#28 Book Talk: "Four Thousand Weeks" and "The Art of Possibility"

"I should have been made partner by now. I'm a failure." "I can't manage the load - does this mean I am weak?" "I don't see anybody else complaining, so there is something wrong with me." "I should try harder!" "I sound really stupid." "Gosh, am I fat. What a slob." How do you speak to yourself? Is it with the same kindness you'd offer a loved one or is it laden with self-criticism? If the former, keep it up! But most likely, there are things you say to yourself that you would not say to a loved one. Welcome to the episode on kindness; you need it to have a fulfilling, long-lasting and successful life and career.

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Whether you're a seasoned reflector or a first-time voyager into end-of-year introspection, join us as we talk about how individuals and cultures around the world pause to ponder, learn and envision anew as they bid farewell to another year. We are believers that end-of-year reflection is good for you - for your brain, body and soul. It helps you notice your successes, and so it alleviates stress and lifts confidence, you discover something new about yourself, and it brings a sense of completion to the year that our human brain is craving for. 

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In this episode of the Lawyer Life Experiment, Anya and Frieda go scientific! We delve into two psychological models to discuss the often unseen forces of influence that guide and shape our everyday decisions - the systems each of us is part of. Join us as we explain these two ways for you to look at the systems you are part of and reveal the profound impact they have on the choices that define your life.

You can find the graphic representation of the models using search engines: 
Model 1 - The Seven-Eyed Model of Supervision
Model 2 - Bronfenbrenner's Ecological Systems Model

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Anyone can feel unsure about themselves, and people experience it in different ways. It ranges from healthy self-reflection (e.g., 'I'm not yet good at networking') to debilitating self-doubt (e.g., 'I can't ask for a promotion because I'm not worthy' or 'Someone will find out one day that I am a bad lawyer and a fraud'). In this episode, we explore that range, when self-evaluation turns unhealthy, and how we can build resilience and confidence. As always, we finish off with an experiment for you to try.

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As Anya approaches her 40th birthday in September and with Frieda already having two years of experience in her 40s, we dive into a discussion about midlife. We explore the juggling act of family, caregiving, health and career challenges that define this phase of life. We share the invaluable lessons we've learned. We celebrate the unique gifts that midlife brings. Join us for an honest conversation as we navigate these complexities while embracing the new opportunities that come our way.

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In this episode, Anya and Frieda explore the theme of getting unstuck in our romantic relationships and in our careers. We all sometimes find ourselves feeling lost or stuck, walking in a fog. These books take us on a journey of self-discovery, unconventional strategies for reinvention and finding your way when the path is unclear. Join us as we uncover the secrets to navigating career transitions and breaking free from unhealthy relationships.

0m27s - Intro
3m11s - Anya talks about the book that changed her career trajectory - "Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career" by Herminia Ibarra.
20m55s - Frieda talks about the book "Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl” by Natalie Lue that appeared in her life at just the right time.

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We are trying something new this week! We love thought-provoking books and often share book recommendations with clients. In this episode, we each reflect on one book which we've found inspiring on our journeys as lawyers and coaches. 

0m50s - we discuss the experiment of the previous episode "The Power of Pets in Stress Management"
8m00s - Frieda talks about the book "Four Thousand Weeks". It's a thought-provoking exploration of embracing the finite nature of time and making the most of our limited weeks on this Earth.
22m45s - Anya talks about the book "The Art of Possiblity" which presents 12 practices and mindset shifts for individuals seeking to redefine success, unleash their full potential, and create a more fulfilling and balanced life both personally and professionally.

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It is Mental Health Awareness month. Join us as we dive into the science-backed benefits of spending time with a pet, from reducing anxiety and depression to helping you balance your energy for a more sustainable career. Frieda's dogs even take part in her coaching sessions! As always, we finish with an experiment and you can already guess that it will involve spending time with animals!

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In this episode, Frieda and Anya explore the often-overlooked benefits of conflict. While most people view conflict as something negative to be avoided, we argue (no pun intended!) that conflict can be a powerful tool for positive change and improving relationships. Join us as we delve into how conflict can help us better understand ourselves and others, build stronger relationships, and improve workplace dynamics.

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In this episode, we explore the concept of choice in the legal profession. Lawyers are so aware of the legal rights, but how do we navigate the limits of our own autonomy, are lawyers truly in control of their own daily actions or are they following the rules set by the system? We'll talk about how our mindsets impact our daily choices. We will also touch on the concept of "power of choice" from Viktor Frankl, which holds that even in dire circumstances, one can always choose one's attitude and mindset.  Join us as we question if lawyers truly exercise choice in their daily lives.

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