#27: How Your Expectations Set You Up For Failure

Being a stepmom is wild. Some days are great. Some days are crap. Some are a mix of the two. Sometimes it feels like you're just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

In this episode, Alicia breaks down the ebbs and flows of relationships with:
-Your partner
-Your stepkids
-The other house...and yourself.

Episodes mentioned:

#3: Embracing Being "Just" the Stepmom

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Carley is an empowerment coach on a mission to help women reconnect to their authentic selves and create lives they can’t get enough of. Her own journey of self-discovery led Carley to flip her life upside down and do one of the scariest things she's ever done—end her marriage. Flash forward to now, and Carley is in a fulfilling relationship, nourished by deep sisterhood connections, and unapologetically prioritizes self-care. Coaching is her passion because Carley understands the silent struggles of women who feel lost or stuck—she's been there! She combines methods she's learned with her own playful energy and deep understanding of what it feels like to be an actress in your own life.

In this episode we cover:
-"Good Girl" conditioning
-Perfectionism
-Mistakes people make about setting boundaries
-People pleasing...and more!

Connect with Carley:
www.carleyweissert.com
ABCs of Transformation E-book
Instagram
TikTok

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The paranoia of being a stepmom?

Sounds a little dramatic, right? Ever feel like you are watching over your shoulder (constantly)? Feel like everything you say and/or do will be reported back to the other house? Question your choices? Who can you be friends with?

Listen in as we talk about all of this and more.

Resources mentioned:
Defining Your Stepmom Role

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If you're a new stepmom, you need this episode!

You'll learn what you are walking into when you start dating someone with kids. Not everything will happen all at once, but eventually, you'll need to know them.

We cover:
-emotions
-boundaries
-why you'd consider running...and more.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

10 Things to Know As A New Stepmom
5 Steps for Healthy Boundaries
#3: Embracing Being "Just" the Stepmom
#30: Real Talk: Transition Days

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Beth Tyson, MA is a psychotherapist, childhood trauma consultant, 3x best-selling author, CASA volunteer, and Pennsylvania Child Abuse Prevention Team co-chair. Beth provides trauma-responsive training, speaking, and consulting to organizations that support the mental health of children and families. She is also the author of A Grandfamily for Sullivan, a children’s book for children raised by their grandparents due to unfortunate circumstances. 

In this episode we discuss:

-Why it’s hard for people to let kids have emotions
-How your trauma (pain) follows you into adulthood
-What happens when you validate scary emotions for kids...and more!

Connect with Beth:

Facebook group on childhood trauma

YouTube

Book: A Grandfamily for Sullivan 

All Connected videos I co-created with Connect Our Kids

Subscribe to Beth’s free newsletter

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Transition days are the hardest, right? Your days are up ended. The dynamic between you and your partner is completely different. It makes you question wanting to be a stepmom, right?

In this episode, we discuss:

-the amount of things kids bring back and forth
-the forced small talk
-the dynamic shift of your house/relationship
-having to hear about the mom...and more

That's not all. You'll also get a few tips of what to do! No gatekeeping here!

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Abby is a content creator discussing the inequities of domestic labor in relationships. She’s a full-time working mom of two kids and works in social and digital strategy. 

In this episode, Abby talks about how she started as a "mommy influencer" and then "accidentally" switched to shedding light on the inequality of domestic labor-aka: running the household.

Connect with Abby:

on Instagram
on TikTok

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Destini Ann is a parent coach, author, and international speaker. Her genuine personality shines through as she translates the intricate psychology of parenting into relatable, digestible content for her community. With her empathetic teaching style, Destini empowers parents to reshape the culture of their homes through conscious communication, intentional connection, and positive discipline.

In this episode, Destini talks through how being labeled the "bad kid" affected her through adulthood and what affect it had on relationships. She opens up about how not having coping mechanisms affected her relationships and her parenting.

Stay until the end to hear about parenting with ADHD and how becoming a parenting expert was an accident.

Connect with Destini on Instagram

Here are her "Positive Parenting Scripts"

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Any of this sound relatable?

You think the kids should be doing X, but your partner is ok with them doing Y.
You think if you're MORE loving/kind, the ex will like you.
Your partner thinks you should enjoy having the kids around every.damn.minute.

Sounds like "Let Down City", right?

Listen in as I walk you through why your expectations set you up for failure and how to help alleviate that.

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This episode is jam packed with so much information and a heartbreaking story that had me tear up. Mick and Kindra discuss the following:

-What is parental alienation?
-How hard is it to prove?
-Why the court system is a "money making" machine
-What is an "offense report"?
-Why stepping away can actually help the child

Kindra has been subject to parental alienation for the past 4 years. Mick experienced this for a brief time before his ex spouse passed away. They provide both the female and male perspective.

on Instagram
on YouTube
National Parents Organization
The Aftermath Podcast
www.kindraspeaks.com
Mick's book: Burning America

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