Breaking Up With The Bare Minimum

Twice a year I like to give this audience a peek behind the Patreon curtain. This episode is a preview of an hour-long solo episode that was very popular among my Patreon listeners, and it's one of my personal favorites as well. If you are single and struggling to find dignity in it, both within yourself and within a couple-centric society, I hope you enjoy, and I hope you'll consider joining us on Patreon, where your $5/month membership gives you access to new episodes EVERY MONDAY, as well as access to the private, Patrons-only Facebook group for this podcast. You will also have access to the full, four-year archive of Patreon episodes, as a reminder this podcast stopped publishing to free-access platforms in January of 2021, but I haven't slowed down a bit. ;)   

Link to join my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver

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A Single Serving Podcast publishes ONLY on Patreon every Monday morning, but once a year I like to gift subscribers who have found me throughout the year with one Patreon-only episode as a way to show you what you can expect from the podcast. I hope you enjoy one of my absolute favorite 2022 episodes, The Vilification Of Single Women. This episode does not hold back, it does not mince words, and it is DONE with the BS narrative that single women are a threat to married women's relationships. NOPE! We are done being vilified, and we are done moving through the world on eggshells so that we don't upset a married. It's an intense one and you know what—it should be. Because single people are not villains, and partnered people are not superior. Period. 

Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver

Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzj

Shani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Shani on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanisilver
Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilver

Book link is affiliate link. 

This is a mid-year reminder that A Single Serving Podcast publishes EVERY MONDAY MORNING on Patreon and only on Patreon. Your $5 per month membership gets you every single podcast episode AND access to the podcast's private Facebook Group. If you're looking for more content and community that treats singlehood with the respect and validity it deserves, as opposed to more and more baseless, future-predicting dating advice, join us.

Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver

Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzj

Shani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Shani on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanisilver
Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilver

Book link is affiliate link. 

Popping into the public forum today for a super-quick podcast episode and to remind you, especially those of you who are new followers from TikTok (hi!) that this podcast publishes NEW EPISODES EVERY WEEK ON PATREON and only on Patreon! If you're looking for help shedding the shame-filled singlehood narratives we've all been fed our entire lives, my podcast and its community can help. New episodes publish every Monday morning, and your $5/month Patreon membership comes with access to the only Facebook community that I manage. Check out more details via the link below!

Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver

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Shani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilver

Book link is affiliate link. 

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A Single Serving Podcast is now exclusively on Patreon! As of January 2022, new episodes will publish every Monday morning only on Shani Silver's Patreon at the $5 per month tier. This tier also comes with access to the Patrons-only Facebook group for this podcast. You are welcome to listen to the back catalog on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, etc, and if you'd like new episodes I hope you'll join our Patreon community where we're reframing the negative, lack-filled narratives of singlehood and replacing them with new ways of thinking about and experiencing single life that feel MUCH BETTER. See you there! 

https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver

Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzj

Shani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilver

Book link is affiliate link. 

What is a "bare minimum" mindset, and how is it harmful to singles? This solo episode explores a deep dive into where the bare minimum comes from, how to move past it, and why we're so vulnerable to it. You'll also hear advice on how to reframe your comparison thoughts around the holiday season.

ANNOUNCEMENT: This is the last episode of A Single Serving Podcast that will publish for free on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc. From now on, listen to a new episode of A Single Serving Podcast every Monday morning over on Patreon!

https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver

Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzj

Shani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilver

Podcast P.O. Box

3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115

Transcript of podcast via Otter

Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readers

This one's different, friends! This month's public episode of A Single Serving podcast is actually not for my audience, it's for friends and family members who know and love a member of my audience. This episode is designed to be shared with someone you love to help them reframe singlehood for themselves in the same way that we've reframed it for ourselves, so that maybe this year at the holidays no one asks us "how are you still single?" Hey, we can try! If you're someone who loves a single person, listen to this episode if you'd like to be kinder to and more respectful of them moving forward. This episode is presented with love and in the hopes that we all have a very happy holiday season together. 

This podcast publishes publicly and for free once a month. If you'd like to hear a new episode of this podcast every week, join my Patreon! Your membership also comes with access to the private, Patrons-only Facebook group, and instant access to EVERY episode I've ever published.  Join here!

“Single People Shouldn’t Have Costco Memberships”
https://shanisilver.medium.com/single-people-shouldnt-have-costco-memberships-d9f046f7b9e2

Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzj

Shani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilver

Podcast P.O. Box

3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115

Transcript of podcast via Otter

Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readers

In this solo episode, your host Shani Silver becomes a PUBLISHED AUTHOR! This bonus episode is being released in celebration of A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match—light one. The book publishes TODAY and is available via the link below. This episode features a deep dive into "waiting" or the mindset singles can often have regarding our lives not being "real" until we have a partner. After that, you'll hear a FULL READING of the book's Introduction!

As always, if you'd like to hear a new episode of this podcast every week, join my Patreon!

Buy Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One.

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Podcast P.O. Box

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Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readers

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Tonya Carter is a Relationship Transformation Coach joining the podcast to discuss life post-divorce and post-relationship. We explore authenticity, moving through our stories as opposed to becoming stuck inside them, and how transactional ideas of love aren't serving us in singlehood or in relationships. This episode also begins with a listener-inspired deep dive into "you're too picky," both how to respond to it and how to process and reframe it in our own minds. I loved this conversation with Tonya and I can't wait to have her back as a guest again.

Tonya Carter's Website
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Order Tonya's book, Divorce Your Story

My first book, A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one. publishes 10/26/21.

Join my Patreon for access to a FULL READING of the book's introduction in an episode published September 6th, 2021 titled Shani's (Extremely) Special Announcement. You'll also have access to every podcast episode I've ever published, NEW episodes of this podcast every week, and access to the private Facebook group for Patrons only. 

Shani's website
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Podcast P.O. Box

3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115

Podcast hosted on Buzzsprout
Transcript of podcast via Otter

Bonus Episode!! In this very special episode recorded while evacuated from an actual hurricane, I am thrilled to share the news that I've been keeping to myself for months now.

I WROTE A BOOK!

A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one.

Publishing THIS OCTOBER, A Single Revolution is all the support I've ever wanted to give the single community. It challenges every negative, false narrative about singlehood and replaces them with a complete reframing of how we're allowed and able to view and experience being single. It is not a book about dating. It is a book about living.

Visit shanisilver.com to join my email list and be first to know when it goes on sale!

Join my Patreon for access to a FULL READING of the book's introduction in an episode published September 6th, 2021 titled Shani's (Extremely) Special Announcement. You'll also have access to every podcast episode I've ever published, new episodes of the podcast every week, and access to the private Facebook group for Patrons only. For $5 per month, that's a steal. 

Single women deserve a book that doesn’t assume we’re a negative. A Single Revolution doesn’t assume you’re unfinished, flawed, or doing something wrong in the dating space just because you’re single. If it makes any assumption, the book assumes you’re going to feel a LOT better by the time you’re done reading it.

Shani's website
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Podcast logo by Johanna Pendley
Podcast hosted on Buzzsprout
Transcript of podcast via Otter