Calabo - Session #7 PPC

Have you ever stood at a crossroads in life, wondering how to forge a path to genuine self-acceptance and leadership? Join us as our guest Matt Ohley shares his remarkable journey through solitude and introspection, unraveling the complexities of emotional growth and the pursuit of an authentic self. Our conversation is an intimate exploration of personal shame and the silent echoes of childhood emotional neglect, guiding listeners through the nuanced process of healing and finding one's purpose.

We step into the realm of leadership, where the delicate balance between assertiveness and empathy takes center stage. Matt's stories from the construction industry breathe life into the idea of compassionate leadership, offering a fresh perspective on the impact of nurturing mutual respect within team dynamics. The episode is a testament to the power of relationship-building and the transformative effects of embracing both the strength and gentleness inherent in us all.

Rounding out our heart-to-heart, we delve into the essential role of accountability and service in leadership. The narrative weaves together personal anecdotes and profound insights, emphasizing the responsibility leaders have to themselves and their teams. It's a call to action for all who lead: to serve by being our best selves, to guide with love and light, and to enrich our lives through unwavering support and continuous personal development. So, for those seeking to leave an indelible mark of positivity and growth, both personally and professionally, let this episode be your catalyst.

Connect with Matt Ohley at:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-ohley-a89769107/
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00:00 Introduction and Recap of Part One
01:05 Listener Shoutout and Personal Reflections
02:11 Deep Dive into Matt's Period of Solitude
02:22 Unpacking Shame and Self-Worth
03:19 The Impact of Emotional Neglect
04:39 The Struggle of Identity and Persona
05:40 Filling the Void: Personal Growth and Contribution
06:33 The Power of Empathy and Understanding in Relationships
07:52 The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Accountability
09:11 Balancing Assertiveness and Empathy in Leadership
14:48 Navigating Empathy and Compassion in the Construction Industry
16:10 Balancing Leadership and Compassion
17:25 The Importance of Accountability
20:20 Finding Purpose in Service
20:47 The Journey of Self-Improvement
24:36 The Power of Connection and Community
27:55 The Role of Vulnerability in Growth
28:21 Improving the Construction Industry

Want to hear my open and raw conversation with Matt Oley, discussing our paths in the construction industry, navigating mental wellness, and the importance of mindfulness and meditation. We share our experiences and struggles with addiction, and how our paths have led them to a life of fulfillment. The conversation turns practical as we provide insights about how to embark on meditation for the first time, focusing on breath control. We also look into the impact of these changes on personal and social life. Matt highlights the importance of self-discovery in solitude, leading to transformative insights about oneself. This dialogue seeks to foster deeper understanding around mental wellness, mindfulness, and personal transformation within the construction industry and beyond.

Connect with Matt Ohley at:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-ohley-a89769107/
Support Matt in his efforts to bring Mental Wellness to Construction:
https://supporting.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=donorDrive.participant&participantID=3008122

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00:00 Introduction and Personal Stories
00:30 The Importance of Mental Wellness in the Construction Industry
01:19 The Power of Meditation
02:14 Shoutout to LnM Family Member, Brian Buckingham
03:20 Interview with Matt Oley
05:04 Matt's Journey and Struggles
06:29 Overcoming Personal Challenges
07:45 The Persona and the Reality
09:39 The Power of Vulnerability
12:42 The Impact of Relationship Issues
14:21 The Power of Now: A Life-Changing Book
14:34 Discovering the Power of Mindfulness
15:44 The Journey to Sobriety
16:15 The Power of Books and Rehab
18:14 The Art of Meditation
18:47 Practical Steps to Start Meditating
20:25 The Impact of Meditation on Personal Transformation
21:47 The Challenges of Transformation
22:16 The Power of Solitude and Self-Discovery
25:08 The Journey Continues
25:40 Reflections and Conclusions

Navigating life's ups and downs with grace and poise is a skill that many aspire to, but few have mastered like our guest, Dr. G. In our heartfelt conversation, she delves into the art of maintaining credibility as an emerging leader, emphasizing the significance of a positive mindset. Through candid stories, Dr. G reveals how reframing challenges into opportunities for growth has not just shaped her journey, but also empowered others. She shares the transformative effect of 'stinking thinking' and how stepping beyond it can lead to inspiring those around us. As you listen, you'll find that it's not only about overcoming adversity but about using those experiences to light the way for fellow leaders.

Building a supportive tribe is at the heart of personal and professional growth, and in this episode, Dr. G talks about the value of vulnerability in creating these connections. She walks us through selecting mentors and peers who not only aspire to greatness but also share their struggles, creating deeper bonds and invaluable learning experiences. We tackle the importance of having a personal mantra for success, with Dr. G introducing the concept of 'SOAR' and how it has guided her, especially while balancing leadership roles with personal responsibilities, such as parenting a child with special needs. Embark on this journey with us and discover the strength found in embracing and sharing our own narratives.

Wellness goes beyond diet and exercise; it encompasses self-care and the relationships we nurture. Our conversation with Dr. G takes a turn towards the discipline of sleep, nutrition, and the profound impact of meaningful connections. She opens up about how a background in bodybuilding has shaped her approach to a balanced lifestyle and the importance of self-awareness in reaching one's full potential. Wrapping up the episode, Dr. G shares the touchstone moments from her book that have offered hope and inspiration, particularly to those on the path to sobriety. Tune in for a mix of wisdom and warmth, and remember to extend that kindness to your own journey.

Connect with Dr G at:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-giovanna-brasfield-0a90a78/

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01:44 Maintaining Credibility as a Leader
02:07 Overcoming Adversity and Staying Positive
07:15 The Power of Mentorship and Coaching
09:26 The Role of a Tribe in Personal and Professional Growth
10:42 The Importance of Vulnerability and Sharing Personal Stories
13:22 Embracing and Supporting Differences
17:22 The Lion's Way: Protecting the Herd
17:41 Fatherhood Regrets and Opportunities
18:00 The Path Forward: Building Relationships
18:28 Writing a Book: Behind My Smile
19:31 Finding Your Calling: The Recipe
21:06 Reflection and Introspection: A Daily Habit
22:28 The Importance of Sleep: A Personal Perspective
23:58 The Promise: Removing Barriers for the Overlooked
25:10 The Power of Friendship: A Candid Conversation
26:56 Becoming the Promise: A Journey of Hope
28:09 Closing Thoughts: Be Kind, Be Cool

Let talk about  leaders in the construction industry who profess to be 'training their replacements', Are leaders providing  meaningful training  that involves understanding and imparting core competencies and transferable skills, rather than simply assigning tasks or leaving individuals to learn on their own.

 What is your approach to developing your direct reports.

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00:00 Introduction
00:00 The Myth of Training Replacements in the Construction Industry
00:23 The Reality of Training Practices
00:32 The Importance of Core Competencies and Transferable Skills
00:58 Conclusion: Are You Really Training Your Replacement?
01:18 Sign Off

Join us as the trailblazing Dr. Giovanna Brosfield, celebrated as the 2024 Inspirational Woman and a Leader of Influence, unpacks the complexities of DEIB with the wisdom only a true expert in the field can deliver. She's not just here to lecture; Dr. G lets us in on the personal growth that has shaped her into an influential powerhouse, equipping you with practices to enrich your own journey towards success. As we navigate the realms of personal development, leadership hurdles, and the myth of work-from-home ease, we uncover the personal stories intertwining within the tapestry of professional excellence.

This episode is a masterclass on the sustainability of DEIB in the corporate world, where Dr. G and I dissect what it really takes to keep these critical programs thriving. The candid, behind-the-scenes conversations that determine an organization’s true commitment to diversity and inclusion take center stage, as we discuss the necessity of confronting resistance to spark substantial change. From the 'bobbleheads' of corporate meetings to the art of crafting tailor-made strategies, this chapter is a goldmine for anyone serious about creating lasting impact in their work environment.

What does it really take to advise small businesses, maintain brand credibility, and stay true to your ethics? You'll get an earful of that and more as I recount stories laced with humor and hard-earned wisdom, offering a behind-the-scenes peek into the trials and triumphs of entrepreneurship. We cap off with an uplifting note on overcoming addiction, a challenge I've faced personally, sharing how vulnerability can transform into a beacon of hope for others. Tune in and find out how these experiences have been turned into powerful fuel for growth, both personally and professionally.

Connect with Dr G at:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-giovanna-brasfield-0a90a78/

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 Lets talk about the importance of 'cosigning', or supporting and encouraging, individuals who positively impact their communities. My barber, Isaiah demonstrated exemplary patience and leadership in mentoring a young barber and I knew immediately that I am committed to supporting him.  We all have influence and can 'cosign' people by expressing and showing support for their actions, ultimately endorsing their impact in our communities. So find some folks to  support and believe in.

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00:00 Introduction: The Concept of Cosigning
00:17 The Responsibility of Cosigning
00:37 Personal Story: Cosigning for My Barber, Isaiah
01:32 The Impact of Cosigning
01:58 Conclusion: Who Are You Cosigning?

Lets talk about what collaboration looks like!  Ihe Decentralized Conference will continue breaking the mold this February. The idea comes from many frustrations—speakers' laborious submission processes and attendees' missed opportunities. But what unfolded was a transformative dialogue with industry thinkers, challenging the status quo of professional gatherings. Their 'what if' wonders and 'what else' propositions morphed my solid plans into a living, evolving entity, setting the stage for  community experience of shared ownership and creativity.

This solo-cast is a transformation, from solo frustration to collective innovation. You'll discover how saying 'yes' sparked a cascade of ideas, turning my vision of an entrepreneurial mindset in construction into a robust forum for engagement. My fellow collaborators, esteemed peers within the industry, didn't just contribute—they reinvented the wheel alongside me. Tune in for a narrative that celebrates the potent alchemy of open minds and the synergy that emerges when we dare to ask, "What else can we achieve together?

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Do you think conflict develops growth, understanding, clarity, and momentum? Avoiding conflicts can turn them into resentment, which breeds frustration and a victim mentality. I suggest addressing conflicts directly, because addressing conflict directly has resulted in resolution and clarity on what the next rightest step should be.

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00:11 The Wisdom of Jordan Peterson

00:26 Personal Experiences with Avoiding Conflict

00:44 The Consequences of Avoiding Conflict

01:10 The Power of Confrontation

01:19 The Clarity After Conflict

01:37 Final Thoughts: Are You Multiplying Conflict?

01:46 Conclusion: Embrace Conflict, Embrace Growth

Do you want to  build a network that doesn't just add to your numbers but multiplies your opportunities.  Lance Furuyama walks us through his strategy of highlighting the content of other creators and helping new creators get comfortable with producing content. We even go deep on how we curate our inner circle of peeps and the not so fun truth about exiting people from the inner circle.

Feel the pulse of the construction industry as we delve into the heart of authentic networking, where the strength of a relationship can be more solid than the concrete we pour. We swap tactics on personal outreach that transcends the standard business card swap, its called 'RECIPROCAL PROPOLSION' that elevates everyone involved. We also unpack the Field Leaders Planning Toolbox, an indispensable resource for the professionals juggling the complexities of a construction site. Whether you're a seasoned foreman or a project manager overseeing an intricate dance of trades, this episode is tailored to arm you with the strategies for leadership excellence. Join us for a candid exploration of connection and growth, and let's build more than just structures—let's build a legacy of support and success. Peace.

Connect with Lance at:
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https://tradepartnerhq.com/

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Lets discuss the conflict between the need for psychological safety and the realities of 'violent urgency' within a corporate environment. These ideas challenge companies to acknowledge their true operating procedure rather than claiming to foster a psychologically safe environment. Keep in mind though, violent urgency can produce results, but is it sustainable in the long term?

00:00 Introduction
00:00 Understanding Violent Urgency vs Psychological Safety
00:42 The Reality of Violent Urgency in Work Environments
01:07 The Unsustainability of Violent Urgency
01:17 Embracing Your Work Culture
01:36 Conclusion