Divorce Support Ep 29: Regret

The Power Within: Unleashing Your Mindset Superhero

This is one of THE most important concepts that we teach. When people really get it and integrate it into their lives they are never the same. They walk among the wise. They see themselves and others differently. They are responsive and not reactive. Acceptance of themsleves and others is a part of their daily lives. There is peace within. 

I kid you not. 

I know because I lived my life like Henry David Thoroeau said, "Living a life of quiet desperation". Now, I can "be". I see Victim Consciousness everywhere (see the last episode). And I have an alternative.

This is what I share in this episode. 

I hope you like it. I have literally spent the last 5 years integrating it into my life. When people go through our 10-week classes they see how this works and begin to also incorporate it into their lives. This is why we see such massive results. It's just one of the magical things we do in our courses. 

Love ya! Talk to you soon! (When you take the self test and book a call with me) :)

Kevin

This episode is from a video that was created for a presentation. You can see the visuals at our Rebuilders site at https://go2.rebuilders.net/drama-triangle-part-1

In this episode Kevin explores Relationship Dynamics, the Karpman Triangle (the Drama Triangle) and how this leads to Victim Consciousness. Understanding what it is often allows people to see how their underlying beliefs have created a lifetime of dissatisfaction. 

People in our classes often begin to see over the 10-weeks how this plays out in their relationships, their lives, and how important it is to learn the alternative consciousness. 

It also reveals WHY their Ex is behaving they way they are. THEY are in Victim Consciousness too!

In this episode, we shift gears a little - we hear from Kathy a person that tried a lot of different things to recover from her divorce. She shares some things that worked and some things that didn't. Since then she has become a certified Facilitator for the Fisher Rebuilding Seminar™ in Cincinnati Ohio. 

In this episode Kevin talks specifically about the "The Release" - the point in time in which someone is able to "Let Go". It happens for people in different ways based on different actions they take. It is a powerful transition and for many people the goal. 

After "The Release" your second life begins. Rebuilders.net

In this episode, you get an inside peek of a class in which Nick is coaching some people in a special class we did on Rumination. 

Nick is helping people to understand regret. 

This episode is in part based on a live class that Kevin delivered talking about anger. A number of topics are covered:

• 2 kinds of "models" for anger.
• The 5 ways we express anger
• Anger of the past and of the present
• Why we are angry
• How to express it

In the intro and outro we emphasize that people take the self test. But why? Because for so many people they are lost and unsure how to move forward. It gives you a way to objectively measure how well you are adjusting to divorce. 

It measures 6 key areas of adjustment to divorce and in this episode I talk about how each of these 6 measurements can be used to know where you are in the process. 

PLUS, you can take it as many times as you want - for free, no strings attached. 

Use it as a way to measure your progress. 

Here's the link:

https://web.rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck and ashamed when dealing with divorce?  You're not alone! Join me as I dive into the secret to freeing yourself from divorce shame. Learn how to recognize and address the underlying causes of your suffering to experience true freedom and start healing your heart. This podcast is filled with actionable tips that will help you move forward on your journey of self-discovery and liberation. Don't miss out!

This episode is from a presentation that was put together to help people understand why some people recover faster than others. Everyone is different and people have different needs. But we also see that people typically have a "go to" about what they need. Often this is what they know, it is their preferred strategy for feeling better. And sometimes the thinking that got them to where they are isn't the thing that will help them recover. In fact, it may be something very different. 

In this episode Kevin discusses the 3 main components of a quick recovery. He also explains why some traditional programs don't work for people and what to do instead.

This is a long episode and it isn't just Kevin talking.  You get to hear from more than 20 people talking about the components of their recovery and what worked for them. 

For more information visit Rebuilders.net

Also, you can take the free self test at: https://rebuilders.net/divorce-adjustment-assessment/