Circumcision, Water Births, and Evidence-Based Care with Dr. Rebecca Dekker

TW: This episode contains adult content of a sexual nature 

As a doula, I've had countless conversations with new parents navigating the complexities of intimacy after childbirth. Whether it’s regaining libido, feeling physically or emotionally more comfortable having sex, or adjusting to the significant hormonal shifts postpartum, there's a lot tied into it.

This week, I’m joined by one of the best people in the business to help me unpack these issues: somatic sex educator Kiana Reeves. Our conversation highlights the importance of patience, understanding, and open communication in postpartum intimacy and Kiana encourages us to prioritize self-care, redefine intimacy, and seek professional support when needed. As the chief education officer for sexual wellness brand Foria®, we also get to hear her top product recommendations for enhancing intimacy after childbirth!

References

Visit the Foria® website 

(Use discount code “DearDoula” for 20% off all Foria® products!)

Follow Foria® on Instagram

Connect with Kiana:

Follow her on Instagram

Visit her website

Steamy Chick Institute

Ellen Heed

Tami Lynn Ken

Kimberly Ann Johnson

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Audio Stamps

• 01:27 - Brandi’s guest, Somatic Sex Educator Kiana Reeves, tells us about her background and the people she serves.
• 03:23 - Kiana discusses the emotional, physical, and hormonal aspects of postpartum intimacy.
• 09:22 - As the chief education officer at Foria®, Kiana shares how this company and its products cater to the female body.
• 11:03 - Brandi and Kiana discuss how lack of sexual education can cause problems further down the line with consent and sexual pleasure.
• 14:42 - Kiana talks about the role of sexual pleasure in childbirth and the shame surrounding this.
• 15:41 - We find out what moms should focus on to maintain sexual health and wellness and what to do if you’re still struggling in the pleasure department.
• 21:54 - Kiana explains how to judge if someone is a reputable sex therapist or not.
• 24:50 - Brandi asks about the stigma surrounding somatic vaginal work.
• 30:32 - Kiana recommends some fun products that she thinks listeners would enjoy using and trying

TW: If you have lost a child, had birth complications, or know someone who has, please be aware that some of those themes will be discussed in this week's show.

Many of us dream of the day that you finally get to meet your baby. Labor and delivery is one of the most powerful, life-changing events not only for you, but for your family too. And so getting ready for that moment to make sure that you deliver a healthy baby, and that nothing happens to your baby during childbirth is so incredibly important.

Gina Mundy is a childbirth attorney and mother of three. After spending over twenty years analyzing the decisions made during childbirth, it is now her mission to share this information so that families around the world can experience safer childbirth.

I am delighted to speak with Gina in this episode about some of the insights from her one-of-a-kind book that blends together the realms of medicine and law:  A Parent's Guide to a Safer Childbirth. Listen in to discover some of the most common problems that occur during childbirth and how YOU can help prevent them.

References

 A Parent's Guide to a Safer Childbirth by Gina Mundy

Connect with Gina:

Visit Gina’s website

Instagram: @GinaMundy  

Facebook: Gina Mundy, Author 

Linked In: Gina Mundy 

Twitter: @ginamundy_  

You can follow Brandi and her work @deardouapodcast on IG, @brandi_jordan_official IG, and send questions, comments and platitudes to brandi@deardoulapodcast.com. Have a question you want Brandi to answer? Shoot her an email or a DM and she might include it on her next podcast episode!

Audio Stamps

01:28 - Gina shares her journey to becoming an attorney that specializes in childbirth cases.

02:55 - We discover the most common factor in the childbirth cases Gina deals with.

07:33 - Brandi asks what Gina recommends with the use of Pitocin to enable a safer birth.

09:44 - Gina explains how busy labor and delivery units are preventing safe births and the importance of having a baby advocate.

11:47 - Brandi and Gina discuss the role of doulas in supporting parents by working alongside the delivery team.

18:00 -  We learn how every hospital system is so different and the importance of checking out the hospitals in which you went to birth if possible.

21:57 - We discover how the complications and the mistakes that Gina sees in childbirth cases typically occur after the patient's water has broken

26:13 - Brandi asks if Gina has seen evidence of the black maternal health crisis in the work that she does.

27:42 - Gina talks about the approach she took when writing her book. It is not about scaring people about what can go wrong, but how to make sure it goes right. 

31:36 - Gina encourages us to be ready and have a plan for your birth so you can enjoy the moment you’ve been looking forward to.

If you’ve had a cesarean birth and get pregnant again, one of the questions I often get asked is, ‘Should I plan for another cesarean, or should I try to give birth vaginally?’ Choosing between a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) and repeat cesarean is not an easy decision, with benefits and risks to both options.

Joining me today to dig into this topic further is Melissa Dean, midwife and founder of the Casa Natal Birth and Wellness Center in the San Francisco Bay Area. Melissa has a breadth of knowledge when it comes to VBACs, so if you’re currently facing this dilemma (whether you're currently expecting or just curious about the options), Melissa’s insights will give you the clarity you need to make an informed decision.

References

IG: @casanatalbirthcenter 

Website: www.casa-natal.com  

FB: Casa Natal Birth Center

YouTube: @casanatalbirthwellnesscent2244 

You can follow Brandi and her work @deardouapodcast on IG, @brandi_jordan_official IG, and send questions, comments and platitudes to brandi@deardoulapodcast.com. Have a question you want Brandi to answer? Shoot her an email or a DM and she might include it on her next podcast episode!

Audio Stamps

01:37 - Melissa explains more about the role of a midwife and busts some of the common  misconceptions.

03:20 - We find out how Melissa has merged midwifery with functional medicine practice. 

04:46 - Brandi asks Melissa if there are instances when someone should not have a VBAC.

08:42 - Melissa explains how to tell what kind of incision you had for your cesarean. 

09:56 - We learn the benefits of delivering vaginally after a C-Section.

12:19 - We hear Melissa’s recommendations for what to do in between pregnancies to make you more prepared to try for a vaginal birth in the future.

14:04 - Melissa shares what you should be doing during your pregnancy to make yourself more viable for VBAC.

17:33 - Find out the top foods that Melissa recommends to her clients, whether they're having a VBAC or not, that will make for a healthier pregnancy, birth, and postpartum.

21:13 -  Melissa tells us about the services that she provides as a midwife to childbearing (and not childbearing!) families.

The arrival of a new life is a momentous occasion that often brings joy, excitement, and a myriad of emotions. However, the perinatal and postpartum periods can also bring a host of mental health complexities that demand attention and understanding.

To help us understand the nuances of perinatal mental health, debunk some of the most common misconceptions around maternal mental health, and shed light on the intricacies that can impact the well-being of new parents, I invited licensed mental health therapist Elyse Springer to share her wealth of knowledge on this topic.

As the holidays fast approach, and people often start feeling the pressure to show up in ways that do not necessarily reflect how they're feeling inside, we hope this episode will normalize some of the challenges faced by many parents in this new chapter of life.

References

Postpartum Support International (PSI)

Return to Zero: H.O.P.E

Maternal Mental Health Now 

Love, Dad 

Policy Center for Maternal Mental Health

Connect with Elyse:

Visit Elyse’s website

Follow Elyse on Instagram

You can follow Brandi and her work @deardouapodcast on IG, @brandi_jordan_official IG, and send questions, comments and platitudes to brandi@deardoulapodcast.com. Have a question you want Brandi to answer? Shoot her an email or a DM and she might include it on her next podcast episode!

If you are looking for support with your children, you can reach out to us at The Cradle Company for more information on hiring a parenting or baby specialist.

If you appreciate Dear Doula, please take a minute to subscribe, rate and review!

Audio Stamps

01:18 - Brandi introduces today’s guest, licensed mental health therapist Elyse Springer.

02:34 - Elyse does some myth busting around perinatal and postpartum mood disorders

05:03 - Elyse defines postpartum psychosis

07:02 - We find out more about postpartum OCD

10:00 - Brandi asks Elyse how we can tell the difference between someone who is dealing with

a mental health disorder like OCD or anxiety, and someone who has embodied the idea that extra worry signifies how much you love your child.

11:25 - Elyse explains what your ACE score is and why it’s important to know.

20:00 - We find out what the next steps are if you or someone you know is showing symptoms of a mental health disorder

25:57 - Elyse shares some of the resources that new parents should be aware of that provide support for issues related to mental health.

Ever found yourself tiptoeing out of your toddler’s room, hoping against hope that this will be the one bedtime where your little one blissfully succumbs to sleep? You’re certainly not alone–toddlerhood can be accompanied by a number of bedtime battles and this edition of the Baby Sleep Fairy Chronicles is here to help.

If you’re struggling to navigate some of the most common toddler sleep problems like bedtime refusal, separation anxiety, or the crib-to-bed transition, this episode will arm you with proactive bedtime strategies that will ensure more restful nights for both toddlers and parents alike.

References

Twin Zzz’s: Mastering Sleep for Twins (“Sleep Fairy” Series)

The Lie of a Good Night's Sleep ("Sleep Fairy" Series)

The Night Owl Sings Nursery Rhymes

You can follow Brandi and her work @deardouapodcast on IG, @brandi_jordan_official IG, and send questions, comments and platitudes to brandi@deardoulapodcast.com. Have a question you want Brandi to answer? Shoot her an email or a DM and she might include it on her next podcast episode!

If you are looking for support with your children, you can reach out to us at The Cradle Company for more information on hiring a parenting or baby specialist.

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The controversy, conversations, articles, and books surrounding sleep training are so wildly different, I have no idea how any parent today can comfortably reach a decision on it. Is my child really going to get brain damage from sleep training? Will I ever sleep again? 

Let’s face it, we all need sleep to be able to survive and to actually live joyful, calm, and peaceful lives. If you’ve landed here, you’re likely to be an exhausted parent desperate for ways to improve you and your child’s sleep. You haven’t “failed” at parenting, you just haven’t found what’s right for you or your child yet…

After working with families in the home since 2001, I've seen what’s worked well (and not so well) and want to share the tips and interventions that I know will get you and your family the hard-earned ZZZs you need.

For more insights and parenting tips, follow the Dear Doula Podcast on Instagram. I offer personalized consultations and can be reached for further questions on sleep at brandi@deardoulapodcast.com or you can DM me on Instagram.

Welcome to the inaugural episode of my "Sleep Fairy” series, where I’m devoting multiple episodes to one of the biggest things parents need help with: sleep. 

To start us out in the series, we’re delving into the world of sleep when it comes to twins. Believe it or not, I’ve actually got a lot of experience working with multiples (even quadruplets!), so today I’m providing you with insights and actionable advice to help you navigate the unique sleep challenges that come with twins and beyond.

In this episode, we discuss the importance of understanding each twin's individual sleep needs and preferences. We delve into the crucial role of white noise machines, like Dohm and Hatch, in creating a sleep-conducive environment for your twins. We also cover practical strategies for establishing routines and schedules, my opinion on the SNOO bassinet that everybody raves about, and I share some common challenges and solutions to twin sleep issues. You got this!

Links:

• My recommended white noise machines: Dohm and Hatch.
  
  

For more insights and parenting tips, follow the Dear Doula Podcast on Instagram. I offer personalized consultations and can be reached for further questions on sleep, particularly concerning twins, at brandi@deardoulapodcast.com or on my Instagram.

Time Stamps:

• 1:03 - Introduction to my “Sleep Fairy” series and today's focus on twin sleep.

• 1:24 - My experience with multiples and early career insights.

• 2:07 - Key sleep factors for twins and parents.

• 3:59 - The role of white noise machines in twin sleep routines.

• 6:25 - Safe sleeping arrangements for newborn twins.

• 7:56 - How, if, and when to use the SNOO for twins.

• 9:04 - Importance of keeping a log to understand each twin's patterns.

• 11:10 - Emphasizing the need for a routine to manage twin sleep effectively.

• 13:00 - Deciding the sleeping location for twins: room sharing and separate spaces.

• 16:09 - Creating a consistent 7 to 7 routine for twins.

• 17:59 - The need for community support and resources for parents of multiples.

For many of us, feeding babies and toddlers can be overwhelming, especially when you’re faced with food rejection and other issues at the table. Helene Skantzikas is the creator of the French Foodie Baby, a blog which chronicles her journey in the nurturing and expanding of her son Pablo’s tastebuds and love of life through good food.

Helene joins me today to share her secrets to fostering healthy eating habits, including the role her family and French cultural background has played in her approach to feeding her son (possibly the best fed child I have ever known!). Listen in to discover the power of modeling a healthy, joyful approach to food, being engaged in the enjoyment of food preparation, and seeing the family meal as an opportunity for connection and togetherness. 

Even if your child is only used to eating a few foods, Helene gives us hope that it’s never too late to nurture a healthy, happy, and positive relationship to the nourishment of their bodies.

Connect with Helen:

Read her blog: French Foodie Baby

Follow her on Instagram

Audio Stamps:

2:00 - Helene tells us why she started her blog ‘French Foodie Baby’

3:49 - We find out why it’s important to have an open mind about what our babies might like  

6:17 - We hear Helene’s tips for how to integrate children into the preparation of family meals.

8:37 - Brandi asks Helene if it was a struggle to go against the “conventional” way of feeding her baby.

14:36 - We find out what Helene has observed around food in early childhood education.

16:30 - Helene shares what lessons her family is learning about food during their travels.

21:30 - Brandi and Helene discuss what it is about the French way of life that leads to their commitment to creating fresh, joyful meals.

26:56 - Helene gives her advice to parents who want to incorporate trying new foods, but feel they've already set an expectation where their kids are used to eating just a few things.

As a new parent, you deserve to have the opportunity to welcome your new family member and transition into this new chapter, without stressing about work. But the lack of comprehensive federal policies for paid parental leave in the U.S. places a significant burden on new parents who are faced with the impossible choice between caring for their children and maintaining their careers.

In today’s episode, I’m interviewing parental leave consultant Arianna Taboada, who is working to disrupt the narrative that growing a family is incompatible with growing a company or having a career. She is the author of The Expecting Entrepreneur: A Guide to Parental Leave Planning for Self Employed Business Owners (2021), and joins me to answer key questions about how to map out parental leave, and build the self-awareness you need as you move through the momentous shift into parenthood.

References:

The Expecting Entrepreneur: A Guide to Parental Leave Planning for Self Employed Business Owners

https://www.abetterbalance.org/

Connect with Arianna:

Visit her website: theexpectingentrepreneur.com

Follow her on Instagram

Follow her on LinkedIn

You can follow Brandi and her work @deardouapodcast on IG, @brandi_jordan_official IG, and send questions, comments and platitudes to brandi@deardoulapodcast.com. Have a question you want Brandi to answer? Shoot her an email or a DM and she might include it on her next podcast episode!

If you are looking for support with your children, you can reach out to us at The Cradle Company for more information on hiring a parenting or baby specialist.

If you appreciate Dear Doula, please take a minute to subscribe, rate and review!

Audio Stamps:

• 1:55 - Arianna tells us about her business and how she helps people navigate parental leave

• 3:11 - We find out the common knowledge gaps when it comes to parental leave

• 4:55 - For anyone who is thinking of having kids, Arianna shares what they should be doing now to understand and prepare for parental leave 

• 6:16 - Arianna recommends what to do if you have an employer with a parental leave policy

• 8:53 - Brandi asks what people could be doing with their employer and HR when pregnant or before becoming pregnant

• 10:22 - Arianna shares what she wishes more parents knew about parental leave

• 11:13 - We hear Arianna’s advice for anyone who is afraid to speak about their pregnancy in the workplace for fear of retaliation or discrimination

• 13:11 - Arianna tells us about how her book helps people navigate the process of parental leave

• 14:10 - We find out if disability leave is the same as parental leave

• 16:16 - Brandi asks what you can do about parental leave if you’re already far into your pregnancy

Endless Google searches, relentless posting in Facebook groups, asking other parents for advice…. It’s no wonder most first time parents feel overwhelmed shopping for products for their little ones. But does it really have to be so confusing, exhausting, and depersonalized?!

To help us sift through the vast array of baby products on the market, I invited a very special guest and THE ultimate baby product guru to talk to us about what is new and cool in 2023! Join me as I sit down with Monica Banks from Gugu Guru, the only creator community focused entirely on maternity and parenting content. 

Still not found the right baby monitor for you? Not sure which stroller will fit your lifestyle? 

If you are a new or expectant mom and want to confidently choose the right gear for your family, this episode is a must-listen!

References

Ask A Doula: Brandi's Top 15 Questions and Recommendations

Download Brandi’s Breastfeeding Checklist

Download Brandi’s Healthy Sleep Foundation Guide

Connect with Monica:

Gugu Guru Website

Private Mom Creators Facebook Community

Instagram

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TikTok

Product recommendations:

Aura baby monitor, Babyation pump, Baby Bottle Brush Bib,  Babymel (diaper bags), Babyzen strollers, Globowl (infant food), HAPP (diaper bags), Kibou (diaper bags), Lily Jade (diaper bags), Larktale (wagons), Mockingbird strollers, Nanobebe breastmilk bottle, TWELVElittle (diaper bags), Uppababy strollers

If you have ideas about shows and content, you can follow Brandi and her work @deardouapodcast on IG, @brandi_jordan_official IG, and send questions, comments and platitudes to brandi@deardoulapodcast.com. Have a question you want Brandi to answer? Shoot her an email or a DM and she might include it on her next podcast episode!

If you are looking for support with your children, you can reach out to us at The Cradle Company for more information on hiring a parenting or baby specialist.

If you appreciate Dear Doula, please take a minute to subscribe, rate and review!