299: John Eldredge on Getting Underneath Burnout, Powerlessness, and How to Build Resilience

Today, I am thrilled to introduce you to an incredible thinker, theologian, and teacher. Dr. Joel Muddamalle, Director of Theology and Research at Proverbs 31 Ministries joins us today to talk about the inescapable aspects of life we are all marked by. We have less control than we want, more anxiety than we're comfortable with and just enough insecurity to continually remind us of our shortcomings. To experience these things is to be human. We aren't superheroes and invincibility isn't an option. But humility is.

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Today, you better buckle your seatbelt. We're taking a deep dive into all-things relationships, my guests, Tim and Kathy Bush have a story to tell. Starting with, you know, why they had sex on their first date and what ensued in the early days of their relationship. But more specifically, their wisdom, after 42 years of marriage and enduring infidelity, drugs, and a myriad of other challenges, is a great gift to all of us today. We're going to hear their backstory, but also learn about the shadow side of attraction and chemistry, and why emotional affairs are even more devastating than a one-night stand.

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This week, my good friend Andi Andrew joins us to talk about misinterpreting personal shaking, why we need to grieve what didn't happen, the power of tears in releasing trauma from our bodies, and how to detach false belief systems from your life. Andi is a wellspring of wisdom, let alone a no-nonsense communicator, and so I'm confident our conversation today will help you move the needle in your own life.

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This week, Tim Ross joins us to talk about leaving and grieving seasons of life, emotional maturity, how to embrace being misunderstood, and why sexual sin is so insidious–why it takes people down so quickly. Many of you know about Tim and The Basement already, so I hope you'll lean in for the powerful and transparent conversation.

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This week, we're sitting down with Paul Daugherty, pastor of Victory Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma, to talk in raw and vulnerable fashion about his brush with considering suicide. And before I go on, I want to share that if you or anyone you know is considering suicide, please stop this podcast and dial 988 on your phone right now. It's a 24-hour crisis hotline and help is available. Aside from that part of the conversation, Paul and I discuss the strength of a lie to empower our lives and why we need to dump the plastic, sugar-coated platitudes when dealing with loss and pain. We'll also discuss fake prayers and why you can't just pray trauma away. In a culture so consumed by facades, I'm very thankful for Paul's transparency in our conversation and trust you'll receive great value from it.

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This week, Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, Ph.D., a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at Northeastern University, who is a world expert in the science of emotions, joins us to talk about how to understand our emotions. We'll also dive into the topic of why emotions are "whole brain events," how to change the meaning of experiences to change our minds, the effect of PTSD on the brain, and so much more.

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This week is the final week of [Formed.], and this week, my good buddy, Ian Simkins is back. He's one of my favorite people, and a deep well at that. Today, we're talking about the cost of surrender, why control and clarity are cousins, embodied trust, and the necessary theology of suffering concerning effective spiritual formation.

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It's week five of [Formed.], and this week, Havilah Cunnington joins us to discuss what God's voice sounds like. We're also going to explore why some people don't want to hear God's voice and how this plays into our journeys of formation as disciples of Jesus. Of course, if you missed the first four weeks of [Formed.], go back and catch those episodes on your podcast feed or YouTube.

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It's week four of [Formed.], and one of our favorite people is back on the podcast: Jamie Winship. This week, Jamie talks to us about why separation creates suffering, the necessary practice of self-emptying according to Jesus's teaching in Matthew 5, how to develop a right view of God, and a brilliant concept called "closed-handed anxiety." As usual, it's a fascinating conversation, so prepare for some note-taking. And of course, if you missed the first three weeks of [Formed.], go back and catch those episodes on your podcast feed or YouTube.

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It's week three of [Formed.] and one of the foremost biblical scholars in the world, Dr. Craig Keener, joins us to talk about self-centered spirituality and how to read the Scripture well. We're also going to debunk our understanding and application of a few of our favorite Bible verses. Of course, if you missed the first two weeks of [Formed.], featuring Craig Cooney and Father Ronald Rolheiser, go back and catch those episodes on your podcast feed or on YouTube.

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• Start reading my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here.
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