From Homer's Odyssey to the sirens that fade away in the mind...the discipline that is needed is one rooted in being roped to your "mast" in the disciple of avoidance!
When you feed them a fish they will come back. When they return hungry again, teach them how to fish and they will master the craft, quickly. Necessity is always the mother of invention.
You are better than those things you bid in blame. You are better than those people that you still hold responsible for your pain and you can come out of this, assured and reassured that all is well and all is how YOU want it to be. Let's GO!