16. Calm Confidence When Things Go Wrong

This episode is a follow-up to last week’s episode on improving your relationships.  Everyone struggles with relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work.  If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do?

In this episode, you’ll learn about another relationship concept: manuals.  Listen in to learn what they are, how they can cause problems, and what you can do to prevent problems.

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Everyone struggles with challenging relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work.  If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn three concepts that can help you shift your perspective and improve any kind of relationship – even if the other person doesn’t change.  You’ll also hear an important additional suggestion and caveat about improving relationships.

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When we face unexpected challenges, it’s normal for our brains to spin out in worry and fear about potential outcomes. This mental “spin cycle” not only hinders our ability to accurately assess the probability and severity of these outcomes but also impairs our prefrontal cortex’s problem-solving ability. If you’re faced with an unexpected problem and want to stop your brain’s spin cycle, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn a powerful three-step strategy to halt the spin cycle.  Listen in to hear how this strategy can help you calm down, identify practical solutions, and feel more confident handling the problem.

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Outsourcing confidence is something all perfectionist women do.  While there is probably a biological benefit to our brains doing it, it can be quite problematic.  If you notice you’re outsourcing your confidence, what can you do about it?

In this episode you’ll learn why we outsource confidence and self-worth and why it’s more useful to source them internally.  Listen in to hear examples of how you might be outsourcing confidence and how you can transition to in-sourcing instead.

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Cognitive flexibility has a big impact on your emotional health and wellness.  In a nutshell, cognitive flexibility is the ability to appropriately switch your thinking and your actions.  It may not sound exciting or glamorous, but it directly impacts your creativity, resilience, and quality of life.  The more cognitively flexible you are, the better able you are to respond to changes in your environment.  So if you want to be more cognitively flexible, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn how using The Model can help you decrease cognitive rigidity and increase cognitive flexibility.  Listen in to hear ideas, examples, and questions that will help you stretch your thinking and challenge unhelpful beliefs.

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According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), nearly 58 million U.S. adults live with mental illness like anxiety and depression.  In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I’m dedicating this episode of the podcast to a coaching tool known as The Model.  This tool helped me improve my mental health and learn to better manage my brain.  Can it do the same for you?

Listen in to learn the relationship between your thoughts and your results and how The Model can help with any problem or goal.

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Women face a host of physiological, neurological, cultural and other factors that inhibit their confidence.  Beyond the strategies discussed in last week’s episode, what can women do to overcome specific confidence blockers?

Listen in to learn why confidence is especially challenging for perfectionist women, six confidence blockers all women should watch out for, and practical strategies to combat each one.

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Confidence is foundational to accomplishing goals and dreams in life, but it doesn’t come easily to most women. This is due to a variety of reasons – some biological, some environmental, and some cultural.  So, if you’re a woman who wants to improve her confidence, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn the challenges women face in developing and maintaining confidence, why confidence comes more easily to men than to women,  and six things anyone can do to improve their confidence.

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Most people struggle with difficult coworkers at some point in their career.  Conflict and tension are natural components of all human relationships.  What can you do when the conflict or tension undermines your ability to do your job or negatively impacts your mental state?  How can you handle a difficult coworker in a way that decreases stress and frustration?

In this episode you’ll learn a variety of ideas and strategies to help you handle difficult coworkers.  Listen in to hear mindset ideas that can help you reframe your thinking about your coworkers and a five-step process that can help you resolve a conflict.  

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Everyone experiences hard things in life.  Sometimes we choose the challenges (like when we go after a goal or try to learn something new) and sometimes we don’t (like when we experience natural disasters, job loss, or the death of a loved one).  Whether they’re of our choosing or not, what can we do to better handle them?

In this episode you’ll learn a strategy I call “choosing your hard” that you can use to better handle difficulties in life.  This strategy can help you reframe how you think about challenges so they’re easier to handle and you’re better able to persevere through them.  Listen in to hear how to apply the strategy and how it can help increase your capacity to make decisions, get things done, accomplish goals, and get through difficult situations.

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