Ep 28 Family Constellations Healing with Amelia Trotter

A special offering from our hearts to yours. This season’s mini episodes are a 5-part collaboration with Marlies Verschoor, a self-care guide from the Netherlands whose mission is to support people on their path to self-love and connection. Each week Marlies and Indigo will explore how mothers can better care for themselves through loving self-connection. Each mini episode will offer a heart point, a self-share, a world share, a self-care strategy and a meditation. 

This week’s offerings:

Heart Point 1: “Taking care of myself means taking care of my baby”  

Self Share: Marlies ~ breaking the ‘all or nothing thinking’ ~ making it sustainable and pleasurable. Indigo ~ burned out mothering is unfulfilling. 

World Share: Women today do everything, but nothing is done quite right. What really calls you? Following our passion and making room for creativity in a time of immense creativity! 

Strategy of self-care: Starting the day with a daily question “when you don’t have much time or energy what really fills your cup/nourishes you?”.  & can you incorporate your kids into self care practices? 

Meditation: Taking care of myself means taking care of my baby

Connect with Marlies:

• Marlies Verschoor’s Website

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.

Join us as we explore matrescence, mum guilt, and more with Jacqueline Kelly from Our Brave Hearts. Jacqueline is a fully certified Life Coach dedicated to supporting mums who feel lost in the transition from being the woman they used to be to the mother they are now. With a deep understanding of the matrescence journey, Jacqueline uses results-based coaching to guide others through this transformative process. As a mother, Jacqueline empathises with the guilt and pressure that comes with motherhood and is passionate about breaking the silence around this. We came across Jacqueline on social media and were inspired by her warmth, authenticity, honesty and openness. It was a delight to chat with her, we hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did.

We chat about:

• Jacqueline’s early experiences of motherhood 
• The fantasy of motherhood vs. the reality
• Mum guilt as a social construct and where it comes from (and who it benefits)
• Self-silencing to be seen as “coping” and why this perpetuates shame and guilt
• Matresence as the “language of motherhood”
• Where ideals about what it means to be a “good mother” come from and why they’re often unrealistic
• Why mothers don’t need to meet all their children’s needs
• The role of support and connection and why it's so hard to ask for help
• How Matrescence can also lead to deeper self-knowledge and self-actualisation

… and so much more!

Resources 

• Jacqueline’s Website
• Follow Jacqueline on Instagram
• The Cultural Contradictions of Motherhood by Sharon Hayes
• Dr Sophie Brock - The Sociology of Motherhood
• The Mask of Motherhood by Susan Maushart

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.

Today we are joined by a very special guest. Alicia Melrose is a Natural Health Consultant, Medical Herbalist, a truly wise woman and Indigo’s beloved mamma. 

Alicia developed her enthusiasm for herbal medicine when she lived in Indonesia with a Sumatran Shaman. She went on to become a registered medical herbalist and has now been in practice for over 33 years and offers a multidisciplinary practice based on a holistic, supportive approach to health. Her goal is to enable a person to take a proactive and life changing approach towards health. Always in awe of the potential of herbal medicines, she has a passion for her work and a deepening understanding of the causes of disease processes.

Alicia believes that we all have an innate wisdom and healing capacity and that our personal challenges provide us with an opportunity to deepen our connection to the intangible.

We chat about:

• The incredible story of how Alicia was called to the herbal path (2:39)
• Holistic herbalism and the importance of developing a relationship with plants (6:00)
• Alicia’s experience with Ayahuasca and what it taught her about mental health and plant medicine (8:50)
• Feeling called to the plant path and how to begin developing a relationship with the plants (13:20)
• How disease and personal challenges provide us with an opportunity to connect to our inner wisdom (23:00)
• The relationship between mind and body and the importance of listening to our bodies (31:06)
• The importance of silence, surrender and learning to listen to our inner voice (34:50)

And so much more!

Episode Resources

• Hands of Light by Barbara Brennan 
• The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer

Contact Alicia

• www.belmontparkretreat.co.nz

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.

How do you cope when you’re feeling anxious, depressed or overwhelmed? What if there was a place you could go to whenever you needed support or guidance? A place that allowed you to experience a feeling of well-being and a connection to a deeper, more sentient wisdom.

The good news is that place DOES exist and is available to you at any time. It’s called an earth spot and you don’t necessarily need to leave the house to go there…

In today’s episode, we explore the power of earth spots with Tina Bramley, a holistic counsellor and psychotherapist who believes cultivating a connection to nature and the earth is the key to developing resilience and boosting our wellbeing.

In today’s episode we talk about...

• What earth spots are and what they’re used for (1:25)
• How nature and a connection to the earth can help us cope with anxiety and depression (3:13)
• The power and magic of imagined earth spots (6:15)
• Why we feel called or connected to certain earth spots… and repelled by others (10:20)
• How earth spots open us up to the experience of awe and wonder (14:41)
• How to cultivate a connection to nature access the experience of awe (18:40)
• How to find and cultivate the sacred in the mundane (21:43)
• How our relationship to nature changes over our lifespan and how we can learn to connect to nature no matter where we are (29:12)
• Different uses for earth spots (34:48)
• The physiological benefits of connecting with the earth (36:00)
• Why awe alleviates anxiety (37:47)
• An exercise for connecting with an earth spot (44:01)

And so much more!

Episode resources 

• Dreaming While Awake by Arnold Mindell
• Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home by Toko-Pa Turner

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.

Although we often fear anger, at its core, anger is actually an ally here to help you better access your truth and your boundaries. Join us as we chat to Juna Mustad about the power of healthy anger and how to make anger an ally. Along the way, we’ll discuss the relationship between anger and intuition and how befriending our anger can support us to live a more soulful life. 

Whether you’re an anger stuffer or an anger erupter, you’ll gain so much from this episode!

Juna is a Life and Relationship Coach, an Intuitive, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner whose work is focused on supporting people to embrace their full potential, create healthy relationships, and live a soul-centered life. Her Tedx talk “Anger is Your Ally: A Mindful Approach to Anger” has been viewed over 400,000 times.

We chat about:

• What a God bath is and why it’s part of Juna’s daily ritual (1:50)
• What healthy anger looks like (5:40)
• Why we fear anger and how stuffing our anger increases its intensity (7:20)
• How stored anger manifests in the body (9:40)
• Why anger is a messenger and what our anger can teach us (10:40)
• How to honestly and authentically meet your anger in an embodied way (14:00)
• Intuition as the voice of the soul and how we can develop our innate intuition (21:30)
• Why emotions such as anger are an important part of healthy spirituality (27:00)
• Anger as a tantrum of the soul (29:00)
• The relationship between love and anger and how to make space for healthy anger in relationships (34:50)
• Juna’s soul journey, learning to be with “not knowing” and the art of surrender (38:50)
• Collective anger, feminine rage and how anger can wake us up an inspire healthy action (46:00)

And so much more!

Episode Resources

• Juna’s Tedx Talk
• Grounded Spirituality by Jeff Brown
• Call of the Wild by Kimberly Ann Johnston
• Emotional Intimacy by Robert Augustus Masters
• Kali and Feminine Rage

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.

Our breath is an important anchor in life. It guides us and supports us through life’s experiences. The more conscious we are of our breath, the more we are able to consciously respond to our inner and outer world. 

In today’s episode we chat to Josh Alexander, a qualified breathing coach and breathwork practitioner, who has personally experienced the profound transformative effect breathwork has on the individual and collective psyche. 

We chat about:

• What breathwork is, the origins of breathwork and the two main schools of breathwork (1:15)
• The difference between breathwork and the Wimm Hoff method (7:36)
• The concept of the inner healer and how it relates to breathwork (10:38)
• Josh’s journey with breathwork and how it transformed his life (12:00)
• How breathwork can open us up to the healing potential of the transpersonal realm (18:43)
• What the experience of attending a breathwork session is like and how to prepare for the experience (25:25)
• The importance of integration (33:05)
• The future of breathwork (38:12)
• The breathwork community in Australia (40:49)
• A daily practice to help connect in with the power of breath (42:40)

And so much more!

Thank you for listening. If you enjoyed this episode we’d be so grateful if you could take the time to share it and/or leave us a review.

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.

CONTACT JOSH

https://www.transitionbreath.com/about-breathwork
M: 0439 070 392
E: info@transitionbreath.com 

Are you navigating a time of transition? Perhaps you’re ending a relationship or are in a new one, perhaps you’re coming to terms with a life changing diagnosis, preparing for motherhood, or starting a new career… You might find your sense of self is shifting and things suddenly feel uncertain and overwhelming. Whatever the circumstances, transition is something we all know intimately and must dance with constantly throughout our lives.

To be in transition is to be in a liminal space. It’s the messy, murky unknown we encounter when we’ve left behind what’s familiar and are on the precipice of something new. Navigating times of transition can be an uncomfortable and confusing experience. Yet times of transition are also rites of passage that hold enormous potential for growth and self-discovery.

Join us as we explore the messiness and transformational potential of transitions big and small.

We chat about:

• How Indigo came to choose “transition” as the topic for her doctorate and why this topic is close to our hearts
• Transitions as an invitation to learn to be with discomfort and “not knowing”
• Navigating the transition to private practice as therapists 
• Transitional places as sacred spaces 
• Finding practices that support and hold you in times of transition 
• Learning to slow down and be open to what is emerging 
• How times of transition can invite encounters with Soul
• Navigating grief and loss in times of transition 

… and so much more!

Resources 

• Cacao Recipe: Click HERE and scroll to the bottom of the page :-) 
• Heart Connection Exercise: Listen HERE 
• Music: 'Lutruwita'~ performed by DENNI

Thank you for listening. If you enjoyed this episode we’d be so grateful if you could take the time to share it and/or leave us a review.

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

Individual Therapy or Triads with Rose & Indigo

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com
E: melrose.psychotherapy@gmail.com
Instagram: indigomelrose

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.

“Motherhood is the true hero’s journey―which is to say that it can be as harrowing as it is joyful, and enlightening as it is exhausting. For Jungian psychoanalyst Lisa Marchiano, this journey is not just an adventure of diaper bags and parent-teacher conferences, but one of intense self-discovery.”

Drawing on Jungian analysis, fairy tales, myths, folklore, client case studies and personal stories, each chapter takes us on an inner journey of self-discovery that is sure to change the way you feel about your own mothering journey.

We invite you to settle down with a cup of tea and your journal as we take a deep dive into the journey of descent and initiation that is motherhood. For each book club episode we’ll be exploring a chapter from Lisa Marchiano’s deeply compassionate and insightful book Motherhood: Facing and Finding yourself.

We’d like to express our deep gratitude to Lisa Marchiano for allowing us to explore her book in this format. 

Connect with us:

• mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Check out our Patreon page

How can we maintain a sense of equanimity in today’s world? With so many pressures and increasing polarisation, how can we, both individually and collectively, contribute to healthy change? How can we as mothers balance the demands of the material world with caring for our soul life and the soul life of our children?

Join us as we explore how to face the challenges of our times with Jane Gilmer. Jane is a transformational guide, theatre artist and author of The Alchemical Actor. Her work with psyche, or soul, is a deeply alchemical process influenced by the depth psychology of Carl Jung and the spiritual science of Rudolf Steiner.

Jane brings so much wisdom, heart and soul to this topic, and we invite you to listen with an open heart and mind as we explore the challenges of today’s world from a mystical perspective.

We chat about:

• The power of being an active, silent witness 
• Rudolf Steiner’s perspective on the challenges of our times 
• What it means to be a warrior of the soul
• How outer challenges mirror inner challenges 
• The power and importance of imagination
• Finding the “third way” or the way of love 
• Simple yet powerful practices to support us and our families through these times
• How understanding and facing death can awaken us
• Feminine wisdom and seership 

… and so much more!

Resources 

• Rudolf Steiner on Lucifer and Ahriman
• Jung on holding the tension of opposites

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode we’d be so grateful if you could take the time to share it and/or leave us a review.

Connect with Mothers at Midnight:

• You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
• Follow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnight

Individual Therapy or Triads with Rose & Indigo

ROSE HARVEY
Instagram: rose_harvey_therapy 

INDIGO MELROSE
W: www.indigomelrose.com
E: melrose.psychotherapy@gmail.com
Instagram: indigomelrose

Or check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.