Episode 28: HOSPITAL

Today we explore a story of one woman whose family legacy—in particular her close relationship with her mother whom she lost suddenly to cancer—brought about a life pivot that she was never expecting.

Kaila Merrill joins us today to tell her moving story, from growing up in tiny island town in northern Vermont to a carefree life on the beaches of Australia where she met her future husband, to her whirlwind wedding on Lake Como—one of the last joyful moments she was able to share with her mom—to realizing, while she greived her loss, that her destiny was to run an agrigurismo in Umbria with her Italian husband.

Join us for this insightful, vulnerable, and touching interview. 

Stay at Kaila and her husband Ludovico's agritursimo, Poggio Belvedere, or let hem help you plan the most unforgettable Umbrian vacation at Vero in Italy.

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What if travel doesn't actually change you?

A few weeks ago, we discussed this controversial idea, a conversation inspired by an essay in The New Yorker. (Make sure you listen to that episode first, because we had a lot to say on the topic!)

It turns out, our listeners did too, as we got a lot of feedback on the subject. Today, we share some of it and dig even deeper into the topic.

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What makes a song a good road trip song? This is something Katy has been musing over for several years now.

What better person to ask than a musician who has crossed the country on tour numerous times?

This week, Katy sits down with musician and podcaster John Roderick to talk about the allure of the American road trip, as well as what you should listen to while you are doing it.

John talks about his experience hitchhiking across the US as a recent high school graduate, and even hopping on a freight train, and how it sparked a love for overland travel. Now that his band touring days are over, he has begun taking road trips again, this time with his 90-year-old mother and his 12-year-old daughter.

He also describes how, as a native Alaskan, the continental US often felt like a foreign country growing up and how that was one of the things that encouraged him to begin exploring the country. He also shares his simple strategy for introducing both order and randomness into a road trip, as well as taking you places you wouldn’t otherwise go.

John Roderick is the co-host of Roderick on the Line and Omnibus with Ken Jennings. He is the lead singer and songwriter for The Long Winters and has also toured with the band Harvey Danger. You can find him on his website, Instagram, Facebook, and Threads.

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Tell me about that trip that changed your life... and I'll tell you how you're lying to yourself.

So claims a recent essay in The New Yorker titled The Case Against Travel. In it, author Agnes Callard makes some pretty bold and sweeping assertions, including that travel "turns us into the worst version of ourselves while convincing us that we’re at our best."

Visiting a new place doesn't change the traveler, Callard argues, rather, the traveler changes the place.

While there's certainly a nugget of unpleasant truth in that, the idea that travel simply cannot change you is something both Katy and Tiffany know from experience to be untrue. We discuss and debate the article's points and come away with our own conclusions. 

We'd love to hear your thoughts as will. Send your feedback here and we may share it on a future episode. And don't miss this probing discussion!

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What makes a life meaningful? Can a meaningful death transform an otherwise meaningless life into a meaningful one?

These are just a few of the many ideas touched on in this week's episode, an interview with poet and author Kaveh Akbar. He joins us this week to discuss his new book, Martyr!, released in January 2024 and already a New York Times bestseller. This story follows a "newly sober, orphaned son of Iranian immigrants, guided by the voices of artists, poets, and kings, who embarks on a remarkable search for a family secret that leads him to a terminally ill painter living out her final days in the Brooklyn Museum."

Listen in on this thought-provoking conversation, which explores so many interesting topics, including the difference between collective trauma and individual grief, how discovering his calling as a poet was, in his younger years, what he stayed alive for, and how a morning of writing can be as powerful as a hit of narcotics.

We also continue our exploration of the limitations of languages that was kicked off on last week's episode (which was inspired by a line Katy read in this very book!).

You can find Kaveh on his website or on Instagram. Martyr! is available on Amazon or where ever you buy books.

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A line from a new book by poet Kaveh Akbar sparks the idea for this episode: in a nutshell, does language have the capacity to truly express what we are trying to convey, or is there always something that can't be put into mere words?

Is it true, as Akbar claims, that a photograph can describe what it was, but words can only describe what it was like?

Also, when you speak two languages fluently, or live in two languages, do you naturally have a larger lexicon from which to draw when trying to express yourself? Or does it limit you? What about clichés? Why do we use them, and how do they translate?

Listen to the end to hear some fun foreign words that mean very very specific things that have no equivalent in English. We also talk about our own personal writing tics, descriptive habits we can't stop using in our own writing.

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BOOK: Want to read Tiffany's book, Midnight in the Piazza? Learn more here or order on Amazon.

TOUR ROME: If you're traveling to Rome, don't miss the chance to tour the city with Tiffany as your guide!

How do we discover our passions? Is it a given that we will discover them at all?

And where do they come from? Are they something we are born with and just need to be discovered within ourselves? Or are they triggered by something we are exposed to externally? Or is it a bit of both?

Are there people with incredible innate talent for music or painting, walking around who will never know it because they never sit down at a piano or pick up a brush? Or will a remarkable talent always crop up sooner or later, bidden or unbidden?

We don't have the answers to these questions, but it certainly makes for an interesting discussion. Listen in! And tell us what you think by sending us an email  (or better yet, email us your thoughts recorded in a voice memo.)

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BOOK: Want to read Tiffany's book, Midnight in the Piazza? Learn more here or order on Amazon.

TOUR ROME: If you're traveling to Rome, don't miss the chance to tour the city with Tiffany as your guide!

Is it Covid or are we just getting older?

This week we discuss how the social world seems to have changed drastically in recent years—but is it due to this post-Covid era we're living in, or is it simply because we're getting older?

We wonder:

Is it acceptable now to simply not respond (indefinitely) to text messages? Even if they are from a close friend?

Is it normal to have a sudden social anxiety that you've never experienced before?

Is it easier to create a social circle in mid-life if you have children?

Have the rules of the social world changed because of the technological world we live in?

Listen in, and don't be shy if you have opinions on this matter—email us with your thoughts, we may just share it on a future episode!

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BOOK: Want to read Tiffany's book, Midnight in the Piazza? Learn more here or order on Amazon.

TOUR ROME: If you're traveling to Rome, don't miss the chance to tour the city with Tiffany as your guide!

A little girl feeds crows and gets gifts in return. It’s a wonderful true story that’s gone viral again and again. But where did it come from? As it happens, it comes from this very podcast, when Katy discovered the "Nature Girl" and friend-of-crows herself, Gabi Mann. Katy snapped a photo of her collection of crow gifts—a photo that has now been seen by millions of people around the world.

Hear the exclusive true story of how such a wondrous tale first came to be, before it captivated the entire world. Also, hear tips on how to befriend a crow of your own. 

The full interview with the Nature Girl Gabi Mann can be heard here: Episode 51: CROWS (with Gabi Mann).

Hear a shorter and more concise version of the interview here: Episode 67: CROW GIFTS (with Gabi Mann).

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TOUR ROME: If you're traveling to Rome, don't miss the chance to tour the city with Tiffany as your guide!

It's our annual New Year's Resoultion Recap! Did we do what we promised to do last year? This is always a cringe-worthy moment for us both as we go back and listen to our own hopeful voices promising what we will do... and often they are resolutions we don't even remember making—much less keeping!

Listen in as we report how we did, and of course (because we can't resist), hear us make new resolutions for 2024.

Curious about our previous editions?

You can listen back to them all:

What Did We Promise to Do Last Year?  (2022—>2023)

Books, Horses, Lard and other New Year's Resolutions (2021—>2022)

A New Year Begins: 2021 (2020—>2021)

Venti Venti (2019—>2020)

Resolve (2018—>2019)

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TOUR ROME: If you're traveling to Rome, don't miss the chance to tour the city with Tiffany as your guide!