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    197. Stop being PASSIVE in your life ft. Girls with Goals

    enMay 20, 2024
    Why is it important to make intentional choices in your twenties?
    How can brands like Nature's Way support personal growth?
    What role do black-led businesses play in creating positive impact?
    What mindset shift is suggested for achieving personal goals?
    How does actively engaging in pursuits affect feelings of accomplishment?

    Podcast Summary

    • Empowering choices in our twentiesMake intentional choices for career, health, finances. Support brands & black-led businesses for wellness & expansion. Control of life leads to happiness.

      We have the power to actively shape our lives and make intentional choices, especially during our twenties when we're making important decisions about our careers, health, and finances. Brands like Nature's Way, Intuit, and Pronamel can support us in various aspects of our lives, from wellness to financial management. Additionally, supporting black-led businesses is a way to make a positive impact and expand our choices. The hosts of Girls With Goals, Carolyn and Anne Catherine, emphasized the importance of taking control of our lives and creating structures to help us make the most of our twenties. Whether it's through self-care, financial planning, or supporting black-led businesses, we have the power to make choices that lead to a happy and fulfilling life.

    • Living intentionally goes beyond effort, it's about being aware and in controlStrive for balance between being active and in control vs passive and on autopilot, setting personal boundaries, acknowledging when to take a step back, and focusing on what truly matters.

      Intentional living goes beyond just putting in more effort and energy. It means being aware of when we're living passively and taking active steps to pull ourselves out of it. Being intentional is about setting personal boundaries, acknowledging when we need to take a step back, and focusing on what truly matters to us. It's important to remember that being busy doesn't necessarily equate to being successful or intentional. Instead, we should strive to be active and in control of our lives, rather than passive and on autopilot. The speakers emphasized the importance of this balance, especially during challenging times in our lives when it can be easy to lose sight of our intentions.

    • Recognizing the difference between being a passenger and taking the driver's seatBe intentional in your twenties by identifying what truly matters to you, prioritizing goals, and taking intentional action despite fear or overwhelm, guided by your values.

      Being intentional in our twenties means recognizing the difference between being a passenger and taking the driver's seat in our own lives. Busyness does not always equate to fulfillment, and sometimes the hardest thing is to slow down and figure out what truly matters to us. Passiveness can stem from fear, lack of self-confidence, or overwhelm, and identifying the root cause is the first step towards taking intentional action. Values can guide decision-making and help prioritize goals, allowing us to live authentically and avoid the temptation to please others or follow trends. Being intentional also means acknowledging that we don't need to have it all figured out and that flexibility and surprise are essential parts of growth.

    • Shift focus from tangible goals to values and feelingsUnderstanding what drives us and what we want to feel can lead to a more open and active approach to life, allowing us to find ways to fulfill those feelings and values through continuous improvement and self-growth.

      Focusing on values and feelings rather than tangible goals can lead to a more open and active approach to life. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding what drives us and what we want to feel in life, rather than being fixated on specific achievements or timelines. By keeping ourselves open to various opportunities and experiences, we can find ways to fulfill those feelings and values in our daily lives. The speaker also shares her personal experience of shifting her focus from tangible goals to a desire for continuous improvement and self-growth. Ultimately, this mindset has helped her become more intentional, self-aware, and in control of her journey towards personal development.

    • Setting continuous goals for overall successAging adults should focus on setting continuous goals that prioritize feeling successful, independent, and healthy, rather than specific and tangible ones, to maintain motivation and progress.

      Setting overly specific and tangible goals can sometimes lead to a passive and unintentional approach to achieving them, making other areas of life feel like clutter. As we age, our relationship to goal setting changes, and we may find that continuous goals that prioritize feeling successful, independent, and healthy are more effective in keeping us motivated and moving forward. It's important to remember that setbacks and rejections are a natural part of the journey and should not derail us from our overall goals. Instead, we should focus on the progress we make and the opportunities that come our way.

    • Setting unrealistic goals can hinder progressFocus on smaller, achievable goals for continuous learning and evolution, avoid 'endgame' mentality, and create a fulfilling lifestyle around your goals.

      Setting unrealistic, massive goals without considering the process and growth along the way can lead to self-doubt, passive behavior, and a lack of sustainability. Instead, focus on smaller, achievable goals that allow for continuous learning and evolution. Avoid setting goals that create an "endgame" mentality, as this can limit your perspective and prevent you from enjoying the journey. Instead, aim to create a fulfilling lifestyle around your goals, rather than just focusing on the destination. By doing so, you'll be more likely to stay motivated and engaged, and ultimately, live a more active and intentional life.

    • Enjoying the process of goal settingFocusing on the journey towards a goal, rather than just the end result, can lead to sustainable lifestyle changes and increased motivation.

      Setting and achieving goals is important, but focusing only on the end result can lead to a passive state after the goal is met. Instead, it's crucial to consider the journey towards the goal and the sustainability of the lifestyle changes it brings. Elizabeth Gilbert's TED talk on learned industriousness emphasizes the importance of enjoying the process and not being overly invested in the outcome. The fear of the time and effort required before seeing results is a common reason for being passive in pursuing our goals. Consistency and showing up daily are key to eventually achieving success. The journey towards a goal should be valued as much as the destination.

    • Missing opportunities for growth during passive timeEvery hour presents opportunities for growth and improvement, don't miss them by being passive.

      Being passive and waiting for success to come to you without putting in effort is unlikely to yield positive results. Instead, actively engaging in the process, learning, and persisting through challenges are essential for achieving success. Time perceived as passive can seem to fly by, but looking back, it may be realized that opportunities for growth and change were missed. On the other hand, actively dedicating time and energy to pursuits can lead to significant progress and feelings of pride and accomplishment. It's essential to recognize that every hour presents opportunities for growth and improvement. Passively waiting for opportunities to come to you may result in missed chances for personal development and long-term success.

    • Be intentional with time and decisionsFocus on aligning life with values and goals, shift mindset from 'want to be' to 'am', start day with active task for momentum and presence

      It's important to be intentional with how we use our time and the decisions we make, rather than trying to fill every moment with productivity. Instead, focus on creating a life that aligns with your values and goals. This can start with small shifts in mindset, such as changing the narrative from "I want to be" to "I am." Additionally, starting the day with an active task can help build momentum and increase confidence and presence throughout the day. It's not about adding more to your plate, but rather being present and intentional with what you already have. The power of this mindset shift is mental, not material.

    • Starting your day with self-care can impact mindset and productivityTaking control of one aspect of your life through self-care can lead to feeling motivated and prioritizing yourself, essential for living authentically.

      Starting your day with small self-care activities can significantly impact your mindset and productivity throughout the day. By taking control of even one aspect of your life, you can feel a sense of authority and motivation to tackle tasks instead of just getting through them. This choice, time, and decision-making process is essential to living authentically and prioritizing yourself. The conversation emphasized the importance of focusing on your values and ideal self rather than external expectations or negative influences. Listeners can find more inspiration and advice on the Girls With Goals podcast, available on various platforms. Remember, protecting your health, such as your teeth, is crucial, so consider using Prenamel toothpaste and mouthwash for enamel repair. Don't miss the Black History Month celebration at Walmart for a chance to discover and try black-led products.

    • California's new wellness coaches to help youth improve mental healthCalifornia trains new wellness coaches to help youth build skills for better mental health, while Nature's Way Alive women's multivitamin gummies support overall well-being with essential vitamins and minerals.

      Mental health is a significant issue among California's youth, affecting nearly half of them. However, there's a promising solution on the horizon: the state is training a new workforce of certified wellness coaches to help young people build essential skills for better mental health and overall well-being. These coaches can make a significant difference, and it's crucial to spread awareness. Meanwhile, taking care of ourselves is just as important. For women, maintaining good health involves more than just mental wellness. Nature's Way Alive women's multivitamin gummies are an excellent addition to our daily routine. These gummies contain 16 essential vitamins and minerals, including the full B vitamin complex, which helps convert food into energy. Plus, they support healthy hair, skin, and nails. With just two delicious gummies a day, we can feel our best selves. So, let's remember to prioritize our mental health and overall well-being, whether it's through seeking support from certified wellness coaches or incorporating supplements like Nature's Way Alive women's multivitamin gummies into our daily lives. For more information on California's wellness coach program, visit cawellnesscoach.org. And to learn more about Nature's Way Alive women's multivitamin gummies and enjoy a 10% discount, visit naturesway.com/jemma10 and use code Gemma10 at checkout. Offer valid through June 30th.

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