Ep 94: Resilience & Motherhood with Krystal

Rachel reflects on her past period of survival mode, explores loveisrespect.org, and goes over a brief content warning before introducing her guest, Krystal Casey. Then, Krystal and Rachel discuss resilience, healing, empowerment, recovering from betrayal, motherhood, and SO much more. 

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Krystal begins at 00:14:56.

Follow Krystal: 

Website and Ignite Your Spark Toolkit: https://flightofthephoenixcollective.com/ 

Pre-order Womanhood: Identity to Intimacy and Everything in Between:  https://womanhoodbook.com/ 

Course - From Stuck to Unstoppable: https://course.flightofthephoenixcollective.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flightofthephoenixcollective/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/flightofthephoenixpage/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClSG2U-zjjFBloSxOzAEVFQ 

Discussed in the episode: 

https://www.loveisrespect.org – call (866) 331-9474 or text LOVEIS to 22522.

“Glimmers are the Opposite of Triggers. How to Find Them”, USA Today: https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2022/03/23/glimmers-opposite-triggers-mental-health-benefits/7121353001/ 

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Rachel covers recent events, running, and self care practices before welcoming her guest, Karyn Wittmeyer. The two of them then discuss self love and jealousy in non-monogamy, communicating your needs, and more!

Conversation with Karyn begins at 00:15:48.

Follow Karyn:

Branching Out Wellbeing: https://www.branchingoutwellbeing.com/karyn 

Nonmonogamy Academy: https://nonmonogamyacademy.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/branchingoutwellbeing/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/branchingoutwellbeing/ 

X (Formerly twitter): https://twitter.com/BranchOutWB 

Blog: https://nonmonogamyacademy.com/blog/ 

Discussed in this episode:

Big 5 Personality Traits: https://www.healthline.com/health/big-five-personality-traits 

Big 5 Quiz: https://www.truity.com/test/big-five-personality-test 

Brainspotting: https://www.verywellmind.com/brainspotting-therapy-definition-techniques-and-efficacy-5213947 

PACT Institute: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/what-is-pact

Rachel talks about love-life balance and all the hats that we have to juggle as humans. Then she sits down with Phonchrist, host of the Better Yourself Podcast and they discuss masculinity, vulnerability, and more!

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Phonchrist begins at 00:13:23.

Follow Phonchrist: 

Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/14KZCsw3QpF6nE5pLsT1HU

Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/better-yourself-podcast/id1496119346 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/better_yourself_podcast/ 

Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Better-Yourself-Podcast-100040273671230/ 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0sLQxMM-0J29ls-pWcmQDA 

Mentioned in the episode: 

Don’t Let Love Take Over Your Life, by Faith Hill  (The Atlantic): https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/09/relationship-balance-love-friendship-autonomy/675321/ 

Triggernometry: https://www.youtube.com/@triggerpod 

The Case Against the Sexual Revolution, by Louise Perry (2022): https://www.amazon.com/Case-Against-Sexual-Revolution/dp/1509549994 

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Rachel reflects a bit on her closet allegory from last episode and considers how we can all offer ourselves more grace and kindness. Then, she welcomes Dr. Sueldo, a fertility specialist, and the two of them discuss what can cause infertility, different treatments available, and how you can gather information proactively to have more control and understanding of your options.

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Dr. Sueldo begins at 00:11:11.

Follow Dr. Sueldo:

Website: https://www.drcarolinasueldo.com  

Office Phone: (954) 715-7232 

Email: hello@drcarolinasueldo.com 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarolinasueldo/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarolinasueldo/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drcarolinasueldo2208 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolina-sueldo-46b179ba/ 

Mentioned in the episode: 

Fertility Tests: https://www.webmd.com/infertility-and-reproduction/fertility-tests-for-women1 

Center for Reproductive Psychology: https://reproductivepsych.org/ 

Hysterosalpingography (HSG) test: https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/hysterosalpingography 

RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association: https://resolve.org/ 

Motherhood Clarity Course: https://www.motherhoodisitforme.com/ 

New York Times, “What to Know Before you Freeze Your Eggs”: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/23/well/family/egg-freezing-risks-cost.html 

“What I Wish I Had Known About Infertility”(Rachel Moon) TEDx Talk mentioned in the intro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A50dYcl-tvk 

“How to Talk to the Worst Parts of Yourself” (Karen Faith) TEDx Talk mentioned in the intro:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUV5DJb6KGs&t=600s  

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*Content warning: childhood abuse, sexual assault, grooming. Listener discretion is advised* 

Rachel talks a bit about the maintenance work that is necessary for a survivor of trauma and discusses her recent personal findings before welcoming her guest. Whitney is a trauma survivor, advocate, and coach, and she shares her story and how she has worked to heal from compounded traumas in her own life.

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Whitney begins at 00:11:40.

Follow Whitney*:

Website: https://wmctraumacoaching.simplybook.me/v2/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wmctraumacoach/ 

Phone/text:  (214)814-2469

*Note: Whitney also just got certified to work with youth in addition to work with adults!

Mentioned in this episode:

Pure on Hulu (2019): https://www.hulu.com/movie/pure-6d2f52ce-e850-4d58-8446-971754ef77dc?entity_id=6d2f52ce-e850-4d58-8446-971754ef77dc 

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD (2015): https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1694033202&sr=8-1 

The Somatic Therapy Workbook: Stress-Relieving Exercises for Strengthening the Mind-Body Connection and Sparking Emotional and Physical Healing, by Livia Shapiro (2022): https://www.amazon.com/Somatic-Therapy-Workbook-Stress-Relieving-Strengthening/dp/1646040953/ref=asc_df_1646040953/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=560440526833&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2724298601207121557&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007307&hvtargid=pla-932315793036&psc=1 

Does Somatic Experiencing (SE) Work? SE practices for healing | Monica LeSage | TEDxWilmingtonWomen:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UU7eSxcBhpM&list=WL&index=17&t=12s 

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Lisa Welsh, the voice behind “In Bed with Lisa” and Rachel Dalton, host of “Wine, Dine, and 69” and an aspiring Intimacy Coordinator, pull back the sheets on the topic of planned intimacy. This conversation shatters taboos and dives into the nuances of scheduling time for physical connection, all while navigating the complications of daily life. 

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Lisa begins at 00:05:58.

Follow “In Bed with Lisa”:

Website: https://inbedwithlisa.com/ 

Resources: https://inbedwithlisa.com/guide

Podcast (Spotify): https://open.spotify.com/show/6UguL3Camtnv4Tg8mCGYDu 

Podcast (Apple Podcasts): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-bed-with-lisa/id1607881950 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inbedwithlisa_/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/inbedwithlisa/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/InBedWithLisa 

Twitter (X): https://twitter.com/inbedwithlisa

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Rachel talks about some recent “aha” moments in her life and then welcomes her guest for the special three-year WD&69 anniversary episode - her brother, Connor Dalton. Rachel and Connor talk about career changes, having a progress mentality, introversion, being a highly sensitive person, and more!

Episode Notes:

“There’s no one better at representing yourself than yourself” - Connor

Conversation with Connor begins at 00:10:39.

Follow Connor:

Website: https://connorjacksondalton.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connordltn/ 

Discussed in the episode: 

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (2008): https://www.amazon.com/Flow-Psychology-Experience-Perennial-Classics/dp/0061339202/ref=sr_1_1

The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You,  by Elaine N. Aron (2020): https://www.amazon.com/Highly-Sensitive-Person-Thrive-Overwhelms/dp/0806540575/ref=sr_1_1_sspa

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, by Susan Cain (2013): https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153/ref=sr_1_1

Esther Perel: https://www.estherperel.com/ 

Alain de Botton: https://www.alaindebotton.com/ 

The School of Life: https://www.theschooloflife.com/ 

George Carlin “I Like People” sketch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYOH30WUX7Y 

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Rachel talks about reaping rewards in her own life before continuing the conversation we began last episode about the advantages and dangers of social media therapy/pop therapy and therapy-speak. She then sits down with a VERY exciting guest, Eri Kardos. Eri is a speaker, relationship coach, and author of “Relationship Agreements”. She and Rachel dive into talking about how to relearn love, emotional potty training, relationship agreements, and more!

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Eri begins at 00:19:59.

Follow Eri:

Website: https://www.relearnlove.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coacherikardos/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Eri.Kardos 

Relearn Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveandrelationshipscommunity 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@relearnlovewitherikardos 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erikardos/ 

FREE Masterclass -  “Teammates: The 5 Transformational Shifts For Getting On The Same Team As Your Partner”: https://www.relearnlove.com/teammates

Discussed in the episode: 

Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship (2016), by Eri Kardos: https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Agreements-Strengthening-Communication-Increasing/dp/1540338487

Tristan Taormino: http://tristantaormino.com/ 

The School of Life: https://www.theschooloflife.com/

The School of Life children’s books on emotional intelligence: https://www.theschooloflife.com/shop/?_product_type=for-children 

Attachment theory: https://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships 

Discussed in the intro: 

Glamour, “Jonah Hill’s Alleged Texts to Ex-Girlfriend Sarah Brady Have Enraged the Internet”, by Emma Tannenbaum: https://www.glamour.com/story/jonah-hill-sarah-brady-controversy 

Evie Magazine, “Jonah Hill's Ex-Girlfriend Revenge Leaks Private Information About Another Ex-Boyfriend, Labeling Him A ‘MAGA Communist’”, by Gina Florio: https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/jonah-hills-ex-girlfriend-revenge-leaks-private-information-ex-boyfriend-maga-communist

The Guardian, “Are Jonah Hill’s texts really ‘therapy speak’? I asked a therapist” by Daisy Jones: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jul/13/jonah-hill-texts-therapy-speak-therapist-boundaries 

TED Ideas, “Creating a contract — yes, a contract! — could help you get what you want from your relationship” by Mandy Len Catron: https://ideas.ted.com/creating-a-relationship-contract/ 

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Rachel is in a pretty philosophical headspace and talks (and talks and talks) about pop psychology/social media therapy and explores how it is helpful, and how it can be damaging. Then she switches gears in the interview with Natalie Dean, founder of Wellness and Desire. The two of them discuss sex toys, shame, and pleasure for all. 

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Natalie begins at 00:19:39.

Follow Natalie/Wellness and Desire:

Website: https://wellnessanddesire.com/  -  30% off Coupon Code: WINEDINE 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wellnessanddesire/ 

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@wellnessanddesire 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wellnessanddesire 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/wellness_desire 

Toys Natalie mentioned: 

The Ohnut Penetration Depth Buffer Rings: https://wellnessanddesire.com/products/ohnut-penetration-depth-buffer-rings

We-Vybe Sync: https://wellnessanddesire.com/products/we-vibe-sync-2-shareable-vibe

Satisfyer Pro: https://wellnessanddesire.com/products/satisfyer-pro-2-generation-3-clitoral-stimulator

Rideable Sex Pad by CalExotics: https://wellnessanddesire.com/products/lust-dual-rider-rechargeable-sex-pad-by-calexotics

Dame Pillo Position Pillow: https://wellnessanddesire.com/products/pillo-from-dame

Sliquid Lubes: https://wellnessanddesire.com/products/sliquid-silk-hybrid-lubricant

Wicked Lubes: https://wellnessanddesire.com/products/aqua-water-based-lubricant

Accessible Toy Section: https://wellnessanddesire.com/collections/accessible-toys

Remember: 30% off Coupon Code: WINEDINE

Discussed in this episode: 

The Kinsey Institute: https://kinseyinstitute.org/ 

Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey: https://kinseyinstitute.org/about/history/alfred-kinsey.php 

Masters and Johnson: https://kinseyinstitute.org/collections/archival/masters-and-johnson.php 

Sex and the Soul of a Woman (2004), by Paula Rinehart: https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Soul-Woman-Reality-Romance/dp/0310252202 

Discussed in the intro:

“Therapy Jeff” instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CudPVQssiRh/?img_index=1 

NBC News, “Jonah Hill allegations spark conversation about the harms of social media 'therapy speak' in relationships”: https://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/jonah-hill-texts-show-harms-social-media-therapy-speak-relationships-rcna93507

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Rachel breezes through this week’s intro because she is jetsetting to Seattle for a wedding (Congrats to Bet and Jason)! Which is convenient because weddings are the topic for this week’s episode! Join Rachel and wedding planner Valerie as they chat about all that go through all is required to plan a wedding. The good, the bad, and the ugly. 

Episode Notes:

Conversation with Valerie begins at 00:04:11.

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Follow Valerie/Vintage Luxe Events:

Website: https://www.vintageluxeeventsmontreal.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vintage_luxe_events/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VinatgeLuxeMTL/ 

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/vintage_luxe_events 

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