM me on Instagram or visit my website www.kylievangelder.com for more information. 

Please remember to share this show with other mamas who need more!