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    Brené with James Clear on Atomic Habits, Part 2 of 2

    enJanuary 19, 2022

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    • Small changes, big impact: Building atomic habitsAtomic habits compound over time and can significantly impact our lives. Building organizational habits and courageous systems aids in making brave decisions.

      Habits are powerful and building them is a lifelong process. James Clear, the author of "Atomic Habits," emphasizes that small changes over time can lead to significant results. He believes that habits are atomic, meaning they compound over time and can either positively or negatively impact our lives. Clear also highlights the importance of building organizational habits and courageous systems to make brave decisions. Rituals, such as funerals, can make difficult choices easier by providing a clear system to follow. Ultimately, the systems we have in place shape our behavior and determine whether we rise or fall to the level of our aspirations.

    • Focusing on systems over goalsEmphasizing the importance of consistent habits and identity over specific goals can lead to greater success. Make habits obvious, attractive, and easy to do for long-term success.

      Focusing on systems rather than specific goals can lead to greater success and consistency in achieving desired outcomes. The speaker shared their personal experience of setting specific goals, such as a bench press number, only to realize that the identity they wanted to embody, in this case, being a strong and active person, was more important than the specific goal itself. They also discussed the importance of respecting consistency and valuing the process, rather than just focusing on the results. The speaker suggested that making the cues of habits obvious, making the habits attractive, and making them easy to do are key strategies for building good habits. They also noted that society often undervalues the process and overvalues the results, which can lead to an unhealthy focus on outcomes rather than the daily actions that lead to those outcomes.

    • Making habits obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfyingApply principles of making habits obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying to build good habits or break bad ones. Design environment, reduce steps, and add rewards to make habits simple and effortless. Conversely, hide cues, make habits less appealing, add friction, and add costs to break bad habits.

      Building good habits or breaking bad ones involves making certain behaviors more obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying, or invisible, unattractive, difficult, and unsatisfying, according to the principles outlined in the book "Atomic Habits." This approach, which is inspired by the work of psychologists like B.F. Skinner, aims to leverage the power of cues, cravings, responses, and rewards to shape behavior. For instance, making a habit obvious can be achieved through environment design, which involves shaping the spaces where we live and work to make good habits more visible and easy to perform. Similarly, making a habit easy can be achieved by reducing the number of steps required to perform it or by making it more convenient. The more simple and effortless a habit is, the more likely it is to be performed consistently. Conversely, to break a bad habit, one can make it less obvious, less attractive, more difficult, and less satisfying. For example, one can hide the cues that trigger the bad habit, make it less appealing, add steps or friction to performing it, or add costs or consequences to the behavior. By understanding these principles and applying them effectively, we can build good habits and break bad ones more effectively.

    • Designing spaces for good habitsRedesigning spaces can make good habits obvious and convenient, leading to easier habit formation. For instance, keeping beer visible encourages drinking, while hiding it reduces consumption. Similarly, having phone in another room promotes focus, while keeping it nearby causes distractions. Setting up a home workout space encourages regular exercise.

      The design of our physical environment can significantly impact our behaviors and habits. The speaker shared personal experiences of how keeping beer in the fridge in a visible location led him to drink it regularly, while keeping it hidden made him forget about it. Similarly, keeping his phone in another room helped him focus, but having it nearby led to constant distractions. Changing the arrangement of chairs in the living room encouraged deeper family conversations. By designing spaces to make good habits obvious and convenient, we can more easily slide into those habits and actions. For example, setting up a home workout space encourages regular strength training. Studies show that it's easier to build new habits in a new environment than to try to change old ones. So, consider redesigning your spaces to encourage the behaviors and habits you want to reinforce.

    • Creating a commitment device to establish a habitMaking a commitment, like telling a friend about a workout or setting up automatic savings, makes it easier to start and maintain a habit. Focus on consistently showing up before trying to optimize or scale it up.

      Creating a specific space or context for a habit can make it easier to establish and maintain. This concept is known as a commitment device. By making a commitment, such as telling a friend you'll meet them for a run or setting up automatic withdrawals for savings, you make it more attractive to follow through with the habit and less appealing to give in to distractions or excuses. The easiest way to implement this strategy is to focus on consistently showing up and establishing the habit as a standard part of your life before trying to optimize or scale it up. For example, Mitch, mentioned in Atomic Habits, lost over a decade of weight by committing to going to the gym for just 5 minutes at a time. This small commitment helped him establish the habit of showing up, which he could then build upon.

    • Starting small with 2-minute habitsThe 2-minute rule helps build consistency and progress by focusing on small habits, overcoming the 'hardest part' of getting started, and encouraging self-awareness and positive feedback.

      Establishing small habits is key to building consistency and making progress towards larger goals. The 2-minute rule, which involves scaling down habits to 2 minutes or less, can help overcome the "hardest part," which is getting started and mastering the art of showing up. This strategy encourages getting out of a perfectionist mindset and focusing on building evidence of being the type of person you wish to be, even if it starts in a small way. Self-awareness is crucial in the process of behavior change, and it's important to recognize that changing behavior is something that humans naturally do. By focusing on small habits, we can build momentum and progress, which can then be poured into the next iteration. Ultimately, the 2-minute rule is about opening the front door to new habits and encouraging the positive feedback loop of progress.

    • Understanding motivations and behaviors for changeSelf-awareness and satisfying experiences are crucial for making lasting changes. Focus on your identity and purpose for internal motivation.

      Self-awareness and creating satisfying experiences are key to making changes and developing new habits. Self-awareness helps us understand our motivations and behaviors, allowing us to take control of our actions. Satisfying experiences, whether through external rewards or internal meaning, provide the motivation to repeat behaviors and make them stick. Short-term rewards can be effective in getting us started, but long-term success requires a deeper sense of identity and purpose. By focusing on who we want to become and the type of identity we want to build, we can find the internal motivation to persevere through the discomfort and uncertainty of change. Ultimately, the goal is to reach a point where the act of changing becomes rewarding in and of itself, reinforcing the identity we've worked to build.

    • Start small for effective habit buildingBegin with a small, manageable habit and gradually build capacity to maintain consistency in habit building

      Effective habit building requires starting small and focusing on consistency. The difficulty of the habit selected early on significantly influences the amount of activation energy needed to get started. Choosing a habit that is too large can be a major obstacle, making it difficult to maintain consistency when motivation and energy are low. Instead, start with a small, manageable habit and gradually build capacity before increasing intensity. It's important to remember that motion, such as planning and researching, is not inherently bad, but excessive motion can become a form of procrastination. Action, or the behavior that delivers the desired result, is essential for progress.

    • The Power of Atomic Habits: Small Actions, Big ImpactSmall habits, when consistently practiced, can lead to significant personal and organizational growth. Focus on creating good habits and breaking bad ones to boost productivity, collaboration, and innovation.

      While planning and preparation are important for any endeavor, including entrepreneurship, it's essential not to let them become a form of procrastination. Atomic habits, or small and easy-to-do routines, can create a significant impact when layered on top of each other, leading to powerful outcomes. In organizations, the focus is often on breaking habits that hinder productivity and growth, such as procrastination, lack of focus, and poor communication. Simultaneously, creating habits that foster collaboration, innovation, and continuous learning can lead to remarkable results. The power of atomic habits lies in their small yet mighty nature, making them accessible and effective tools for personal and organizational transformation.

    • Focus on a few priorities, clarify them, and do them exceptionally wellEffective leadership involves narrowing focus, clarifying priorities, and striving for exceptional quality in fewer tasks to increase impact and efficiency. Vulnerability and embracing imperfection are also crucial for authenticity and flexibility.

      Effective leadership involves focusing on a few priorities, increasing quality, and accelerating speed. Instead of trying to change the behaviors of others, leaders should narrow their organization's focus, clarify priorities, and do fewer things to an exceptional degree. This approach can lead to greater impact and efficiency. Additionally, vulnerability, or the acceptance of imperfection, is essential for being open and flexible. It allows us to embrace the messiness of life and be authentic, rather than trying to maintain a rigid and inflexible image. Finally, it's important to remember that those who write about habits and personal growth are not immune to struggles and imperfections themselves.

    • Embrace challenges and learn from experiencesBe open to new experiences, learn from mistakes, and work as a team to achieve exceptional results.

      Being open to trying new things and learning from experiences, even if they are challenging, is an essential aspect of personal and professional growth. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being willing to experiment and pay attention to what works, as this can help reveal strengths and lead to exceptional results. They also stress the importance of being a good teammate as a leader and being willing to do what you ask of your team. The speaker's advice encourages a mindset of resilience and a willingness to put in the effort to achieve exceptional outcomes.

    • Maintaining balance, trust, and meaningful connections in leadershipEffective leaders balance delegation, trust, expertise, and high-quality experiences to build strong teams.

      Effective leadership involves maintaining a balance between asking your team to do things you believe in and trusting their competence, as well as delegating tasks and giving yourself enough time to focus on important projects. Leaders who exhibit expertise, symmetry, and good teamwork are more likely to gain their team's trust. A common challenge for leaders is learning to delegate and trust their team, while also recognizing the importance of in-person connections and high-quality experiences, like hosting author retreats, which can bring great joy and meaning to both the leader and their team. Ohio State football is an exciting example of a high-connection experience for one interviewee. When asked about their five essential songs, the interviewee's selection reflected their personality as an "Ohio boy" who enjoys a good party. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of balance, competence, and meaningful connections in effective leadership.

    • Exploring New Projects and Building HabitsRenee emphasized the importance of creating systems to build habits and take action on new projects, while acknowledging the challenge of taking on too much. She discussed the concept of motion versus action and planning as procrastination, encouraging listeners to join her for a virtual event and explore her website for more resources.

      The speaker, Renee, values her home in Ohio but is also excited about new projects, including a second book deal, newsletter, and potential podcast. She acknowledged the challenge of taking on too much and the importance of creating systems to spur action. The concept of motion versus action, planning as procrastination, and the power of habits were discussed. Renee encouraged listeners to join her for a virtual event on Atlas of the Heart and invited them to explore her website for more resources. The importance of creating systems and implementing them to build habits and take action was emphasized. The speaker, James, and Renee had an engaging conversation, and listeners were encouraged to stay tuned for future episodes of the Dare to Lead podcast.

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    I listen at our bus stops how children speak to one another. How a child interacts with their sibling.

    I don't understand why these children speak the way they do. We're talking pre-school, kindergarten, first and second graders. And when they get older, it only gets worse.

    And how about a high school girl talking about her sister. And not in a playful, teasing manner; but in a degrading and gut-punching conversation.

    How is this serving the family? How is this serving the child as they grow up?

    Where has respect gone? Does anything go?

    How can you gain respect back in your family?

    The K.I.S.S. ~ Show respect in your family!

    1. Use your manners.
    2. Set boundaries.
    3. Model the "golden rule".

    Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. (Reference Matthew 7:12 and Luke 6:31)

    "What you practice is how you perform."

    We all have a responsibility.

    What you do daily is how you live, which is your life. Little things add up.

    If you had a confession camera following you, what would it reveal?

    "What you practice is how you perform!"

     

    TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation  - This is a complimentary coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward.

    Live. Love. IMPACT!  

    "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

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    Wanting help with goals, setting your schedule, or need someone to talk to (even if you don't know what you need)? It's time you TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation. This is FREE for you. Stop trying to do it by yourself. Put YOU first! Become your best selfie so you can live your life's purpose.

     

    ANNOUNCEMENT: Ready to shine your light and tell your story. Please click on MY STRENGTH IS MY STORY. Here you can submit yourself to appear on the podcast or make recommendations as who you would like to hear. This is going to be a beautiful series!

     

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    Read more from Kristianne, a contributor to The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Thrive Global, Addicted2Succes, and She Owns It.

    https://addicted2success.com/success-advice/5-things-to-do-while-waiting-for-success-to-manifest-in-your-life/

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristianne-wargo/

    http://bit.ly/9amHabits

    https://journal.thriveglobal.com/how-to-configure-a-sleep-pattern-fit-for-you-d8edd3387eaf#.sniv275c3

    sheownsit.com/when-failure-is-your-middle-name/

     

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    2. Create Your Now ~ Your Best Selfie can be heard on iHeart Radio

    3. Create Your Now Archive 1 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1

    4. Create Your Now Archive 2 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2

    5. Create Your Now Archive 3 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3

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    Cover Art by Jenny Hamson

    966 One More Try

    966 One More Try

    Giving up because you have nothing more to give is the quickest way to the destruction of your marriage. It's worth one more try!

    The one more try many mean you are taking the initiative to make a change yourself.

    Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACThttp://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

    No pointing fingers. 

    Marriage is a two-way street, but it takes ONE to give it a chance to grow, to change, to reignite.

    You might be the spark your marriage needs.

    One more try!

    You have to be willing to take quitting out of the equation. Because when you quit, you've given up.

    In my marriage, I could have been the one to throw in the towel. The easy way out would have been when my husband told me he had fallen out of love.

    But me reflecting on what I needed to change, gave us the opportunity for reconciliation. It gave room for God to do His work.

    Yes, it took my husband too in order to give it one more try. I couldn't force. But I needed to make room.

    So whether you are looking at one moment or a lifetime of moments, you must lead with the attitude of one more try!

    The K.I.S.S. ~ Lead with the attitude of "One more try!".

    1. ACCEPT your own wrong-doings.
      • None of us are perfect. We all fall short. Accept you were wrong. Own up to it.
    2. BE the change.
      • Do what you need to do to be the best wife; the best husband.
    3. EXTEND a second chance.
      • Now you might be yelling ... "I've given him 1, 2, 3, 200 second chances. It's not about him making the changes; It's about the changes and chances YOU make!

    Is your marriage worth it?
    Is your family worth it?
    Are you worth it?

    YES!!!!

    "One more try! An opportunity for God to do His greatest works."

     

    TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation  - This is a complimentary coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward.

    Live. Love. IMPACT!  

    "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

    Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

    Wanting help with goals, setting your schedule, or need someone to talk to (even if you don't know what you need)? It's time you TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation. This is FREE for you. Stop trying to do it by yourself. Put YOU first! Become your best selfie so you can live your life's purpose.

     

    ANNOUNCEMENT: Ready to shine your light and tell your story. Please click on MY STRENGTH IS MY STORY. Here you can submit yourself to appear on the podcast or make recommendations as who you would like to hear. This is going to be a beautiful series!

     

    Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

    Listen to Create Your Now on iHeart Radio. Click here.

    The Create Your Now Archives are LIVE!! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here.  http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3

     

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    Twitter
    @KristianneWargo
    @CreateYourNow

    Facebook
    www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach
    www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow

    Contact me at YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com

    Read more from Kristianne, a contributor to The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Thrive Global, Addicted2Succes, and She Owns It.

    https://addicted2success.com/success-advice/5-things-to-do-while-waiting-for-success-to-manifest-in-your-life/

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristianne-wargo/

    http://bit.ly/9amHabits

    https://journal.thriveglobal.com/how-to-configure-a-sleep-pattern-fit-for-you-d8edd3387eaf#.sniv275c3

    sheownsit.com/when-failure-is-your-middle-name/

     

    DOMESTIC BEAUTIES (Announcements)

    1. Come and let's connect on Facebook - Women Of IMPACT  http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

    2. Create Your Now ~ Your Best Selfie can be heard on iHeart Radio

    3. Create Your Now Archive 1 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1

    4. Create Your Now Archive 2 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2

    5. Create Your Now Archive 3 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3

    6. NEW Website! Go check it out and tell me what you think. http://www.createyournow.com

    7. Sign Up for The A.I.M. Academy! You will be the first to learn all about it. http://createyournow.com/m-academy-2

    8. Schedule a Discovery Call. This is a free 30-45 minute call for those serious about coaching with me.

    9. Newsletter and Library: If you desire to get weekly emails,be sure to sign up here so you can stay connected. http://createyournow.com/library

     

    Music by Mandisa - Overcomer

    http://www.mandisaofficial.com

     

    Cover Art by Jenny Hamson

    960 The Voice of Truth

    960 The Voice of Truth

    In your life, where does the voice of truth come from? Whose whispers gain your greatest attention?

    Maybe it's the constant failures and short-comings.

    Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACThttp://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

    Maybe it's the faults of your past. 

    Maybe it's your own belief that you're never good enough.

    Why is it that we hang out with our stumbles and failures questioning our worth?

    Never once did God hesitate when He created you; fearfully and wonderfully made, knowing every hair on your head.

    Yet where is the voice of truth?

    Is it the naysayers, the badgers, the mockers? Is that where your voice of truth is being solidified and defined?

    I want you to really think about whom you are putting your trust in.

    The K.I.S.S. ~ The Voice of Truth!

    REFLECTION: Today, I want you to reflect on these three questions.

    1. Where is the voice of truth coming from?
    2. What is the voice of truth telling you?
    3. How are you using the voice of truth in your life?

    If you are hearing God, the only voice of truth, then you know you are loved, given a gift of salvation, and grace for your life's journey.

    That's the voice of truth you need to be listening to.

    Not the negative CRAP, the doubts and drama of others, and not the daily sagas of self-centered mindsets. 

    It's all about control, earthly control. What happened to Heavenly control?

    Let God wash away the torment of lies that threaten your greatness He's creating within you.

    Let it go! Let God have it all!

    Give Him your heart.
    Dedicate your life to glorify Him.
    Rejoice with the voice of truth.

    As you go out this week...

    "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

    May God bless you this week in all your steps, in all your endeavors. Seek His guidance. Praise His name. The voice of truth!

     

    TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation  - This is a complimentary coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward.

    Live. Love. IMPACT!  

    "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

    Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

    Wanting help with goals, setting your schedule, or need someone to talk to (even if you don't know what you need)? It's time you TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation. This is FREE for you. Stop trying to do it by yourself. Put YOU first! Become your best selfie so you can live your life's purpose.

     

    ANNOUNCEMENT: Ready to shine your light and tell your story. Please click on MY STRENGTH IS MY STORY. Here you can submit yourself to appear on the podcast or make recommendations as who you would like to hear. This is going to be a beautiful series!

     

    Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

    Listen to Create Your Now on iHeart Radio. Click here.

    The Create Your Now Archives are LIVE!! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here.  http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3

     

    PERISCOPE USERS!!!

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    THE NO FUSS MEAL PLAN

    Twitter
    @KristianneWargo
    @CreateYourNow

    Facebook
    www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach
    www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow

    Contact me at YourBestSelfie@CreateYourNow.com

    Read more from Kristianne, a contributor to The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Thrive Global, Addicted2Succes, and She Owns It.

    https://addicted2success.com/success-advice/5-things-to-do-while-waiting-for-success-to-manifest-in-your-life/

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristianne-wargo/

    http://bit.ly/9amHabits

    https://journal.thriveglobal.com/how-to-configure-a-sleep-pattern-fit-for-you-d8edd3387eaf#.sniv275c3

    sheownsit.com/when-failure-is-your-middle-name/

     

    DOMESTIC BEAUTIES (Announcements)

    1. Come and let's connect on Facebook - Women Of IMPACT  http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

    2. Create Your Now ~ Your Best Selfie can be heard on iHeart Radio

    3. Create Your Now Archive 1 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1

    4. Create Your Now Archive 2 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2

    5. Create Your Now Archive 3 is LIVE! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3

    6. NEW Website! Go check it out and tell me what you think. http://www.createyournow.com

    7. Sign Up for The A.I.M. Academy! You will be the first to learn all about it. http://createyournow.com/m-academy-2

    8. Schedule a Discovery Call. This is a free 30-45 minute call for those serious about coaching with me.

    9. Newsletter and Library: If you desire to get weekly emails,be sure to sign up here so you can stay connected. http://createyournow.com/library

     

    Music by Mandisa - Overcomer

    http://www.mandisaofficial.com

     

    Cover Art by Jenny Hamson