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    92. The psychology of platonic soulmates

    enMay 23, 2023
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    • The Power and Significance of Platonic SoulmatesPlatonic soulmates offer a deep, long-term connection that goes beyond romance or sexual attraction. They are based on trust and provide immense satisfaction, and prove that men and women can have strong friendships without sexual tension.

      Platonic soulmates offer a deep soul connection that goes beyond friendship and hits at something unexplainable. They are long-term, trusting relationships that provide immense satisfaction. The triangular theory of love can be adapted to represent platonic connections, with the three elements being intimacy, passion, and commitment. These relationships blur the lines between friendship and romance, proving that men and women can be friends without sexual tension. Sex is not everything, and the existence of platonic soulmates is evidence of this fact. These relationships sustain us for longer periods of time and are unconditional. Plato was the first to express the idea of a relationship that cannot be restricted to a romantic box. Clinical psychologists agree that platonic soulmates are highly satisfying relationships based on solid trust.

    • The Value of Platonic SoulmatesPlatonic soulmates offer emotional intimacy, commitment, and passion for life without sex. Recognize the value of these relationships and their ability to provide deep emotional fulfillment beyond romantic partners.

      Platonic soulmates offer intimacy, commitment, and a passion for life without the complication of sex. They provide emotional intimacy and satisfaction that can rival that of a romantic partner. These relationships often go unrecognized and undervalued in society, where the narrative of finding a soulmate is often tied to finding a romantic partner. The concept of platonic soulmates challenges this narrative and offers the possibility of finding a deep emotional connection with someone without the pressure of physical intimacy. It is important to recognize the value of these relationships and the emotional fulfillment they can provide.

    • The Importance of Emotional Intimacy in RelationshipsBuilding trust, embracing vulnerability, and communicating openly are the three pillars of emotional intimacy. It is necessary for creating a deep connection with the partner and should not be replaced by physical intimacy.

      Emotional intimacy is essential for any long-term relationship. It consists of three key elements: trust, vulnerability, and communication. Trust involves believing that the other person cares about you, while vulnerability is being able to share your deepest self without fear of judgment. Communication is the foundation of emotional intimacy and allows us to truly connect with others. These three pillars are vital for developing a deep connection with someone. Physical intimacy doesn't replace emotional intimacy and should not be used to mask vulnerability. Ultimately, emotional intimacy requires us to be present and open with someone, and it is essential for any relationship to thrive.

    • The Power of Platonic SoulmatesEmbracing the idea of multiple soulmates can lead to greater joy and vulnerability in relationships, expanding our capacity for love beyond traditional romantic connections.

      Platonic soulmates are individuals with whom we share emotional, mental, and spiritual intimacy without any sexual or romantic elements. They are not limited to one person, as you can have multiple soulmates. Investing in these relationships can provide us with a level of vulnerability and joy that surpasses that of traditional romantic relationships. In recognizing and pursuing platonic relationships, we move away from the notion of a singular soulmate capable of fulfilling us completely, and instead embrace the idea of multiple meaningful connections. This shift in perspective allows us to expand our capacity for love and connection beyond what we previously thought possible.

    • The Deeper Bond of Platonic SoulmatesPlatonic soulmates offer an unconditional and lasting connection beyond the typical conditions of friendship. Instant recognition and deep soulful bond are key signs of this unique relationship.

      Friendship is typically based on three conditions of proximity, similarity, and reciprocity. As a friendship gains depth, the importance of these conditions may fade, but in the case of platonic soulmates, the deep soulful bond remains regardless of distance or similarity. Platonic soulmates offer a deeper and more lasting bond than a typical friendship. There is less pressure placed on them than in romantic relationships, allowing them to just be who they want to be without the shared responsibilities. Instant recognition is a key sign of a platonic soulmate, and the recognition of each other's souls is something that cannot be explained by psychology. If you have to question whether someone is your platonic soulmate, they probably are not.

    • The Concept of Platonic Soulmate ExplainedA platonic soulmate is someone who accepts us for who we are, flaws and all. It's a deep connection built on shared values, understanding, laughter, and shared interests. It's not scientifically proven, but can offer emotional fulfillment.

      The concept of past lives may not be scientifically supported, but the instant recognition of similarities and shared values can lead to deeper connections, like with a platonic soulmate. Accepting someone for their best and worst selves, having an easygoing relationship, and understanding each other's needs are indicators of this special connection. Additionally, laughter and shared interests can be added bonuses. In the end, a platonic soulmate is someone who fulfills us emotionally and allows us to be our true selves, flaws and all.

    • The Connection of a Platonic SoulmateA platonic soulmate is someone who brings comfort, joy, and growth into our lives. We don't need to feel like failures if we haven't met them yet, and we can also find unconditional love within ourselves.

      A platonic soulmate is someone with whom we share a deep and inexplicable connection. This relationship is built on a foundation of comfort, joy, and growth. Being comfortable in the presence of a platonic soulmate is key, allowing us to share silences and moments of laughter without feeling awkward. The joy and happiness we experience with them bubble to the surface, and they recognize and challenge us to become better versions of ourselves. While there is hype around the idea of a soulmate, these relationships are not just met, but also made. We should not feel like failures if we haven't met our soulmate yet. Your future is wide, and you have decades to meet amazing people. You can also be your own soulmate, finding unconditional love within yourself.

    • How to Find a Platonic Soulmate and Show AppreciationLook inward for fulfillment, cherish platonic soulmates, support and give feedback for podcasts, appreciate the stories of underrepresented women on Womanica.

      Sometimes, we don't need to look outwardly to have our needs met, and that includes finding a platonic soulmate. We can give ourselves some of that mutual understanding of needs, laughter, and space to grow. Rest assured, there are people out there who will fill our cups so full, we'll need more cups. If you already have a platonic soulmate, let them know that they are seen, loved, and appreciated. Moreover, listening to podcasts like this, sharing them, and leaving reviews can make a big difference in growing the shows you enjoy. Also, we should take the time to share our experiences and give feedback. Lastly, we should appreciate the rich stories of real women who were left out of history books, and learn more about them from the Womanica podcast.

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