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    #114 The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World with Dr Vivek Murthy

    enMay 26, 2020

    Podcast Summary

    • Building a People-Centered WorldPrioritize human connection, practice acts of service, and commit to others to build stronger relationships and create a more connected world.

      During these challenging times, it's essential to prioritize human connection and build a people-centered world. Dr. Vivek Murty, a former US Surgeon General, emphasized this in his conversation with Ron Ganchasti on the Feel Better Live More podcast. They discussed how loneliness is a growing issue in today's disconnected world, causing various health and social problems. However, they also expressed hope for a social revival, where people put relationships first and practice acts of service to add value to the world. Authenticity and vulnerability were key themes in their conversation, leading to a profound and deep connection despite recording remotely. Ultimately, the message is to make a commitment to others, reach out, and give undistracted time to build stronger relationships. The conversation also highlighted the importance of companies like Athletic Greens, which support content creators like Ron in sharing meaningful messages.

    • From surgeon to Surgeon General: Prioritize self-care for better functioning and contributionsFocusing on self-care through proper nutrition leads to improved functioning and ability to contribute positively to personal and global changes.

      Taking care of yourself is a crucial first step to connecting with others. Vivek's journey from being a surgeon to becoming the Surgeon General under President Obama was not planned, but his passion for improving healthcare led him to advocacy work despite having no experience in policy or politics. He emphasized the importance of nourishing yourself with the right nutrients, whether through whole foods or high-quality supplements like Athletic Greens. By focusing on self-care, we can better function and contribute to positive changes in our own lives and in the world around us. Remember, you can access a special offer for Athletic Greens at athleticgreens.com/livemore.

    • Unexpected opportunities and trusting intuitionRecognizing the unique fit of opportunities and trusting intuition can lead to significant contributions in shaping policies and making an impact.

      Having a seat at the table for those with expertise and experience, particularly in the healthcare industry, is crucial in shaping policies that impact the public. Dr. Vivek Murthy's unexpected call from the White House led him to serve as Surgeon General, a role where he could bring together his diverse background in technology, grassroots organizing, policy, and medicine to promote science and public interest. This story highlights the importance of being open to opportunities and trusting one's intuition, even when initially unsure. Despite declining a previous offer to serve in the Obama administration, Dr. Murthy recognized the unique fit of the Surgeon General role and accepted, ultimately making significant contributions to healthcare policy in the United States.

    • Unexpected Opportunity and Personal Background Shaped Surgeon General's New BookThe Surgeon General's new book on loneliness was inspired by his clinical experience, personal background, and the current pandemic, highlighting the importance of connection and addressing isolation.

      The Surgeon General role was a perfect fit for the speaker's personality and past experiences, which was an unexpected but welcome opportunity. This conversation also revealed that the desire to write about loneliness in his new book came from both his clinical experience and personal background, as well as the current global pandemic magnifying the issue. The speaker shared a moving story about his parents' immigration to the United States and the sacrifices they made to provide a better life for their family. This experience, along with the support of mentors and teachers, ultimately led the speaker to serve as Surgeon General and inspired him to write about the importance of connection and addressing loneliness.

    • Former US Surgeon General Jerome Adams' experiences shaped his perspectiveJerome Adams, a former US Surgeon General, recognized the importance of addressing loneliness after hearing it from various individuals during his time in office. His background influenced his worldview, leading him to consider the impact on South Asian immigrants in the UK.

      Former US Surgeon General and current Vice Admiral Jerome Adams' extraordinary journey from humble beginnings to raising a family in the United States has left a profound impact on him, and his experiences have influenced his worldview. During his time in office, Adams prioritized listening to communities and was surprised by the prevalence of loneliness, which he heard from individuals regardless of age or station in life. This experience led him to recognize the importance of addressing this issue. Adams' background and upbringing have significantly shaped his perspective, making him wonder if similar experiences could occur for South Asian immigrants in the UK.

    • Experience of Loneliness Transcends Cultures and BackgroundsLoneliness is a universal experience, affecting individuals regardless of their backgrounds. It can manifest in various ways, including feelings of isolation during childhood and in professional settings, and among patients in the medical field during difficult conversations and end-of-life moments.

      Loneliness is a common experience, transcending cultures and backgrounds. The speaker shared their personal experiences of feeling isolated and left out as a child, which continued into their career as a surgeon. They also emphasized the prevalence of loneliness among patients in the medical field, often during difficult conversations and end-of-life moments. The speaker's immigrant background added a layer of complexity, as they navigated different identities at home and school. The speaker's parents came to the US in pursuit of better opportunities, but the cost of leaving their community and social fabric was not fully understood. Overall, the conversation underscored the importance of recognizing and addressing the pervasive issue of loneliness.

    • Cost of leaving social connections for individual successRecognize the value of social connections and collective efforts in determining self-worth and maximizing impact, as leaving them behind for individual success can lead to unhealthy self-evaluation and overlooked importance of interdependence.

      While having strong social connections is essential for our well-being, the cost of leaving behind these connections to pursue individual success in a new place can be underestimated. This was evident in the experiences of the speaker's parents, who had to adapt to new environments and miss their extensive social networks. The Western idea of individual success often overlooks the importance of interdependence and collective efforts. Moreover, linking self-worth solely to individual outcomes can lead to unhealthy self-evaluation. It's crucial to recognize the value of social connections and the collective us in determining our self-worth and maximizing impact.

    • Intrinsic worth vs. external factorsOur worth comes from within, not from wealth, power, or fame. Love and connection are key to our value as humans.

      Our self-worth and value as human beings are intrinsic, not determined by external factors such as wealth, power, or fame. Our ability to give and receive love is what makes us worthy. However, modern culture often sends conflicting messages, leading us to believe that our worth is tied to these external factors. This pursuit of false sources of value can lead to unhappiness. The current pandemic situation, despite its challenges, also presents opportunities for personal growth and deeper connections with others through the experience of shared hardship.

    • Appreciating the value of relationships during the pandemicReflect on the importance of relationships and commit to fostering them during physical distancing to combat feelings of loneliness and isolation, contributing to overall well-being.

      The COVID-19 pandemic has brought about a renewed appreciation for the importance of relationships and social connections in our lives. While society often defines success through material possessions, the pandemic has highlighted the value of meaningful experiences and human interactions. This is a crucial time to reflect on the role of relationships in our lives and recommit to fostering them, as physical distancing may lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation. We have an opportunity to use this moment as a catalyst for social revival, strengthening the bonds that bring us closer to each other and contribute to our overall well-being.

    • Strengthening relationships during challenging timesCommit to 15 minutes daily interaction with loved ones, minimize distractions, practice service to shift focus from self to others, build stronger connections, improve self-esteem, create a better world post-pandemic

      During these challenging times, it's essential to prioritize and strengthen our relationships. We can do this by committing to spending at least 15 minutes a day with someone we love, focusing on the quality of our interactions by minimizing distractions, and practicing service to shift the focus from ourselves to others. These simple steps can help us build stronger connections, improve our self-esteem, and create a better world post-pandemic. Remember, we're all in this storm together, and reaching out to support each other can make a significant difference.

    • Discovering the benefits of minimalist shoes and quality timeMinimalist shoes can improve gait and movement, while quality time with loved ones enhances emotional well-being. Try Vivo barefoot shoes with a risk-free trial and prioritize undistracted family time for better health and happiness.

      Connecting with the world around us through minimalist shoes and quality time with loved ones can lead to significant improvements in physical and emotional well-being. The speaker, a healthcare professional, has witnessed firsthand the positive impact of Vivo barefoot shoes on patients' gait and movement, and personally swears by them. He encourages listeners to try them out with a risk-free 100-day trial. Additionally, he emphasizes the importance of being fully present and focused during quality time with family, free from distractions. This not only benefits children but also sets a good example for them. By prioritizing these practices, we can enhance our overall health and happiness.

    • The Importance of Undivided Attention in RelationshipsPeople value our presence and attention in relationships. Neglecting relationships due to societal norms or prioritizing other aspects can lead to negative consequences. Prioritize emotional well-being and expressions of love and connection to lead healthier, more fulfilling lives.

      Relationships are precious and deserve our full attention. The speaker shares an experience with her three-year-old son, who expressed a desire for her presence in the moment. This experience serves as a reminder that people in our lives don't ask for much - they simply want our undivided attention. Despite the importance of relationships, they can easily be neglected as we prioritize other aspects of our lives. Furthermore, societal norms often discourage expressing emotions, particularly for men and boys. This can be damaging and lead to negative consequences such as higher rates of suicide and loneliness. To counteract this, we should prioritize emotional well-being and value expressions of love and connection. By making relationships a priority and embracing our emotional selves, we can lead healthier, more fulfilling lives.

    • The Power of Social ConnectionLove, vulnerability, and authenticity foster deep connections. Technology can facilitate deep connections when used authentically. Embrace emotions and share personal stories to build meaningful relationships.

      Social connection, rooted in love and vulnerability, holds immense power for healing and bringing people together. Dr. Vivek Murthy, former Surgeon General of the United States, emphasizes this perspective, which began as a discussion about loneliness but evolved into the extraordinary power of social connection. Love, often overlooked, is our birthright and ability to give and receive it. Technology, despite its limitations, can facilitate deep connections when we show vulnerability and authenticity. Dr. Murthy's humble and holistic worldview teaches us to reconnect with our true selves and embrace the power of emotions. Sharing personal stories and experiences fosters a magnetic connection that invites others to lean in and listen.

    • Embracing vulnerability for connection and healingSharing difficult experiences can create safe spaces for growth, healing and connection. Embracing vulnerability can invite others to be authentic and heal from past hurts. Young people face pressure to build and preserve a brand, but this expectation can be detrimental to their emotional wellbeing.

      Vulnerability is a powerful tool for connection and healing. Sharing our experiences, especially those that make us feel vulnerable or ashamed, can give others permission to do the same and create a safe space for growth. Many people, including the speaker, hold back from sharing difficult experiences due to fear of judgment or shame. However, bottling up these emotions can be harmful. By demonstrating vulnerability ourselves, we can invite others to be authentic and heal from past hurts. The pressure on young people to build and preserve a brand can make it difficult for them to be vulnerable, but this expectation can be detrimental. Embracing vulnerability and creating safe spaces for open and honest communication can lead to extraordinary healing.

    • The importance of human connection in healthcareAuthentic human connection in healthcare brings significant healing and impacts patient outcomes, yet the healthcare system often undervalues this aspect. Prioritizing human connection can lead to stronger communities.

      The power of authentic human connection in healthcare cannot be underestimated. While diagnosing and treating illnesses is crucial, there are instances where no clear solution exists. In such moments, the simple act of having a meaningful conversation with a patient can bring significant healing. The importance of human interaction in healthcare extends beyond just the therapeutic process; it can also impact patient outcomes. Unfortunately, the healthcare system often undervalues this aspect, as seen in the past reimbursement practices that discouraged doctors from spending too much time with their patients. By recognizing the significance of social relationships in overall health, we can strive to change the narrative and prioritize human connection in healthcare. This is not just essential for patients and healthcare professionals, but also for parents, educators, and individuals seeking to build stronger communities. Ultimately, the book discussed in the conversation serves as a reminder that we all need to invest more time and effort in fostering genuine human connections in our lives.

    • The Importance of Authentic Connections for Loneliness and ResilienceLoneliness can lead to various health issues. Building Moai mate relationships, which provide emotional, physical, mental, and financial support, can help foster resilience and overall well-being. Encouraging vulnerability and genuine human connection can lead to a healthier society.

      Loneliness, a pervasive yet often invisible issue, manifests in various ways including depression, anxiety, insomnia, addiction, and even obesity. The pandemic has highlighted the importance of social health and the need to foster authentic connections. The concept of Moai mates, or close friends who provide emotional, physical, mental, and financial support, can help individuals build a strong foundation for resilience and overall well-being. Encouraging vulnerability and genuine human connection can lead to a more resilient society and healthier lives.

    • Forming a 'Moai' for emotional supportRegular communication and explicit commitments strengthen relationships, improving overall wellbeing.

      Intentional relationships are crucial for our wellbeing, especially in today's fast-paced world. Vivek shared his experience of forming a "Moai," or a supportive group of friends, after recognizing their shared struggle with feelings of isolation and loneliness. Through regular video calls and open communication, they provided each other with emotional support and guidance, helping them make important decisions and stay true to their values. Vivek emphasized the importance of making explicit commitments to relationships to ensure they don't get neglected amidst competing priorities. By dedicating a little time and effort, we can build strong connections that significantly improve our overall quality of life.

    • Prioritizing People and ConnectionsIntentional communication, serving others, and solitude strengthen relationships and society. In crisis, people come together in compassion. Putting people first fosters a stronger, more compassionate society.

      Prioritizing people and connections in our lives is essential for personal and societal growth. This can be achieved through intentional communication, serving others, and taking time for solitude. In times of crisis, we see people coming together in compassion and generosity. By putting people first in our own lives and in society, we can create stronger relationships, workplaces, schools, and public policies. The quest to build a more socially connected world is about more than just health; it's about fostering a stronger, more compassionate society for future generations.

    • The power of authentic and vulnerable connectionsAuthentic and vulnerable conversations with others can lead to deeper self-understanding and personal growth. Being present and undistracted in relationships, and the role of service in combating loneliness, were also emphasized.

      Authentic and vulnerable connections with others can lead to deeper self-understanding and personal growth. During a conversation with Vivette, the importance of being true to oneself and opening up to others was emphasized. Vivette shared how her conversation with Vivek allowed her to confront suppressed feelings and led to a greater understanding of herself. The power of vulnerability and authenticity in relationships was a recurring theme, as was the idea that such connections can bring joy and happiness to both parties. The conversation also touched upon the importance of being present and undistracted when with loved ones, and the role of service in combating loneliness. Overall, the discussion underscored the significance of genuine connections and the potential they hold for personal growth and happiness.

    • Relive the best moments of the podcast through a YouTube playlistEngage with the podcast's content in various formats, including a YouTube playlist, for ongoing self-improvement through lifestyle changes

      Even if traditional audio podcasts may not be accessible to everyone, there are other ways to consume and enjoy the content, such as through YouTube channels and short clip playlists. The speaker's team has created such a playlist for their show, offering fans a chance to revisit some of the best moments. The podcast's producer, Verda Chasti, and audio engineer, Richard Hughes, were acknowledged for their contributions. The speaker emphasized the importance of self-improvement through lifestyle changes, encouraging listeners to prioritize their health and wellbeing. Remember, you don't need to wait for the next full episode to engage with the content – the YouTube playlist is a great resource for those looking to feel better and live more right now.

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    Have you ever woken up from a vivid dream and wondered about its meaning? Or perhaps questioned the purpose of dreaming altogether? It’s certainly a fascinating topic and one which I have never covered before on my podcast.

     

    This week, I’m delighted to welcome back Dr Rahul Jandial, a dual-trained neurosurgeon and neurobiologist. He is an expert in brain health, a world-renowned brain surgeon who routinely undertakes complex cancer operations and he’s also the author of the brand-new book, ‘This is Why You Dream: What Your Sleeping Brain Reveals About Your Waking Life’. 

     

    During our conversation, Rahul explains his belief, that we sleep, in order to dream. When we are asleep, our brains are not resting but instead shift into a different state where areas linked to imagination and creativity become more active.

     

    While dreams remain a largely unexplained phenomenon, Rahul shares his insights into common dream themes, the importance of dreams in childhood brain development, and the highly personal nature of dream interpretation. He also covers practical techniques for remembering dreams, the concept of lucid dreaming, the potential links between dreaming and future brain health, and also shares some profound insights about the brain at the time of death. 

     

    Throughout our conversation, Rahul emphasises that although dreams have captivated humans for centuries, they remain a mysterious and intensely personal aspect of our lives. However, if we approach our dreams with curiosity, they have the potential to gift us valuable insights about the contents of our minds and our emotions.

     

    The topic of dreams clearly resonates with many of you - I received over 1,000 comments and questions about dreams when I announced this upcoming episode on my Instagram page.  And, I’m happy to say that Rahul answers some of these questions throughout our discussion, offering his unique perspective as both a neuroscientist and a neurosurgeon.

     

    So whether you're a vivid dreamer or someone who rarely remembers their dreams, this episode offers a captivating glimpse into our sleeping minds.

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    #457 BITESIZE | The Secrets to Reversing Your Age and Living Longer | Dr Mark Hyman

    #457  BITESIZE | The Secrets to Reversing Your Age and Living Longer | Dr Mark Hyman

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    Today’s clip is from episode 338 of the podcast with medical doctor and best-selling author Dr Mark Hyman. 


    His latest book, Young Forever: The Secrets To Living Your Longest, Healthiest Life, challenges us to reimagine our biology and the entire process of ageing.


    In this clip Mark explains how our daily food choices influence the speed at which we will age, and shares some powerful research showing that we we might be able to reverse our biological age by up to three years in just eight weeks.


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     5: Ability to trust another person is a big one. One of the most profound implications of a betrayal is the shattering of trust. After we've been betrayed, we don't trust in others and we hardly trust ourselves. We question ourselves asking: “How do we not know this?” “How can I be so blind?” “How did I not see this coming?” So, think about it, when we don't trust ourselves, we don't trust in our decisions, and we don't trust in our own judgment. This makes it challenging to know if we're making healthy or unhealthy business decisions. We also lose our trust in others, so we're afraid to be a team player, do joint venture or collaborative projects and we question: “If the person I trusted the most proved untrustworthy, how can I trust that boss/collaborative partner/JV partner If I don't know them nearly as well?”

     6: Beliefs. Your belief system is formed by the repetition of something someone said enough times that eventually, it became your belief. It doesn't make it right, it doesn't make it true. It doesn't make it anything, but yours. It makes it your belief. If you've been betrayed, this breaking of the spoken or unspoken message often leaves us with the belief that we're not valued, not enough, not capable enough, lovable enough, just plain enough. And, we have between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts a day, with about 80% of those thoughts being negative. Imagine how a negative belief system is affecting you. From the thoughts you think to the actions you take, if your belief system has you feeling you're unworthy undeserving or lacking in some way, how is that impacting the way you speak with prospects or the way you're getting your message out to others? You see how this all works?

     7: Finances. When you add up all of the ways that an unhealed betrayal impacts you physically, mentally and emotionally, it's so easy to see how it's going to affect just about every area of life. It impacts your performance, your ability to convey your message with conviction and confidence, the energy you have to convey that message, and ultimately, your finances. I mean sure, it may drive you to that whole “I'll show them” kind of emotion as you dive into your work in order to create financial abundance. But when that soil, that desire it’s birthed from is negative, that satisfaction from it is short-lived. You'll hear me say this over and over and over again.

     Awareness is the first step towards making changes, and the gift in a traumatic experience, (yes I said gift) is that transformation-you becoming a healthy, healed, whole and complete upgraded version of you is waiting on the other side of your trauma. That version never would have emerged had it not be from the experience. So, with going through something painful, the worst of it happened already. You owe it to yourself to heal. You want to fuel it with a healthy desire to fully heal. And when you do, watch your body, your mind and your business transform.

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     If you liked this episode, be sure to subscribe, rate and review and if Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness would be something that you're interested in, you can get the first chapter from me. You can find it here. If you want the whole book, get it from this link because then when you get it from Amazon and come back to this link, I give you the most amazing bonuses to go with it. You can find Trust Again Here.

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