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    Ep 911 | How Many Kids Should Christians Have? | Q&A

    enNovember 21, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • The Bible does not mandate a specific number of children for ChristiansChristians are called to be good stewards and multiply, but the decision of how many children to have is a personal one, based on individual circumstances and values.

      While the Bible encourages Christians to have children if they are able, there is no specific number mandated in the Bible. Christians are called to be good stewards and multiply, but there are exceptions for those with concentrated mission efforts or those who have not been given the gift of celibacy or singleness. Ultimately, the decision of how many children to have is a personal one, and wanting a career, fear of the future, or being scared of the world are not biblical reasons to avoid having children. When it comes to navigating relationships with coworkers undergoing surrogacy, it's important to maintain a friendly and respectful demeanor while staying true to one's values. Abortion doctors receiving the death penalty is a complex issue with differing viewpoints, and personal coffee orders and opinions on Nikki Haley are unrelated to the discussion.

    • Meaningful debates about family planning and cherishing small joysExplore family planning with respect for freedom of conscience, find joy in daily routines, and appreciate personal growth.

      Christians can have meaningful debates about family planning, recognizing the importance of freedom of conscience and examining the motivations behind personal decisions. Additionally, small joys and routines, like waking up children or enjoying a cup of coffee, bring daily happiness and anticipation. These simple pleasures can bring comfort and focus amidst the chaos of daily life. The speaker also shared her personal experience of an unexpected aversion to coffee during pregnancy. Overall, the discussion emphasized the importance of introspection, personal growth, and cherishing the small moments in life.

    • Appreciating quality time and preferred coffeeThe speaker cherishes time spent with her husband and enjoys a specific coffee order, either a vanilla cold brew with sweet cream from Starbucks or homemade iced coffee with vanilla almond milk.

      The speaker cherishes the quality time spent with her husband, especially during activities like watching movies or shows together. This time provides a sense of relaxation and connection, which she particularly appreciates after adjusting to married life. Additionally, she has developed a preference for a specific coffee order, which is usually a vanilla cold brew with sweet cream from Starbucks or homemade iced coffee with vanilla almond milk from 3 Trees. Her choice of almond milk was influenced by a realization of the added ingredients in other brands, leading her to opt for a more natural option. Overall, the speaker values quality time with her spouse and mindful consumption.

    • A mission to protect life through coffee sales7 Weeks Coffee donates 10% of sales to pregnancy centers, raising over $200,000 and supporting 650 centers, giving every cup a greater purpose. The speaker also advocates for the death penalty for capital murder, including abortion, based on human dignity as being made in God's image.

      7 Weeks Coffee is more than just a business; it's a mission to protect life. By donating 10% of every sale to pregnancy centers, they have raised over $200,000 and support over 650 centers. This makes every cup of coffee purchased serve a greater purpose. Additionally, during the discussion, the importance of appealing to suburban mom voters in the Republican primaries was emphasized, and a controversial topic of abortion doctors receiving the death penalty was addressed with a biblical foundation. The speaker believes that capital murder, including abortion, deserves the death penalty due to the unique dignity of human beings as being made in God's image.

    • The Sanctity of Human Life and JusticeThe belief in the value of human life and the application of justice, including capital punishment, is rooted in the creation ordinance and remains relevant today. Education deeply understanding scripture can strengthen one's faith foundation.

      The belief in the sanctity of human life and the application of justice, including capital punishment for intentional taking of that life, is rooted in the creation ordinance and is still applicable today. The speaker draws parallels between the Old Testament examples of God showing mercy to murderers and the rule of capital punishment, emphasizing that these instances do not negate the rule. The speaker also highlights the importance of education in deeply understanding and memorizing scripture, and the significant impact it can have on one's foundation of faith. The speaker's favorite verses come from Psalms and Ephesians, and they reflect themes of comfort, love, and understanding of God's character. The speaker also acknowledges the benefits of memorizing scripture but also recognizes the challenges and limitations of doing so.

    • Memorization vs Deep EngagementMemorization can hinder deep engagement with text during reading. Maintain a professional relationship with coworkers during sensitive situations, expressing kindness and interest while adhering to personal beliefs. Appreciate high-quality products and share discounts with listeners.

      While memorization can be beneficial, it may hinder deep engagement with the text during reading. The speaker shares her experience of having Ephesians memorized, which makes it challenging for her to focus on each word and fully comprehend the passage. However, she also acknowledges the potential value of not having every word memorized and being able to savor each word. Additionally, the speaker discusses the importance of maintaining a professional relationship with a coworker undergoing the surrogacy process while adhering to personal beliefs. She emphasizes that, as a Christian, she cannot in good faith congratulate them due to ethical concerns and her belief in the traditional definition of marriage. However, she encourages kindness and interest in their lives, offering examples of positive interactions. Lastly, the speaker shares her appreciation for Cozy Earth, a company that offers high-quality, luxurious bedding and loungewear, and promotes their products with a discount code for listeners.

    • Balancing faith, family, and commitmentsPrioritize relationship with God, support loved ones, communicate openly, pray for guidance, and trust in God's plan

      As a spouse and a person of faith, it's important to balance honoring your commitments, caring for loved ones, and staying true to your beliefs. While you should prioritize your relationship with God, you can also be a supportive friend to those around you, even if you don't agree with their choices. In the case of a difficult decision like moving or caring for aging parents, it's essential to communicate openly and considerately with your spouse, pray for guidance, and ultimately trust in God's plan. As for practical solutions, Brave Books offers a subscription service delivering monthly books that teach valuable principles in fun and engaging ways for children. However, the most significant decisions in life, such as moving or caring for aging parents, may not have easy answers, and ultimately, it's crucial to follow where God is leading you and your family.

    • Discover Brave Books for Kids and Support for Grieving Mothers, The Hunter Biden Laptop Controversy, and Good Ranchers' Quality MeatBrave Books offers discounted subscriptions for kids' books using code 'alie'. Some religious leaders believe miscarried babies go to heaven. Grieving mothers are still mothers. Hunter Biden laptop controversy remains unresolved. Good Ranchers provides high-quality meat from American Farms.

      Brave Books is an excellent subscription service for children aged between 5 to 10 years old. Parents can give their kids a love for reading by gifting them books from this service. Brave Books offers a discount using the code "alie" for a 20% reduction on subscriptions. Regarding the topic of miscarried babies, there is ongoing theological debate, but some religious leaders like John Piper and John MacArthur believe that these babies will be recognized in heaven. For mothers who have experienced miscarriages or stillbirths, it's essential to remember that they are still mothers to their children, regardless of whether they were born or not. As for the Hunter Biden laptop controversy, it's unlikely that those involved will admit any wrongdoing. The New York Post reported on the laptop's contents, which went beyond a Russian conspiracy theory, and raised legitimate questions that have yet to be fully addressed. Lastly, Good Ranchers is a trusted source for high-quality meat from American Farms. Their products include pre-marinated and non-pre-marinated chicken, fajita chicken, and excellent bacon. Good Ranchers is a beloved brand in many households.

    • Supporting American Farms and Transparent Meat SourcingGoodranchers.com offers high-quality, American-sourced meat with convenience and savings, while ethical concerns exist regarding hormonal birth control and its potential impacts on natural bodily functions.

      Supporting American Farms and Ranches through subscription services like Goodranchers.com offers high-quality, transparently sourced meat, while also providing convenience and significant savings. On the other hand, the use of hormonal birth control, including pills and IUDs, raises ethical concerns due to potential interferences with natural bodily functions and lack of transparency regarding short- and long-term consequences. It's crucial to be informed about these issues and consider the potential impacts on our health and wellbeing. For meat consumers, Goodranchers.com offers a win-win solution: high-quality, American-sourced meat delivered to your doorstep, along with a free box of meat worth up to $480 when you subscribe using the code "Ali." For those considering birth control options, it's essential to be aware of the potential consequences and make informed decisions based on accurate information.

    • Hormonal Birth Control and Ethical DilemmasHormonal birth control and IUDs may prevent implantation of a fertilized egg, raising ethical questions for those who believe life begins at fertilization. Consider alternative methods like natural family planning.

      The use of hormonal birth control and intrauterine devices (IUDs) raises ethical questions regarding the potential termination of a fertilized egg's life. The speaker shared her personal experience of staying on hormonal birth control for years without realizing the ethical implications. Birth control pills can prevent implantation of a fertilized egg, and IUDs make the womb inhospitable for implantation. While not every month results in the termination of a fertalized egg, it is a possibility. The speaker emphasized that this is not a judgment on all forms of birth control, but rather a consideration for those who believe life begins at fertilization. It's essential to assess personal motivations and consider alternative methods, such as natural family planning, that don't put a human life in danger.

    • Staying Informed and Prepared: Essential Skills for SuccessEffective communication, time management, staying open to learning are essential skills for success. Practice clear, concise, respectful communication, active listening, prioritizing tasks, setting goals, and using tools to manage time.

      Learning from our discussion today is the importance of staying informed and being prepared for future meetings or projects. We covered various topics, from effective communication strategies to time management techniques, but the underlying theme was the value of being organized and focused. Effective communication is crucial in any setting, whether it's a team meeting or a client presentation. It's essential to be clear, concise, and respectful when communicating with others. Active listening is just as important as speaking clearly. Time management is another critical skill to master. Prioritizing tasks, setting goals, and using tools like calendars and to-do lists can help us make the most of our time. It's also essential to avoid distractions and stay focused on the task at hand. Finally, it's important to remember that learning never stops. We should always be open to new ideas and perspectives, and be willing to adapt and evolve. In the words of the famous inventor, Thomas Edison, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." In conclusion, staying informed, communicating effectively, managing time wisely, and being open to learning are all essential skills for success in any endeavor. By practicing these skills, we can make the most of our time, build stronger relationships, and achieve our goals. We will be back soon to continue exploring new topics and ideas.

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    STEVE BURNS: It does say that we all, before we share serious news, making sure whoever you're going in with, you're on the same page. And having a pre-meeting is so important. And what I often do with my pre-meetings is I come up with the headline as the group, right? So we're all clear about what is that headline so that when we go in, we can, in some ways, also hold each other accountable for that headline.

    KATIE STOWERS: I think also, a little bit of who's going to say it too. Like, is that something that you feel comfortable saying, or would it be easier for somebody else to say? Are there parts of it, and then parts of it that I can do, I think, can be really helpful.

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    And then, as soon as they do that, I'm like, oh. But that can actually be really helpful. And again, I think it's obviously not meant to slight me. It's not meant as an affront, right? It's just sometimes, it's just kind of hard to quite get there, right, and to quite say the thing. And sometimes, having someone to help. Like, you get 80% of the way there, and then having somebody else get the other 20% is really, really meaningful.

    And it also, in a strange way, kind of allows us to share the emotional burden a little bit, right? So that it doesn't feel like, oh my gosh, this is just me saying this thing. There's something about having other members of the team there to kind of hold your arms up as you're doing that that's really meaningful.

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    STEVE BURNS: Katie, I'm so glad you mentioned that. I just think about even for us as palliative care physicians, who do serious illness conversations all the time, catching ourselves doing some things because we are being affected by the conversation and our well-being. I remember a couple of weeks ago, how hard it was for me to say dying and death. And I know. I've been teaching my learners say the D word. It's OK. It's direct. It's straightforward. And then all of a sudden, I was in the middle of the conversation and I noticed I was struggling saying death.

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    TYLER JOHNSON: And the other thing too, right, is that I think it's helpful in a sense to recognize that the difficulty with giving a headline or with saying death or dying or whatever is an impulse borne of human compassion. I mean, it's not because we're bad people. It's because we have good hearts and because short of maybe clergy members, there's really nobody else in the way that human ecosystems are set up that does this, right? It's just a hard thing to do.

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    STEVE BURNS: Yeah. We did a study in 2016, the Vermont Hospice Study, and similar to actually, what Cambia Health Foundation found, why people don't engage in serious illness conversations. And one of the biggest reasons was taking away hope or hurting people's feelings and in causing emotional distress.

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    And so what I will usually do is I will tell patients, I'll say, when they ask some version of that question, I'll say, look. I need you to know that, first of all, I can't answer that question right now. I'm not obfuscating. It's just, I would be lying if I gave you an answer because we just don't know. But I want to let you know that what is true is that I can usually tell when things are starting to go in the wrong direction.

    And unless you ask me specifically to do otherwise, I promise you, the patient, that as soon as I recognize that things are heading in a direction that I'm concerned about, I will tell you that in so many words so that you understand what I'm talking about. And then we will have a discussion about where to go from there.

    And then, when we get to that point, whether it's six weeks later or six months later, or sometimes six years later, I will say-- because I do this with all my patients-- I'll say, do you remember when I made you that promise way back when or a few months ago, whatever it is? And then I'll say, I hope that I'm wrong here. But I'm concerned that we may now be in that place. And I want to tell you why, and then I want to talk about where to go from there. Because that then situates this difficult discussion in the context of this relationship of trust that we've been building over however long I've known the patient. And I have found that that provides a trusting context within which to have the more difficult conversation that has been really helpful.

    STEVE BURNS: Noticing the time, I'm curious, how does the task of delivering bad news affect your own well-being?

    TYLER JOHNSON: Just to remind people, we said this before, but I just think it's important to recognize that this being a heavy thing is normal. And recognizing that is normal and that it really is-- I mean, there's some degree to which you can do this well and that will lighten the burden to some degree. But you have to make sure that you're filling your own reservoir, right? You can't pour empathy out of an empty reservoir. And so I think you have to make sure that you're filling that in whatever the ways are that you do.

    KATIE STOWERS: I just think I was thinking about that too, Steve. One other thing that I wanted to build off of, this fear and this worry that we bring to these conversations, that I'm going to send them into a tailspin of depression. Or I'm going to take away all of their hope. I think there is the other part of this that I get to see as a palliative care physician, which is the high degrees of distress that often come from not knowing this information, that's really helpful in preparing and planning for the future and almost this sense of relief.

    Even when it's unfavorable, even when it's not what they wanted to hear, there's a relief in knowing and being able to do something with it. So that limbo and uncertainty. the idea that something terrible is out there or they can't prepare for it can be really distressing. And so to some degree, we're helping to heal by being able to move into some planning.

    STEVE BURNS: Yeah, I totally agree that it's such an important thing to minimize the stress of uncertainty. And the other piece that I think about is these are really sacred moments where we can really connect with our patients, share the news, find out how they're doing with it, and then find out what really matters in their lives. I think that really helps be my north star when it comes to continuing the care that I'll provide for them in their families.

    TYLER JOHNSON: Yeah. You know, there's a really harrowing, in some ways, but beautiful moment. And many of you will probably have read the book Just Mercy, which is written by this lawyer who's fighting for justice, particularly racial justice, for people who have been unfairly treated by the justice system in the deep South. And there's this moment towards the end of the book where a person who he had been fighting for who was on death row has just finally been executed. And he goes home and sort of just collapses crying. And then he writes really beautifully about how this moment of sort of shared vulnerability, where he kind of recognized that the reason that this was so hard was because even though he was vulnerable and broken in different ways than the person who had just been executed, it was still sort of a shared sense of vulnerability. It was what made his work hard, but also what made his work beautiful.

    And I think that in a similar fashion, when we have these really difficult discussions, I think that while there is a real moral weight and difficulty to it, there is also just as you said, they also end up being some of the most meaningful, memorable, and beautiful moments.

    STEVE BURNS: As a clinician, what have you learned over the years regarding communication with patients that may help others navigate scenarios where they can deliver serious news? I was just on service with a trainee. The team was delivering serious news. It was serious news around lung cancer. And the team's like, this patient's just not getting it. And we tried to explain it over and over again. And they're not getting it. And then my trainee went in and attempted and said, yes. Here's your diagnosis. We're concerned it's incurable. And you likely will die in the next year or so. And the patient said, no. I'll be fine.

    So we hypothesized before going in the room with me, like, what it would be. And what it came out is maybe it's not they're not understanding it. Maybe it's emotion. So we went back in. And sure enough, my trainee did wonderful and responded to emotion and said. It must be really hard hearing this news. And the patient immediately got sad and said, I'm really scared.

    And we unpacked that a little bit. And when we left the room, he said to me, yeah. That was emotion. He totally gets it. He's just upset. And so I just want to reiterate the idea, sometimes, it's not that they're not understanding it. It's that it's a lot to process. And there's a lot of feelings behind it.

    KATIE STOWERS: Building on that, one of the things that I see happen a lot around emotion is the health system is not set for people to process and to come to terms with these hugely life things and life-altering things. There's not time for people to process what this means for their life to term and process that emotion. And we're constantly pushing. And sometimes it almost could feel like badgering, really trying to get a decision to come where, with some degree of autonomy and some degree of time, allowing them to really process. People, a lot of times, get to where they need to go. But it's a process of really being able to deal with.

    STEVE BURNS: Yeah.

    TYLER JOHNSON: Yeah, the only thing that I will add is that these conversations, when they need to happen, work best when I have been mindful of laying the groundwork for the conversation over the entire arc of the illness. Rather than thinking of, oh, this is the thing that I do right when someone is getting close to dying.

    Because if you've never laid the groundwork and then you try to have the discussion, then when the person is really, really sick and in the hospital or whatever, of course, there's still a better and a worse way to do that. But even the best conversation if it's that isolated incident, in my experience, is nowhere near as good as if we have been transparent and building trust and building a sort of a shared vocabulary with the patient over the course of the illness. So that then, when they get to having to have quote, "the discussion" unquote, it becomes just one part of this longer chain rather than an isolated happening.

    And that really gets to what I was saying earlier about the promise that I make my patients when they first ask that sort of big picture question. That even though I'm not in a good place to talk about it right then, that I promise them that when it comes time, I will talk with them about that with candor. That makes an enormous amount of difference. I know I had a trainee who was with me one time who was a continuity fellow with me and had heard me make that promise to a number of patients and the first time he was with that same patient when it came time to have that discussion.

    And I said, well, you remember that promise that I made the first time I met you? And he could, for the first time, see all of the dots connect over the arc of the illness. It was like, whoa. Like, there's just really this power that comes. But you have to have been building it piece by piece over time.

    STEVE BURNS: I think both of you are highlighting for me two reminders that I want to keep in mind every day when I'm delivering serious news. One is sort of having an agenda but being flexible with my agenda. And I remember during my training, one of my mentors said, keep your agenda out the door. Don't force your agenda on the patient, as Katie mentioned.

    And yet, have a plan and still go in with that plan. The other piece that Tyler, you're reminding me of, is the importance of the arc of the conversation and how continuity. Because we build off of conversations from visit to visit. And yet, sometimes, someone else is taking over for us or they end up in a hospital or they end up in a nursing home. And it reminds me how important documentation is to convey what happened in that encounter. What was said, what was the headline that was shared, how did the patient respond, and then what was the plan. And far too often, we usually just write the results of the conversation.

    TYLER JOHNSON: Yeah. One last thing that I want to put a specific plug in that I have found to be enormously important, I think all of us would agree that amidst all the conversations that we might have as part of taking care of a patient, this is the one where shared decision-making matters the most. And yet, if you ask most people, even experienced doctors, how do you engage in shared decision-making around this kind of question? That's really tricky, right? Because I think what often ends up happening is that we either default to being very prescriptive where we go in and say, well, you should do this or shouldn't do this. Or we default to being waiters with the menu. Like, well. OK, so would you like some intubation on the side of CPR?

    And so, I think that both of those models are equally problematic and that the tool, the specific tool that has helped me really learn about how to do shared decision-making and even provides the specific words, is what's called the Serious Illness Conversation Guide from the Ariadne group at Harvard, which is the group founded by Atul Gawande and his colleagues.

    And I think that that gives a very brief script which, I mean, you can literally almost just read. You can get a little card that you can carry in your pocket or whatever. And it gives-- and the entire conversation in most cases, takes maybe 10 or 12 minutes. But it gives you the point-by-point things to say and really allows you to meaningfully engage in shared decision-making so that you spend the first half of the conversation listening to the patient's priorities and values, and then the last maybe third of the conversation, using that to make meaningful recommendations. And so again, it's called the Serious Illness Conversation Guide. And I would really recommend to listeners that they look it up.

    STEVE BURNS: That's a really great segue to what training and resources are there for clinicians and oncology trainees to improve their communication skills. The three resources that I can think about are Vital Talk, the Serious Illness Conversation Program out of Harvard and Ariadne Labs, and then they have a rich program which is from the American Academy of Communication of Health Care. All three are different ways of approaching communication skills training.

    I always think about the Serious Illness Conversation Programs about raising the floor to make sure that we hit the basics. And then Vital Talk is if you want to flex your muscles or flex your skills when it comes to how do I respond to really intense emotion, or if someone's avoiding the conversation, what do I do? They train with raising the ceiling or their goals to raise the ceiling.

    And Vital Talk actually came out of oncology conversations first with OncoTalk almost 20 years ago. And really thinking about not didactic-based, but practice and skills-based training. And I certainly have found it rewarding and life-changing for me, where I could actually label the things that I do every day, give myself some feedback, and then teach my trainees.

    TYLER JOHNSON: And I will just add, as a medical oncologist who has both taken the Vital Talk course and now is trained and teaching Vital Talk courses, that this is not just for palliative care doctors. And I think that it is particularly-- I mean, you may not have the interest or passion to want to become a Vital Talk trainer, which is understandable if you're a medical oncologist, either a busy practice or a heavy research portfolio.

    But it's just to say that they offer 1 and 2 and various iterations of courses, depending on how intensely you want to study these things. But it's just to say that the skills that they teach are concrete. This is not some sort of head in the clouds theoretical exercise. I mean, they're taught very concrete skills that you can wake up the next morning and employ you in your practice. And that I think to a point that is often counterintuitive to us, I think that we are almost afraid, as oncologists, to know about this because we think, oh my gosh. I didn't have time to engage in these long discussions. There's no way.

    But my experience has actually been what this does at the end, is it actually makes you more efficient. I know that seems counterintuitive, but we spend so much time sort of beating around the bush around this stuff that we actually end up making ourselves take longer. And having really concrete skills for how to have these discussions can actually make your practice more efficient for things that otherwise can really eat up a lot of time.

    KATIE STOWERS: I do a lot of teaching in Vital Talk incentives. It sounds like both of you do as well. But the piece of feedback that I hear from trainees that come take courses-- and I do a lot with oncologists and oncology fellows as well-- is oh, these are the things that I've seen in conversations at work that I never had a name for. Like, you're putting a name on something that I've seen. And maybe I've done a couple of times, but I didn't know that I was doing it this way. And especially for my colleagues who are practicing providers who teach others, they really love having a name and a framework for being able to teach these skills to others.

    It's not some magic fairy dust that you either have or you don't. It's actually, here's a skill that I can pass on to you and you can practice. And I can watch for, and we can have some feedback about. And I have seen that being a really enjoyable part of doing this framework. We have that, right, for almost every other part of medicine. But because communication is something that's so innate and personal, that hasn't always been the case around communication. And so I really love that about Vital Talk, that they've taken these pieces and put names on them.

    Because this is how you give communication clearly, information clearly, is the headline. This is how you show someone that you care about them. These are empathic statements. And that's something that we can use as a third language when we're going into team meetings together or when we're teaching a trainee.

    STEVE BURNS: It's one of the most important skills that we do every day, and probably the most important procedure that we do on a regular basis in all of our fields.

    TYLER JOHNSON: And I think you can tell from the way that the three of us have discussed delivering a headline during this podcast, that this is not like a thing that we learned seven years ago and then just sort of left in a drawer somewhere, right? Like, this is something that we're actively thinking about as we actually take care of patients every day, which is to say that it really is very applicable.

    STEVE BURNS: I feel like that's the time for today. This has been a really great conversation. Thanks so much for both of your insights and participation in this episode of the ASCO Educational Podcast.

    KATIE STOWERS: Thanks for inviting us. It's been great to be here.

    TYLER JOHNSON: Thanks so much. It's been a pleasure.

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    29: What's in a Scientific Name, How Many Cells are in a Human, and What the British Museum Stole

    29: What's in a Scientific Name, How Many Cells are in a Human, and What the British Museum Stole

    What is the science of scientific naming, and could it actually be life saving?  How many cells are in a human body, and why is it important to know?  And how exactly did the British Museum... "acquire" all these artifacts?

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    We also learn about: what does tom smell like? naming is hard for computer science, naming is a science, reading 12 million paper titles by hand, single use acronyms, polynomial naming, Ranunculus mother of dragons, the dino hip mixup, smooth transitions, the fermium wars, we all know what happened to element 102, berkelium californium americium, should we name elements after living people, Ella is the only true Swiftie, half of all exoplanets are named Kepler, the old Taylor can’t come to the phone right now, why? she’s a millipede, Ella will get an answer, humans have 1 cell technically, c elegans has exactly 1031 cells, don’t embarrass yourself by saying how many cells are in a mouse, we enter the wheels and doors debate, Ella sperm fact rick rolls us, the number of kinds of cells, tom is bad at math, every time a scientist questions a number an angel gets its wings, Livers Georg, Ella is heartbroken we don’t have a number, what’s the point of counting cells? the British Museum keeps 99% of things in the disney vault, offering a replica of the rosetta stone instead, Britain legally cannot return items without government approval, all the stuff we never knew about Moai statues, what does queen Victoria need with a Moai statue, her majesty declares finders keepers, actualy these stolen things mean as much to Britain now, most Britains want the items returned, there is so much to learn from this!

    Sources:

    Judith Winston's Review of Binomial Nomenclature
    The Growth of Acronyms in the Scientific Literature
    The Long and Short of Abbreviations (UA Medical Acronym)
    Dinosaur Hip Naming Mixup
    How Many Named Species are Valid?
    Review of the Transfermium Wars
    IUPAC 1994 Naming Decision
    Naming Exoplanets
    A Flu by Any Other Name
    Nature on WHO Naming
    Taylor Swift's Millipede

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    Number of Bacteria In Your Body
    Sperm
    Types Of Cells In The Human Body
    An Estimation Of The Number Of Cells In The Human Body

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    British Museum: Rosetta Stone
    British Museum: Moai of rapa Nui (Easter Island Statues)
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    British Museum: Benin Bronzes
    The Guardian: British museum ‘Has Head in sand’ Over Return of Artefacts
    British Museum: The Parthenon Sculptures
    British Museum: Maqdala Collection
    YouGuv: Should Britain Return Historical Artefacts to Their Country of Origin?
    Culture war: the case against repatriating museum artifacts
    NYT: Investigators, Citing Looting, Have Seized 27 Antiques From the Met
    CNN: Manhattan DA returns 58 antiquities to Italy, including 21 seized from the Metropolitan Museum of Art