D3 -19: ZeQuality of Life

enFebruary 01, 2021

Dream Dare Dazzle

About this Episode

Quality of Life is about your happiness, fulfillment. It's about living joyfully andâ¯fully every day. This category is a fun one. It includes your dream house and car and the experiences you want to have in your life. This category comprises all the other categories.â¯
Exercise 1 for this week:â¯
What are your thoughts on quality of life? What does it mean to you?

The Quality of Life category is structurally different from all other categories, because it consists of the other 11 categories.â¯ There is something you can almost always count on to be nothing but positive: Your experiences. Creating quality experiences for yourself and for the people you love is one of the best things about life.

Exercise 2 for today:

1. Plan an experience that improves your happiness and your quality of life.
2. Commit to making it happen within 30 days. Schedule it.

Yes, it's difficult during the current Pandemic lets list some activities for now and later when we are creating the new 'New":

Book an overnight with your lover
Have a couples massageâ¯
Go sky divingâ¯
Hike in the woodsâ¯
Climb a mountain
Do a random act of kindness
Adopt a pet
See your favorite concert
Preform karaokeâ¯
Sing at an open mic night
Write a poemâ¯
Take your kids to indoor sky diveâ¯
Book a trip with your familyâ¯
Plan a family reunion
Buy a new bikeâ¯
Explore a caveâ¯
Parasail
Go white water raftingâ¯
Snowboard
Bungee jump
Hold a monkey
Do a flip on a trampolineâ¯
Milk a cow
Hold a tarantulaâ¯
Swim with turtlesâ¯
Ride an elephantâ¯
Stand under a waterfall
Take the polar plungeâ¯
Hug a redwood
Name a star
Roll in a huge pile of leaves
Watch the sunrise & sunset in one dayâ¯
Write a fan letter
Surprise someoneâ¯
Tell your Dad you love him
Kiss a stranger
Forgive someoneâ¯
Share a fantasy
Learn a line dance
Give bloodâ¯
Volunteer
Go on a silent retreat
Clean up trash at a park
Write a songâ¯
Write a book
Paint a portraitâ¯
Try acupuncture
Get a facialâ¯
Dress in super sexy lingerieâ¯
Dance on a bar
Go campingâ¯
Learn the Haka
Preform a magic trick
Fly first class

As has been said before "wo/man's limitation is space travel is wo/man...."

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