Beyond Volleyball with Matt Prosser

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“How much can we teach them and how much do they have to learn through experience?” - Wendy @ 0:48

“None of this journey we’re on is linear.” 3:25

“When we feel good, are we recognizing what we are doing to feel good? 7:39

“You are going to feel every feeling and that’s a good thing because that means you are alive.” 13:04

“Your intuition, arguably, builds off of experience that you’ve had both good and bad.” 21:10

“You will be more ‘perfect’ if you let yourself breathe.”  26:02

“I’m going to stop wearing my shoulders as earrings.” 26:48

“Everybody is recovering from something.” 50:05

“We are all allowed to be. We’re all allowed to feel.” 51:48

“In those differences, we can still enhance each other.” 53:24

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Dr. Mala

0:55 - How Did You Get into Psychology?

6:32 - Understanding the Integration of Physical & Mental Health

12:29 - How to Help Your Kids Navigate Human Feelings

15:37 - How to Parent from a Grounded & Calm Place

19:53 - What’s the Difference Between Intuition & Anxiety?

22:24 - Learning to Have the Tough Conversations with Your Kids

25:05 - A Discussion on Perfectionism

33:24 - Teaching Kids About the Collective Nervous System

38:10 - Advice to Empaths & HSPs for Setting Boundaries

40:51 - Bridging the Gap Between Mental & Physical Wellness

45:59 - Taking the First Step Towards Healing

50:48 - The Meaning of ‘Kindness is Inclusive’

53:56 - Where Can People Find You?

54:22 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Dr. Mala - 

www.drmala.net

Social Media Handles - @TheOfficialDrMala

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“I think journaling is an incredibly healing thing that we can undertake.” 4:57

“Deal with things as they are, not as we’d like them to be.” -Ann @ 7:54

“Addiction is really just a disconnection with ourself.” 8:57

“People are doing the best they can with what they know, but it’s our responsibility to know more so you have to keep learning.” 10:51

“The financial part is scary no matter what.” 20:10

“Parenting them through the hard stuff is actually what makes parenting great.” 25:58

“Two houses, they can be different and it can be okay.” 37:26

“You don’t have to be so worried about controlling or losing power in these situations with your children.  They are going to go where the love is.” -Ann @ 40:19

“Don’t make it about yourself.” 41:48

“Let your kids be who they are.” 44:11

Guest Bio - Wendy Jones is the founder of Be Better Media and host of her

own podcast, What I Meant to Say.  As a mother of four, she is

passionate about generational healing--so that we can connect

with each other and create families and communities from a place

of strength. The stories told through her work at Be Better Media

encourage each of us to listen more and judge less on our path to

self-awareness. In her spare time, you will find her at the beach

playing volleyball and enjoying her yoga practice.

Show Notes - 

0:00 - This Week on What I Meant to Say

0:50 - Ann Grant, the Divorce Hacker, Introduces Wendy Jones

1:32 - What is Generational Healing?

3:06 - Tools to Implement During Divorce

8:50 - How Addiction Can Impact Generational Healing

13:42 - Support Systems & Therapy

18:20 - Single Motherhood with Four Children

26:06 - How Are Your Kids Now?

31:17 - People Pleasing Discussion

37:59 - The Art of Letting Go of Control 

44:19 - Social Media & Battling Outside Opinions

50:54 - Helping Your Kids Find & Connect to Their Passions

56:58 - Three Questions

58:48 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find The Divorce Hacker:

FULL episodes - https://www.youtube.com/@divorcehacker 

Youtube Shorts

For more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/

Key Points & Memorable Quotes - 

“Unlearning everything that you think you know about how you function and what society’s told you because the mind isn’t the dominant operating system, the heart is.” 

“Your body is not gonna lie to you.”

“We’re so afraid of feeling.”

“Don’t tell a man how he’s feeling.” 

“I think that we don’t take enough time to just contemplate at the end of the day or maybe we haven’t taken enough time to just pause throughout your day.” 

“You can’t escape duality.” 

Guest Bio - Torin Jefferys calls himself a divine being and is a 30 year old beach volleyball athlete.  He works as a wellness and spiritual practitioner in Southern California.

Show Notes - 

Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Torin Jefferys

What Makes You Open to the Healing Journey?

Let’s Talk Music 

We Are Made of Light

A Discussion on Human Design

Your Path to A Simple Life is Your Responsibility

Traditional Masculine

Opening A Healing Space Called ‘A Fix’

Break Ups, Animal Totems & Dream Space

The Concept of Control 

Embrace the Duality of Life & the Healing Collective

How to Encourage People to Start Asking the Questions

1:03:19 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Torin - 

IG - @beachy_t888

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tv

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“Self talk is huge, replacing should with could is huge.” 3:12

“Free Will is an illusion.  We’re all conditioned to make decisions.” 4:56

“The moments of clarity that happen, if you’re aware of them, are staggering.” 19:16

“Surround yourself with the right people.” 25:00 

“The loneliness out there is tragic.” - Wendy @ 31:27

“We attract to our level of healing.” - Wendy @ 33:00

“You are the sum total of the five people you hang with.” 34:17

“For every ten minutes you talk or listen, you should encourage an interaction, something that inquires or causes further insight into the conversation.” 36:00

Guest Bio

Jake is a pioneer in conversational dynamics and a highly regarded fractional Chief Learning Officer. He is revolutionizing sales through his ‘Adaptive Conversational Blueprint,’ turning sales professionals into relational architects capable of forging profound connections with prospects. Integral to his approach is the 2/10 Rule, which challenges traditional perspectives on conversation and emphasizes the importance of rhythm and cadence. With a rich background spanning 30 years, Jake has shared his expertise in training and development across six countries, impacting over 10,000 individuals. A doting husband and father of four, Jake seamlessly blends practical experience and insightful wisdom in his pursuit of the perfect conversation.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say with Guest, Jake Stahl

0:34 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

2:31 - Starting Inner Child Work

4:32 - How Do You Bring Life Lessons into the Corporate World?

8:39 - Take Us Back to the Root of Your Transformation

14:44 - Making the Decision to Change 

19:11 - Moments of Clarity

20:34 - A Discussion on the Loss of Identity 

24:02 - How to Support Someone Struggling with Addiction

28:05 - Holistics Ways to Calm Yourself & Connect

35:23 - What New Book Are You Writing?

39:31 - What is A Fractional Chief Learning Officer?

43:09 - Advice to A New & Young Salesperson

47:30 - Thank You 

49:19 - Where Can People Find You to Connect?

49:48 - What I Meant to Say Closing

Links & Where to Find Jake

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakestahl

www.jakestahlconsulting.com

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tv

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“Is it me in this relationship that is causing this problem?” 7:43

“If they ask for advice, I can offer advice, but they have to ask or I have to be given permission.” 15:59

“Whatever you send out, eventually is going to come right back to you.” 18:44

“Instead of having something to be angry about, and holding onto that, hold on to the things that are good about people.” 21:19

“You’re not going to make any progress by blaming someone else.” 30:24

“Love in the way that’s going to light people up.” 35:25

“These women will take care of you if you take care of them.” 41:53

Guest Bio

Paul Zolman is the international bestselling author of the Role of Love, but the true author of love is God. In His wisdom, He placed us in a variety of circumstances that require us to find our way back to His pure love. So, what qualifies me to speak about love? My childhood experience of the opposite of love. From that austere beginning, and the distaste it formed inside me, I searched for and eventually created a method that transformed my life from anger to loving everyone. Growing up in a family of abuse, physical touch became my preferred love style, only because of the regularity. I could almost count on it. It was consistent. I came to think that was the way to express love. But deep inside, I knew that was a twisted belief. I wanted a better life for myself, which is why I created a paradigm shift that works. In this book, you’ll find what helped me move from a childhood boot camp of abuse to being a person who loves everyone and can find good about anyone in any circumstance. This is truly the role of love. I hope you join me.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcoming Paul Zolman to What I Meant to Say

0:19 - Becoming a Love Language Linguist from An Angry Household

9:35 - How to Play Paul’s Love Language Game

16:26 - What Have You Learned from First to Second Marriage?

19:59 - Practical Ways You Relate to Your Kids & Grandkids

23:44 - Are There Ways to Protect Yourself from Being Taken Advantage Of?

27:46 - Best Ways to Have a Generational Healing Conversation with Kids

33:48 - The Purpose of the Love Language Game

40:06 - Advice for Men to Be Love in the World

42:43 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

46:27 - Where Can People Find You?

47:14 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Paul 

www.roleoflove.com

Youtube

FB - https://www.facebook.com/roleoflovedice

IG - https://www.instagram.com/roleoflovedice/

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/company/roleoflovedice/

Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@roleoflovedice

Twitter/X - https://twitter.com/roleoflovedice

Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/roleoflovedice/

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“If you’re under a lot of stress, you can really wreck your gut health.” 12:09

“If I can’t find them organic, let’s say we’re traveling, I just buy something else that I can find organic.” 18:39 

“I’m going to, you know, be teaching her from an early age, about health, about how things, how the food becomes us.”56:18

“Health takes time to augment or to change.” 1:01:46

Guest Bio

Christian Yordanov is an author and certified Functional Diagnostic Nutrition practitioner who helps people of all ages restore their health, optimize it, and increase their performance and longevity. His latest book, How to Actually Live Longer, Vol. 1, is the first in his series on slowing the aging process and increasing longevity. He is also author of the book Autism Wellbeing Plan: How to Get Your Child Healthy — a comprehensive resource for parents to understand the most common health problems from which autistic children suffer, and how to address them.

In his clinical work, Christian uses functional lab testing to identify hidden metabolic and health imbalances, and teaches clients how to use diet, supplementation, detoxification, stress reduction, sleep optimisation, and other strategies to address chronic health issues and transform their health.

Christian is a certified Buteyko breathing instructor, Pn1 Nutrition Coach, GrowBaby practitioner, and is also certified in personal training, fitness instruction, and sports and event massage therapy.

He is also host of two podcasts, Connecting Minds and Children’s Health Podcast.

Show Notes 

0:00 - What I Meant to Say Intro

0:09 - Welcome to Christian Yordanov

0:23 - What Does A Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner Do? 

3:09 - Will You Share Your Backstory?

8:39 - Why is the Gut Microbiome Important?

12:42 - Invest in Quality Food & Water

20:55 - A Discussion on Your Client Trends

25:00 - Connecting to Self Discipline for Weight Loss

30:54 - Sleep

39:40 - How To Implement These Tools with Children

45:28 - How to Actually Live Longer Volume One

49:17  - What It’s Like to Work with You?

57:25 - Where Can People Find you?

57:47 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Christian 

http://christianyordanov.com/

Book - How to Actually Live Longer, Vol.1

Book - Autism Wellbeing: How to Get Your Child Healthy 

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“I’m attracting this, like, I am intentionally creating these scenarios in order to relive this childhood trauma because that’s what I know.” 4:07

“Step forward, create your own reality, and leave this stuff in the past.” 4:47

“They dedicate their time and energy to some many other things, other than themselves, without realizing that those other things are not going to exist if they’re not here, if they’re not happy, if they’re not healthy.” 7:02

“When you can access who you are and be the best version of yourself and create your own reality, that is what changes the external world.” 7:57

“Even if you have kids, you still have to put yourself first.” 8:15

“You are lonelier in an unhealthy relationship, then you will ever be on your own.” - Wendy @ 11:20

“How about just be a human and be a decent one!” 13:41

“I can see what they were, and who I don’t want to be, and move on and let that be in peace.” 24:54

“There are certain genetic mutations that through diet alone can actually set off a cascade of emotional responses and outbursts.” 28:36

“What do I actually need versus what do I think I need?” 34:43

“If five years from now, if you are living the same life that you are living right now or it gets worse, are you going to be happy?” 35:33

“The actions that you take today are going to be the future that you move into.” 35:48

“Everyone is on the path to insulin resistance at this point.” 40:23

“The trouble is you think you have time.” 48:54 

Guest Bio

Linn is able to connect with people on a wide range of traumatic events that she herself has overcome, such as: death of family members and a partner, abandonment, neglect, sexuality, growing up with an alcoholic, relationship trauma, homelessness, career challenges, lack of direction, feelings of hopelessness, gender identity, anger and fear, addiction, illness, and near death experiences. Rather these events took place as a child or later in life, Linn has the tools to assist you in moving forward to create a new reality and to live the life you absolutely deserve.

Show Notes 

0:00 - What I Meant to Say Intro

0:09 - Welcome to Linn Rivers

0:43 - Generational Healing through Functional Health & Wellness Education

5:58 - From Your Perspective, What Are We Up Against As A Society?

9:18 - How to Learn the Art of Sitting & Being Alone

12:02 - The Power of Authenticity 

14:26 - Navigating the Ability to Sit with Yourself

18:20 - Anxiously Tracking Our Kids

21:11 - How to Trust Your Intuition & Unlearn Conditioning through Compassion

27:24 - Understanding Genetic Markers & Mutations

33:53 - Practical Tips for Heal Ourselves

36:46 - A Crucial Discussion on Insulin Resistance

40:30 - Healing with Keto Diet & Nutrition

44:12 - Chronic Illness to Vibrant Wellness Online Course

47:25 - Share Your Tattoo Stories with Us

51:22 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Linn 

www.linnrivers.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/linn-rivers-6a21327a/

https://www.youtube.com/linnrivers

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“You really do have to take stock in the relationships you’ve built, but also why you’ve built them.” - Wendy @ 2:32

“Everything you go through is not everybody’s business.” - Wendy @ 6:12

“How else are they going to respect and trust you in other situations, if you don’t follow through?” - Ashley @ 10:59

“Whatever thing they’ve gotten tangled up in, that is not who they are, it’s just something they did.” - Wendy @ 11:37

“It’s how I connect in the moments that are great so that I build that capital for them to trust me when the chips are down.” - Wendy @ 19:40

“The effect and the connection I’m having on these kids is really what freaking matters.” - Ashley @ 29:14

“When you fight, you’re gonna be able to find success more than the other people that don’t know how to fight.” - Ashley @ 41:13

“You have to know when to strive for that perfection, but be okay when you don’t attain it.” - Ashley @ 47:06 

Guest Bio

Ashley currently serves as the Chief Operating Officer, a Producer, and Coach at Be Better Life and Be Better Media. She is a Southern California native and is the oldest of five siblings.  Ashley is a natural leader who leads by creating a safe environment through communication, honesty, compassion, and inclusion.  She played NCAA Division II indoor volleyball at Cal State Dominguez Hills where she earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Liberal Studies, including a concentration in Mathematics.  Later, she obtained a Master’s Degree in Coaching and Athletic Administration from Concordia University Irvine.  Ashley loves the sport of volleyball, but her passion lies in teaching and coaching the life lessons that are gleaned through sport’s participation. 

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcome to What I Meant to Say

0:09 - Let’s Recap Falyn’s Interview

2:11 - Wendy’s Parenting Journey

6:33 - Ashley’s Shame Based Story

11:16 - Balancing Discipline & Acceptance in Parenting

17:40 - Managing Different Child Personalities As a Parent

19:59 - Tools for Managing Kid’s Personalities

25:38 - Lean into Your Strengths

41:21 - Understanding the When & Why Behind the Fight

45:41 - A Discussion on Perfectionism

51:07 - Social Media, Mental Health, & Relationships

1:08:32 - Becoming A Lifelong Learner

1:12:20 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Ashley 

Ashley - @ashley.a.clark.10 & @coachashleyc 

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-clark-143543255/

Facebook 

Twitter/X - @AshleyAnneC10

Tiktok - @ashleyannec10 

Be Better Life

Be Better Media

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tv

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“You can’t teach having a competitive nature.” 1:28

“There’s not one way of doing anything.” 4:16

“Is this about my child or is this about what I think is best or what I think should happen?” 15:20

“Be who you are and give them what they need at that moment.” 19:41

“If you really want to make a difference, you can not fit into the norm.” 22:17

“If you’ve gone through anything traumatic, your trauma stores in your body.” 38:54

Guest Bio

4 year all American at Mira costa high school

Number 1 recruit going into University of Southern California

AVCA freshman of the year

Pac 10 freshman of the year

Regional finals MVP

Played on the Indoor USA national team for 6 years 

Won a gold medal at the Pan American games 2015

Played indoor overseas and won two championships 

Won 2018 Norceca Beach Volleyball tournament in Dominican Republic 

Won 2019 Silver and Bronze Norceca Beach Volleyball tournament 

2019 3rd place finish in AVP Austin, Texas 

Top 10 player on the AVP

Top 20 player in Athletes Unlimited 2022-2023

Show Notes 

0:00 - Welcoming Falyn to What I Meant to Say

0:58 - Lessons Learned through Volleyball

4:57 - How Has Your Coaching Evolved Over the Years?

12:22 - Differences of Coaching Girls & Boys

21:07 - Keeping Your Mind Right in the World We Live In

28:45 - A Discussion on People & Environments

34:00 - People & Relationships with Your Body

41:15 - What’s Next?

48:59 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Falyn 

IG - @falynfonoimoana 

For more inspired edutainment, visit: www.bebettermedia.tv

Key Points & Memorable Quotes 

“I knew somehow that it could be better.” 4:59

“The tools I used to get good at volleyball were not healthy, and they were not sustainable.” 9:01 

“A coach that has the ability to really sit back and evaluate what they’re dealing with and know that there’s more than one way in is a gift.” - Wendy @ 15:06

“Who am I as this coach?  I’m gonna go be that person because that’s where I’m going to be the strongest.” 16:26

“I don’t think our children need coaching from as parents.” 20:22

“Does the coach sort of understand the developmental needs of the child?” 23:27 

“We’ve learned quite a bit watching our kids choose.” 34:07

“We know our values, we can make better decisions, and when we make better decisions, we are more confident in what we’re doing.” 36:00

“When you can build a habit somewhere, you can build it somewhere else.” 36:22

“Facebook shows me who I would be friends with if miles didn’t make any difference.”  -Wendy @ 46:10

Guest Bio

Priscilla Tallman has been involved in high performance sports all her life. As an athlete, Priscilla played at the University of Georgia and earned 1st team All-Conference for all four years, including SEC Freshman of the Year and SEC Player of the Year. She also earned 1st Team All-America honors her junior and senior years at UGA. She went on to play on the USA National team, USA World University Games and professionally in Europe. In 2006, she was inducted into the prestigious Georgia Athletics Circle of Honor for excellence in representing her sport and the University. As a coach, she has coached at every level from high school to NCAA DI. Tallman is a Mental Performance Coach and Consultant to collegiate and professional athletes; helping them navigate and overcome performance blocks on the court as well as facilitating important breakthroughs off the court due to the challenges they face performing at an elite level. She has an undergraduate degree in Psychology from The University of Georgia and a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Vanguard University. She has authored two mental performance and wellness resources for athletes and sports teams: “30 Day Champions” Journal, and "30 Day Return to Play" Journal. "30 Day Champions" was studied and researched by graduate students from The College of Health Solutions at Arizona State University in Spring, 2022 and has been used by over 1,500 athletes, coaches and parents. Tallman lives in the Phoenix area and is married and has two children.

Show Notes 

0:00 - Coming Up on ‘What I Meant to Say’

0:20 - Welcome to Priscilla Tallman

1:11 - Sports Background & Texas Volleyball

4:08 - What Are You Up to Now?

7:21 - Working with Athletes Today

9:08 - Identifying Unhealthy Tools & Healing Through Coaching

17:24 - A Discussion on Vicarious Coaching & Parenting

22:37 - Learning How to Trust A Coach As A Parent

26:49 - Reflecting on Club Volleyball & How It’s Changed

32:49 - Homeschooling is Practical for Us

34:34 - 30 Day Champion’s Journal

39:30 - Life of the Aging Athlete

44:30 - One Piece of Advice to Your Younger Self

46:22 - Thank You & Closing

Links & Where to Find Priscilla 

Website: spikedr.com

IG - @spikedr3