Desire Mapping and the Power of Sex Stories

en-usFebruary 25, 2020

SDC Presents: Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver

About this Episode

Do you want to know how you can have the best sex of your life? Join host Lexi Sylver and her special guest, Dr. Jaime M. Grant, the author of Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire, for an uncensored talk about how to achieve the sex life you truly desire. Lexi and Jaime discuss what sex is all about, beyond a blur of body parts and the exchange of fluids and moans, and how any sex you have is meaningful. They explain how our past sexual experiences contributed to the development our current sexual selves, and what those adventures can help us learn about what we truly want in sex, relationships and life. Jaime explores the concept of Desire Mapping, and how people can use their individual Desire Map to uncover the fears and barriers that hold them back from living a truly fulfilling erotic life. Lexi and Jaime also talk about the power that lies in telling our sex stories, and how sharing our erotic tales help us discover more about our authentic sexuality and map our path to our best sex.

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