Men are bad about this. Really everyone, male or female has thoughts going on in their head, much of which isn't said. Sometimes they are words of encouragement, kind curiosity, and love.
These caring thoughts just need to come out. It doesn’t have to be a big speech but just a comment to bring them into the light.
Things often go unspoken because we fear if they are spoken, they will grow and take over. We may avoid saying something because it could make someone cry.
When you speak up with care and compassion, the results can be much better than keeping those thoughts to yourself.
Most of the time a tender or important feeling is brought up, the people who share it feel closer to each other afterward. It is a moment of connection.
Holding it in, the opposite of speaking up, is a way to keep distance. It keeps distance from the emotions, protects the person from “losing it” and it keeps distance between people. No closeness can develop between people who protect themselves.
Go On and Say It!
What about keeping things, or letting them go? Which should we do? Everybody needs to hold on sometimes, but other times let go. Letting go might need a bigger place in life, and this episode explores why and how.
Support the showCatch yourself when you get distracted! Notice when you "are all over the place." Everybody seems to do it but there is a better way. Getting this right can reduce anxiety, lower anger, and build up a sense of peaceful confidence.
Humans are marvelously complex. But we can only handle so much. Learn a simple means to be a better person, and get some relief from the tide that seems to want to wash you away.
This episode from the archives is a powerful summary of key concepts in being more focused and balanced in life.
How do you know? How do you know anything? We take in information through our eyes, ears and other senses. We accept it or not. Or we might get a "gut feeling" and "know" something that way.
This episode explores knowing and challenges you to know deeply.
From the archives, this episode originally aired in 2022.
Sometimes the world looks beautiful to us, sometimes it seems horribly broken. The same friend who loves you hurts you. The same dog who consoles you bites. We can complain but it doesn't change anything. And having feelings is real and honest. But the negative feelings or facts don't have to take over. They can be just part of the story.
Listen to this episode for a way to see the beauty when the ugly has shown up. Find the sacred in the ordinary.
This archive episode is from 2022.
From the Archives
How can you Be okay, when so many bad things are happening? This episode encourages you to live in the moment even when the present moment kind of stinks!
The news has been horrible, with loss and grief, painful violent situations that keep hurting people, like shootings and covered up sexual abuse, and war. These stories run in our minds as we work, sleep, eat, and interact with family.
Hopefully where you are right now is safe and pleasant enough. Being more aware of yourself now can be calming, and help you sort out what is most important for you.
At any moment terrible things are happening: So, this is the sad state of the world, but…
At any moment on the earth, good is happening. How do we live with the good and the bad?
Support the showFrom the Archives, enjoy this episode on Being Still as an emotional and a spiritual exercise.
Listen in for practical tips on living life as something other than "busy person." Go deeper and practice being still for a short time. Meditate a few moments on the scripture that tells us to "be still..."
Being still, if only for a short time, makes you calmer. And if you are calmer, you will handle the world differently!
Originally published 2/1/22
If you are struggling you need refuge. It may be from fear, confusion, or feeling alone. In times like that we may look for sanctuary. This episode has tips for finding and getting access to sanctuary in your life.
Support the showIf you see things different than me you are wrong of course. And you probably think the same about me. If I work with you, go to school with you, am married to you, I just need to get away from you because your different worldview is harming me.
Sounds extreme doesn't it? But this is how many people operate.
Maybe there is another way, through humility and grace.
It may not feel like it, but we have lots of choices when it comes to how we live our lives. There are invitations to good and bad things all the time. First we must recognize they are invitations we can choose or refuse! Then we can make choices instead of allowing life events to push us around.
Listen in to see if you got your invitations. And then decide if you will accept.
Home is a powerful, dear word that represents something we all need. Explore in this episode what home is for you. Discover some deeper senses of home in your life, that you already have and that you can nurture.
Having a clear understanding of what you have and want in "home" can help you get there.
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