"F*ck it! Someone's going to have an issue with it..."

Hiatus Replay!
Season 3 Episode 2
Original air date: 01/16/2023

My friend and guest, Gary Hogener joins me in this episode to discuss all his experiences he's had to date: veteran, law enforcement officer, educator, security consultant, security guard. I'm grateful for Gary agreeing to join me.

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: discussion of combat experiences, suicide, and PTSD symptoms.
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Resources for support:

ResponderStrong
https://responderstrong.org/

All Clear Foundation
https://allclearfoundation.org/

CopLine
https://www.copline.org/

NVFC
https://www.nvfc.org/

Veteran Crisis Line
https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/

Sebastian Younger documentary:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Restrepo_(film)
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

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Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 12

The final episode in this first season of Women & Their Tattoos, and it's a whopper at just under an hour. Bhavna and I are talking about so many experiences in our lives and our tattoos. So grab your favorite beverage and enjoy!

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners:  trauma, suicidal ideation, stalking/violence against women, racism, domestic violence.

Bhavna talks passionately about Working with Leadership, HR advisors and EAPS and has helped senior leadership in organizations address their Well-being strategies by creating happy, safe and nurturing environments where both employees and the company can thrive. 

From her work as an accredited Psychotherapist, Coach, Speaker, Critical Incident Debriefer and Trainer with 30 years’ experience in serving 19k clients globally with professional help, Bhavna has supported managers and organizations to bring dignity, empathy and compassion back into the workplace and reduce the impact on Mental Health from Racism and Discrimination Towards the BAME LGBTQ+ Community and Well-Being strategies and Creating Better Organizational Cultures with clients including major Police Forces and Retail chains in the UK. 

Bhavna is a UN Women's UK CSW68 Delegate and will be adding her voice and advocacy for disadvantaged women and girls to the conference sessions. 

Bhavna frequently guests on Radio, international podcasts and speaks at conferences sharing lessons from her personal Coming Out journey especially as an academically accomplished Indian Woman, in a frequently exclusive field.

She is a sought after speaker on webinars and panels, speaking about Mental Health, Suicide and Relationships as well as Championing LGBTQ+ Employee Mental Health and Well-Being internationally. 

Bhavna has also been commissioned to write articles on Stress, LGBTQ+ issues, Mental Health, Journaling, Bullying and Grief for a leading Mental Health magazine as an Expert Columnist and as a contributor for Hello! Magazine as well as a regular contributor to the BACP’s resource library of articles and educational videos for the public.
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

Hiatus Replay 2024!
Season 3 Episode 1
Original air date: 01/09/2023

No. 1 Child is back and we're discussing all sorts of things that frustrates folx in finding a therapist. We also discuss the documentary, Stutz as well as what it means to be raised by flawed humans.

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: trauma, family of origin issues, suicide/suicidal ideation.

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More Seneca info:
When Seneca isn't being sassy Number One Child co-host, she's busy earning a living in areas of finance that her mother still doesn't quite understand.  

Outside of work, Seneca is a licensed cosmetologist and makeup artist.

Seneca’s hobbies include studying latest fashion trends, going hiking and fishing as well as baking and cooking.
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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. If you are in need of assistance for mental health services, please check with your PCP, your insurance provider or an online therapist directory for the nearest mental health professional.
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

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Extra Fucking Special Series
Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 11

It was such a pleasure to host Sam Shepherd in discussing her tattoos and journey on the way to get them!

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: discussion of  depression, trauma.

More info on Sam:
Samantha Shepherd is a LMFT who lives in San Diego, CA. She is multiracial, a member of the latinx community, and bilingual in Spanish. "I show up as my authentic self to therapy so my clients can. I love working with individuals who are ready to make some changes in their life. I am not a "one-size-fits-all" type of therapist and that's what I fucking love about my work. I work with different issues such as trauma, attachment styles, cultural identity, first generation college students, etc. I'm just getting started opening my private practice and I'm looking forward to serving more of my community."

If The Couch Could Speak Podcast
https://open.spotify.com/show/4VlB5Bfzj8n0GSeGNYPGA7

Charles Bukowski
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Bukowski

Henry Rollins
https://www.henryrollins.com/

Rene Magritte
https://www.moma.org/artists/3692

Banksy
https://www.banksy.co.uk/

Grave of the Fireflies (spoilers)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grave_of_the_Fireflies
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

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Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 10

One of my girls, Kerri, is joining me for the first time on this podcast! We chat about her decision behind getting her tattoos, and process of getting tattoos done. I was pleased that she had the time in her busy schedule to sit and chat with me.

Kerri's info:
"I have a Bachelor's degree in Animal Science with additional course work in food safety and microbiology. While I currently work in grants administration, I've also worked as a project coordinator for a marketing company, a certified pharmacy technician in both retail and hospital settings, and have almost a decade of experience as a barista. When not trying to keep up with my son, I enjoy reading, knitting and crocheting, trying out new recipes, and tackling home renovation projects."
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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. If you are in need of assistance for mental health services, please check with your PCP, your insurance provider or an online therapist directory for the nearest mental health professional.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 20

This is not the usual format of FTRP episode as No. 1 Child and I are wander all over the place, lose our place, laugh quite a bit, and still manage to get out what's upcoming for the hiatus (Season 3, top 10 downloaded episodes), opening up the "Women & Their Tattoos" series in 2024, and what's coming up for Season 5.

And I'm still trying to figure out if I'm going to post video format of the podcast episodes in the near future...

More Seneca info:
When Seneca isn't being sassy Number One Child co-host, she's busy earning a living in areas of finance that her mother still doesn't quite understand.  

Outside of work, Seneca is a licensed cosmetologist and makeup artist.

Seneca’s hobbies include studying latest fashion trends, going hiking and fishing as well as baking and cooking.

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Resources:
World’s Okayest Medic Podcast
Podcast for prehospital medical providers who aren’t looking for a snooze fest. Based out of Delaware, USA

https://www.instagram.com/okmedicpodcast/

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. If you are in need of assistance for mental health services, please check with your PCP, your insurance provider or an online therapist directory for the nearest mental health professional.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 19

I was incredibly fortunate that my guest, Bhavna Raithatha had time on her day off to sit and chat with me for this episode.

Bhavna is a force of nature: teaching, speaking, volunteering. She's got an incredible survival journey through her life of multiple traumas and experienced racism since she was a young girl, and she's using her voice to advocate and educate folx. And even if my power messed up a chunk of the chat with Bhavna, there's so much of her journey she tells that I feel gives yet another perspective of a lived experience.

PLEASE NOTE:
We discuss the following topics that may be distressing to listeners - various trauma experiences, stalking and violence, loss, abuse, medical issues, suicide/suicidal ideation, racism.

More info on Bhavna:
Bhavna Raithatha BSc, MSc, MBACP (Accred) is a Psychotherapist, Supervisor, Speaker, Coach, Critical Debriefer & Trainer, and Pride 365 Champion. Bhavna provides inclusive and affirming therapy for marginalised communities including BAME LGBTQIAA+ individuals. She also provides personalised coaching and support packages to clients at all levels in the corporate, private and voluntary sectors.

Website: www.justbeyourself.co.uk

http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/bhavna-raithatha

https://www.linkedin.com/in/bhavna-raithatha-mindset-coach

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. If you are in need of assistance for mental health services, please check with your PCP, your insurance provider or an online therapist directory for the nearest mental health professional.
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 18

My guest, Sarah Wagener, tLMHC is back for another episode. It's the final episode in the series "WTF Is (therapy type)?" In Season 4.

Sarah is working specifically in perinatal care and reproductive health, in addition to several other behavioral health disorders, and I knew I wanted to chat with her about her what perinatal mental health looks like in her office and educating other health professionals, as well as discussing Trauma Informed Care.

PLEASE NOTE:
We discuss the following topics that may be distressing to listeners - various trauma experiences, pregnancy/birth, loss, abuse.

More info on Sarah:
Sarah is a mental health counselor located in Davenport, Iowa, where she was born and raised. She specializes in perinatal mental health, which encompasses mental health during or after pregnancy, birth trauma, postpartum, infertility, and loss. Sarah came to perinatal mental health through her prior work in labor, delivery, and postpartum as a registered nurse. She also offers an area of speciality for healthcare workers. Sarah runs Wagener Therapy with her husband Brandal, who is also a mental health counselor. In her spare time, she enjoys loving on her two dogs, reading, playing video games, and buying more plants than she has the space for.

Resources
Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net

Wagener Therapy: wagenertherapy.com

Trauma Informed Care Resources for Providers:
What Is Trauma Informed Care?
https://www.traumainformedcare.chcs.org/what-is-trauma-informed-care/

Trauma Informed Care: A Sociocultural Perspective
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207195/


Trauma Informed Care in Behavioral Health Services (pdf)
https://store.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/sma15-4420.pdf


Infographic: 6 Guiding Principles To A Trauma-Informed Approach
https://www.cdc.gov/orr/infographics/6_principles_trauma_info.htm

Trauma Informed Care Resources for Patients:
How to Find a Trauma-Informed Provider and Get Safe, Supportive Care
https://www.goodrx.com/healthcare-access/patient-advocacy/what-is-trauma-informed-care

The Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center provides for patients a Request For Trauma Informed Care form:
https://www.bidmc.org/-/media/files/beth-israel-org/centers-and-departments/social-work/center-for-violence-prevention-and-recovery/bidmc-cvpr-request-trauma-informed-care-card-04272

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. If you are in need of assistance for mental health services, please check with your PCP, your insurance provider or an online therapist directory for the nearest mental health professional.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

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Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 9

Alex joins me once again on this podcast, this time to talk about her tattoos, women's voices, body rights and autonomy, and fucking the patriarch attitude!

PLEASE NOTE - we discuss various topics that may distress listeners: trauma, abuse, bullying, loss and grief.

More info about Alex:
Alexandra Skinner Walsh is a licensed mental health counselor, speaker, The M.A.D. Beyond ecourse & merch creator, and owner of The M.A.D. Therapy in Bettendorf, Iowa. She is a strong advocate for mental health awareness. From local new stations to USA Today, she strives to educate and empower.  Alex has focused her career on challenging the scripts of those who have been told they are not enough as they are with the mission of helping people find, own and share their authentic, M.A.D. self. You can learn more about Alexandra and her mental health practice at TheMADBeyond.com and TheMADTherapy.com
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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. If you are in need of assistance for mental health services, please check with your PCP, your insurance provider or an online therapist directory for the nearest mental health professional.
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 17

This episode, Jessica Medina rolls in and talks about her journey to getting into her area of treatment: Geek Therapy. It's an exciting episode of information about using popculture and video games in connecting and working with clients.

PLEASE NOTE:
We discuss the following topics that may be distressing to listeners - suicide, sexual trauma, self-harm ideation, trauma.

More info about Jessica:
As a skilled Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Jessica Medina (Happylilbrains) offers unique geek therapy, integrating video games into treatment. With expertise in assessing and treating neurodivergency, Jessica employs a holistic and experiential approach, prioritizing person-centered and collaborative care. She has a diverse client focus, working with children, video game creators, trauma survivors, LGBTQIA+ individuals, and those with alternative lifestyles

Website: happylilbrains.com

Resources:
Geek Therapists Coop:
Guidance Teletherapy (guidancett.com)

Here's the link to Ariel:

Ariel's Corner — Guidance Teletherapy (guidancett.com)

Geek Therapy Summit coming up in April 2024:

TAGGS - Geek Therapy

Geek Therapy:

Geek Therapy Quick Start Guide - Geek Therapy

FB group:

Geek Therapy Community | Facebook

Roblox Playbook for Parents and Clinicians:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CS55JP95
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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. If you are in need of assistance for mental health services, please check with your PCP, your insurance provider or an online therapist directory for the nearest mental health professional.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. Susan is a National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC. When she's not busy with all those things, Susan is usually busy annoying her adult children or gardening.