Episode 27 | The Business of Divorce | Guest: Eric Broder, Divorce & Family Law Attorney

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In this week's pivotal episode of "What Nobody Tells Us," we confront the digital elephant in the room: the complex relationship between our children and the behemoth that is social media. As parents, guardians, and mentors, we grapple with questions that keep us up at night: When should our children get their first phone? How do we protect them from predators on the internet? And what about the unseen impacts of social media on their developing minds?

Joining me is Drew Cingel, an award-winning associate professor and researcher from UC Davis' Department of Communication. Drew's area of research examines how human development influences how individuals use media, and how media use influences human development, specifically child and adolescent development. Specifically, he studies the effects of social media on adolescent social-emotional development, children’s learning from media, including television and tablet computers, and the influence of media on child and adolescent moral reasoning. His work has been published in journals such as New Media & Society, Media Psychology, Journal of Media Psychology, Computers in Human Behavior, and the Journal of Children and Media. He has also received funding from the Television Academy, Arts and Sciences Foundation.

Drew and I navigate the treacherous waters of cyberbullying, body image, privacy breaches, and the predatory behaviors lurking behind seemingly innocent quizzes. But it's not all doom and gloom; Drew also highlights the empowering side of social media, where underrepresented voices find community and solace. We examine the regulatory safeguards other countries have implemented and how we might follow suit.

This episode is a wake-up call, a guide, and a beacon of hope, all rolled into one. It's a conversation that could redefine the way you and your family interact with the digital world. So, whether you're a parent to a toddler or a teenager, or simply someone who cares about the future of our society, this is an episode you need to hear.

References:

• Drew's Published Research
• UC Davis' Media Lab 
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Episode Guide:

(00:00) This episode is for parents of adolescent youth with questions about social media
(04:36) Drew talks about the social media impact on our kids
(05:16) Professor David Katz directs human development and media lab at UC Davis
(08:00) There are negative correlations between social media use and aspects of mental health
(12:05) I want to explore the idea of social media addiction, because addiction obviously can
(13:06) Even through adolescence, individuals have not developed self regulation on social media
(16:02) Social media can help adolescents achieve developmental goals when used in a healthy manner
(18:56) The modeling of the behavior is huge. So if we're modeling that behavior for our children
(22:34) Social media can move adolescents toward feeling less socially connected and lonely
(24:04) Study of fake 716 year olds with poor mental health using algorithms
(29:40) Something interesting happened to me on Twitter last week
(30:49) In South Korea, there are some notable differences in social media regulations
(36:12) Media in general tends to negatively influence body image among both males and females
(41:07) Have you seen any positive impact on social media due to pushing back against perfection trends
(45:30) How prevalent is cyberbullying on social media platforms amongst youth
(47:31) Long term effects of cyberbullying on a child's mental health are unclear
(54:12) There is evidence linking social media use to negative impacts on school performance
(57:05) I do want to talk about the positive aspects of developing community within social media
(01:01:59) Social media has made the world so much smaller and in a really good way
(01:03:58) What privacy risks are children and teenagers facing when using social media
(01:07:35) Last week I saw a set of quizzes that could be used by hackers
(01:09:05) What are things that we can do to keep our children safe online

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Raising a strong-willed child can be a roller coaster of emotions, where one minute you're in sync, and the next, you're facing a full-blown rebellion. If this sounds like your life, this week's episode with Bryana Kappadakunnel, CEO of @consciousmommy and Infant-Family Early Childhood Mental Health Specialist, is a must-listen.

We discuss the labels society places on children, such as "strong-willed" or "big-feeling," and how these can impact a child's development. Bryana eloquently dismantles these stereotypes, urging parents to see our children as sensitive beings who are learning to navigate their emotions and the world around them.

During our conversation, I open up about my own challenges parenting our daughter, Tessa. The stories we share are both heartwarming and painfully relatable, highlighting how hard it is to navigate even our own kids' emotional landscape. Bryana gives practical advice, stressing the importance of self-reflection and inner child work for parents. She explains how our reactions to our children often stem from our own past experiences, and how acknowledging this can transform our parenting approach.

The episode isn't just about the challenges. It also celebrates the unique strengths of strong-willed children: Their intelligence, creativity, and potential to become leaders. Bryana's insights encourage us to embrace these qualities and guide our children in using them positively.

Bryana also shares her wealth of knowledge on topics ranging from sibling conflict and discipline alternatives to handling tantrums and boosting self-esteem. Her approach is rooted in conscious parenting; a philosophy that emphasizes understanding and empathy over punishment. That philosophy is also a gentle reminder for parents that taking care of ourselves is NOT selfish; it's essential. It allows us to be present, patient, and more effective in guiding our children.

Whether you're a new parent or have been in the trenches for years, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom and encouragement. It's a call to action to keep calm, parent on, and remember: You're not alone on this wild ride called parenting.

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In today's eye-opening episode of "What Nobody Tells Us," I'm joined by Heather Mackenzie, the innovative co-founder of Hello Divorce, an organization that's revolutionizing the landscape of legal separation. Heather unveils the harsh reality of the divorce industry: a system riddled with inefficiencies, outrageous costs, and a one-size-fits-all approach that often leaves individuals feeling lost and overwhelmed.

Heather and I dive deep into the world of Hello Divorce, an all-online platform offering a la carte services from legal advice to real estate guidance, all geared towards a kinder, more supportive divorce experience. With an average divorce in the U.S. costing $20,000 to $25,000 per person, Hello Divorce emerges as a beacon of hope, providing affordable and empathetic support for those navigating the choppy waters of marital dissolution.

We explore the emotional and financial intricacies of divorce, discussing how Hello Divorce's innovative model allows individuals to retain control over the process. We also touch on the significant role of children in divorce decisions, emphasizing the importance of co-parenting and the well-being of the entire family.

This episode isn't just a conversation; it's a revelation of the hidden barriers people face when considering divorce and the groundbreaking solutions Hello Divorce offers. If you're contemplating the end of a marriage, feeling stuck in the traditional legal system, or simply curious about a more humane approach to separation, this convo is for you.

Listen as we shed light on how Hello Divorce offers a glimpse of a brighter future for those seeking to close one chapter and begin another. And remember, knowledge is power – take notes to empower yourself with the insights and tools that could change the course of your life.

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Episode References:

• Hello Divorce Website
• @hellodivorce
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• New York Times Opinion Piece: "To Be Happy, Marriage Matters More Than Career" by David Brooks

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Have you ever felt like there's an invisible layer of dust covering your life? That no matter how much you clean, you can't seem to shake off a lingering sense of fatigue or dissatisfaction? In the latest episode of the podcast, Christie invites Meredith Sloane, an energy healer with over two decades of experience, to discuss a solution that might just be the deep cleanse your soul has been yearning for.

Meredith introduces us to the concept of energy healing, a practice that transcends the boundaries of conventional medicine and taps into the vibrational power that resides within and all around us. She explains how our energy fields, much like a car left unattended, can accumulate the grime of daily stress, negative interactions, and emotional baggage. This buildup can cloud our vision, dampen our spirits, and even manifest as physical ailments.

But there's hope. Through techniques like rainbow energy healing and Reiki, Meredith guides us through the process of aligning our chakras, the energy centers of the body, to restore balance and clarity. She shares stories of miraculous recoveries, from her sister's stroke to clients overcoming emotional blockages, proving that the benefits of energy work are as tangible as they are mystical.

Christie's engaging conversation with Meredith isn't just thought-provoking; it's an invitation to explore a path less traveled in personal wellness. If you've been feeling stuck, if traditional therapies haven't quite hit the mark, or if you're simply curious about the world of energy healing, this episode is a must-listen.

Tune in to hear Christie and Meredith discuss the transformative power of energy healing, and perhaps, embark on a journey to a clearer, brighter, and more vibrant version of yourself. After all, as Meredith puts it, "We are like magnets, and when we raise our vibration, we pull in things that vibrate at those frequencies."

Ready to dust off your energy field and shine? Listen to the full episode now and unlock the secrets to living your best life.

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Episode References:

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• Meredith @Rainbow_Healing
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• Manifestation Babe

In today's episode, we celebrate the joy of pet ownership while emphasizing the importance of making informed decisions before bringing a furry friend into your life. My guest, Ellie Laks, animal expert and founder of The Gentle Barn animal sanctuary, shares her wealth of knowledge to guide you in finding the perfect pet match.

Ellie and I cover it all. Get your notes app ready because her expertise in unreal. Here's just a taste of the conversation: 

• Ellie shares her background and experience with animals, rescues, and pet matchmaking
• The importance of finding the right pet vs. the consequences of a mismatched pet-owner relationship
• Why shelters are packed with animals, including factors like overbreeding, pandemic returns, and stigmas against certain breeds
• Understand the difference between adopting a rescue animal and shopping for a purebred puppy, along with the pros and cons of each
• An explanation of the adoption process, including rounds of interviews and house visits, and the rationale behind them
• The importance of considering temperament over breed, debunking myths around specific breeds, and understanding the differences between adult dogs and puppies
• Factors to consider in an owner's living situation, such as space availability, outdoor access, and noise level
• Matching a dog's energy level with the family's lifestyle and financial considerations for pet care costs
• Breeds suitable for families with children or elderly individuals and considerations for multi-pet households
• Time commitment, exercise levels, and outdoor activities matching with a dog's needs
• How to address and manage allergic reactions to a new pet
• Health considerations, training aspects, and understanding the expected lifespan of a dog
• Available resources for responsible dog ownership, plus where to find healthy adoptable pets

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Exciting news! I've got a new Amazon storefront where I've curated collections of my must-have kitchen favorites, details of Tessa's room makeover, my go-to cookbooks, and more! Can't wait for you to check out the things I use every day to make Bryan and Tessa dinner, bake yummy treats, tools from my bio-hacking journey, etc. Enjoy!

Now, on to today's episode! Dr. Casey Mercado, Lactation Consultant and Doctor of Nursing Practice, also known as @baremotherhood_ on Instagram, joins me to delve into the essential aspects of breastfeeding preparation and support. From understanding breastfeeding terminology to navigating emotional challenges, Dr. Mercado provides valuable insights and practical advice.

We explore topics such as maintaining a proper latch, managing breastfeeding schedules, addressing sickness, and maintaining milk supply. Join us as we uncover key strategies and dispel common misconceptions to empower mothers on their breastfeeding journey.

Here's a look at what we discuss:

• Preparation Before Baby: Educate yourself, consult a lactation consultant, set realistic expectations, create a support system, prepare a comfortable breastfeeding space, invest in nursing bras and tops, practice good nutrition, stock up on supplies, learn proper latch and positioning, know how to hand express, plan for rest and recovery, have a backup plan, understand baby's cues, build a routine
• Breastfeeding Terminology: Understand colostrum, let-down, and breast pumping
• Benefits of Breastmilk: Learn about breastfeeding's impact on maternal health and its nutritional benefits for the baby
• Breastfeeding Emotions: Address various emotions like anxiety, frustration, and feelings of inadequacy Provide support and encouragement for the breastfeeding journey
• Hunger Cues: Recognize early and late hunger cues in babies
• Proper Latch: Identify signs of a correct latch for successful breastfeeding
• Schedule & Timing: Understand breastfeeding schedules, pumping routines, and handling cluster feeding
• Sickness: Know how to approach illness during breastfeeding and which medications are safe
• Nipple Care: Maintain healthy nipples, address issues like mastitis, and explore helpful products
• Maintaining and Increasing Supply: Strategies for increasing milk supply, including supplements, proper latch, and hydration
• Speed Round on Controversial Topics: Explaining Strawberry breastmilk, nursing twins or triplets, nursing older children, partners drinking breastmilk, donor breastmilk, and more

Contact Casey, learn more & explore her products.

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You've heard me say before that astrology has gotten me through some of the toughest moments in my life with Bryan's health, my career, as a parent... you name it. Astrology, along with numerology (check out my episode with Felicia Bender) and other tools, can guide you along this crazy journey we call life.  

My guest is Donna Flood, longtime astrologer and owner of Unwrap Your Soul. Donna and I have a robust discussion but really keep it simple for astrology first-timers, including:

• Beginner-friendly resources and tools for learning astrology
• Understanding astrology as a metaphysical and spiritual practice
• Understand how zodiac signs are determined and their significance
• What is a birth chart, and why is the time and place of birth crucial?
• Insights into creating and interpreting birth charts
• Understand the roles of sun, moon, and rising signs
• How each sign contributes to an individual's astrological profile
• Explore the influence of planets beyond the sun and moon and their impact on life
• Practical applications of astrology in daily decision-making
• Beginner-friendly practices for incorporating astrology into daily routines
• How to use astrology for self-discovery and understanding personality traits
• Address common misconceptions about astrology
• Where to find Donna and learn more about her work

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I get it. Thinking about death and what to do with your body after you die is something most people avoid. But here's the thing: None of us are getting out of here alive, so you should be as purposeful about your death as you are with your life. It's a big deal, and you shouldn't be pressued to choose (IMHO) antiquated options.

For decades, the funeral industry has made billions of dollars by pushing people down one of two predominant paths: Burial or cremation. Those two options have seemed like the only options for years, and the U.S. cremation rate is expected to increase in the United States from 60.5% in 2023 to 81.4% by 2045, according to the National Funeral Directors Association's (NFDA) 2023 Cremation and Burial Report.

It wasn't always this way. For centuries, the deceased bodies of loved ones were shrouded with cloth, covered with organic material and left to slowly decompose. It wasn't taboo. It wasn't gross. It wasn't shocking. It was the natural process of the body being returned to the earth.

My guest today, Katrina Spade, is CEO of Recompose; a licensed green funeral home specializing in human composting. Katrina was the pioneer in changing the current death care
paradigm. To begin changing the death care paradigm, Recmpose first had to change the law. The Recompose process, known as natural organic reduction or human composting, is now legal in seven states. The team is working hard to legalize it in more states and, eventually, around the world.

Katrina and I have a fascinating, educational, and enlightening conversation around:

• Why human composting is not nearly as taboo as you may think
• The definition of human composting and how it's different than traditional methods
• Why the state of the funeral industry seems so outdated
• Why cremation and burial have long dominated as after-death options
• The impact cremation and burial have on the earth and atmosphere
• How Katrina's design thinking led to Recompose
• How Recompose gained the attention of Wall Street executive in its infancy
• What Recompose's facility entails, from the design, development, and legalization process
• The steps Recompose takes to compost a body 
• Why it's important to talk to your kids and how to do so
• The difference between natural and traditional burial
• Why Gen Z is signing up for Recompose

Huge thanks for Katrina to taking the time to share her wisdom and passion for redefining death care. If want to learn more or pre-emptively sign up for Precompose, visit the Recompose website. 

Fortunately, I don't know much about the ins and outs of divorce. Sure, I've had a few friends get divorced for various reasons -- both good and bad -- but I would never describe myself as a divorce expert. 

So when divorce came up repeatedly as topic you all wanted to hear about (no judgments here), I knew I needed to find an expert guest top break it down. 

Enter Eric Broder, Divorce and Family Law Attorney for Broder, Orland, Murray & DeMattie, a Divorce and Family Law practice in Connecticut, just outside of New York City. Eric and his team manage divorce cases of all types, from high stakes divorces of high-profile Manhattanites to the everyday couple down the street. After 25 years in the business, he has seen and done it all. Not to mention, Eric is one of the good ones; he works to prioritize amicable separations where both parties and their families can move on in healthy ways.

Does that always happen? Certainly not. And we talk about that, too.

In fact, Eric and I cover the gamut:

• The things one should look for when selecting a divorce attorney
• Whether it's crucial to have legal representation during divorce proceedings
• The initial steps one should take when considering divorce
• The most comments reasons people have for getting divorced
• Whether more men or women initiate a divorce
• The importance of documentation in a divorce process and the kind of documents should one gather
• Common mistakes people make when preparing for divorce that could hurt their case
• The different types of divorce, how they differ, and which might be suitable for different situations
• Why the new year, back to school and the start of summer are the most popular times to file for divorce
• The significance of prenuptial agreements in divorce proceedings
  
• The factors that influence child custody decisions
  
• The ins and outs of custody agreements
  
• The role that a child's preference plays in custody decisions, e.g. for older children

Want to learn more from Eric? Find him at CTFamilyLaw.com.

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Let this sink in for a moment: Most of us have no idea what our adult bodies feel like without the effects of alcohol. Even if you only have 1-2 drinks a week, your body is still processing out the alcohol instead of focusing on what it's meant to do: THRIVE. That's what I wanted to do but more and more, even my casual relationship with alcohol felt like it was getting in the way.

Over the past few years, my body hasn't tolerated alcohol nearly as well as it used to, leaving me with awful side effects even after 1-2 "clean" or "low sugar" drinks like a martini or skinny margarita. I'd wake up in the middle of the night pumped full of anxiety and adrenaline, dry-mouthed, replaying the previous nights' innocuous events over and over in my head even though I only had one drink. The next day I'd feel sluggish, slow and gross from lack of sleep, but most of all I'd feel disappointed in myself because I didn't want to drink, BUT I gave in. Again.  

On January 1, 2023, I woke up and something had completely changed in me. I was done drinking alcohol. As in, I did not want one sip. I had HAD IT and didn't want it to occupy space in my brain anymore. So, I completed Dry January without a second thought, but then the pressure came back. I had two drinks with friends in February and it was abundantly clear to me: I don't want to do this or feel this way anymore. So I stopped, but that's where the real journey began. I had fewer than 10 drinks all year but really let loose over the holidays, and I can't tell you how big of a difference I feel... and not in a good way. 

I'm officially back on the no booze train, and I can't wait to see where my alcohol-free life takes me in 2024.

My guest is Karolina Rzadkowolska, an alcohol-free certified coach, speaker, and author of Euphoric: Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier, More Confident You. Karolina not only inspired me to give up alcohol, she enlighted me on so many things I thought I knew (but really didn't) about what happens when you give up alcohol. This conversations dives into all of it:

• What really happens to your body when you drink 
• Why alcohol is a 48-hour experience for your body
• Why so many of us "detox just to retox"  
• Why our society is obsessed with alcohol 
• Identifying the real reasons we drink
• Physical, emotional, cognitive and spiritual changes that occur when you stop drinking
• Why giving up alcohol can change your relationships
• Limiting beliefs and emotions behind why we turn to alcohol
• Research behind the "first sip" stress response
• Tools you can use to stop drinking, even just to take a temporary break