182: Dealing With Anti-Fat Family During the Holidays

Seemingly there are non-stop stories and notifications of celebrities and influencers being on a new “weight loss journey” after starting on weight loss drugs. Now, Oprah is among that cohort and it has had an impact on her relationship with WeightWatchers. But hang on a minute, doesn’t WW sell weight loss drugs? Let’s dig into it! Bonus: I also share my favourite purchases under $100 that have positively impacted my life!

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/185

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

Oprah's Top 20 Moments: https://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/oprahs-top-20-moments

When Oprah Met Bob: https://www.oprah.com/health/when-oprah-met-fitness-expert-bob-greene/all

Conscious Eating: What I Learned on the
21-Day Cleanse: https://www.oprah.com/omagazine/what-i-know-for-sure-oprahs-vegan-cleanse

Oprah Buys 10 Percent Share In Weight Watchers, Will Join Its Board: https://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2015/10/19/449929140/oprah-buys-10-percent-share-in-weight-watchers-will-join-its-board

Oprah Winfrey reveals she’s using a weight-loss drug: ‘Not about willpower’: https://www.today.com/health/diet-fitness/oprah-winfrey-weight-loss-drug-rcna128714

Oprah Winfrey to Exit WeightWatchers Board After She Announced Use of Weight-Loss Drug: https://variety.com/2024/biz/news/oprah-winfrey-leaves-weightwatchers-board-weight-loss-drug-1235926484/

My IG post: https://www.instagram.com/p/C38_HrFJX-g/

Weight Loss Drugs Part 3 - Wegovy and Tirzepatide: https://weightandhealthcare.substack.com/p/weight-loss-drugs-part-3-wegovy-and

Reader Question - What Do You Think Of Obesity Medicine?: https://weightandhealthcare.substack.com/p/reader-question-what-do-you-think

The Truth About The Obesity Action Coalition: https://weightandhealthcare.substack.com/p/the-truth-about-the-obesity-action

Weight Watchers Expands Their Harmful Model - Adding Prescription Drugs: https://weightandhealthcare.substack.com/p/weight-watchers-expands-their-harmful

WeightWatchers Clinic: https://www.weightwatchers.com/us/clinic

Noom Announces: We’re Not a Diet – We’re a Pill Mill?: https://weightandhealthcare.substack.com/p/noom-announces-were-not-a-diet-were

So WW bought Sequence. Here is what it's like on Sequence.: https://www.reddit.com/r/weightwatchers/comments/13ynjs8/so_ww_bought_sequence_here_is_what_its_like_on/

Oprah Winfrey Reveals She Uses Weight-Loss Medication as a ‘Maintenance Tool': ‘I’m Absolutely Done with the Shaming’ (Exclusive): https://people.com/oprah-winfrey-reveals-weight-loss-medication-exclusive-8414552

The villainous tricksters behind the veiled push to “advance fat rights” (when in reality they just want to sell weight loss drugs) are at it again. Tigress Osborn from NAAFA is here to stop them though! She joins me on the show to talk about what new games anti-fat organizations are getting up to and why it’s a load of BS. Plus we discuss the fat community, fat joy, and fat history. TW: lots of use of the O words as we are covering shit O word organizations are doing.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/184

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What tomfuckery is Right 2 Ob*sity Care up to with the O Bill of Rights?
https://right2obesitycare.org./#our-purpose

Follow NAAFA and Tigress:
http://naafa.org
Campaign for Size Freedom 
Follow NAAFA @naafaofficial and Tigress @iofthetigress

Right 2 Ob*sity Care up to with the O Bill of Rights: https://right2obesitycare.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/A-National-Call-to-Action-The-Obesity-Bill-of-Rights.pdf

Endorsing orgs: https://right2obesitycare.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/List-of-Supporting-Organizations-01.30.2024-1.pdf

Have you ever read the “Am I The Asshole” questions on Reddit? If you don’t know what AITA is: People ask the internet if they were in the right or wrong about a situation that happened in their life. Well, these questions are a source of endless entertainment for me! I brought my friend Summer Innanen from Eat The Rules podcast to get her verdict on four AITA posts that I picked out around weight and diets. Some of these AITA question askers are grade-A donkeys and also there are some grey areas where things are less clear. TW: anti-fatness, ableism, gender A-Hole behaviour.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/183

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

Potato recipe: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cz6-TUWozwf/

When You Don’t Believe Your Partner Is Attracted to You: https://fiercefatty.com/153

IG roundup on above podcast episode: https://www.instagram.com/p/CnntWYqSf_r/?img_index=1

AITA for telling my SIL she wasn’t invited due to her weight.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/173rk9a/aita_for_telling_my_dil_she_wasnt_invited_due_to/

AITA for putting my 9yo on a diet and 'emotionally damaging' her?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f6eejv/aita_for_putting_my_9yo_on_a_diet_and_emotionally/

AITA for embarrassing my friend’s obese boyfriend by making him sit on a chair different from everyone else’s at dinner?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/q4yjm5/aita_for_embarrassing_my_friends_obese_boyfriend/

WIBTA for imposing a diet on my wife if she wants to travel with me? https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheEx/comments/12i22oz/wibta_for_imposing_a_diet_on_my_wife_if_she_wants/

AITA for covertly losing weight as a bridesmaid & refusing to be set up with her friend after overhearing the bride call me fat?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/r05kk3/aita_for_covertly_losing_weight_as_a_bridesmaid/

AITA for telling my girlfriend to lose weight?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yeflsb/aita_for_telling_my_girlfriend_to_lose_weight/

Woah nelly, can family be trying or what? Especially if you’re the only one talking up about bad behaviour and feel like the black sheep or are being told you’re “tooooo sensitive”. If we want to (or have to) spend time with family, having some tactics in our back pockets is a great idea. Sharing your stories, an analogy with a donley and different word tracks in this episode will help you join family celebrations with a little more ease.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/182

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

Boundary Boss: https://2-victoria.systeme.io/page-bb

Fatphobic family and the holidays: https://www.reddit.com/r/PlusSize/comments/17zqz7b/fatphobic_family_and_the_holidays/

My boyfriends fat phobic family and their sly comments: https://www.reddit.com/r/inlaws/comments/13uozs4/my_boyfriends_fat_phobic_family_and_their_sly/

SASSY COMEBACKS FOR WHEN PEOPLE ARE TALKING SHIT ABOUT YOUR BODY: https://fiercefatty.com/blog/sassy-comebacks-for-when-people-are-throwing-shade-about-your-body

Nice Ice Spice: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cz6ZZj1LfOF/?img_index=1

Hard and soft boundaries: https://www.kcresolve.com/blog/boundaries-and-relationships#:~:text=Unlike%20a%20hard%20boundary%2C%20a,drive%20your%20car%20for%20you.

Signs someone doesn’t respect your boundaries: https://psychcentral.com/relationships/signs-boundary-violations#discomfort

Boundaries kids song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aSFvJbSQdA4

Oh Boundaries: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rZ0ZUVXqJc4

Leslie Jones funny vidoes: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cz_5cpFOI3S/

Some folks can come in contact with fat liberation and turn away shaking their heads at the things that we believe. The thing is, often what they understand about fat liberation is incorrect, a misunderstanding or just plain false. First I talk about the core tenets of anti-fat beliefs and then I debunk the misconceptions that people have shared on the internet. Big TW for this episode as I am talking about actual anti-fat beliefs and the content of those beliefs so there is talk of anti-fatness and ableism throughout.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/181

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

Today we are talking about the the truth about reality television and how devastating it can be to the lives of those featured. There have been incredible numbers of reality TV stars who have died by suicide and I was almost a part of that statistic. If you didn’t know, I was on a 2 part BBC show where I lived in a house for 9 days with people who either hated fatness or were fat positive and some inbetween. This is a deeply vulnerable episode where I am revealing exactly what happened and the resulting shame and grief I experienced culminating in active suicide ideation. A massive trigger warning as I will be playing clips of me talking about my ideation from the time after the show aired. If you are struggling like I was, please reach out for help. You are loveable and not alone.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/180

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

Suicide in reality TV:
https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2020/may/27/why-suicide-is-still-the-shadow-that-hangs-over-reality-tv-hana-kimura-terrace-house

Suicide ideation levels: https://www.instagram.com/p/CxBubUPOXd9/

How shame works: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-scientific-underpinnings-and-impacts-of-shame/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/emotional-intelligence/202102/what-is-shame-and-how-does-it-show-in-your-life-and-work

Reality TV union: https://time.com/6314118/reality-tv-unions-protection/

http://www.fiercefatty.com/179
How the heck do you feel more confident in your body anyway? In this episode, I go through step by step the actions to take. Get ready to make some notes, or not, I ain’t the boss of you. Plus, the story of someone making me cry in Starbucks last week after shaming my beverage choice, fun! Also, there’s an update on the Wegovy saga at the beginning so skip to 21.38 mins if you don’t want to hear that.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/179

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

News from the Wegovy saga: https://www.instagram.com/p/CyO3dPru4CI/?img_index=1

Link to my IG channel: https://ig.me/j/AbaT5mRE9LD96thB/https://fiercefatty.com/179

Listener questions! Questions include: My mum blames her poor health on her weight and won’t listen when I tell her about anti-fat bias, what should I do? Help, I have just been diagnosed with diabetes! Is it actually unhealthy to be fat?

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/178

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

https://www.canada.ca/en/services/immigration-citizenship/helpcentre/glossary.html#excessive_demand

165: “Weight Loss” Surgery Stats and Stories (part 3): https://fiercefatty.com/165
126: Stories from Weight Loss Surgery Survivors Part 2: https://fiercefatty.com/126
122: Stories From Weight Loss Surgery Patients 8 Years Post Op: https://fiercefatty.com/122
90: Will "Weight Loss" Surgery Make You Thin, Healthy and Live Longer?: https://fiercefatty.com/090

Weight loss surgery facts: https://www.instagram.com/p/CrfAJxwSVLj/?img_index=1
Stories from bariatric surgery survivors: https://www.instagram.com/p/CcoU5cqPv7e/?img_index=1

Association of All-Cause Mortality With Overweight and Obesity Using Standard Body Mass Index Categories: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4855514/

The obesity ‘crisis’ is a myth
By Harriet Brown
https://nypost.com/2015/03/22/why-dieting-doesnt-work/

Diet-free Talk for Diabetes/Insulin Issues:https://www.facebook.com/groups/221981691163510/

Fat Positive Intuitive Eating Diabetes Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fatpositivediabetes/

I attend a free virtual weight inclusive diabetes support group here: https://www.laurennewmanrd.com/groups

25+ Weight Neutral and Health at Every Size Resources for Managing Diabetes
https://bodyliberationphotos.com/2019/08/30/masterpost-haes-based-resources-for-intuitive-eating-diabetes-and-living-with-chronic-illness/

HAES Healthsheets: https://haeshealthsheets.com/type-2-diabetes/

Don’t weigh me cards: https://more-love.org/resources/free-dont-weigh-me-cards/

https://www.instagram.com/fatpositivefertility/ for community and she probably has resources. Do you have a fat Facebook group in your area or a facebook group on Obgyn’s? As I am in Canada this is where I find my people. 

List of Anti-Diet, HAES, and Intuitive Eating Providers via Christy Harrison
https://christyharrison.com/haes-anti-diet-intuitive-eating-providers-eating-disorder-recovery

Fat Friendly Health Professionals List
http://www.fatfriendlydocs.com/

Fat Friendly Healthcare Providers

https://www.self.com/story/find-fat-friendly-doctor

https://www.instagram.com/p/CtLARDESZtE/?img_index=1

Listener questions part 2! Questions include: Help! I want to lose weight, but not for aesthetic reasons anymore but because the world is inaccessible. How do I cope? How to find a doctor who is fat positive? Is it true that biology dictates that fat people are less attractive to others?

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/177

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

https://www.canada.ca/en/services/immigration-citizenship/helpcentre/glossary.html#excessive_demand

165: “Weight Loss” Surgery Stats and Stories (part 3): https://fiercefatty.com/165
126: Stories from Weight Loss Surgery Survivors Part 2: https://fiercefatty.com/126
122: Stories From Weight Loss Surgery Patients 8 Years Post Op: https://fiercefatty.com/122
90: Will "Weight Loss" Surgery Make You Thin, Healthy and Live Longer?: https://fiercefatty.com/090

Weight loss surgery facts: https://www.instagram.com/p/CrfAJxwSVLj/?img_index=1
Stories from bariatric surgery survivors: https://www.instagram.com/p/CcoU5cqPv7e/?img_index=1

Association of All-Cause Mortality With Overweight and Obesity Using Standard Body Mass Index Categories: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4855514/

The obesity ‘crisis’ is a myth
By Harriet Brown
https://nypost.com/2015/03/22/why-dieting-doesnt-work/

Diet-free Talk for Diabetes/Insulin Issues:https://www.facebook.com/groups/221981691163510/

Fat Positive Intuitive Eating Diabetes Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fatpositivediabetes/

I attend a free virtual weight-inclusive diabetes support group here: https://www.laurennewmanrd.com/groups

25+ Weight Neutral and Health at Every Size Resources for Managing Diabetes
https://bodyliberationphotos.com/2019/08/30/masterpost-haes-based-resources-for-intuitive-eating-diabetes-and-living-with-chronic-illness/

HAES Healthsheets: https://haeshealthsheets.com/type-2-diabetes/

Don’t weigh me cards: https://more-love.org/resources/free-dont-weigh-me-cards/

https://www.instagram.com/fatpositivefertility/ for community and she probably has resources. Do you have a fat facebook group in your area or a Facebook group on obgyn’s? As I am in Canada this is where I find my people. 

List of Anti-Diet, HAES, and Intuitive Eating Providers via Christy Harrison
https://christyharrison.com/haes-anti-diet-intuitive-eating-providers-eating-disorder-recovery

Fat Friendly Health Professionals List
http://www.fatfriendlydocs.com/

Fat Friendly Healthcare Providers

https://www.self.com/story/find-fat-friendly-doctor

https://www.instagram.com/p/CtLARDESZtE/?img_index=1

With the news of the cause of death for Lisa Marie Presley recently I thought it was time to expand the list of famous people who have died at the hands of fat hate or diet culture. The first part is episode 145, but you don’t need to listen to that before this episode. I am talking about famous people who had overwhelming pressure to be thin and died trying or their life was damaged because of that. It’s a pretty tough episode so please skip if you need to. TW: Fat hate/diet culture leading to death.

Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/176

Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers

Lisa Marie Presly: https://www.instagram.com/p/CuqObQpx_Uv/?img_index=1
https://fiercefatty.com/145

What is a small bowel obstruction? Lisa Marie Presley's cause of death explained: https://www.today.com/health/news/lisa-marie-presley-death-bariatric-surgery-rcna94299

Autopsy reveals Lisa Marie Presley died from small bowel obstruction: https://www.today.com/popculture/lisa-marie-presley-cause-death-bowl-obstruction-rcna94193

Lisa Marie Presley, daughter of Elvis and Priscilla Presley, dies at 54: https://www.today.com/popculture/music/lisa-marie-presley-daughter-elvis-priscilla-presley-dies-54-rcna65632

Lisa Marie Presley suffered a cardiac arrest: The different signs of heart disease in women: https://www.today.com/health/womens-health/lisa-marie-presley-cardiac-arrest-rcna65716

Lisa Marie Presley 'rushed' to hospital after apparent medical emergency: https://www.today.com/popculture/lisa-marie-presley-rushed-hospital-apparent-medical-emergency-rcna65604

Intestinal Obstruction: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/intestinal-obstruction/symptoms-causes/syc-20351460

Explained: What is extreme liquid diet that late Shane Warne followed and how it affects the body: https://www.wionews.com/sports/explained-what-is-extreme-liquid-diet-that-late-shane-warne-followed-and-how-it-affects-the-body-460308

'Detox' or 'juice' diets such as that undertaken by Shane Warne are risky for heart health, experts say: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-03-08/shane-warne-extreme-diets-nutrition-heart-health/100887810

Remembering the demons that lingered for Dolores O’Riordan on anniversary of her death: https://www.irishcentral.com/culture/dolores-oriordan-health

What We Learned From the New Brittany Murphy Documentary: https://www.thecut.com/2021/10/what-we-learned-from-the-new-brittany-murphy-documentary.html

How Judy Garland's Struggle with Food and Need to Stay 'Camera Slim' Fueled Her Drug Addiction: https://people.com/books/judy-garland-struggle-with-food-drug-addiction/#:~:text=%E2%80%9CMost%20of%20her%20teen%20and,attempted%20to%20manage%20her%20weight

Judy Garland: https://people.com/tag/judy-garland/

Elizabeth Taylor: https://people.com/tag/elizabeth-taylor/

Frank Sinatra & Ava Gardner: https://people.com/archive/frank-sinatra-ava-gardner-vol-45-no-6/

Despair, Drugs and Attempts to Kill Herself: Judy Garland's Husband Details Her Many Struggles in New Memoir: https://people.com/books/judy-garland-drugs-suicide-husband-memoir/

Judy and I: My Life with Judy Garland Hardcover: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1613735839/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=people0d0-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=1613735839&linkId=b6c64db51ba5537cde7f6088180c67b0

Judy Garland's Lover Sid Luft Reacted So Badly to Her Pregnancy She Didn't Tell Him About Her Abortion: https://people.com/books/judy-garland-sid-luft-abortion-memoir-judy-and-i/

Judy Garland's Daughter Lorna Luft Sings 'Over the Rainbow' for the First Time in Tribute to Orlando, Stonewall and Her Late Mother: https://people.com/celebrity/lorna-luft-sings-over-the-rainbow-for-the-first-time/

Eating disorder at rootof Terri Schiavo case:https://www.nbcnews.com/id/wbna7318508

Pretty Woman singer Roy Orbison died of a heart attack aged 52 'because of yo-yo dieting' following death of his wife and two eldest children, new TV documentary claims: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6004151/Pretty-Woman-singer-Roy-Orbison-died-heart-attack-aged-52-yo-yo-dieting.html

Prince’s personal chef reveals musician was frequently ill towards end of his life: https://www.nme.com/news/music/prince-59-1203439

Laird Cregar: https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Laird_Cregar#/Death

Eddie Muller: https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Eddie_Muller

Bariatric surgery: https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Bariatric_surgery

Oxygen tent: https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Oxygen_tent

The Untold Truth Of John Candy: https://www.looper.com/981094/the-untold-truth-of-john-candy/

Aaron Carter: 'Basically, I have an eating disorder': https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/people/2017/04/26/aaron-carter-basically-have-eating-disorder/100922174/

Toxicology: https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Toxicology

Lancaster, California: https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Lancaster,_California

Lena Zavaroni: fame, anorexia and the tragedy of a 1970s child star: https://www.theguardian.com/music/2022/feb/26/lena-zavaroni-fame-anorexia-and-the-tragedy-of-a-1970s-child-star

UK Albums Chart: https://www.wikiwand.com/en/UK_Albums_Chart

Revealed: Callas's secret passion for recipes she refused to taste: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2005/jul/24/italy.arts