180. When Your Affair Partner Has an Agenda for You

At some point, the drawbacks of your infidelity situation can start to outweigh the benefits, and if this happens for you, you may want to start thinking about taking a conscious, deliberate approach to resolving your infidelity situation in a way you feel good about. Yes it might feel hard at first – so hard that you may decide that you’d rather stay put and continue to accept the status quo – but here’s the thing: staying stuck and stressed is NOT your only option. It is NOT as hard to resolve your infidelity situation as you may currently believe; you just need to change the way you approach it. And I’m here to help.

This week, I show you why resolving your infidelity situation doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think it will be and how to resolve it in a way you feel great about.

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If you experience boredom after you’ve stopped engaging in infidelity, you may not know what to do with yourself, and you are NOT alone. Post-infidelity boredom is a thing, but fortunately for you, I have some recommendations to help you deal with it.

In this episode, I share why you might find yourself feeling bored once you end your infidelity situation, some examples of what this can look like and indications that you are feeling this way, and how to examine your overall satisfaction with life as a whole before making drastic changes in your relationships.

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In this week’s episode, I talk about why exploring non-monogamy COULD be a way to resolve your infidelity situation… and when why exploring non-monogamy may NOT going to be an effective way to resolve your infidelity situation. As non-monogamy becomes a more and more legitimate way to configure our relationships, it’s increasingly important to use discretion when we’re wondering if turning a monogamous relationship into a non-monogamous one will help us resolve our infidelity situation.

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Before initiating the conversation with your partner about your affair, there are some things you need to be clear on. In today’s episode, I discuss how to tell your partner about your affair and provide tips on how to approach this conversation in two different kinds of circumstances.

When you find yourself in the situation of telling your partner about your affair, there are many things you can choose to say, ways you can react, and ways you can disclose your infidelity. Learn how to have this conversation, ensure that you want to have it, and approach it in a way that feels right for you.

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Is your affair partner invested in helping you leave your committed relationship? In today’s episode, I explain the importance of understanding the extent to which your focus is on your affair partner’s desires and how to be aware if the decisions you’re making are for yourself.

Even if you want the same things your affair partner wants, you each have to take your own path to get there, and it’s important that you differentiate wanting something and actually deciding to do it. Learn the key thing to look for if your affair partner has an agenda for you and why it’s not your job to do what they want you to do, even if you love them tremendously.

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Today, I look at the question of how long you should wait for your affair partner to leave their marriage. Maybe you don’t want to set a timeline for your partner and prefer to wait indefinitely for them to leave. Regardless of your situation, I guide you in making the decision that is right for you.

Learn the questions to ask yourself and discover how to get clear on how long you are willing to wait for them, why it’s worth waiting, or why you are not willing to wait for them to leave their marriage.

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Today, I’m talking to those of you who have an agenda for your affair partner. Even though you mean well, the truth is that you can only manage your own business. It’s important to let your affair partner figure things out for themselves, and today, I’ll explain why.

Understanding what you want when you have an agenda, whether you realize it or not, will only help YOU deal with your infidelity situation. Hear why letting go of your agenda is good for your partner and perhaps even more so for yourself.

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Whether you've been a dedicated listener for a while or have just recently tuned in to the podcast, you might be curious about what it's like to work together. In this episode, I share what it's like to receive my coaching and how it can benefit you, regardless of the type of infidelity situation you are in.

I discuss my philosophy and approach to infidelity, explaining the three ways we can work together. You'll learn what you can expect from the Self-Guided Course, the Group Coaching Program, and from 1:1 coaching with me. Discover insights into the session dynamics, what we discuss, the unique benefits each option offers, and all the important details to help you determine which is the best fit for you right now.

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The feeling of fear is one of the things that can make infidelity situations seem so hard to deal with. There are a LOT of things that might seem scary within your infidelity situation. Will life as you know it come to an end if you choose to pursue a relationship that began as an affair? Will you kids hate you forever if you choose to end your marriage with their other parent? Will getting divorced be awful and painful? What will people think of you if they know you’ve cheated?

Here’s the great news, people!  We can all learn how to relate to fear differently, and the benefits of doing so are TREMENDOUS.  We may not be able to completely avoid the experience of feeling fear, but that’s not a problem.  We can learn how to respond differently when we do feel fear – and in this episode, I’ll tell you how.

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Are you ready to make some changes but don't know where to start? This week, I share some helpful tools to help you create change and resolve your infidelity situation.

You might need to do things you’ve never done before, and that’s okay. I explain how the sooner you find a way to address the situation, the better your overall quality of life will be, and I also discuss the role your feelings play when making significant changes. These tools will guide you through the changes in your relationships in a way that makes you feel great.

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