Creating a rewarding Airbnb experience: Hosting on Airbnb brings extra income and allows sharing unique spaces with travelers, creating memorable experiences for both parties.
Turning an unused spare room into an Airbnb not only brings in extra income but also allows hosts to share their unique space with travelers, creating a rewarding experience for both parties. The hosts can make their guests feel welcomed and cherished by adding personal touches, while the guests get to explore a new and authentic part of the world. By doing so, the hosts' homes become more than just dwellings, they become a gateway to new adventures. Airbnb sponsors this episode, encouraging listeners to consider the potential value of their homes beyond their current use. Additionally, the hosts, Jen and Jordan, share their experiences from interviewing fascinating guests on their show, including a North Korean defector and Jim Kwik, and invite listeners to submit their own questions for a chance to be featured on Feedback Friday.
Research fair market rates to negotiate a higher salary: To negotiate a higher salary, research fair market rates, use that information to advocate for a fair wage, and address discrepancies early in your career.
If you believe you're being underpaid at your job, the most effective way to negotiate a higher salary is by researching fair market rates and using that information to negotiate with your employer. This can be done by shopping around for other job offers, conducting informational interviews, or using online resources to compare salaries. It's also important to note that starting salaries and early raises can have a significant impact on your earning potential over the course of your career, so it's crucial to address any salary discrepancies as early as possible. Additionally, it may be difficult to obtain salary information from colleagues, and doing so could be considered rude. Instead, focus on your own research and negotiation skills to advocate for a fair wage.
Investing in skills leads to financial gains and personal growth: Negotiating salary and specializing in unique areas can lead to over $1M in career earnings
Investing time and effort into improving your skills, such as salary negotiation or a new interest like vehicle wrapping, can lead to significant financial gains and personal growth over the course of your career. However, it's important to bring your passion along with you and find enjoyment in the lucrative aspects of your job, rather than being totally uninterested. In the case of the listener who is uninterested in cars, instead of forcing passion for cars, they could specialize in a unique area of vehicle wrapping, like murals or office spaces, to differentiate themselves from competitors. The average salary increase from negotiating versus not negotiating is worth over $1,000,000 over a career, making the investment of time and effort worthwhile.
Specializing in a unique niche leads to success and happiness: While we may not have the power to fix everything, we can offer unconditional love and support as individuals navigate their own paths towards healing and growth.
Finding a unique niche and specializing in it can lead to greater success and happiness, even if it means deviating from the norm. This was discussed in relation to the potential business opportunity in jet wrapping for the music industry. Additionally, for individuals dealing with complex family situations, it's essential to provide unwavering love and support while recognizing the limitations of personal influence. A father shared his experience of the negative impact of his and his ex-wife's conflicting parenting styles on their children's mental health. Despite the challenges, he remains committed to helping them work through their issues and heal from the traumas of their upbringing. The key takeaway is that while we may not have the power to fix everything, we can offer unconditional love and support as they navigate their own paths towards healing and growth.
Focusing on personal growth for better father-child relationships: Fathers should prioritize their emotional healing before trying to mend relationships with their kids, and maintaining positive professional relationships during job transitions is important.
Focusing on personal growth and emotional healing is crucial for a father in mending his relationship with his children, rather than trying to force therapy sessions right away. It's essential for him to address his own emotional issues first and serve as a proof of concept for his kids. Additionally, when leaving a job, it's vital to maintain positive relationships by writing personal notes or having conversations about what was learned from colleagues. People might react coldly due to feelings of abandonment, lack of investment, or jealousy, but focusing on leaving on good terms is crucial.
Expressing gratitude and seeking advice from colleagues: Appreciating colleagues and asking for advice can lead to positive outcomes, including increased support and improved relationships. Addressing biases and challenges directly while building a strong professional network can also help.
Being specific and genuine in expressing gratitude and seeking advice from colleagues can lead to positive outcomes. In the first scenario, expressing appreciation for a colleague's professionalism and asking for advice can result in the Benjamin Franklin effect, where people are more likely to support and root for you. In the second scenario, a woman in a male-dominated industry facing criticism for her loud voice and perceived aggression can tackle the situation by addressing the issue directly and seeking advice from trusted colleagues or HR. It's important to acknowledge the biases and challenges that exist, but also to focus on building a strong professional network and advocating for oneself. Overall, these strategies can help build stronger professional relationships and set a positive tone for new opportunities.
Understanding the culture of your workplace and building strong relationships with coworkers are key to expressing opinions effectively: Expressing strong opinions and emotions can be seen as unprofessional, but building relationships and adapting to workplace culture can help prevent misunderstandings and create a productive work environment.
Expressing strong opinions and emotions in the workplace can be seen as unprofessional in some environments, but it can also be a sign of passion and a valuable asset in others. It's important to understand the culture of your workplace and build strong relationships with your coworkers to ensure that your expressiveness is not misunderstood as aggression. Companies like Google and Apple, known for their aggressive growth, encourage disagreement and strong opinions from their employees. However, not all workplaces are the same, and it's essential to adapt to the specific culture and norms of your workplace. If you find yourself frequently being seen as unprofessional for expressing your opinions, it may be a sign that the workplace is not a good fit for you. Building stronger relationships with your coworkers and communicating effectively can help alleviate any misunderstandings and create a more productive work environment. Ultimately, it's important to be true to yourself and find a workplace that values and appreciates your unique strengths and personality.
Focus on developing new friendships through shared interests and hobbies: To wean off old drinking buddies, focus on personal growth and building new friendships through shared interests and hobbies, leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Friendship and drinking are not synonymous. While it's common for people to bond over drinking experiences, especially in younger years, these relationships often lack depth and sustainability. To effectively wean off the need to be around old drinking buddies, focus on developing new friendships through shared interests and hobbies. This not only leads to healthier relationships but also provides opportunities for personal growth and fulfillment. Jordan Harbinger suggests creating a list of skills or hobbies you'd like to learn and finding in-person classes to attend. Engaging with like-minded individuals in these communities can lead to meaningful connections that last beyond the classroom. There are numerous meetups and online communities dedicated to various interests, ensuring ample opportunities to expand your social circle. By focusing on personal growth and engaging in new experiences, you'll find that you no longer miss the old drinking habits and the people who solely revolved around them.
Learning from Past Regrets: Reflect on past mistakes, learn from them, and use that knowledge to grow and take control of your life. Be truthful in difficult situations and consider the long-term consequences of your actions.
Recognizing past regrets and learning from them can serve as motivation for personal growth. The speaker shares his experience of feeling like he wasted time in his youth and is now making up for it by learning new skills and having new experiences. He encourages others to do the same and not wait for others to take the lead. In the second situation, the writer is dealing with her husband's job loss and the ethical dilemma of whether to tell the truth or not. The speaker advises being truthful, while acknowledging the importance of preserving one's ego. Ultimately, it's important to consider the long-term consequences of our actions and not get stuck in uncomfortable situations. In both cases, the takeaway is to learn from the past, take control of one's life, and move forward.
The importance of honesty: Lying can lead to embarrassment, career damage, and severe consequences. Being truthful builds trust and avoids unnecessary complications.
Honesty is always the best policy. The discussion revolved around the consequences of lying, whether it's about personal relationships or professional accomplishments. A man who lied about leaving his job instead of being fired was eventually exposed, causing embarrassment and potential career damage. A woman who lied about her education to secure a job faced even more severe consequences, losing her pension and possibly facing penalties. The importance of transparency and truthfulness, even in small matters, was emphasized. In the case of the woman, it would have been better for her to have obtained the education she claimed to have instead of lying. When faced with unexpected situations, it's crucial to be truthful and forthright to avoid unnecessary complications. Additionally, for those who struggle with honesty, it was suggested to read Sam Harris' book "Lying" to better understand the importance of truthfulness. In the context of a car insurance claim, it's important to understand the implications of not having proper insurance coverage and the importance of being truthful with insurance companies and law enforcement.
Ensuring Your Side of the Story is Heard After a Car Accident in a New Country: Seek legal representation after a car accident in a new country to ensure your side of the story is told to the police and protect yourself from potential insurance company exploitation.
If you're involved in a car accident and are unfamiliar with the legal system in a new country, it's crucial to ensure your side of the story is told to the police and to seek the help of a personal injury attorney specializing in automobile accidents. The brother's interference in the eyewitness testimony and the other insurance company trying to take advantage of the situation highlights the importance of having legal representation. Finding an attorney can be challenging, but starting with legal services like Avvo.com, which lists and rates attorneys, can help in the search. Remember, never sign or agree to anything without consulting an attorney first.
Receiving a demand letter after a car accident: Contact Embassy/Consul for guidance, consider umbrella insurance, negotiation and settlements are common, consult legal experts before making decisions.
If you're a non-native English speaker or not familiar with the legal system in a new country, you may be vulnerable to legal scams or misunderstandings. In the case of a car accident, you might receive a demand letter from the other party, which could be the beginning of a negotiation process rather than a court summons. It's essential to understand that these letters are designed to intimidate and may not reflect the actual merits of the claim. The first step in dealing with such a situation should be to contact your Embassy or Consul for guidance and recommendations. An umbrella insurance policy could also provide additional protection against lawsuits. Remember, negotiation and settlements are common outcomes in such cases, and you'll likely have time to pay any agreed-upon amount. Lastly, don't hesitate to consult with legal experts or professionals for advice before making any decisions.
Negotiating Fair Settlements and Unexpected Twists: When dealing with insurance claims or legal matters, be prepared to negotiate for a fair settlement. In entertainment, expect unexpected twists and turns.
When dealing with insurance claims or legal matters, the initial demand or offer you receive might be higher than what is fair. It's essential to do your research, hire an attorney if necessary, and be prepared to negotiate for a more reasonable settlement. This concept was discussed in relation to a car accident scenario. Furthermore, in entertainment, there's always room for unexpected twists and turns. The movie recommendation of the week, "Upgrade," is a prime example of this, as it follows a man who becomes part machine and experiences various plot twists after receiving a life-changing AI chip. So whether you're dealing with insurance claims or looking for a thought-provoking movie, remember to be prepared for negotiation and unexpected developments.
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1052: Wack Prenup Request Puts Engagement to the Test | Feedback Friday
Your engagement's on thin ice after a lackluster presentation and surprise prenup request. Is it time to say "I don't" instead? Welcome to Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
- Do your habits align with your ideal healthspan/lifespan?
- You're engaged to a man who suddenly asked for a prenup during a romantic date night, leading to a fight where you returned the ring. His proposal seemed half-hearted, and there are potential red flags about his commitment. How do you process this unexpected twist in your engagement?
- You organized a charity run with a local business owner to qualify for a marathon, but he withheld the funds raised for months. Now you're grappling with anger and the desire for revenge. How will you handle this betrayal and protect future charitable efforts?
- As a self-employed carpenter, you sometimes get a bad feeling about potential clients but struggle to turn them down politely. How can you trust your instincts and maintain professional boundaries without burning bridges or damaging your reputation?
- Your coworker and close friend recently threatened suicide while armed, putting you in a dangerous situation. Now you're dealing with the aftermath and conflicting emotions. How will you process this traumatic experience and decide the future of your friendship?
- Recommendation of the Week: Mafbeanl Rocket Launcher for Kids
- Your sister, who you've grown close to as adults, has become distant since you set boundaries with her verbally abusive husband. She's going through fertility struggles and depression. How can you support her while respecting her space and protecting yourself?
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1051: Tu Lam | From Refugee to Real American Hero
From refugee to elite soldier to Call of Duty character: Green Beret Tu Lam shares his incredible journey of overcoming adversity and finding purpose.
What We Discuss with Tu Lam:
- Tu Lam escaped Vietnam as a child on a dangerous boat journey, enduring extreme hardship before eventually making it to the United States as a refugee.
- He faced significant racism and challenges growing up in America, but was determined to prove himself and joined the military, eventually becoming a Green Beret.
- Tu Lam served in elite special forces units for over 20 years, participating in dangerous missions around the world including hostage rescues and counterterrorism operations.
- After leaving the military, he struggled with PTSD and drug addiction, but was able to heal through various methods including psychedelic therapy.
- Tu Lam's journey shows how we can overcome extreme adversity and trauma through perseverance, seeking help when needed, and finding positive ways to channel our experiences. His story inspires us to face our own challenges with courage and to use our struggles as motivation to help others.
- And much more...
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1050: Lisa Kaltenegger | In Search of Alien Life and Livable Worlds
Are we alone in the universe? Alien Earths author Lisa Kaltenegger joins us to discuss new discoveries in humanity's hunt for extraterrestrial life.
What We Discuss with Lisa Kaltenegger:
- The universe contains billions of stars and galaxies, with an estimated one out of five stars having a planet that could be similar to Earth in terms of potential habitability.
- Scientists use various methods to detect exoplanets, including observing changes in starlight and analyzing the light spectrum of planets to detect signs of life-sustaining elements like oxygen and methane.
- The search for extraterrestrial life involves looking for planets in the "habitable zone" or "Goldilocks zone" around stars, where conditions might allow for liquid water on the surface.
- The observable universe is limited by the speed of light and the age of the universe (approximately 13.7 billion years), meaning we can only see as far as light has had time to travel since the Big Bang.
- Anyone can contribute to space exploration and scientific discovery by staying curious, learning about new discoveries, and supporting science education. Even simple actions like looking up at the night sky and wondering about our place in the universe can inspire a lifelong passion for science and exploration.
- And much more...
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1049: Friend Was a Creeper But You're Not His Keeper | Feedback Friday
A friend's arrest for a dark crime has you shaken. Can you protect your career and sanity from association with this monster? Welcome to Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday:
- How did "The Thing" that Soviets used to spy on Americans during the Cold War (as described in episode 1027: Jonna Mendez | A Woman’s Life in the CIA) actually work? Some of our science-minded listeners have written in with fascinating answers!
- Your close friend was arrested for possessing and distributing child abuse material, leaving you and your friend group in shock. You're grappling with feelings of betrayal, questioning your judgment, and worrying about potential impacts on your career as a preschool teacher. What steps can you take to cope with this crisis and safeguard your professional reputation?
- As the new Director of Nursing Care, you're tasked with improving staff performance after years of lax management. You find yourself constantly disciplining employees and dealing with petty complaints, feeling more like a punitive boss than a supportive leader. How can you maintain positivity while addressing these challenges?
- Your wife's family is fraught with tension due to her sisters' problematic marriages, including allegations of abuse and sexual assault. Fresh to the family, you're not sure where you fit into its overall structure yet. Can you help mend family bonds or should you keep your distance?
- You're a Jewish doctor in a relationship with a Catholic woman, struggling to balance your religious practices with your desire to be with her. After a breakup and reconciliation, you discover she's still in contact with her ex. How do you address this without compromising your values or losing her?
- Recommendation of the Week: Love on the Spectrum
- As the founding CEO of a startup, you sacrificed relationships and recreation to build the company. Just as things were going well, you were replaced by the shareholders and are now owed a significant sum. How can you reclaim your professional path while rediscovering personal fulfillment?
- Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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1048: Shaun Attwood | From Raves to Riches to Ruin Part Two
Raves, riches, and ruin: Former ecstasy kingpin Shaun Attwood exposes the dangerous world of drug trafficking and its violent criminal connections. [Pt 2/2 — find Pt 1 here!]
What We Discuss:
- The extreme brutality and inhumane conditions in the United States prison system, including rampant violence, unsanitary living conditions, and inadequate medical care.
- The complex and dangerous social dynamics within prison, including racial segregation, gang politics, and the constant threat of violence.
- The psychological impact of long-term incarceration, including the difficulty of reintegrating into society and the lasting trauma experienced by both inmates and their families.
- The systemic issues within the American prison system, particularly the profit-driven motives of private prisons that perpetuate a cycle of crime and recidivism rather than focusing on rehabilitation.
- The power of personal transformation and education, as demonstrated by Shaun's journey from drug kingpin to advocate for prison reform. His story shows that even in the darkest circumstances, individuals can find ways to grow, learn, and ultimately use their experiences to make a positive impact on society.
- And much more — be sure to check out part one of this conversation here if you haven't already!
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1047: Shaun Attwood | From Raves to Riches to Ruin Part One
Raves, riches, and ruin: Former ecstasy kingpin Shaun Attwood exposes the dangerous world of drug trafficking and its violent criminal connections. [Pt 1/2]
What We Discuss:
- Shaun Attwood, a former stockbroker turned drug dealer, recounts his journey from the UK to Arizona, where he became involved in the rave scene and eventually established a large ecstasy distribution network.
- Shaun's story involves interactions with dangerous individuals, including members of the Mexican Mafia and associates of former show guest Sammy "The Bull" Gravano, highlighting the violent and unpredictable nature of the drug trade.
- The narrative illustrates the gradual escalation of criminal activities and the blurring of moral boundaries as Shaun became more deeply entrenched in the drug world.
- Shaun describes the intense paranoia and constant threat of violence that accompanied his lifestyle, demonstrating the high personal cost of his choices.
- Despite the dark nature of the story, Shaun's experiences offer valuable insights into the dangers of drug abuse and the importance of making positive life choices. His journey towards redemption, which will be further explored in part two later this week, serves as a powerful reminder that it's never too late to change course and seek a better path in life.
- And much more — be sure to tune in to part two of this conversation here later this week!
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1046: Hydrotherapy | Skeptical Sunday
Ice plunges, hot soaks, and eight glasses a day: Jessica Wynn splashes cold water on hydrotherapy myths and explores potential benefits on Skeptical Sunday!
On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss:
- Hydrotherapy, which includes various uses of water for health purposes, lacks substantial scientific evidence for many of its claimed benefits, especially for generally healthy individuals.
- The popular belief that we need to drink eight glasses of water a day is a myth perpetuated by beverage companies. Our bodies are well-equipped to signal thirst when we need hydration.
- Extreme temperature changes in hydrotherapy, such as alternating between hot and cold water, can be dangerous and potentially lead to fainting, heart problems, or drowning.
- Many of the alleged benefits of hydrotherapy, such as improved circulation or muscle recovery, can often be achieved through other, potentially safer methods like exercise or breathing techniques.
- Hydrotherapy does show promise in specific medical contexts, such as pain management for fibromyalgia, easing labor during childbirth, and assisting with certain rehabilitation exercises. If you're interested in exploring hydrotherapy for health reasons, consult with a medical professional to determine if it's appropriate for your individual needs and how to practice it safely.
- Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!
- Connect with Jessica Wynn.
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1045: Helping Pal Who Paid Cost for Offing His Boss | Feedback Friday
We all joke about offing the boss. Your friend actually did. He'll soon leave prison, but you're unsure how to receive him. Welcome to Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
- We've all fantasized about offing the boss, but your friend actually did it. Now he's done his time in prison and is returning home. How do you help him rejoin society without ignoring the gravity of his crime?
- You opened a bakery with your partner, but the building owner across the street turned your parking spaces into a dumpster area, including rotting fish from a sushi restaurant. Your attempts to resolve the issue have been unsuccessful. How can you save your business from this smelly situation?
- Your sister-in-law is neglecting her nine-year-old daughter, keeping her out of school and leaving her alone all day. The child's father is unreliable, and you're unsure about intervening. How can you protect your niece without causing more chaos?
- Your wife suddenly claimed to be a lesbian, cheated on you, and left the family. After two years apart, you've reconciled, but things aren't going well. She's depressed, anxious, and isolating herself. Can this marriage be saved, or is it time to move on?
- Recommendation of the Week: iPhone users should consider changing default camera settings for optimal high-res photos. Here's how — with more tips here!
- As a Jewish public servant, you've faced increasing antisemitism and violence at work, even requiring hospital visits. Your progressive values are being challenged by the harsh realities of your job. How can you reconcile your ideals with your experiences?
- Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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- Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.
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1044: Dan Harris | From Breaking News to Breaking Habits
Is happiness a learnable skill? 10% Happier author Dan Harris is here to share techniques for managing stress and finding contentment in a hectic world.
What We Discuss:
- Dan Harris shares his experience as a war correspondent and his struggle with anxiety and drug use that culminated in a panic attack on live television.
- The intense and often toxic work environment in network news, particularly during Dan's early career at ABC News.
- Dan's journey from cocaine addiction to discovering meditation and mindfulness as tools for managing stress and anxiety.
- The concept of "Papañca" (mental proliferation) and how it contributes to unnecessary suffering through overthinking and projection.
- Happiness is a learnable skill. Through various practices like meditation, therapy, exercise, and mindfulness, we can train our minds to be more resilient, peaceful, and content. As Dan emphasizes, we're not stuck with our current traits as if they're unalterable factory settings — they are trainable skills that we can improve upon throughout our lives.
- And much more...
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1043: Andrew Gold | Unveiling the Psychology of Secrets
Are secrets a burden or social glue? Psychology of Secrets author Andrew Gold delves into the evolutionary roots and modern impacts of hiding information.
What We Discuss with Andrew Gold:
- Keeping secrets can be physically and emotionally painful for humans. This evolved as a mechanism to encourage social cohesion and information sharing within tribal communities.
- There's a difference between secrets and privacy. What is considered a secret versus private information often depends on societal norms and can change over time.
- Technology is making it increasingly difficult to keep secrets, with devices like smartwatches and phones potentially revealing information we'd rather keep hidden.
- Virtue signaling and victim signaling are common behaviors, especially on social media, where people may pretend to hold certain beliefs or experiences for status or attention.
- Sharing appropriate secrets can increase intimacy and strengthen relationships. By thoughtfully opening up to others, we can build deeper connections and foster trust, leading to more meaningful interactions and a stronger support network.
- And much more...
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You're not sure if the speeding ticket you got driving across the country was given because you had out-of-state license plates, you were racially profiled, or there was an equipment failure of some kind, but you're pretty sure it wasn't for speeding. You want to fight it, but you're not sure what your legal options and obligations are. Friend of the show Corbin Payne, Esq. will explain how to fight an out-of-state speeding ticket the right way, and of course we'll try to do our best to answer a stack of other questions here on Feedback Friday!
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- Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? It'll be here sooner than you know it! Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details if you want to go!
- When you're paying so much money and time for the privilege of being part of your best friend's wedding party, is it unreasonable that, with plenty of notice, the caterer is refusing to accommodate your vegan request?
- Recently married, your partner has been voicing concern and guilt for living so far away from family. But due to the nature of your job (which you love), you can't move back to your home state without having to give it up. How do you make an informed decision in this situation?
- Driving across the country, you were stopped in Texas and ticketed for speeding even though your speedometer says otherwise. You're not sure if you were flagged for out-of-state plates or racially profiled, but you'd like to fight it. What are your legal options? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!]
- We often advise listeners to find competent legal advice, but how do you go about choosing someone? How do you know you will get a performer and not a shyster? [Thanks again to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!]
- The well-paying job where you've worked for 13 years is undergoing a transformation and trying to get rid of as many employees as possible. Of course morale is low and you'd love to quit even to take less money elsewhere, but you've got a baby on the way and your wife wants you to hang in there until you're out of debt. What should you do?
- Need a little help being a great dad? Ryan's Holiday's <a href="https://dailydad.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener...
355: My Roommate Tried to Kill Me! | Feedback Friday
Your unstable roommate physically attacked you over an argument about laundry, and then she filed a protection from abuse order against you! Now even your family doesn't seem to believe your side of things, and abuse hotlines seem to dismiss you immediately because of your Y chromosome. Even though you're in debt, should you get a lawyer to defend you in case she tries to extort you through the legal system? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, we banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/355.
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
- After seven-and-a-half years, we're losing a J! :(
- When an unstable roommate tries to kill you and then convinces your family and friends and the legal system that you tried to kill her, is it time to get a lawyer even on your tight budget? [Thanks to Corbin Payne for weighing in!]
- You're self-conscious about being Asian American during this pandemic, and your sister is even getting racist verbal abuse hurled at her in high school. What is the right attitude and perspective for you both to carry during this trying time?
- What's the least awkward way to respond when someone self-deprecates themself in comparison to you?
- You were recently selected for a diplomatic job in the Balkans with the Army, and despite your aversion to firearms, you'll be required to carry one. How do you mentally prepare for this compromise of your pacifist ideals?
- You're one semester from college graduation, but nobody in your family knows your GPA is disappointingly low. To top it off, your three younger siblings are set for Ivy League schools and you feel like an unemployable fraud in comparison. How can you improve your outlook?
- Recommendation of the Week: Kill Chain: The Cyber War on America's Elections
- A quick shout out to Mercedes!
- Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
- Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
- Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.
Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!
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5: Faux Gravitas Your Way to Success | Feedback Friday
Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show!
If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
- New beginnings! New excitement! New puppies! New levels of sleep deprivation!
- Here's a trick to convey contemplation rather than grumpitude if you've got one of those resting faces.
- How do you turn from a Fibbing Freddy into a Trustworthy Terry?
- How do we prepare for a show? (If you're interested in the longer story, tell us!)
- Do you like this show? Please tell your friends about it -- we're starting from scratch and need your help!
- Why should a woman who has more in common with her boyfriend and his friends be forced to hang out with the girlfriend group at social occasions?
- Sometimes people who are stuck in a rut don't even realize it. Is there a delicate way to tell them?
- There's something to be said for having the confidence to make mistakes (or dress like a kangaroo at the bar) without being embarrassed.
- Recommendation of the Week: Somm
- Quick shoutouts to Rick Higgins, Eric Onesto, and George Taylor!
- Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
- Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD.
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110: Stop Financially Supporting Deadbeat Friends | Feedback Friday
Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week!
If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
- How do you know if you're making progress and on track to a better and brighter future if you feel underqualified and inadequate about so much of your life? How can you measure your growth?
- Sometimes you try so hard to help your loved ones with their issues that you forget to help yourself. Support is close if you know where to find it -- here's where we suggest looking.
- How do you keep yourself from falling back into old, obsolete patterns of behavior whenever you visit your friends in your old hometown? Aren't you better than that now?
- You've been on Facebook for 14 years and have never weeded out friends you've only spoken to once in that entire time. Now you're applying to a job and notice one of your obscure connections is VP of the company. Is it tacky to contact them?
- If you genuinely love networking and meeting new people, you might feel bad about having to turn down lunch with some of them because you just don't have as much time as you used to (especially when they turn into sales pitches in disguise). How do you retreat from these invitations politely?
- If you're proud of your political activism in college, does it do any harm to bring it up when you're looking for a new job?
- Should you give up all the guaranteed benefits of your long-term government job to pursue a shaky future in the private sector that could result in more money and reemergence of happiness from that fire and drive you once had, but at a time cost and a possibility of being released or fired and losing those needed benefits for your family?
- Since returning to your hometown as a successful attorney making the big bucks, one of your friends seems to think you should pay for everything you do together because you make more money. What do you do?
- Recommendation of the Week: Jon Levy's What Makes Us Influential? TED Salon Talk
- A quick shoutout to Renee in Montana!
- Tank's Good News: Nike Signs First Runner with Cerebral Palsy
- Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
- Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
- Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: <a href="http://podcastone.com/grumpy-old-geeks"...
60: Todd Kashdan | The Bright Truth about Your Dark Side
Todd Kashdan (@toddkashdan) is a Professor of Psychology and Senior Scientist at the Center for the Advancement of Well-Being at George Mason University and co-author of The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self -- Not Just Your "Good" Self -- Drives Success and Fulfillment.
What We Discuss with Todd Kashdan:
- Why trying to be positive and happy all the time may be harming your ability to get things done and achieve the results you want.
- How what you may think of as negative emotions -- like anger -- can be useful superpowers with the proper awareness and application.
- The problem with living in a time and place when distraction from discomfort comes in an easier and greater variety than ever before.
- Why every decision you make now is based on how you expect to feel in the future -- and you probably underestimate your ability to tolerate distress.
- How you can use the discomfort caveat to ease out of the "put on a happy face" rut around others.
- And much more...
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