104 - Navigating Polyamory and Friendship: How do we care for each other through relationship transitions?

RATED R

Can you imagine going against the grain, defying societal expectations, and carving your own path in life? 

Rebecca's guest for this episode, Lisa, did just that. A successful entrepreneur who journeyed from being financially dependent, caught in an abusive marriage, to establishing her own prosperous venture, Lisa recounts her transformational life experiences. She also shares how she found the courage to leave her comfort zone, and why it's essential to recognize when something isn't working for you. Her story isn't just about entrepreneurial success, it's about resilience and empowerment and the power of rebellion against norms that no longer serve you.

Rebecca and Lisa also discuss women's health, specifically contraception, and why taking the pill might not be the best answer to save sex. They also touch on the importance of condom education and how it's more than just about preventing pregnancy. It's about understanding one's body, the significance of pleasure, and how different body parts contribute to our feminine divine. 

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Lisa is an alias as the guest wanted to remain anonymous.

THINK ABOUT

- Women's empowerment is linked to their ability to navigate from dependence to independence. This requires courage, determination, and the ability to trust one's intuition and make choices that align with personal values.

- Understanding the evolution of contraception and its societal impact is critical for women's health.

- Condom education is vital and should be prioritized over merely promoting birth control.

- Women entrepreneurs should trust themselves, even when others doubt them. This self-belief is crucial in navigating the entrepreneurial journey successfully.

- It's crucial to know when to quit. Not all businesses are meant for you, and recognizing when something isn't working and having the courage to move on is essential.

- Rest and self-care are critical components of a successful entrepreneurial journey. Taking time out to rejuvenate can provide a fresh perspective and prevent burnout.

- Open communication about pleasure in relationships is key. Being comfortable with guiding partners and having conversations about pleasure can lead to a more satisfying sexual relationship.

- Embracing individuality and rebelling against societal expectations is a crucial part of empowerment. 

- Making choices that align with one's deepest desires can lead to satisfaction and fulfillment.

EXPLORE

Listen to Episode 109 - Why We Want to Quit and How to Stay Focused and Increase our Resilience as Entrepreneurs. In this episode, Rebecca speaks about her own experience as an entrepreneur, focusing on how to develop a mindset to overcome obstacles and adapt to change.

CREDITS
Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and to Lisa for being a guest on the podcast.

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I can’t wait to hear from you! Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

 

RATED PG-13

In episode 119, Rebecca explores Acro Yoga with Natasha Hawthorn, an advanced practitioner of the art. Acro Yoga is a form of yoga that involves performing poses and movements with a partner, and requires a high level of trust, communication, and personal growth. Bringing her wealth of experience to the discussion, Natasha gives us an insider's view into her personal journey of discovery and growth within this cooperative art form. The conversation highlights the critical role of trust, intuition, and calibration in the practice and Natasha narrates her unique experiences and talks about the communal respect, communication, and safety measures that make the global acro yoga community truly exceptional.

The conversation goes deeper into the themes of communication and setting boundaries in acro yoga, exploring what it takes to create a good acro match. Natasha's observations from her interactions with various bases and flyers provide valuable tips to advanced and new practitioners. Additionally, the episode shines a light on the exciting acro yoga documentary project, Touching the Sky, an initiative aimed at raising awareness about the global talent within the acro yoga community.

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Find out more about Natasha Hawthorn

Facebook | Instagram

THINK ABOUT

- Define your boundaries when it comes to physical interaction with strangers and friends.

- What importance does setting boundaries and effective communication have in acro yoga?

- Share your needs and limitations / injuries with new acro yoga partners.

- How you do one thing is how you do everything in life.

- Acro Yoga is a collaborative experience - take ownership and responsibility for co-creations.

- How can acro yoga help your personal journey of discovery and growth?

- What did you learn about respecting someone’s boundaries through a sporting activity like acro yoga?

- List the positive ways in which acro yoga could impact your life.

EXPLORE

Listen to Episode 073 to hear more about acro yoga and what it teaches us about partnership, relationships, communication, and the balance between the divine masculine and the divine feminine in each of us.

CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and to Natasha Hawthorn for being a guest on the podcast.

We’d love a review! 

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If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? Maybe something helped you shift a perspective on an important part of your life?

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I can’t wait to hear from you!

Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

LINKS TO RESOURCES

Acro Documentary Project 

Instagram for the Acro Documentary Project (#touchingthesky)

RATED PG-13

In episode 118, Rebecca speaks to Jamien about finding ways to calm our nervous system, finding bodily ease and balance, to help us fully live in the present moment. In particular, they explore how learning to connect with your body (physically, spiritually and emotionally) can be a very transformative healing experience.

Jamien helps people feel safer and more at ease with their whole self (body, mind, spirit) to enable deeper engagement in their meaningful life activities. She works with clients using intuitive and light touch fascial body work, nervous system regulation, therapeutic dialogue, rehab science, GYROTONIC® exercises and other movement forms. In this episode, she explains the concept of what it means to be ‘embodied’ and provides guidelines for how we can transition from a very head-focused life to letting go of chronic stress and being able to enjoy each moment by fully being in touch with all of our senses.

Medical Disclaimer
All information shared on this episode is for instruction and informational purposes only. The authors are not responsible for any harm or injury that may result. Significant risk is possible if you do not follow due diligence and seek suitable professional advice about your condition. No guarantees of specific results are expressly made or implied in this episode.
GYROTONIC® is a registered trademark of Gyrotonic Sales Corp & is used with permission.  

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Find out more about Jamien  

Website | Facebook 

THINK ABOUT

- If you live too much inside your brain, you can’t fully enjoy the present.

- Do you often think ahead, instead of really focusing on what’s going on around you?

- What does being embodied mean to you?

- You might miss out on opportunities in life if you are rushing around, not fully aware of your environment.

- Your body experience can be linked to emotional aspects and stress.

- Are you able to relax in your system or are you constantly feeling not at ease?

- Increase your flexibility and adaptability by learning to calm down your nervous system.

EXPLORE

Listen to Episode 116 with massage therapist, Federico Langoni, about being intimate with someone without being erotic and seeking healthy pleasure.

CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and to Jamien Rose for being a guest on the podcast.

We’d love a review! 

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If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? Maybe something helped you shift a perspective on an important part of your life?

There’s a voice message button on the homepage of PleasureCentralRadio.com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine!

I can’t wait to hear from you!Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

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LINKS TO RESOURCES

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GYROTONIC® Movement

https://www.gyrotonic.com/

Tensegrity Medicine

https://kellyclancy.com/

RATED PG-13

In episode 117,  Rebecca talks to creative entrepreneurs at the Unmistakable Creative Community about seduction in business. Following a podcast episode, the host invited Rebecca to a workshop with some of his listeners so that they could ask questions relevant to their own lives. The podcast and community is made up out of creatives looking to make a living out of their art and in this episode Rebecca explores various elements of successfully seducing someone with what you have to offer, while still being yourself, so that the process is as rewarding as possible for both sides.

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The Unmistakeable Creative

Website | Instagram

THINK ABOUT

- Selling a product or service is a form of seduction.

- Being authentic and honest about what you’re offering and who it will benefit takes away any dishonesty about the sales process.

- Think of it like a dating profile: be clear about who would be a great fit for you and what are your deal breakers.

- In your business, the more you are yourself, the more you’ll attract clients who you can successfully collaborate with.

- Are you creating for someone else or for yourself?

- Mystery is a powerful component of seduction.

- What’s the difference between seducing an individual versus an audience at scale?

- Is your role to inspire others, to help them be curious, or share things to help people’s live better?

- Often if we don’t ask, people don’t know what we need.

- People are drawn to people who do things.

- You’re never intimidating or too much to the person who want to spend time with you.

EXPLORE

Listen to Episode 109 in which Rebecca does another entrepreneur focused discussion about why we want to quit as entrepreneurs and how to increase our resiliencel

CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and to the Unmistakable Creative Community for inviting Rebecca to be a guest speaker at their workshop.

We’d love a review! 

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If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? Maybe something helped you shift a perspective on an important part of your life?

There’s a voice message button on the homepage of PleasureCentralRadio.com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine!

I can’t wait to hear from you!

Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

RATED PG-13

In episode 116, Rebecca speaks to Federico Langoni about different cultural interpretations of human touch, intimacy and values. Federico is a masseur in Argentina where he experiences the different treatment between Western and Latino clients. He explains how this reflects different value systems between Western culture and Latino culture.

In this episode, explore what intimacy really means and how you can be intimate with someone and help them through a difficult time without any eroticism. Federico further emphasises the importance of letting emotions flow freely and not being restrictive in what you allow yourself to feel or be in life. They discuss the restrictive nature of traditional gender viewpoints and how allowing yourself healthy pleasure, can alleviate physical pain, but also help you gain energy, strength and freedom.

This is the second in a series of episodes about Argentina and rediscovering new pleasures in a different city.

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Find out more about Federico Langoni

Instagram 

THINK ABOUT

- In Western culture, like North America, it’s accepted to be polite in our speech, yet keep wider distance between us and others.

- In Argentina, they are more aggressive in their speech, but more warm in their physical interaction.

- How can you be part of someone’s life in a constructive way?

- You can be intimate without being erotic.

- Process your emotions by letting it flow freely, that way you learn from them.

- Men especially are restricted in expressing their emotions and getting physically close to other men without misinterpretation.

- How can you act against gender stereotypes and why do they matter?

- You can live a thousand lives, striving to live up to society’s ideals, but never live the life you want.

- When you connect to a healthy pleasure, you become stronger and freer.

- Be aware of people trying to sell you pleasure for their own capital benefit at the cost of your well-being.

- Certain types of pleasure can help us avoid pain, but it is not necessarily beneficial for us in the long run as we also avoid healing the wound inside us.

EXPLORE

Listen to Episode 115 with Sara Rose, the first in this series about eye-opening cultural perspectives inspired by life in Argentina.

CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and to Federico Langoni for being a guest on the podcast.

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There’s a voice message button on the homepage of PleasureCentralRadio.com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine!

I can’t wait to hear from you!

Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

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LINKS TO RESOURCES

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Federico Langoni's Massage and Physio Page

RATED PG-13

In episode 115, Rebecca speaks to Sara Rose, a tango coach and tour guide leader, about Argentina and how experiencing a different culture enhances your outlook on the world. This episode will make you rethink your view on materialistic wealth, time and the true value of human connection.

Sara began her dance training at the age of 14, training in Classical Ballet. When she discovered Argentinian Tango in 1996, she fell in love with the art form, studying with every visiting instructor. In 1998, she started a successful career teaching, performing, choreographing and training teachers in Ballroom dance. In 2000, she also began teaching yoga, gaining extensive wisdom in seeing and helping people free places where they are blocked. She eventually started spending 3-9 months a year in Buenos Aires, studying with every teacher she could. She founded Tango En Vie School and brings students annually to Buenos Aires to delve deeply into the music, dance and culture of the city that has become her second home.

In this episode, you’ll be taken on a tour of Argentinian culture, tango, artistic expression and human connection. You’ll find out why Sara enjoys Argentina so much in comparison to the States, which will make you think deeply about your own culture and whether you’re allowed to openly express and accept emotions, like being sad or frustrated.

This is the first in a series of episodes about Argentina and rediscovering new pleasures in life in a different city.

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Find out more about Sara Rose and Buenos Aires Tango tours:

Website | Email

THINK ABOUT

- Do you openly express and accept emotions?

- What is your relationship with material possessions?

- Argentinians’ approach to art and embracing the artist’s life.

- Are you able to celebrate the small things in life?

- In Argentina, everything you do in collaboration with someone insists on empathy and connection.

- Is being overly independent healthy?

- What is the difference between sensuality and sexuality?

- Obligation is not sexy. Pure responsibility for most people is not fun.

- If people want to learn, they’ll learn.

EXPLORE

Listen to the previous episode with Sara, episode 83, to find out how to cope with a pleasure famine, like the one of 2020, and its effects on our lives.

CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and thanks to Sara Rose for being a guest on the podcast.

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If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? Maybe something helped you shift a perspective on an important part of your life?

There’s a voice message button on the homepage of PleasureCentralRadio.com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine!

I can’t wait to hear from you!Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

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LINKS TO RESOURCES

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https://www.tangoenvie.com/batangotours.html

 

RATED PG-13

In episode 114, Rebecca and co-host, Shawn, talk to Heather, a transformational practitioner and healer, about how to rewire our brain so that past trauma no longer affects us today.

Heather is the founder of Shifting Sands, a holistic healing practice in which she assists people in overcoming past traumatic experiences and helping them release themselves from negative generational patterns of behavior. In this episode, they discuss Heather’s process and what makes it effective when it comes to helping clients overcome their limiting beliefs, especially ingrained in them from past trauma. Learn how to apply this in your own life as she explains the different steps in her programme: CLEAR.

Heather is also hosting a retreat in Mexico in April. Whether you have worked with Heather before or not, you can join the retreat. Find more details here.

Think about this:

- How can you rewire your brain so that hurtful past events no longer affect you?

- Consider the realm of now versus the realm of meaning.

- Detach from the realm of meaning so past events no longer define your life.

- Are you trapped in unhealthy generational patterns?

- Understand what is implied by abuse and the feelings it makes you feel.

- How does the experience of abuse relate to your reality?

- Find safe people with whom you can be open and vulnerable with.

- How do you overcome limiting beliefs?

- Permission from your ancestors to heal your trauma.

Keep Exploring

Listen to Episode 095 about leadership programs for men and creating space in our life to stop and listen within. Another episode with Shawn and a special guest, Morgan, Rebecca’s coach and their mutual friend.

CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and to Heather for being a guest on the show.

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If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? Maybe something helped you shift a perspective on an important part of your life?

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Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company in the next episode.

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LINKS TO RESOURCES

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Retreat: 

https://www.shiftingsands4health.com/consciously-connected

Meeting Yourself Again: 

https://www.shiftingsands4health.com/book-online

 

In episode 113, Rebecca talks to poet and podcaster, Scott Bryant-Comstock, about the impact of his Kundalini awakening on his life. They delve into the topic, exploring how Scott’s awakening happened and the potential consequences it may hold for you in your creative, spiritual and sexual life.

Scott’s awakening happened after he sought out a masseuse to help release back problems he experienced after falling off a horse. During this time, and completely unprepared, he started going through intense out of body experiences which partly led him to writing poetry and eventually starting a podcast, the Kundalini Chronicles. In this episode, you’ll learn more about Kundalini awakening and a how greater awareness of your spirituality can lead to a more pleasurable sex life and deeper connection to the universe and people around you on the whole.

GUEST DETAILS

Website 

CEO and founder of the Children’s Mental Health Network. Scott started his journey as a mental health advocate volunteering at a suicide and crisis center and later fulfilled different roles within the mental health field, including therapist, state mental health official and national reviewer of children’s mental health systems reform efforts. As the founder of the Children’s Mental Health Network (2009), he leads the Network’s efforts to grow a national online forum to exchange ideas on how to improve children’s mental health research, policy and practice. He also runs the podcast, The Kundalini Chronicles.

Think about this:

- You cannot force a Kundalini awakening.

- It is often linked to a feeling of intense oneness with the universe.

- It feels like the best orgasm times a million.

- How do these experiences impact your life positively?

- The deeper you go into yourself, the more you open up about what is possible.

- Awakening is about conscious surrender, acceptance and celebrating letting go. 

- Pleasure does not have to be seen as only a physical experience. It can be a spiritual and emotional experience too.

Keep Exploring

Listen to Episode 066 about compersion, pleasure at your partner's pleasure.

CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio and to the guests on this episode, Scott Bryant-Comstock

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Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

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LINKS TO RESOURCES

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The Kundalini Chronicles - Scott’s podcast

RATED PG-13

In episode 112,  Rebecca talks to Bruce about what it is like being polyamorous from a male’s perspective. Bruce shares his experience of dating and interacting with metamours, including opening up about his fears when it comes to being in multiple relationships and how to deal with the issues that inevitably come up. 

Rebecca met Bruce met at a sexuality workshop and both of them connected over the concept of ethical non-monogamy. When Bruce got into polyamory, an important consideration for him was keeping his honor and integrity. He wanted to be completely open and honest with the people he got involved with in order to prevent them from getting hurt. In this episode, he shares strategies to keep integrity intact and build rewarding relationships, in particular as a polyamorous man. For women, this gives a rare insight into the struggles men face in open relationships.

Think about this:

- Open relationships require clear, frequent communication.

- Fearing rejection in any kind of relationship is normal.

- How should you deal with the fear of being told that what you’re doing is wrong?

- What is your interpretation of ethical non-monogamy?

- Your approach to polyamory is what will determine the integrity of your relationships.

- How much should you disclose to your partner/s and when is the best time?

- Take an open approach and inform your existing partner about a potential new partner before anything happens.

- What do you think about the ‘Don’t-Ask-Don’t-Tell’ approach?

Keep Exploring

Listen to Episode 107 about how others navigate complicated sex, relationships and polyamory.

CREDITS

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Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

RATED R

In episode 111, Rebecca talks to Sherry and Brian about establishing intimacy with your partner and being completely honest about your needs and desires.

Influenced by her time in the army, Sherry’s strong sense of masculinity in her sex life led her to a Quodoushka workshop in 2019 where she wanted to explore her more feminine sexual self and learn more about being intimate and establishing a deep connection through sex. In this episode, she and her new partner, Brian, open up to Rebecca about obstacles in their relationship and sex life. Rebecca coaches them through aspects of overcoming shame in sex, achieving higher levels of orgasms and the benefit of true authenticity with your partner. 

GUEST DETAILS

Sherry met Rebecca at a Quodoushka workshop in 2019 about sacred sexuality and intimate communication. She was keen to learn more about her sexual self and sexual story and who she was as a modern woman. Sherry has been in the army for over 18 years and therefore more in touch with her masculinity, how to control the world around her and command the people around her. Each year she became less and less familiar with her own femininity. 

Brian is her partner.

Think about this:

- Are you trying to control yourself and the world around you? Or are you allowing yourself to openly express your feelings?

- How do emotional barriers prevent a relationship from developing?

- The huge price of hiding things from our partners is that unless you share yourself, you cannot be accepted for who you really are. Because nobody knows who that is. 

- Can you trust your partner with your emotions? (e.g. if you express your emotions, are you afraid that they will react negatively?)

- How does porn affect our expectations of our partners and sexual pleasure? 

- There are different levels of orgasm, and it’s a useful concept to understand. 

- Try intentionally surfing a 90 second wave of pleasure energy to give yourself permission to experience short bursts of pleasure and connection - that could lead to sex and having an orgasm but doesn’t have to.

- Navigate what feels good and what is acceptable to you in sex with what feels good and is acceptable to your partner. Are there any new areas you would like to explore?

CREDITS

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LINKS TO RESOURCES

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Quodoushka.com

ShamanicDearmoring.com