EP13 - Saying Yes To Opportunities

Hello everyone. It is Brett Williams here with Moments of Wisdom with Brett Williams. Now I'm gonna be straight up here. Right now, I'm looking at all of the other episodes that I've gone through on that side and going, Ah, cool. Had really good structures for all of those. And today the reality is that I just want to talk.

So sit back and listen. I have no idea where today's episode is going to go, but there's a few things that have been going on in my world that have, uh, I guess you could say shaped a few thoughts and th and that side of things. And I know there's some, there's good stuff in there. So I've got a bit of a, a structure, got a bit of an idea.

Uh, but at the end of the day, I am going to just use today's episode just to be able to share some thoughts and hopefully there's some wisdom in there that you are able to gather and take it for your own life as well. And the first and focus that I'm gonna go on to today is to looking into opportunities.

Now, opportunity is something that, uh, you can see when it comes up and perhaps there's a conversation that goes on in your head that. I have no idea how to be able to do that. And I would agree that not every opportunity is an opportunity to say yes to. However, there are definitely opportunities that have probably presented themselves to you that may have scared you a little bit and may have, uh, had you questioned whether or not you can actually do it.

And from that sort of things you've got and said.  now. These are the opportunities that I wanna talk about today recently, as those who have, uh, been following along with this podcast for. The few episodes that I've done over a slightly longer period of time will know that I, I've got a few different things that I focus on, marketing agency and, uh, the main one, uh, coaching business, which is also being revamped at the moment.

So, um, stay tuned for that one. But also recently, I've actually got back into the drafting world. So, uh, AutoCAD architect, like not architectural, but uh, more along the lines of AutoCAD, uh, and that side of things. So designing. Not doing this, but this is what I used to do, designing chz tanks, conveyors for mining process plants.

But there was an opportunity that came about that's allowed me to start a, basically a drafting agency. So for any engineers out there that might be listening, or anybody who is an architect or anybody along those lines that is needing a drafting team to be able to create all of their AutoCAD drawings cause they don't wanna be doing it themselves, then that is essentially what we can.

Um, here at RP drafting. Might as well throw that in there. The website in the process at the moment is, uh, still a work in progress, but head over to to rp group.co and you'll be able to find some more information about there. Anyway, , that was a bit of a shameless plug that I, I actually didn't have any intentions of doing, but I wanted to talk more about the opportunity side of things.

Recently, uh, this opportunity presented itself, but it meant that there was gonna be a few sacrifices on my side, but also at the same time, I was massively stepping outta my own comfort zone. The area of work that we're doing these days, or within the drafting world now is actually residential home, uh, structural drafting now working with a structural engineering client that has, um, architectural, uh, clients themselves that send through the details and basically needing the structural designs done.

Now, I've never, ever drawn a house in my life. Um, I did work in the housing industry for a little bit. I understand at least here in Australia, you know, some of. Uh, I guess design principles that happened for a house and stuff like that. But at the end of the day, it was something that I had absolutely no idea about.

Now this is what I wanna come back to, I guess you could say within today's, uh, moments of wisdom, saying yes to those opportunities, but saying yes to it in a way that, uh, gives yourself a little bit of leeway. Now, These are the opportunities that you may be questioning whether or not you can actually do it, whether or not , you have the knowledge, the spirits, um, whatever it is.

Now, I'm not saying go and promise the world and, and completely under, under deliver. What I'm saying is that when I got into this position, I said, Look, My experience in the past has been over here. I've not done it over here, but I understand at least the fundamental basics of the software. And that was realistically the, the core part of the actual, uh, conversation that was had and.

From that point in time, the expectation within this opportunity wasn't that I was the expert, it was a case of leveraging their knowledge to be able to set up the systems and team, which I've already started to set up all the systems and team. So from that part, I'm almost hands off for the, uh, the first client and being able to start looking into more clients and that sort.

But that's a side comment. So when it comes to talking about the opportunity side of things, saying yes to it, What I'm, what I always say when somebody asks me about starting a business or, um, you know, going down that path, you need to at least have what I say, 5% knowledge. Now 5% is probably a little bit too small.

Um, But at the end of the day, you need to have a level of knowledge that is kind of something that you can use as your foundation. So for me, in this opportunity, I understood all of this AutoCAD software and understood the basic design principles and all of this sort of stuff. Great. , I have that 5% knowledge.

There's a whole punch of other knowledge that I didn't have, but I had at least that core part of the knowledge. And so that is something that is very, very crucial with saying yes to the opportunities, have that 5% knowledge. Now, , the chances are if you are anything like I, I'm gonna say used to be, but the reality is, is still probably kind of a little bit, but I've definitely got better at it these days.

I'm a sort of person who likes to know 100% everything. Before I do anything. And so coming back to that rule of having that 5% knowledge is something that is going to be very contradictive to that. There's no questions about it. However, what it does is it gives you the, the foot in the door because you, at the end of the day, you do not know what that opportunity is going to lead you to in that side.

So, Um, having that 5% and knowing that with every step that you mo move forward, you, it, it is just a conversation away from gathering more information. And that's the biggest thing. Communication is a big part of all of this. Something I teach in some of the, in the coaching programs on that side, but it.

It's being able to, again, set those expectations, know that you've got that foundational knowledge and being able to, to move forward from there and know, and this is probably a big part, understanding how you learn and knowing that with every day that you are able to learn more and to grow and that side of things.

And I'll be honest. It's been seriously uncomfortable, but at the end of the day, I know what I'm doing. And I guess actually probably another bit, as I said, today's gonna be a bit around the place, but there's a few different thoughts that are flowing through my head in and around this. It's about knowing the end goal as well.

So coming into this and saying yes to the opportunity, I knew I had at least 5% know. , I knew I had a clear picture as to what I was going to create through this opportunity, and it's that middle part in there that has been the part where it's about learning. Growing knowing that I'll figure it out.

Because if you've listened to, uh, episode 10 talking about trusting yourself and talking about your true traits and really being able to know who you are and talking about the one of those traits being resiliency and that side of things, then you know that you can keep moving forward. So at the end of the day, I'm gonna challenge you if you have an opportunity that is showing up right now.

Uh, Could be business, it could be career, it could be personal, it could be whatever it is, and it's something that you feel like you could give it a go and it may or may not open up a door. That could be something bigger. On the other side of it, I'm gonna challenge you as long as you have 5% knowledge around that thing, whatever it is, and a clear outcome that you would want to achieve from that opportunity to say yes to that opportu.

To say yes to it and say yes to yourself, as well as kind of like a bit of a cliche thing, but you know, it is, it's saying yes to that growth. And at the end of the day, if we're here and we're just sitting, still sitting dormant, doing the exact same things day in, day out, is that really living at the end of the day?

I've got a, uh, I guess a, a decision making, uh, philosophy in my head. It kind of goes along the lines of, of Steve Jobs. . Whereas for mine it's a little bit different. It's a case of if I'm laying on my deathbed, will I regret doing this or not doing this? And depending on which way that answer is, I obviously make that decision.

So I challenge you to do the exact same challenge yourself to say yes to the opportunities, cuz you never know what might come out from the other side of it. At the end of the. Rounding out my story. What has come out of it is a very, what is starting to become a very lucrative, uh, business that is going to.

Solve a solution for many, many individuals, uh, within the mining and, uh, design space. So that's huge in itself an opportunity that I kind of had a bit of a feeling that that was gonna be my outcome. That's where I wanted to head. Uh, but now it's starting to really paint that picture and that side of thing.

So, um, I challenge you to say yes. I challenge you to, to go after that opportunity. And as I said at the very, very start of this one today, I didn't really know where we were gonna go with this particular episode, but I'm gonna be honest, I wanted to just get in front of the microphone because it's been way too long and with a few changes in my own world, I plan to get back into this a little bit more consistently in that side of thing.

So stay tuned and I will speak to you shortly. So, yeah.

In today's episode, we are going to dive into adversity and how you can try and get yourself out of it with more ease. I think that is going to be a big part of it and how you can bring back some critical thinking in that process. Welcome everyone. It is Brett Williams from moments of wisdom with Brett Williams.

Today, as I said, we're going to talk about diversity. So perhaps maybe at this point in time, uh, you know, maybe business isn't going so well for yourself or maybe life isn't going so well or whatever it could be. Um, I know I've touched on this in other episodes before, but at the same time, I thought.

Now's a good time because I've been having some conversations with a few people recently and saying that business is a little bit tight. There's a bit of a, I don't know, a bit of a weird energy going on at the moment or whatever it might be. That is, that is causing, uh, businesses to slow down and, and people to be in a bit more of a struggling situation.

Now, of course, there's obviously the economy economic, uh, perspective in there as well. Of course with the likes of COVID and all of the lockdowns is still impacting, uh, clients or like, um, you know, delivery of goods and all of these sorts of things, which is causing issues with business and all of that sort as well.

But, uh, today I just wanted to go into a, I guess, a general overview of, uh, How to bring back in some critical thinking. And some of this has been sparked from a recent couple of comments and one of my YouTube videos, which is actually a slightly different topic, but it sort of brings in some of the principles for today.

And this particular video on my YouTube channel is talking about the three steps to getting over a breakup. Now, the first one in there was very, very applicable to any sort of adversity, uh, when your back's against the wall, all of that side of. You are kind of lost within who you are sometimes because maybe prior to the adversity, you've put all of your identity around being this, that way or the other way about whatever it is, whether that's a status with the business, whether that's your personal status within your social economic or whatever it could be.

And so, as soon as that adversity kicks. All of a sudden that goes out the window, as we say, and at the same point there goes, maybe your confidence, there goes your, your rational and logical thinking because all of a sudden, it's the emotion that's driving the, uh, the process. And so. One of the things that I like to do for myself.

And, you know, in these moments, it can be very, very challenging. And this is something that I spoke about in this particular video is first and foremost, come back to who you are, understand your, your true traits or something that I, I term it as essentially your true traits is who you are at your core.

You could be somebody who is extremely organized. You could be a great listener. You could be somebody who is great at communicating. Uh, you could be somebody who is, you know, a great mum or a great dad, or, you know, a great brother or a great sister or whatever. It could be like these things that. Society in itself, doesn't put any value or weight on, but yet these are the ones to always come back to and put that value in it for yourself.

Because when you can start to remind yourself who you are at your core, then all of a sudden. It starts to bring some of that emotional charge out of it and the emotional drive. And, uh, as I said, the emotions running the show, because if you're constantly thinking, oh gosh, I'm not this, I'm not that well, then all of a sudden you are going to make a silly mistake.

You're going to end up probably digging a deeper hole than what you needed to. I'm sure. Maybe, maybe the path for yourself in that moment is to go and learn a little bit more pain and, and find out what the lesson is at the bottom of the barrel. I really do hope for yourself that that is not the case.

Um, you know, getting down to a very low emotional state depression and that side of things is not a fun place to be. Um, I know I've been there as well and, uh, it's scary as well. The feeling like you're all alone and to feel as though nobody is around you, that has the strength or the stability, the ability to support you or even understand you is, uh, is a big, massive thing.

So if you are going through any of this right now by yourself, then. Really coming back to understanding who you are at your core is going to be the most valuable and most important thing for yourself, because then that way you are taking control of your own life. And you're not reliant on external factors or external external sources to be able to do that for you.

Go and have conversations with people and bounce ideas off them and be able to understand what their viewpoint is on your situation. I agree, but do not get yourself into a, a whinge Fest or anything like that, unless, yeah. Cool. Maybe it's a minute, two minutes. Get off what you need to off your chest, but then turn it into some more, uh, effective and, uh, logical and critical sort of conversation where you can actually start to get some results and answers for what it is that you're actually looking at.

Uh, you know, whatever challenges that are in your life at that point in time. So. Really understanding who you are at you call. So for me, it's things like I'm a great listener. I'm really patient. I have, I have the ability to be able to communicate. And that's, that's a huge one itself because if you lose the re the, the memory or the belief that you can actually communicate, then no matter what, if your back's against the wall, then you're going to basically shut down and you're not gonna.

Get out of that situation as easily as what you possibly could have, because you're going to forget that you can actually just string a sentence together that could cool. It might be a little bit messy. You might say something is a little bit stupid. You might say something that you kind of didn't want to, whatever it might be.

But at the end of the day, you do have the ability to string a sentence together and ask a question of somebody or to promote something that you're doing or to, whatever it is you have that ability to complete. Secondly coming into, um, being somebody who's resilient. Um, I know for myself over the years, you might look at yourself and go, you know what, I'm just always getting beaten down and laughs against me and stuff like that.

Well, cool. Eh, might've been part of the results and part of the experience that you were having. I'm not going to deny that. Um, but at the same time, like what is the empowering element with it? And I would say that it's the fact that you are resilient, that you keep getting back to. Does it suck to have to keep back, getting back up 100%?

It sucks. It's not fun. It, you can wish that life was some other way, but at the end of the day, if what you're getting out for is important to you get, you know, within yourself. I keep getting up time in and time out. And whether that's business, whether that's family, if you've got kids and you know, you just utilizing the fact that you, you, you're doing it for your kids right now to keep getting up that next morning and just keep moving forward and figuring out how to get another job or figuring out how to start a business or.

Whatever it might be at the end of the day, if that compelling reason that is the reason for you getting up each day is compelling enough. As much as you want to whinge about it right now, you just know that you're going to get back up no matter what. So knowing that you're resilient and owning that fact, knowing that you're somebody who is, who has the ability to figure things out.

We live in a beautiful day and age right now in the sense that information is literally everywhere. It is at your fingertips. I know growing up when we were looking in the, you know, encyclopedias and stuff like that, you would get that one edition come through and then, you know, there'll be a bunch of information in those.

And then all of a sudden that information would go. Uh, become older. So you need to buy the next cycle PDs and you would have to keep topping up the information that way. Whereas obviously it right now, you know what, hopefully even through listening to any of my podcasts, whether at this one or any of the other ones, hopefully you've been able to find something that you're looking for and be able to get that one piece of information that you're chasing right there.

And so we have that ability. So being somebody who will figure. Cool. You've got an issue. You've got a situation, you've got an adversity. It's a simple Google search, a way to find out a way out of that adversity. And so owning that. And not beating yourself up by the fact that that is who you, who you have to be every single time I'm resilient.

Same, same, like the fact that you keep getting knocked down. You keep getting back up at the end of the day. I think if, if we don't have any resilience there in this human experience that we call life is actually going to be extremely challenging. So from that side of things, really just owning all of these elements for yourself.

So, um, when you do start to come back to. Knowing who you are, who you are at your core. What that then allows you to do is to actually start critically thinking and logically thinking about the actual situation that you're in, which may not actually be as bad as what you made it out to be, to start off with.

Then on the flip side, you can actually start roadmapping a plan out of that situation. And whether that is to start reaching out to different places for, for work or whether that's, um, you know, Tidying up, you know, the current environment right now, just to be able to invite people over or whatever it could be, anything, but at the end of the day, you can then start creating that, that critical plan.

So from that side of things is, uh, is all that, so got the cat wanting to get into the office here, but anyway, that being said, I'm going to round it out there. So hopefully you do have some information and value out of here at the end of the day, if you are facing adversity right now, that is the one thing that I want to say first and foremost, come back to knowing who you are, your core.

And from there, you'll be able to have a start, a roadmap and a game plan to get out of there. So that being said, That everything is working well for yourselves and all the best. And thank you for tuning in. If you got value out of this episode, then please by all means, share it, comment it like it. And if you do get value out of any of the other episodes and as a whole, then I strongly appreciate any sort of ratings five-star ratings or anything like that.

Be absolutely amazing. So that being said, guys, really do appreciate it. And I'll speak to you on the next episode.

EP11 - RPBoxed.co - Your own digital marketing agency

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And welcome everybody to another episode of moments of wisdom with Brett Williams. Uh, it has been a minute just having a look here. I can see that the last episode was published on the 8th of April. There has been a lot of things that have going on. It is nearly Christmas. I cannot believe how quickly the rest of this year has definitely gone.

Uh, and this episode today, I want to share a little bit about what has been going on in between that time. And now. Share something a little bit different. Yes. I know in the last number of episodes, we've gone into a number of different mindset elements, but today. I'm going to share a little bit about what I have been up to, and it's a little bit more business focused today.

So if you're somebody who is looking to start an online business and you have no idea where to start, then this episode today is 100% for yourself. If however, you are not somebody that is wanting to do that, then I'm sure you'll still get some value out of this episode, because I will talk a little bit about some of the mindset on challenges and struggles and that side of things itself.

So without further ado, Let us dive into it. Uh, so it has, well today rather is the 26th of November. Uh, so obviously there is some time that has passed. Now. What has Brett Williams been up to? He has been up to a lot of things here has been building and creating some well, I was going to say something that is extremely transformational.

And then I was also gonna say a platform that is extremely transformational. Uh, Is going to transform a lot of people's lives. Now, what is that? That is a business slash product slash brand slash all sorts of things by the name of RPBoxed.co. So if you're wanting to have a look at this, I will put all of the information in the show notes below, but at the end of the day, RPBoxed.co is essentially a franchise law.

Agency. So for those who have been following along sometime, you will have known that I've mentioned a little bit about RP marketing, which side note has now been rebranded to RP agency, uh, in a recent branding restructure and RPAgency basically is a full service online marketing agency. We focus on websites.

We focus on video editing, content creation. Podcast editing. After this episode, I will be sending it off to my editors to tweak and tidy up. Although I also very much like the rural of anyhow, but from that side of things, we have an in-house team of content writers, graphic designers, uh, what else we're going in?

Their ads managers, uh, social media management and a few other situ uh, situations. I know no idea where that word was coming from a few other services in that sense. And also skillsets is what I was actually doing. So from that side of things, RPAgency, or rather now the extension to that, which is now RPBoxed.co is an extension of all the custom client portal and everything that I have been creating over the some, uh, 18 months since coming back from Bali in April last year.

And at the same time, uh, it combines all of my knowledge over the last seven years. Playing in the online space and in different areas from network marketing to affiliate marketing, to coaching, and of course marketing agency and essentially my own business in that sense. So from that side of things, this custom client portal is a one-stop shop for all different services.

So essentially when a client comes on board for, let's say a website. Then they get instant access to this client portal that has all of the information that is required for the service to be taken, uh, to be undertaken. And from that side of things, they complete all the documentation. It goes straight into the system and the team starts working on it with the client, also getting automated notifications as it is progressing when it is ready for their review, the clients for to log back into the portal.

And ultimately to approve as well. So from that side of things, areas a lot of systems, a lot of customization and a heck of a lot of automation and training that is going into the backend of all of the creation. So over the last couple of months, since doing the last upload, I have really been focused.

Leveling that up to another level to be able to launch it to the, to the wider audience, I guess you could say, and who is RPBoxed.co for? Essentially it's for anybody who is wanting to start an online business. Now, one of the things that I'm really focused on, and if you haven't heard before and may or may not have mentioned in a past episode, I cannot remember.

So I'm going to say it again. So for those who are unfamiliar with what RP stands for within the branding itself, it stands for real. People, the focus with RPBoxed.co, which is real people, boxed is a business that allows people to be able to get, uh, started generating income online or secondary income, primary income, whatever it is at a low cost entry point.

So this particular product itself is only $50 Australian. And then $1 per month to keep active. Now, what that actually gives you is many, many, many, many, many different things. Firstly, it obviously gives you access to be able to sell any of the services through your RP boxed agency, such as website development, video editing, podcast, editing, content creation, ma paid marketing.

So like Facebook, Google ads, that sort of things. Uh, what else do we got in there? Animation? Uh, coding will be coming, uh, and a few other things in there. Now, with all of the services that you get to sell through your RPBoxed agency. Not to confuse the two brands. Uh, you get 20% commission on every single service that is sold.

Now, again, as we said, it is a low entry point and the focus here is to really be able to give people. Uh, a no brainer decision to be able to step into business for themselves and start taking back ownership for those who may have actually listened to a previous episode, where I talked about my personal journey in getting into this online space.

I lost my job in the mining industry, my corporate job in 2012. And in that moment I made the conclusion that there's no such thing as job security. Therefore, I must create it myself. And so for me, I personally went off. I guess it deep dive journey of, uh, sheer, uh, obsession is what we'll go with, uh, to actually understand the online game.

And so when you do sign up for your RPBoxed.co agency, you also get access to the RPBoxed.co agents, Community group, you will get access to the training where I will actually teach you how to be able to talk about websites.

What is the differences to how to teach you how to talk about it? All of the video editing, what is the differences in the content creation styles and really. And allow yourself to be able to gather new skills, one, to be able to generate a profit through your RPBoxed.co agency. And secondly, to be able to have translatable skills that can go into other areas of life as well, because there are a lot of people that are moving online these days.

And there is a lot of people that you personally could help either through your friend circles or social circles as they start their own online business. Couple of disclaimers. So this particular business is not network marketing. It is not affiliate marketing. It is more of a franchise like model. Now, the reason why I say it is more like a franchise is the fact that you do not get any benefit in referring anybody into another RPBoxed.co agency.

So from that side of things, it is the only way to be able to generate income. That right. That is perfect. English there by myself. Let me start that sentence one more time. The only way to be able to generate any sort of income through your RPBoxed.co agency is via selling these services that you have access to, which is, as I said, websites, video editing, content creation, uh, Automation, and a number of other services that are in there.

There are about 27 different services in there. Uh, and that is the only way there is no benefit in bringing anybody else on other than the fact that you get to know that you've helped to be able to help somebody else also get out of a financial situation that they may have otherwise. And so there is so much value that is packed into all of this.

You will also, in addition, get your own personal RPBoxed.co, email address to help it be a lot more professional from your side of things and also your own CRM system, to be able to correct it, to be able to track your client progress. In there as well. So from that side of things, this has been a big, big, big, big, big thing.

And now I've had this vision to create this particular product and service for some time now. And it has definitely been, fast-tracked already having a great uptake with a number of people bearing in mind that these products and services only been out for a, what is it? I think two weeks ago, I launched this.

It's been something that I've been working tirelessly and tirelessly. And I know for a fact that is going to transform many, many, many, many lives. Now, as far as the, uh, I guess the next steps, if you are wanting to start your own RPBox agency, or even, you're just curious to know a little bit. Bearing in mind, as I said, it is only $50 Australian and $1 per month Australian to keep active.

So it is a simple, simple decision, and you have the ability to be able to generate 20% commissions off all of the services, which can range anywhere from $50 up to $500 per service. And some of those are recurring as well. So from that. It is realistically a no brainer. And this is a global product and service that will be able to be done anywhere.

Now you may have the question, but yes, Brett, but who is actually going to be doing the building of all of the websites who is going to be the one that is writing the content. Again, as I said earlier, it all links back into the parent agency, which is RPAgency itself and the team behind that. So we have a team of highly skilled individuals who are extremely skilled in their own areas.

And those areas are exactly what we were talking about. All the different services we offer. So from that side of things, you have no qualms. No worries, no stresses, no nothing. You do not need to know how to do this. So from that side of things, it is happy days all around. You get to be able to help out your friends and clients and at no stress from yourself, you basically get an agency overnight with a team already backing you something that has taken me some time to be able to create you, get it overnight.

So fantastic in that regard. So that being said, I'm going to round this one out and we'll dive into the next episode. A little bit later on. So if you are interested in starting your RP box agency, then click the link in the description below or go to RPBoxed.co, and you'll be able to find out some more information.

So that was our RPBoxed.co, let me start from the start. Romeo Papa Bravo, Oscar x-ray echo Delta dot Charlie. That is a phonetic alphabet. If you do know what that is, um, yes. RPBoxed.co, and you'll be able to get more information about how to start your agency today, and you can even sign up there if you truly desire.

So that being said, I appreciate you for tuning into another episode of moments of wisdom with Brett Williams. I look forward to speaking to you shortly.

EP10 - Trusting Yourself

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What's going on, everyone. It is Brett Williams here with another episode of moments of wisdom. With myself, Brett Williams. And on today's episode, I deep dive into trusting yourself. So if you're somebody who struggles to know your intuition struggles, to be able to connect to it, even know what it is, don't know how to trust yourself, anything along those lines.

Then this episode today is exactly. What you need to be listening to. So sit back, relax, enjoy. Let's dive into a couple of those topics that jump into some business conversation. Let's get into the mindset conversation. Let's get into anything else that may come upon this podcast because I'll give you a bit of an insight into the way that I record these.

I plan a little bit, and then I just hit the record button. And we find out what wisdom comes through. These are all one take wonders because I believe in being efficient in that time side of things, but also what it is. It's a lesson for me in trusting myself, trusting that whatever comes through is the right message.

And I think that's probably a fantastic place to start with this. Podcast episode today. And that is about trusting yourself and trusting that whatever you are doing is in the best interest. Now, I want to put a bit of a caveat into that as well. And what the caveat is is when you actually really tune in with yourself and you actually connect with your truth.

That's the thing that I want to put in there. What I'm talking about there is really kind of like your intuition or your inner wisdom. They were the two words that were merged into that one. And so really just knowing what is your truth? What is that thing that is aligned to where you are currently right now, be that against a viewpoint and opinion, something that you need to say, something that you need to share an action or a direction towards your goals or vision or whatever it might be.

What. If it is at the end of the day, that is aligned to your truth and ultimately is your truth. And so that's what I'm talking about here, when I'm referencing about trusting myself, that whatever I share on these podcasts is absolutely perfect. And at the same time that I have the ability to be able to communicate and all of that side, which that in itself, the ability to communicate is a topic for another conversation.

But that being said, When it comes to trusting your intuition and trusting yourself. What I'm talking about there is at the end of the day, when you do anything in life, now, be this in business, be this in person, be this in anything or everything. When it comes to that, ultimately you have to do what you feel most aligned for, and that works for you the most.

And one of the things that you'll see if you've ever noticed this before, with, with anybody around you, it can feel as though you've always got people by your side. But when. Things go wrong at the end of the day, everybody is going to choose themselves. And so you cannot be in a position in life. I believe where you are too dependent on somebody else to be able to give you your guidance, give you your directions and give you the answers that you ultimately need to find inside yourself.

Yes, you can utilize the people around you to the soundboard, especially if you have the right people around you, who can do that in a very neutral perspective and. You know, they also aren't discriminating against your opinions and your vision and your thoughts and feelings and all of that side of things in what you're actually expressing.

And so being able to really trust yourself that you have and can make the right decisions for yourself, be that as I said in business, or be that impersonal will be that relationships or anything along those lines are a really strong, valuable skill resource tool, whatever you might want to think about it to have within yourself.

Because, you know, business and example, when it comes to what is the best thing to move you into the next steps, the next phase, the next growth, the impact that you're wanting to have at the end of the day, when you get to that place. And you are standing in that place of the thing that you want to achieve.

You also want to own every element of the creation of that. And so if you've gone along the way and you've asked, you know, person a, Hey, what do you think about this? And then you've gone down that path and you've asked person B, Hey, what do you think about this in the next stage? And then you go down that path and then at the end of the day, yeah, sure.

You might get to that place where it's financial freedom. It's. Location independence. It's being your own boss, whatever it might be that you're looking for. And I'm speaking specifically, obviously in the business space right now, but when you are standing in that place and you have made it to this quote-unquote destination that you're wanting to get to, the thing is.

You are not going to feel fulfilled within that because at the end of the day, yes, you got to the end goal, but you didn't get to it the way that you wanted to because you've pushed yourself under the bus and you've not even really honoured or acknowledged your own truth or your own beliefs or whatever it might be.

And instead, you've just simply gone off the guidance of other people. Sure. They might have great knowledge and they might be able to fast-track your journey to it. And this is not a conversation around coaching that's. We can have a conversation around that another time, but this is really about just trusting yourself and making sure that at the end of the day.

Yeah, sure. You might be bouncing ideas off other people, but what is your truth to be standing in that place with a wrecking ball behind you as such, because that may be what happens. When you go about it, somebody else's way your truth to be standing there in a, with the, I guess the path behind you, you know, all shining, bright with people's appreciation and cheering you on and all that, because you've done it in a way that is aligned to your soul in the line to your truth.

And that's really the differences here. You know, being very extreme in my examples right now, but at the same time, I'm just wanting to convey that idea. Yes, you can get to the destination, but is that aligned to your truth? And that is the biggest thing that you really want to understand for yourself.

And so a couple of things in regards to your intuition and knowing your truth and being able to connect to it because society is fantastic at confusing. You. As to what is your truth? All of the things happening, I guess you could say in this world, social media relationships, other people's opinions, other people's views, all of that side of things, all of that noise can drown out your own intuition and your own connection with yourself.

And so it just leaves you questioning. Oh, who am I? And what do I know? And what do I like, what do I want, what do I, who am I like, where am I, you know, all of these questions that at the end of the day, it's your responsibility to silence that noise. So you can come back to yourself. And so we do live in a place where it's very easy to be disconnected from ourselves.

It's very easy to not listen to your truth and know what your truth is. Because perhaps in the past you've been in relationships or be it friendships, intimate relationships, workplaces, whatever it might be, where you have actually expressed your truth. Maybe you didn't do it as elegantly or effectively as you would like to have or whatever it might be, or you didn't own it enough.

And somebody in the vicinity of you or somebody you were talking to. Has absolutely 20-year-old part, emotionally, mentally, and verbally for having that viewpoint and having that truth. Now that could be a view of how to do a particular task in the workplace. It could be, you know, just to. What it is for lunch, you know, it could be anything, it could be, you know, seemingly insignificant.

It could be seemingly monstrous, whatever the two are. But at the end of the day, if you've had that experience where you actually spoke your truth and you honoured yourself and somebody has disregarded you and just like emotionally and mentally, as I said destroyed you at that moment. Well, then you're going to not feel safe.

And then when you're not feeling safe to actually express your truth, all of a sudden you start disconnecting from it because it's like, well, I just can't be that person. I just can't express that because heck if I say that, well, then, you know, where's the next. Bombardment of people's viewpoints and things like that coming from.

And so that's one of the first things to really start working through when it comes to being able to connect with your truth and ultimately being able to trust yourself with whatever comes up in life. And what have you actually doing? Whether that, as I said, is a business relationship. Personal, whatever it is, you know, or it could be, as I said, at the very, very start here, my self doing a one-take with a podcast, you know, trusting that wherever this journey takes me and takes you as the listener that it's perfect.

And that the information is right for what comes through right now and that I bring value to the podcast. And that's really what, what it comes back to for myself, at least in this example that I'm talking about right now. And so. When it does come back to really trusting yourself, then all of a sudden you get clearer as the way you're going in life.

You feel back in control of your life, which is a huge thing. And also at the same time, you know, you start creating the life that you ultimately want to be living in that side. And, and again, as I said, that's in any area of life, the other thing that that will do as well, And this is kind of like a, a sucky ball.

Um, a byproduct of it is the fact that it'll actually, it will show up for yourself when you actually need to acknowledge and honour you and speak your truth, even when you really do not want to. Now, what do I mean by when you do not want to when it is something like it may come up in between a friendship or relationship or work relation or whatever it could be, where it's something that the other person may not actually like to hear what it is you about to say now.

Please again, this is a topic for another conversation around communication. This is not about being abusive. This is not about being, um, manipulative. This is not about being narcissistic or anything like that towards the other person. This is just simply saying, you know what, right now, this does not work for me right now.

This is what I want to do. Or this is what I, this is where I'm at. And, and I get that, that might not work for you, but this is where I'm at. And I've got to honour myself because something that I think I've mentioned on the podcast before, and this is the saying that I, that I referenced time and time again with my coaching students and other conversations that come up is that sure.

At the end of the day, you may go to bed with somebody else, but you ultimately go to sleep by yourself. And when you lay your head on that pillow, you need to be comfortable with all of the actions, decisions, choices, communication, everything that you have done that day. You have to be comfortable with that because if you're not comfortable with that, then that's going to start to drive a wedge between yourself and whatever it is in you.

Area of life, McCain, relationship, business, whatever it is, it's going to start driving a wedge between it. You're going to start chuffed, stuffing these things down emotionally. You're going to have all of this baggage that's sitting around you that ultimately one day is going to just blow up in your face.

And so if at the end of the day, you can acknowledge it, honour yourself and say, I spoke my truth today. And I did the best that I could then at the end of the day, as far as I'm concerned in, in my books, you have actually achieved the best thing you possibly could do today. And that's one of them, I guess, conditions.

That's one of the things that's one of the boundaries and guidelines that I live my life. By the end of the day, I asked myself, how did I go today? And I do it from a place of compassion, not from a place of self-destruction. So please. Be mindful of the two differences it's coming from a, did I speak my truth with that?

I know when I knew I needed to speak my truth, even when I knew it was hard at that moment to actually want to speak my truth but did I speak my truth? If yes, fantastic. Pat myself on the back and give me an attaboy really just be proud of me and honour myself for that. And at the same time, like, is there anything you can also still ask?

Is there something else that I could have done differently? You know, how could I have maybe alleviated something a little bit quicker, whatever it is. And it, and again, what that's going to do is strengthen your truth, marshal and your, your self intuition muscle to say, when these situations come up again, this is how I could have handled it better with if I was in a position where I was not emotionally charged or emotionally triggered or emotionally reactive or whatever it could have been depending on how that situation may have played out.

So that being said, I have no idea how long I've been going for right now. I like to keep this kind of bite-sized. So I'm going to round that one out right now. So again, we're talking about trusting yourself that at the end of the day, whatever you do touch, create or decide whatever it is at the end of the day, making sure that it's aligned with your truth because when you do go to bed at night and you lay your head there on the pillow, that you can look at yourself in your mind's eye and say, I did the best that I could today and I was aligned to my truth.

And that's it. So appreciate you for tuning in for another episode of moments of wisdom with Brett Williams, if you did enjoy got value out of this podcast and like it, give it a rating. Ideally a five-star rating. Yes. Do it helped me with boosting these podcasts to make sure that they get out to more people.

And at the same time, check out the other podcast episodes as well. If you have not already, that being said, appreciate you guys. And I will speak to you on another episode.

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EP7 - Being ok with confrontation

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[00:00:00] What's going on Brett Williams here from moments of wisdom with Brett Williams. Now, I appreciate you tuning into this episode and today we're going to go into being okay with confrontation. Now, something that maybe you're avoiding something that, uh, you may have looked at back in the past, and you've kind of thrown yourself under the bus and you just really, haven't been happy with how you've actually held yourself within that.

[00:00:22] Particular conversation. You've walked away feeling as though you've just succumbed to everybody. Else's beliefs and ideas, and you haven't been able to speak your truth. So today I go through some practical experience as to how you be able to move forward, speak your truth and not be afraid of confrontation.

[00:00:43] About seven years ago. I remember being confronted by somebody who at the time I would call a friend in a friend's kitchen when we're at a party. And the confrontation was, he was throwing something in my face that he believed and misunderstood. But one of the things that he said was that he knew that I didn't like confrontation.

[00:01:07] And at the time he was right, he was right. I was somebody who used to be a people pleaser. I would avoid confrontation at all costs. I would try and make sure that I smoothed over the surface of everything and made sure that everybody was happy and liked me. Now, obviously I understand that it comes from some deep wounds that I needed to work through.

[00:01:29] And today I want to talk about what happened last week with being okay with being absolutely abused from somebody who I was, one of the business focuses. It was a client who misunderstood something and was having an absolute go at me. And at the end of the day, I was okay with it. And so what changed between, uh, seven, six, seven years ago to now?

[00:01:55] Well, I've done a lot of work on myself and that's one of the big core things of really, uh, diving into the personal development space. And obviously I do coach as well. I, I support men and women to help them heal past relationship trauma and step into their true self. Um, I've also gone after my own passions and dreams.

[00:02:14] Having moved to Bali about three years ago now. Although right now with everything that's going on in the world, I am back in Perth for the moment. Um, but the thing was, is I really started to take control of my life because I understood that there was a few things that I had within my belief system.

[00:02:31] And also within my, I guess, unconscious behaviors and traits that really didn't serve me. And back then, All I was trying to do is I was trying to be a nice person. I was trying to help out his wife and give her some support. And at the end of the day, I'd left her with the decision to make, to come back to me.

[00:02:49] But clearly somewhere between that conversation with her and, uh, her speaking with him, there was a miscommunication that took place. And ultimately it led to him, confronting me in a kitchen and really abusing me from the perspective of believing that I'd done something wrong. And, um, And wasn't really there.

[00:03:08] And it was empty words of what I was saying when, and in fact it was, I offered the support. And she was the one that was going to come to me when she was ready for it. And so, anyway, that being said back then he was right. I hated confrontation and I would have done anything to be able to avoid it. But sometimes in life, let's be honest.

[00:03:28] You cannot avoid confrontation. You know, even if I think about my past relationship, my ex fiance, you know, there was massive confrontation in that in times. And you know, I was remembering. Just the other day. One of the hardest lessons that she taught me was I remember walking out of the bedroom and there was something that happened that day and she was sitting on the couch and I really wanted to have a conversation about it.

[00:03:50] And I remember walking to the couch and before I'd even cut to the couch and open my mouth, she looked at me, her hand went straight out in front of my face. And she said, the words, that is your issue. Not mine. And that was one of the hardest things since I learned and one of the hardest ones that she taught me.

[00:04:10] And at the end of the day, to some degree, she was right. It was my issue. And so being able, really understand what I was making things mean from the perspective of, if I was the one with the issue, then what's going on for me. And if this isn't working for me, well, then what am I going to change in order to be able to see a different perspective or maybe be able to communicate things in a different way?

[00:04:34] Now, needless to say my, uh, past relationship was prior to a lot of my personal development. So that was a very messy and, uh, tricky time to navigate because I was so naive. I didn't really know this whole thing called personal development. I really didn't know this idea of self-awareness. And I definitely didn't understand, uh, anything about being able to challenge my own beliefs and mindset and all of that sort.

[00:04:57] But, you know, I definitely learned a lot. I got a lot of, uh, I guess. The tough lessons that I then sat with over the coming years to really understand and uncover and work through now. When it comes to working through a past belief or a past situation, then sometimes we can go into kind of like a, uh, you know, a spiral of taking full blame and ownership for it.

[00:05:24] Now, one of the things that I want to invite you to do is really sit from a perspective of observing what actually took place and observing your reaction, observing your response, and being able to just uncover that from a. I guess a disconnected space and something that I use as an analogy from the edge of the pool.

[00:05:44] Now, if you're in the memory, you're in the pool and the water itself is the emotions and you cannot get any distance because you do not know where you start and you stop and the water and the water stops. So being able to get out of the pool and being able to really just sit back and observe the, uh, the situation and going through it now.

[00:06:07] On my journey of self discovery over the last, uh, as I said, six, seven, eight years, thereabouts. Um, I really started out mastering myself. And this is also giving you a bit of an insight. If you have somebody who is going through an abusive relationship or really feeling lost and confused within life, then maybe the part to be me and the, or the, be the man program, uh, through either life adoptions or conscious brothers, which one is the woman's group.

[00:06:34] And the other one is the men's group. Uh, it could very much be the programs for yourself because it starts out with really uncovering all of the things that are going on for you. And we really do need to understand how we think act and react to the world before we can start to understand others. And this is why the other week when this customer was absolutely abusing me for something that he misunderstood.

[00:06:58] And, and I know exactly what I said because I followed a very strict structure for the conversation that we had, but in his interpretation, he believed it was something else. And so. Ultimately, there was nothing that I could say because he wasn't open to listening to me. He wasn't opening open to hearing my perspective.

[00:07:15] And so it just got very, uh, eh, he just raised these boys got very angry and believe that I wasn't listening to him. So anyway, either of the point. It's not to get into the details, but more of a case of my reaction to him versus my reaction to my then friend in the kitchen and in the kitchen, I just shut down.

[00:07:38] I didn't really know what to say. I really was just consumed and, uh, impacted by it and ultimately froze. Now when it came to LA last week, what I realized and what I could see. Is, I could see all of the things in all of the places it's a, where he was coming from. And the reason why I could do that was because I know where I'm coming from.

[00:08:00] Like, I know what, what triggers me. I know what thought processes go through my own head. And I really know myself on a deep level, and I'm very, very self aware from that perspective. And so being able to understand myself. Meant that I could understand him and I could bring more empathy to him. And ultimately, instead of shutting down, like so many of us do, when it comes to confrontation, I was able to still speak and stand my ground on my points, because ultimately I know that I did nothing wrong.

[00:08:33] And so being able to really uncover that for yourself is a massively empowering thing that when you know, how you think act and react, and you're able to be able to disassociate from those within the moment and not be consumed by the emotional reaction that's going on based on the situation that is happening within front of you at that time.

[00:08:54] Well, then all of a sudden you're able to actually be within the conversation and it's not so much with, you know, The confrontation as such now the confrontation aspect or the energy that's coming from that person is not actually directed at you instead. You're just allowing it to flow past you. And you're able to be able to just, uh, stand your, your space, speak your truth.

[00:09:18] And ultimately that's one of the most empowering things in life, because there are some people out there who. No, their unconscious story or their unconscious beliefs are very manipulative and very confrontational. And at the end of the day, no, every conversation is going to be all peaches and rainbows.

[00:09:38] There are going to be times that people are not going to agree with you. And especially when you start to go out after your own dreams, whether it is to create your own business, or maybe it is to leave a relationship or maybe leave a career, whatever it might be. Those actions in themselves, as long as they are aligned with your truth and what it is that you want in your life.

[00:09:58] Well, then you, we're going to potentially conf a conflict, somebody else's viewpoint, which may have them react to you in a certain way and ultimately creating confrontation. And if you're somebody who runs from confrontation, then there's a high chance. It's because you don't actually know who you are and you also don't know your own belief system.

[00:10:19] And you don't know your boundaries. And so in those moments, you feel very easily manipulated because you don't actually know where you stand on the points of view. And so when you can really understand what's going on for yourself, then you're able to, to be less impacted by the words of that other person, if they are attacking you and you're able to just check in and go, you know what?

[00:10:42] No, that's not actually what I believe. This is what I believe. And you're able to speak your truth instead of being place where you may be, he confused and you may be kind of going into the conversation, you know, believing one thing. And then as soon as they say a couple of things, all of a sudden it has you kind of like spinning on your heels with, um, questioning your own belief system.

[00:11:03] And it's like, Oh wow. Did I actually really believe that or not? And now all of a sudden, that's the reason why you hate confrontation. Cause you always overstep yourself and you're always. I find that, um, you, you walk away not being heard and seen and understood, and that's ultimately coming back to a lack of self understanding.

[00:11:24] And so in all of this, the biggest part that I want to say is if you feel as though confrontation is something that scares you. And you try and avoid it at all costs. There is a high chance that you're also unhappy in life because you're living life in such a safe space, and you're only experiencing one element of life.

[00:11:44] You believe what you're currently experiencing is happiness, but at the end of the day, it's not necessarily happiness. What it is. It's a calm and steady environment that has no friction. And so it's your comfort zone that is allowing you to be able to stay in that space. And instead of, of going on, you know, going out on a risk for yourself, chasing your dreams, going and doing what you want traveling, obviously outside of covert, um, Or maybe a relieving, a relationship that you know is not healthy.

[00:12:15] And you're fearful of the people around you, whether it's family, friends, or loved ones around you that are going to be, you know, disagreeing with that decision, all of a sudden you're going to be continuing to live your life for somebody else. If you're fearful of confrontation. And as I said, where it comes down to first and foremost, it's not a case of.

[00:12:36] Statistically enjoying confrontation and going out and looking for it. It's more of a case of just being true and strong within your own identity, your own belief system, knowing how to be able to self regulate and very quickly in the moment regulate your emotions, your mental space, and being able to check in with something that somebody has said and cross reference it with your own belief system.

[00:12:59] So that in that moment you can either stand your ground and say, no. This is what I believe. And instead of so coming to their belief system and ultimately throwing yours in the bin when that's actually not really what you want to do. And so in all of this, I invite you to check in with yourself, you know, how much are you running away from confrontation?

[00:13:23] How much are you running away from creating any resistance at all? And if you actually looked at yourself in the mirror, if you had a real. Conversation with yourself. Are you deeply happy? Are you going to be laying on your death bed when that time comes and really wish that you had have gone after your dreams and not being so scared?

[00:13:45] Because when we can have our biggest fear become reality, then we also realize how strong we are to be able to get through that. And at the same time, it's. Not as bad as what it seems for many years, my biggest fear was being homeless. And I spoke about this in another episode. And one of my things there was being really fearful.

[00:14:09] It wasn't so much about being homeless, but it was more of a case of, uh, giving up on myself. And just rolling over and saying, life's, life's done it. Life's got me. I can't do this anymore. And just giving up, like that's more my biggest fear. Yeah. And so if we focus on something we're ultimately going to create it.

[00:14:28] And over the last year and a half, when I was living in Bali, I created that now, fortunately, I wasn't actually homeless because I knew that I was going to have some tough financial times and I prepaid my rent for a couple of months because I knew that things were going a little bit tight, but ultimately everything else was the case.

[00:14:49] I was struggling with paying bills. I was struggling to even put food on my own table. And in Bali it can be very, very cheap to eat over there, but even there, I was struggling to be able to pay food. And there was a couple of days. In a, in a small window of period, when I was waiting for money to come in from clients that I went with one or two me, it wasn't like I went without.

[00:15:10] And so, um, You know, it was a really challenging time, but at the same point, I knew it was something that I needed to go through because one of the things that I had to confront was trusting within myself that no matter what showed up for me, that I would be okay. And I highly would guess. And I would probably, you know, assume an ask you the question at the same time that that's probably a big part of yourself.

[00:15:41] It's coming back to being able to trust in yourself and going through all of this, perhaps there's been some conversations that have felt confronting and you have not had an elegant way to be able to convey your message. And ultimately it's come back to really bite you in the butt. And you're now losing trust within your own abilities.

[00:16:04] But yet the only way to be able to regain that trust cost is to be able to go through it. Yeah. And find the other areas in life that you can build that trust in. And you can trust yourself and ultimately know that when you actually come back to reconnecting with yourself, understanding, as I said before, how you think act and react.

[00:16:23] Then you will find a way to be able to move through any confronting situation and know that you'll be okay. And so that is a biggest part of it all. And at the same time, if you have not already listened to the episode prior to this, the one titled, if you lost everything, who would you be? That I'd highly recommend that you go ahead after this episode and go and listen to that one, because that in itself is going to feed on what I just said.

[00:16:50] So that being said, I appreciate you for tuning in. And wishing you an amazing day afternoon, night, evening, whatever it is, wherever you are. And I look forward to speaking to you on the next episode.

EP6 - If you lost everything tomorrow who would you be?

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[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to another episode of moments of wisdom with Brett Williams. So in today's episode, I dive into what I have termed as your true trait. And it's really a different perspective on asking yourself the question, who am I? And ultimately, the reason why we want to know what our true traits are, is so that you can be confident and comfortable and centered.

[00:00:20] Within any given moment and ultimately not having your, your worth or anything like that on external things. Because the big question there is what if things were left or what if everything disappeared tomorrow? Who are you? And so knowing your true traits is a really, really powerful thing. So sit back, relax and enjoy.

[00:00:40] If everything was taken away from you tomorrow. Who would you be? That is a really challenging and big question for most people. And it comes back to probably feeling lost, really, really questioning it, maybe falling down a, a dark deep rabbit hole of a dark depressive emotions. And until you find yourself at a rock bottom place where it's almost as though.

[00:01:06] Uh, I'm not going to continue down this path. And then ultimately you just start swinging out a desperation for trying anything and giving them whatever there is showing up a go in. You know, today, my focus here is to talk about something that I've termed as your true traits, as a way to be able to give you more confidence and satisfaction within the moment, and being able to be a happier, more confident.

[00:01:31] And ultimately if everything was to disappear tomorrow, that ultimately you're okay. And that's, and that's really the big part of it because, uh, in the Path 2 BE ME Program and the, BE The Man Program, which is the men's and women's, relationship trauma, healing programs that I work and I run. The first lesson in there is really around who are you.

[00:01:56] But as I say today, I'm going to dive straight into some of the guts of that and talk about the true traits, which is at the core of that question. Who are you? And the reason why it's at the core is because when you're starting to look at that question of who are you, and you can find that at times you start to look at who you believe society thinks you are, and, and really looking at it from the perspective of kind of, you know, I'm a mom.

[00:02:20] I'm a dad. I'm a, whatever your career is. I'm a brother. I'm a sister. And they're all aspects of you, but at the end of the day, they're not actually who you are. And so this idea of true traits really comes back to being able to empower you in the moment and no matter what's going on, it doesn't matter how much money's in your bank account.

[00:02:38] It doesn't matter how many likes you've got on Instagram or social media or. Any platform. Um, you know, it doesn't matter about any of those things because at the end of the day, it's your core, it's your true trades, you know exactly who you are. And, you know, examples of these true traits can be you're somebody who is kind your caring, your resilient, your able to figure something out.

[00:03:01] Like these are things that come with life, lessons and experience, but also at the same time, sometimes they are who you are at your core. And obviously that's where the core traits. The true traits come from, but some of these can be learned as well. Like, I'll give you an example. When I was younger, I used to work security at a number of nightclubs here in Perth and, uh, I was the head Dorman.

[00:03:21] So yeah, ultimately it was my responsibility that, you know, any decisions, it kind of fell on my shoulders and at times, yeah, I'd have comments from some of the other gods of Brett you're too nice. You're too soft. You too, this and. The thing was I tried being an also I tried being a very different person and yeah, it might've got me some instant gratification in that moment, but at the end of the day, it only lasted for a couple of days or even that night.

[00:03:46] And then all of a sudden I'm back to being the kind caring person that I actually am. And so for me, identifying that as one of my true traits is really empowering because all of a sudden, instead of trying to say that there's something wrong with that. Yeah, many, many years ago, I think it was about probably maybe six or seven years ago.

[00:04:04] I actually looked at that and I was like, okay, so I'm going to turn everything that everybody tells me as a weakness into my strengths, because I started to actually own my traits. And from there, I've started to gather more evidence for others, things which are, you know, stacking upon my true traits, which as I say, you know, some of the examples before, like resilience, like, are you somebody who gets.

[00:04:25] Back up. Okay. It might not be as elegant as what you want it to be, or, you know, you might not be as effortless as you want it to be or whatever it is. Yes. But at the end of the day, are you somebody who gets back up and if so, well, and that's one of your true traits as well. And are you somebody who is kind caring and compassionate to those around you?

[00:04:42] Are you somebody who is a good listener? All of these things, I things and aspects of yourself and your identity that no one and no thing can take away from you. So going back to the original question at the start of this episode, you know, if everything was taken away from you tomorrow, who are you? Well, now you've got the idea and you've got the, uh, Awareness of true traits.

[00:05:06] Like you already know who you are. Okay. So you that identity in the social aspect of all the social app identity of the career that you had, or the money in the bank account and the social status and all that sort of stuff may be taken away. So all of a sudden, you're not that anymore. They're not aspects of you, but at the core.

[00:05:26] All of the lessons that you learned in order to be in that space and to get to that space and to obtain all of the things that you had. Those are true traits that are still there because maybe it could be the ability to be able to, uh, organize an event, you know, or maybe you're somebody who walks into a room and just has that energy that really shifts and transforms the room and all of that side of things.

[00:05:48] And so, you know, these are things that too often, what I found is. Our true traits are the things that we downplay the most. And we downplay them the most because we feel as though they just come to us too naturally. And so what I invite you to do, and I invite you to look into it and really own it is the fact of just embracing these and embracing these as skills that you can and tools that you can use at your ability to be able to craft your own reality.

[00:06:18] And I know there has been challenging times that I've been through and I've really like, I mean, I really had to lean on my true traits to remind myself who I was in. Some of those docs was that I was in and it was only knowing those and reconnecting to the rhythm. And maybe sometimes it was a case of grabbing my journal out and just writing.

[00:06:37] Yeah. And, and going, you know, Brett, who are you? What do you bring to the table? Oh, you bring this, you bring that, you bring this, you bring that. And it's like, Oh wow. You know, actually I am. Somebody of value and I am somebody who is valuable. And so being able to reposition and refocus your mind too, I really know who you are at your core is something that will be profoundly empowering for yourself, so that you're ultimately, you know, the best version of yourself in every given moment.

[00:07:05] And. And obviously you can also check in and reign yourself in. If you feel as though you're not actually being your best self in that moment as well. And so I really invite you to have a look into your world and really start to understand, like, what are your true traits? And instead of asking, as I said at the start, instead of asking that question, who are you.

[00:07:25] It's more of a case of like, who are you? Like, what are your true traits? Like who are you at your core, not a case of who are you in this world of social standings and possessions and all of that sort of thing, because that's going to draw blanks every single time. And all of a sudden you're putting the power on things that are external, that ultimately if they disappeared tomorrow, You'd be emotionally screwed and probably mentally screwed as well, because all of a sudden now you're feeling lost, confused, really have no direction and guidance because you're just totally confused.

[00:07:55] And so come back to your true traits, understand what they are for yourself. And it doesn't have to be, you know, it doesn't have to be an 84 book full of them, you know, just three, four, five, or even just one or two, like something that is going to give you enough evidence to be able to remind yourself.

[00:08:12] That you are capable of doing something. And one of the cool basis, uh, true traits that I referenced is the idea of being able to communicate. Now, hindsight for yourself might be coming up and going. Yeah, Brett, but I had this awkward conversation the other day. I stumbled over my words. I felt like an idiot, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, all of this.

[00:08:32] And at the end of the day, that's not the question. The question is, can you. Communicate, can you hold a sentence and kit? What can you construct a sentence? You know, can you convey your ideas? And can you reply to somebody when they construct a sentence? And when they ask a question or they make a comment, the answer is yes.

[00:08:53] Sometimes it's not as elegant as you want it to be, but ultimately the answer is yes. So really being able to own that space as well. Again, we'll give you that more. Confident and grounded centered strength. When you actually stepping into a situation that you may be otherwise fearful of when it comes to a calm conversation with, you know, even right now, it could be conversation with banks.

[00:09:15] It could be a conversation with relationships. It could be conversations with employees or bosses, you know, whatever. There could potentially be a lot of hard conversations going on at the moment. And instead of getting in your head about the fear of the conversation instead, come back to that true core trait of yours that you know, that you can communicate and embracing the fact that sometimes it's a little bit messy and that's okay, but ultimately you can.

[00:09:41] And that's where you'll start to find that strength. And ultimately, as I said, when it comes to, if everything was taken away from you tomorrow, you still have yourself. And by having yourself, it means you can rebuild. It means you can build bigger and ultimately you can have that control within your life to be able to create the results that you want.

[00:10:01] And that is really, you know, the big thing that you wanting to be able to do, because if you're listening to this, then the chances are, you've seen some of my other content, you know, who I'm about, or at least a little bit about. And if not, if it's the first time you're tuning in. Then thank you. I really appreciate it.

[00:10:17] My focus here is to inspire you, to give you a new perspective on something that you may have already considered, or maybe not even considered as well. And so make sure you check out the other episodes as well. That being said, thank you so much for tuning in, and I will speak to you soon.

EP 5 - How happiness transforms your life

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Transcript

[00:00:00] What's going on. It is Brett Williams here. And thank you so much for tuning into another episode here of moments of a wisdom with us, Brett Williams. Today, I want to talk about happiness. Um, and what does happiness outing ultimately mean to yourself? And I'm just sitting here this morning, just watching some YouTube videos and getting my day started and just thinking about a number of things.

[00:00:23] And today is actually a very, uh, Remarkable day for myself. And it's a very, it's going to be a very memorable day. And I guess that's where I was just sitting here. Just thinking about what makes me happy and what does happiness actually mean to myself. And before I get into that, let me just share my little bit of excitement.

[00:00:41] So today's the day that I have five new employees joining the team. Uh, finally shifting from being solo entrepreneur, to being, I guess, business owner and, um, the RP marketing brand is starting to build. So I'm super, super excited and I'm just super grateful and proud and happy about where my life is right now.

[00:01:01] And again, thinking about the contract, that's about where my life was some 12 months ago, if not, uh, probably the only, you know, six months ago. Um, but also at the same time, like looking over there, I guess the course of the last couple of years as well, and just thinking about, you know, What was different then that's different now.

[00:01:21] And ultimately it's coming back to happiness. Now, when it comes to, when I ask people most were with the coaching programs within a life with options or conscious brothers, either the part to be me program or the be the man program, you know, I ask what is it that you want to get out of it? This program at the end of the 12 weeks?

[00:01:39] And the men will say, Oh, well, it'll be happy. The women generally say, I want freedom. Ultimately, it's coming back to a higher level of happiness and you know, why aren't we happy in the moment? And I think one of it is, is just becoming so consumed by where we're at. What we believe is where we should be at.

[00:02:00] And that disconnect between the two. And ultimately what I found over the years is definitely the happiness side of things is really that acceptance of where you're at and being able to accept whether you and look disclaimer here, acceptance and liking are two very different things. You can accept where you're at and not like it.

[00:02:20] And that's actually a really healthy place to be because when you accept where you're at. And you don't like it. You can actually then go, okay. So what are the next steps that I need to take in order to be? I wouldn't change it and stop moving in the direction that I want. So that's a really or place to be.

[00:02:33] And yet, um, It's also the place that, you know, can start to lead towards that happiness and happiness for me is something that really shows up in slowing down and acknowledging where I'm at, what I've been doing and actually acknowledging myself for all of that. And happiness is really a kind of an arbitrary thing that most people are chasing.

[00:02:57] And look, sometimes it's wave it's, you know, some days I'm more happier, then I am others. But the thing is, is can you. Work through whatever's going on for you in that moment and step into a place of happiness. Now, the reason why I say this and in past episodes, I've talked about my fi my financial struggles and, uh, not having money for food and things like this.

[00:03:18] When I was in Bali over the last couple of years, and really confronting my biggest fear, which is the fear of being homeless. Now, when it came to those moments, one of the things that I knew is that I, I had to. Be able to be happy in my given situation. And that situation really sucked. I didn't like it, but I accepted it.

[00:03:43] And that situation was stressful. It was causing a lot of sleepless nights when it came to, you know, as I said, the fear of, you know, not having money for food. And that was a reality for me for a couple of times. And, um, whilst I had prepaid my rent, so I knew I had a place to stay. I didn't necessarily have money for food.

[00:04:02] And there was definitely a few meals that I went without, just because of that situation again. What I said in those episodes, I could have gone out to friends and family, but I knew I needed to confront it for myself, but. The reason why I say that is the biggest thing that I knew was in order for me to be able to change my current reality.

[00:04:19] At that point in time, I needed to understand how to be happy in that situation. And for me, the biggest thing that was holding me back, and perhaps this is something that you experienced as well, is that my happiness would dictate or would. Shift, depending on the amount of money in my bank account. And so for me, I went to a lot of them internal work to really understand, well, why is that?

[00:04:47] And why does my bank account or the number in my bank account have to dictate my level of happiness. And so. The motive behind this was because I knew that at the end of the day in the place that I was in, I wasn't going to be attracting the opportunities that were going to allow me to get out of that position.

[00:05:07] And so for me, maybe it was really, it was, you know, it was my back against the wall. This is the last option. This is what you have to do. It's, there's a quote. And I can't think of who says it at the moment. It's a do the best that you can until you realize that's not enough. And then do what you have to.

[00:05:23] And that was where I'd got to. I realized I'd been doing the best that I could up until that point, but I knew it wasn't what I had to, I actually do. And so in that moment, being able to then go, okay, so what is. Why is my emotions? Why is my happiness attached to the bank account? And then how can I actually detach the two and be happy within that moment?

[00:05:45] And ultimately it was just coming back to knowing who I am, and this is something that I teach in my programs. And whilst it's, you know, it's something that is really powerful in all areas of my life. For me over the years, money had always been something that was, uh, A relationship that was a work in progress.

[00:06:03] Let's put it that way. Um, ever since being 15 and convincing my dad to, uh, to lend me the other half of the money that I needed for my first push bike to my first car. And then all of a sudden one loan after the other. And then next minute is, you know, thousands and thousands of dollars in debt or, you know, hanging over me and that side of things.

[00:06:22] And so for me, the relationship with money was something that was a massive, massive, um, I guess dark hole that I needed to go down so that I can uncover and work out what was actually underneath it. And so in this, uh, journey, it really allowed me to be able to separate the two and separate my own happiness.

[00:06:42] And that number that was in the bank account and realize that at the end of the day, I needed to be happy first before that number in the bank account was actually going to change. And so being able to just really understand who I am and be able to show up in the best version of myself in any given moment led to one opportunity and then led to another opportunity and then led to the next opportunity and all of a sudden their finances and no longer an issue.

[00:07:08] And so one of the things that. You know, I wanted to just open up the conversation within your own mind for yourself is, you know, what dictates your happiness? What are you giving your power away when it comes to being happy? Um, perhaps right now, With all that's going on in the world, perhaps it is also finances as well.

[00:07:29] And I get it. And when the bank account is low, it really limits your options. It really limits your abilities to be able to do things. And that does have an impact emotionally, you know, you can't deny it and. You can't deny that, uh, for some time that it's, it's been something that's possibly held you back and kept you in that, that cycle.

[00:07:51] And to some degree you may also be ha you know, addicted to unconsciously addicted to pain of the cycle. And I knew that there was a degree of it for myself, and I realized that I needed to really break that story and what I'm talking about there, cause that might've come across very confronting is the fact that.

[00:08:11] In some ways we all have a story. In some ways we all have a victim story and in some ways, so way for us to be able to get the love, attention and connection that we otherwise don't get, or a craving in that mode. Um, and so for me, what I knew is part of my victim story was the fact that I kept myself financially broke because it was the only way.

[00:08:33] And only time that I got any, any appreciation or, uh, acknowledgement or. Connection with my father, because my dad wasn't able to emotionally connect with me. He just wasn't, he's just not that guy. He's just not attached to his emotions. He's not in tune with them and it's just not his space and he's not going to change because he's been who he is for so long.

[00:08:54] Um, and that's okay. And I need to accept that. And for me, it was a case of, I realized the unhealthy. A attachment to keeping my find out finances, uh, limited. So that I, at times reached out to him and actually said, Hey dad, can you help me out such and such? And in those moments, that was when there was no judgment.

[00:09:14] That was when there was like, yeah, Brett, I can help you out. You know, I'm here for you and all that sort of thing, which is what I ultimately was craving as a kid. You know, I don't need the finances. I just need to know that you're there for me. Um, But, you know, it is what it is. And yeah, what I realized is I needed to work through that relationship within myself and really uncover, um, you know, The pain that it was creating for myself because it wasn't a healthy thing.

[00:09:40] And for me, that was part of it, which was just validating my beliefs about myself and the belief that I felt about who I was within society and all of this sort of thing. And, you know, perhaps it's in there for yourself, perhaps you're keeping yourself financially broke because in some ways it allows you to be able to fit into the friend circles that's around you, or perhaps it allows you to fit into the.

[00:10:02] The story of the mode of everybody else that thinks about you and whatever it is, the end of the day. Yeah. It doesn't help you. It doesn't serve you. And at the same time, it's really around being able to understand that for yourself and then starting to be able to be happy independent of it, and really start to detach from this story.

[00:10:18] And happiness really is I think the big key to it, because the reason for that is, as I said before, I knew and evidence has shown me, is that, that at the end of the day, Unless you're showing up in life happy. You're not actually going to get the opportunities that is actually going to really change your life.

[00:10:39] And that was one of the biggest things that I knew back then. I knew that, okay, this journey was going to play out the way it's going to play out. I trusted in myself to be able to get through it. And I trusted in myself to really just be happy, no matter what. And the end of the day, you know, your bank account, doesn't, it's more of a mirror of who you are and how you're showing up.

[00:10:59] And so if you're constantly showing up as, you know, the world's against me and all of this side of things, well then your bank, account's probably going to be pretty empty. And there was a part of me that was a little bit like that. Part of me was going through that journey of, you know, this is tough, this is hard.

[00:11:12] I can't do this. Um, but the thing is, is also being able to really challenge the viewpoint on your obvious self, on for yourself, with the evidence of people around you. And so, you know, if it's possible for one person, it's possible for you as well, you just need to figure out what is their belief and what is their.

[00:11:28] Uh, knowledge and wisdom when it comes to that particular thing in life. And so, uh, happiness is, is really a place of, uh, inner peace that allows you to be able to detach from absolutely everything around you and, and ultimately not be impacted. By the world around you so that you're able to be able to show up as the best version of yourself.

[00:11:48] And realistically, that's what, as I said, that's what, you know, the men and women in my coaching programs, that's what they're striving for. And the reason for that is because for so long, their identity and their, their value and their belief themselves has been so attached to the world around them. And whilst you're attached to the world around you, you're at the, at the mercy of the world around you.

[00:12:11] You know, it's like, if, uh, if everybody's happy around me, well then cool. I'll be happy. But if everybody sat around me, well, then I'm going to be sad too. And that's just not a healthy way to live. You've got to be, yeah. Find that place within yourself to be able to self regulate your own emotions, your own happiness, your own mindset, your own.

[00:12:27] Stability within, you know, this world so that you can create what it is that you actually want to create. And that's, that's where that, that idea of, you know, being able to really have peace within side so that you can find that happiness with insight is a really, really key, powerful thing because the end of the day, that's part of the seeds to getting the life that you actually deeply desire.

[00:12:47] And so I hope that, uh, something in here has sparked a bit of a thought within yourself. I, um, I appreciate you for tuning in, and if you do like this podcast and the direction that I'm going with it, and, uh, if you're listening on Apple podcast or any of the other podcasts where you can rate it or leave a comment, then give me the five stars and also leave me a comment down below as well, so that I can see that and, and know that I'm on track.

[00:13:10] And at the end of the day, the focus of this podcast is really just to share some insights and thoughts and stories that I've never showed before. So I appreciate you for tuning in, and I wish you an amazing day.

EP4 - How to cultivate motivation

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[00:00:00] Welcome to another episode of moments of wisdom with Brett Williams. I really appreciate you all for being here and hopefully you're getting some good value out of the previous podcasts. Now, today, I want to talk about motivation and the reason why I want to talk about this one is because this morning I caught up with a mate of mine and we're having a conversation about some of the challenges that he's been facing.

[00:00:20] Some of the desires that he's wanting to get into different areas of, uh, I guess, online business and that sort of thing. And. Um, and I guess the biggest thing that really showed out for me there is the idea of around motivation and, and being motivated to actually take action. And I was sharing with him that, um, you know, my, where I am right now on my journey, I'm so far committed within, uh, the coaching within, within all the businesses.

[00:00:45] Just, I can't stop now. Like the motivation itself there is, is gathered momentum, but. I was emphasizing with where he was at, because I remember when I was at that place of, um, you know, wanting to get started kind of in a limbo place of wanting to change my reality, but at the same time, not really knowing where to start.

[00:01:05] Cause let's be honest in this world. In this day and age, there is so many different opportunities and options out there as to, you know, this one sounds exciting. You know, now maybe I'll do this. Um, Whether it's starting your own coaching business, whether it's going down the affiliate marketing route, whether it's going into network marketing, e-commerce all of these things.

[00:01:26] I've got such a, um, you know, shiny object syndrome about them. Um, And if you're unsure as to where to actually start, it can create a bit of overwhelm. And obviously when you get into that overwhelm stage, you're not going to do anything. And perhaps, maybe you're experiencing this right now, or perhaps you have been experiencing it, or perhaps you even know friends who are experiencing it.

[00:01:47] And that's the thing there when it comes to, uh, obviously not actually taking action in life and, you know, That can start to create this identity and belief about yourself. That you're a procrastinator that you're not, not good at anything and all of this, but yet when it comes back to being able to create the self belief, to be able to take an action.

[00:02:07] One of the things that I always talk about to my clients is look back in your past and think about one or two times, or if you've got a couple more, but you know, at least one or two times that. When you actually committed to something that you actually were able to achieve it. And the reason why I say that is because when it comes to the lack of action, there is a high chance that your caught up in the other belief that says, you know what, I'm going to fail.

[00:02:30] I'm no good at this. I've tried these things in the past and got nowhere and all of that. And that is the story that is ultimately running your actions right in this moment. And so obviously that's not going to support you for taking any action. Now it does come back to having a real conversation with yourself.

[00:02:46] And the biggest part there is being honest and saying, well, am I actually committed? Am I actually really committing to, and at the end of the day, We do have the ability to be able to choose something, give it a good go for a couple of months or thereabouts and, you know, and then go, you know what? This doesn't actually resonate for me.

[00:03:05] This isn't the right thing. Okay, cool. Let's try something else. And I think in there with the combination of the belief that you're going to fail at something, and of course you're going to live out that reality if you're not actually even committed to it. And if you just kind of liking it, you just kind of want to do it.

[00:03:20] Well then of course you are going to create that reality, which says. I'm a failure. I'm not good at things. And then just, just going to validate yourself and all of the social circles around you, who may have otherwise been trying to pull you back down into the, into the fold, because you've expressed that you wanted to do something different.

[00:03:37] And so you're going to prove all of them wrong. And then at the end of the day, all that does is resubmit the belief in the identity for yourself. That it doesn't matter what I try. It's never going to work. And so. It really is about having that real conversation with yourself. Like, am I actually doing this 100%?

[00:03:55] Because when you do have that evidence that you, I could look back upon that says, okay, there's a couple of things that you've done that you're able to actually say, well, I actually fully committed to those and I got the results for me personally. There's a couple of things that I look at. Now going through a primary school, high school, I was never really academic, actually, not even saying never really.

[00:04:16] I wasn't that academic. I was a C D student, a couple of F's or E's or whatever they were called, um, in, I guess the main core subjects maths I was okay. At pretty good at actually. But as far as English science and, and all of those sorts of things, I was absolutely hopeless at, um, and languages and all of that, which, um, for me, you know, I was more the sports, the woodwork, the metal work, automotive workshop, all of that side of things like that was where I really excelled.

[00:04:45] And so for me, after going through high school, I didn't know what I wanted to become. I didn't know what industry that I wanted to get into and because my father was a. Well previously at the time he had been a draftsman in the mining industry and I was all right at tech drawing. I was pretty many mechanically minded.

[00:05:03] So I thought, you know what, okay, I'm going to give this a go. Now, fast forward a couple of years, I got a traineeship with a engineering company. And then after doing my TAFE advanced diploma, I decided to go and do my engineering degree. And so I started my mechanical engineering degree here at Curtin university in Perth.

[00:05:21] And I. I failed. I failed maths multiple times. And for me that was only some mentoring in the belief that I'm no good at this. And so I found the strength and I made the commitment to myself, which I stuck to that a couple of years later, I was going to. Go for it again. And I was going to this time changed the way that I was doing it.

[00:05:45] I was going to do it externally, remotely so that I had more time to be able to focus on it. But I was also going to start back from scratch because when I got into the engineering, um, degree at Curtin, I had some credits from the TAFE. So it meant that I was kind of like second year, we're doing like one or two first year subjects.

[00:06:04] But this time around, I actually decided to go back to Deakin university in Melbourne and I was doing it via correspondence. Now, again, coming back to what I was saying, I was not a high achiever when it comes to school, give me the, you know, the sporting subjects or like the, all of that other stuff. Yeah, I was good at, um, And so what I actually decided to do when it came to the engineering degree, the second time around is I decided to commit, I literally gave it my all I was studying.

[00:06:36] I was committed to it. I was doing all the things that I needed to do in order to be able to achieve. And on the other side of that, after that first year, I ended up walking away with a distinction average. Now. And distinction average in university degree is about 75% plus as an overall Mark on all of the units.

[00:06:55] And for me, that was a real, real game changer when it came to my identity and belief about myself that said that I was no good at these things. And so that is one of the things that I always look back on and I guess have a bit of a check in with myself and it's like, okay, if I'm not getting the results in life right now, Brett, are you really actually going forward?

[00:07:15] Are you really actually committed to it? And I think about how I was committed to that one thing, and I realized that, you know, half the time I'm kind of like dangling my toe in the water. I'm not fully in like I'm not fully going for it. And so in that moment, I'll check in with myself and go, well, of course you're not getting the results because you're not committed.

[00:07:34] Okay. So what would be the possible outcome if I was actually to commit to this? Well, There's a high chance that I would actually get the results that I'm looking for. Okay, cool. So it's time to actually commit. And so another one that I look at as far as a past example that I look upon, uh, to remind myself that when I commit I achieve Dave is a couple of years ago, 2014, I decided to do a bodybuilding competition.

[00:07:59] Now that was fueled initially by a, uh, an unhealthy relationship breakdown and break up. And I. Uh, I wanted to kind of have a moment with, you know, getting back on my ex in some ways and being in the best possible shape that I could possibly be. And, uh, whilst the, that fuel did not last all of the competition prep time, it was what got me started initially.

[00:08:22] And so, uh, either way. I ended up finding another reason as to why I was doing it. And I was doing it for myself to get out of my comfort zone and put myself in a place where was quite literally, you're putting yourself in a very vulnerable state in place. And the whole focus of it is for people to judge you and tell you what you're not doing.

[00:08:42] Right. And so for me, I was like, okay, that's a place that's going to build character. I'm going to do it. And so I look at that and I look at what I achieved whilst I never. Placed anywhere when it came to the top five metals or anything like that in my competition, I still was there. I still walked up on stage and I was in pretty damn good shape.

[00:09:01] And I was so super proud of the commitment that I put to it. And ultimately, because I committed, I got the results. And so, you know, I talk about it at the start, you know, what are the two things that all like one thing at least that you can look upon and go, you know what? I actually put my effort into that and I got the result now.

[00:09:19] I'm sure. You've got something, you know, everybody has something, but there's also a high chance that maybe you've justified it as being a fluke or being lucky or, um, you know, somebody helped you out or something like that. And that's, they might be elements in some of that. But at the end of the day, the whole focus of all of this and everything that I want to share to be able to challenge your mindset and viewpoint is to.

[00:09:45] To allow you to find an empowering perspective of on all aspects in life. Because when you get an, a power and empowering perspective, then all of a sudden you can start taking control back of your life. And until then, you're just going to be constantly creating excuses for yourself since, as to why you not achieving the life that you're achieving.

[00:10:04] And ultimately you're going to be unhappy and. Let's be honest where he to have happiness, we're here to enjoy life. We're here to really embrace all of that. And so you have a choice and you have a choice as the way you view absolutely everything. And so I invite you to have a look into whatever the area is of life, whatever that experience was and see the empowering perspective that when you actually committed.

[00:10:28] To the activity, whatever it was, whether it was academic, whether it was sporting, whether it was a career choice or like a career progression, uh, whatever that was for yourself and actually acknowledge it. And remember it, like bookmark it in your memory to say, this is something that I can use as a tool to get leverage over myself every single time that I believe that I'm not good enough or I'm not achieving.

[00:10:52] And in those moments, ask yourself the questions. Am I actually fully committed to this? Or do I am. Or I'm, I'm more committed to the story of the idea of doing this. And when you can get clear between the two, then you can have that honest conversation with yourself and ultimately get that momentum, momentum, and motivation to get started.

[00:11:10] And so this is something that I do for myself now, because I'm so far committed within my, my direction. It's not as required, but there's still definitely only times when I'm trialing different things and new things like right now, for example, I'm in the process of hiring some assistants, I'm looking in the process of hiring a video editors, website designers, VA in that side of things, I've never hired somebody in my life.

[00:11:36] I've been a solo entrepreneur for all this time. And so now I'm like, okay, well, one thing that I know about myself is that I know how to figure it out. And no matter what comes up, I'll figure it out. And that also comes back to the example that I'm talking about here, knowing within myself, that when I actually fully commit and give it my focus.

[00:11:57] I will get the result. And I accept the fact that it might be a little bit messy. I accept the fact that I'm going to make some mistakes and learn from those and all of that aspect and being able to really work through it. And so I invite you to have a look into it for yourself. Like, are you more attached to the story about the idea of what you want to create in your life, or are you actually committed to actually creating it in your life?

[00:12:17] Because at the end of the day, one thing that I've experienced in the past is that it can be very easy to get. The emotional satisfaction by talking about what it is that you're going to do. But when it comes to actually taking action, then you kind of don't have that motivation anymore because, because you spoke about it with your friends in social circles, it's almost like.

[00:12:39] You've got the endorphin hit that says you've already achieved it because everybody's like, yeah, that'd be great. That'd be awesome. Like, yeah. Woo. You know, I cheering you on and all of that sort of thing. And then, so you've walked away. Hell holding, you're holding your head high. And now all of a sudden you've drained the tank of the desire to do it because you've spoken about it with friends and you've kind of got the endorphin hit.

[00:13:01] And so that can also lead to not taking action within your life, into what direction have you. That you're wanting to go. And so, you know, maybe I invite you as well, keep some of these things to yourself or. Be very selective as to who you actually share your, your thoughts with, perhaps share them with somebody who is going to hold you accountable.

[00:13:21] Like that's a different conversation. And that's one of the things that my mate knows. He knows that I can hold him accountable. And I know where he's, I said to him actually today, I'm like, I hope you're listening to what you're saying. Cause it's not me. You're trying to convince it's yourself. And so those are the sort of things that you're not going to get from friends and family who.

[00:13:40] Kind of not really that committed and don't understand the journey. And so, you know, are you listening to yourself and are you actually trying to convince yourself when you're telling your friends and family that this is what I want to do because at the end of the day, Honestly, they don't necessarily care.

[00:13:56] They might be interested. They might be excited for you, but they are too busy, worried about their own stuff and trying to survive in life or trying to, you know, make it in life for themselves then too. Um, You know, fully be committed to cheering you on. And so that's one of the things to be very mindful.

[00:14:13] And that's one of the reasons why over the last number of years, I think it was good. Couple of years back when I started on this journey, I was kind of declaring to the world that I'm going to take over the world and all of this side of things. And, um, you know, it really. It did two things. One, it gave me that endorphin hit.

[00:14:28] So I ultimately didn't do it. And ultimately sabotage myself with the other thing that I'd actually did as well. Was it actually created a, um, uh, I guess a reason for other people to shoot me down because I didn't have the evidence that said that I could achieve it. And so from that side of things, It was breaking down my confidence and self belief to actually be able to achieve it.

[00:14:49] So ultimately again, I sabotaged myself because it was like, well, what's the point of starting because of course I can't. And so couple of years back, I made the conscious decision to very literally stop telling people about my, my visions and being very mindful about. Telling who I tell and what detail that I tell them.

[00:15:08] And so now it's definitely getting to the point where, um, I can share a little bit more and people actually believe that it's going to happen because of the results that I've already gathered and that side of things. And so, um, But even still, even at this stage, I don't share too much about my focus or my, my visions.

[00:15:24] I definitely don't share it in detail, but, you know, I share it from a different place as well. Like I don't need somebody else to tell me how, how amazing it's going to be or to, to pump up my ego or anything like that in regards to achieving it all. I'm just sharing it cause I'm excited. Cause I know that I'm creating it as well.

[00:15:42] Whereas before. I was sharing it from the point of wanting somebody else to pretty much pump me up and tell me yes, you can do it. And so two very, very different places to be, to be communicating from and to be sharing that, that perspective on. And so, you know, it's really, really powerful for yourself to have that awareness and be able to understand, because at the end of the day, when it comes to motivation, it is an internal game.

[00:16:06] It is not an external thing. You can find motivation in external things, whether you're a family member, like if you've got kids partner or wife, husband, um, all of those runs responsibilities, you can absolutely find motivation externally to yourself, but you've also still got to find that motivation and reasoning within yourself to be able to get leverage on yourself, to take the action because.

[00:16:32] Otherwise, it can start to create resentment towards your family, even though it's an unspoken thing that you have against not against them, you have, uh, created in your mind that says I'm doing this for the family, because that's the way that you've created motivation in your own head. And that's the leverage that you've created on yourself.

[00:16:50] But then if the family doesn't show up in a way that is appreciative of the efforts that you're putting in, in the way that you want them to in that unspoken expectation way. Well then. It's going to create that resentment towards the family. It's going to start driving a wedge and you may not even be consciously aware that you're doing it.

[00:17:09] It's just showing up in the way that you're reacting and behaving towards the family or the family member and all of a sudden now, because you've used them as leverage to get motivation for yourself. They don't know anything about it. Yeah. All they know is that you're just showing up as being somebody who is rude, abrupt, short-tempered, whatever it might be yet.

[00:17:30] When it comes to getting leveraged within yourself, all of a sudden that's a completely different ballpark. All of a sudden, it doesn't matter what anybody else does around you. You can still show up to them 100%. Whereas at the same time you have the leverage on yourself because you're coming from more of a healthier place within yourself because you know that you can do it.

[00:17:49] Because you have the evidence that says, of course you can do it. And so that being said, You know, I hope for yourself that you got a lot of value out of this one. I know I dive through a lot of things. And again, as I said, I invite you to consider and look into your own life, to think of one or two things that you have as evidence that you can get over yourself that says when you.

[00:18:10] Actually focus on something that you can ultimately achieve. The result that you're actually wanting to have, because that in itself is one of the biggest things and the best things that you can do for yourself to be able to get started and start changing your life. So that being said, I appreciate you for tuning in to this episode of.

[00:18:29] Moments of wisdom with Brett Williams, the podcast. I think we're up to episode four here. So that being said, if you got value out of this one, let me know in the comments. If you've got also got value out of this one, then share it with somebody else that you believe will get value out of it as well. And that being said, I appreciate you for listening and I'll see you on the next episode.

[00:18:47] Cheers.