How to find your resourceful state when you are feeling you should be further along by now (Level 3 Perspective)
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89 - How to find your resourceful state when you are feeling you should be further along by now - Level 3 Energetic Perspective
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[00:00:00] Trina: welcome back to the field guide to awesome folks.[00:01:00] The last episode, number 88. Was where we continued the energetic perspective series with the level two perspective, specifically how to recognize when your fiery attitude will burn you and how to shift it into a fiery passion that can sustain you.
It was all about how level, two perspective, energy potential shows up in your day to day experience when you're under stress, along with the advantages and disadvantages, every level has them. We explored several strategies you can use to reduce your time being stuck here and access higher levels of energy, just like we're doing with level three.
All right. So if you missed it, go ahead and check out episode 88. This week, we are continuing the series and diving into level three,
this episode is for you. If you are feeling you should be further along than you are by now. Likely you are deep into strategizing tolerating and dealing with minor frustrations that are holding you back [00:02:00] from making the kind of progress that feels deeply satisfying.
And that's why we're talking about the level three perspective. What it looks like, what it feels like in everyday life and in business and the advantages and disadvantages as well as some, as well as some strategies that can help you expand into the higher levels of energy and using level three as a resource state to keep your momentum going.
level three energy is the energy of coping. With the core thought of I win you win two and that's okay. But I win first. Let's do a quick review of the levels so far, it helps to put things in perspective.
Level one, energy was all about stagnation and being the victim of life. And now when I say victim, it means that life is happening at you. The shift from level one to level two comes from the fiery need for change ignites within. . [00:03:00] So that firey need for change burns and pushes you into the next level.
Shifting from level two to level three, which is what we're talking about today happens when you start to take ownership of your own emotions, your own thoughts and your own life experience. Just as a reminder, we as humans go up and down through these levels of energy throughout the day. So no one is always a level one, no one is always a level two, no one is always a level three or any other level.
It depends on how we respond to life events and stressors. So how long we spend in each of those levels can change depending on how resilient we are. And so an example of that is say, you wake up feeling great it's gonna be a great day. It's gonna be a great day.
Right. But then you spill coffee on your white shirt. Oh, coffee on my white shirt. Oh, this is terrible. It's stained. It's ruined forever. [00:04:00] And what am I gonna wear now? Okay. And so that's just an example of how you can go from feeling great from one of the higher levels of energy to level two or level one.
Okay. So how long you spend there, this depends on how resilient you are. We all experience these every day. But with level three, things start to feel much better. Level three begins the anabolic energy in the scale of levels of energy and anabolic energy is the kind of energy that builds you up that helps you grow all right levels.
One and two were catabolic where they broke you. Okay. You had energy, you got things done, especially in level two, but it was the kind of energy that wouldn't sllow you last in the long term, because it would burn you out. Okay. Anabolic energy helps you build and grow [00:05:00] and it feels good. Okay. At this level, people tend to take responsibility for their thoughts, emotions, actions.
They know that what they think and feel is really up to them. And nobody else you can't make me feel a certain way unless I give you permission. I think that's an Eleanor Roosevelt bastardization quote I ruined her quote, but no one can make me feel any way that I don't desire to feel. Okay. The focus of level three is on winning through achieving your goals.
And meeting your own agenda first cause you got business to do and you gotta reach those goals. You win first, but if other people win as a result, that's great. Okay. But it's your goals first? Okay, and this isn't good or bad. It's just [00:06:00] an attitude. It's just where your focus is at that moment. Okay.
And so level three energy also has a lot of coping going on. All right. Coping in this context is to deal with an attempt to overcome problems and difficulties, because we see a lot of problems and difficulties, a lot of hurdles to jump in level three energy. Judging is judging things as good or bad black or white.
Discernment is the awareness of the situation without a story attached. You'll notice as we move up through the levels of energy that Discernment increases as we go up through the levels of energy and judgment decreases. In level one and two, there was a lot of judgment as good or bad. Coping at this level occurs because the person still has some judging going on.
All right. We are judging creatures, but in level three, there's still a little bit of judging going on. There's a problem. [00:07:00] How can I fix it? We're problem focused. Dealing with little hurdles. It's like watching your feet as you walk instead of gazing ahead as you walk and think of that too. If if you are a driver, if you drive, you don't look at, as you're driving the road just a few feet ahead, you look out into the distance.
Okay. And so in level three, we're still looking at the mid-distance. We're not looking out far enough. Okay. And the difference between this and winning at level two is that the intention of those operating from level three perspective is to have the other person win as well. But again, only after securing the win for themselves first.
In other words, the intention of level three is I win. And hopefully you win too, but either way I win primary goal. And I've said that a couple of times, but that is the primary thought. People who have a lot [00:08:00] of level three energy are masters at rationalization and rationalization. It sounds like a big word.
And it sounds like a bad word, but it's not okay. It's just a big word. They will motivate themselves and others by finding ways to. Release, forgive, tolerate, compromise, and explain away resentments, explain away stresses, disappointments, and other burdens in order to encourage cooperation and productivity.
There was a lot in there. I'm gonna talk a little bit more about each of those as we go on. All right. That was jam packed. All right. So again, this. Energy, these qualities that I'm bringing up now, you may not experience all of them, but if some of them do make a note, all right, because those are the things that you'll be working on.
People with predominant level three energy may still blame others, but [00:09:00] they rationalize other people's behavior to forgive them. Remember I said that big word, $10,000 word rationalization. We explain away other people's behavior so that it makes us feel a little better. An example of this is they didn't know what they were doing or saying, or they didn't mean it.
They didn't know any better. Okay. Whether or not that's true. We don't know. But at this level we, we say this because, Hey, it is what it is. All right. They didn't mean it. Okay. They didn't know any better when we use those phrases or phrases like that. It helps release catabolic energy. All right. Because if we believe that they meant it.
Ooh, we could get a little mad. If that we believe that they knew better, then why did they do that? [00:10:00] All right. So to let go of that energy, which does not serve you, if you decide that it doesn't serve you , you rationalize it. They didn't know better. They didn't know what they were saying. They didn't mean it.
Okay. And that's a coping mechanism. It's how we get through A person at this level may also feel unfulfilled and disappointed about their lot in life, where they are right now, as things didn't turn out exactly as they had planned, you had big plans. It doesn't look like you're experiencing it now.
Okay. At work, a person may rationalize conflict with others to be able to maintain the peace, which is very important at a, for a person who is in level. all right. And allow themselves to continue to be productive. Keeping the peace and being productive is very important. They may actually seek to repair, damaged [00:11:00] relationships and conflicts with others.
And, and sometimes this may come with like, Hey, what went wrong here? Why did this happen? Was it something I said, was it a belief that they had maybe a misconception it's trying to solve problems within those relationships? All right. And if you're experiencing level three energy, you know that what you feel is up to you and not others.
Right? And so this is a big shift from levels one and two, where you perceive the cause for what you thought felt and did to be outside of yourself. And at levels one and two. The cause for the problems is outside and you were just the receiver. So in other words, level one and two other events or people cause you to feel, think, and do things a certain way.
They did this. So that's why I did this, or they did this. And that's why I feel this way. And level three, you take full responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, and. [00:12:00] This is amazing. All right, cuz that's what you have control over. You choose how you want to react and your focus is on winning and your own agenda.
First. I know I keep saying this again and again, but it's important. So if other people win, that's great, but only if you win first and there's a little of what's in it for me feeling. Okay. And so that's one of the ways you can see what level of energy yours, like what's in it for me. What am I gonna get out of it?
At this level you believe, and I, I'm going to talk again about what's in it for me a little bit more when we get to level five. All right. But it there's a whole different intention behind it. Okay. So at this level, you believe that life is what you make it, and you're ready to do what it takes to reach success and, and you take action for the most part.
Okay. We're gonna talk a little bit more about that in just a. In business or at [00:13:00] work, it feels like you're not fully committed. All right. You may think you are, but you're holding back in some way. And this can look like maybe feeling like you have a good plan, but only doing it. If you're sure it will work, there has to be some certainty.
All right. There has to be certainty. And this holds people back from moving forward. All right. It feels like they have to overcome one hurdle after another. It just feels like one problem. After another, putting out one fire after another, feel like a fireman chasing and putting out fires or a cat herder.
All right. Chasing those cats, trying to herd them all in the right direction. And in business, they may rationalize conflict with others to maintain peace peace and productivity. Like I said earlier are very important to somebody [00:14:00] experiencing level three. And again, they may explain away resentments stress, disappointment to encourage cooperation and productivity.
I'm gonna use another word that sometimes has some negative connotations, but in this aspect, I'm using it in a nonjudgmental way. All right. Motivate and manipulate. They use these coping strategies to motivate and manipulate. themselves and others by coping, releasing, and forgiving.
Now let's talk a little bit about forgiving at, cause I've mentioned forgiveness a couple of times so far., but I really wanna bring it up here. That forgiveness at this level is an example is somebody says, oh, please forgive me.
Forgive me. And you're like, okay, I forgive you. But inside you really don't forgive. All right. It's not that you don't want to forgive, but there's still [00:15:00] something in there tugging at your heart tugging at your mind, tugging at your anger strings a little bit. Okay. So you're not fully forgiving.
You say you forgive, but you're still feeling it. All right. We're going to talk about what true forgiveness is when we get to level four. Okay. In the next episode. All right. And so. Like we said, you're a master of rationalizations. You rationalize other people's behavior to forgive them. And you think of it as people are generally good.
People are generally good. They just don't know any better. Okay. They're all idiots. forgiving it again. Forgiving it. Level three. May still include blaming others. They say that the past isn't important, even if they don't believe it yet. And here. Is where we get into some more depth people in level three are not super clear on their personal values.
And what's really [00:16:00] important to them. Okay. They tend to feel unfulfilled and disappointed about where they are in life. And like I mentioned earlier, since things haven't turned out the way they planned and a common thought here, I can do better. All right. I, oh gosh, I can do better. All right. Now let's talk about relationships.
There's a certain dance between a person at level three and their partner. All right, though, each understands their roles. Like, you know, what you do and what they like. And all of that, you don't really understand the other person and they tend to try to fix the other person instead of trying to grow together.
Okay. They have specific roles in the relationship, but they may not understand their partner very well. Again, in level three there's still a bit judgemental of others in situations. So if you feel a judgment coming on [00:17:00] about somebody else, Of this is level three energy, but they do believe even though they have judgments, they do believe that everyone is different and that's okay.
It's like, oh, I wouldn't do that, but that's okay. It's that's them. Okay. Now let's get into. Something that I think is very important, especially when it comes to dealing with your levels of energy and how to get things to stop pulling you out of alignment. Tolerating. All right. A person at level three, tolerates, a lot of stuff.
They may think that what I can't see. Oh, I know it's there, but I'm not looking at it. What I can't see can't hurt me. They might say to themselves, I am in control of my life and I know how to play the game. All right. But they're tolerating. Less than ideal situations to make do with good enough. All right.
So [00:18:00] tolerating dealing with good enough is a huge part of level three.
So let's talk about the advantages and disadvantages of level three. First, the advantages, the first one is you don't allow other people to stand in the way of what you want, you know, what you want and you'll go for it. Mostly. Okay. And you also have the ability to avoid block and release the negativity of others.
It's like, oh, keep your negativity over there. And you're able to engage people easily at level three and you don't stop until you get what you want. All right. So this is a great advantage. All right. You keep going. And when you can access the higher levels of energy, you can start using level three as a tool or a resource with the less of the disadvantages.
So [00:19:00] let's talk a little bit about the disadvantages, the things that when you can use level three as a tool, these are the things that fall away. All right. In regards to the disadvantages. You could be a bit manipulative and self concerning. Trying to manage the situation and what's in it for me.
All right. Hopes and promises. Aren't really given from the heart, but from the head it's like, oh yeah, yeah, I'll do that. I'll do that. But it's like, oh yes, I will do that. Very different energy. And also with level three, you're not so concerned if things don't work out because you did your best. I did my best.
All right. Okay. So let me ask you, and you don't have to answer if you don't want to but answer it for [00:20:00] yourself. How does this level three energy show up for you? How does it show up in your life? In your business? Okay. What else do you notice about your level three energy in yourself?
Especially when you're under stress, when you're under stress, some of the more the disadvantages show up more often. All right. When you're under stress. So how do those show up for you? And what would be the benefit of reducing or increasing your level three energy. Okay. And so here I promised some strategies for reducing or releasing catabolic energy and increasing the anabolic energy of level three.
All right. And so the first couple. Sounds like some remedial homework, a little bit focus on recognizing when you are experiencing level one and two energy. [00:21:00] Okay. So go back and listen to those episodes and to see what shows up for you. All right. And then focus on reducing the amount of time you spend at the effect of level one and level two.
This is a recurring strategy for each of the higher levels of energy. Okay. Because level one and level two. They're ground in deep. Okay. They're in there deep and it's almost like new level new devil. I can assure you. It's often the same devil just with better accoutrements. Okay. So perhaps it's wearing silk this time.
Maybe it's wearing diamonds, maybe it's wearing pearls at each additional level, but it shows up a little bit in each level. So when you reduce the effect of level one and level two, you have more access to the anabolic energy and the higher levels of energy. So check out episodes 87 for level one [00:22:00] and 88 for level two, to see how they show up for you.
All right. And an overview of the strategies so that you can work through them. And the next one is move away from me, focused to we focused, explore ways to serve others. So how can you help someone else? Win first. Okay. That can be a big one. All right. So move away from me, focused to we and explore ways to serve.
All right. Find ways to help other people win first win before you do all right. Cause think about it. How does helping others succeed first actually help you win in the long term? All right. And so this is kind of the intention in level three. All [00:23:00] right. You still get to win. All right. But how does helping other people win first?
Give you what you need in the long term. Okay. And now we're getting back to tolerating, find ways to reduce or eliminate the things that you tolerate. All right. The things that are less than ideal situations. Again, people at level three tolerate a lot. Those tolerations distract you and take energy away.
They're getting by with good enough. So stop tolerating making due with almost good enough because when you tolerate with something that is almost good enough. It's good enough. to stay at the level you currently are. All right, but it won't get you to the next level. So identify what you're tolerating in life in business, then up level it.
[00:24:00] And one of the ways you can do that is figuring out what you're tolerating, figure out what your tolerations are within your immediate control, the things that are within your immediate control. Then create a plan and follow through on it. All right. And systematically eliminating each of your tolerations because they're distractions, they're pulling your attention away.
Ah, and that brings us too going all in now, you know, it's almost like a cliche at this point, isn't it? But going all in. Is a fantastic strategy for level three, because oftentimes when people are at level three, like I said earlier, they're willing to make a plan and to go for it as long as they have some certainty that they'll succeed at the end.
All right. Sometimes you just need to go all in and trust the process. All right. So [00:25:00] explore what it would be like to go all in, in both life and business. okay. What would it feel like to fully commit to your business goals? Okay. How would fully committing to your goals, change how you experience both your business and your life.
And the next one is rediscover your personal life values, right? You say, oh, I know what my values are. I know what they are. Great. Reinvestigate re-explore rediscover your personal life values because sometimes things change. You might have some that remain the same and you might have some that change because of your life experience.
How do each of those values show up for you? What does it feel like when your values are being honored? What does it feel like when your values are not honored? All right. What is most important to you? How do they show up when you're honoring [00:26:00] them and when they are in conflict with other people's values?
Yeah. That's a lot of work. All right. And then work to understand others' life's values, right? So it's fully understanding yourself. And then once you understand yourself, going in to understand , what others values are in life. Okay. By understanding what is important to you and learning what drives others, you'll realize that you don't need to fix them, right?
You don't need to fix other people, let them fix themselves. Focus on yourself. All right. You can have your values and they can have their values. And this is where personal boundaries start. All right. Personal boundaries is our really big topic books. Encyclopedias could be written [00:27:00] about boundaries. I'm gonna save it for another episode, but for now the most basic thing to understand about boundaries is that they are your personal boundaries and no one else needs to respect them.
Other than you. All right. They are a commitment to yourself. And so, yeah, what, I'm gonna expand a little bit on that here, because these boundaries are yours. Nobody else needs to respect them. So if you have a particular political boundary or a business boundary, you need to be very clear. What happens if somebody else crosses it crosses that boundary.
All right. And then they're gonna have to be okay with the consequences and consequences is another $10,000 word that has some negative connotations, but oftentimes the boundary is letting them know, Hey, I don't [00:28:00] accept calls after 5:00 PM. My business. Is done for the day or you can leave a message and I will respond in a period of time.
Or I respectfully ask that we not discuss this topic at this point in time. Okay.
So you get to decide what your boundaries are. And then you need to follow through if the person decides to continue talking about the topic that you ask them, not to discuss at this point in time, you need to remove yourself from the situation. Okay. That's just one. That's just an example. All right.
So I'm gonna save that for another episode. So, so far we looked at what level three looks like and feels like along with how it may show up in life and business. And we also looked at the advantages and disadvantages of level three [00:29:00] energy. Remember we each experience all of the levels of energy every day in varying amounts.
The more you work through and use these strategies, and work through the catabolic responses. The easier it will be to expand into the higher levels of energy. And so the next episode in the series will dive into how most people experience level four perspective energy. And this is the level of love, compassion and service.
Ah, Level four is a great place to be. It's going to be a fantastic episode folks so tune in next week you won't want to miss it
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