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    Get What You Want (In Bed)

    enJune 25, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Sexual CommunicationArticulate sexual needs and desires to your partner, normalize fantasies, prioritize pleasure, and explore resources for enhanced experiences.

      Communication is key in maintaining a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship. Dr. Emily emphasizes the importance of articulating one's sexual needs and desires to one's partner. She also acknowledges the normalcy of fantasizing about past sexual partners and distinguishes between fantasies that one may want to act out with a partner and those that are kept private. Additionally, she encourages individuals to prioritize their pleasure and explore resources like Just Thrive probiotics and Biohamps cannabis gummies to enhance their sexual experiences. Finally, she invites listeners to join her at an intimate women's retreat for further discussions on pleasure and sexuality.

    • Personal preferences and values in relationshipsHonor your personal preferences and values in relationships, even if they don't align with societal expectations. Communicate your boundaries and desires to potential partners and advocate for deeper connections.

      It's important to honor your personal preferences and values when it comes to relationships and sexual experiences, even if they don't align with societal expectations or the experiences of those around you. Hunter, a 20-year-old from Michigan, shared her struggle with being unable to casually date or maintain a roster of partners due to her tendency to either lose interest quickly or develop strong feelings. The speaker acknowledged that there's no one-size-fits-all approach and encouraged Hunter to advocate for her desire for deeper connections. They discussed the pressure and expectations surrounding hookup culture, particularly at large party schools, and the importance of communicating your boundaries and desires to potential partners. The conversation also touched on the importance of self-exploration and understanding one's own sexuality, as well as the potential for change in societal attitudes towards relationships and sexual experiences.

    • College Sexual ExperiencesCommunication, honesty, and sensitivity are crucial for satisfying sexual experiences during college years. Safety and choosing what feels right for you are also essential.

      Everyone's definition of fun and what works for them in their college years can vary greatly. While some may choose to explore multiple relationships or hookups, others may prefer to focus on one meaningful connection. It's important to remember that having a high body count doesn't necessarily equate to being a good lover or understanding pleasure. Communication and being honest about intentions are key. Additionally, being sensitive to one's own body and its needs is crucial when trying new things, such as flavored lubes or toys. Always prioritize safety and consider using water-based lubes for toys and coconut oil for everything else, except silicone toys. Ultimately, it's essential to make choices that align with what feels right for you, rather than societal pressures.

    • Sexual CommunicationOpen and honest conversations about needs, desires, and boundaries are crucial in creating a satisfying and consensual sexual relationship. Respecting each other's preferences and experimenting with flexibility are essential.

      Communication and understanding are key elements in any sexual relationship. Whether it's about using the right lubricant for your body, exploring fantasies, or discussing porn preferences, it's important to have open and honest conversations with your partner. Everyone has different needs and desires, and it's essential to respect each other's boundaries while also being open-minded. Remember, fantasies are a normal part of being sexually healthy, and they don't necessarily reflect reality or indicate a lack of commitment. It's also important to remember that there's no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to sex, and experimentation and flexibility are necessary. Overall, the goal is to create a safe, consensual, and enjoyable sexual experience for both partners.

    • Polyamory and Open RelationshipsApproach polyamory and open relationships with maturity, communication, and respect for all parties involved. Continue having conversations about sex and relationships, and educate yourself on necessary skills. Use sex toys to enhance pleasure and relationships.

      Having open and polyamorous relationships requires maturity, communication, and understanding. The speaker emphasized that women, in particular, may be hesitant to engage in such relationships due to past experiences or psychological issues. However, she also acknowledged that not all women who choose to be polyamorous do so for those reasons. It's essential to approach these relationships with care, honesty, and respect for all parties involved. Additionally, the speaker encouraged people to continue having conversations about sex and relationships, and to educate themselves on the skills necessary for successful open relationships. She also highlighted the importance of using sex toys, such as the Laylo Dot travel vibrator, for exploring pleasure and enhancing relationships. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of open-mindedness, communication, and self-awareness in all types of relationships.

    • Love languages and relationship growthNormalize conversations around relationship growth and express needs in a clear and compassionate way to build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

      Communication and understanding are key in any relationship, especially when it comes to expressing and receiving love. The podcast host, Emily, emphasized the importance of normalizing the conversation around relationship growth and love languages. In the discussion with Addie, it became clear that both partners were struggling to express their needs and feelings to each other, leading to frustration and misunderstandings. Emily encouraged Addie to approach the conversation with her boyfriend in a non-confrontational way, emphasizing the importance of their relationship and the potential for growth. By sharing their love languages and expressing their needs in a clear and compassionate way, both partners can work towards building a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. Additionally, Emily emphasized that personal growth and communication skills are not innate abilities, but rather things that need to be learned and practiced consistently.

    • Relationship growthRelationships present opportunities for personal growth through challenges and differences. Confidence, self-esteem, open communication, and teaching children about body confidence, consent, and self-love are essential components.

      Relationships and personal growth go hand in hand. It's natural to encounter challenges and differences with our partners, but these roadblocks can provide valuable lessons and opportunities for growth. Confidence, self-esteem, and open communication are essential components of healthy relationships, and it's important to reflect on what relationship skills and traits are important to us. Furthermore, teaching children about body confidence, consent, and self-love is crucial for their development. Remember, confidence is a journey, not a destination. By modeling self-love and open communication, we can help ourselves and our children grow and thrive in relationships.

    • Open communicationExpressing vulnerabilities and being real about struggles can help build confidence and strengthen relationships, especially when discussing sensitive topics

      Open and honest communication is key to building confidence and strengthening relationships. Whether it's with a partner, a friend, or a child, expressing vulnerabilities and being real about our struggles can help us feel more connected and loved. This is especially important when it comes to topics that make us feel embarrassed or ashamed, such as physical appearance or sexual preferences. By being honest and open, we can turn potential sources of shame into opportunities for growth and deeper bonds. Additionally, focusing on positive experiences and maintaining a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative interactions can help us cultivate confidence and resilience in the face of challenges. Overall, the more we normalize the human condition and share our struggles with others, the more confident and empowered we can become.

    • Imposter syndrome & vulnerabilitySharing vulnerabilities and finding acceptance can help overcome imposter syndrome and shame, and understanding that those who judge are not our people.

      Sharing our vulnerabilities and being honest about our struggles can help us overcome feelings of imposter syndrome and shame. By opening up to those we care about and finding acceptance and love in return, we can come to realize that the things we've been holding onto in secrecy don't define us negatively. Those who judge us for our perceived flaws are not our people. Embrace your vulnerabilities, connect with others, and find comfort in the knowledge that your worth is not determined by your secrets. As a reminder, you can find Emily on various social media platforms, sign up for her emails, or reach out to her with any questions or feedback. Remember, prioritizing your pleasure is important, and it's okay to ask for help and guidance along the way.

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