128. Depersonalizing Failure | RTWOS EP 3 with Topsie VandenBosch

Well, this sucks. I've officially been sick for FOUR weeks. A literal month. 😑 But I've been wanting to record this episode to fill you in on the few "aha" moments I've had since this sickness has forced me to slow down. I normally do an EOY recap, but things aren't panning out that way...

THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Two spots left for REDEFINE
🖤 I might be burning out...
🖤 Drastically pulling back for a little while
🖤 What you can expect in the near future

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[2:15] Holy shit this sickness is not for the birds 🤕

[4:28] Don't forget to tune into the RTWOS series: EP 1, EP 2, EP 3, EP 4, EP 5, EP 6, EP 7, EP 8 🎧

[5:20] I value intimate masterminds sooo there's only 2 spots left for REDEFINE

[7:00] My annual EOY planning process

[8:02] Maybe this is burnout... Mayyybe I'm not ok right now 🥲

[10:19] 2023 has been the year of being in limbo & I'm not impressed

[11:27] My dream doesn't feel right

[11:48] I'm drastically pulling back with my team & myself

[13:30] Podcast break! Returning March 5 🗓️

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Not to toot my own horn, but I hold space for deep, deep magic & connection inside my containers.  A client recently asked me how I'm able to do this, more specifically, "how are you able to keep a pulse on your groups?"  && this was my response. ⬇️🔥 This is the final episode of the Releasing The Wounds Of Success Series. 

THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 It will be what it will be
🖤 Host with themes or focuses
🖤 Have clarity in advance
🖤 Be willing to always go first

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[2:15] Recapping the RTWOS series

[4:28] My recent retreat experience with my mastermind gals in Georgia 🍑   

[5:20] The new one-hour "me slot" in the mornings

[7:00] Specially curated spaces to heal & be loved

[8:02] A polarizing belief around what I believe leaders should do

[10:19] "How do you keep a pulse on your groups?"

[11:27] #1 Trust that your space will be what it's meant to be

[11:48] #2 Have themes or focuses for your containers

[13:30] #3 Get clear in advance on what you want your container to look like

[16:20] #4 You must always go first

[18:08] Are you allowing yourself to be witnessed? 🫶🏻 Some deep questions for thought... 

[19:24] This strategy is exactly what helped me create the REDEFINE mastermind

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When I asked Katie about what wounds of success meant to her, she had a very different take and I can't wait for you to hear it. This woman and I have so many similarities in our stories from experiencing miscarriages to selling it all and living in an RV. This is the Releasing The Wounds Of Success Series, Episode 7, with Katie Quesada. ✨

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THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Getting phased out of a position & completely transitioning
🖤 Healing from business success
🖤 Feeling small in slow seasons

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[2:27] A Barnes & Noble of untold stories that sparked a career 

[7:30] Leaving a mega-corp after 10 years, but not necessarily by choice

[13:16] Success is serving & leaving an impact 

[15:27] Finding confidence in knowing there isn't just one path to success

[19:35] Feeling small while it seems others lives are only getting bigger & better 

[22:39] There isn't just "one thing" to success, it's just "a thing"

[24:49] The sudden halt of newborn seasons & business

[29:50] Growth, impact, and money aren't actual metrics of success 

[30:49] In a season of working on contentment

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• 98. Your Income Starts Here
• 102. Setting The Stage For Your Next Laun...

From her parents experiencing great financial loss as a child to starting over at age 18, Shay still deals with her money mindset and fears she could lose it all again. She is experiencing "success" at this moment, but wonders if she'll ever be content. This is the Releasing The Wounds Of Success Series, Episode 6 with special guest, Shay Bacani. 🤎

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Shay is a CFO, Financial Strategist, and owner of Centure Financial - a financial management firm for women, by women. More importantly, she is a military wife and mother of two. She serves high-performing women in business generating multi-six and seven figures.

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THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 CAO female mentor in glam & finance
🖤 Learning to be content with success as a forward thinker & anxious achiever
🖤 Imperfect moms & imperfect homes

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[4:10] Pregnant at 17 & starting over

[9:53] Thriving career & side hustle

[12:30] Shay gets vulnerable for the first time

[16:09] Struggling to share our "rock bottom" because we don't want to be defined by that 

[20:07] Where my overdoing & overachieving habits came from

[21:44] Shay's parents losing everything 

[24:59] Not meeting self-made expectations & realizing not everything is in your control

[29:55] Experiencing a lack of contentment

[35:07] Those damn viral & aesthetic homesteaders 👩🏻‍🌾 

[39:51] Imperfect homes & delegating home tasks 

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• 98. Your Income Starts Here
• 102. Setting The Stage For Your Next Laun...

Have you ever felt like the success you're chasing is someone else's goal? Have you experienced mom guilt as a result of showing up more consistently in your business than at home? Or, have you ever been ashamed of the fiercely audacious woman you are and felt like you had to dim yourself down for the comfort of others? This is the Releasing The Wounds Of Success Series, Episode 5. ✨ Today's guest has felt all of the before. She's been in the pursuit of success, achieved it, and is now finding sweet sustainability — meet Jenn Pike. 🫶🏻

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THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Being a woman thought leader in a male-dominated space
🖤 Experiencing mom guilt as a CEO
🖤 Financial success & a healing money mindset

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[4:00] Registering Jenn's first business at 17

[6:56] The stress of trying to compartmentalize your different roles 

[9:02] "We can't model what we can't see" 

[11:05] Masculine dominated business industry

[13:44] Half-assing everything in life 🍑 

[17:46] Finding what your capacity is 

[20:13] Fear, shame, and panic setting in when hitting a million

[29:13] New era of building sustainability

[32:00] Dealing with mom guilt 

[34:01] Childhood money mindset as an adult

[36:08] Embracing power & audacity 

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Eeeek!! I can't even contain my excitement. REDEFINE applications are OPEN and while we don't start until February 2024, I'll be going through applications as soon as December 1, 2023. There are only eight spots so I can pour as much of myself into you as possible & keep this container super intimate and potent. This is a four-month experience where we're not just chasing quick wins — we're here for the long term.

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• 98. Your Income Starts Here
• 102. Setting The Stage For Your Next Laun...

Entrepreneurship can be a wildly emotional & lonely rollercoaster. If you've ever experienced losing a friendship or relationship from running your own business, this conversation is going to light you up. This is something that isn't talked about enough by CEOs, IMHO, but as humans who crave connection… it's so important. This is the Releasing The Wounds Of Success Series, Episode 4. ✨

THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Friends feeling lost while you have clarity
🖤 Meeting your true self through success
🖤 Deeply impactful online friendships

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[4:41] Special guest, Kaili, discusses her wounds surrounding friendship

[7:10] Dealing with a “lost” friend while you have clarity & direction

[15:20] Avoiding rejection & the deep, human need for belonging

[16:26] Friends that can't relate to you...

[18:23] My recent friendship breakup

[22:22] Excuses friends give about not reaching out to connect

[23:14] Backhanded compliments

[23:48] Genuinely loving & identifying with the work you do

[28:59] When someone new asks what you do for a living 🙈😅

[34:55] The more successful you are, the more you meet yourself

[37:20] Painting the picture of monetary success

[41:43] The good that comes from online friendships

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• 98. Your Income Starts Here
• 102. Setting The Stage For Your Next Laun...

Let’s dive into the transformative power of embracing failure and learning how to fail well. In this episode, you’ll find how depersonalizing your setbacks can lead to growth and how the importance of treating everything as valuable data can lead you to become the scientist of your own entrepreneurial journey. This is the Releasing The Wounds Of Success Series, Episode 3. ✨ The expert for this episode is a fellow therapist & mindset coach, Topsie VandenBosch. 👇🏻

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THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Being unable to hold all the success you desire
🖤 Afraid to take a step back in your business
🖤 Depersonalizing failure & failing well

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[2:42] How Topsie became a mindset coach

[5:33] Am I cheap orrrr do I just want business advice from a friend?

[8:15] Depersonalizing your failures for personal growth

[13:28] Treating messy launches as data points for creating better systems

[18:01] External blame versus internal radical responsibility 

[19:49] Fear of stepping back & an intentional mindset

[24:25] Be willing to stop a lot in life

[25:11] The value of sharing your journey & building a supportive network

[31:45] Becoming the scientist of your business to overcome the fear of failure

[38:01] The affirmation confirmation loop

[40:25] Yeah… I peed the bed last week

[42:29] Feeling discomfort & pain around failure

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Erica Reitman is a successful, rule breaking CEO who is a full fucking vibe. In this episode we dive deep into her experience growing up, how success was portrayed to her, and how she’s carried those narratives into her business today. This is Releasing The Wounds Of Success Series, Episode 2. ✨

THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Being a “non-settling, all-in” CEO
🖤 Realizing the mountain peak of “success” is not realistic
🖤 Redefining what success actually means if it’s not about the money

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[2:01] Who is Erica Reitman?

[3:43] Your brain is a dick

[4:22] How Erica’s narrative of success was created

[5:31] Doing things differently than our parents did & rewriting the narrative

[7:15] Boujee bitches learning to live beyond your means

[8:43] A wound Erica has not solved

[10:16] Dealing with depression as a money-driven CEO

[12:41] When we are good, our business is able to do good

[13:53] Parts of Erica’s identity she’s had to abandon

[14:14] Importance of being real & vulnerable as a CEO

[15:24] What wounds of success mean to Erica

[19:03] Permission to say “fuck it”

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• 98. Your Income Starts Here
• 102. Setting The Stage For Your Next Laun...

Welcome to the Releasing the Wounds of Success series. I’m kicking off the series by sharing about my own wounds of success. We take it waaayy back to the life of younger Ashley and pinpointing where my desire to chase success even came from. I wasn’t always a high achiever & I didn’t used to apply myself whatsoever… Strap in because this is the kick off to an epic series.

THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Hitting rock bottom in jail while 6 months pregnant
🖤 Truly believing I was destined to be bad
🖤 Realizing my worth is not attached to my success

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[2:26] My “download” to create something magical

[4:09] Why therapy for your business is necessary

[4:55] The pursuit of success conundrum

[5:56] The “when I, then I” belief

[6:50] Explaining wounds of success

[7:40] What you can expect from this special edition series

[9:09] The ways that wounds of success tend to show up

[10:40] The ideology that we’re not enough

[13:46] Healing my wounds through raising a child who is very similar to me

[14:18] My young desperation for attention & validity

[14:44] My series of a lottttt of trouble & where it came from

[15:50] The program that changed everything for me & my behavior

[19:50] Deciding to show everyone how good I was but slipping into an anxious achiever

[21:11] Becoming obsessed with success & finding my self-worth through my work

[22:52] Hitting rock bottom in jail at 6 months pregnant

[29:48] Thinking I am destined to be bad & will never be enough

[31:00] Redefining what success was & where my self worth came from

[34:43] Finding a place of wholeness & releasing my wounds

[35:39] How you can get the exclusive backstage pass to this series

[36:15] Introducing… REDEFINE ✨My brand new mastermind!

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• 98. Your Income Starts Here
• 102. Setting The Stage For Your Next Laun...

Thissss is a little bit ridiculous, but I'm finally talking about it because it seems to be the thing that everybody wants. A quantum leap. 💥 What is it? How can you prepare for it? Is this what you're really desiring? Spoiler alert: a quantum leap isn't sustainable and IF it brings you more money, you ought to be prepared because more money doesn't fix your woes. 💵

THE JUICY HIGHLIGHTS:
🖤 Holding well the success you already have
🖤 Systems are sexy & so needed for a quantum leap
🖤 Money is an energy current 

THE EPISODE BREAKDOWN:
[1:11] This is what a quantum leap is

[2:07] Popping your bubble 🫧 because a quantum leap isn't sustainable

[3:09] Are you holding well what you already have?

[4:16] How to prepare for a quantum leap in your business

[5:35] Unsustainably & unhealthy Extreme Makeover transformation

[7:00] Virality isn't bad, but is it growth or sustainability you're after?

[9:12] Putting your emotional well-being first is key 🔑

[10:30] Checking yourself to see if you're moving from fear or urgency

[11:16] Movement coming from an unhealed place will give unhealed results

[11:30] More money will only exasperate your current money woes

[13:00] Slow down and find the driver for your desire for fast success 

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