#13 "I Don't Want To Repeat The Past": Listener Question from Mark, 52

It's understandable that we make lists to keep us organized and focused on what we want. But where does that kind of approach actually help and where is it actually inefficient? 

References in this episode
Episode 39: Finding Connection In Contrast  

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
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After 20 years of marriage, Gabe, 57 is a year into his dating journey and he's wondering if he'll ever feel "that way" again. 

Let's get clear on all the kinds of experiences, moments and feelings that you have to look forward to as a Later Dater. Breaking these down and getting clear can change how you date. 

Mentioned in this episode: "I haven't dated since 1999" 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Share this with anyone who thinks that they "must" date someone who has the same relationship history as them (divorced, kids, didn't marry, widowed) etc. The best part about Later Daters today is the diversity of choices that were made by people. Listen in as Lakshmi  walks you through how you think about connecting even if you lived very different lives. 

Mentioned in this episode - a whole new way to think about baggage as a Later Dater. Check out the episode Baggage or Luggage: How To Think About Your Past  

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Be sure to follow on Instagram as we begin bringing concepts from the podcast to life. https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today

In this episode we'll walk you through a plan for how to ask for focus - which might actually make more sense in today's world where our attention can be splintered across devices, screens, thoughts and yes, people. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

A much longer format and style than the Later Dater Today podcast, we bring you the true story of two 80 somethings who reconnected and fell in love during the pandemic after 40 years apart. This is more "Golden" than "Later" but a true and hopeful story has no age. Enjoy! 

To read more about the precursor podcast to The Later Dater Today, read Vanity Fair's review of Paired By The People. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

It's been a big week and it will be a big week.  Why might it be more important to think of reasons to root for someone rather than trying to figure out if they're right for you? It's time to mention the relationship of the year without having them be the central spectacle. There is honestly something to be learned from the unfolding of their relationship. 

Mentioned in the episode: Lakshmi's interview with Scott Galloway on the Prof G podcast. Where she talks modern dating and reasons why we might think about height differently among other topics in modern dating. 

For more question ideas to uncover why to root for someone or what they're striving towards check out Ep 36: Signs of Success vs. Signs of Striving. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Success seems like a quality we should look for in.people we date. But what is success and what if something like the quality of striving is more important now? Maybe you're wondering what striving is.  Listen in as Lakshmi talks about the difference and offers tools on how to assess the degree to which someone is striving in their life. 

Mentioned in the podcast Scott Galloway and The Prof G Podcast. 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

An important overview of what to expect as AI continues to unfold itself into modern dating culture. The Later Dater Today is about more than how to date today - it's also about understanding what's happening in dating and where it's headed so that you can navigate it all. 

To hear more in depth coverage of AI and the Future of Dating check out the work of me and Sangeeta Singh-Kurtz is Episode 6 of Land of The Giants: Dating Games 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Listen in on a new way to think about the dating goals that matter today for a Later Dater. It was way less to do with how much you date but rather how you interact with the world - keeping your interaction and connection muscles strong. 

A few episodes are referenced to revisit and actually apply the lesson outlined in the episode in addition to simply listening.

#3: Everyone Is A Museum And Most Of Us Stay In The Lobby

#20 The Shape Of Your Heart Vs. Your Relationship History 

#19 The Death Of The Crush And Why Your Past Crushes Matter Today 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Let's discuss one dimension of "age" culture around the idea of what it means to "age yourself". Lakshmi dives into these common expressions that can feel more like we should hide our rage rather than use it as a point of connection; especially between Later Daters. And you'll hear a practical way to rewire whatever you think about your age as she offers new ways to talk about your past in way that is grounded in the present.  And wait until you hear about the concept of a "Vintage Story". 

Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067

The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years. 

Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. 
Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!