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    • Technology enhancing sensory experiences for the colorblindArtist Neal Harbison uses tech to translate colors into sounds, enabling him to experience art in a new way, while companies like Train Technologies use technology to reduce emissions and contribute to a sustainable future.

      Technology can help expand our sensory experiences when we face limitations. Neal Harbison, an artist who is colorblind, uses technology to translate colors into sounds. This innovative solution allows him to experience art in a new way, demonstrating the potential of technology to enhance our senses and overcome challenges. Additionally, companies like Train Technologies are using technology to make a significant impact on the environment by reducing emissions and working towards a sustainable future. These examples highlight the power of human-led and tech-powered solutions to create positive change in various aspects of life.

    • An artist hears colors as soundsNeil Harbisson, an artist, transformed his color blindness into an extraordinary ability to hear colors using a device called an electronic eye.

      Neil Harbisson, an artist, turned his disability of not being able to perceive color into an extraordinary ability by developing a device that allows him to hear colors. This device, called an electronic eye, converts colors into sounds and is permanently attached to his head. Neil's obsession with extending his senses led him to attend a lecture by an expert on cybernetics, which sparked the idea for this invention. Since then, Neil has described his experience of hearing color as life-changing. He compares it to going to a concert hall when visiting an art gallery or a nightclub when shopping. Neil's perception of beauty and fashion has also been influenced by his ability to hear color, as he now dresses based on the sounds associated with different colors. Furthermore, Neil can create "sound portraits" of people by identifying the sounds associated with their faces. This unique ability not only allows Neil to perceive colors differently but also translates the sounds he hears into colors in his mind.

    • Exploring the world beyond visible spectrum with technologyTechnology allows individuals to extend their senses and perceive infrared and ultraviolet colors, challenging our perceptions of humanity and offering new insights.

      Artist's use of colors in their compositions may not be as different as we perceive, and technology can help extend human senses beyond the visible spectrum. Neil Harbison, a self-proclaimed cyborg, shares his unique ability to perceive infrared and ultraviolet colors through technology and encourages others to extend their senses and knowledge. Todd Kaiken, a doctor and researcher, pushes the boundaries of human capabilities through bionic technology. These individuals challenge our perceptions of what it means to be human and show how technology can enhance our sensory experiences. By embracing technology and pushing the limits of our senses, we can gain new insights and perspectives on the world around us.

    • Enabling intuitive prosthetic control through body modificationResearchers are rewiring nerves to muscles to allow amputees to control prosthetics more naturally, amplifying signals and tricking the brain into thinking a hand is still present

      Researchers are making significant strides in enabling amputees to control prosthetic limbs more intuitively, not just by making machines for humans, but by changing the human body to better use the technology. This is achieved through targeted re-innervation, where nerves are rewired to other muscles, allowing the brain to send signals to control the prosthetic limb as if it were a natural body part. This involves amplifying nerve signals using muscles and then interpreting those signals to move the prosthetic limb. The ultimate goal is to trick the brain into thinking a hand is still there, providing a more seamless and natural experience for amputees. This groundbreaking research holds great promise for improving the lives of amputees and bringing us closer to the bionic human future.

    • Amputees Regain High Functionality with Advanced Prosthetics and Nerve ReroutingAmputees are regaining natural hand movements and fine motor control through advanced prosthetics and nerve rerouting technology, enabling them to perform complex tasks and even sense and touch.

      Advanced technology and science are enabling people with amputations to regain a high level of functionality and even sensation through the use of rewired nerves and advanced prosthetics. Amanda, a car accident victim who lost her arm, underwent a groundbreaking procedure where her nerves were rerouted to control a prosthetic hand. This innovation allowed her to perform natural movements like closing her hand without consciously contracting her biceps. Researchers have also developed computer decoding algorithms that can interpret signals from the muscle to decode specific hand movements, enabling fine motor control. This technology is not only functional but also allows for unique abilities, such as rotating the wrist 360 degrees. Moreover, these advancements are bringing prosthetic hands closer to feeling and functioning like real human hands, as they can now sense and touch. The future of this technology holds even more promise, with potential applications for people with disabilities and the possibility of enhancing human abilities. Despite these advancements, the essence of humanity remains in our minds and thoughts, and technology will not replace that.

    • The Power of Personal Connection in Sensory ExperiencesEven in the absence of full sensory feedback, personal connection can be derived from basic sensory experiences like touch or voice. Technology can be used to create customized sensory experiences that preserve unique identities and enhance personal connection.

      Identity and personal connection can be derived from even the most basic sensory experiences, such as touch or voice. In the first part of the discussion, Todd Kaiken shares how a man with a prosthetic hand still experiences a sense of connection when touching his child's hand, despite the lack of full sensory feedback. This illustrates that the fidelity of the feeling may not be as important as the identity of the feeling and the fact that it's one's own hand making the connection. In the second part, the discussion shifts to the topic of voice and communication. Rupel Patel explains how people with speech disorders have unique vocal identities, yet they are often given generic synthetic voices that don't fit their bodies or personalities. Patel and her team have developed a technology to create customized voices for these individuals using their residual vocal abilities as a starting point. This not only provides a more personalized communication experience but also helps to preserve their unique vocal identity. Both examples highlight the importance of identity and personal connection in our sensory experiences, whether it be through touch or voice. Even in the absence of full sensory feedback, the fact that the experience is one's own can be a powerful source of connection and meaning.

    • Creating Human-Like Voices for Disabled IndividualsSpeech technology enhances self-confidence and changes perceptions for disabled individuals by creating more human-like voices, enabling effective communication and social inclusion.

      Technology is making a significant impact on people's lives, particularly for those who have difficulty communicating. Speech scientist Rupo Patel creates devices that help people with disabilities produce more human-like voices, allowing them to express themselves more effectively. This technology not only enhances their confidence but also changes how others perceive them. Thirteen-year-old Shannon Ward, who was born with cerebral palsy, recently received her own voice, built on the vowel-like sounds she can make. Shannon's mother, Janine, shares that her daughter's new voice has increased her confidence and desire to use her device more frequently. Additionally, her friends and others now perceive her differently when they hear a voice that sounds like a 13-year-old girl, rather than a robotic adult voice. This technology is opening new doors for individuals with communication challenges, allowing them to engage more fully with the world around them.

    • Giving Voices to the Voiceless through TechnologyTechnology can help give voices to those in need and enhance our experiences through conscious listening, promoting relaxation and reducing crime.

      Technology and sound have the power to enhance and transform our experiences in ways we may not even realize. Rupo Patel, a speech scientist, is working on giving voices to those who need them through voice donation, allowing individuals to have voices that reflect their unique personalities and experiences. Julian Treasure, another expert, emphasizes the importance of conscious listening and how sound can positively impact our lives, from reducing crime to promoting relaxation. By embracing technology and being more mindful of our senses, we can make a significant difference in our own lives and the lives of others.

    • Effective Listening: A Crucial Yet Neglected SkillImprove listening skills by recognizing patterns, focusing on differences, and overcoming internal and external obstacles for better communication and understanding

      Effective listening is a crucial yet often neglected skill in our daily lives. We spend a majority of our communication time listening, but unfortunately, we don't listen well. We retain only 25% of what we hear. Listening involves making meaning from sound and requires mental effort. Techniques like pattern recognition and focusing on differences help us distinguish important information from noise. However, our environment and personal biases can hinder our listening abilities. External factors like noise pollution and open office spaces can decrease productivity and cause health issues. Internal factors, such as not asking questions or focusing on our inner monologue, can also prevent effective listening. Moreover, gender differences in listening styles can lead to misunderstandings. By being conscious of these obstacles and actively working to improve our listening skills, we can foster better communication and understanding in our personal and professional relationships.

    • Practicing conscious listeningImprove listening skills through silence, identifying sounds, and using RASA technique. Listen as a generous gift to others and transform relationships and understanding.

      Conscious listening is a powerful skill that can be improved through simple exercises like practicing silence, identifying multiple channels of sound, and using the RASA technique (Receive, Appreciate, Summarize, Ask). Julian Treasure, the chairman of the Sound Agency, emphasizes the importance of listening as a generous gift to others and a crucial aspect of connection and understanding in our physical, emotional, and spiritual lives. He believes that teaching conscious listening in schools could transform the world into a more connected, peaceful place. By practicing these techniques, we can enhance our ability to listen fully and effectively, leading to deeper relationships and a greater appreciation of the world around us.

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    In closing, I’d love to hear any thoughts you have about today’s episode. I hope your thinking was stimulated by today’s show, enough to put into practice what you’ve just heard. Reach out to someone in a relationship transition to let them know you care.

    For when you do, it will help you experience the joy of relationships God intends for you. Because after all, You Were Made for This.

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    A few weeks ago Episode 125, dropped, How to Relate When They Come Home From College. It evoked interesting responses from two listeners. If you missed that episode, I’ll have a link to it at the bottom of the show notes.

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    Second listener response

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    “We told him the last time he was home about this tradition you had started and how we wanted it to live on for him! So the legacy continues. Pizza upon arrival home from college!

    “Thanks for making my childhood (and into adulthood) so great!. I love you…”

    Her response really touched me in thanking me for making her childhood a great one. My wife Janet played a huge part in that, too.

    It also touched me that she appreciated this pizza tradition that she wanted to carry forward with her son. Nathan loves pizza anyway, but to know one was awaiting him when he returned home from college for his fall break brought me joy.

    My legacy

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    Here lies John Certalic

    He made pizza possible

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    So what does all this mean for YOU?

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    While it’s wonderful to be on the receiving end of memories others create for us; we can be thankful we can make memories for others ourselves. It will bring out the best in us as we create an experience someone will remember for the rest of their life.

    And it’s never too late to start. My mother created that memory I mentioned for me when she was in her 60s.

    My son and his wife created a memory a number of years ago their three kids will remember the rest of their lives. It started when they were all in elementary school. On the last day of school, when the school bus dropped

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    A memory that topped all others

    The June 2020 water soaking was the best ever. The twin boys had just finished their senior year of high school, and their sister 10th grade. On that last day of school, they came home in a car they shared. As they approached their home and drove into their driveway, they were greeted by two firetrucks on the road that sprayed their car with water. And then each of them as they got out of the vehicle. It was the mother of all end-of-school-year memories!

    I wrote about it in a Father’s Day blog post for June 2020. Click here if you’d like to read more about it.

    All this to say, what memories can you create for someone this month? Perhaps even to apologize to someone who least expects it, just as my mother did for me.

    It’s an important relational principle that we can be thankful we can make memories that will enrich someone’s life. It’s a great way to celebrate Thanksgiving Day and every day.

    Here’s the main point I hope you remember from today’s episode

    We can be thankful we can make memories for people. It’s never too late to start. It’s a privilege to bless someone else in ways they will remember for the rest of their lives.

    I’d love to hear any thoughts you have about today’s episode. Just send them to me in an email to john [at] caringforothers [dot] org. Or you can share your thoughts in the “Leave a Comment” box at the bottom of the show notes.

    Closing

    I hope your thinking was stimulated by today’s show, to both reflect and to make a memory for someone. When you do, you will find some of the joy God intends for you through your relationships. Because after all, You Were Made for This.

    Well, that’s all for today. I look forward to being with you again next week. Goodbye for now.

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    112: Three Ways to Listen Well in 2021

    112: Three Ways to Listen Well in 2021

    Hello everyone and welcome to episode 112, Three Ways to Listen Well in 2021.

    When I give workshops on how to listen well I like to give examples of both good and bad listening. I usually use samples of both from Facebook posts or catchy cartoons. But these are just visual. What I really would like to use for examples would be video clips from both ends of the listening spectrum. Sometimes movie excerpts will work for this, but the best examples are from real-life encounters between people.

    If Janet and I are in a restaurant or in a crowd of people I will sometimes say, “I wish I could make a video of those people over there and how they’re engaging with each other.” We run into all kinds of bad examples of people talking over each other, drawing attention to themselves, quickly changing the subject, and missed opportunities for connection. These are all too common.

    But I recently witnessed a brief, but beautiful interaction between two strangers at a high school graduation party I wish I could have recorded. It would make my highlight reel of how to listen well. Stay with me now as I describe what happened because it will give you an idea or two for how you can listen well to the people in your life.

    Listener responses to a prior episode

    Before I describe the story of this interaction, I want to share a response from a listener to episode 106, How to Have a Great Family Vacation in 2021.

    John, Good morning. Thanks for today’s podcast. Where were you 25 years ago? This would have [served me well then] and will serve me, well going forward.

    This is the episode where I offered a free downloadable pdf entitled 5 Keys to Making Your Family Vacation the Best Ever in 2021.  Click here if you haven’t gotten your copy.

    Now for today’s story of great listening

    The scene
    • In South Carolina to attend our grandson Nathan’s high school graduation
    • Later in the day, his best friend’s parents invited all of us to their house for a small graduation party. Just two extended families.
    • Didn’t know the host at all. I’ll call him Dave. Nice guy.
    • Most of us were in the backyard, and Dave took a break from cooking on the grill and sat down on a patio chair to rest for a bit and talk with his guests.
    Transparent expression of grief

    Out of the blue, he wistfully remarked,

    “I remember 9 years ago I was on the campus of my alma mater thinking, someday my son Jason [not his real name] will leave home and will be walking on a campus like this. Now in just a few months, that’s going to happen.

    I’m not ready for this.”

    How do you listen well to a comment like this?

    Response to vulnerability
    • At first, there was no response to this heartfelt expression of loss. “I’m not ready for my son to leave home for college 700 miles away.” Just silence from the guests
    • Myself included.  Then I started remembering how I had similar feelings as Dave when our kids went off to college many years ago. And now just last fall with our twin grandsons
    • I was flooded with remembering the initial sadness, and how I wasn’t ready for it either. I also remember the joy that eventually followed. It reminded me a little bit like death, this very stark jump from one stage of parenting I was comfortable with, to an entirely new stage I knew nothing about.
    • I really felt for the guy.
    The ORA principle: Observe. Remember. Act

    Breaking the silence was my wife Janet’s response to Dave, a complete stranger.

    “Yeah, and then they come home for a weekend visit from college, and sometime on Sunday they announce, ‘Well, I guess it’s time for me to head back home.’

    “Home???? Your college dorm room is now home???? What about THIS place, isn’t this your home?”

    Observe

    Janet paid attention to the words Dave spoke, but also to the feelings he expressed in saying those words. She saw them in his body language. He was grieving. He was feeling the loss of his son. Life will not be the same in a few months.

    Remember

    In responding to Dave, Janet later told me she was intentional about applying what she learned in I Hear You the book I reviewed in episode 105, How to Listen Better

    Janet remembered what it was like for her when our kids went off to college. She remembered her feelings, which allowed her to more closely identify with his.

    Act
    • Janet acted by putting into practice the central thesis of the I Hear You book by affirming Dave’s feeling of loss and sadness over bringing to a close the only chapter of parenting he knew. Her comment about when a child starts calling his dorm room home, and how surprising that is to a parent, showed she understood Dave’s feelings. She normalized his emotions, which is a powerful way to affirm what someone is feeling. And she did it without saying, “that’s normal."
    • Instead, Janet showed Dave it was normal by her comments which so aligned with his.
    • She refrained from interjecting her story into his. She refrained from re-living that painful part of parenting.
    • Janet kept the focus on him, by keeping it off of herself.
    • She did the hard work of refraining from giving advice, and of just being quiet in this tender moment.
    • Janet acted by holding back advice like, you’ll get over it soon. It’s every parents’ job to guide their child to independence.
    • “Never miss a good chance to shut up.” ~ W.C. Fields
    So what does all this mean for YOU?

    How can you use what you’ve heard today to improve the relationships in YOUR life? Here are a few ideas:

    Lots of parents are like Dave this time of year, thinking about their kid going off to college. Be kind to them. Watch out for them.

    Listen to episode 69, When Our Kids Go Off to School for The First Time.  It offers a suggestion like this:

    Call a parent who just got back from taking their kid to college and hauling their boxes of stuff to their first dorm room. “How did it go for you?”

    You can also send a card or note in the mail that says something like this:

    “I’ve been thinking about you, and praying for you as you process (kids name) heading off to school/college for the first time. I imagine it may be difficult to end one chapter of parenting, and entering this new unknown one.” Something like that.

    We have opportunities to bless people with our words. God can use us in this capacity. Take advantage of these opportunities.

    Here’s the main point of today’s episode

    The first thing to do to listen well to someone is to affirm their feelings without presenting a silver lining to their dark cloud. The second thing is avoid interjecting your own story into theirs.

    I’d love to hear any thoughts you have about today’s episode. Just send them to me in an email to john [at] caringforothers [dot] org. You can also share your thoughts in the “Leave a Reply” box at the bottom of the show notes.

    I’m especially interested in any experiences you’ve had as described in today’s show, and how you handled that experience.

    Closing

    In closing, if you found the podcast helpful, please subscribe if you haven’t already done so. You can also help us to serve more people when you leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.

    I hope your thinking was stimulated by today’s show, to both reflect and to act. So that you will find the joy God intends for you through your relationships. Because after all, You Were Made for This.
    Well, that’s all for today. I look forward to connecting with you again next week. Goodbye for now.

    Related episodes you may want to listen to

    106, How to Have a Great Family Vacation in 2021

    105, How to Listen Better

    069, When Our Kids Go Off to School for The First Time. 

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