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    Musician Ruth Ungar found out about her dear friend Hubie's death on Facebook of all places. This was her first taste of sudden, earth-shattering loss. We're talking about the healing power of "good clean dirt," what it was like for Ruth to find out about Hubie's death on Facebook (while she and her husband were on tour), and how music creates a beautiful space for all of us to grieve. Plus, I'm sharing The Mammals' magical song inspired by Hubie's death, "When My Story Ends." Also on the show this week, I'm answering a listener question about navigating hospice care for the first time.

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    Episode 36: On Living (and Fumbling) with Kerry Egan:
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    https://hospicefoundation.org/

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    https://www.vitas.com/resources/hospice-care/hospice-faqs-everything-you-need-to-know

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