#184 Connecting with Each Other When We Disagree, Online and Everywhere In-between feat. Edward Brodkin & Ashley Pallathra

"Boundaries are not just about saying no. Boundaries are actually about saying yes to what's important. That's what we have to get clear on - what's the yes that I'm saying yes to?" - Stella Grizont

Stella Grizont is an Author, Executive Coach &; Positive Psychology Expert who founded The Work Happiness Method. Her coaching program is designed to help people work happier and live better.

This week, Stella released her new book ‘The Work Happiness Method.’ In this episode, we talk about the book - and a few of the eight essential skills you can develop to feel happier and more fulfilled in your career.

In this episode we go over:

• How to get clear on your values. 
• How a "complaining vacation" can change how you feel about going to work.
• What learned optimism is and how to practice.
• Plus, setting boundaries. How to say 'no' and what happens when you do.

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"If you can find joy with the perceived dark parts of yourself, it’s so much easier to find joy everyday." - Kristy Laschober

Kristy is the author of Perfectly Flawed: Uncovering Your Greatest Purpose. In it, she writes about her experience servign time in a federal prison sentence. 

Kristy has been a fierce advocate for re-entry and prison reform since her release from Federal Prison in 2017, advocating to provide new opportunities for second chances. Her successful fight to remove the criminal history box on all college applications, in the state of Oregon, was realized in 2020. This was achieved by collaborating with key partners, legislators, and higher education coalitions.

That same year, Kristy earned her Bachelor of Science degree in Innovation and Leadership at Southern Oregon University, graduating summa cum laude.

Kristy recently published her first best-selling book, Perfectly Flawed - Uncovering Your Greatest Purpose. Her book is a raw, interactive, reflective reading experience, revealing the complexity of the human spirit in all of its glory, pain, and compassion. 

Kristy founded The Freedom Exchange Project, where she connects and has conversations with men and women impacted by the criminal legal system, to amplify their voices. Kristy has a certificate in Community Storytelling, is a Certified Peer Support Specialist, and is a member of the Faces of Women Imprisoned Speakers Bureau. Kristy is a board member of the Association for Justice-Involved Females and Organizations, a member of Unlock Higher Ed, and is the Pre-Release Coordinator and Policy Advocate at Operation Restoration. Kristy is an alumnus of Just Leadership USA - Leading with Conviction fellowship program in 2023.

Kristy is passionate about bridging communities and cultures so that people have opportunities to realize their ultimate potential.

In this conversation we talk about:

• Facing shame
• Becoming vulnerable and why it's so important
• How to love ourselves

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Episode 107, Facing Your Shame feat. Kristy Laschober

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The first time I learned I couldn't be my authentic self in the world was in second grade when I wore a Barney shirt to school. Yep, you guessed it, so not cool.

It's instances like that where we learn to not be ourselves, to be small and to shrink ourselves into what works for others. 

In this conversation, I'm going to share what happens when our authentic self is disconnected from our public persona and how to bridge the gap. 

If you feel like you've been getting smaller and smaller to fit the needs of others - then this conversation is for you.

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“We all have a reason for being here… I want to make sure I’m doing my best to fulfill that meaning and do the best job I can while I’m here.” - Hadley Vlahos, RN

Oh. My. Gosh. Stop everything and press play on this episode. 

I’m so excited to share this conversation with Hadley Vlahos. Hadley is a registered nurse, specializing in hospice and palliative care, a nonprofit founder and the author of the new book, The In-Between

In this book, Hadley shares her experiences as a hospice nurse that have cemented her belief in an afterlife.

In this conversation, we talk about what she has witnessed in hospice - as patients’ loved ones seemingly come from beyond to escort them from this life to the next. She also talks about how she believes some of her patients have protected her from the other side. Hear about the advice she thinks about often… and why all of this changes the way she lives her life. 

I want to give a shoutout to one of my patrons - Kristen McKendry! Kristen, thank you for subscribing! 

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“It wasn’t about what I couldn’t do with them, but what I was helping them become.”

Today I get to introduce you to one of my good friends, Stephanie Hirtle. Stephanie practices self-compassion regularly… as her life and motherhood don’t look like she thought they would.

Stephanie is the stay at home mom of four kids ranging in age from 12 to 25. She has a degree in American Studies and Business management. 

Stephanie has been struggling with pain for the last thirteen years. Through a variety of treatments, she is at a more manageable level,  but still struggles with pain every day. 

IN this conversation, she’ll talk about the impact of chronic pain in every part of her life. 

We also talk about:
-Tangible tools she’s learned to offer herself more self-compassion
-How to give herself grace, even when those around her aren’t offering her grace
-How much she’s learned from this experience… and re-focused what success means

A special shoutout to my first patron on Patreon. Shoutout to one Jaylene Wood (eh hem, my mom)

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“I see you. I understand you. I care for you. I got you. When you turn that in toward you, the question is what does that translate to in terms of action. And sometimes that action is going out and doing something and sometimes that action is doing less.” - Nicola Taggart

Oh, this is the conversation that everyone needs. I talked to one of my favorite people and the creator of The Calm the Chaos Journal, Nicola Taggart about how at the heart of self-care, we find self-love.

Nicola is a life and leadership success strategist, coach, and author who has helped business owners, leaders and their teams improve their communication, increase their confidence and strengthen their connections, in all areas of their lives. She is also the author and creator of the Calm the Chaos Journal: A Daily Practice for a More Peaceful Life, and the Calm the Chaos Card Deck: 65 Simple Practices for a More Peaceful Life.

In this powerful conversation, we talk about how to stop seeing self-care as an added item on our checklist, but instead, a way of life.

We also talk about:

• Finding self-care and self-compassion
• How to practice self-care in the middle of a busy schedule
• How to stop looking outward for success and have centered success
• Tangible tips on coming back to the center

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One of the most powerful things we can do is challenge our negative thoughts. In this HIP Habit, I want to challenge you to be aware of the thoughts that come into your life this week.

In this bonus episode, learn about how to bring awareness to your thoughts, choose to disrupt the thought and then work your way toward something you'd rather believe about yourself. 

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Have you noticed that it seems we need to spend a lot of dollars to achieve the ultimate self-care? In this episode, Danielle challenges the advertisements and social media claims. Instead, we're going to focus on how everything you need to care for your self exists within you.

In this episode, Danielle will share three main ways to practice self-care on a daily basis. 

Learn more about practicing self-care through the following ways; 1) your thoughts, 2) your movement and 3) showing up for yourself!

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In this mini-episode, the challenge is to find a micro moment of peace in your day. This can be as little as 20 seconds per day.

Danielle shares about creating an intention around your five senses so that you can step away from what might feel like chaos - to become re-centered.

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“When i think about it, I think of all the good people who came. That was the most beautiful thing. There was one bad man at the epicenter, but every ripple out - hundreds of hundreds of good people.” - Noelle Rasmussen

Three years ago on Christmas morning, an RV parked on the road in Nashville and played over a loud speaker “This RV will blow up in a few minutes.”

My friend’s apartment was right next to this vehicle. In this episode, you’ll hear from Noelle Rasmussen, about what it was like to be asked to leave her apartment with her family on Christmas morning, seeing the explosion and healing from the traumatic experience. 

In this episode we talk about:

• How she followed the voice in her head to leave during the evacuation
• What healing for her 4 year old and for her looked like
• What coping tool she learned that she still uses
• How she’s been able to find blessings in the bombing

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