Ep 234 Epigenetics and Family Systems with Johanna Lynn

Could your marriage become stronger if you considered divorce as a viable option? 

Today, I'm chatting with relationship coach Sharon Pope, as we uncover the paradoxical notion that acknowledging the possibility of divorce can actually reinforce a marriage. 
We delve into the power of choice and how it can lead to a more intentional and fulfilling partnership. Throughout our conversation, we emphasize the importance of setting healthy boundaries and reveal why trying to control our partner's commitment often backfires, leaving a trail of unhappiness and discontent.

As societal roles evolve, so do the dynamics within a marriage. Sharon and I discuss the new terrain of gender expectations and responsibilities, dissecting how modern marriages are adapting—or struggling—to keep pace. We cast light on the silent signals that a relationship may be veering off course and stress the urgency of addressing issues promptly. Whether it's cultivating a space for open dialogue or recognizing when it's time to seek professional help, we guide you through the critical choices that can either rejuvenate your relationship or lead you to part ways with grace and certainty.

This episode addresses the complexities of maintaining intimacy amidst the demands of parenthood. We share strategies for nurturing your connection and why it's essential to remain curious about your evolving spouse. In addition, we explore how relationship coaching can provide the toolkit needed for couples to flourish through adversity. 

So, whether you're looking to reignite the spark in your marriage or contemplating the crossroads of "stay or go," this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for embracing the continuous journey of love and partnership.

How many times have you said something like, we'll work on our marriage when... the kids get a little older, our business is more successful or we have more money/time? 

I'm here to share why this approach may cost you more than you think. This heartfelt episode peels back the layers on the myth that there's a "right time" to focus on your spouse and kids, revealing how this mindset can lead to emotional disconnection and even conflict. 

I'm offering practical strategies to ensure your marriage thrives no matter what stage of child-rearing, business or financial stability you are in.  Discover how to intertwine a relationship-first philosophy into your busy schedule, avoiding the pitfalls that many ambitious parents or entrepreneurs fall into.

It's all about action – realigning your daily priorities to put your marriage and family front and center.  We'll talk about gratitude practices, the magic of date nights, and the irreplaceable value of quality time with your family. And for those who find striking this balance challenging, I open up about how professional help, like the services I provide, can revolutionize your relationships. 

Tune in for a powerful reminder that your greatest achievements should never come at the cost of the relationships that mean the most.

Unlock the secret ingredients to a lasting and loving relationship with Dr. Sara Nassarzadeh's profound insights. 

In this episode, we explore the six foundational elements that she believes are crucial for a flourishing partnership. From the allure of mutual attraction to the depth of shared vision, our conversation navigates the intricate dance of love, compassion, and daily loving behaviors. Dr. Sara's groundbreaking perspectives, as presented in her book "Love by Design," challenge the conventional molds, emphasizing how individuality and unity can coexist in a harmonious balance.

At the heart of our discussion lies the transformative power of compassion and the art of empathy in navigating the sometimes tumultuous journey of togetherness. We address the challenges and triumphs of being present for our partners in times of misunderstanding, drawing upon personal experiences and the wisdom of relationship experts like Gottman. 

By tuning in, you'll grasp how the small, consistent acts of kindness can weave a tapestry of enduring love, turning 'happily ever after' from a myth into an achievable reality. Join us in this heartfelt exploration, and let's design love that lasts a lifetime.

Join us for the FREE 3-Day Live Seduce Your Spouse Challenge starting on March 5th. Register at --> https://monicatanner.com/syslive

Do you ever feel like you're juggling too many hats, trying to be the perfect businessperson, parent, and romantic partner all at once? 

In this episode, I'm unpacking the art of transitioning between the demands of work, the responsibilities of parenting, and the pleasures of romance with your partner. We explore the nuances of adapting to each role without losing your sense of self or the spark in your relationship.

I'm going to give you insight into a  woman's mind, filled with endless 'mental tabs' that can sometimes hinder intimacy. I'll share my top strategies for closing those tabs, setting boundaries, and creating sacred spaces that signal it's time to shift into lover mode. 

Plus, you won't want to miss the details on my upcoming "Seduce Your Spouse Challenge," a three-day challenge designed to fan the flames of passion in your marriage.  Register here --> https://monicatanner.com/syslive

Whether you're looking to enhance your connection or simply find more balance, this episode offers the practical advice and supportive insights you need to keep love thriving amid life's constant juggle.

Ever found yourself let down after a holiday or special occasion? You're not alone. 

In this epsiode, I'm chatting with my friends Greg and Rachel Denning of Extraordinary Family Life. Together, we confront the perils of high expectations that holidays like Valentine's Day and anniversaries can bring. 

We talk about how communication acts as the cornerstone of a thriving relationship. We share personal stories to illustrate the power of planning and mutual effort in nurturing the bond between partners. It's about creating joy together and, perhaps more importantly, managing it so the mental load doesn't diminish the happiness you deserve.

Lastly, we delve into the concept of 'relationship bank accounts,' emphasizing the significance of individual wholeness in marriage.  I share insights from my coaching experiences that can transform not just your relationship but also model a healthy, thriving partnership for your children. 

Check out this interview that promises to inject new vitality into your marital connection, leaving you equipped to create a more extraordinary family life.

Ready to reshape your view on Valentine's Day and turn it into a day you both actually enjoy?

Let's stop dropping hints and creating resentment from unmet expectations with some honest, heart-to-heart communication. This episode is all about replacing those last-minute scrambles with meaningful traditions and understanding.

I'll walk you through the exact steps to engage in those crucial conversations with your sweetheart—setting the stage for clarity and connection, not just on February 14th but for every celebration your calendar holds.

This week is about recognizing each other's efforts, celebrating progress, and infusing every occasion with genuine gratitude.

And, for those looking for that perfect Valentine's gesture, why not make a pledge to regular, weekly date nights and documenting your love story with the Date Night Journal. Get yours before Valentine's Day by ordering before February 10th using this link --> https://monicatanner.com/journal

Have you ever wondered about the secret ingredients that make a partner irresistible?

In this week's episode, I'm interviewing Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper International, who shares not only her professional expertise but also her personal story.  You'll hear how Kimberly's family history of divorce and reconciliation sets the stage for the transformative work she's passionate about and what she's doing next.

Kimberly gives us the four crucial areas of attraction through her PIES framework and she breaks them all down.

P - Physical Attraction
I - Intellectual Attraction
E - Emotional Attraction
S - Spiritual Attraction

Make sure you join us for this episode and take the Intimacy Quiz at the end if you haven't already --> https://monicatanner.com/quiz

Ever found yourself caught in a tangle of misunderstandings with your partner, where every comment feels like a dig?

I'm pulling back the curtain on the silent saboteur known as negative sentiment override. Learn how this mental habit can erode the very foundations of our relationships and some strategies to overcome it. We'll talk about the art of positive sentiment override, where the benefit of the doubt becomes a bridge to better communication and conflict resolution, using Dr. John Gottman's golden positivity ratio.

Be sure to tune in transformative anecdotes and strategies, all designed to keep the flame of romance alive, turning everyday interactions with your Sweetheart into an ongoing honeymoon.

As my gift to you for listening, download a copy of my 75 ways to show gratitude for your spouse at: www.monicatanner.com/gratitude

Are you ready to supercharge your relationship in 2024?

In this episode, I'm sharing a game-changing lesson from my own experiences in 2023 that I'm carrying forward to make this year the best yet!

After examining the last year to understand what worked and what didn't, and embracing the lessons learned from challenging moments, I'm sharing with you a practice that will help ALL couples build more trust and intimacy this year.

I'm revealing the key habits that keep couples thriving, including the essential practice of regular date nights.

Click HERE to get my list of 102 creative winter date night ideas to make prioritizing time with your partner even easier.