190. The Anti-Resolution

I spent a lot of years of my life (over 40) being ashamed of being an outward verbal processor.  It's a pretty common neurodivergent trait that can oftentimes end up with other people treating you poorly.  Here's the thing, even thought a lot of people really don't get it, there ARE a lot of people that DO get it.  Today's episode breaks down what life looks like as a verbal processor, how to get of the shame spiral, and how to help yourself process better so that this doesn't happen for you as much.

More than anything, what you need to know is that there are lots of people in this world that will not only not be bothered by this quality, but that will appreciate it and totally get it.  You are not alone.

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Step into a world of self-discovery and empowerment with me on today's podcast! Join me as we unravel the layers of your self-concept, exploring what truly shapes your beliefs about yourself and how they impact every aspect of your life.

In this episode, I'll guide you through thought-provoking questions and practical strategies to challenge your existing self-concept and pave the way for personal growth and fulfillment. You'll hear insightful anecdotes and coaching tips that will inspire you to embrace your worth and potential.

Discover how to break free from limiting beliefs, nurture a positive self-concept, and align your thoughts with your deepest desires. Plus, I'll share how you can take the next step towards transforming your life through personalized coaching sessions.

Don't miss out on this transformative journey towards a more empowered and authentic version of yourself. Tune in now and embark on the path to self-discovery and self-love. See you there! 

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If you tell me that you are neurodivergent, I would bet money that you have a lot of lists.  You probably think that those lists are what is keeping you from drowning in forgetting all the things you are supposed to be doing.  But I am going to tell you something that might rock your world: The lists are making things so much worse.  Lists are a way of confirming all of the things you "have to" do in the world.  But have you ever stopped to think about what you might WANT to do?  Probably not, because you are being buried alive by what you "have to" do.  

Today's podcast breaks this all down and shows you how you probably want to redefine what you "have to" do in the world.  Take a listen, and if you want my help, book a strategy call.  I can help you.

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What do desperation, hopelessness, failure & winning have to do with each other?  Everything.  They have everything to do with each other.

So, why am I delving into these seemingly disparate topics? Well, because they're all interconnected. You can't fully understand one without considering the others. Desperation, hopelessness, failure, winning—they're all part of life's intricate tapestry.

During a recent strategy session with a client, the topic of desperation surfaced. She felt stuck in a cycle of setbacks, particularly in her career advancement. Rejection after rejection led her to question her worth and potential. Sound familiar? It's a narrative many of us can relate to.

Speaking of narratives, let's talk about my son's basketball journey. He's eager to join a new team where his friends play, but I'm more focused on finding the right coaching philosophy to nurture his growth. The looming prospect of failure—what if he doesn't make the A team?—stirs up a mix of emotions. As a coach myself, I'm acutely aware of the weight we sometimes carry for our loved ones.

But here's the thing: failure is not the end of the road; it's a detour. Just like in my own life, where setbacks paved the way for growth and resilience, our failures shape us. They teach us to navigate adversity without losing sight of our dreams.

Now, let's talk about dating. Ever felt like you're settling because finding the right partner seems like an impossible feat? I've seen it time and again. But here's the truth: the good ones aren't all gone. It's about maintaining high standards while embracing the journey, failures included.

So, how do we navigate these emotional rollercoasters? By reframing failure as an opportunity for growth and learning. Imagine approaching failure with a sense of curiosity and even fun. Crazy, right? But it's a mindset shift that can make all the difference.

And if you're feeling overwhelmed, remember: you're not alone. Building emotional resilience takes time, but it's worth the investment. That's where coaching comes in. Together, we'll reprogram your thinking, regulate your emotions, and chart a path toward a more fulfilling life.

So, friend, if you're ready to rewrite your story and embrace the journey of being human, I'm here to help. Book a free strategy session with me, and let's start turning those setbacks into stepping stones to success.

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Thanks for tuning in! Don't forget to leave a review if you enjoyed this episode—it helps me reach more people like you. And until next time, remember: failure is just another word for opportunity. See you soon!

Anxiety.  We all feel it.  It has been labelled as a problem emotion.  It has been labeled as a disordered emotion.  But what if I told you that it's actually an emotion we feel when we are terrified of feeling emotion?  Today I am going to share what anxiety REALLY is.  I am also going to help you break it down into bite size pieces so that you can finally start addressing anxiety in an empowered way.  We don't need to get rid of anxiety, but we do need to learn how to handle it.  This episode is going to show you how to do that.

If you are ready to be in charge of your anxiety, this would be the perfect time to book a free Strategy Session: BOOK HERE

Neurodivergent women struggle with sensory processor overload.  But that doesn't mean we have to change or be different to stop overloading.  However we do want to make the overload our responsibility.  Today's episode shares how we can begin with understanding how to give more time and energy to our sensory processor (aka our brain) so that we can create a life we enjoy living (every single day) without shutting down and burning out.

When we are aware of our sensory load, we can be aware of when the sensory load is going to increase.  When we have an understanding of this, we can begin implementing proactive nervous system regulation, emotional awareness & allowing and productive thinking.  

This keeps us in charge of our sensory processor and ensures that it doesn't burn out (no matter what might be happening)

Listen in and be sure to share your thoughts over on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamandahess/

And as always, I would be so happy to see you on a Strategy Session and help you put a real and doable plan in place: https://amandahess.ca/coaching

As young girls, we are socialized to be "nice".  In fact, we spent a vast amount of time focusing on how to stand up for ourselves and ask for what we want, but at the same time we try to do it in such a way that we don't come off as being  bitch.  The truth is, most of us (unwittingly) end up choosing to be unhappy and dissatisfied, rather than appear as "bitchy" in a hard situation.  If you want to start finally feeling satisfied with your life you are going to need to let go of needing to be "nice".  

In today's episode, I break down why being nice is sabotaging your ultimate happiness and I show you how to start tapping into Big Bitch energy instead.  If you want to change the direction of your life and start feeling empowered and in emotional control, you are going to want to tune in.  Let's all get a little more bitchy together.

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Are you settling in your life?  Are you trying to get yourself to be ok with what you think you can get because you don't think what you actually want is possible.  If that is what is happening for you, I want you to know that it is super common in neurodivergent people.  In fact, many of us walk on this path for so long, that we stop wanting all together.  Today I want to change that for you.  One of the simplest ways to increase your quality of life is to raise your standards.  This is true of dating, you career and basically every other aspect of your life.  Listen in because I am sharing why you need to change this and how to do it. 

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Join me as I interview one of my dearest friends and favorite clients: Tory Reade.  In this episode Tory shares the impact and benefit of the quiet but profound change that coaching has brought to her life.  

We cover how Tory was interested in coaching right away, and the reasons why I directed her to therapy instead.  We talk about how she determined when she was ready for coaching, and we discuss the parts of coaching that were the hardest.

The biggest thing that we cover is Tory's transformation from someone who was plagued by anxiety and self-doubt into a woman who holds emotional maturity and is fully able to handle whatever the world decides to throw at her.  Her journey is one that starts with emerging from an abusive relationship and a damaged spirit and ends with self-love, self-advocacy and the confidence to go after the life she deserves.

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Welcome to the first podcast episode of 2024! As we dive into this new year, I am beyond excited and filled with clarity about what I have in store for you. This year, my goal is to bring you my absolute best, sharing insights that will truly blow your mind.

In today's episode, titled "The Anti-Resolution," I address the common practice of setting New Year's resolutions, something I've grown to dislike – not just for myself but for you too. Why? Because resolutions often focus solely on taking action without considering the underlying intentions, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions.

I share a recent coaching experience where we explored the power of feeling emotions in the body, emphasizing the importance of understanding our emotions rather than suppressing them. The key is to move beyond mere willpower, recognizing that true change requires a deep dive into our thoughts and beliefs.

As we navigate through the episode, I challenge the conventional approach to resolutions, especially those centered around weight loss, fitness, or eliminating habits. Instead, I encourage you to question why you desire these changes and whether the underlying beliefs align with your true desires.

I open up about my own journey, recounting a time when I believed clearing my acne would bring happiness, only to realize that self-acceptance and approval were the true goals. This serves as a reminder that external changes don't guarantee internal fulfillment.

The core message of the episode revolves around the concept of an "anti-resolution." I'm not against creating new results in your life; however, I am against mindless action and setting resolutions without understanding why you want them. I urge you to ponder the question: Why do I want this result? And go beyond the superficial answers.

I introduce a crucial aspect of the anti-resolution approach – focusing on emotions. What negative emotions are you experiencing, and what positive emotions are you longing for? By identifying and understanding these feelings, you can begin the journey of creating a life you truly desire.

To assist you on this journey, I offer a simple exercise: write down the specific negative emotions you want to overcome and explore the corresponding positive emotions you wish to cultivate. This is the starting point for building emotional resilience and creating sustainable change.

As a preview to an upcoming masterclass, I invite you to join me on January 16th to delve deeper into the anti-resolution concept. The masterclass will provide a step-by-step guide on how to implement this approach and transform your life in 2024. Visit joinamanda.ca to sign up and mark your calendar for this empowering session.

Thank you for tuning in, and remember to leave a review if you enjoyed this episode. If you're ready to explore personal coaching and develop a customized plan to manage stress and anxiety, book a free consultation at amandahess.ca/bookacall.

Happy New Year, and I can't wait to share more insights with you in the coming weeks. Until next time, take care and be kind to yourself. Bye for now!