Guest Lucie Mitchell

All these were descendants of Asher—heads of families, choice men, brave warriors and outstanding leaders. 1 Chronicles 7:40

I saw an interesting question from a friend on Facebook today and it had me thinking of the perspective of everything I read. The question was: 

“Men, what are your thoughts about reading books by women? 

There was more to her question but that one sentence stopped me to think when was the last time I heard a man recommend a book written by a female author. 

Then I started asking myself what perspective do I read the books from? Whether I am reading a self-improvement book, Christian living, leadership or the bible, how I identify with the author can dictate how much I buy into the ability for me to have the transformation promised in the book. 

Early on in my married life I would read Danielle Steele novels, I was hooked, I would sit and read a complete book in one sitting. This did absolutely nothing for the upkeep of my home. I began to feel guilty after arguing with my husband over why the house was so trashed. So I would barter with myself, I can read a chapter after I clean up the breakfast dishes, I can read another chapter after I start a load of laundry and dust, I can start another chapter after I clean the bathrooms. The house was getting cleaned my husband was not happy but a little more satisfied. I was miserable, being jerked back to the reality of snotty noses, baby diapers, fixing dinner, and cleaning…. None of the characters in the stories I read had to put up with this. Why couldn’t my husband be like the romantic love interest in the story I was reading?

See, when you read a book, any book it has the ability to transform you and transport you to another place and time, but when you stop reading you are still right back where you were when you started unless you are moved to action. 

Why did those Danielle Steele novels speak to me? Because she was a woman writing about the things many women long for, but very seldom talk about. However, I cannot tell you one man I know of that has read a Danielle Steele novel. There are very few that will admit they have read Emily Dickens or Maya Angelou. 

All my life I have been told that the Bible is THE LIVING BREATHING WORD of GOD, as much as I believe that today when my friend asked that question I began to think there are some ways that I feel the Bible does NOT apply to me as a woman. I was feeling a little uninspired as I began flipping through the Bible reading about Warriors and I came across 1 Chronicles 7:40 All these were descendants of Asher—heads of families, choice men, brave warriors and outstanding leaders. 

When you read that as a woman, first thing I notice it says is “Choice Men”. I was about to be dismissive of the verse and go on searching for something more along the lines of what I wanted to read about. 

Please tell me I am not the only one who does this? 

But anyway as I began to move on I felt God tell me to wait. 

Asking me how could there be so many descendants of Asher without women? 

It said these men were heads of families, that means they had women who handled everything while they were away at war. 

It said they were choice men, choice men only associated with choice women. 

Brave warriors you know what I am going to come back to this point….

Outstanding leaders, one thing I know for sure is outstanding leaders raise everyone around them to be outstanding as well. 

Going back to Brave Warriors, as a veteran, who is married to a veteran, I will tell you it is very difficult to serve during a time of war, I would never minimize the warrior mentality of a service member in the field. However, as a mom of a service member, and daughter of a police officer I also know that it takes a warrior mindset for those of us at home while our loved ones are serving on the battlefield. 

Yet when I read this scripture there was even more that He whispered to me. That there are many women, maybe you are one of them who are standing strong as the head of their home. Women who are Choice women, and brave warriors and outstanding leaders. 

In a verse that has over a dozen words, I was letting one small word disqualify the whole sentence and how it applied to me. What if instead I stopped and asked God to reveal to me how He wants me to see His word, and even more how He wants me to apply his word.

Funny thing, when I was done reading the Bible today, I was not snapped back to the reality I started with, like when I read those empty romance novels. Instead I was transformed with a new warrior mindset by a God that loves me and knows me more intimately than any author could ever write about. 

Let’s be mindful of what we are feeding our minds, our bodies and our souls so that we can be transformed from the inside out by our heavenly father. 

Questions to Ponder:

1. What are you reading?
2. How is it moving you closer to or further away from your purpose? 
3. Do you have a Warrior Mindset? 

Hello and Welcome to Warrior DIVAS Daily Devotional today’s verse is Psalm 119:64

The earth is filled with your love, Lord; teach me your decrees.

When I was a little girl people would always ask me where I got my pretty blue eyes, I would giggle and say “Key-Mart”….Yes, everything back in the day came from K-Mart, but the truth was I had my daddy’s eye. 

My dad’s eyes are unique and have a unique perspective. He and I have often been able to see and recognize things that many overlook. He is an Army veteran and retired Police Officer. He taught me how to look for things. 

I remember one car ride where he was telling me about when you are looking for something in an open field, like a deer. You would lookout as far as you could see and then bring your gaze back toward you. This allowed your eyes to catch what you were looking for instead of your eyes chasing where the deer had been. 

Another thing my dad showed me was how to see people, not their circumstance. There were times when he would bring homeless people to our home, so they could get a shower, a hot meal, their clothes washed and even new clothes, and see if there were ways my mom and dad could help them find a safe place to stay. They would minister to these people in physically and spiritually. 

My daddy’s eye’s taught me to search the world from the perspective of my Heavenly Father. 

I don’t know about you but when I look at social media, the news and even sometimes driving down the road, it is hard to remember that the earth is filled with love. Right now all my physical eyes can see is pain, anger, and war. 

However when I take the time to look around with my Heavenly fathers eyes I am able to see things from a different perspective. I set my vision out towards heaven, and for all those out there running scared, and in pain, I am able to see them as they run into my view. I try not to see their actions, but see beyond to what is the root of their pain. 

One thing I have begin to realize is so many people just want to be accepted, to be seen, to be heard, mostly they just want to be LOVED. 

To many of my friends Christian and non-Christian are spreading their “Truth” to be correct from a worldly perspective, but my challenge to myself and each of you listening today is to be relationally right by sharing God’s truth of Love, Peace, Joy & HOPE! 

Questions to Consider?

1. What eyes are you looking at the world through?
2. Do you love the unlovable?
3.  How will you show love to those around you today? 

Hello and welcome to warrior divas real talk for real women. This is your host Angie Lehman ro and in the studio with me today I have Connie Wyatt Coleman. She is a dear friend of mine. She has a long lineage of, of expertise that she brings to the table but more importantly she is a woman that's after Christ's heart and ferociously runs after him every day of her life. So I cannot wait to see we we talked a little bit about how this show may go.

And then we said, You know what, we just need to have one of our talks on the air. So that's what we're doing today. Welcome, Connie. Good to be here. Good to be here. Rules of Engagement. No throw punches today. No throw punches. But that's what we do when we get together, right? Yes. And you know what i have treasured it. Very few friends will take

friendship and allow accountability with it. And we've had a long history of being able to love each other and hold each other accountable at the same time. We have and you know, it's one of those things that we have laughed together. We have cried together. We have been mad together.

We have watched our children grow together. When we met I didn't have grandchildren and now I do. That is crazy. And they're big. They're six getting to see him too.

Yeah, they're beautiful. So, you know it's it's crazy. All the all the things that have happened your girls have grown up gone through high school ones about to get married, you know and, and praise the Lord she has not been a bridezilla. Oh, goodness. That is a Praise the Lord. Yes, I will take it in this day and age with everything going on in the world to

kind of put some things in perspective. Yeah, puts things in perspective for us. So I'm glad to hear all that's going good and all of our lives but you know, we also know that not everybody's doing good with things going on in their world. It doesn't have to do with if you're hearing this and listening to this in the middle of the Coronavirus thing. It doesn't even have to do with that. Some people just have a hard time getting by day by day. life on this earth is just hard, right? It just is. I

I watched a video. Last night somebody had a lady and a pantry. She was singing the song Jolene. But instead of singing it, please don't take my man it says please come and take my man.

And she says, and if you don't answer I'll have to call Irene.

And so I know this affects people in a humorous way it affects people in an angry way and a pic affects people in a lonely way. And one of the things we like to do on warrior divas is just shine a light into that darkness in so you can see a way out and we were talking last night and one of our studies in

john, where you know, that where

there was a challenge to the to the apostles to be that light and to continue to live that light out. Not

To expose, but that that fear and evil cannot reside in the light. And truth is the way truth is the light. And

so, you know, I started thinking, what are some of the ways that I could poke and prod Connie to open up the truth of Christ to to the audience today, you know, because she didn't take a whole lot doesn't take a whole lot. If you get to follow her on Facebook, she shares some little morning devotionals on there quite often that are very good, packed, powerful, very easy to read. And that's not an easy task for someone who is as educated as she is to speak the commoners language that I can read and understand. I love it. All these people getting on and sharing their messages on Facebook and all that stuff in there using all these big words and I'm like, okay, I didn't know I was gonna have to break

a dictionary and a thesaurus to figure out what this person saying, I just want it to be relevant. And that's something that Connie does. Every time she shares in this season, haven't you? There's been a lot of ugly and we'll address some of that later. But there's been such an influx of creativity and

letting their light shine like you're throwing them out and, and even people that maybe didn't before coming on and just time and time again, using all different ways of creativity to make it through this season to encourage other people to love on others, with social distancing in place, but right, you know, just some real creative ways to intentionally reach out to each other. Well, you know, and it's the what it was at the Dallas orchestra performed yesterday. For the first time together since the beginning of

March and they did it all from their own living rooms and did it online together. Yeah. Wonderful. What a wonderful way of you know, right now one of the things that this is teaching us is how to push through limitations. What a great thing. You're telling me I can't do this, but I'm gonna find a way to still be relevant in the world I live in. Yes. And what a great thing for all of us. Wow. Yes, personally and professionally. I know.

My staff up CEO at wise choices Resource Center in pregnancy Resource Center indicator and just getting together with the staff on zoom and going okay. We know what the box is. We know what our limitations are. We know what we can do safely and what we can't within the guidelines and protocol, but Okay, now,

step outside the box. How can we continue to reach our clients

To reach our partners in ways we haven't thought of before, right? That would be sustainable, really, even after this season is over, because there's the good news this season will eventually be over. Well, and while we're recording this today in the studio, we're actually recording this on Good Friday. We are. And the reason I kind of wanted to do that is it's a part of the time that we're in our darkest hour where it's actually between the 12 and 3pm. Our time I know that's not the time it is and in Jerusalem, but our time, this would be the time that was the darkest of the dark days going into Easter weekend.

It's Friday, it's Friday, but you know what Sunday's coming. And we have the benefit of hindsight to see that. Yeah. But you know what Jesus had the full

sight to prepare his disciples before that, so that they wouldn't have to live in fear so they wouldn't have to. They could see hope at the end. You know, I think the thing that gets me is how quickly we judge them. Mm hmm. Because I he tried to tell you, he tried like multiple times, yeah. But then I look at myself, right? And how many times has he fully told me and we have full revelation of Scripture, right? How many times has he shown me the plan and that he will not leave us he will not forsake us. He, he is coming again. And he is victorious. And we have the whole counsel of Scripture and yet we still back up and fear and we still wonder and doubt in the middle of the season if

if what he said is true, and if it will hold true.

So it's

Real easy to look at Peter and go walk. How could you deny him? Right? Well, Connie,

how can you live in fear and deny the power he has in your life? Well, we were talking about

we read the, the gospel of john, in our group Bible study yesterday. And one of the things that we read about was

right after that were Peter, you know, had denied him three times. But when Jesus made it so important to go and see his apostles multiple times after he, after he had risen, and there's the one occasion where he's talking with Peter. And he's telling asking Peter over and over Do you love me? And Peter saying, yes. And do you love me? Yes. And do you love me? Yes.

Excuse me.

And I think the reason gee

This is asking him that is to get Peter to say yes to Him. But also for Peter to hear Jesus say that I love you get it sunken into Peter said, Peter is kinda like my six year old grandson. You got to repeat it a few times for it to sink in. And sometimes you might have to inflect your voice a little more than you really need to you know, it's that Moonstruck snap out of it moment.

Oh, God has to do that to me. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Walking through a situation just this last week. And just like, Lord, I could really use the cliff notes at this point. Right. Right. One other chapter just who, let's, let's get some cliff notes here. But well, one of the other things we talked about in our study this week in our warrior divas Facebook group and if you're not a part of it, you should be a part of it because we're starting to do more and more studying in there. And because

We're on a mission to equip and empower.

Not just our generation of women, but women that are coming back behind us, you know, we want it to be a legacy project. And so one of the things we were discussing this week in there was how the Roman soldiers and pilot inherit, they had no clue as to what the scripture said. So when those Roman soldiers are at the feet of Jesus about this time of the day, and they're casting lots for his garment, they had no idea they were fulfilling prophecy. Yeah. The one that pure steam on the side and didn't break his legs. They had no idea they were fulfilling prophecy.

And yet he realized who it was right?

No, I I'm like you we kind of talked about this weekend and I can't believe you know, we're sitting here right now and

Think about all the things that happened on that Friday and just

like today, things you never dreamed, you would see happen, right? The Son of God hung on across Really?

His disciples

did not deny him.

I mean, Christian people would rather loose Brabus than Jesus. I mean, who are we right? But then I start thinking about Saturday.

And when the sun goes down, it's it's the Sabbath, right? And somehow in the middle of the chaos, and the trauma,

they go back home, and even though they don't get it, they don't understand it in the middle of the doubt.

When the hope of their expectation is in the tomb,

they walk by faith

And they cry out to the Lord on the Sabbath. And that, that Saturday to me has always been.

I mean, you know how it is when you come through a trauma and and you get back to your house and you kind of sit down and you kind of start feeling yourself and see if you have, you know, do I have flesh wounds? Did I really survive this day? Did that really happen?

And then Saturday, what, what do I even do with this? What do I even really still believe? Where is my heart Really? And in that quiet Saturday, they still observe the Sabbath. Right? They still honored what the what he had been setting in motion for years. And I think, I think right now is the time to do that. You know,

I think some of the trauma of this COVID thing may be kind of adjusting and now we're moving into

Okay, I've survived the first part, I'm not mortally wounded. I'm not bleeding anywhere. What do I do with today? Right? And that's when we come back and we draw on everything that the Lord has sewn into us.

Yesterday, the day before, the in his previous sness He called us to a season of prayer or diving into the word and if we will, but sit still in his presence. He will draw those things out and you said give us the hope. That Sunday's common Sunday is going to get here he is going to fulfill His promises. He is going to draw us out of this. But I just feel like truly rotten, right in this season. That man this a Saturday season it feels like well, you know, I think there's some some big truth to the fact of the numbness that you just brought up. You know, when all this first started happening, I know

I talk to a lot of people there. They're like, I've just slept a lot and watched a lot of Netflix I'm basically Netflix didn't chilled, which I know that there's another slang for that at times but, you know, sleeping and watching TV sleeping and watching TV, it was a it was a numbness it was this shell shock. It was a What do I do now there were some people that haven't slowed down our grocery workers, our truckers, our doctors and nurses. Those people haven't slowed down, our food processing plants, farmers, they all are still showing up every day. And so, for me, my husband and I own a plumbing company and our plumbing company. While our residential calls haven't been as much. Our commercial calls are still happening because we serve a lot of restaurants, hospitals, food processing plants, right. So for us life hasn't shifted as much as it has for others.

I'm still doing coaching as a matter of fact, I've had people come and hire me since this happened because now they're shifting to add online to their already brick and mortar business or whatever it is. So I'm helping them through that transition along that ways. So

that I still had a day or two where I was like, Whoa, what is this gonna do? And then my sleep schedule got off and all sorts of things. And like the apostles, I had to go, Okay, it's time to get up.

Yeah, yeah, you know, I'm kind of like here. When this first started, God called me to go to the square there and indicator in our small town at seven o'clock every morning, and just pray around the square.

And it was, I thought, just gonna be one day. And then when we when we were there that day is like, no, this is every day until this is done. And I was like, oh,

Because I don't leave the house at 645 in the morning on a normal day. So, um

yeah. So it's it's kind of been that kind of thing that God did that made me stay on a schedule. So I do that and then I go to the office and I'm only one there but you know, Hey, get the work done that needs to be done and then I'm home by two or three my husband's already retired so we were kind of already that's a new normal so getting used to him being retired and home. And so yeah, it hasn't changed as much as a lot of people's lives have.

Man You're right. There's there's some people really adjusting and another thing we've talked about is just the grace that you know, your two days kind of came in the beginning.

Someone else's

reality hit or just

I don't know what you even call those two days, right? crash or shut down or process level we're hitting over the last couple of days as layoffs are starting to happen. Yes. And there will be some like my personality is kind of the kind that just gets through it and doesn't really even see things. I'm a trauma triage person. Yeah, and I'm in it and then once we get done, and it's over and everybody else is all excited about going to work then then mine will come right but as sisters we have to be able to embrace each other and and recognize that we do process all that different. And not only that, but whether one sister isn't as concerned

as someone else or as

sheltered in place. I guess that's shelter in place is the is more out and about or another one is

more cautious.

There's grace for both right? And instead of bashing each other man, we can do better. We can support each other, encourage each other and walk through different seasons in different times, right? And hopefully we're we do that better than I'm seeing some.

You know, like I said earlier in a lot of ways you see a lot of amazing creativity and intentionality coming out and then sometimes,

wow, you know, fear can either mask itself as overly confident or as under confident, and just what we're typically used to seeing fear look at look like

and even in either one, we have to have grace to come alongside and encourage meet them where they are, right. That's what Jesus did for us. That's what he did for Peter. What you were just talking about. He met Peter right?

Worry was right. The typically boisterous Peter now became the overly cautious Peter, right. And Jesus every time

put that and just think I didn't even think about that that's just a number of hours between him being overly confident and slicing the soldier's ear off right. And a few hours later, he's the other way and denying haven nosing. Right? Wow, I had never even really write that. But just a number of very brief hours, that Peter goes through all of that, and yet the Lord had grace, calling back to truth, but had grace and love and mercy for both extremes. Well, you know, we were talking in our study this week about the Pharisees and the Sadducees how they, how they were manipulating pilots so much, you know, and pilot saw it. He he recognized it

And as we read through each of the Gospels we read, you know, Matthew one day mark one day, Luke one day, john one day, and we've got some other verses about the resurrection and, and all that stuff coming up that we're gonna discuss later on today. And the when we're discussing that I said, you know,

the Pharisees and the Sadducees were going to pilot going, you know, he's he's stirring things up and they were pointing at Jesus now all I can think of is, when you point at somebody, you got three fingers pointing back at you, right? So they're pointing at Jesus saying he stirring them up. But in reality, he was stirring their hearts and getting them to see something beyond what the Pharisees and Sadducees were teaching them. That's when they get in trouble. And therefore, oh, come out. They were like our sheep bowls.

are not staying in line. Like, we love

them to stay in line and they're starting to want to look behind the curtain as they say in the laws, you know. And, you know, I love the part where we read last night, that pilot when he put the plaque over Jesus's head that said, the King of Kings King of the Jews, you know, and they're like, no, it needs to say he claimed to be they were trying to spin it. I said, they're like the media today, you know, they're always trying to spin it to put the right words to get the biggest attention to get this to get the things approved. You know, and, and I'm not out here call on fake media. I'm not doing all that stuff because I have some very good friends that are part of the media that do their due diligence. So you know, I'm not going there. I'm not getting on that bandwagon. But on the other side of and with me being in radio media and podcasting, now I am the media.

So, but on the other side of it

It

is, we need to be cautious of the people around us that are stirring things and pointing to others deflecting to others. We need to have the mindset to look exactly at what is the truth.

And the difficult thing right now is in so many ways, no one knows no one knows right? The truth really is except

you can always know the truth of Scripture, right and always know the truth for the direction of your life for how to treat others are how to walk through problems, even if you don't know the truth of whatever problem it is you're facing or whatever the

disaster for lack of better word, right is.

Because anytime you're walking through one you don't know the truth of it until you get all the way through it and see but this is

is I mean, this is one that has

shaken the world. Yes, rightly or wrongly, and I shake in the world.

And I don't think we've seen half.

And I don't say that, like pessimistically, I don't think the curtains have been pulled back to see the spiritual ramifications of this as much as anything else. Well, I think we talked a little bit too. And the reason I brought up the Pharisees and the Sadducees, we talked a little bit before we came on the air about

we need to be very careful about having a religious spirit during this time. I was in a group the other day and somebody was like, Hey, we're gonna do a call Friday at four, something like that. And somebody on the west coast is like, Well, you know, I'm observing that I'm reading my Bible, because it's Good Friday and the guy goes, well, what's good Friday, you know, and somebody

said, Well, for those that are religious, it's a sacred holiday. And let me just tell you, all right, for those of you that don't know me, Well, I have a sassy side.

Why are you laughing? Connie?

We did I learned it from Connie. No.

I did. Well, you asked my husband, he would say you learn from the best, but

we didn't mention no throat punches, right. I think that might have given a clue. Right? Right. So, but in that group, when the person said, for religious people, in my right part of my mind, I knew she meant no offense to it.

But in my sassy part of my mind, I wanted to say, Well, I'm not religious, but as a Christian, I observe. Yeah. Because to me, there's a difference. There is a difference in being a Christ follower, and full of grace, because what we talk about

About earlier with Jesus talking to Peter, he was talking to Peter after Peter had denied him three times. And he was asking Peter, do you love me? And he asked him three times do you love me? Helping Peter rehabilitate his own heart and his own guilt over the denial of Christ. He was having that intimate moment with you. You know how we, we do. We talked about my six six year old grandson, though that you grab them by the face, you put hands on either side of their face to where their cheeks are just squished up just right. And you go Do you understand me?

And that I can envision in verbal picture. That's what Jesus was doing with Peter. You know, yes, you've made mistakes. Yes, you are a zealous person. But I want you to be zealous for my people. Yes, big difference. Big difference bead my sheep tend to my sheep.

Love My sheep, and being religious about whether or not they're going to church and trusting God for a miracle to heal them and keep them safe and all this.

Oh,

it's exhausting being self righteous.

And you know what's funny is we can all go there so fast because I mean, let's admit it black and white is way easier. You know?

It's just easier. It is. And the Sagittarius and Pharisees were very black and white, very legalistic by had it down to a science.

But Wow, how they could get it wrong. Right. They could get it wrong. And that just to me, just goes to prove how

easy it is to get off track. They knew the word, right. If anybody knew the word they knew the word right?

didn't have the spirit. They had the religion in the relationship. And here's the thing that really, really gets me.

They knew the word they knew the prophecy.

And watching those soldiers go, were to the to on either side of Jesus and breaking their legs, but not breaking Jesus's leg and piercing him in the side instead. You wonder if they're looking at that going, whoa.

I think they looked at it and said,

Let's fix the mess up our deal. Right? Because at the same about the same time, they're casting the lats. Yeah. to both of those were fulfillment of prophecies by people that were not prophetic people to fill. We're not people of studying of the word, you know. And one of the things I talked early on in the week about was Judas

You know, we call him Judas, the trader,

but he was the first domino to fall in setting the prophecy emotion. Yeah.

Yes, Jesus knew it was all coming.

But for it to happen those 30 pieces of silver had to be exchanged.

Okay, we don't like to think of

a life that includes

being

broken better and betrayed.

Well, that works.

Um, yeah, it's a betrayal. Right? You know, and and we get all bent out of shape when it happens to us and prayerfully we're not doing it to others. But

yeah, we've got a live on a really, really tough planet to try to walk out and

While he promised us he would lead the way and he would never forsake us, he did not promise us that it was going to be a simple walk, or a simple

journey and to think that

a betrayal was what kicked off.

The prophecies is just kind of telling.

Well, you know, a friend of mine shared something last night we talked about the,

the being laid off of work. You know, there's I've had several friends over the last few days have posted that they've been laid off work and some of them are taking it very well. You know, God's got something better, but some of them are feeling like a betrayal of their employer or the government or even if they work for a friend of theirs, the friend you know, but one of the things that

she was a friend of mine

Catherine Clift shared was she remembers her husband when he used to do his daily live worship podcasting

said that God doesn't demote he promotes and God is always faithful and I was like, What a great reminder to all of us, no matter what we're facing, some of us may be still stuck on Friday still, and and you know, now dealing with the numbness of Saturday, but Sunday is still coming.

And, you know, I,

one of the things I loved yesterday and reading from john, you know, I, I found something new I liked from each of the Gospels. You know, Luke really was great as well. But john, when he he, we call him the narcissist of the Gospels.

Jesus loves the one who Jesus loves, but there's a reason I mean, one of the things that

That I found yesterday in the scripture that not really picked up on it said,

Well, let me find it. I've got it right here. And I say I've got it right here.

And Jesus was looking down is is near the cross of Jesus did his mother, his mother sister marry the wife of colobus

cloak, ah, whatever.

Sounds good to me, and Mary Magdalene, when Jesus saw his mother there and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her woman, here is your son, into the disciple, here's your mother. From that time on, the disciple took her into his home.

Why would why wouldn't john, thank you as the favorite.

Jesus just gave him the blessing of his mother

and gave john the honor of stewarding

Her to the end of her days. Yeah, I would. I would think I was the favorite too, wouldn't you? Well?

Yeah. But also, that comes with a price. It does. He was the only disciples still standing around the cross watching all this happened. Right and he loved, right. So, again. Yeah, I mean, look, I'm I'm Jesus's favorite. He loves me best. Right.

Will I follow him? Right? On Friday? Well, john 30 right in john finished strong. Yeah, Jesus, and even better question.

Survive Friday.

Love Saturday. Rejoice on Sunday.

What are we going to do with Monday and Tuesday, right. I mean, really, you get through the battle, you survive it. You rejoice and you see the victories and you

See what the Lord has done for you? And then what are you going to do go back to how you were living on Wednesday and Thursday?

I mean, what are we going to do with it come Monday and Tuesday Are we going to forget about it and just awake earlier, they thought they were at the top of the world.

And now their world is totally shattered at their feet. And so good question to all of us. So we've had Coronavirus still do. And I'm not at all downplaying the suffering, whether it's health wise, financially, emotionally, that people are going through, but we will survive it. Right. What are we going to do with it? What are we going to do on Monday, that carries the victory that Jesus paid the price for and that we're going to celebrate on Sunday.

What are we going to do on the Monday after Coronavirus?

Right, where will our loyalty and our and our walk and our faithfulness be man? Well, and to be quite honest, if you look at the beginning of the 1900s, we had World War One, we had the Spanish flu. We had the Great Depression. We had World War Two, all before 1950. Right? That's a lot to pack into a 50 year period. That's a lot.

And so we as Americans, you know, even though we're hurting other countries as well, we as Americans,

are countries country has seen difficult times.

We have come through difficult times. That's the time known as the greatest generation, right?

can't even believe what if now is the beginning of the next greatest generation.

It can be they can boo but the choice is ours. What

Do we want it to be? One of the things that we talked about? In? I think it was Matthew that just struck me so solidly is

when the Jews were saying crucified, Jesus crucified Jesus, and parshas pilot was wanting to wash his hands of it. They were like, his blood is on our hands in the hands of our children.

You know, it's, it's apparent the things we do today are the things that our children dream, reap the benefits or the consequences of its Yes, it's just a known fact. So what is it that we what is the legacy we want to live

now is

blessed the other day to be able to record a message for a conference

Coming up for heartbeat international and just a little seven minute kind of like a TED TED Talk. And

the topics had been picked way back.

I don't know last September, probably.

And it's it's so funny how God worked it out because I had submitted a topic for a workshop, but they had asked me to do this talk on a different topic.

And they got crossed. And so what they actually did was put in the,

all the paper, all the promotional stuff that I was doing my seven minute TED Talk.

And it was a different title.

And, you know, in my fleshly, I was like, Well, I can make this work. I can make that title work with the message I already know I'm doing. Well, the title of the message was living out a god sized dream

and I kept trying to make

At work with a message on, I'm just gonna be brutally honest on walking in your authority. Right? Well, you can make the to kind of coincide except when the Lord wants a fresh word, right? And yeah, that you want the cliff notes and he doesn't do that. And so

you know, you you kind of go through it. I'm like, Lord, in the middle of everything that's going on.

You really want me to speak about living out a god sized dream? Really? Um, I don't really want to be virtual so they can't throw anything at me. So this is a good this is a good thing, right? Um, but he just he took me totally off where we are but took me to Solomon. Hmm. And just you know that he asked for understanding and discernment and judgment and God wrapped it up in a nice sized bow and call it wisdom hmm and said for that I will give you

Also wealth and honor.

And I kept studying that message him guys don't get it. I mean, a Who am I to ask for a god sized dream in the middle of all this and be? I don't even know what to ask for if I did, right. And I got to I think it's First Kings chapter three got to verse 15. And it says,

then Solomon awoke.

And I was like, whoa,

wait a minute. You go back to verse five, and it says Solomon was in given which is a place he shouldn't have been in darkness at night, which is kind of where a lot of people feel we are right now. Right.

And God came to him in a dream. Hmm. So all the things that that we remember that Solomon recounted his lineage of from David and from God's promises and everything that's been sewn into him.

We aren't smart enough, right? We aren't good enough. And if we really do want to live out a god sized dream, it really can start now.

Right? And it's

just having the conversation with God to know what his size dream is yes, because we can't. It's not about us dreaming and dreaming a dream and saying, hey, God, will you please bless this? It's about us.

Coming awake,

and letting him teach us what he's already sewn into us. You know, whether it's our setup, or our hang ups or whatever it is, he's already sewn it into us. And when God speaks things into us, he sometimes speaks things into us, that you may not even know is a possibility. Yeah, just because in

I was thinking about Noah. Yeah, Noah builds an ark, because it's gonna be flooded. And it's never rained on the planet Earth up into that point. I mean,

no wonder people were calling him weird and crazy and all sorts of things. But it rain had never fallen on the earth before. And he's building this thing that's supposed to flow. It's supposed to do all this stuff. So God will call you to do things that other people may look at and go, why are you doing that? That's crazy. And chances are if it's a god sized dream, they're going to do that because I find it's a fusions three,

three this month

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says now to him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we can ask. think or imagine

Yeah, I can dream up a lot of really cool stuff.

But God can do beyond write any of that according to the power that works

within us

all about His power, His Spirit working through US and US following where he leads in this season, in good season, in difficult season, right.

And I guess there's a question for us. It's Friday, Sunday's coming, right.

We're kind of on Saturday where it's kind of a still in between.

What are we going to do with that time?

If we really are supposed to shelter in place and a lot of us are home more and have more time on our hands?

What are we doing? I mean, now's when you want to start a god sized dream.

Well, you know heard a new partner. I heard a new episode of Tiger kings coming out on Easter Sunday

I'm joking. I there is one coming out on Sunday but that's not an endorsement of any twitch

that's not an endorsement by any means. I'm just saying you know

how many people are more excited about that than the fact that the tomb is empty on Sunday night?

Spoiler

Yeah, I'm just spoiled it. I've read the book. I've read the ending.

Truly, you know if we have a little extra time and you know, I know a lot of your listeners are, love the Lord and are living some amazing, amazing lives and dreams and ways of tuned on enough to to see the different ways they help.

their communities and each other. And I mean, just some amazing women on here, just say,

what are we doing with this time?

What if we really did, let's just call it Saturday.

And we spent the season of Saturday

letting him awaken us to what he wants to do next.

You know, I'm gonna throw my husband under the bus for a minute, just because he's not in here and I can do that. But early on in our marriage, you know, we would say some things like a lot of married couples do. We may say some things that maybe some of us that have been married a while do too, but the ratio Yeah, that's a whole different topic. We need a different expert

that we say stuff to each other that we say in the heat of the moment that we wish we could have taken

back, because it does cause hurt. It does cause pain. It does cause strife. But there was this phrase that my husband said to me one time early on in our marriage, we're having marital difficulties. And he said,

I love you. But I'm not sure I'm in love with you. And that was rough. Don't get me wrong. We've gone to counseling. We've been married 27 years now almost 28 years now. We got over it. He and he is still alive. It's I'm still married to the same husband. You know, but the other part of it was

me asking myself on a regular basis. Do I love the Lord or am I in love with the Lord?

Because when you love somebody, you're like, Hi, bye. I love you. I mean, I've told the cashier Love you. Bye bye.

But when you're in love with somebody, you want to spend time with them. You want to know what makes them happy. You want to do things for them that make them happy. You want to find a way for y'all to live your lives completely together.

And that's a huge difference. And where I took offense to Mike saying that to me so many years ago, I'm thankful now that he said that to me, because I've had to dig deep and I've had to ask myself that question, as am I living my life as if I'm in love with Christ? Or am I living it as if I'ma Love you, bye.

Oh, sorry, I thought we weren't gonna do any throw punches today. Huge, huge difference, you know, yeah, it's it's a difference in looking for his hand and looking at us

face.

Just that simple. You sit down to study your word to see what he can do for you. Or you sit down to study His Word to hear his heart, right? And see him face to face it

it'll change your life forever. Well, there's there's been times

the more and more I get into the word, you know, used to I'd read the word, and I'd write my little journal and put it have a whole lot of my thoughts in that journal.

And I was super smart. Yeah, I was good at what I was doing right. But then, the other part of it is what I started realizing was when I was starting to write things in my journal questioning things. Normally it was questioning motives of my heart.

It was questioning how willing I was to walk with God how big I was.

Willing to dream with him? How if I could discipline myself in this area? Whoo, I hate that word. Discipline myself in this area that he would open up this area for me. You know, and the more disciplined I became, the more the doors were opening. And I'm not talking about religion and law. I'm talking about being disciplined to be more in tune with him in his calling. walking the street in the neighborhood, not as a hooker.

Okay, walking the street in my neighborhood.

She had died laughing at me right now.

Hey, Jesus, loved tokers. Anyway.

Oh, yeah, that walk in my neighborhood Street. Even if we're not able to be within the six feet with each other

I can still share a smile. I can still share a Hello. I can touch bases with people in my in our Facebook group the other day.

We have a neighborhood Facebook group, right? And here's my thing. There is a church song we used to sing. Back in the olden days they don't sing it so much because we think so much contemporary now, you know, in my church, but back I don't even think I've ever sung this in the church I go to now Whoo, that was a rabbit trail anyway.

The song you they will know we are Christians by our love. Yep. All right.

Well, if you're having intelligence, not by your intelligence, not by me telling you I'm a Christian. Because if you're having to tell me, then I probably wouldn't have never known it from your actions. Not by all the oh

they won't know it by all

The things we don't do, right? The

somebody in our Facebook group post the other day was in our Facebook group for our neighborhood was posting about their next door neighbor. Right? Not one of the neighbors in the almost 300 homes in our neighborhood. Their next door neighbor

was mad because their next door neighbor had called city out on them because their trash cans had been in front of their yard and was mad that they had called the police instead of coming over and having the decency to knock on their door and have the conversation and all this stuff on Facebook. So they put it on Facebook and then said in there several times and I'm a Christian and data and all this stuff. I'm like you're making it worse. No, you're a religious person. Please don't. Please, please don't tell anyone that you're a Christian. Just please don't. And then the other part is is we wanted to tell them to will. Couldn't you have gone next door and had the conference

They're Christian.

They're Christian they they everybody should cater to them.

You know, my favorite along those lines, if you talk to any waitress, oh, you're about to push a button here. The the time they hate to wait on tables the most is when the rude people come in after church on Sunday because they're very rude. They're very demanding and they do not tip. No, they leave little pamphlets and little business cards with Jesus loves you on it and they don't tip their server. They're also probably the ones that don't tie the well at church either. I'm just I'm not judging. I'm not judging. I'm just putting it out there. We can do better. We can do better. Because here's the thing. Once the Sunday came, you know, I love it. I keep going back to john because not because it's the freshest

But because he was just more in tune with the behind the scenes the things that most people don't talk about his favorite well I relate to him really well because I'm everybody's favorite but

but john whenever he runs the team he stops and looks in but in true Peter fashion john notes that Peter grunts straight in all right.

So Peters in there John's in there they go back. Mary's telling the other disciples all this stuff by now she seen Jesus she's had a conversation. But you know when she went and talked to Peter and john, she was trembling. She was wondering she was she was upset. It didn't really say she was fearful, but she was upset. But by the time she broke the news to the rest of the disciples, she was elated. She had seen Jesus. I mean, look

When you are in a terrifying situation

and even now if it's in your spirit, hers was audibly.

You hear the Savior

call out your name

didn't get any better. It calms you instantly. It fires you up instantly. it verifies everything you've ever thought he sewn into you before told you before.

And that's all it took was for the man she was in love with the teacher, the Savior she was in love with not just love distance, distant link

to just in the craziness of the moment.

Call out Mary. Well, I think I think it for me, you know, people like oh, you just like that it was a woman and you're

into women empowerment and all that stuff. I said, There is so much more to this than that. I said, here's the thing. Mary had seven demons cast out of her. She had already seen what she thought was impossible become possible. Yes. Who better for Jesus to show himself to somebody who was already primed and ready to see what they believed was once impossible.

I mean, how cool is that? I love it. You know, I feel like I'm that person.

My husband thinks I'm that person.

Which demon am I talking the hangry one.

derailed

that has

lived less than a chosen daughter of the king.

has heard his voice call me to himself and has forgiven and redeemed and restored and allowed my place of deepest wounding to become

his place

to show off what he can do, right? I

totally identify with what you just said.

Well, we have to take a quick break because you know, they like for the commercials to run here to pay for our radio time slot and all of that. So we're gonna take a quick break and when we come back, we're gonna dive into what happened from Sunday and beyond.

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All right, and we are back with Connie Wyatt Coleman. And we are having some great conversation. We've talked a little bit about Friday and Saturday and leading up to that, and we've talked a little bit about Sunday. But you know, one of the things that

as we were talking about Jesus appearing to marry and then to his decision

dipoles

a lot of times it would have made more sense if you look at it if he would have gone from today's standard of people gone back and shown himself to the Pharisees the Pharisees the pilot and gone

okay keep me

coming

I don't know we're

coming out

Oh, we have jumped the shark now. But you know he in my mind that's who I would have shown myself to you thought you could keep me down boom. And a lot of tastes today we see that people in today's society. I was down this is my comeback. I'm you know, you know someone's

So said this about me and I defeated that and I have made myself this because of that you had made yourself squat.

No self made nothing. I'm a self made man say, I make those all the time.

There's a

doctor of theology. That friend of mine that had a post up yesterday, and

he says, Some of y'all aren't gonna like this. It's Dr. Mike Brown.

And I really don't care.

He says before I say what needs to be said I acknowledge the sacrifice and work of American people attempting to do all we can do to mitigate the virus. There has been cooperation, sacrifice, adaptation and behavior monitoring.

Which are commendable and noteworthy and exemplary. I love my country and its people. Having acknowledged all that, well, here we go again, claiming all our hard work and sacrifices beginning to turn this virus around.

just heard on TV how impressive we have been in lowing the projective death tolls. Meanwhile, men and women of God who are battling in the spirit against this calling millions to prayer and sounding trumpet for repentance, a return to the Lord and a humble petition for his deliverance are mocked and castigated. See I can learn big words and lampooned as antiquated, flat earth fools, believers who are praying, fasting and calling out to God or patted on the head like little ignorant trolls that must be tolerated until their kind will eventually be absorbed by the globalist monolith with all of this sublime

And superior wisdom say that he's one of my people that writes some big words that I have a hard time with. And

so, you know, he's, he says, quit claiming God's glory for ourselves less through our arrogance, we inform him we can handle these problems on our own.

Romans 121 through 22, because that when they knew God, they glorified him not as God. Neither were thankful but became vain in their imaginations and their foolish heart was darkened. professing themselves to be wise they became fools. God forgive us remember us in Deliver us. You are refuge in our strong tower forever and ever.

Wow.

So my,

I thought that was I thought that was a good deep word for us.

To

sit with because,

you know, even the disciples could have gone. Have you seen my Jesus? Looky there, he did this and then he was boom, then he was back as

well and leave it to Peter he kind of did. Right. Not in those terms, not in his own strength, right. But after

Jesus was on earth and after he showed himself to the people and after he transcended

that's when that's when Peter

walked in and the power and an anointing fell. And I mean, yeah, he was. He might not have done it with the mic drop. Right. But I mean, he did he was like, just an airdrop. Yeah.

Jesus

Whoo, y'all

killed.

This is the Jesus who offers you salvation. Right? This is the Jesus who offers you eternal life.

And

Spirit had opened up and people could hear truth and understand truth and the huge movement of people coming to understand who Jesus was, and what he was here to do.

Just exploded.

Well, you know,

so what are we going to do after Sunday? Well, first off, we we need to not be like Thomas.

Poor Thomas. You know, he was the one that because he hadn't been there and seen Jesus when everybody else did. He he had to touching him and poke his hand into his side and all that stuff. Believe. It doesn't say any of the other disciples did that. So

Thomas was a bit morbid we know that.

But when when we did this,

you know, I love that Jesus without saying he was omnipresent, showed he was omnipresent in this because if Jesus had come back and said, john called me and told me that you were doubting me and who I am, then Jesus would have said it there because john would have written it down. But Jesus didn't say that. Jesus came in and said, Peace be with you then said to Thomas, Put your finger here. He was laying Thomas that he already knew what Thomas needed to believe.

We did. He didn't have to articulate that to Jesus.

Jesus already knew.

And guess what?

He knows what each one of us need.

Well, okay, so we're going to talk about Christian versus religious again.

If I put out on Facebook or in a group that I have an unspoken prayer requests

then

if somebody it then I somebody comes to me and tells me that they can't pray for me because they don't know what what I need prayer for because it's unspoken.

Why are you trying not to lab

that that that they need to know what I need prayer for so they can specifically proof to God for me.

She's got this look on her face to people like she's trying to choke back. Tears of laughter

I'm waiting for how you responded.

I'm sure I'm sure that wasn't one of those that I held back on the keyboard once. But basically, somebody had shared in one of our groups that someone so needed prayer, no, I

shared that someone so needed prayer, please pray for her. And they came back and, and it was like three comments of you need to tell us what's wrong so we can pray the right way and ask the Holy Spirit to intervene, intervene the right way, and dah, dah, dah. It was just like boom, boom, boom, boom. And

mine was very short and to the point, when more through better, we can do better. She keeps a weekend. I mean, let's be honest, spiritual abuse takes all forms. It can be sassy or ferrocene. smacking somebody over the head with a Bible verse instead of meeting them where they are, and loving them and loving them to a new level.

And ladies, let's just say it, it can be women who mask prayer, as gossip beauty shop for your circles. Yeah.

God does not need you to know the details in order to sit down and say,

Dear Heavenly Father, Jesus help my friend. They need you. They're crying out to you, you know what they need? And I know you're able. Right? Amen. Right. I don't need another detail. There is nothing about my prayers that can really do it. It's just us petitioning together. Let's take it a step further. So obedience, if you need to know the details, the Holy Spirit is able to quicken your heart on what to pray for, right?

You don't have to, you just don't have to write I can't tell you how many times that I have heard prayer

meetings, turned into gossip sessions because we cannot just simply say hey, so and so nice.

Prayer. In order for people to really truly pray fervently, we think they need to know the detail that you know, because her husband this and her daughter that and her son did the other end, right.

That's a failure on Christians, brothers and sisters, to take prayer requests to the Lord seriously.

And it's a failure on our part to abuse each other. With gossip when there's no need for it if we're truly relying on the spirit to pray. Sorry, you just hit a nerve.

I cannot stand it. Well, you know, last year

it's interesting. We're coming up on a year

since

my friend Kim passed away,

and on

the wee morning hours of a

April 18.

I woke up in the middle of the night, my husband and son were up in Arkansas with my parents and woke up in the wee mornings of the night and I wrote a letter to her in in Facebook Messenger, just letting her know how much I loved her how much I cared for how much you know, I didn't. I didn't know where she was in her medical crisis at that time to if she was even reading things or not. And

I went back to sleep. After I wrote that letter. It took me a while to go back to sleep, but I basically cried myself to sleep that night after writing that letter.

And I woke up the next morning, and there was a post on her page. That said, Please pray for my family.

I had not verbally talked with my friend in weeks

But I knew that day from that post on her and what God had started my spirit overnight

that my friend was soon to answer death's door.

I knew it.

I didn't have to have her pick up the phone and call me. I didn't have to have her daughter pick up the phone and call me. I didn't have to get a text. I didn't have to get a detail about how the body had ravaged her system. The chemo had ravaged her system so much and done it. I didn't mean any of that. You didn't have to comment on the Facebook post inside tell us what's going on? No, no, no, you know, I didn't have to do that either.

All I had to do basically about the time I saw that post, my husband called from Arkansas to tell me that we had lost another loved one in Ohio. That was our third death then since January and on his side of the family.

He's trying to talk to me. As he's talking to me, he can notice that my voice ain't right.

And I could just go, I said, I have this sense that Kim is dying.

And he's like, Well, what do you know? I'm like, that she's dying. And he goes out of you know, that. I'm like, it's just a sense, you know? And it was just

and she was the one that pushed me and challenged me and never wanted me to hang back to what she was called to, but she wanted to be involved into what we were doing. Yes. Right. And so, being in tune with her brought me in tune with God. being in tune with God brought me in tune with her.

Last week.

God I post, from a cousin in Georgia saw posts from a cousin in Georgia.

Just saw one of the kids posted, please pray for my family.

Instantly I knew what had happened. Before my husband even got confirmation of what had happened. I instantly knew because I'm connected with that mom.

And we have shared our hearts with each other.

And were to share each other's hearts. The Holy Spirit intervenes to communicate in ways between us that when we don't have the strength or the energy to pick up the phone and make the call, the Holy Spirit can say, hey, you need to text them. You need to call them you need to check on them.

When you find that true, yeah.

Some of us are better at doing it.

I mean, I

just yesterday

I mean, I considering my older brother, right?

And he posts to Facebook almost every morning. And

I saw it yesterday morning. He had posted it Wednesday.

But I just saw it. And I mean in the first three or four words,

I could hear in his voice that something wasn't right. Right. And he was he was absolutely transparent on the post just that it had been a rough day and he's, you know, walking through this and a pastor friend had passed away, but there was just something

deeper, it felt like, again, to your point, I know his heart, right. And so I just text shot him a text real quick. And I'm like, Look, I know, I know you're trying to navigate all of this and blah, blah, blah, and just know in this moment, right now. I'm praying strength for you.

And I almost he texted me back

He said, You know, when I posted that yesterday I had this, just this feeling just this over, was overcome with it.

He's a little did I know,

by 10 o'clock last night, or the night that he posted that deal, but 10 o'clock that mind. His father passed away. Oh my goodness, he got the call. He was able to get there and he had about an hour with his father.

But that he didn't he didn't have to ask outside of that post.

Say Anything else was going on? I had no clue his dad had been sick again. Right.

But I just knew after hearing his voice that he needed encouragement Hmm, I had no clue anything else that had transpired. Didn't need to know right. The need to know just needed to know that I was reaching out for him.

So can do what do we do after Sunday? Yeah.

We live life with people. And when God put somebody on your heart, follow up with it, right or no follow up. I, I can't tell you personally, how many times

you know, I've told you 100 times I thought before I took this job that I knew what spiritual warfare was, I thought I was prepared.

I had no

No, no, no clue, no clue. And there have been many times, just online that it's not something that people ask for prayer for necessarily, it's not something that you would ever put on Facebook, but just the, the battles that come and God has quickened to other people's spirits, right to to call or just to send it, send a text or, hey, you want to go have coffee, you know, just any little thing but somewhere along the way,

the Holy Spirit put me on other people's hearts.

When I needed it, and they didn't need details,

probably didn't even share details when we went to coffee. Right? Not with a lot of them.

But some of them just Hey, you just crossed my mind. I want you to know, you know, I love you keep going strong. Well, and, and here's the other thing that you have to realize even Jesus had tears to His disciples. He took his disciples within places. He taught lessons that they were all able to hear and do. But even when he went to have certain moments with disciples, there are some that were closer to him than others, that he confided in more so than others. And that's okay, too. Yeah. You don't have to tell everybody everything that's going on. You know, you shouldn't and Connie's one of those people that knows a lot of what goes on with

If she doesn't know it right away, she'll know it at some point when we have a discussion. And, and I'm hoping that I always hope that I'm that friend to my friends whenever I'm doing that as well, that they feel that they can speak and open their hearts to me and tell me anything. And it will not shock me it will not hurt me it will not push me away. And that I will not think that they are less than a Christian. I will just love them as Christ loved them. You know, and, and we need to be that friend to others. I know. One of the ways the Lord has done that, for me is just for several. I don't even remember when he really put it on my heart but somebody was going through a trial and

you know, just letting them know I'm there letting them know I'm there. I don't you know what, I'm available to you whenever you need me. You don't have to tell me a thing. You don't have to tell me what's going on. just text me the word

Jesus, and I will know immediately, right? That you need prayer that you need me to intercede in your behalf and you need me to stand in the gap or stand strong with you. Hmm. And that's all I need to know.

That's it text me the name Jesus. Right.

And I have some friends that that take me up on. Right. And I'm thankful because I have friends that

man, I can just sit and pray, please pray.

And that's where the power is. Because, look, here's the truth when when we're in the middle of a battle, right?

We may think we know

what our prayer need is.

Chances are just like right now, we don't know truth. We don't know truth of situation that we're in right now. And when we're in the middle of a battle, a lot of times we can see pieces and parts but we can't pull ourselves out.

Have it far enough to see the big picture, right? And if I'm telling someone what to pray, instead of allowing the Holy Spirit to tell them what to pray, hmm, if they're praying for what I want them to pray for, that may or may not be what I need, it may or may not be what the Lord has for me. So if I truly want people to pray where the need is,

I'll leave that up to the Holy Spirit as much as possible.

You know, as you're talking about that, I started thinking about the movie,

tornado,

you know, cuz,

and there's a reason for it when you're in the middle of the tornado. When they were they were driving into the storm to get the data from the storm twister. twister. That's what's called twister. Yeah, Helen Hunt. Yeah, she dropped, they dropped their driving in there to get all that data out of it. But to drive in there, they had to have the other one stay back to be able to tell where the tornado was going and where

Their exit route was too close because they were too close and, and you know, even being in the truck, she's like cow,

another cow. He says, I think that's the same cow.

Because at that point, they just didn't know what direction was the right direction out and, and there's been times where I've been in the thick of it and I'm like, I don't even know how to pray for me, right?

I just don't even know what I need right now. Sleep, sleep would be nice. When when Ali had the twins and we were all here. It was like Sleep, sleep would be nice, but you know.

But then

there have been unexpected blessings that have happened because what happens when you just say I just need you to pray and you don't give guidance to what you need prayer for. The Holy Spirit supernaturally opens.

have so much more than you could ever imagine because you've opened your receiver up to receive more than you ever hoped was possible.

Just kind of who he is. Isn't that awesome? Our God is a great God.

My dad, he's kind of cool.

Yo, I'm also loved that. After Sunday, the apostles went fishing.

Yeah, they went right back to living their lives. I did. Not the same. They were forever changed and, and yes, Jesus showed up and did the miracles of the fish. And then like they said he in that I love me. Do you love me, Peter, do you love me? He was reinstating Jesus. Jesus was reinstating Peter at that point he was he was getting Peter to realize his role and his purpose in being the rock the foundation that the church was going to be built on. That Yes, you may stumble and

Ball. But there's still grace. You're still love your there's still like place for you. And how many of us have stumbled and fallen in life? I know I have many times more than three. More than

more than more than three. But you know, I love that too because he

Do you love me? Yes, Lord, right Feed my sheep. Right? Feed my sheep. It's not about you, right? It's about others.

But the whole scenario is, well, Jesus, cook them breakfast, hmm. And then told Peter to feed his sheep. We can't give what we don't have. Right. The Lord feeds us so that we can feed others. It's not about us. It's not about promoting us. It's not about a platform for us. It's about the Lord sowing into us what he has for us

To live in us and through us, and then us beating others with that. Because

if you're not

spending time with the Lord and you're not in His Word,

then I can say, hey, Angie, you know I'm rooting for you, all day long. I can share my great intellect, intellect with you.

Be slim pickins more than one.

What do I have that really offers you any hope? one thing and one thing only the love of Jesus Christ, right? He says it into me so that I can sell it into others

into story. And that's just what did he win over death hell in the grave to do

to feed us? Right so that we can feed others.

But that's what the whole that's what living on a god sized dream is about.

Right. It's it's not about us. It's never about us. It's always, always about sowing life into others. Always. Well, and, you know, when he's telling them wait, we joked all week there's so quit hoarding the toilet paper. It's all about it's not God, toilet paper. Sorry.

But, you know everybody talking about spraying and praying but are they really pray in

the Lysol spray and pray, spray and pray that

you know, we make fun of the disciples being told so many times we talked about that earlier.

But we've already talked about how we've been told multiple times, but when he goes in, he talks to the disciples and He presents himself to the disciples. And then he presents himself to Thomas he goes in there because you have seen me you have believed Blessed are those who have not seen any

Yeah, believe me, and believe, you know, here's the thing. They had something a gift, john 316, you have a gift that I'm giving you, you know, my only beloved son.

This is a big love gift I'm giving you It's better than a diamond ring girls.

And I'm giving you this gift.

Enjoy your time with him.

feed off of your time with him absorb from him as much as you possibly can. Because you have no idea the legacy that your involvement in these three years with my son is going to have. I mean, they couldn't even grasp the fact that he was going to come back from the dead. Could you think they would be able to grasp that 2000 years later we would be sitting here talking about him. And then

the most favorite one of all

Yeah. And the Doubting Thomas.

I mean, no, who would have thought it? No.

And we're in a microwave society. Now we don't think about that either. No, we don't think that the decisions that I make today

affect my children.

We might think that far.

But we don't even

can't even fathom

what the Lord has passed us because of us. Right, if we will

surrender to what he's calling us to do.

All right. You know, Kim Slater had her surgery and beginning of January, and she has had an opportunity to look internally both physically and spiritually

During this journey, and I saw her on that podcast the other day, yeah, she is.

With God's help she is slaying it. Oh yeah, she is she's doing amazing she, she has God gave her the word of the year this year as restart.

And that was before January one came around in January 2 she had her open heart surgery right. And when I went and saw her The day after she came home from the hospital, she has a heart shaped pillow. And on there, the doctor drew it has the it's a heart like a Valentine heart shape.

heart but it has a picture of a heart medical wise on there. It's what she could use to hold up against the wrists incision when she went to cough because it was going to be painful, right.

But on there, the doctor drew and showed her what he had done internally on her

So she could see scientifically what was done physically inside of her to open up her, her get blood flowing better. And it was amazing. The day after her surgery days after her surgery, just the color that was back in her that hadn't been there in years he didn't know. And just not knowing how bad she was until it happened. But with that change, it's had overflow effect. She has lost weight. She has started eating healthier, making healthier choices, learning about how to fuel her body the right way, learning that she actually likes to exercise. She doesn't like getting started. But once she started she actually likes it. You know, so she can just get past that little bump of starting. It's like me riding the bike with a stun the other

A Day in the neighborhood. We go to one driveway, and he'd stopped so I'd have to stop my bike. And he was taking arrest like a six year old knees, take arrest, he was taking arrest. Then he rides to the next driveway and he stops about the time I get my momentum going, I have to stop again. I stopped and started I don't know how many times down just a block of my street riding down the street and back. And that's the hardest part for me to getting started. Once I got going. I was on a groove. I was ready to go

to the next driveway to the next driveway when we had stopped again, in a sense, like, I need a break and hate.

And I'm like, Are you serious? Do you need a break? He goes No, I just don't want you to hurt yourself. Boy, not to love somebody.

But how hard is it that many people say the Getting Started

is the hardest part.

You know? And there's a quote by Zig Ziglar says, You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.

Yep. If you want the greatness and the goodness of all that God has for you, you have to start spending time with him. The only way it happens, the only way it happens.

And I told Mike, I said, I haven't drained much in the last year. I really can't tell you on a hand how many times I've drained the last year.

I've been reading more intently this week. I've been reading my Bible the last year but not

not as ferociously as I have.

In the last month.

My dreams have woke up and this week they have gotten even more intense like I wake up and I know

The dreams I had when I was sleeping. So let me tell you

back Solomon, right, that verse 15 says, he awoke and behold, it was a dream.

So he awoke. And he got his little back, but back to Jerusalem where it belonged. And he offered sacrifices to the Lord, which for us, is kind of the moment of decision.

Are we or are we not going to be willing to walk out what the Lord is sewn into us? So he awoke, and then right, that Getting Started you're then it's walking it out. His then was when I mean the very next thing, the two moms come to him fighting over the baby, right?

I mean, it's like, so he, he, he had asked for understanding discernment and judgment. So he walked back through everything they had told him and repeated it back to him. So I had understanding. He exercise discernment. Premium is the word I'll cut it in half. Not exactly the

deserve you and I will. But

and it brought him to a point of judgment being able to see who the had the true heart of a mom. Right?

He walked out what God had told him in the dream. So he awoke. And then you're in your then he's already woken you, hmm. awakened you. However, I've been woke, woke.

And

you've read, dedicated to be in back in the word right and back into what it's

all that He has for you in that word, then, then he's walking you step by step.

It's just, it's not difficult. Well, it may get hard. And here's the thing. I've been raised in the church. Yeah, I've read the Bible my whole life. Here's the thing I want people to understand. There.

There are times that we let things come up against us that distract us and pull us. And sooner or later things get edged out

of our lives. And sometimes it's our discipline to

be as

absorbing of God's word as we need to be. So

reading the Bible is one thing. But being, being to where you're chasing after God is a totally different than on sometimes there are seasons. Walk in the neighborhood every morning, just on a leisurely stroll is one thing walking the neighborhood at a five mile pace for in an hour is a totally different walk. I want to go on the first one with you, right? But you know, but when Jesus I want to go on the second one, right? Let's go. Let's do this. Let's it's Monday. It's Monday. So

Now the apostles are going out and they're getting to say, Hey, did you hear?

They're getting to be the CNN and the BBC. And actually, they're the ad.

News. After death news, Oh.

Well, it was the BBC

broadcasts before Christ and the ad news after death news. They were the ad news. The good news, they were the ones that were going out. And hey, did you hear? Hey, are you know Jesus is alive? Hey, we've got this. Hey, come do fellowship with us. Come to our house, come to our whatever. You know what? They said groups of 10. Right. Home groups don't have to be larger than groups of 10.

Yo, the maybe maybe God trying to focus on

The bigness in the focus of the four walls of a church to us being the church in our bodies, yes. Temple, temple, little bit of Temple, not tempo temple.

You know, I'm reminded I love this phrase of this guy that comes up to a pastor in the church parking lot. He's like, Pastor, so and so over here needs their electric paid, and the church needs to pay it.

And the pastor looks at him and goes, Okay, church, pay it.

Because it's not the four walls. It's not the budget that looks all pretty. It's not, you know, how all of that flows. And if you've got the best worship service going on, if it's like a major production, that's not what it's about. It's about being in tune with the heart of God and that's not a nine to noon on Sunday thing that

And every minute of every day of every week thing. Yeah. Because those disciples

if they had just heard of Jesus and heard the story of what had happened,

their recounting it would have been drastically different. Right? But they knew him. They loved him. They walked with Him, they spent time with him. They saw how he lived in everyday life, which for him,

was was perfect. Those that walk with me in everyday life don't get that blessing might not right. But they knew him. Right. And so

our testimony cannot be the same.

If we don't know him on that level, or if we've let the relationship get stale,

Or if we're one step back, and we know of him. And I heard this about this guy and that he did this and that that happened, right? instead of like you said, being able to say, my Jesus, my Jesus, my, Jesus did this. And I know it because he showed himself to us after. I mean, he showed up to what like 500 and some of the people right after He resurrected, so it it's not. It's not a secret, right? But he came to those who loved first and they went with him to the others and it just we have to have that relationship. You can't survive.

Death,

disease, Corona, losing jobs, fear you can't do it just knowing him. one step removed. My pastor told me a story. My Sunday school teacher

taught me this, my small group leader taught me that

you have to know Him for yourself.

My mentor and friend, john Maxwell, right? He teaches us all the time he goes, you may share a story that I shared with you, because but once you get to feel uncomfortable with that story, because you claim that story is your own. You don't have to say my friend john told the story once. Because you've told it three times. Now you've put it a part of your teaching. You can make it your story now. Yeah. He said, it's just like reading the Bible.

He goes because you're getting intimate. With the details. Yeah. And he goes, and it's my and he does a when we do our international training twice a year. We didn't do it in March this year. Because of all of this. We had a virtual summit instead. But

he does a church service.

On the third morning every time and it's opened all the family members, all the visitors that come with the trainees and stuff and it's a packed out crowd. And he always shares from his heart in the most transparent moments there. And it's always a good teaching, but he, he talks about being the one that Jesus takes to the mountaintop with

you.

And Jesus knew before he got there, he didn't sit there and go, Well, let me see. He already knew before he got there, who he was going, who, who was qualified to go to the mountaintop with him, because those who had spent time with him more intimately than the others and had paid attention more intimately than the others. He took those a little bit higher, and he still had time to himself to pray that they went higher with him and

For me, looking and reading each of these stories and reading the Easter story, in each

version of the gospel,

brought the story more alive to me. Because in the first three gospels, it says Mary came back and got the other disciples

list that has nothing to do with john and Peter going to the tomb.

It says that Mary came and told the disciples that Jesus,

Matthew, Mark and Luke left out that john Pater had already gone to the

chapter and john, we had some no I was there first.

There, so. So taking the time and going and reading the stories, you know, one of the things if you've been out of the Bible for a while if you've been not as ferociously chasing after God as you should have been

Start in the New Testament,

read the stories of Jesus and find the versions of the stories in each gospel. Because the other night I said when a police officer shows up at a crime scene, right? He gets witness statements. He doesn't just go and get one witness statement. If there's multiple people he gets everybody's because that's how you can get a better complete picture of what happened, right?

That's what's going on with the Gospels here is you're getting multiple personality types. With a different sense of vision, john was more in tune with the way people personally struggled through their decision making, where Matthew was more analytical about it.

Luke was a little more colorful, so each of them had their own perspective of which they shared the story. And so if you're out there and you're

ready to kick it off,

Get in there and read those Gospels. If not. We are starting in our warrior divas Facebook group a morning devotional every morning. We'll have a Monday night discussion every Monday night starting

in not this month, well, this Monday Coming up, we'll start it. So you can join and watch the Facebook Live of the devotional in the morning. You can read your verses yourself, follow along in that and then come back and discuss all of them for the week with us on that following Monday night. Maybe we can get Connie to come on and do some guest devotional devotions for us.

Straight from her study area at her house. And her little happy spot she has.

And Connie I just want to thank you for coming on today. I know. Good Friday is a day that we like to Observe but it's also day we like to just celebrate our Jesus. So, thank you.

I thank you again for coming. And for those of you remember to tune in next week for another show of warrior demons, real talk for real women and until then you be blessed. Thank you

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Well for those of you that are joining us, we are here in the warrior divas real talk for real women Facebook group and we are doing our show we're adapting to our ever changing society. We are being emotionally connected in a social distancing world so

Today, I am excited about the show we have for you We but before we get started, I wanted to let you know that if you're watching this in the group, you can invite other people to join us in the group to watch it. comment in the comment section, give a little like a little love. Leave one of the emoticons if we make it happy, sad or mad, any of that in the in the group. And I want to welcome our guests today and just a few moments, they're gonna let us know a little bit about themselves. And then as we go through the show, you'll get to learn a little bit more about them.

As I said, I'm Angie Monroe, I am the host of the show. This show airs every Tuesday from 11am to 1pm Central Standard Time on fishbowl radio network and then you can find it starting at 3pm on all the podcast social networking sites. So if you hear something you like today or or you really want somebody else listen to that's the great way to share it. Plus, it'll be here in the group as well. So

We're going to start off we've got

Stacey up in the top we've got Janet Stacey wave.

Janet under Stacey. We've got misty right next to Stacey to Janet and then we got cam. I don't know how it's showing up on everybody. thing. I guess mine's a little bit different. So getting yelled away. So I want y'all to we're gonna start with Stacey and kind of go in that order. So Stacy if you will, kind of give us a who you are, what your occupation is, where you're located and what you're passionate about.

My name is Stacey Penny when I am the owner of Alexander medical Spa in Hurst, Texas. I'm also very involved in the Chamber of Commerce. I'm on the board of directors. I'm also on the board of directors for central arts of Bedford and Hearst. I like being involved in the community. That's one of my passions. I love helping other people. I like to be involved in charities. I also am

passionate about learning. And I like to learn from other people. I like to learn from books. And I like to learn from doing.

And this is my first podcast so I'm learning right now. Awesome.

All right, we have Janet Janet, tell us a little bit Hey, Shay break out and dance or when I was live that

and you did that sway app yesterday, didn't you?

Yes, I had 500 views as people actually think I can dance that good which is really awesome. Yeah, I can't really dance that good y'all. Okay, my name is Janet Manor and I live in the middle of nowhere Kansas. I used to live in Texas and I miss you guys miss all the Texas hair and all the beauty of Texas women. And not that I don't love my Kansas ladies, but I do miss Texas and and I am retired but I still passionate about helping

People, I

I take a lot of phone calls and do a lot of praying for people still people call me for that a lot. And I teach a Bible study class of about 25 women every Monday night. So that's I'm really passionate about studying the Bible. I have the time, most of the time now to do it. And so

a very busy life up until this point. So it's been, it's a blessing to be able to sit and sit in word and he's, we just did James Bible study. And so he's prepared us for a time as this to consider it all joy to be in this trial. That's where we are. And as women and all the people that we love and care for are going to follow our lead. You're just really that's the truth and our families. So trying to keep it all joyful here, and it's not being unrealistic, but

now's the time to shine. Ladies, now's the time to shine. So absolutely, absolutely. Misty, how about you? Hi, I missed you.

I'm the owner of picture perfect brows and beauty and co founder of expanded woman. And you know, I, I'm located but for Texas By the way, and I'm super passionate about people, connecting others and also just empowering other women building confidence. Those are the things and I'm very woman centric as well. So I definitely think we aligned in that way, Angie. Absolutely. So Kim,

Kim get started. Marcel

reviver talk about her so much, but many of y'all have not ever really officially met her. So this is Kim. Hi, Kim. I'm Kim.

And I'm in Grapevine, Texas. And um, I, for a long time have been a small business owner had a graphic design business out of my house. Really

Long time

since 2015, I've been doing ministry and biblical counseling with women and I graduated last November with my certification to be a biblical counselor. And so, out of that, hopefully a ministry is being birthed.

But, you know, God had different plans for how 2020 is gonna go so I'm just

my word for the year was restart. Um, I know that I'm still very passionate about women seeing women healed, broken hearts restored, just walking in freedom and and the path that God has for them. So that's my true passion and how that shows up and what that looks like kind of ebbs and flows.

As I think I'm growing and maturing in the Lord, so we'll see what he has for next.

Yeah, it's interesting because without planning it tonight, we ended up with two of the ladies on the show that have helped me with my external beauty. We got misty and Stacy that have helped me with the external beauty. And then

Janet and Kim have helped me with my spiritual beauty over the last several years of my life, and I tell the story about mending the soul all the time and how much I hated that class but loved that class. And Janet's the one that kind of I brought it up to her one day and she goes you're in my class period, you know it's done now I was like, Okay, what did I get myself into? So

and then all that you've seen growing with divas impact the magazine The the beautiful flyers and all the thing, the logo for warrior divas all of that has been done by Kim. So pm is the previous

creative genius behind all of that. So Mary, and I just get to come up with great, crazy ideas and go, Hey, friends, let's have some fun.

But

so, you know, Kim has been on isolation a little bit longer than the rest of us. And I'll let her share a little bit about that as we go on. But we were just talking about what is the purpose of the show? What are we wanting to do with the show? And yes, I'm not touching my face. I'm touching my hair. So don't anybody freak out about Corona on me because I'm putting my hair in my house.

But,

you know, our biggest thing is we want to be somebody that shines a light. So we realized that when you are socially isolated, you don't need to be emotionally isolated. And so we're going to start doing more and more things like this inside the group. Just to have a fun way Friday night, we're going to have a

pajama party inside the group everybody show up, we're going to open up the zoom live thing. Let everybody jump on, we'll have a little dance party on there, we'll do a whole bunch of fun stuff inside the group. With that, just because moms and women married single with kids without kids, we all just need to blow off steam at some point, right? Ah. So

part of what we're wanting to be is shine that light, we're going to do that and a lot of spiritual ways. We're going to do that in a lot of emotional ways. We're going to do that in a lot of fun ways. So Friday night will be instead of a divas night out it will be a divas night in so you will start seeing us talking about that later on this week. And we'll do one of those each week until we're set free and then we'll start having divas nights out because we'll be building relationships behind the scenes. So somebody somebody had a post up the other day, one of the single

people I know was talking said, Wait a minute, you mean I actually got to talk to somebody and get to know them first before I go on a real date.

So we're going to take the opportunity to get to know you and we want to talk with, you know, the girls here, I want you to realize that it's not just me in this group. There's other amazing women in this group that can leave things up and talk with you and encourage you and inspire you. And that's what we're all here to do. So

this morning, I shared in the group, the john Maxwell video about leadership, and I was live streaming watch parties in this group and another group and trying to leave the notes in there and I do have the notes I'll put them in the notes in a file here inside the group from that section once I get them cleaned up to where other people can kind of interpret my notes as I typed them up, but they're still a little wonky and

You know, it was great because he was speaking to leaders. Now tomorrow, he's going to be talking and tomorrow and to say he's going to be talking,

turning adversity into advantage. And we're going to kind of kick that off tonight talking about what we as women are thinking and doing and feeling, and, and all of that. So

what I want you to know is, we're women here, we may be sitting in a somewhat good situation. I don't know everybody's situation here. But I do know all these women, I don't know all their stories. But I do know all these women. And I do know that they are women that lead with love, they leave with graciousness, they don't lead with fear, they lead with joy. And that's why I was so excited that they joined us on the show today. So as we get going, we're going to start off with emotional health. So first off, we're going to do a temperature check of everybody on the call. So how are you

Feeling what's going on?

For some of us, it's day one for some of us. What, 90 Kim?

Boy? So, um, you know, let's start. Let's start with Kim. Since she's been the longest Kim, how are you feeling?

I you know, I'm actually feeling really good. I think that, you know, my journey started on January 2 with my quadruple bypass. So, I think I went through some emotional shock that kind of first month, like, I came home from the hospital on the fifth. And physically, I did great. But emotionally there were some really tough days. The it's not fair. This shouldn't have happened to me, like, you know, this was just completely out of nowhere and I didn't fit the profile and you

Still, so, for me, it was sort of having to deal with a lot of the

I'm having to come to acceptance with what is my new normal, I had to come to the fact that, you know,

I don't know what my future is gonna look like and I gotta be okay with that now, you know, I don't know how this is, is gonna go it's a progressive disease. So new normal looks totally different. And then just even changing everyday habits I have to work out I have to eat completely different. And so there was a lot of that morning I can't eat a cheeseburger and my pepperoni pizza with extra cheese anymore. Took me a month and you know, but then I started discovering new foods, and I learned that I kind of did like working out and

You know, you start to accept some stuff

and roll your eyes when you said that can you rolled your eyes?

here's the here's the funny truth is, it is like ripping teeth out to get me to start working out like getting on the treadmill. But I can tell about eight minutes in. Like, I don't know if it's the dopa mean or what happens chemically but then I start liking it and my 20 minute workout I'm noticing is going 3035 40 minutes like I'm, I actually feel good I feel better. I it's, it really is starting to shift and that was something I didn't expect at all. And then I even started lifting weights this week. And that was completely something I never thought I would

be here year was restart and so in every way I've had to restart

So it is kind of neat that here God sort of prepared me because I haven't been leaving the house that much I was social isolating already cuz you know you're immunocompromised and healing and and really restricted on what you can do for a while so, you know, I think the Lord was like No Let's prepare her for the corona virus

apocalypse just a few months

so you know that's where where I'm at I think my husband thinks I'm insane cuz I have bought enough food for the apocalypse and then even like ordering online the dog snacks and dog food so he called it the dog Apocalypse Now as they are

delivering that but we're good over here in grapevine.

Good Yeah, yeah. So So misty. What about you what's going on in your

world I know there's you. You've been doing a lot inside our community as well to take care of the emotional health of some of our community. Yes, there's there's an organization that our chamber has called leadership hgb. And you're a part of the class this year and y'all had a big event planned. The next one, I

had to get scrapped because of everything that's going on. But your group in your class just pivoted so beautifully to really attend to what's going on in our community. So I want you to talk a little bit about how it affects you, but what you've been doing to help those around us. Sure, sure. So um, yesterday, you know, worse I'm a salon and permanent makeup company. So yesterday we find out that we had to close the shut down, so Okay, no more livelihood. Don't have the option of unemployment. So, you know, there's a little bit of that fear factor, but I've really been through this whole thing kind of tapped

into

books and motivational podcasts and things to just kind of get my mindset, right, because you know how that goes. But I refuse to let the devil get me and let him fill me the women are so I honestly feel way more calm than I thought I would, knowing, knowing what's going on. And it helps me to help other people during this time too. So our group has put together another group that basically, we currently call it Corona virus. Press help us here AGV. So for this whole ATV area, and let me tell you a little bit about the project that we started off with. There was

a mirror a wall that was painted on next to a company where some Hispanic people owned it and somebody graffiti I hate Mexicans on the wall. So our proud our program was to create a mural, which we did.

And it looks amazing. The mural is the map of the HTV area.

And we painted over the I hate Mexican.

And it just turned out to be so beautiful. Unfortunately, we don't get to show it off yet, but we will eventually. But it is a great reminder of all the community resources that are available in the area. So our secondary thing was to have community resource fair at the same time for the mural unveiling. So instead of doing that, and on this coronavirus, hgb we took it virtual since we cannot really be together. Um, and basically we set out you know, different resources for people what's available, we set up you know, grocery updates and activity websites and all the different things that our community could come together and we made it a needs profile, so we can help those and there's another side project to where we set up little news people

Paper stands and put products in there like toilet paper and toothpaste and and just some resources for people to just grab if they need it and also where people can donate goods as well. So it's been really good to help kind of take my mind off that of what's going on around me and helping others. Well, let me see what what's the HTV stand for?

GPS you list Bedford? Okay. I thought much better the three cities. Yeah.

So it's kind of like our little suburb area. Yeah. Yep. I just want to make sure I knew that was Sam. Yeah. And one of the one of the beautiful parts of it is if you're talking and somebody asked a question about the corona virus or different things like that, they don't want a lot of speculation in the group. One of the rules is the group is to cite your cite your source. So

we just we want to make sure that we're citing our sources at all times. So that right there is huge

for turning that to for what they're doing, because, you know, everybody can go out there and speculate and do random

what is a conspiracy theorist?

A lot of that there there is a lot of that so and I think john even said it today he goes first off if the media is your source you need to get a different source World Health Organization to you know, CDC go to places and get get it straight, quote unquote, from the horse's mouth so yeah, so Janet, what about your world? How is things going in your world? I know you've got a little space between the all the normal most of the time Yeah, well, there's still lines that are Sam's and there's still lines in our stores and people are still hoarding the toilet paper.

And so I

our little group, we we set up in the basement and we social distance to each other enough, but we're making masks

You know, the ladies can so I can't so but we're cutting. We're doing okay. I mean, I'm so grateful for

the you know, we have our phones and we can still talk and have this group and zoom and Facebook each other and FaceTime each other. I mean, what, what would we you know, I'm so grateful. I'm so grateful for that because emotionally and you know, if it all goes down, we're all gonna, it's gonna be a little more difficult, but this way we can stay connected and so I'm grateful that we have that, you know, that's really good.

As far as I can see, we're a bunch of

can i say i'm not going to use curse words but really a bunch of really tough American women. And that's starting to come out we have this Christian toughness I don't even know the warrior divas perfect because I just see a bunch of Lady she's got it together. You know, they, you know, people are sick people are isolated, you know, but they're still just kind of keeping it

together and I'm just really proud of the people that I know in my life. I know there's other people who are struggling financially lost jobs, and they're still, you know, just carrying on helping their neighbor. It's just incredible, really incredible to watch. So I'm blessed in that regard because all I see is good stuff. That's all I see. I don't see any nonsense yet. So I'm grateful

I got tickled watching the Facebook means or something the other day one of the guys goes I don't even know why we still have farmers and all that stuff. Why don't they just go to the store and buy this stuff that they want from the store? And then somebody else's if we have to, if we have to hunt for our food, I don't even know where Doritos lives.

And you know, I love the tongue and cheek of it, but it's because of that tongue in cheek. I've had people reach out to me and going Hey, could you tell me how do I make mac and cheese with ah crap. You know, they need to know how to make their

Is what mac and cheese they know they've got the ingredients for it they just don't know how to put it all together so you know trying to be some of those women that has some of these answers together not just mean not just you yeah but you know how to be creative and like my guests on my leading moment show on Thursday said he goes Guess what? He goes the store still have plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables on the shelves, because everybody's buying all the junk food all the company. Now don't eat junk food. You can.

Yeah, and then another thing he brought up that misty I was going to tell you might be I'll send you a picture for it. That might be a good thing to post in your group was if it's got the wick symbol on it, that the women and children that are eating off of that wick that's only the only cheese and milk and eggs and things that they can buy cereal that they can buy. So if you have a choice, choose something other than that, but don't wipe

Yeah, the witnesses are limited. That sounds like that is just huge. So I've been repeating that and shouting that as often as I can. So I just I took a picture of one of the wick signs the other day and said we need to post about this and I have it That's good. So I'll send you the picture lets you post about it and then I'll share it in post about it too. So all right, Stacy. So you're kind of in the same boat that misty is in yesterday, six o'clock and a face to face interaction. And then

you know, what, what are you going to be doing? How are you emotionally handling this pivot?

Well, I had already made the decision on Thursday or Friday that I was going to close before before we were closed. Because I have

employees that have children. I'm all of them. But most of my people because I'm an anti aging are older. They shouldn't be coming to see me. Some of them are secret still mentioned

He's messaging me, Hey, I'm working from home, can you can you get that treatment done to my eyes and we won't tell anybody, you know, just show up at the office. I still have that going on, because people want still want to get their stuff done. But I mean, I'm a mom and I have four children, I really don't need to get sick, what are they gonna do without me. And in the grand scheme of things, I have a roof over my head, I have food, even if my my

business falls apart, which it won't. And I need to be here for my kids and my family. They're the most important thing. So I had already chosen, but I have gone through many different emotions throughout the last couple of weeks. I was kind of in the know about certain things beforehand because my brother works for a city and he's in a director position. So he was telling me about closed downs before they were starting to be announced. And so I was wearing before everybody else

and

I feel good right now I feel the things that I feel are like, I'm excited that I'm going to get to see my kids. I'm a working mom. I'm a mom that has owned a business for almost 20 years. So I have been busy. This whole time. My kids don't see me as much as some other moms get to get to see their kids. My kids are very what they were asking yesterday, where are you home so early?

You know, why did you What's going on? Why is mom here? And so I'm anxious to see what it's going to be like when I'm here the entire week with him because, you know, they, they don't they only have that when I'm on vacation. I'm anxious to see I'm anxious to cook food. You know, I because I own a spa. I come home later. So sometimes a lot of times our food is you know what Costco made that my husband gets put in the oven before I got here. So I'm excited about getting to make some things and getting to do some art projects. That's what I'm

Putting my focus in. Now I know, I have a list of things that I can get done remotely, to move my business forward. But every time I think about my list, I also think about, I know that I'm going to be okay. What can I do to help people that are probably not going to be okay? Yeah, that's good. There's so many people that work in a restaurant that are paycheck to paycheck. You know, I have a business savings account. I can cover my bills for a while. at my office. My husband works from home. He we're not going to lose any income from him at all. So what can I do to help other people?

That's what I've been thinking about. Yeah.

But I, I mean, I'm

my, my biggest fear is, I don't know how to not be busy.

I know I was thinking the same thing. I think how do I think

that problem

So maybe I can figure out how to be busy doing more things that are fun. The other thing that I think all of us are going to figure out how to be busy at home organizing and whatever else we can think of. We should people like me and Missy who take care of people all day long. We don't take care of ourselves as much. Right? So we should probably think about doing some self care. Mm hmm. Already on that? Yeah. Are you? Mm hmm. No, I watched your list. I can say I can tell you that. I used to be super busy. And I'm not super busy. Now. As much as I was when I lived in Texas. Also, I've had six months of my husband being retired at home. How's that?

Because I'm worried about two weeks in with my husband. And there is an adjustment and he's a I'm married to a really nice man.

It's still an adjustment. So you will have those moments, right, honestly. And I just say, I'm gonna go in my room and be by myself, you know, I just take that time, but you learn to do other things when you're not busy working or taking care of kids, like, I still help with my grandkids too. So,

you know, I'm trying to do art projects and find things. I mean, I've already raised my kids and I'm having to rethink how do I do all this care at home for these kids. And so, but the business that you have when you're outside working versus coming home, I will say it's an adjustment but you're you guys are creative women, and you're hard working and so you're going to find things to fill your time you think, Oh, I'm gonna retired and I'm not gonna be as busy. That's not true. You just find different things to do because you're productive and because you like helping and because you like doing, you will find other things to do. I mean, that's just, it's God's good that way. He does give us other things and God help us all might instead of hit water, you might have to have some wine and let's be honest

Vodka, I'm just kidding.

Really.

wine, take yourself, take your bath. But you know,

God's gonna give you what you need when you need it. I mean, it's amazing. So you think I'm gonna have all this free time no other people are gonna come and look to you for things they're gonna call you. They call you and come to you because they know they can't. And they know you're going to answer they know you're going to cry with them when they cry, and you're gonna laugh when they laugh. And they know that if they call you you'll answer Now, I'm not saying being emotionally available for everybody all the time, but you find new things to do is I guess the point, you know, and

and what you said God will find what you need when you need it. So the past probably three or four months, I've been training a new employee and then my employee of nine or 10 years is moving on and it's been really difficult. I've been working six, seven days a week, so maybe this is what I needed.

Trying to stay home a little. I think the Lord, the Lord's just sending an adjustment, you know, we've been prepared for this time, as a time we're all prepared for this time we've been placed here. It's not a coincidence that we're all women and Esther's at this time. And you know, you'll find your inner Esther, and you'll, you know, God's gonna put people in front of us, and he's going to give us what we need when we need it. And even if you're a single mom, and you ask for help, just ask for help, because this older ladies are willing to, you know, even if, you know, we, we can watch them on a park bench. We don't have to, we don't have to be in the same room with them. But we can actually watch a kid for an hour or whatever. I mean, you can do that outside. We don't you can, you know, you can do that. So that'll work. Well. And I think another thing that a lot of people don't think about is

because we have had this happen in the middle of all the social technology we have you're really not as

alone as you could have been. So we have a lot of resources to reach out to talk to ask questions. And you can do it in private message, you can do it over email, you can do it on a Facebook post, whatever it is. And we met I went to a event last fall, where they talked about it was last fall last summer sometime where they were talking about abusive relationships. And I'm going to bring it up during this part because we're about shifting to family dynamics. And, you know, I'm married to a great guy. We've been in business together for seven years. I had my own business before that, but he's had his plumbing business for seven years. So we've worked together. So being home alone together hasn't really sunk into us. And he's part of the essential forces so it he probably won't be home as much as some of the other ones. But on the other side of it, there are women that are trapped at home.

home with their monster, there are children that are trapped at home with their monster. So my my point to all this is, is if you're a woman, and you're listening to this, and you're trapped in a situation like that, we are the women that are saying, you can reach out to us, we are the Oregon, saying you can reach out to us. We want you to get stronger. We want to help you get a plan together, we want to get you out of that situation. We will pull all of our resources together to help with that. But we have to know that's what you're involved in and what's what's going on. And we don't want to put you in a date a more dangerous situation while you're trying to get out of that situation. So we will help find ways to do that safely for you and everyone involved. So,

again, that's a little side note, but I feel it's important because when we start talking a lot down, you know, that's, I mean holidays is when domestic violence calls go up. It's just

Police statistics statistics see YouTube can be a professional speaker.

It is a real life statistic that that's when they go up. So it's it's something that I'm not hearing any of the media talk about or any of the police departments talk about. I'm hearing about the police departments being exposed to things and police forces dwindling because of all this. So therefore, it behooves us as warrior divas to do what we can and do our part and be that resource for women. So Alright, so we're going to talk about families you know, we're kind of almost empty nesters. Now, every time we think we're empty nester, one bounce back. I don't know what it is for

Allie and cannon and the twins live a little bit down the road but they were here yesterday and they and today doing laundry because their washer and dryers best. It's

so kicked them all out of the house before we got on the call tonight and then set myself

to a shop to do some what we call arts and crafts time. So

mainly I just need a girl time.

We all need Girl. Girl time we all get it.

How are you? How are you planning to balance the family time with your work time or with your own?

Your own sanity?

Like Janet hiding in a closet. No, no.

So who wants to go first on that one?

Don't everybody speak it? Well, I will.

And I don't really have I decided since today was my first like real day off in the quarantine and that I was gonna relax today and just enjoy the day with my family. And you know, we ran real quick to the salon. I grabbed all the essentials that I could do self care on myself. So when it's not podcasting

I'm gonna do some micro needling and you know things to make myself feel better and look better to, why not?

before you make before you make decisions, make sure we talk about the other procedures that we need to do because we need to put them in.

Okay? Put them in the calendar. That's where I was going with this is I'm going to kind of create, you know, a plan each day, I'm like, we're gonna work out we're gonna, all those things I'm not doing right now. That's what we're getting.

And I would really like to take the time, like even a family workout and you know, spend some more time doing yoga, which I haven't done in a really long time, but I enjoy.

So and I get to do more cooking because I'd actually like cooking for my family and things like that. So all of those are, I'm kind of excited. I told my my kids yesterday, I was like, Hey, guys, I'm gonna be home for like, at least three weeks, you know, probably. And my younger son was like, yeah, you know, he really misses me but my older one is

He's like, he could care less to be honest. He's like, I'm in my room playing video games with everyone else. So it's pretty much the same dynamic. I have a feeling that my,

my spouse will be probably quarantined as of Monday I'm thinking because he works in Dallas County. And they've, you know, done the whole, what is it, um, shelter you have to stay in your, in your house, basically. So, um, I have a feeling they'll be closed on Monday. So then he'll be home and we're not used to seeing each other all the time, even though I love him and adore him. And we're probably gonna have to keep our space social distancing to know.

Like you do your thing and go play watch your car shows and I'll go do my thing and work for a little bit. Because I plan on not stop working. I do have things in place for that. So maybe spend a few times a few hours a day working and a few few hours a day spending extra time with my family.

The new normal right the new normal Yeah. Yeah. Well Scott actually started working from home last week. So with me being immunocompromised he had got special permission to already work from home once this kind of started blowing up the week before so um, we've had a week now to adjust and so I have you know, my office downstairs, we set him up, his office is upstairs and with the door he can shut and

it's gone real well except, you know, the 10 year old who doesn't understand that you know, she's used to when Daddy's home he's played ad so he's fun dad. So he getting her to understand that daddy's actually working eight to five, Monday through Friday and and what those boundaries are

kinda look at I think it's been a harder adjustment on Avery than it actually has. Me and Scott to be honest with you, um, one thing I thought was funny in our world is trying to leave God outside if it's sunny we we've gone for walks, we walked three days last week, we went outside and walked, walked to the park, trying to let her play and be a kid. You know, everyone's gone home school crazy. And we just decided, you know, she's gonna learn if she's not missing anything. You know, we did a couple of things, but we just sort of let her be at home and learn how to FaceTime friends like this, this whole environments different for her and I think it's harder on a nine year old, who's used to that consistent schedule. If I get up I go to school.

I'm at school till this time and then I have my activities and then boom, it's like spring break, and then everything she does got canceled. So for us, I think it was just letting her have a week to just downshift and deal with that emotional impact without dumping. Now learn. Honor, you know, so I think this week will be an interesting week and how do we now sort of bring in to all this mix the homeschool thing and make sure she doesn't fall too behind? And I just don't intend on being too overbearing about it. And maybe I'm maybe I'm weird that way, but I figured she's ahead. She's smart. Let her just kind of enjoy what she can and do. I mean, do the things they're going to ask you to do but i'm not i'm just not I always said I was arts and crafts.

Mom, not school mom. So, you know, like who which one of us can even teach Common Core math. Let's just be honest about that. Like, I can't. So there's only gonna be so much as a mom, I can do anyway because I know. I'm not trained as an educator. So I feel like

you guys need to quit coughing I'm getting nervous now.

Far away.

We're social distance. We're good. All right. Yeah. Well, well, Stacy, what about your kids? You've got school aged kids as well. How are they have they hasn't even hit them yet that they don't have school. And yes, let me talk. You know, I have two sets of kids. So I have a kid that's 29 and 19. And then I have kids that are nine and eight. So and I'm still a mom to both sets. It's a kind of separate though, because the two the 29 and the 19 year old just moved in together in a tent.

To an apartment in Bedford, they really like it. And so like I've been helping them I was there yesterday still unboxing stuff. They've been there a month but they have some boxes that they still haven't unlocked. And one of them I will not say which one was waiting for mommy to come by and not the younger one to help him get his stuff on.

I mean I'm still momming them I'm still I'm telling them to stay home I brought some masks and some gloves and some Lysol to their apartment yesterday. It's two boys.

So having to be mom still mom them even though they're older without being overbearing, and they have been staying home though I'm so excited for them. Because usually they don't listen. And I I kind of taught them the things that they need to do for cleaning. And if they do have to go somewhere like you're not supposed, like even touching the thing when you're done.

Getting gas, you really shouldn't be touching that you need to put so that's why I bought brought them some gloves, throw the gloves away after you get your gas before you get in your car. So I have that situation. And then here at my house I have my two girls that are nine, about to be nine and eight and set I'm sorry, eight and seven right now.

They have for the entire week. They have been doing homeschool. But kind of haphazardly, you know. They've been doing prodigy and Adventure Time and ABC mouse. But starting tomorrow, they go to a charter school international leadership of Texas. They're actually going to be doing the zoom meetings and they're with their teachers. And we had to do all the technology today. They both they both their school was giving out Chromebooks to the students that don't already have them. We have Chromebooks. They we got them for cursive

missed last year. My husband's in it. He thought they needed to learn how to use a mouse. So he bought them Chromebooks. And so they're going to start their zoom meetings. I'm worried about my eight year old because she's dyslexic. And she really needs some extra care. But her dyslexic teacher is going to be on zoom meetings with her too. So I'm excited to see how it's gonna happen because I know it's a new normal for them, too. They have this charter school has 20 schools throughout Texas. So they're doing the zoom meetings with all the schools at the same time. I'm wondering how smooth it's going to do the first day we'll see.

And I'm still going to be doing some work also. I'm still going to be on my computer. I have an internship program that I'm working on for the Chamber of Commerce. And then recently, we still have right you can we have time to work on that missing. And then Angie and I are also we are on the leadership Alumni Association, the same

leadership class that misty is currently in. Angie and I have already been through the leadership program. And we are on this leadership, steering leadership alumni steering committee. So we're going to try to help put social media together helps steer our alumni helps steer our alumni, we can make sure that our alumni stay still engaged in the chamber after they've gone through leadership. We want our alumni to be leaders in the community. We want our alumni to be part of boards, board of directors in hcb area, and we want them to be the leader. So Angie and I are trying to figure out how to still work on that. A little foreign to them and and challenge them both a little bit.

And so I'm going to be working on that and then

I like I said, I don't know what I'm going to be doing here. busy. I don't I'm going to keep myself busy doing things

I'm not sure how it's gonna go. It's It's my mind is like, do I set up a whole plan of all of these art projects that we're going to get done? Do I cook like so many meals? I haven't decided which things I want to be busy doing. I know. I'm going to figure out how to be busy though. Oh, yeah, yeah, I think we all figure that out really easily, don't we? Yeah, yes. What about you, Misty?

Oh, how to how to figure out how to not be busy. Well, what about the kids? What are they doing and shifting through right now? How are they? How are they still on spring break. So they really are, and Burnsville has not figured out what they're doing yet. They're trying Monday, we're supposed to pick up Chromebooks for those who don't have access to social media or like tablets or internet and that type of thing. So we're we're just waiting for them to give us more direction.

Right now they're just having a free for all to be honest with you.

They're playing video games are eating all the snacks you know that a house in the home that have a 12 year old and a 17 year old boy and then a seven year old stepdaughter so she's here this weekend hanging out with us and that's really cool because normally we don't get to have her all weekend we only get to have our own Sundays and one one night during the week so this will be some extra time we can all spend with her too. Also, I just signed up enough to do the snap ology Lego daily challenge. You seen those but so he made the pirate ship today with his Lego so those are things trying to keep him busy, but they're bored already. I think. Yeah. Well Janet, you're kind of like me, you you've kind of moved on from the little kids at home but you also have grandkids that are around and I know I know Alyssa was doing homeschooling so but Alyssa is also expecting to

So that's how I'm a baby in about eight weeks. Yeah, so you're gonna be probably doing some pitch hitting won't Yeah.

So yeah, it's it's that new that grandma role which I have adult children, that's still the mean, which I can totally relate to.

which is way, way more than I thought it would ever be. It's kind of interesting, but I will say it's just a blessing to have grandkids and

we're expecting a new baby boy and I've been able to hear somebody come in here now that I'm talking about these grandkids. And I'm surprised they haven't come in yet. Honestly, I am too hot. And so I don't know. We're finding new things to do. I'm, I'm stealing all the ideas on Facebook and people are putting so many amazing ideas out there. We're doing all that we're just praying for some warm weather. So we can kind of get outside here in Kansas. It's still really cold.

We have one nice day and then we have three or four bad days. So I'm waiting for that. But

I think getting outside helps you guys. We're not we can get outside, we're allowed to go outside. It's like you can't get outside. I think sort of everybody doing the electronics, take a walk, do something get outside, it's healthy and mentally. And I know one of the small towns here, they were putting the bear the stuffed bears in the windows so that people could go around and find the bears the little kids, find the bears. But find something to do, you know, go on a scavenger hunt, and give them a list of things to go outside. outside. Is that your best bet for a while even if it's cold go outside. I mean, that's, we've missed having our kids outside, they're in school all day. You know, they go do things all day. Now you have an opportunity to kind of reset, like kimsey word, you know, reset, it was a reset, that we use that restart. We said, yeah.

Yeah, we had to reset after 911 and we survived all that economically. And we you know, we lost a

A lot of stuff after 911 My husband was a pilot that got, you know, furloughed and, you know, this too will all pass but go outside. I mean, family wise, mentally wise, you know, do something outside and you know, the sunshine is good for you the virus dies at 180 degrees I don't know. Right? It's vitamin D and vitamin C are anti viral and so mentally get out some put it on your list to go outside every day and take a walk, do what you have to do, but get them outside. I think it's important. Well, part of the arts and crafts Mike's doing is I bought a boat last summer that's my boat. It's not his boat. It's my boat. It's it can be ours but it's my boat.

And so he was just doing some of the last minute touches to make sure it was boat ready because that's one thing we can do. We can go out on the lake we can go in that's socially distances you from quite a few people just being out on the lake.

One of the other things that

I'm glad you brought up the 911 thing because I've been thinking a lot about that this week. You know, there's a our kids Janet's and my kids and they see you've got one up there too. They were born.

And they were in school when 911 happened, you know, so they, Janet and I have children that serve in our country and And me too. I'm a part of a military moms group that has paratroopers that are coming back to the states that are going straight into quarantine. They're not getting the big welcome home. They're not getting all of the

pomp and circumstance that goes on with that they're going here's a tent and they're like, I just came from a tent.

So

the ones that go through the tent, they they're, they're putting them into isolation, barracks and things like that. But

you know, Cody, my son is supposed

To be leaving the country at some point this week, I was supposed to be in Orlando from Friday until this following this coming Friday, from last Friday till this coming Friday. And then I was going over to spend time with Cody at his duty station before he left the country for six months. And so I had to change tickets. And as I'm changing the tickets, I'm already having the emotions well up about 911. I came out of nowhere. And when the when the planes stopped flying, I didn't sleep for those three days. Because I was I've grown up in ulis. I'm so used to hearing the planes fly, that when the planes weren't flying, it was eerily deafening to me. Yeah, so when the first pilot took off from DFW Airport, I was one of them out there with the guy that had the big American flag and we were listening to the air traffic controllers, talk to the pilots and send them off.

And, and so

we knew when that happened that our world was forever changed. And we're already we've we immediately saw changes in how security was done and how things were handled security on the cockpit doors, TSA, all of that immediately changed. And one of my friends that's a writer and manages a lot of freelance writers for Thomas Nelson publishing, put out a suggestion the other day to start making notes of the things that you see that may be changing.

And I thought that was a really good thing. So in the industry, you're in, in the in your child's life, what was something that was so normal, a week, a month last year, that is either not going to be around or something abnormal. Moving forward, we've been talking about putting Chromebooks and students hands in every student having a laptop or a tablet for years.

And it takes a crisis like this to realize that we should have stopped talking about it and just done it.

You know, so what does that look like? What are some of the things? I'm going to throw out? One of the things that I thought that I've already thought of with universal pushing movies straight to DVD, I mean, not DVD but DVR, straight to the streaming services, there may not be a major need for theaters anymore. Big Box theaters, wow. At least a drastically reduced number of them. So what's something that you can look at that you're looking at now and you can start thinking maybe it's going to shift medical supplies. Right now China makes most of our medical supplies and I was told by someone who their company, she's a salesperson for the company that that supplies hospitals. And before like, she was telling me

Probably, I don't know, a month and a half two months ago. Make sure you buy all the needles that you're going to need for the next year by all the gloves you're going to need for the next year. She said, we're not even telling our hospitals this yet. But there's one ship coming from China right now full of medical supplies, and that's the last one for a while. She said it, it's going to be changed for an entire year. And because they're not working, they're not able to work. They're not making medical supplies. And so now we see here, we are incredibly dependent on China. medical supplies also they they do a lot of our medication too. They do a lot of our

What is it called? The one that is not the brand name. Generic Jay did a lot of our generics. And

we might run out of certain medications because they do a lot of our generics. They make most of our Tylenol

Not the time, like the generic Tylenol, they make most of our generic generic Tylenol. So what I see 85% of her antibiotics, right? So like, we change that, hopefully we change it, we learned the hard lesson and we change it now, well, then I was thinking ramp up, you know, we just ramp up and we do what we do. You know, hopefully that's gonna happen.

Well, and we the, the other issue is, are we willing to pay more for it, because the labor in China is much cheaper. And if we make it here, we're going to have to pay our workers enough. So that we can, it will have to pay a little bit more for it because we have to pay our workers so that they can live in the United States. So that's an issue.

But I think that we were as a country, we're going to have to look at all the things that were dependent on other countries, and we're going to have to see what we can do to not have this happen to us again.

Yeah, Misty Kim. What do y'all have to say?

Something that Scott and I were talking about is how,

like we had never done online grocery shopping. Like you know, I buy stuff from Amazon but I'm talking about like, ordering your food from like imperfect foods calm or like ordering all your meat from Purdue farms.com like changing the way you grocery shop like we have had, cuz I'm immunocompromised and it's not good for us to get out at all. I'm in that super, super crazy high risk group. So we've been having delivery, delivering all our groceries and like today, we got an email from one service saying that they've had to suspend new members because they're so overloaded right now with new people and I'm thinking wow, this this could come

pletely change the grocery store industry because we're so used to going out to the grocery store to get stuff and how many of us will come to realize that we like having stuff delivered on Friday because I go so far, I think it's great.

It's not much more money than you know, going to the grocery store. And it's super convenient to order your groceries over three days, and then wham, it shows up at your door. So that was one thing we really thought about how this could really just be a societal change of just like people ordering groceries online, and then maybe there won't be a storefront on every corner the way you see now.

Yeah, I think Walmart pickup is the best thing ever invented. Yeah, I love it. Well, like even before, if you haven't done that you need to start. No way. Don't

Well in our neighborhood, we live in a older established neighborhood. And it was built when the in the 60s when people were coming in building the airport here, so a lot of pilots and air traffic controllers and things live in our neighborhood. And on our street. There's like three of us that are new newly to the neighborhood. The rest are all original homeowners. So it's it's an older generation and older demographic. And they've kind of gotten into the Facebook group and mastered that Facebook group but some of them are starting to get out there and master that online ordering. It's challenging them to be technology savvy right now. But the beautiful part is is those that are younger in the neighborhood that are going to the stores will say, I'm going to go to the store on Friday. If you have a pickup, put my name down, I'll pick it up for you still keeping some of our older neighborhood neighbors from going out into getting getting out and

Not being where they don't need to be so it's really interesting then you talked about the bear thing the other day while ago we did the Shamrock challenge in our neighborhood for a scavenger hunt. And then we we started seeing the kids doing the chalk art out on the on the driveways sending positive messages to people. So you know, it's it's finding different things. Missy What do you think about you anything you can think of that shifting or changing that?

Well, I see to like two sides of it, you know, you see the people that are kind of going crazy and taking advantage of the situation but then I also see more people being kind and you know, thinking of others before themselves and like the you know, compromised or the older people that they can they can help them you know, and even yesterday I had made a video on Facebook just letting everybody know I had to close down and you know that we'll be back and and you know

Kind of reassuring them, but I got more reassurance for myself is like yes, you will be back and you're going to be stronger than ever. So just that support of people is just pretty amazing. I really have found that and I think it was always there but people are so busy. Yeah, that we don't take the time to share that stuff. So good, positive, that's a good positive thing. You know, if we just come back together, we were divided in a nation, maybe we'll come back together a little bit more. Seems like in times of crisis, that's what we do. Right? And I'm just do you remember after 911? After how, one day, the next day everyone had a flag out? Right? Everyone had a flag out, come together. Everyone was coming together. And maybe that's what is gonna happen right now. Because I'm seeing a lot of people want to do things for others more than ever.

Well, and we're seeing we're seeing bipartisanship.

up like we've never seen since 99. I mean, we're seeing a lot of things. They may not agree on a lot of the other things still, but they're putting that to the side, they're pushing all that to the side to be able to take care of a nation right now. And the the beautiful part is what I'm seeing on social media is, like you said, people are sharing positive encouraging messages to people.

Especially when they see that they've got the resiliency to come back. You know, there's, there's, there's a few people that I know of that have gotten on Facebook and light of messages of what's happening in their area and stuff. And they're blasting you know, and you can tell they're angry and they're bitter and they're in there getting all it'll be okay or it's happening to everybody. You know, you're not in this alone and they're they're getting better back. It's, I guess the beauty

thing I want to remind people is in times of crisis is when your squeeze I can't remember if john said or one of the other people said that the virtual thing that I shared with you all today, those sessions with john, he allowed us to share publicly. But behind that we've got all the other trainers that are part of the organization doing live videos with us all day long for the next three days. So I've been watching a bunch of videos live this week. But one of the things I said is when you're squeezed in a time of crisis, what's inside of you is going to come out and so you're getting on and good or bad. Yeah, good or bad. It's coming out. And the What are you made of? Are you made of a I'm defeated? This happened to me mentality Are you made of a you know, pull your bootstraps up Rosie the Riveter we can do it type mentality. And, you know, I'm a Rosie the Riveter lover. So yeah.

You know, I'm one of those that I don't think this happens to us. I think we find ways to reinvent ourselves in and reestablish ourselves and we find times during this time to, to be leaders in that dark world we shine that light, we say, you know, you may not feel like you've got a safe place to go. I've got a wing right here. You can take shelter here and bit here a little bit. I'm going to push you out of this nest because you are going to fly even if you have to grow your wings on the way down. You are going to fly you know. And

that's, that's what I get from the strong women. I surround myself and all four of you are the strong women I've surrounded myself. Janet has said it to me before there was tell somebody, what was it

a while back. The when the twins were born, they just turned what six, so six years ago, I was kinda in the middle of it. I was Sleepless in Seattle or Bedford or her

Wherever I was, I was, you know, brain numb. And I think Kim might be able to relate to this a little bit to it. I didn't know enough to reach out and ask for help at that time, because I was just doing what was in front of me. Yeah. And Janet said, you know, I've told she told me flat, because I've told you before, and I'll tell you again, all you have to do is ask for help, and help will be there.

But I was still in my own mind of will these people relying on me, so I have to be the stopping point. I'm not the stopping point. I'm a flow through point. Yeah, that's good. We have to be reminded that we are a flow through point of the Holy Spirit of our love of what we fill ourselves with so that we can flow out to those that we are feeding and and loving and nurturing. And we can't nurture something if we are not in a nurturing mindset.

It's so I used to imagine that

A bunch of people that walk around those little squeezy stress balls, eyes and the ears pop. Like everybody is this Yeah.

Yeah, you know, even me, I know I I've touched him with cam quite a bit right when she first got home I went and spent days there and stuff like that. But then even this week I went, Oh my god, it's been a week since we've texted What is going on?

Why has she not reached out to me? Is everything okay? And her well, why haven't we gone to?

Lee? I'm like, Okay, first off, am I being a bad friend? Am I this? Yeah. But I have to put all those negative things are behind and not say Well, I didn't talk to her this past week. She's probably mad at me because then those mental games will play and then you won't reach out and then you're emotionally distancing and isolating. And they're over there. Just going. No, thanks. It's been good. I was wondering where you're at. I just knew you'd circle around when you weren't busy again. And I was here like, Oh, well.

How many I know I'm not the only one that has ever done this? Because I have heard other women tell me this. So, um, you know, as we're talking through some of the some of these, you know, I want to start looking at what are some of the best you have seen in people through this. This scenario, we talked a little bit about how our jobs are changing through all of this already. But

you know, what, what are some of the best the most positive things that you've seen in people? Through this? We were What was it? Stacy, we were on a call the other day for the leadership alumni. And, you know, we've got some people on our steering committee who were on the front lines of this and they're just exhausted, right? When they're being told and I'm not saying who they are, where they're from, but when they're being told to pack a bag to bring to work because they don't know if they'll be able to go home. Right. You know,

And this is just the beginning of what we're expecting to be a bigger surge and you know, so

you know, what are some ways that you could you see positive coming out of it? I know there's other people that are what is it one groups donating every you can go on and put your beer order in. But if you put throw in an extra beer, a four pack or a six pack to your order and donate it to the Fort Bragg soldiers that are coming.

That's hilarious. I'm like, okay, that's funny. But you know, what, what are some? What are some of the other things that you you're seeing and hearing? One of the one of the things that I thought was awesome, is we talked about it earlier is when our leadership htb, pivoted, and decided that they wanted to start a group to help the HIV community by posting the things that are most needed. And nobody told them they had to do that. Nobody told them that since their event was called

closed down that they had to pivot, they just made a choice. And that's what happens whenever you start building leaders

is they lead and that's what they did. So the first thing that I did when I was probably the seventh person invited in the group, and if you guys don't know, I am the, the sponsor of that group. So yes, I am the sponsor of leadership. So she's, she's a black, so I'm like, no, no. So I'm like, when I when I look at it, when I see them doing such great things, I get very excited because I'm invested into it right now. I get so excited about creating leaders and when whenever I get to help, and this is what they decide to do, I'm excited. So I was like, almost in tears, like, Oh, my God, look what, look what they're doing. And I immediately started texting. Rochelle Ross, who is the steering committee leader and said, Oh my god, do you see what they're doing? Like, this is great. Do you see

What your Do you see what your what your teaching is making happen in our community? So that that's one of the biggest things that I've seen. And, you know, the last time I looked, I don't know how many people you have in the group now, but there was almost 1000 people in the group when I was blessed. Let me check Where's like under there was like, yeah, there was one I was looking it up 1.4. Okay, so what I mean, that's awesome. All of these people that all live in the HDB area, are able to look and they haven't categorized it into sections. So you can see restaurants you can see this you can see where you can get food, if you don't have food. You can see what food pantries are still are still giving you food. I mean, I just thought that that was so awesome. So that was one of the great things and if you look at the feeds inside the group, people that know nothing of what hcb leadership is are talking discussing. I invited one of my clients to the group who's been living in hers for like 30 years and she was very

She posted something and she she got into message. Did you see how great my posts and to see all the people that were? So I mean, it's bringing people together. I thought that that was really awesome. And then and then I also see, like everyone is really trying to go to these mom and pop restaurants and buy food to go local. So I really love that I'm doing it also. But I think that that's great. Those are the things that I've noticed. Yeah. Here's another thing. You know, there's a lot of us who have diabetes, there's a lot of us who have high blood pressure. There's a lot of us who have asthma, those underlying health conditions that make getting the corona virus, you know, more dangerous for, you know, it's going to be more than a cold it could go wonky real quick. So what

I've seen is just even after two months of friends and church ladies and just people rallying around my family through the heart stuff you know we didn't want for a meal for about eight weeks. Um we had more food and we knew what to do with we had friends cleaning our house take down our Christmas decorations. I mean you name it it was we had handyman come over and help Scott with cocking a tub. I mean, just you name it, it was done. And those same people now who know that I'm immunocompromised are texting me. Hey, I'm going to Costco. Hey, I have a friend run into Sam's Can I drop food off at your front door. So I just think seeing how humans are so generous.

And kind and sweet and people are sending me, you know, we're still sending you extra prayers during this time. Just even that is just so touching and and you know, it just got me thinking, How can I reach out no knowing I'm stuck at home so now I'm with food delivery service. I've texted my neighbors and I'm like, Hey, we're having food delivered on Friday. I'm placing an order this day. Do you guys need me to order you guys anything so trying to help in the way I can. But just if you're able and be mindful of your friends who might be having to isolate more that just even going to a grocery store puts them at risk, right? Because I can't really leave the house at this point then, you know, my husband is stuck and because if he

goes out and gets it and brings it in. So being mindful of the immuno compromised and how just if you're going to the store check in,

or if a neighbor has run out of toilet paper or needs eggs, be willing to go put it at their front door, just be mindful of that stuff. And I've just seen it in spades more than I can even say, we have felt so blessed and just seeing God's goodness through human beings in such ways I never expected over these last couple of months.

Well, and that goes back to those boxes that you're putting out to missing because you know, there's some people that may never ask for help or want to go to a place and get help but that they can go open that box nonchalantly get out what they need are, you know, I had somebody what say, Well, I only had some beans. So I went and put the beans in the box and I grabbed the the whatever

Else it was that they needed, you know, and I was like, well, that's awesome that that what you needed was in that box, you know, and maybe somebody else needed those beans, you know. So finding a way to love on people where they're at, you know, with whatever skills or talents you have.

Janet, I'm gonna come to you next, but I'm going to preface it with this because on Monday, we were hearing a lot of people, Mike's one of Mike's friends from high school took one of those blue rolls of paper towels, and he is he makes knives, homemade knives. And so he cut one of those rolls in half and he goes, look, I'm making toilet paper, you know? And Mike's like, Yeah, go ahead and do that. Because, you know, once they start flushing that down the drains it's gonna stop up there drains, make sure you share, share my, my number.

He is helping your husband's business.

his money goes, Yeah, I'm probably gonna get sued for it. And Mike's like, you

Yeah but I'll make the money you know Yeah, I got online and I did a social media post on them empty plumbing site that said you know, if it's not p or TP it doesn't go down the toilet don't flush and you know not even clean next not sanitary items nothing but food p or TP down the drain right now and like later that day or the next day Janet's city, was it your city or was it now, the city

was shut down. Because so many had been flushing things because it couldn't find toilet paper. They're just using what they could get missing, who was pointed out, that's when the changes will get like you can't flush toilet paper. I mean just to look for people right? That may be a great American awakening. Right? Well and Missy and Nate Mrs. Another person that's part of our team and her husband a few months last summer that

Had a porta potty issue on the base that they live in. They're at the War College in Carlisle, Pennsylvania, right? And so there was a huge water outage on base. So no drinking, no bathing, no peeing, no nothing you had they they put porta potties out on the lawns of like, the high commanders. They're all base, too. And so everybody knew you were doing your business, right. So Nate went out and got these things called clear rears, their

rears, they make toilet a bad day. And so he does a whole visit. They have this whole video they've done on it, they've done it where they open the box because the box has been sitting in his office for months, he finally told his wife, it's time to open the box, and they do this whole big reveal on there. Then he shows installing it and all of that and he does a great Billy Mays on the social commercial about clear rear

So we'll share that in the warrior divas group just for a good button and laugh. But,

you know,

I think what we're starting to see is people's personalities shine a little more to they're not getting so serious about things on line, when they're getting on there sharing because they want to be a light. They're wanting to inspire they're wanting to encourage. And so, like, Janet gets on, and she shares things, and she has a real evolution group. And she has just written a devotional as well. So I don't know, did you do that while you were isolated? Or did you do that before you're isolated?

Oh, I can't hear you.

Sorry, I'd gone to Israel and came back and it was kind of my homage to my trip to Israel. And so that was a few years back, I wrote it. Okay, so, the last day of Jesus's life and if anybody wants it, just let me have your email. It has all the scriptures across from

References have beautiful pictures, and it's for free. So if you want one, let me know it's a good Bible say that you can sit and actually go through Lent. Like the last week, maybe we're not going to be in church. So it would be a good little state of your family and our group, maybe online? I don't know. But yeah, it's um, it's well written if I do say so much.

But you know, Kim, and I've been talking about doing more writing and more centralized writing as well and maybe blocking off time each week that we're just gonna sit right. And I know, y'all could write a business book, you could write a inspirational book, you could write another devotional, you could write whatever you want to write, if even if you're not gonna write it, then record it, sit with a recorder and record some of your thoughts. This is a great time when you're slowing down to press in to those projects like that, too. Mm hmm. Why are you looking at me that way, Stacy?

Because I have a book that is 100%. Like, it is completely

outlined, like perfectly outlined from chapter two sub chapter two sub sub chapter. I have part of it written. So, but I haven't been working on it, and I should just work on it. Yeah. I found a way for you to be busy. Right there you go. There you go.

This This was the purpose of this, of this podcast was to figure out how Stacy could stay busy. Well, and and you know, I know a great graphic designer that could help you with the book cover and they can help you out with the book launch and oh, yeah, no, that's what that's what David's impact is all about.

So that's the other part is, you know, like Janet said, she's written this devotional and everything and everything that Janet writes is are

And does has been golden for me. So that's just my, my humble brag on her. But

you know, one of the things I also talked about at the beginning, before we got on the air was this is a time Janet asked what I wanted to do with this show what what was our purpose of doing this show today. And I try and ask myself, that with every show we do is I want to be a light, I want to be a beacon. I want to spread hope. I think we can turn on the TV and we can bench out in front of How to Get Away with Murder or scandal if we want to. Or we can press in and see what's on the other side of this force. We can go ahead and start getting getting glimpses of that now. And

so there are a variety of different ways we want to help do that using this group, connecting with other groups like like the one that that

misty has and and Janet has and be able to cross pollinate a little bit some of our strengths with them their strengths with us and really show what women joining arms together can do. And, you know,

that meme that's out there that says are you know, this the generation of World War Two, you know, took the battlefield and did all this stuff lost hundreds of thousands of people on the battlefield blah, blah, blah. you're asked to sit at home on your couch. Yeah, we can do this. Right. Right. It's what are we going to be envisioning and pressing through and desiring even when our circumstances around us right now don't look ideal for what we want to birth?

You know, I think it'll give us new ideas of things to birth like, right, because we have to get creative now. to think outside the box. Exactly. And yeah,

Ali's best friend girl used to work for me she's pregnant right now do any day now. She's like, kind of fearful of going to the hospital right now. Can you blame her? But, but as as I've been watching her go through this, you know, she's, she's like, okay, I've tried spicy food, I've tried walking, I've tried all these things to get this baby out. You know, we've all done it trying to oh my gosh, where these contractions. Alright, they're two minutes apart, you get to the hospital now they're irregular.

And so all these things are going on with her and her body right now. Same things going on for us. So this is this is my little spiritual lesson and, and those that want to feed off of it can. There's been several teachings I've heard about, you know, the farmers. They plow their fields for seven years and they will give it a year of rest. In the Bible, we're told to work six days.

Take the seventh day for rest.

You know, we have become such an instant gratitude busy society that we never slow down. What if this was God's way of putting us on rest?

Yeah.

And what we have come to realize is when you take that time to rest to slow down, you re energize, so that you can restart stronger and more powerful than ever before. It clears the slate for you.

It sets you up for greater success. Brady Boyd had the book addicted to busy. I love that book. I've read it. I've listened to it. I've read it again. And I need to read it. It's a really good book. And it's about

providing that margin. It was from that book that we made sure that my kids even if they were in sports, even

They were in activities that we had one day a week that we chose that there was nothing planned. No matter how busy our schedules were, there was nothing planned on that day. That was their day to be still that was no friends coming over that was them not going to friends houses, that was not, you know, going out and playing sports tournaments and all that stuff we would tell we would tell the baseball coaches, Cody can play on Saturday, or he can play on Sunday, but he can't play on both. You know, and we took that time seriously. Because we also knew that he was better prepared for learning for the next week if he had that time to recharge.

And so, Kim, what do you got on that? Well, I was just also thinking, you know, that all of this time on our hands, also is sometimes not so good because it's also time

I'm alone with our thoughts and sometimes our thoughts are toxic and or their attacks of the enemy you know, things we are wrestling with. So whether it's fear and doubt and dread or worry, you know, from financial worry to fear of dying Am I gonna get this or even just the anxiety of having to be around people who get on your nerves day to day out with no break or is it

gonna have a job when this is all over or I'm not real happy with myself and I can't go to church and get filled up and

you know, all these things are probably swirling around and, you know, let's just face it. This isn't fair. The Corona virus totally sucks. This just sucks and and you might be mad about it. And that's

would be perfectly okay and, but I am thinking about how you know we can also I can do biblical counseling on the phone, you know people can call, you know, reach out don't stay isolated in your head, you know, if you are having those toxic thoughts, um, reach out because, you know, we will can help you replace the toxic wise with the truth of God and help you, you know, focus your thoughts in the right directions that gives you hope and a future and a purpose. Because, you know, at the end of the day through all of this God has great plans for each one of us and he says that he plans to prosper and not harm us. So even though there's a virus out there right now, he doesn't lie he loves within unfailing love. And so, if I'm going through a moment because I

I had the moment I'm going to settle back to plans to prosper Kim and not harm her, you know, and so I think that's important right now is is, you know, as these things are swirling, if you can't get out of that, you know, reach out, I'm here. He's here. We're all here. But you know, I can biblical counsel on the phone does as easy as I can sit in a Starbucks, So reach out.

Right.

Janet, you got something to add to that?

Oh, well.

We're all going to discover a new normal, right? We talked about that earlier, but

I just I'm a positivity, that's my number one strength. So

I put it out there. You could send me a message. I'll talk to anyone on the phone, I'll call back but, um, I just think you're gonna find new things about yourself that you didn't

As you shouldn't be afraid, you know, we've I've pushed the 60. So I can tell you that you're going to have ups and downs in this life, you're going to have challenges and you're going to get through it, you're either going to get through the challenge, or you're going to go home to the Lord. Those are your choices. And so there's no in between there, right? Any challenge I've ever had health wise, money, whatever you get through it, or you go home to be with your maker. That's it. And there's really no no option for failure right now. But I want to say one thing. If you want to binge TV watch for a while, that's okay. So don't feel like you have to be writing a book, are you productive? Don't put that don't put those thoughts in your head, right? The Holy Spirit's gonna give you time. He's giving all of us time to just vege. Right. This is a wake up call for all of us to kind of reconnect what's important and what's what's a priority in our lives. And, and so, you know, have a little fun. Don't Don't be so serious. That's it.

Everything and

I don't know, I just think it's going to be a great time. You don't have to, if you want to watch TV or on eat popcorn and drink wine, that's okay, too.

But also he has a purpose. He has a purpose for each and every one of us even in this crisis. So, until you take your last breath, you have something to offer. And I don't care what age who you are what you are, and you have something to offer. And so if it's just holding someone's grandkid for a while, or they'll, you know, I'm just I'm you. There's a million things you can do right now. But self awareness, I was reading the prodigal son the other day, this is kind of interesting. And the prodigal son was down and out, right, he's gone and he's in the middle of a pig pen. And then the line says, and he came to himself What a great line, because that's when the change happened, right? He came to himself, he realized where he was and and he realized it was something better to do. And so you know, eat your popcorn bed. Why?

To me, it's okay. don't hear us say that you can't do that. But also if the Lord calls you to do something, write a book or, or to write. I mean, look at all the things that were done in.

Who is it that wrote Martin Luther wrote in 90 days, he was in isolation for 90 days, he wrote, he interpreted the whole Bible from you know, to German. And you know, there's things you can do that God's gonna call you to do, that are gonna be mighty and tiny. And it's all going to be good. It's gonna be okay. It really is, and then we're gonna go home, right, and that's okay, too. Well, I got, I got tickled Lucy Mitchell, who was on the show a couple of weeks ago, had a post up the other day, and it said, simmer down, Karen, you know, Karen's gotten a bad rap on all the Facebook memes here lately. But it says simmer down Karen there's no Award for Best corn teen mom.

True. So there is there are, you know, my biggest thing for each and every

One of us has kind of what a cross between what Kim just said. And Janet just said is, there will be times that you will have things creep up, it is human nature that you will have things creep up. We have things creep up all the time I have, you know, I have to tell myself that I'm smart enough, I'm good enough and Gosh, darn it people like me quite often or you know, I am smart, I am kind I am beautiful. You know, I there are days that I have to tell myself that because my belief system is lacking for that day. But on the other side of it.

I also know that there's a whole crew of us here that can do that whisper that into each other's ears quite often, too when we when we're having a hard time hearing it from my own lips, having a hard time believing it for ourselves. And I just want us to continue doing that. In this season that we're in I just say one thing. Yeah. And, you know, you can't go to church, but by golly

You're gonna have some extra time. You can get the word right. You can get in the word and there's no more important place to be right now I'm studying Jude right now and it talks about is talking about the and godly and

some endtime stuff and I'm thinking, are you gonna be a godly person or ungodly person in this time and it's dark. And you know being in the world and knowing what is godly and what's godly is super important right now and you have time to do it. No excuses. I will. I will put that on you. I will put that on you. You will get in the word, whatever it's time to also like shop for churches, like go online. There's many calls available, pastors everywhere posts are not great. And now's a great time to go. Listen to all kinds of pastors in your town and check out some new places and see if there's somewhere new you want to go to or just get a different perspective. You know,

The same church listening to the same messages from the same pastor. And while that's great to have your community I also think sometimes it's great to listen to other pastors and other perspectives. And I think this is kind of a real interesting time to do that. Yeah. Well, I thought it was really important. Somebody asked me the other day at the radio station did I think that was going to this was gonna hurt churches. I said, it may hurt they're giving it may, because people are not there. They're not experiencing that. It may hurt their giving, I said, but it'll also open up a lot of participation in churches that have not had participation before us that the ones that are on TV will probably fare better than the ones that are not and he goes, why do you think that I said, on Sunday morning. Have you ever flipped through Sunday morning TV you woke up you turn the TV on you flipped on and oh, Joel olsteen on you're not really watching it. You really weren't intending to watch Phil See, but all of a sudden you've sat and watched 30 minutes to Joel

See, you know, it happens or Robert Jeffries or you know, any, you know, Crystal Cathedral, you know, you turn it on and you go, Oh, I wasn't intending to watch this I was looking for cartoons, but or fixer upper and I fixing up my house I looked at fixing up my heart and my soul for a little bit, you know. So

that's why last week we shared the churches, you know, share your churches that are having online church, one of the local churches here, their head pastor just sent out a letter today letting everybody know that he's moving to a different church, you know, so when they come back to the church and are able to meet again, it'll be a whole different dynamic than in that church than what it is when everybody last met together. Oh, wow. It's it's gonna be really crazy and what it does to a lot of different people. But, you know, you think back two weeks ago though, it's kind of crazy. I was thinking to just two weeks ago, you

Two weeks ago. Yeah. Did you think it was the last time you were gonna walk out of your church? Right?

No, well, or when the kids walked out of school did they think that was gonna be their last time to walk out of school for the year? The ones that are seniors? You know, that might be the last time I see a lot of their friends. So there's a lot going on right now, you know, and my biggest thing is, is yes, it's alright to binge watch shows. I did it Mike and I did it the other day. He does that in and out but it was a show I'd never seen before and I don't know how many episodes we watched of it. I hadn't slowed down in a while. So we just watched that was that. Yeah, I would like to know your attention.

Was it it was either the How To Get Away with Murder or the scandal one or the other. Okay, but we, I like I like those. I like watching West Wing, things like that because I like the intelligence. The West Wing is cool. Yeah, I watch blistering white.

West Wing right before three times fast. Yeah, I watched I watched it on DVD. Yeah, I watched it on that was before the Netflix thing happened. I watched it a long time ago well I watched it leading up to the 2016 election and was watching the final episodes of it the night of the election so that people watching that and seeing how much hadn't really changed in Washington over 20 years. Like you're in the know right? So just watching you know, there will be times I'll go on and watch you know, friends or their ranch or some documentary or whatever, but you know, I was feeling a little scandalous the other day so I was scared

but the other part of it is I started feeling something creep up that I hadn't felt since my kids were little and I when my kids were little I used to watch those Danielle still read those Danielle still books, right? I mean, I could finish a book in a day I was that dedicated to reading it.

Yes, with little children at my feet, I could finish a book in a day. And I started watching this the other night and realizing how hooked in and addicted I was getting to other people's lives, and I wasn't living my own. So I told Mike, I said, I'm going to have to go back to my guideline for the day and you'll still books for me, because this is what supplies for me and go, Okay, I've got to get these things done before I can sit and watch an episode of this or three.

But no more than three because Netflix tells me you know, it's time to turn the TV off now.

So, you know, finding those things to be healthy. We talked about you know, it's okay to get down and be upset and, you know, Kevin, I've talked about this a lot here lately. It's alright to say this sucks, you know? Because right now what has happened has sucked.

Don't don't build a mansion there. Yeah. Yeah. Make make sure that you have

The tools and the resources, your friendships, your mental health, all of that in line to be able to get you out of that rut to get you going that reason why you want to continue moving on so Alright, we're about to wrap up. So I want to Stacy I'm going to start with you then go to misty Kim and Janet. And then I want y'all to just leave us off with one positive thought for people as we go into this week and, and what's one on a quote a verse a thought, a cheer a dance, whatever you want all donate. Don't call me on that. No. While honestly the damn. No.

Hold on, hold on.

Okay, I wanted to say while I'm while I'm sitting here listening to you guys.

Kim has just had like one of the most devastating experiences that she's had in her lifetime. She's been stuck in her house since January and she

sitting here talking about how she wants to help others. And it just makes me so happy that she lives on this earth and is willing to be on the phone because she can't live her house, talking about the Bible, and living God. So that's, that's what I this whole podcast. This is what I've been thinking about how she has such a positive attitude about life. And out of all of us, she has been dealt the hardest blows recently and look at how she is. So thank you, Kim, for making me feel better about myself and feel like that I can keep moving forward. Yeah, that's sweet. Thank you. You're welcome.

All right. Here's my dance. And here's just what came to mind. I've been reading this book called outwitting the devil, and made me think about second to me on seventh, Second Timothy one seven, and for God, maybe

Not a spirit of fear but of power and love and sound. So that's what kind of that's been my like life first and always has helped me kind of grounded. Like Don't let the fear get to you because, you know, it is scary a little bit. It can be, but um, that's kind of what that kind of holds me together right now.

Very good.

Kim, how about you?

Um, you know, there when we, when I got married are saying on our invitation and everything was nothing is worth more than this day. And that's really relevant in these days that we're living at to, you know, shift your mind to, you know, being present with your kids, your husband, what are some things in your house that you've been wanting to get done that have been being put off and put off and put off you know, clean out that closet or you know, go

And clean out your freezer freezer burn meat, you know, made room for new I fully believe that the Lord gave me that word restart wasn't just for me. I think we're all in a restart of sorts and it's gonna look different in everybody's lives, but just making every single day right now, be present, be mindful, be intentional, and and just be optimistic that God's got a great plan for you to prosper and not harm you. I I just firmly believe that I I shouldn't be here if the devil had had his way. You know, I had a massive snip and

found out I had a heart defect. And every single one of my arteries was blocked 85 to 98%. I am a living, breathing miracle. And now I'm going through this and you know what?

It's okay. It's okay. And we're all going to be okay. So nothing means more than this day.

Oh, awesome. Awesome. Love that. All right, Janet. Oh, Lord, help me.

I think I'll just dance. No, I'm kidding.

And you know, this is a perfect gift. It's a perfect gift and a perfect time. And we all were made for a time such as this and the beginning of the year. In my journal I wrote and heard that the Lord said it was going to be an interesting year. Those were my words. I was like, Lord, interesting. Okay. I interestings good. And so here we are, it's interesting. But everything is a gift. You know, it's a good gift. And like you said, Kim, I'm so proud of you. By the way, you're really doing well so proud of you. And that needs to be said you're doing awesome.

Today is a good gift. You know, tomorrow will be a good gift then if the Lord takes you

home tomorrow, then he takes you home. But until then I keep saying, you know, it's a gift and all good things come from him and let's let's live it that way. Let's just put it out there and live it that way. If you need something, and I can do it, you need to ask. That's all.

Well, thank you all for coming on today. You know, my biggest desire every week when I do a show is to make sure that people get to meet other amazing women that are building up our army of Destin inspired victorious accountable sisters, you know, that's what divas stands for in that we are joined at the hip with each other, and that we are constantly being women of value adding value to other women. And it is my pleasure. It is my honor to have shared the airwaves with you tonight and I am so excited to get this released out there to even more masses to hear the discussion so they can be encouraged and inspired. So thank You again for being on the show and Until next week, this is warrior divas.

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Hello, and welcome to warrior divas real talk for real women. I am your host Angie Leigh Monroe, our show is specifically that was right I said specifically, incorrectly because I too can mess up from time to time. It is specifically designed for our divas;  divas is an acronym for Destin inspired victorious accountable sisters. And we will be bringing guests on our show who will help in our mission to equip and empower a global community of women change agents as we make a positive impact in the world we live in. When we started divas impact four years ago, we quip that we wanted to change the way women think and speak about themselves and others. As we've progressed, so has our thinking and out of our intentions, we want to talk about things that are impacting women. So this means we talk about faith, family, fitness, finance, food and a lot of other words that don't begin with f. So today we welcome Laurie Vaughn speaks of lbs consulting loriann speaks is an expert in the area of speaker and author support. She amplifies the visibility of authors, speakers and messengers. While they do what they love. Speak. laurieann has helped spearhead multiple best selling book campaigns, editing proofing, through to launch and social media marketing to help authors create buzz and momentum throughout social media platforms and increase their

Message worldwide loriann and her team have made it their mission to empower speakers to deliver their message by handling the rest of the details. Prior to starting their own company loriann had over 15 years of professional experience supporting a top 100 thought leader as she built her businesses. Welcome to the show. loriann

Thanks so much, Angie. It's a pleasure to be here. Well, I personally know what a busy busy lady you are. And you've had some major projects you're working on for some of my friends, and you've done some work for me as well. But before we get into all that,

what I want to visit with you about who you are and how you got here today, is that all right. Yeah, totally cool. Yeah. I love that. So if you can just kind of give us a backstory. You. You said you work for a thought leader for 15 years. I'm sure there's things you did before that.

I know you're a mom. So you're one

What are some of the things that kind of led you to where you are today?

Well, great, yeah. Yes, I am no spring chicken. I've probably had four different careers in my lifetime.

I started off in my teens and 20s being so politically involved and got my degrees in political science and economics and wanted to be in politics. Thank goodness and thank God up above that he had other plans for me, and I am not there now. So

I did that. And then I became a recruiter. And when the when 911 happened, my recruiting business went to hell in a handbasket. So, I started working for this thought leader, and I was hurt for all intents purposes, girl Friday.

office manager, you know, gatekeeper. And I spent 15 years learning the business of speakers and authors. And so, but really,

once I had children my focus, you know, I, like I said, I started off wanting to be, like President of the United States, you know, the first woman president of the United States. Then I had children. And I realized, Oh, this is, this is what I'm good at. This is what I love. And so, when you talk about where was I, and how have I gotten here, once I had children, the business kind of went as a

means to an end instead of being you know, the end all and beall and being a mom was the number one thing in my life. And, and so, you know, I did I I worked at

A regular job so I could be mom and Girl Scout leader and room mom and, and be able to do all the things that I wanted to do as a mom. I love that.

Sorry. I said I love that. Yeah, you know, and I and I wouldn't have traded it for the world. You know.

I'm kind of glad that I never really got into the whole corporate america thing. But

what got me now to owning my own company, though, is that back in December of 2017, I was laid off, my boss decided to sell our company, and I knew it was coming. But

But I decided I was just going to stay until the end because she needed me. And and, and so and I knew there wasn't going to be much difference between hitting the the, you know, employment market at 59 or at 60.

I was pretty bad.

You know, they're not going to be doing well and I and I just sat there and went, Okay, let's just see this through to the end. And once I was laid off, it became very clear to me that once again, corporate america wasn't going to be my, you know, my journey.

I must have sent out 100 different resumes and never got a call, never got a call. And so I knew if I was going to continue to work, I better start my own company. And I did and I'm so glad I did. So glad I did. Well, I love the part that you said, you know, you saw the writing on the wall you saw she was retiring, stepping away and and but you stayed until the end. I think there's so much that's lost in that finishing well, moment. You know, you you worked with this woman side by side, you served her. You served her well over the 15 years, but you also finished Well, we

With her and and that's got to be a sense of accomplishment that many people miss out on today. A lot of people see the writing on the wall and they're like I'm getting out while the getting out good button right. But it's finishing well that that right there is a good wealth of information for people to grab ahold of because we've been in a couple of situations when we've been with a church that was closing its doors or a company that's closing its doors, in that finishing Well, it feels like kind of like you put your kid to bed at night, you know, you kind of you kind of made sure that from the time they rose till the time they went to bed, everything was taken care of and they were they were handled in the best way possible. And it's the closing of a chapter in in celebration of that chapter as well.

Exactly in and you know, it's a karma thing as well.

And it was important to support her through this process because it wasn't necessarily something she was all that jazz to do, but knew that she needed to just get out from under the actual company aspect. And just go back to being Bev and you know, and enjoying her life with her husband of 44 years. So.

So I was supportive. And that's kind of the way I am with my clients now. And it is a common thing because Beth has probably introduced me and referred me to at least 1520 of our friends. Wow, over the last two and a half years, so

it's it.

I think you get what you get. Right? I think that's really the way life boils down. Is yet you get what you give. So I agree wholeheartedly. Good. Yeah. Well, one of the things that

We've talked about whenever you and I have been on the phone before, was that you kind of not use that nurturing that you use with your children with with your thought leader that you support it with all the with all the companies you've been with, you've used that nurturing aspect of yourself. It's not a

part of your DNA, it is your whole DNA. That's, that's the part that I love about you is you, you see the potential and the possibilities in in people. And you want to call that out and you want to help support that and, and push push them and challenge them. But you do it in a way that is very impactful. And I want to commend you for that while I have you on the air because you don't get to tell people that very often where they actually slow down and listen to it, say it.

Well, thank you. Thank you. I have really

You know, when I started the company, I wouldn't say that I was passionate about what I was doing, until I really realized how much mentoring was involved because I was now working with a lot of what I call newbies. Right? And I love mentoring. That's, that's what I'm all about. And once I embraced that, and realized, this is what I can be doing for so many people, that's when I got passionate about what I was doing. Well, I think one of the other remarks that comes to mind is something that Michael Hyatt has said before, you know, people go out and I'm gonna have you share a little more specifically about the business you started here in a minute, but Michael Hyatt commented one time and I've kind of hung my hat on it is don't go out and look for people to help you get where you're going that haven't been there you go and you look for people.

To help you get where you're going that have already been there, whether it's an assistant, a coach, a mentor, whatever it is, a lot of times people go okay well I can't afford a virtual assistant a high paying virtual assistant so I'm just going to get some little girl off the street help her have her help her out, help me out, you know it's a helping each other out type of Jerry Maguire moment helped me show you the money type thing. But they're not equipped. They they haven't been where you're wanting to go and Michael Hyatt says if you want to be a fortune 500 company you need a coach that has been a leader in the fortune 500 into industry if you want to, or you need an administrative assistant that has served as a role in a fortune 500 company, you need a a support system that has been where you want to go and and i think that's beautiful because you said you work with speakers and authors and and

messengers and, and those are the people that you've already served and served in a high capacity. And so you can serve your clients so much better because you've already been there done that saying that you know what to expect even before they expect it, you know how to talk them off the roof.

All of that. So, so yeah, tell us tell us a little bit more about the company you started what you do, and, and what type of company it is.

Well, we are a virtual assistance company, but we literally specialize in speakers, authors and podcasters. So those are our clients.

Although many of the the things that I talk about and have like

a, a white paper on how to increase your speaking business, if you've got a small business

that you need to raise your visibility.

A lot of the things that are on that list can be used for small businesses as well. But what we do is we help the speakers and authors raise their presence in social media, help them write that book and get it to bestseller status. help them find more stages. And, and, and for those that are very much established, and they've gotten to the point where they're on the stages, but they just don't have the time to deal with all the, you know, logistics and administrative stuff. Right? I was gonna say a dirty word.

You know, to deal with all that we take that off their plate, and we'll handle the the business side of it, and make sure that all the T's are crossed and the i's are dotted, so that they can go out on the road, do their speeches and know everything's being taken care of. Well, I think it's, you know, one of those things that when people say

Alright, I've spoken at all these places, I want to have my own event. I don't think they understand fully what all that entails. But you've put those on for people before. So, you know, having somebody like you quote unquote, in their back pocket is is a huge benefit, I'm sure.

Well, yeah, there is a lot involved. And, and just knowing how to negotiate with the the venue is important, because and finding the right venue for you and your budget. So, yeah, I've been involved in in all that. But yes, there's a lot of little pieces. And I find that the creatives, which is the community that I serve, have some amazing, great ideas, but they don't know how to bring that to fruition. And that's why I come in, I'm sort of their Yin to their Yang. You know,

I will reverse engineer their idea to figure out how to get there. I used an analogy explaining what to do the other day to somebody I said, when you have that picture, perfect image of what you want. She's the puzzle maker out of it. She comes in, she takes the pieces apart, and puts it in a way that you can pick your pieces together as you need, whether you're an inside to the outside or an outside to the inside person, she helps put that picture together for you. So she takes your full picture, she breaks it down into bite sized pieces, so you can put it together the way you need to put it together. And they're like, oh, okay, you know, they're like, because I can't see how to get where I'm going from looking at the big picture. I'm like, that's why you need someone with a strategy mindset, which is what you have you and it comes so natural to you. You don't get ruffled whenever one thing's not going right because you're already expecting it to not go

Hopefully I've planned it out properly and nothing does go wrong. But you know, life happens and and things do go wrong. And as I tell my client, no one in the audience knows that something's wrong. Exactly like when you get married, and you know, something will go wrong, but nobody will really even notice it. You know, just go with the flow. Have a great day, do your message. And we'll make sure that everything runs smoothly. So,

you know, that's and I'm pretty even keeled. I don't

I don't have extreme highs or lows. So, so I can keep it together and, and make sure everything works. You know, well, even in a in a kind of, you know, emergency situation. What is that old commercial? Never let them see you sweat. Yeah, those are the people you want in your corner is the ones that never let you see like

Let them see you sweat. So I know, yesterday I got a notification, I have a large organization that I'm a part of. And we have two annual or two meetings a year that we do training for new

new people that have joined our organization. And we have people come from all around the world. And they ended up after some major thought in listening to research and listening to the guests and everything. They decided to postpone this one and just resume in August. And, you know, there's there's definitely some some challenges when you have a big event. I mean, we're expecting 3000 people coming. And we're now postponing this event that's supposed to happen in two weeks. And now And so, one of the things that I realized and

A lot of people don't is how many how this affects a trickle effect across so many parts, like I heard today, you know, on the news they were talking about, well the event will be fine because the event has insurance and that's true the event has an entrance has an insurance policy most events have insurance policies and if you're doing an event without an insurance policy, shame on you.

But um, most events have insurance policy, but the the hotel that it was being held at the servers that were there, the transportation to him from the airport, the airport, so you know, we're dealing right now, in this time and age with this thing called the corona virus. And I've got a friend that's in Italy that owns a bed and breakfast who's totally impacted by this because she's in the we're all the study abroad students are at. So although all of them have been sent home, and so the parents aren't

coming to visit the kids, the kids aren't there. There's a lot that's going on. And if I were an event organizer, even though I knew I had insurance, I think I'd be freaking out right now. Do you have anybody that you're hearing that about?

Well, I mean, Justin there in Texas, I know that South by Southwest was canceled, yo. And I mean, and that's millions and millions of dollars to the local, you know, economy, right. lost. So yes, this is this is definitely causing some major troubles.

The,

you know, the things that the conferences that I know of right now that are in our industry are still happening, because they tend to be us centric, right. So those are still going on. But yeah, I'm also a member of the meeting planners International, so I know it

Hitting big time to a lot of people. And

Damn, I wish I had zoom.

Zoom is doing magnificently over these last couple of weeks, right? Because companies are just making them now virtual meetings.

And so you know, things can we can, we can flip things around. And and as I said, you know if something goes wrong, we'll fix it. You know, if something like this happens, and we can't have a live event, so let's have a virtual event, we can do it. Well, and that's part of what we've been talking about here lately is bringing in some people in doing virtual summit with people because we can get their messages out, we can band together stronger. You know, part of what we do is dig services help promote and empower other women and doing a virtual summit and in people like well, I want to be in a room with a bunch of girlfriends. I'm like right now, you know,

Or, or invite your closest friends over to your house to watch the summit together. You know, there's a lot of different ways that we can think through this and do this a little bit better. But I know I sprung that question on you and it wasn't one that we had talked about discussing, but I figured it was right there in the middle of what we're doing right now. And you know, it needed to be addressed. I heard somebody the other day telling me that they were doing an event and they had like 1000 tickets sold. It was an outdoor event in April here in Texas. And I was like, okay, so you know, what's your what what insurance agent did you use for your event planning because I know a few that are in that industry. He goes, I don't have event insurance. I'm like you What?

You're talking tornado season. You're talking rainy season. You're talking you just you chose the month in Texas that you just don't do that without an insurance policy.

He was like, What? I had no idea so had him on the phone with an insurance agent ASAP you know?

Oh, Lord better be glad you were there. Yeah, I'm coming. I'm coming in for dummies event in April as well. Yeah, I'll be I'll be there in Texas. Yeah.

In in April, in that semi neighboring town, so I will be there as well. So excited about that. So

now, you said that you worked with it was Bev right. The thought leader you worked with Yeah, Beverly, Kay, she, she Beverly Kay. She's amazing in the area of career development, employee engagement and retention, and her books, which Okay, so I don't know if you know this statistics, but most business books, the average sales are like 6000 over the period of their lifespan.

Bev's love

lose them has sold over a million copies? Well, yeah. And what we do did is that from her books, there were workshops created that were then sold to fortune 1000 companies. So we only worked with companies of 10,000 or more employees. Wow. But yeah, yeah. So it was a, it was a nice, nice, you know, but as you know, anytime you have a company and people that you are now responsible for, it's a headache. And at 75, she said, Okay, I'm kind of done with that whole aspect. She still speaks, but there was just no need for a full time in person and so, so and I totally understood that and I kept telling her because she was, she was feeling very upset that, you know, she was gonna let me go and I said, Beth, you do not owe me a job. You know, it's okay. It's over.

Kay, right. And I'm so glad that it was so positive because, as I said, she has referred me to a number of different people that I work with now. And, and I'm having much more fun because instead of one author that I knew inside and out and all her, you know, her, her her speak, so to speak, and write, you know, so it did get kind of boring. You know, work can get can be boring if you're not totally engaged. Well, now I get to work with so many different authors that I've learned from each one. And it's something different each day. So I am enjoying this fourth chapter in my life. So, you know, I mean, how many women at 62 can say, Hey, I am enjoying the heck out of working? Well, I think it's great, you know, how you speak above and how she she you know,

Caring for you. It's evident that she inspired you, as well. Who were some of the other women that have been in your life that have inspired you?

Well, you know, in my actual life, I mean, my mom was amazing and just really stoic. So I think I get my even keel from her.

Every client I have. And I'd say probably 90% of my clients are women.

Every client I have really does,

you know, inspire me because I love each of their messages, and they're important. And so they inspire me to want to get them, you know, more and more visibility, because what they're talking about is important.

If we're talking about you know, like, someone that's famous, my my role model, and don't laugh at me, okay? My

role model is actually Dolly Parton. Oh, wow, that woman. Not only is she self deprecating, I mean, she's not full of herself, right? She's self deprecating. She is one of the most brilliant businesswoman. She has. She has a music book have over three 4000 songs that other people have sung.

So, I mean, she's rolling in it, but she is also giving back. Like, like no other. Do you realize that Dolly Parton is like the number one book distributor in the world?

Because she makes sure that every child that that writes to her will get a book every month from date of birth to the age of five when they enter school. Wow. I had just recently heard about her love for books and

what she was doing, but I did not know that little tidbit. I believe, I believe the statistics are that she has given away over a billion books. Wow. Yeah. I mean, I hear those stories. And you know, I am small potatoes. But I hear those stories and I just think, oh, wow, Lord, can I just win the lottery and just have fun giving it away? Because that would just to me, that would make me happy. Right would make me happy. Right. So I just I just totally love Dolly Parton. I'm in love with Dolly Parton. Well, you and my husband so

my husband has said that his one concert he wants to go to he wants to see he is super in love with Dolly Parton. You know, and we're, you know, we're still in our 40s and he's like, I don't know what it is. She's just she's so so engaging and so real.

And doesn't take herself too seriously. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. And so giving and I have never heard word one that's negative about Dolly Parton from anybody. And damn if I could look like that and still wear those heels that

80 I think she's close to 80 you know, and if it's gonna go Holy moly, really look great. Right. And you know, we've been watching we watched that heartstrings that she had on Netflix not too long ago and have watched a couple of specials that she's had on. And, and I guess the part that I appreciate is in a world where we're faced with so many fake people are people faking it till they make it? She is just real and genuine and authentic and makes you feel even through the TV like you're her best friend right there in the room whether, yeah, exactly. And she'll tell you a lot of her his fate.

Yeah, she'll say a lot of you a lot of mistake, but my heart isn't. Yeah. Yeah.

So, I know, I know I'm one of the people that you've inspired. So tell me about some of the people that you hope to inspire and you know what what would you like your legacy to be? You know, years from now whenever people think of you, you know, a year 510 however many years from now when they think of you what is what are some things you want them to, to say are you hope that they have felt from you?

Well, on a personal basis, you know, that I was a great mom and Grammy and, and a good and a great friend, you know.

I hope that people see me as you know, being giving and, and and there to help whenever is necessary.

But on a business level, I would love people to realize it's never too late to go out and start your own company.

You know, when they when they started saying, you know, retire at 60 or 65, we were only living till 67 or 68. Right? Well, my mom is 91 years old. Wow, I had no intention of sitting on my tush for the next 30 years. You know, I mean, the thought is just repulsive. I need to be out and about doing stuff. So I'd really love to inspire people to say, you know what, I have this amazing idea and I'm going to start a company because you don't have to go into hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt. I went into no debt, no debt. I literally started my company in my home office with a laptop and my telephone. That's it, right? I didn't even have a printer when I started.

Do now but you know, it's like you can start with with being something really small with this gig economy the way that it is, you can you can do a project by project type basis, do a good job, get a referral, right? And just build it that way. Right now, I would say 95% of my business comes from referrals.

So, you know, I don't have to go into hundreds of thousands of dollars of marketing and all that fun stuff.

Seeing as though it's really not my thing to be in front of the camera, but I i will say I do love doing the podcasts and radio shows. I always have a face for radio, but but, you know, I like to just let people know, don't just because you're over 60 does not mean we need to, you know, crawl into a ball and say we're done.

We still have another good chapter or two in our, in our book. Well, and we, it's whether you start a business, whether you start a nonprofit, whether you just start a group of friends that are hanging out together, get out and do stuff with people, engage with people, pay it forward, go to the schools and read the little kids. You know, there's so much that we could be doing.

My husband's been working in the plumbing industry for 30 years, his body's starting to give out so he's starting to think about what are some ways he can reinvent himself?

Cool. So let's, um,

let's ask you this, out of the people that you're working with now, how have they inspired you to grow your business or shift your business? We talked a little bit about the niche market of what bad ad, you know, right? I know being a verb, you can say I'm a virtual assistant and everybody wants to go Okay, here's billing. Here's this. Here's that and yeah, but you

said very specifically who you work with did Beth, help you do that or the clients that you started drawing in because of your personality and and what you were good at? Well, I knew that my niece was the speaking, you know, author industry because that's where my superpowers lie. And that's what I know.

So I knew that that was my niche. I didn't know really that much about podcasting, but realized that that is the media of the future, and is growing leaps and bounds. And so I embraced that whole, you know, community and what an amazing community in the podcasting world is.

But my, my offerings have changed. When I first started, I thought it was going to be the administrative, you know, all administrative kind of work. And I found that that's not necessary.

What especially new authors were looking for.

Now, I'm not a booking agent, I don't go and find, you know, paid speaking gigs as, as the only thing that I do, and if that's all that they want, I am now referring people to a couple of booking agents that I like, right?

But, but my offerings have kind of changed. And what I've realized is that there are a great number of people who have been in corporate America for 20 or 25 years, who have a story and or a method of doing something that they want to now go into consulting and be a speaker and write their own book. And so I found that my mentoring in that area is really where I'm moving towards

I have other women. And that's actually another aspect of what's important to me is I hire other women who have been marginalized, such as myself, who at 60 have amazing skill sets still to offer my clients. And yet, I also have a number of young moms who don't necessarily want to work a 40 hour week, because they want to be stay at home moms, but especially here in Los Angeles, you need that extra income to make ends meet.

So that I have a number of young moms that helped me with the research and data entry and things along that line that honestly, I don't want to do anymore, right. But it gives them an income to help their family out. So that's like my back end mission within the company or who I hire and why

I like I really try to take on those people that quote unquote, aren't hireable because they're not willing to put in the hours of corporate, you know, work that's necessary, that kind of thing. So,

so that kind of

what I'm about.

Well, and I think it goes hand in hand with a lot of what I'm seeing in the women's marketplace for working nowadays. There's the our riveter, that makes the purses, it's the military spouses that make the purses and they know that military spouses get transported all the time. They get MCs to move, and it's hard to find a job and then because your spouse may be deployed, you've got to have a job that will be flexible with you being mom and dad to your kids while while your spouse is deployed. So they have a business model that they have components of

their purses are put together and made by these male spouses and then they come back to the warehouse to be put together. And so and there's an virtual, another virtual assistant company out there that that engages male spouses to, to work for them as well. And then you've got

more and more Abby, even, even our government here, then partly because of the corona virus has been testing out more and more people working from home doing it remotely. And, and so we got to stop thinking about, you know, butts and seats in the office and start thinking about how we can still be productive and make an impact for what we need to do. There are jobs out there. There are a lot of scam jobs out there big market of right now. But there are jobs, there's ways to serve people and there's a way to serve your own bottom line.

If you're just willing to look forward, I know when we started my company several years ago, I started doing social media for companies and I worked with nonprofits and businesses and everything. But then whenever I

got tired of doing the social media stuff, I'd say, you kind of evolved, you start working on what you what you really love, and you, you kind of evolve and you start realizing that that part while you It was fun, and it brought in money. It's not where you want to hang your hat now, because you've grown, you've evolved. And so I brought in another mom that had just had a baby. She kind of wanted to stay home with him for a while, got her trained up, and then she kept getting more and more training, and she rolled out into her own business, and great and even from there, she's now her child's in school, and she's gone on to work for a corporate company and this is what she's doing.

It wasn't something that she went to school for. She took four years of college for did all this she had real hands on OJT to learn this skill test it be able to show what all she was able to accomplish on her own. And she never worked in an office she was home for her kids she worked everything around her kids schedule you know there were a few times she'd be on a conference call video call whatever and in the background her son's you know, coloring the wall with a marker or pouring cereal places that happens.

Yes, she was there. I think you need to be realistic about whether you're capable of being a virtual person, right? Um, some aren't that great at and staying on task. If if you're the kind of you know, squirrel kind of person, that might not be the way to go.

Believe it or not, I was actual a Virtual Employee back in 1991. Wow. Before there was such a thing, because I had been a recruiter and got married, had my kids and decided I wanted to stay at home. And, and my boss tracked me down after, like 10 years, and tracked me down and said, I just started this new company, I really want you to come on board. And I said, Well, okay, as long as I can do it from home, and he knew what I was capable of and said, okay, right. And I owe him so much because I was able to help support my family, and yet still could be the room mom, the Girl Scout leader and everything else like that. So it, you know, through the years,

I understand and I know that I have the capability to stay totally focused and on

task and, you know, not go down and turn on the TV or anything along that lines. It's like I am at work.

And then I'm not right. Although I'm not as good as the and not

Oh, I I literally last night, I got up and I did some, some tweets and stuff for a client

at like 930 at night

so that I could get it all loaded up. And, you know, make her happy. So, you know, it's like, I'm not that great at not staying at work, but

but I'm working on that.

Yeah, I totally get it my husband, you know, owning a plumbing business. It's a 24 seven on call for commercial emergencies. He works a lot. So when

works, I try and work. And in that way when he's not working, we can actually go to dinner or we can go and do some of these other things. So I have set working hours during the day that take phone calls and do appointments. But if he's working outside of those normal working hours, I'll work so that maybe I don't have to have those. You know, if I've got free time with him, I can go to breakfast or I can go to lunch or dinner or we can go shopping for the kids. So my schedule looks a little hinky yet

because it's not the norm of what everybody else sees. But, you know, it's it's also something that works for us. And it's, it's this is when we're, we're connected with people. This is when we're working with people. I had somebody messaged me last week. Hey, can we get on a call today? I'm like, Nope.

Not today. You know, as I say, not today, Satan. But you know, yes, we can get on it.

Call it just won't be today, it may be next week into next week before I can get on a call with you. And that's because I'm trying to be diligent of my time and not just block out the time for appointments and calls with people, but also block up the time to work on the projects can work on the tasks. And I think that's part of the discipline you're talking about of having the right mindset to do the job, you know, exactly. I know, I'm being pushed and challenged on writing, and I've blocked out my writing time for my books and, and I'm working on that and it's set up as an appointment. It's an appointment with myself in my laptop, and that's where I will be there. Yes. So no, no temptations. So we're about to take a break here in a couple of minutes. And when we do,

it'll just be a quick short break. But when we come back, we're going to talk about some of the victories you've had. We've had, we may have touched on some of them, but we now

There's women that are challenged with what life's facing them or what they're facing in life right now, or maybe they faced it years ago and they just haven't been able to get past something that keeps holding them back. And

we like to hear those stories of victory from women that have kind of weathered the storms and come out on the other side. Just as a way to shine a spotlight into those dark splay spaces and let them know that we see them there. And you know, I may not be able to reach out to somebody and help them out of the dark space they're in but maybe you have the key that can unlock that dark space. So we're going to talk about that when we come back from this break. All right, we are back with Laurie and speak says we are talking more about her starting a business at the age of 60. We'll throw that out there. I hate telling women's age on the air but I love the story behind it. So

That's That in itself, you know, people start talking about wanting to wind their business down at the age of 40 or 50 or 60 in your revenue up so, to me that sounds like a huge victory, but what are some other victories you've had in your life personally, professionally? You know, what are some of the I don't I don't want to assume that you just arrived and everything was perfect.

Oh, gosh, no.

Well, you know, it's interesting because Andrew, you know, I'm a big girl. And

and so you know, life life in Los Angeles where everyone is a thinks they need to be a Barbie. I never really quite fit in. But and so

hold on a second. I'm losing you. Are you Is everything okay? Can you hear me? Yes. Okay. It filter dummy. I so apologize, but

Maybe it was God saying quit talking about being fat Laureen

but you know, I mean, that was a hard road and I have some some major situations of being picked on.

And I'll be honest with you, it took me until I was 50 to embrace the fact that this is the size that I am, this is the size that I am going to be. And I'm not going to change for anyone else. And I if I could teach the girls out there to love themselves.

You know, so that they don't go through all the trials and tribulations of not thinking you're good enough. Because you're big is so, so important to me to get that message out. Love yourself the way that you are and and you'll find out that people will gravitate towards you because you become much more sure of yourself.

unconfident and unfortunately, like I said, it took me to my 50s before I said, I'm done with this, you know, this is me Get over it.

So, you know, that was that was part of my growing up and and maturing

and you know, I guess another victory over the stuff when when bad things happen you know I went through a divorce and

and and I still have yet to to remarry i mean you know there have been a couple of really nice men in my life but I

I realized and here's something that I could do it myself that I didn't need a man to give me my worth, or to take care of me financially. I was capable

doing it myself. Now, that doesn't mean that I wouldn't love to have a partner in life. But I realized I didn't need it. So I wasn't going to settle. Right? For someone that wasn't right for me.

And I think too many of us women, you know, think that we have to have that man in our life. And and I say no at bros, embrace your powers yourself. Especially if it's a it's

not a healthy relationship. So I guess those are really, I kind of have had a great life with you. I mean,

I've been very lucky. So, you know, so and I'm the type of person that I have always looked at the glass half full, and I focus on the positives. And so that's what's really important when I went through the divorce

My reaction was, okay.

I don't want someone that doesn't want to be with me. Go Go. It's okay. But I have friends that to this day still can't stand my assessment.

I let it go ages ago right ages ago. Let it go.

If I can fix something, I fix it. I kind of tease sometimes I say I'm a guy with boobs. Because I am that type of person that if I, I want to fix it for you. I'm not one that just wants to listen and go all. Okay, I hear ya. Now I want to fix it. Right? I'm so much more like a guy in that way.

But if I can't fix it, I let it go. And I won't. I won't sit there and and, you know, let it fester in my life. If there's nothing I can do about it. I don't have control. I let it go and I put it in God's hands. That's all good. Well, I think I think you

touched on something there you know your your divorce, there may be people that are more devastated for you than you were actually devastated in the divorce. And a few years ago, I was doing a training down in San Antonio and we were having people do a life map. And on this life map, we had them put everything that was positive in their life above a line, write it on this big poster board, everything that they had encountered negatively in their life, they wrote below the line.

And there were two women at the same table. And they both had divorce on there's one handed above the line, one headed below the line.

The one that headed above the line said she had been set free from a very toxic relationship. The one the below the line was just totally devastated that her marriage had ended and basically her life had stalled out from that point in her life. And she just wasn't living and so

It was beautiful watching that one that the divorce was freeing for her to be able to speak life and freedom into this other woman. And you know it their their experiences in the moment were very different. But the the ability to help that one that was stuck in the darkness come out of it was so beautiful to watch. And they spent weeks and months talking with each other and encouraging each other and empowering each other. Through that it was more one sided for a while. But then after that, while they they became really good friends and started doing some workshops for women that were going through divorce, and it said it in their work. Their theme was it doesn't matter how you're viewing your divorce, this workshop is for women to help you move on to the next chapter, you know, and it was it was a great thing that they did and and i don't know that they do those workshops.

anymore but it was it was two polar opposite views of how one in one thing can impact a person. And exactly, you know, I know I've had this conversation with another friend of mine when I had my sexual assault, she had a sexual assault as well. Well, our reactions were two totally different reactions to it, you know, and, and, but it doesn't mean that we can't help somebody I can help somebody that had the opposite reaction I had she can help somebody that had the opposite reaction she had as we talk about it and open it up and peel back the layers of of what it all is but it goes back to more of what you you shared about loving yourself. You know, you have to do that first.

Well, you know, there's this great gal Allison Donaghy, who is a podcaster.

Her with Dominic

No thinking, and she is all about taking yourself out of a victim state and into a freedom state. And part of that is just, you know, letting it go and understanding what your part in the situation was.

You know, I mean, when I went through the divorce, and he cheated to get out, you know,

but, you know, it was his fault, right? But no, there there, you know, there were things that after 15 years of marriage, you know, life got

you know, we were all wrapped up and I was wrapped up in the kids with kids, kids. And and so, you know, I didn't probably give him the attention that he wanted. I will own that part. Right. Not that it was not this is doing right. But I will own that part, that maybe I was

being the best wife either. And so, so I loved her framing of being able to get out of the victim state and into the freedom state because of the fact you can see where you own it, and then let it go. Right, right. And that's what we need to do is you need to just let it go. Let it go and move on. And I know that it's easier said than done. But, you know, and depending, especially depending on the situation, you know, an assault is is completely different than a divorce. Although it is and it isn't, if you think about it, right, because you can still be a victim either way, right? But, but it's like, move, you gotta let it go and move on. Because otherwise they're still having that control over you.

Well, you know, I we when I left working at the church I was at before I started my business. We had this I worked in the business

office, we had this

thing that used to happen where there was stuff that was bought for our offices and they were bought specifically for our style or our look or or whatever the decor person that came in that decorated our offices decorated it towards our style. So when we left we had we normally had the option to ask to purchase or you know, because they would be redecorating it for the next person. So

I went nice specifically asked for the chair that I had. It's kind of like the chair I'm sitting in today kind of an area on type chair. And it was very ergonomically correct. And I'd had the chair for five years it was kind of it had some issues with it, but it was molded to my but you know, to be honest, I liked that. I liked that chair. And my boss. I went to him and

st if I could have the chair and he goes well as long as so and so approves that I have no problem with it. So it's getting close to the day that I'm leaving the company and everything and he comes back to me. He goes, if you're gonna get that chair I need, you know, we're getting your final paycheck and all that stuff lined out. I need to know what price you were told on it from, you know, whatever the facilities department was, and that asset I was told no.

And the look on my boss's face because it was his boss that told me no, the look of my boss's face was just pure shock. Because in the five years I'd been there, nobody had told me no before. And he just looked at me and started and he goes, No, seriously, I'm like, I'm, I'm serious. Todd told me no, he's like, No, he didn't tell it's never told, you know.

And, and for me, it was kind of like, Alright, now I have a right to be offended because I

Even even Josh thinks it's wrong that I'm offended that that Todd told me now that he said no. And, you know, it wasn't a big offense. I'm using this kind of tongue in cheek because it's a funny story. I mean, Todd even came to me one day, I'm training my replacement, and I've got her staying there. And Todd comes running down the hall with this phone and he's got the old Groucho Marx song. It doesn't matter what you say how you phrase it, anyway, I'm against it.

And he's playing that and I'm like, Pastor Todd, please meet my replacement. You know, I'm introducing Rosie's trash talking me it was a great moment. But this this business of mystery was kind of taking up an offense for me. I'm like, I don't know what the deal is. I'm not offended. It just shocked me and, and then that moment I went from dealing with my own shock to now I'm dealing with his feelings about this and you

A lot of times when we tell somebody we're getting a divorce, or we've been fired, or, you know, we've been assaulted or whatever the tragic moment that comes up, we don't even get a chance to deal with our own emotions first and foremost, because we're constantly dealing with other people's emotions about what happened to us. So what I what I like is you keep saying, Let it go move on, you've got friends that were offended, but you're not letting them impact how you feel, or how your own you're feeling about yourself. Because you're like, it's done. It's over with I've moved on we say girl with long hair, because that's what we were called when we were in the military. I mean guy with long hair. That's what we were when we were in the military. We're just dudes with long hair. So you know,

the not letting other people's thoughts come in and keep you stuck. Is it

Something that I picked up in what you said you know those people can be offended and be mad at your ex and never want to speak to him again or, and that's fine. That's their feelings and their emotions. But you know, it doesn't disqualify you who you are what you were called to be how great you are and, and you know, it doesn't define anything else about you. It doesn't allow you to

I tell people it's okay to park your boat there for a little bit but don't build a mansion around it.

Oh, I like that. I like that. So I love that analogy. Yeah, if you need to go go to the gym, punch a couple of punching bags, do some kickboxing whatever, get it out of your system, and then move on. And

in. Too often we're hearing that these people are parking their boats and building a mansion and and they've now got land attached to this. This thing that is become a problem in their life and

You know, they'll never break the boundaries of that land because they're just, they're too hung up and what has happened to them that they can't see the rest of the world out there that's there for them at the moment and look at you, you're touching so many lives through the people that you serve. You know, every time one of those speakers you work with goes out and speaks or does a podcast or does whatever it is that they're doing. That's one of your touch points. Every time they're writing a book and putting a book out. That's one of your touch points. It may not be your voice, it may not be your thing, but you've touched it, and it's a an extension of what you've done and and all because you didn't sit back and go, Oh, well. He said I wasn't worth it. Or, you know, yeah, you're you're doing it or, you know,

you say the face for radio jokingly and all that self deprecating thing, but you've got a voice that needs to be heard and needs to be shared and

It doesn't matter what means it gets out there. It doesn't matter what you look like it needs to be heard. And you're not letting any of it stop you. So right, good job. Right. Thanks.

Yeah, no, I think we need to embrace our own superpowers and embrace your worst.

And, and unfortunately, it does take some of us longer than others. And I would love to see, you know, women, younger women having that confidence from the get go. And I think that's actually one of the things I'm probably most proud of is my daughter, who,

up until about a year and a half ago was bigger than I still had the most self assured, amazing personality.

You know, that just

nothing stopped her. Right and

Yet, you know, she was bigger than I. And I swear people are just getting mean more mean and more mean or meaner and meaner. I don't know, which is the correct way. But

over the last year and a half though, she has lost 140 pounds. Wow. So wait, yeah. Oh, yeah. I mean, you know, because she is so determined and so sure of herself, that when she finally made the decision, because she had had a couple kids and want to be there for them. Right, right. She made that decision and stuck to it. But, but it wasn't based on just the her luck. It was based on her health. So

you know, just just having your own power is important. And you need to embrace that.

Sounds like she's got some tenacity for my mama. Yeah.

Yeah. Well, I think so. I think

We are we are very, we are very similar people.

You know, we don't take a lot of

stuff from people, right. I edited there too.

But yeah, you know, we are, I have raised some real self assured women. And I have an amazing son, who also has a very self assured wife, who he supports and they support each other. I think, you know, as you say, what are some of the victories the victories are that all three of my kids are amazing adults who are happily married, and their spouses are amazing. And what more can I ask? They're happy, you know, and they, and they're giving me grandbabies.

in Erie,

we're done. I'm so upset. I'm not gonna have any more

babies.

Yeah, well, my, my two grandkids just turned six this week. So this weekend, so yeah, and I'm not called Grameen diva is my grandma name. So Oh, I love it. I love it. I love it. I love though. They, they definitely call me Davis. So I love that. But, um,

so, in the middle of that, you know, what I love? What I kind of heard between the lines is, you know, your daughter with that transition and her outer appearance.

You know, a lot of times people look at, you know, people that are overweight like myself, and they think that they're not strong that they're not self assured. Now we can walk in the room and prove them wrong, but first glance there, they're not gonna think that right off the bat. And so, one of the things that I've realized even through my my transformation of

Losing weight, and still not near my goal weight yet, but in my transformation of losing weight is people do start looking at you differently. They do start thinking about you differently. And the thing is, is it's hard to explain that I never thought differently about myself. You just did. Right. Right.

Exactly. Exactly. And yet, it's, it's also important to as long as you're healthy, right, right. To to accept yourself. Right.

And so, so that's, that, to me is very important. You know, one of the things that always irritated me is that fat slob seemed to go together, right? Well, you will never, ever see me out in public. not totally put together. Every You know, there is no

And, you know, dressed appropriately. And, you know, it's just so I have that in and of myself is just like, you may call me fat. But you will never call me a slob. Right? Right? Because that's, that's fine. I'm a big girl, too bad. Get over it.

This is me. At this point. If I lost weight, it'd just be hanging skin. So I don't really care. It's like, no way. It's like, I'm healthy. You know, I'm not on any meds. I'm all good. So. So it's like, move on. Let's get on to the business. And I think I come across with a level of confidence that most people don't really,

you know, stop and think, well, I don't want to work with her. She's sad. Right? Right. Well, it has. What's important is our brain. Exactly in it and it's one of those. One of those comments somebody made the comment what was it about it?

A year ago, there was an event A friend of mine was on and they had only seen her headshots and if you look at her headshots, you think she's fairly skinny. You know very always put together. All of that right? Well then they invited her because they listened to her on a podcast how great she was an invited or to speak at an event and then they were it was a health and wellness event that she was speaking at. And she's got these amazing

clients all over the West Coast and she's ran several multi million dollar businesses and and all in the skincare business and Health and Wellness Business, but she's not the model size. She's not skinny. She's not what everybody puts in when she showed up at the event. They were offended because of her size.

Nice started being ugly to her.

And oh my gosh. And she was like, wait a minute you listen to my podcasts, you heard the wealth of information I have. And they're like, Yeah, but the way you're you talked about on your podcast and what you're dealing with, don't seem to match up and she goes, show me where and they couldn't show her where what she was saying didn't match up with what she had promoted. It just they had a instant flip in their head as to what they had envisioned and what they had hoped to see. And of course, every other person up there look like canon Barbie, you know? And yeah, I'm like, but this is real life. This is gonna get the people that you want to help to get to Ken and Barbie status or whatever you want to call it. Yeah, but well, and and I mean, she's being real. Oh, yeah, exactly. at that. Yeah. That's just ridiculous.

really ridiculous. And, and,

and hopefully she stuck to her, you know, her principal, and she told him she wouldn't. She told him she would not worry about speaking from their stage. So that day, she really didn't need to speak from their stage, she would just take her check and go home.

Oh, good for her.

And they're like, well, if you're not speaking, we don't want to, we're not gonna pay you and she goes, No, we have a contract. You can just pay me and I will leave that way. You don't have to be disgusted by my appearance, and they're like, we never used the word disgusted and she's like, but she did in a not so kind way, you know, she, she was very firm. She's a businesswoman. So she is very good and strong and confident because they weren't seeing her the way she saw herself. Mm hmm. And I think I think that's, that's something that we have to be mindful of. We may think

That we're, you know, strong and powerful and mighty. But we also realize that maybe not everybody sees us the way we see ourselves. And sometimes we just have to remove ourselves from their presence because it'll never be realized. And sadly, but the other side can also be true. You could see a beautiful girl who you think has it all together? And she does not think at all highly of herself. Exactly. So, you know, it's like, so love thyself, right, right. Know thyself. Well, I think we're all in whether you're gorgeous or not gorgeous or fat or skinny, or purple or brown or whatever. You're all beautiful, because God made you that way. So well, the way I look at it, and I do Do you know, it's one of those things that you you look at it and you go, Okay, I have been at the place where I believe the things people said negatively about me more

moreso than then I should have, but then I evolved and then I started realizing that as long as I keep harping on those negative things, I will never see the positive things. So then I started shifting my thought process and and there will still be days. I'll go in Angie Lee Monroe, what were you thinking in? And I give myself that talk or, you know, come on, girl, get it together. Yeah.

My husband I were talking I've had a couple of low memory things here lately that I'm just like, Okay, what in the world is going on with me? And, you know, it may it starts to make you think, Okay, well, I'm just not got it together. I'm just not this. I'm just not that. But really what it is, is you're not taking time to put margin and to allow room to breathe. It's what it is. And so

in doing that, I had

To be hold myself a little more accountable to how much I was putting on my plate, how much I was expecting of others how much I was expecting of myself. And

I'm just gonna lead into our next little segment because

what I know about you is when it comes to helping people reach their professional goals, your great accountability partner, I mean, you are

the way you phrase things as you phrase things to set people up for success. So you were working on a project for me last summer and you're like, Okay, I'm going to get this to you by such and such time. How much time do you need to review it so we could set up a call? It was so there wasn't just a deadline on you. There was a deadline on me as well.

And, and many people seem to blur the line between politeness and accountability. So, you know, I've told the story before my friend that never really wanted to hold me accountable for working out

The gym because she didn't want to be held accountable for working out in the gym. But when we were in the office space together, she was phenomenal at it. I've had people I've given permission to, to speak into my life and say, you know, hold me accountable for doing things on certain dates and times and be consistent. But then they don't because they know that I'm a strong individual person. And I know that I know I should be doing it. But just because I know I should go to the gym and eat healthy every day doesn't mean that I necessarily do. And I've given permission to somebody to speak into my life to hold me accountable in those areas. And they don't, because they're afraid it's not polite to speak into that. Then we have a problem. So yeah, well with Yeah, with my clients. It really is. That's what they've asked me to do. And I'm not only holding them accountable, but I'm making the business accountable.

As I told you earlier, you know, mentoring has really been my passion. And I think my clients all know that if I call them on something, or if I tell them, you know, you really should think about this,

you know, going forward, they know it comes from a place of love, and a place of trying to make them better.

So, you know, I don't think I've ever really gotten, you know, negative negative with anyone. But, you know, I will, I will say, Wait, stop you, we need to look at this. Right. And I think they know that, that when I push back or when I hold them accountable, it's only for their own good.

Yeah. And and, and that's one of the things that people don't realize is if you're asking somebody to hold you accountable, or you're holding somebody accountable, you've been given a treasure in that moment. You've been given insight you've been given authority you've been given

You know, I get tickled at people going, Well, I just want to be an authority figure, I just want to have a voice into this area. And so, you know, I'll test out with people. I'm like, Okay, well, I'm gonna give you permission to challenge me in this area.

And then they don't brilliant. And then they don't. And, I mean, the ones that do are awesome at it at all times, you know, and then I'll go, I'll kind of push back with them on in a joking way of, well, this was a test it was only a test.

Like, no, not by, you know, I'll have some they'll go Nope, not buying it. If you you wouldn't have come up with that thought if you really didn't want to do it or, you know, so they'll, they'll push back and then there's the ones that, you know, you tell them to challenge you in an area and they just never hear from them again.

Yeah, well, yeah. So you just say you sit there and you go, Okay, got it. Move on. right on to another accountability partner. I think we've all kind of been in now.

masterminds and and, and what not nice still, to this day have a number of masterminds that I'm involved in, in an effort to learn more, and have myself grow as well as helping my other mastermind attendees. So, yeah, going forward. It's not only just the accountability function, but that have you thought about type function rail to give you another aspect that you may never have even looked at? And so I'm a big believer in the whole mastermind system.

Well, whenever you're looking at your accountability partners, whether you're being the accountability partner, you're you're looking for somebody to be an accountability partner. And, you know, what are some of the boundaries that you look for? With accountability partners, do you set up phone calls? Do you set up

appointments with them?

What does having an accountability partner in your life look like?

Yeah, well I have mentors which are those that are ahead of me in the business game that I tend to think that you know that we're such a virtual world.

My meetings with them are usually zoom meetings.

So that I get that one on one I can see what's landing and what's not.

And or, you know, we can have a real you know, face to face. This is what's happening. What do I do now kind of thing?

Because I will I'll be the first to admit, I don't know everything about everything. Amen.

No,

I am, I am. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. So I believe in listening to everyone and although there are times when I can be a bit of an intellectual snob and I really am trying to work on that

I have learned in my life that

I can learn from anybody. And we need to take people's feedback and live in it for a sec. And either Okay, I see where she's coming from, you know, and and go with it or not. Yeah. And just as I tell my clients, well, here's what I think you should do, but it is still your voice, your message, your social media, whatever, it's still up to you. So

here's what I think. But, you know, it is still you that is out there. And it's your presence so

well, I think Yeah, I'm in a number of masterminds. I think I have the I think I know the answer you're gonna give to this but I'm gonna ask it anyway because I think the question needs to be asked and answered in a more in your face way, but when you have

people that come to you. And we'll just use me as an example, say I come to you. And I'm wanting you to hold me accountable in these areas.

And I'm just not pulling my weight in that relationship. And but you can see so much more potential for me that I'm really giving towards the effort that I'm asking you to hold me accountable for. So my question to you is this.

Do you keep pushing them and challenging them? Or do you find a way to basically tell them or tell yourself to let it go until they're ready to come to that realization?

Oh, yeah, I'll have all sort of have a come to Jesus with them. But if they still aren't getting it, I'll say, you know what, I'm here whenever you're ready

to level up or to scale your business or whatever it may be. I'm here when you're when you're ready, but I cannot

Be the one that cares the most about getting you to the next level, right?

it you have to have that burning desire,

you know, to actually make it come to fruition, if you are not passionate and have that burning desire, it's not gonna work anyway. Right? Even if I have the burning desire, right, right, you have to have it. So, I usually, you know, I do let it go in a way that I let them know why. Because you don't seem to be ready. Now I just had something pop in my head, you know, and it's, it's a wondering question. So I'm just gonna put it out there for those that are listening and those that are listening either live or to the, to the recording. You know, I want to ask myself this question and then also, as the audience are those that

let me figure out how we're going

phrase that those that are asking for you to hold them accountable and are not giving back the full weight of what she is so so you so let's just say I expect more from Susie q out here than she's actually giving and I'm wanting it more for her and I'm desiring more for her. Is Susie q or me, Susie Q.

Having negative thoughts about herself, so much so that she can't see the person that is seeing so much potential in her or the negative thoughts that she's having about herself outweighing all the positive that I'm trying to flood her with. So say using the example with you and me, you know, you're I can't care about this. Be the one that cares the most for your success. Because I can see the potential I can see the beauty, I can see where you can go with this. I can see the lives that are impacted. I can

See all that you can accomplish. But if you can't see it, then the words I'm saying the time I'm putting in the energy I'm throwing your way. It's falling on deaf ears until you remove those toxic earplugs from your ears.

So how many people out there

are pushing away those that are speaking positive into their life, because I've got toxic earplugs in.

So it just kind of popped in my head as to I think there's been many times in my life where people have been telling me positive truths, encouraging truths that I haven't been able to hear because the toxic recording that was still stuck in my head from as long as you sound like a hick, you'll never amount to anything or, you know, you're just a girl, why does that matter? Or, you know, this is, this is a man's world or, you know, whatever it was

Is that it was against me at one point those still at times depending on how tired I am, will pop up to be louder than the the voices of positivity that come in. And, you know, I just wonder how many out there they're listening. still deal with that. But there are posts of people, they just can't hear them or see them because they've they're still so focused on that toxic verbiage that's been playing for So, so long. Yeah, yeah. I don't face that as much because of the fact that what I'm working with is someone who wants to put their message out. So they've already come to certain conclusions. They may still have that imposter syndrome periodically, but they they see that they have something that they want to put out there to the world. So I don't face that as much as

and I won't

Saison laziness but just that they don't know how to focus and prioritize.

And especially with a lot of creatives, right now that they, they have these great ideas, these big ideas, but they don't know how to bring it to fruition, but they also think, but this is my thing. Why should I listen to you? Right? Right? Because,

because I've been there and I've done it and and, you know, but if they're not ready to listen, that's okay with me. As I say, I'll be there when you're ready. Well, okay, so,

um, we're going to talk a little bit about our sisterhood. You said 90% of about 90% of your clients are women. And, you know, what are some of the women that you get to work with that you admire? And maybe we should get to know. You know, I'm gonna give you an opportunity to do some shout outs.

To some women that maybe aren't everyday names that maybe we should get to know a little bit about, and what is it that allowed them that you admire?

Oh my gosh, you know, I admire, like I like I said, pretty much all my clients. I'm working with a new speaker by the name of Tricia Manning. And her book is lead, lead with your heart and leave a legacy. Wow. And oh, and she's so good. She'd be great for your show.

So, not only am I putting out that, that,

shout out for her. But that would be a great Connect for the two of you, because she has an amazing story of being in corporate America, and they had an executive health thing. And so all the execs had to go have a health check thing and she ended up having to have open heart surgery. So it totally changed her. You know?

priorities and everything like that. But, but she had this, this group that she was out of work for, you know, months, but her team kept things totally on point and ready to go. Because she had led with her heart. They cared about making sure that everything ran smoothly in her absence. Wow, because she had created that kind of team. I mean, truly the meaning of team and they picked up the slack. You know, she's a she's a great, a great story and somebody that I look up to. I work with this wonderful woman, Julie Winkle Giuliani, who is in that area of career development, and

she's most lovely. So she was actually my very first client. She found out that I was laid off on December

We had lunch on December 11. And I was hired Well, you know, immediately, you know, and she was not in a position to hire me full time. And, and that actually is what allowed me to grow this business and have many more clients and be able to hire other people to help me and to actually scale my business.

Lovely human being, and, and a great message. Also, with regards to having the conversations, you know, don't wait for the yearly IDP, you know, and if you're in corporate America, you know that that's the individual development plan, right? Have the conversations continuously, like when they finish a project, you know, what did you love about that project? What did you hate, you know, so that she can know that that manager can understand what they're

They're, you know, strong points are, what their weak points are. And, and I think we need to really start focusing on our strengths instead of our weaknesses. Right, right. Let's focus on our strengths.

I have another client, Sally Helgesen, who is the premier speaker of women's leadership, an amazing, lovely woman as well. And, and she's been in the business for like 35 years. Wow, talking about women leadership for 35 years. She's a thought leader in that, you know, arena. So getting to see

the rise of women, and we still have a long way to go. But I mean, the difference between 35 years ago and now is night and day, right. So, I mean, those are some of my clients that I just, you know, and and I love all my clients, to be real honest with you. I think that's the best

kind of part of my, my vetting.

When I take on a new client is just like how amazing

are they and what type of person they are? Well, you know, we were talking yesterday my husband was watching some movie, you know,

it was a submarine movie Navy submarine movie. And we were talking, they're getting ready to put the mystic which is like as a smaller submarine that shoots off of a submarine and can attach to another submarine. You know, and all this is all underwater. And I'm like, you know, that is I was in the Navy. I was aviation. I was never on a ship. My husband was in the Navy. He was a CB he was never on a ship. And he you know, being on a ship wouldn't have bothered me. But being in a submarine I looked at my husband like I'm really glad that was a male only billet back in the 30 years ago whenever I was there because I would not have wanted to be you know,

That submarine at all, you know, it just, I don't I'm not a claustrophobic type person. But that right there would would get to me. So 3030 years ago, you know, we were talking about, you know, fighter pilots, and Top Gun was out and all the fighter pilots were guys back then in the movie, there were no female fighter fighter pilots out there. You know. And so there has been a large shift on the demographics of what's going out. And, you know, that's one of the things we talked about here is we can be strong, we can be powerful, we can be confident we can have our voices heard, but we're not in any way saying we need to diminish the voices of the men around us. What we're saying is, we we just have a voice we we are here and you know, I think that's that's a beautiful thing is some of the I've heard of a couple of your clients before talking

I know that they are not male bashing people they are all about, you know, just spread out and give us give, share the space with us, so to speak. Exactly. And my friend, my friend,

Courtney Baker, she is one of those as well that Dr. Courtney Baker is one that has written her dissertation on the imposter syndrome. And she has a podcast as well and, and she's a fabulous woman and was, you know, has been one of the top business women in the state of Texas for over the last couple of years. And just, you know, as we work with these women, they're doing doing amazing things now, we can look back over generations of women that have paved the way for us and and that's what I love. So, I guess I'm always asking is how am I serving the women

The next generation by what I'm doing today and, and that's a powerful thing to ask. So I'm going to ask you, what are you doing today? I think you kind of touched on it several times through the interview, but what are you doing today to serve others and maybe serve the legacy of women for the next generation coming up your daughters, your granddaughters?

Um, yeah, I mean, on a personal level, just

raising smart

and, and I don't even want to say powerful but confident women, that, you know,

my girls would not, you know, have husbands that are, are demeaning in any way, shape, or form.

I love my son in laws, they are just so amazing and loving to my daughters. So that's, you know, that's hugely important, but I think

What, what

I would like to see is just

women embracing other women. I mean, we hear in the workforce that sometimes women are the worst bosses, other women. Yeah, you know, I think we need to, I think we need to raise each other up.

So, so that, that we can all grow. And I think that that's what I try to do for my clients is to is to not only raise their villains, visibility within social media and their businesses, but to raise them up. Right, right, so that they can rise up others

and and spread their message. And

I'm not sure if that's enough of an answer, but that's kind of, you know, where I go from if I believe in empowering each other.

I am

I believe that's a great answer for it. You know, a lot of the times we get stuck sitting back, waiting for somebody to tell us how to help them. But if we already know what we're strong and confident in and and can walk boldly in, then let's serve people out of our strengths. Let's not sit back and wait for them to tell us, you know, what they need help. And let's find a way to continue to serve and what we're good at, by by reaching out, you know, yeah, especially in this gig economy, we have, we're turning into a gig environment. And so we can all just embrace our superpowers, the heck with the weaknesses, at least with regards to business, right? Go with your superpowers and put yourself out there on a gig by gig basis and do what you absolutely love to do. Right, right, and and charge what you are work. And that's actually one of the things that women don't do that men do much

better, right is they charge what we're worth. And, and I'm working on that myself, you know, and

we don't want to put our own budgetary constraints on possible clients. What are you worth? You know what you're worth. And if you look out there and do your research and see what other people are charging, I am still low on on the level of what I charge. And yet

I still want to keep it at the level on that because of the fact that can help more people. Right. Well, and it's, it's another way that you're niching what you're doing too, is Yeah, you're able to serve the people right where they're at. But you're, you can also be selective on who you're who you're willing to work with to. You don't have to just take everybody and I think that that nice. That's a nice

Thinking about being the boss?

That's right. That's right. It is. And I have actually fired a couple of clients. Yeah. Yeah. You know, I just said, you know, this isn't working. Well, you know, we're, we're coming close to the end of the show. So I wanted to give you an opportunity, maybe our audience needs what you have to offer or they have a great resource for you. So if you've got some projects that you're needing some research on, maybe needing some information on or you need to connect with a certain type of person or maybe you have a service out that your services that you you offer, you want to talk a little bit about what they are. Just had to share that and how they can get in touch with you. Sure, well, you can get in touch with me by just going to my website, which is www.lv s consulting services.com. I'm actually working with a wonderful lady in Texas right now on a collaborative book.

In the area of sustainability and we are looking for other authors for that book. So if you are in that field and feel like you have a message to share, reach out to me

You know, I

but I am actually spending most of my time just, you know, working with my clients

and, and and making sure that they raise their visibility. If you want to follow me on on some of the

platforms out there because it's all about social media. Feel free to reach out and friend request me or do connection request. I'm happy to to learn more about you. All right. And so for that collaborative book that you're doing, are you spearheading that for her and kind of doing all the behind the scenes. It's her project manager, I will be doing all the editing and proofing and and getting it I'm

The liaison between the authors and the publisher awesome and and so making that all happen but that's happening now. So if they're if they're interested and they have a great message with regards to sustainability or recycling, being green in any water conservation, those kind of

areas reached out to me for sure. All right. Well, thank you laurieann for coming on the show today and again, you can visit her website www.lv s consulting services that's L is in loriann. V is in Vaughn. S is in speaks, consulting services calm and like she said, she's on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Instagram, she is a high tech Grammy

new and maybe you have a book that you want to put together that's a collaborative effort or get published or or

You're looking at how to present yourself as a podcast speaker different things like that. At least have the conversation with Laurie and go to her website visit with her get to know her. She is a fabulous lady. As you can tell, she's got a genuine heart. So, again, thank you for coming on the show today. lorien. And if you

reach out if anybody reaches out to you, I would love to hear back just to be able to follow their successes, they work side by side with you. So perfect. I will more than I will. I will be happy to do that. All right. Well, just as a reminder, I will be hosting a leading moment this Thursday from 10am to noon central standard time right here on fishbowl radio network. And until next week, thank you for joining us here on warrior divas. Go out there and be the warrior diva you were created to be and make an impact.

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Hello and welcome to warrior divas real talk for real women. Our show is specifically designed for divas. divas is an acronym for Destin inspired victorious accountable sisters. And we will be bringing guests on our show who will help in our mission to equip and empower a global community of women change agents as we make a positive impact on the world we live in. When we started doing this impact about four years ago, we quipped that we wanted to change the way women think and speak about themselves and others. And as we progress that was our thinking and our intentions and we want to talk about things that are impacting women. So that means we will talk about faith, family, fitness, finance, dude, and a lot of other words that don't even begin with that. So today I'm excited to bring on the show Lucy Mitchell are fierce in beautiful wellness, and I met Lucy through her husband I've been watching her for a little while and have fallen in love with her beautiful outlook on life. Lucy is a mindset and wellness coach site. Colin fitness fanatic food lover look, we got some of those f words in there. And all around personal development junkie she helps women break free from their inner mindset demons and create healthy relationships with food and fitness and define their self worth and find the confidence to live a life of purpose on their own terms. Welcome to the show, Lucy.

Thank you, thank you.

Well, I am so thankful to have you on the show and you know, it's a little bit of one of those things that I'm listening to

what you're talking about and and what your mission is and, and it lines up so much with what we wanted to do and what we are hoping to accomplish with empowering and equipping women. I think it's it's just beautiful. So first off, I want to tell I want you to give us a little bit about what Why this is important to you?

Oh, gosh, I mean, I think that I would probably have to go to a little bit of a backstory in myself. I mean, I'm first of all, I'm one of four daughters that my father had. So that in itself, there's lots of events going on in that house with my mother. And in fact, they always had a habit of choosing even female animal that was all about a daddy, there was a glutton for punishment, or he was a sweetheart, through and through. But he did raise him and my mother always did raise us to be very strong willed, very independent woman. And I said something that I've always carried through my entire life and probably proved very difficult and a lot of my relationships that I was not so much of what you call quote, unquote, a submissive

woman.

I just always do what I want. To do what I wanted out of life, and I wanted all my relationships, no matter what they were friendships, personal relationships, my children to live vicariously through that just, you know speak your truth. Speak your mind and and live your life to the fullest. And I really, it really hit to my core when my dad passed away suddenly, actually yesterday he realized it was five years that cancer took him from us. And in fact I woke up this morning going oh my gosh, I didn't even reflect or or anything about that which is a good thing because that means that we're you know, we're at peace with you know, his passing but I had decided about a couple of years ago. A that

that cancer is is one of those that

doesn't put the word I'm looking for it's it's it knows no boundaries. It's not just hereditary. It can affect anything. One right and, and that it's really important that we look for the signs and that we pay attention to ourselves. And as women, we spend so much time taking care of others that we don't stop and listen to ourselves and and listen to our own bodies and take care of our own needs. And that's where I decided, you know, that's not okay, we should be able to speak out and take care of ourselves. And so I just started like looking inward and decided I wanted to become a transformational nutritional coach. And I wanted to start working with women and in the pyramid upon women a problem phase of their lives, because that's the phase where we just given up, we have no purpose. We were just, it's all about our kids. It's all about our husbands. It's all about everybody else, and we no longer have a voice and by the time we have a voice, we feel it's too late. And I'm like, I'm techno sister. You have a voice and it's time to use it. And that's what my purpose has been. Is, is taking this drive that I have to live healthier to speak your truth to link arms with other sisters and just, you know, whatever it is, whether it's licensing, whether it's spiritual, whether it's sexual, whether its food, whether it's fitness, no matter what it is, it's like your children will be fine. Take the time to take care of yourself.

Exactly where I'm at.

Well, I think you bring up a beautiful point because a lot of the times those of us that are in those older years of life in we're not old, we're not dead. We we have a lot to give up, live up to and, and one of the things that I hear all too often is it's not only that they've given up, it's because a lot of times they've been so invested in helping their children. Or their spouse build up their dreams that they forgot how to dream. They didn't they don't know how to dream anymore. And they just don't have the energy to move forward with anything anymore. And a lot of that has a lot to do with Fitness, Health, the food you're putting in your body, your hormones, and like you said, they give up. I can relate to this because about a year or two ago, I was pretty much in the same place. I was. Okay, something has got to change. This is not right. Some I feel like something's hijacking my body and and what I found is there's a lot of women out there that feel that they just have to suffer silently. And I love that you're saying that's not true.

I agree. And I think the other F word that we're all set

is fear. Mm hmm. Exactly. Here I have the women that I have talked to is fear not a change but of making a change because they have gotten so stagnant are so used to a certain routine, a monotonous routine of doing things. It's, I want to say and I mean I'm 45 years old I've had three children I have four of my stepdaughter, but I've had four children and mentally and physically I do not feel 45 but I've also made that my passion drive like not because I remember watching my mom grow up and personalities eyes is probably today 65 right and and even then some 65 there are 45 I mean, all just depends on on your your drive to be something different, but I remember there was a cartoon and I'm gonna really date myself but way before I was born, Black and White, probably from Disney, but it was just as monotonous black or white. Whether they were just a repetitive cartoon like they had briefcases and they were just walking slowly along the line to work. And it just, it was just repetitive. They're just doing the same thing. over and over and over again, in no power, there was no life, there was no activity. And I feel like I see so many women feel that that's what they're supposed to do. Get up, feed the children take care of the husband clean the house, go to bed, right. And when I reach out to when I reach out even to some of my close friends about like, hey, there's this amazing women's conference downtown and we're going to put samples of face creams on our feasts and, and and you know, sample whatever is in here from concept. Well, I'm not no I don't and, and, you know, what will people think?

Right

now Like First of all, let's see if we can find something new and something done and and like let's get away from the kids away from the husbands and you know we're old I've discovered this amazing you know, like I lost 35 pounds in August give a listen to my body and I and I, you know I it's like to share all the different things that have worked for me for stepping outside of what the norm is. And I want to link Everybody with me I want to take all my sisters with me. And there's so much more there's so much fear. Well, yeah, and

I agree with you on that. I think I think we have a lot of women that I listen to and and I'm surrounded by a bunch of strong women so a lot of my friends are kind of in the same boat I am their husband goes to work their husband goes on business trips, they just keep on keepin on they don't let their life be dictated by their their spouses schedule or their kids schedule. They still make time for friends. They still make time for their business, they still make time for living their life. But I realized that there's a out circle of women that I'm connected to, that that's all their life revolves around. It may be for the season, it may be that that's all they know how to do. And one of the things that it like it goes back to that fear word, word, you know, they don't want to rock the boat, so to speak. But I think it also goes back to how we're raised and what we're seeing and what's emulated for us. You talked about your dad being outnumbered by daughters Do you know? Well, he probably didn't, he didn't probably run the house, the house probably ran, you know, by the daughters more than then he would have liked to admit it admitted. But there's that that sense of confidence and ability that he instilled in you to where if your kids or your husband move on, yes, you're going to be you know, to business or to A career path or off to school, you're not going to be wrecked by that because you've got things of your own to do. It doesn't mean you're sitting waiting for Eric to come home. It doesn't mean you're waiting for your kids to come home for your life to be complete. And that's the part that we're wanting to women to realize is you are a complete human being with or without them. They are just, they are your life. You love them. It doesn't disqualify their role in your life, but they are not your your wholeness, and we want to talk about your wholeness.

Yeah, yeah, exactly. My mom and dad were married for 44 years. And my dad did work. He worked. He owned his own landscaping business and then he was also a longshoreman. Very tough job. Yeah. So my mom did raise us Basically solely, I mean, our celebrations were around food.

Because God was home,

right?

Um, you know, and it's funny when we were just together. My sister my younger my baby sister just had a baby. And he's where we sold. I just went home to go and meet him for the first time. And we were reminiscing and we were talking about how I remember when it was like Danny was home we celebrated with hungry man.

You could put it in your body.

Yeah, the look of joy on my dad's face wanting to meet that sounds very state hungry man dinner with the apple cobbler and the water down mashed potatoes. But it was all of us watching him eat and sitting with him because that was a rare key. Right? And what I look back on and see is that there wasn't a lot of light and color in my mom's face because what What he did in those hours to work for his daughters and his wife versus the hour during the day of what she did to keep the children alive in the house of flow. I saw that color changes we got older because she had more time and she was able to start doing things for herself. She ended up becoming a professional chef for a very small company. When I think it was close to me more moving out and still to my younger two sisters. Wow. And it was one of the things I took with me even later on was that, okay, it is okay to find your own interest outside like you're talking about outside of your role of wife and mom. And what I loved was that my dad always encouraged that. And my sisters and I have been very, very fortunate to marry husband to have always encouraged and supported any of our ventures and I believe me for I've had many years, for 21 years, I went to college for 10 years to either become an accountant, a business something and blatantly Was it a master's degree in education, I was going to be a teacher. Oh, wow. And now I'm going to become a I'm a transformational nutritional coach. Um, and God bless my husband for supporting every single one of those ventures. It but it's it was for me it was going back and like, knowing that my mom had that supportive my dad because she supported him. So just keep the house afloat, like keep food on the table.

and whatnot.

Exactly. And, and, you know, I think, I think we think, how do I phrase this? I think a lot of the times we as modern women think our role has changed so drastically from the quote unquote, olden days, but when you look back and You know, I'm going to use the Bible as a reference here. If you look back in the days of Abraham and Sarah and Isaac and all of them, the men went off, they went off to tin the sheep, they went off to hunt, they went off to gather, you know, they did all of that. And the women were left to take care of the home to take care of the children to take care of, you know, things that are holding the fort down, so to speak. And even even as recent as yesterday, it was Texas Independence Day here, somebody was talking about that as well. Excuse me, but in talking about that, women are afraid nowadays to be left behind by their their spouse or their children, and we're hearing more about the empty nest in their lives being just totally distraught over their children going off to college. And I'm not gonna say that I don't miss my kids. I'm not gonna say that at all. But what I'm going to say Is it opens up the doors for us to spread our wings and we need to be focused on spreading our wings not hiding away and into a shell of ourselves.

It's funny that you say that because I have this is my philosophy and I have my mother philosophy of your viewers or your listeners think this is harsh. It's my philosophy. Once you're 18 you graduate you go, right need to go you need to spread your wings. Now, I understand if there might be a maybe a there's an emotional or a non mental but there's some type of a disconnect you haven't connected yet. I'll give you a little bit of time back just gonna kick you out and send you have you fend for yourself against wolves, but I came home one day and they were boxing by the German moms and she got a time we got to go. Right I was almost 19 she had found me a place. I had a job. I think that you know, but that was how I was raised. I do not understand. And I think I've done a post about this somewhere. I do not understand mom's neighbor say, No, no baby, you don't need to you need to you want to live here till you 30 you use you stay

there done. Right.

Right. Your job. It's your time now.

Yeah, I agree. And

I was raised in a very strict Christian home, and I read the Bible five times, through through, I did not see anywhere. Then it said in any fine print. You know, they can stay as long as they want. They need to go and you know, create their own household and, and live their lives. You raised them. And now it's your turn. I mean, I have the nice Do we have it like a countdown on them.

Turn

I've been raising children since I was 12 years old. I am right. It's my time. I want time with my husband. I want it to be just we'll check on you guys. We might even give your address

Well, I think I think there's a term called leaving cleave, you know, leaving cleave to something else, not us.

Do not give me grandchildren.

Raising children,

younger sister, so do the world a favor and get a dog grandchildren. And so I'm technically a grandmother. And they look at me and I and my girlfriends are like, really? I'm not saying I don't like babies. I love babies. Right? Like people. In today if you need to travel you need to see the world. You need to contribute any to You need to contribute to charitable causes you need to help other you know, other countries. Now we need to we need to go to Nashville we need to help Nashville right now like right. so horrible what happened in the middle of it. There's so many more important things that need to be focused on then Okay, you're 18 go get married and have children. Exactly. They go and do that they can't fend for themselves and then they come back

well in and and i agree we've had we've had a we've got a son that's in the military. We've had had daughters that went off to college, they came back for a period of time and we're we were at the same place of Okay, the clock has started. What What is your action plan what you know, will be a safe place for you to land come back and land if you need to, but yeah, what's the action plan? What's the end result?

I kept resetting the timer on the microwave. When my son came home from college. I was like, go take it. And and I, but they appreciate that they think it's hard, you don't understand they're like, No I do sweetheart, things have got changed just because it's, you know, it's 2020, the millennial state of mind is not a mind, I understand, because you do not understand the hardship that those of us who are our older actually went through.

Well, and I think I think we also understand how important it is for them to have their independence and to, you know, it's not even just about me for for for my kids, I want them to be strong and solid and independent on their own right, and making good decisions and making a good income and making, you know, good life choices. I don't want them feeling like they're under my wing the whole time because I haven't trained them all these years to stay under my wing. I've trained them to push them out of the nest.

Yeah, well And it's like I even told my elder to I have given my mind my body my soul My spirit my everything to raising you and keeping you alive right now trying to invest all of those efforts and energies back into myself. Right? Because I still have the second half of my life and that is equally as important as the rest of your life. So if we're going to roll the dice and mover important at this point, you know it's and and that is I that's what I like to also talk to my clients about it like this is now your time and dive into I really big about faith about whether when no matter what it is, God fear if universe angels whatever it is that you believe in. That is a huge when you lose that you lose yourself, yourself, your sense of self worth, right. And when you tap back in to that through meditation, through prayer through journaling, you're able to kind of like have your eyes reopen to who you really are as an individual, especially as a real woman as a woman. And a lot of times, it's a very uncomfortable process, but it's, it's step one, before we can do any other type of change, it's like, you've got to step back in, tap back into that spiritual sense of who you are, who you were created to be.

Right. And, and we're gonna be going to break here in just a few minutes. But when we come back from that break, I want to I want us to talk about the difference between femininity and feminist. I think the feminist word gets, you know, thrown out there and everybody already thinks, you know, angry, bitter woman. But more so than that. I want us to talk about embracing our femininity because that's where our true strength is. I believe and and I love that you talk about this on such a transparent parent level. But I want us to dive into that when we get back from the commercial break so that we can really break that apart just a little bit. And then then we'll go into the fitness side of things after that, but we're gonna take just a couple of minutes to pay for the show

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we are

back. And I know we talked before we left for the break in said we were going to come back and talk about embracing our femininity. So So Lucy, let's talk about that for a minute. I know years ago, I went to a women's conference because yes, I go to women's conference, biggest tomboy out there and I still go to women's conference conferences. And one of the ladies was talking about

how

The color scheme where you had pink for women and blue for men nowadays used to be actually the opposite. Back in the late 1800s to 19 hundred's blue was for women and pink, pink and red were for men. And so we keep mixing things up a little bit. And so when we talk about our femininity I've I left high school I joined the Navy, I worked as an aircraft mechanic then worked in the aviation industry. So in the military, I was called a dude with long hair, basically. But when we go into embracing our femininity, it took me a while to even figure out what that looked like because I had struggled so hard to try and fit in with my male counterparts that I didn't know how to be feminine. And I really didn't understand what feeling comfortable in my own body was and I really did And understand how that led to having close relationships with girls, you know as girlfriends, and what that was all about, because all my guy, all my friends were guys, and then I'm married. And you know my husband and I have this little competition going back and forth because I was trying to compete with him basically for his role in the family. And it ended us in a hot mess. But I want I want to hear a little bit of a taste because I've watched some of your Facebook posts and I've watched some of your talk about femininity and embracing it and really just discovering yourself and I want to hear how you feel to best translate to women the importance of embracing their femininity.

I, first of all, I can honestly say I'm right there with you. I had more guys But I do call friends I just don't understand. I don't understand women. And again, I don't know if it was because of being raised by my gentle father I'm not sure what it is, but I know for

for me

I I can see I'm both sides of that sword in a sense that I can handle my own. But I am a I am I'm a I am a woman I am sweet, I am kind I am sexual I am I incense sensual, I am in tune with my my body and my senses and I'm comfortable in my own skin. I I don't feel and this again is my own opinion based on who I have seen and dealt with who is considered a feminist femininities the harshness that I'm not kidding. competition with my husband in the fact that who has the bigger package or however you want to work that right? Um, there is a role that he has and he is supposed to have. I want him to have that role. That's why I married him. He is our protector. He is our fighter. He, he's the man of the house. But if he needs a warrior right beside him, I am that woman. Right? Doesn't need another man. I am that woman. I am his Joan of Arc. As I like to so eloquently put that and I think in my messages when I am doing my posts or doing my stories

is I like

to I think I had done one A while ago where I was describing a road. So what from fairway you look at a rose and the roses Beautiful, beautiful, soft, pedal, scented beauty Mostly comes in a variety of colors, whether it's a tight flower or beautifully blooms, but if you get too close, you are going to get pricked by a thorn. Now, is that for the feminist part? Or is that the Thor's disorder protecting her femininity, right? It's all in how you want to look at the flower. But for me, I feel like all women are beautiful roses like we are. We have our authority to protect ourselves, but we are they're beautiful, we are feminine and there's no reason to hide that. to, to be ashamed of that. Is that's what that's how we were created. And not in a sense I mean, that's that's my, that's where I stand

on

that part of it. I mean, I feel I raising a daughter, raising two daughters when one's out of the house. I look at my daughter and I'm like, I want you to be as strong and I bought her this bracelet. And I said, always remember to adjust your crown. And don't have mine with the train thing. But always remember to adjust your crown. And remember the queen who gave it to you. Hmm, something along those lines, and she was amazing. I just want you to understand that no one is no one is to not knock you down. Because you need to remember where you came from, right who your queen is. Because people knocked me down. had a lot of horrible things happen. I've experienced a lot of things. I've experienced a lot of judgment. Even in the course of that I'm in now I get a lot of messages about some of my posts of like, I don't understand why you talk the way you talk or how you feel the way you feel. And there and it's a lot of times it's from women. And I just looked at my daughter and I said But it doesn't stop me. I'm just gonna get back up and I'm going to keep spreading my message because somebody needs to hear it. Somebody somebody else Can you benefit from what I have to say? Just like someone out there will benefit from what you have to give.

And and I wholeheartedly agree with that. You know, one of the things that has happened over the years we started divas impact, like I said about four years ago. And right off the bat, we started getting a bunch of hate mail, mainly from feminist organizations, a few from guys, because they mistakenly thought that we were going to do this as another male bashing organization. And quite honestly, I've told everybody this is absolutely not a male bashing organization. We realize the need for men in our lives, just as we hope men realize the need for us in their lives. We we don't I'm not as concerned about what the guys of the world are saying about us women. I'm more concerned with what we are saying about ourselves and each other. You know, we you know, when You've got examples out there, like Real Housewives of bad behavior or bad girls clubs or whatever that's going on out there. They have the, the opportunity to, to send a such a empowering message. But they don't, you know, because drama sells. And when I was, you know, kind of whispered in my heart to start this organization and and get things going I was like but God I don't like women. I really don't like women their main they're nasty, you know and he's like, Yeah, you've had your episodes too and I'm like, okay, you know to Shay. And I remember a few years ago, whenever, whenever the Donald Trump and Billy Bush news broke, I got a lot of hate mail. You know, why aren't you denouncing Trump and why aren't you denouncing billy bush and why aren't you denounce? In and even with the Harvey Weinstein and, and all of those, and I said, because I'm not focused on them, I'm not letting them dictate my worth, I'm not letting them dictate the worth of all women out there. I'm working on me, I'm focusing on me. And, and and the women that I speak to, and I encourage and I empower and let them know that, yes, bad things can happen to you. But you don't have to live in a victim role anymore, you can live victoriously, and that's, you know, what we're focusing on is walking women out of those dark places. And so for the feminine femininity side of things, what I've also realized is, the more I've embraced my femininity, the more intimate my relationships have become with my girlfriends, the more intimate relationships have come with my family and with my spouse, it because I'm loving myself first before I learned how to love Anybody else and, and to me, that is the difference I see between, you know, saying I'm, I'm into feminism, or I'm into my femininity and and opening myself up to really love myself now loving yourself has a whole other series of side effects, I guess is what you'd call it kind of like a rolling blackout. There's just you start loving yourself and then you go, Oh, I love myself. So I'm gonna go to the doctor and get checked out and make sure I'm healthy. Oh, I love myself. The doctor says I could I could work on fixing these things. So I'm going to work on fixing these things to make sure my body is optimal. And I'm going I'm going to change the way I eat. We've got Kim Slater who does our magazine and and does a lot of the things behind the scenes for us. You know she's in that season right now. We'll have her on the show here in a few weeks. To talk about her health journey that she was flung into, as at the beginning of the year with a massive heart attack and, and in the lessons that she's having to learn for herself, but that whole femininity thing feeds so much of your life. It's what builds up your confidence that gets your husband looking at you with a little bit of, Hey, what do you do? And he's doing it in a way because he's more intrigued because he sees the woman that he was attracted to in the first place.

It's interesting that you say that I'll quickly say that, you know, when I started my mild personal transformation last year, before that, you know, I was trying to help other other women men, it didn't matter. I just wanted everybody to be aware about cancer, you know, after losing my father and other health issues that attributed that I just didn't. My goal was I don't want anyone else to lose up Father a husband a daughter of themselves, like listen to the signs so I'm so like, driven like everybody needs to work out get up cheapest way to eat this much water. It was like what I woke up every day but that was my passion and I was ignoring my own health. I was ignoring my own grieving process I was ignoring my own fleet, my own health but mental health spiritual health all the things and as I I got a I did a post about this is something I can recall but I remember looking at a picture of myself. I think it was this past summer and I was like, I thought I was in optimal health working, working out six days a week, eating 1400 to 1600 calories a real food healthy greens all blah, blah, blah. meditating journaling, praying all the things that when I looked at myself I was pale bloated 45 pounds overweight. I just had to like look in my eyes and I was like, I stopped. And I was like, on this task to help other people, when did I stop and take care of myself first? Right. And as soon as I did, I mean as soon as we got home from that trip, I don't remember we went to sun river something. I immediately called a nutritional coach. But I knew right away my doctor just oh my gosh, yeah, go take a nap, you'll be fine. You know, I was like, okay, it's got to be deeper. And I started working with the nutritional coach and I and I stopped helping all the other people. I put everything on hold because I was like, I really wait. I'm suffering from vertigo. My hands are numb, my feet are numb. These are all things I was experiencing but ignore right because I was so passionate about helping other people live their best life and be healthy so you don't die like my daddy. That I I didn't you know, pay them for myself. But as soon as I did that the glow came back the weight when I found out I was insulin resistant. So Kyle was a huge thing. I was borderline type one diabetic. Yeah, the bad one. Yeah, um, I changed my eating habits. I, you know, we changed how I work out, changed how I slept, all of the symptoms went away, the weight falling off. And my husband even looked at me He's like, Oh, my God, baby are glowing. Right? People like, we're looking at my pictures, like, what filter are you using? Now using a filter, you're glowing, but your hair is shiny. And it was like, and I looked at myself, and I was like, I feel beautiful.

I don't think and I'm not ashamed of this.

This is what I want. Everyone's like, so I reevaluate everything but it was like I'm taking care of myself and like And I had no problem looking at. And hopefully it's okay to say that I had no problem looking in the mirror naked. Right? Because that's a woman as a woman, especially after you've had children.

Right with the lights on girl, right? Ugly bathroom lights on, right? Like, that's hard to do, but I didn't know I was like, I am feeling myself right now. Now I'm not gonna go into a changing room lighting and

I'm loving and feeling beautiful. I feel sexy. I still sleep. I feel gentle. I feel happy. Because I took care myself first. Right, feel feminine. And that wasn't a feeling I felt all before that is so harsh, hard, poor like, ready to take on the world and compete with everybody else and that wasn't feminine. I don't know if that was coming.

Right. Well and I think one of the one of the things we we hear a lot of the times is or you know, I worked in the faith base area before I started out on my own after leaving the corporate arena and I went from dressing like a dude because I was always in jeans and T shirt and then I went to work in the church offices. And I knew I needed to look female but I was just how do I I was putting the outer surfaces on it was like treating the symptoms without treating the actual cause. And I would put on an outfit that everybody go oh that looks so cute on you and I would feel the most uncomfortable ever. And it had nothing to do with the outfit. It had everything to do with the skin I was walking around in I did not feel comfortable in myself. And you know you're talking about people sending you the hate messages and and then asking you what filters you use. You use and things like that, which, you know, they're thinking You look amazing. But on the other side, they're also kind of giving a second backhanded compliment, you know, oh, you can't look that good person. And I remember when we started getting those hate messages, first thing I did, I stood up, I dropped my laptop down, and I stood up and I did a little happy dance. Because it's getting people off their balance a little bit. It's getting them to look at things through a different perspective. Making them question something for themselves will have so and so can do it then maybe I can too. Or what the heck is Angie, the biggest tomboy, we know doing starting a women's organization. What gives her the right i mean, i i've had women go, Oh, that's cute. I'm like, okay, you know, and now they're going well, how do we get in your magazine? How do we get on your show? How do we do this? I'm like, well, there's a process but we're friends. Okay, but there's still a process. And I'm not doing that to be mean or ugly. But, you know, I am looking for the people that want in and want in at the at the ground level, because that means that they understand the vision and the mission, we're going after they're not coming in with ulterior motives to go, Hey, you know, this is great, but let's do this. And, and let's steer this your vision, your goal, your passion, let's steer it to the right a little bit or to the left a little bit, so it fits more of what we want. No, this is what we're going for. This is our niche. This is what we're working on, is equipping and empowering women period, in a variety of different ways. And they're like, oh, bitch, it'd be so much better if you'd sign on with, you know, this organization or that organization and I opened up the organization's page and it's just male bashing and, and hating on each other and Like, yeah, not what we're about. It doesn't resonate. Yeah. And so, when we start talking to women, I've watched women open up after going through all that they've gone through, I see what you're talking about, you see that physical transformation, the light bulb moment that comes on, and their whole life changes. And in, you know, I've shared before that, you know, being a veteran, I'm tied to a lot of veteran communities and and I'm telling you, my veteran sisters are the worst of it. I love them to death. But oh my gosh, they wear me out, because they are so stuck in being a victim, but touting that they're a warrior, but they're living in a victim role, because they don't want to fix anything. And I guess that's our biggest uphill battle is how do we get them to hear it enough to where finally they get fed up and start doing something about it.

Yeah, I know I that's it. That's an interesting question. I'm not sure. I mean, I again grazers to me I have all my outside family was actually own Navy. Okay. My first husband was Navy. I'm attracted to the servicemen and I think I got some army leaves in there somewhere. I'm not sure but my dad did not serve the police officer and then my mom got pregnant but and she was like, heck no, you need to come home every day. But I don't know if it's the year you spend. You know, somebody you're being told what to do, when to do how to do it that when you're out, right of that environment. You're like, what I mean, because I know that was part of the premises of like us starting the Lightfoot media. My husband starting that I mean when way back even when he was doing Your podcasts and things that when we first started this whole thing, it was like helping veterans get started because they spent so many years being told. When when to eat, when to make your bed, where to put your shoes on, when to shoot when to do all the things. And then when you're out, it's like nobody's telling you what to do. Right and when to do it. You don't do anything, but you got to do something. And, and I know that that that was that was helpful for a lot of veteran entrepreneurs with being able to go to Eric and him saying, Okay, this is how you start, but I'm you I can only get you so far. You've got to take it from there. Exactly. That might be it for the women desert you know, maybe that's that mindset of like, okay, switch it just a little bit and and remember what that authoritative voice of you being told what to do, and now tell yourself like, speak to yourself in that. Yeah, I mean, I and I like I said, I I'm just speaking from, from experience, veterans wife.

Well, and you've had a front row seat to watch all of that. And do we want to go ahead and give you a shout out there? Because in addition to your hats that you wear for fierce and beautiful wellness as a coach there and leading people there, you've just been named CEO of life flip media, haven't you? Yeah. So yeah, yeah, that that is an amazing thing in itself as well.

I asked if they came with a pay raise.

He says, Wait, we get paid.

Yeah, so

tell us a little bit about that for just a few minutes.

I'm not sure exactly what to say. I think he just woke up one day with a brilliant idea. No, actually, I think it's it's a great power move for him. Because he was actually wearing way too many hats and I, I think it's a great obviously it's a great move for it to be a women ran and owned business. It's a different type of demographic

with a power move.

So I know that there was a lot of driving behind that. But he takes a lot of guidance and advice of mine. And I really wanted him to be able to focus on what she's really good at, which is working with our customers. And you know, the me I don't understand that part of the business you know, the media bookings and the article places I that part of it I'm like I have too much going on and this three little head of mind when it comes to business when it comes to making sure that we are on the right path. And that our business plan, our business model needs tweaking or just seen or we're not that's my forte. Right? So we just decided to to do a title change. And and I think that puts us a little bit ahead of the game, especially being a woman. Yeah, having that see I mean, I my LinkedIn is blowing up ever since I changed

that.

Yeah, we're having a business meeting, in fact today because since he made that announcement, just that I know, but I mean, what we're getting into because I'm like, at the end of the day, this is his baby. This is his dream and his but we talked about it for the last year or so. And I just said when you're ready, then I will not lead you astray.

Well, that what that is fabulous.

You need to change your LinkedIn. I made it official.

Yeah. Did you find out From one of his Facebook Lives, or did he actually tell you in person?

He told me in person.

But you never know.

You know, Facebook or my Instagram Stories like what we're doing what I just saw that she didn't tell me. Oh, I literally in the next room.

Yeah, you could just tell reviews. Exactly.

All right. Yeah, it's an exciting experience for our business. We've had a massive amount of growth. And I want that growth to continue. So I needed him to be in the right, roll on to focus on that, right. Yeah. It's gonna be good.

Yeah. And I think we are going to have him on our leading moment show in a few weeks. I've got to get him to get all the stuff together for us to do that. But having him on our leading moment show, to really talk about how to get started and how to do what he does. And encourage and inspire some small business owners on that page for us. So maybe you can join him when we do that call, but

of course, yeah, it'll be a black.

Yeah. So we're gonna take another break real quick and we will be back after these messages. All right, we are back with Lucy Mitchell. We are talking about her fierce and beautiful wellness and mindset coaching and all that she does that makes her glamorously beautiful, inside and out. So as we go into this next next segment of our show, what I want to talk with you about is more. I'm going to tell you, this is all purely selfish. I'm going to preface that right off the bat. So a few weeks ago, right before Christmas, peloton came out with that commercial about the bike and everybody lost their flippin mind over it. You know, that was sexist. That was this that was that and I'm sitting here going well, what we didn't See, he was maybe she asked for the bike. Maybe she didn't because you know, quite honestly, I would like a peloton. But my husband kind of refuses to buy me one right now because I made such a big deal at a date. He took me out on one night he took me to dinner as he goes, you want to go to Jason's deli, so not particularly. He goes, come on, we can go get a salad bar. Fine, you know, so we go to Jason's deli, and we get the salad bar and we eat our dinner. And then we go to Walmart, which we had to get dog food or whatever. And he goes back to the bike bicycle section back there. And he's like, Hey, I was looking at these the other day. Did you see this bike? Do you want this bike? This bike would be a fun bike to have. Don't you want? Don't you don't want a bike? I do not want a bike. He's like, Oh, come on. You'd have fun with this one. You'd like this one. Are you sure you don't want this bike? Come on. We ended up walking out of Walmart with a bike that night. So I told him I said the theme of that whole date was Hey, you're complaining about not feeling good. So why don't you lose some weight and ride a bike, you know, eat a salad ride a bike. So we give him grief over that all the time. But my biggest thing is not about riding that bike. It's about I've had some balance issues, I've had some things that I just don't trust, the agility of my body right now. So balancing myself on two wheels is kind of a freaky idea to me, but I like the peloton idea because I feel like I could slowly progress until I got that confidence back. But, you know, you said that you the reason I'm bringing all that up is because, you know, you said that you like to cycle and you're a fitness fanatic and in So talk to me about I know some people that say jump all in, go all in and go as hard and as fast as you can until your body stops you and then there's people that are going, alright, if you're going to fail at that, then you need to ease yourself into So, I know you kind of help people break down their mental hurdles over things like this. So help me break down mine for a little bit.

Okay?

Nothing like putting you on the spot.

the peloton is amazing. Um, and that ad was ridiculous because we don't know the backstory, right? So why people got all on the Tuesday just because she happened to be skinny doesn't mean anything because there could have been a whole mental thing. She could have been skinny because she had an eating disorder. And you know, and so moving her body was going to help this so she could eat real food, there could have been a myriad of things, or it could have been that she had social anxiety to go outside. So she got the bike so that she could like, start to connect with people. There's so many different things that I deal with on a daily basis. I You know, I use a virtual workout platform, through Beachbody on demand. Mm hmm. Because I do work from home so a lot of my workouts are done through that platform. I do have the peloton and then I do love my local cycle bar cycle bar and Tiger get your shout out. But he has always been when I talk to everyone is you start at step one, do you look at a baby and prop them up and tell them to run a marathon? Right? No. Step a step by step. I've been working with my mother who has bad knees and it's always been an excuse. What has not worked out a day in her life. She's 68 years old. She talks every day about losing the weight. And I say okay, Mama. Well, it's, you know, 80% nutrition, it's 20% movement. So you've made your choice. If you want to eat the way you want to eat that by the left Work on the 20% of movement. Maybe it's just you sitting in a chair with one pound weight, and you're doing bicep. Right? And you're just working on understanding the movement and we go up to two pounds until you feel confident and comfortable. You know, or I'll work with other people that say, Okay, if you have a problem with consistency, do not find an eight week 10 week program, because you're going to be done after two days. All right. Start with something that is and there's so many apps out there, I'll backtrack there so you don't have to do just what I do, which is Beachbody. I always say there are so many peloton has a free app and that you can use on any bike on a treadmill. They have weighted programs, they have yoga, they have wonderful meditation programs that I love to use. And there are other apps as well that you could download that has on if you Have a beginner where you start at and that and you start at basically what you're comfortable with. And if it's just one day you conquered that one day you're winning. And you could go on to day two. And there's been many times that I've started over. I mean, I had three babies, I had to be one. Sometimes Mondays every Monday is my day one, especially if you're a football team. Day one, right after the Super Bowl is day one. But I think you know, I you always want to talk to your doctor to start and talk to your doctor about any current medical conditions that you have. And then be you have to have an internal conversation with yourself and be like, how important is this to you, not to others to yourself. Right? What changes are you wanting to see logically, ideally, we want to wake up tomorrow and be 50 pounds lighter, all because we took two steps down the street. I ran a marathon there. Go I should eat 50 pounds lighter, right? It doesn't work that way. I ate a salad. And I bought a bike at Walmart. I lost 50 pounds.

Right now,

that doesn't work that way. It's a great start. But I but I always say you have to write out a plan and you have to write out a plan that will work for you. And if you can't do that alone, and that's when you reach out to people like me, who says, Okay, we're going to start with just the day one we're gonna do a four week plan. And after you talk to your doctor, you've gotten clear that there's nothing you have stability issues. I'm not going to say I want you to start balancing on one foot if you have stability issues, that's not you're going to get discouraged and defeated. But if you can handle you know, you can go for a 30 minute walk. Walking is one of the most beneficial 30 minutes a day walking is one of the most beneficial kick starters to a weight loss journey out there. Not cycling, not weightlifting.

Plain old, angry dog.

Well, I think just being outside helps mentally and emotionally and then and then the movement, you start waking up parts of your body that you don't realize were asleep.

Well, not only that, but then you're also you're getting if you're, you're getting a break from the kid. Maybe it's a stronger and go for a walk. But if it's, if you're cooped up in the house all day or you've been in an office all day long, you get outside you get the fresh air, you get the oxygen from all of the plants that are around you. You get cute you're around nature, you could put the personal development into your ears and start a good book. Listen to an amazing podcast. I don't know maybe warrior diva out there. Um, you know, and and you're not only working your body, but you're working your mind. Those two working together will kick start an amazing weight loss sustainable journey.

Well, I think that's where I start.

I think a few years ago I I lost roughly 100 pounds and I did that strictly by walking there was there I changed you know, I'd done some intermittent fasting I had done some other things you know as far as weight loss goes, it was all around nutrition and walking. That was it. And I walked five miles a day. I didn't start off walking five miles a day I started off being winded walking down the street and back but it you know, by the time I was to a good steady pace, I was at five miles in under an hour. But I kept you know, going okay, well I've kind of nailed this I'm, I'm one of those people that are not consistent. So I'm adaptable is my number one strength I'm the Strength Finders thing, which means I can roll with the punches but I always strategic backs it up. So I always have something else. I'm planning in background to if this goes awry, I already know where we're going next. So the whole walking thing was fabulous for me because it helped with the weight loss. It was, whenever I tried to stretch beyond that, I started pushing my limits. And about that time is when the doctor says, you know, you really don't need to be doing any hit right now. Any high intensity, you need to keep it low. Well, that kind of took the wind out of myself and I kind of sunk back into. Oh, but see, I like the CrossFit stuff. I like some of those things. And he's like, yeah, just not right. Now. He goes, let's get some of this other stuff under control. And then we can go in there. And then it just made me feel old and grumpy. And there was a mental game that I was having to battle for a while over that. Because, you know, that was there was almost like I was accepting a sentence that he wasn't even giving me he was just saying, Let's get you to a certain point before we start doing that. And I was like, Well, if I'm not there, I don't want to I don't want to work any harder to get there. It's not coming off fast enough. It's not doing what I want it to do fast enough. And like you said, We live in an instant gratification society, you order in a box, and you drive to a window, and it's there. So we want the weight loss to come off just as fast as that burger is delivered through that window.

Yeah, and I think I was talking to a potential client, in fact, just this past weekend, who was like, I have been doing keto for six weeks, and I've gained six pounds and I'm doing CrossFit. six days a week and I don't understand why nothing is moving in. And I said, Okay, well, that's what I'm hearing is what you're doing for the last six weeks isn't working. So we're going to start over and she looked at me and I said, don't get defeated. What I've seen because I have not been working with her and I've been what I would recommend. Okay, continue to CrossFit. That's it. Yes, that's it, you live naked. But women over the age of 40 do need weightlifting. cardio is not as important once you get past the age of 40. Because our our muscles and the way our bodies work, our muscles will hold on to fat. Because there's a fight or flight like, Oh, you don't want to have babies anymore. So we're going to hold on to this fact just in case you change your mind. So that way we have a way to support a baby. And I'm like, when did my muscles get to decide if I'm a child Barry like right yours anymore, like you could release that fat anymore.

Done and done.

It's the science behind it. So weightlifting expands your muscles to release the fat. It's the right type of weightlifting. If you're doing strenuous weightlifting like crossfitters do and I didn't cross it for two years and my father looked at me and said, I'm finally getting the son. I never had Alright, we're going to stop doing that. Yep. Um, so I was like, okay, it's CrossFit works for for certain individuals, and it is great, but just tone it down, don't need to be deadlifting 75 100 pounds or whatnot, stick with just the barbell, and maybe do just four days a week, if you really love that community in that workout, right? And give your body two days of full rest. And that one day can be a day of restoration of yoga, and meditation of maybe walking or whatnot. And I said, and then we'll look, then we look at the diet. And let's maybe do low carb instead of keto, because keto is not long term. No, it's not. If you're gaining weight on keto, which is meant to put your body in a state of ketosis, you should be losing weight. So something else is going on. And I gave her a list of recommendations that I would you know, I'm not a doctor. I just say I would take this list and talk to your doctor about the certain tests, maybe check if your insulin resistant. What's your glucose level? How's your body reacting to certain sugars, things of that nature? And, and it gave her a little bit of hope but but, you know, you've got to do your research and there's sometimes there's a little bit of adjustment and whatnot that I mean, and that's the recommendation. And actually, she just emailed me a little while ago. And then she'd like to work with me. Because her doctor didn't give her the answers that she wanted. And I wish she got more information from me, which is like, amazing, but it's just like, the information is out there. You just have to know how to educate yourself, as well as know the right people to talk to you. And a lot of times doctors just want to get you in and out. And it's just knowing how our bodies change. But once I found out that our bodies want our money, they want to hold on to that because they want us to still have babies. I was like, no, that's not okay. So, yeah, it's that's what I that's what I tell women. That's how I work with with some of my clients. is just sometimes you just got to read That's the wheel just a little bit and it'll kick start your journey and do it the healthy way.

Well, I think, I think you also touched on something else as she was paying attention to her body and listening to it going, Okay, what I'm doing is not working. So therefore, something's off. I need to have another person come in and give me an outside view. Because a lot of times we don't even talk to other people about this. We just kind of suffer in silence. Oh, well, I tried this diet or I tried this exercise or I tried this lifestyle change. It didn't work for me. And a lot of the times, it may be just one turn of the wrench to get you running optimally. You know what in NASCAR, they talk about a quarter turn on the the car could totally make the car loose or tight. You know, and a lot of the times it's fine tuning what our lifestyle is and and it's not a throw it all out mindset it's a let's keep making the adjustments until we find what's working and and I think that's where a lot of people give up is they just go oh well I tried that it didn't work

well let

it's not cookie cutter it's definitely not cookie cutter. And that's why I share so much of my journey on my social media because that's how she found me on and watch how I went from being so cookie cutter to not sharing too much to them all the sudden sharing this new way, you know, when I discovered what was working for me and then really just sharing that it's it's individualistic, right to listen to how your body is responding to, to certain foods to certain movements. And when the ultimate goal I know for me was that I'm not going To be a diabetic, I that's just not what I want my children to see, that's not the life that I want to live. And this is my time right now to change this. And it goes back to making those sacrifices, you know, as a mom and as a woman, like I have to I have to be selfish right now. Right? Because I can't be a mom to my kids, if I'm constantly having to give myself shot. And I'm drained from all these doctor visits everything and what kind of mom Am I going to be for my children? What kind of wife Am I going to be for my husband? What kind of business owner Am I going to be for my clients and for a company? If I'm confused by this, you know, that I'm now I didn't take action.

Right. Well, and I think

I had I had a friend a couple of years ago that that passed away and she passed away from a recurrence of her breast cancer after her first recurrence of breast cancer she got healthy, she ate the right foods. She did everything right. And the cancer came back and, and she did have a genetic disposition to it as well as you know, other things that that brought it back. But I heard several people say, Well, if she ate everything and did everything right, and she got the cancer again, then what's gonna keep me from getting it and just trying to shift people's mindset to go that you can't go down that road, we are all created differently. We all have a unique DNA to us, that keeps us keeps our bodies moving. There are things in my family history, you know, I've got diabetes on both sides of the family. So I have to be mindful of that and I have to start putting things in place to to not go down that path. But on the other side of it is I also got a couple of cases of cancer on one side of my family. I could park my boat Go, well, you know, diabetes and cancer, they're in the cards for me. So I don't really need to work out, I really don't need to do this stuff because that's what's gonna get me in the end or I saw them try these things, it didn't work for them, so I'm not going to try them. Even though they're my relatives, I'm still uniquely created. And I it does not mean that it's an end result that I will catch that or that I won't be able to beat it. What what I think I've heard you say most all today in several different ways is taking care of yourself sets you up for so much more. And even if it is an illness that comes your way, you're better prepared mentally, emotionally, physically, for taking that that illness on head on, head on because if you're already out of shape, you're already feeling frumpy, you're already down in the dumps. You're definitely not in the mental and emotional state to take on a major illness, that if you're taking care of yourself in so many other ways, than if something comes out of left field, you're much more better positioned to go in in a warrior stance against that.

Exactly. Yep, that is correct. And so,

so you also do

I mean, we talked a little bit before the break about how you do. You're the CEO of life flip media, you you do this as well as, you know, the fitness coaching and mindset coaching. So you're talking about, you know, feeling comfortable in your skin, not letting fear of missing out, you know, derail you. As we get ready to go into the last part of our show, I want you to kind of talk to us about what is the overall message edge that you really feel like you are here and put here on earth to accomplish share anything you want to share about your story and and how you can encourage and empower other women. You shared so much already it's gonna be a rich rich show but we just want to hear from from you as to what what you feel is your mark in the world and how you can help the women that are listening today.

Well, I think I stop by called by many a unicorn. And that's that, you know, one of a kind, type individual. And I really do embrace that label. Because I've actually worked really, really hard to to be what other women cannot be And then turn around show them how they can be. So when it comes to self love, you know, we I know personally I have experienced so many things in my life that have shaped me to who I am today and why I want to help other women, my innate need to help others I was a hairdresser for 21 years I was an accountant, I helping my husband, I've PTA volunteer, room volunteer pretty much you need help moving I'm that person. My Drive was always to make other people happy. And and I realized that the end of the day was to fill the void of the lack of happiness in my own life due to abuses and whatnot that I experienced in my childhood. And in working with a life coach over the last year when I was able to finally understand what self love really meant, and how to forgive Others for what was done to me, I really, there's so many women I've even come across in my life that are experiencing that lack of self love. And they're masking it with food, with alcohol with shame, with abusive relationship with a lack of connection to their face. Blaming the world blaming society blaming others for their experiences. And my whole purpose in life is to use the platform that I've been given and my voice to a let them know it's going to be okay. That it's, it's not your fault. Everything is fixable, everything is figured out a ball. And if you need help figuring out that first step, no matter what it is, whether it's your relationship with food, whether it's emotional weight, whether it's physical weight, whether their spiritual weight whether it's figuring out how to take that first step on a treadmill, whether it's that first step on how to learn how to write a letter to your younger self, to forgive your younger self to connect with your younger self.

I'm here

because that's that's my that's my purpose now. And

and it brings me joy I wake up every single day now hoping I'm going to connect to just one, even if it's just one person, and sometimes that one person is myself. It's like I reconnect with myself in some way I discover something more amazing about myself that I had buried or hidden deep down below. Because when when we carry all those burdens, when we feel like our only soul what job in this world is to be a mom. Or are we have no value as a woman in today's society. Or we've only known what it's like to be in the military. We don't know what it's like to be a veteran or are we were a mom and now we're an empty nester and we have no purpose and we were away for now we're divorced and we have no we have no wives or whatever it may be. You can lose yourself and you can lose that definition of what a What a beautiful woman really is. And that's where I come in. And then unconventional. Just sit down have a real talk over a glass of Chardonnay in our closets and that's what we need to do. kind of way

I am not I I'm serious. I mean, I have been there I am sat in the closet with a bottle of Chardonnay. My husband's like what do you do and go away? Right I'm in a moment Hmm. And and it's okay.

And and I don't I don't have it all figured out. I am not the leading expert in this you do not see me sitting on Oprah couch. I am one of many in this field. I just feel like we need as many voices as possible right now. Exactly.

It's it's a layered approach to

one I think, I think a lot of what I've seen you say and I've heard you say, we're watching you on social media and listening to you today is, you know, there's a lot of women out there looking for somebody to be an accountability partner for them to lead them to give them to you know, just actually listen to them and hear them and and you're willing to be that person you're willing to take that task on for them if that's what they need, until I told people for the long This time, one of my best friends I worked with her at the church before and, and we would go to the gym and her name was Kim Yates and we would go to the gym and we'd get on the treadmill and she'd go, I go, Okay, how how long do you want to go? And she goes, I want to go for 30 minutes at a two mile pace, he you know, and I'm like, okay, so I punch that all in, and we get going. And about three minutes in, she's like, I'm really not feeling it. And I'm like, sorry, you said you wanted to go for 30 minutes. We're going 30 minutes left, right, left, right, come on, let's go. Let's go, let's go. Let's go, you know, and and we finished the 30 minutes. She'd come to me, I'm like, we're gonna do a five mile an hour pace. You know, this is the incline we're gonna do. We'd get on and about five minutes and I'd say I don't feel like doing it. And she'd go great. Let's go get some chips and salsa. She was great for certain areas of my life fitness was not one of them. And so one of the things I want to encourage women that are listening today is if you've got those friends that are great and holding you accountable in your marriage and your spiritual life and all these other areas, I guarantee you most of the time, it's not the same person that can handle all of those areas for you. So I encourage you to reach out to someone like Lucy, who is great in what she does and in the fitness realm and, and in the mental mental improvement mindset improvement sorry, in the mindset realm as well I went mindset blank on that.

You too can be a professional radio show host. But anyway,

when you when you are coaching them through the mindset and the physical fitness and the nutrition and all the things just the woman as a whole being You know, there are some things that I know, you were really good at. And I don't even know what you're not good at. Because all I keep hearing is what you're amazing at. But Yo, I know also that you're not you're gonna speak into people's lives and go, I'm really not the person to speak to you on that. But what I do know is or here's somebody I do know. So that's the beauty of, I'm not your fitness queen. That's the beauty of what we're doing with divas impact. You can come to me You can talk to me about business, you can talk to me about your social media, you can talk to me about your faith walk, you can talk to me about building your confidence and being a leader and there's a lot of things you can talk to me about if you're gonna come to me and ask me how to lose weight, how to get in shape, how to balance your hormones, how to eat nutritiously how to do all these things. I am not your girl. I'm going to point you to somebody like Lucy here. Yeah, because that's the beauty of what we're doing is we're not competing with each other I'm not saying I have all the answers you need come and talk to me or Lucy has all the answers you need to go talk to her. What we're saying is we're standing arm and arm we want to see the best for you. And we want you walking boldly and confidently in who you were created to be. And we want to put the right women in front of you to help you do that. So Lucy, I just want to thank you so much for coming on the show today.

I

know we we've talked a lot a lot about a lot of things today but you also say that you

you do you have a fitness line you represent as well.

I do I do. I represent a wonderful fitness line called via the why i a there is a link on my website is a women owned company based out of Utah. Only three years old. We have an active wear and a leisure wear. In fact, I'm actually going to Nashville on Thursday for a our first well a mini summit. So fingers crossed, it's still going on. I'm not sure if they posted where we're going hasn't been effective. But this is an amazing company that is based on activity, light community, and uplifting women. We also have a men's line a children's mind all about uplifting each other around movement about community. Their clothing is amazing. Our leggings are light and tight leggings are known as the instant tummy tops my game so I'm actually wearing a pair right now. And if anybody is interested in ever checking anything out, they can definitely go to my website or they can reach out to me on any one of my social media links. We host parties online you can shop directly my site, but it's an up and coming activewear line comparable to lemon or Athletica at a fraction of the top. And again, it's all ran and owned by women. Which is something near and dear to my heart and something I'm very glad to be a part of. As well as uplifting and freeing each other there's no competition whatsoever which is amazing. And their legs with somebody to their liking. Somebody described it as the angels wrapping their angelic hands around you're

a gentleman.

I love that

gives you a great mental picture too.

It's my little one little side hustle, but it also Hi Ben with empowerment fitness. I'm confident and we carry sizes extra extra small to three XL inclusion as well.

That is a huge thing right there for those that are the bigger sizes and I'm flirting with that category. You know it's it's hard to get in the mood to go because you want to go try all these things and you're like my stuff does not squeeze into that. I look like a busted can of biscuits if I try that.

Have a voluptuous beautiful woman to just try on a pair of our leggings and I you've been amazed at the number of them and I actually had to order a size down which I've never get to do and it actually made me feel beautiful and confident brings tears to my eyes just even saying that. Well active where company where you usually have to size up

allows you to buy

You know, that's a win win in my eyes.

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. So

any parting thought or quote a quote you want to share with the audience before we close out for the day.

I

know of so much of you today.

A cup of coffee. I'm just, you know, let's stop being in competition of each other and let's link arms in community with each other.

Sounds amazing to me.

came to my mind.

Well, we are for those of you that tuned in late or missed the first part of the show. We're going to have this up on our podcast next week. It'll come up in segments over the next week as we come up, and we'll have different parts of The interview put out on our social media as well to highlight some of the amazing things she said this week to teach you more to listen to the to the podcast but Lucy I just want to thank you so much for coming on and, and being on here with us today. Getting to know you a little bit more on a personal level and hearing what you have to say and your passion in your heart for what you do is amazing. And so I'm I am thankful to you for coming on but I'm also thankful to Eric for not holding you back and pushing you to get out there and and do let your voice be heard more to I love that.

Yes, thank you so much. Thank you so much, Angie, I appreciate it.

Well, we will send you links and if you'll send me a link to your website, then I will make sure it's added on to our stuff for your for people to be able to connect with you there and get you more connections more amazing divas that we have in our community connecting with you on a regular basis. And in we just can't wait to see what else is gonna come up for you next

week. Thank you so much. I appreciate that. All right, well,

you have a great week and give Nashville a great big hug for us while you're there. I just saw a news report that said that they've got I believe at least 21 that they have lost in in that tornado and it just breaks my heart. I've got so many friends up in that area. So definitely a story. We're watching close as well. So give them a big hug for us and, and have a great time on your trip. All right. Well, thank you again. And for those of you that have tuned in, this is the warrior divas Real talk for real women show where we highlight amazing women that are doing extraordinary things and in the community as we equip and empower our global change agents to make a positive impact on the world. If you know somebody that would like to be a part of the show, to be a guest on the show, maybe even in the future co hosts the show, feel free to reach out to us at our Facebook group warrior divas, or on our divas impact page. You could also go to divas impact.com to learn more about our magazine, our television shows our past podcasts and our blogs as well. So we look forward to hearing more from you in the future in for this week. I just want to say thank you and God bless

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I have a phrase that I use when we do events and when we take road trips and we do things with family or I'm doing things in business and that phrase is

participate, don't anticipate. So I have a lot of friends that are strong, well organized friends, some would call them control freaks. I know because I am one myself. And they expect to know all the details of everything we're doing.

But I like to surprise people. So last week, we were on a retreat with our team members. And as we were doing our retreat, we had several people that were wanting to know what was next and having an anticipatory plan as to what was coming next. And I'm one of those that like to keep them on their toes. And I want them to be engaged in the moment. Have you ever wanted that for somebody so much that they didn't even understand how fully that could be being engaged and in the moment, so I took the team to Pensacola. We were staying in Destin but I took them to Pensacola on the morning of September 11. We went over to the Naval Air Station there. And we watched the Blue Angels practice. And it was a dynamic site, watching those planes, knowing that everybody there was excited about what they were seeing. But for me, it was a little bit more than that. It was about being there in the moment with the military members on such a poignant date in our history.

We had women that were tied to the military, we had women that weren't tied to the military that were part of our group that day. And I just wanted to give them a glimpse of not only the excitement that was felt by the crowd that was there watching them, but the pride that the military members had as they performed for this crowd.

And knowing that, as the Blue Angels were flying at, however many miles per hour they were flying, I think they said 800 miles per hour. They were flying 18 inches apart the whole time and one of the girls in my group made the comment, I can't even walk next, my husband 18 inches apart without bumping into them. And they're flying at Mach Speed at 18 inches apart. You know, just having a different fresh perspective on things. was really what I wanted to talk to you about today. It's not being so anticipatory about the way you want something to come out, that you miss the blessing that happens in front of you. So there are people that I have done things with before that we're really good at this. They just went with the flow. They loved every moment that They just took the roles as they came. And they just embraced every moment with joy. And then I have people that had everything lined out in their head how everything was supposed to go.

And most of the time, the ones that weren't anticipating, had a better time than the ones that we're anticipating. Because we do this thing called romanticizing a scene before the scene ever happens, right? And then we set ourselves up to be let down.

I'm going to use an example here. And this is just a brief example. But coming home from a long trip, wanting our husband to meet us at the door with a big hug, maybe a bubble bath, dinner on the table, all those things that we deem as romantic in our mind, but we never communicate it to our spouse. So when we walk home and they're like, oh, you're home. Here's the mail. laundries open. If you want to wash your clothes, we get disappointed because it didn't play out in real life, like we expected it to play out in our head.

Now, I know I'm not the only one that's ever done this because I've heard from other women talking about it before that if they get disappointed because their husband didn't think ahead to order dinner for them, didn't think ahead, to plan to keep the laundry open for them didn't plan ahead, think that they might want a back rub or, or bubble bath drawn or anything along those lines. But what we do find is that when we communicate those things to our spouse, then we can set an intention. But have we ever put the shoe on the other foot? Have we ever asked our spouse how they would like the atmosphere set when they come home after a long trip, or a day at work?

Did they walk in the door and they hear us telling them all the things that went wrong with the kids and the dog and the cat that day? Or did they walk into the door with a Hey, honey, how was your day? dinner's almost ready. If you'll just go sit down and relax. I'll let you know when it's ready. Are we giving them a to do list of everything that needs to be done?

See, one of the things I've learned in in my marriage, and I'm still learning it some days I'm just gonna be real with you. Some days it's easier than others is to not walk in on my husband when he walks in the door and go, Hey, the lawn need me needs mowed. The tree needs trim the dogs need to be fed. You said outdoor stuff was your stuff you need to get this done. Instead what I do is I asked him how was his day?
Does he always asked how my day was?

No.

But when I wasn't frustrated with him over that I had that conversation with him. And I didn't use words like, you never asked how my day is because that's just untrue. He does. It may not be until 11 o'clock that night that he may ask me he may not ask me in the moment when I asked him may not be until 11 o'clock that night that he asked me or the next day, but he does ask me so I can't use the term he never. Or you always just come in and sit down and you're done for the evening. Well, I can't use those words either because my husband's a very hard working man and does a lot of things around the house to keep things going and he's constantly helping other people.

He may not always be helping me, which tends to make me sound more narcissistic. When I go that way, then I'm really comfortable admitting that I may be at times

so

Here's the challenge. What is it in your life this week that you've got planned down to a “T” must happen? You're going to hit these deadlines, all these things are going to happen. And then what is your belief about that? If it doesn't happen the way you want it to happen? Are you going to throw in the towel if it doesn't happen, dot for dot the way you want it to happen. Are you going to be able to go with the flow? Are you going to be able to embrace the opportunities that come your way? Are you going to be able to stop and smell the flowers because you are not anticipating but you are participating in the beautiful life that's unfolding in front of you. There are bad things that happen every day. It may be a car wreck, it may be a illness diagnosis, it may be one of many, many things that are bad things that come your way.

But there are also the possibilities of some very beautiful moments happening during those bad things.

I'm going to give you an example.

A friend of mine, mentioned to me the other day that while she was at the hospital while her husband was being diagnosed with an illness that will cost him his life. She had the moment to sit with a woman who was 99 years old.

On her toughest day, finding out that the man she loves will be gone, according to what the doctors say within two years due to this illness.

She took the moment to smell the flowers and visit with this woman and hear great stories of faith of what God can do.

See, she could have been focused on what the doctor said that day. But talking with that 99 year old woman, she found her faith. She found An opportunity to grab on to her prayer life like she's never grabbed on to it before.

Don't miss the blessings that are all around you. Take a moment. Instead of just shouting your order into the box out at the local drive thru. Be sure to learn the name of the person that serving your food, call them by name, talk with them. Ask them how they're doing and wait for it. stop and listen to the answer. Don't just say it so flippantly. Be willing to let your life be interrupted to see the beauty in your life. Let's not be so regimented.

This is something that is very hard for me because I'm a D personality. So I tend to kind of schedule this into my schedule until I get comfortable enough doing it on the fly.

So the other day, we were driving back and we were stopping at the Bucees in Orange Beach, Alabama and if you're listening to this and you don't know what a bucees is, is just come to Texas. We can show you what a bucees is.. But I was talking with one of the young men behind the counter and I called him by name. I told him Thank you Colby. I appreciate your help with this. And he was so surprised that I took the time to look at his name tag and know his name.

So I sat and talked with him for just a few minutes more. He wasn't busy. I wasn't holding him up from anything. But just giving that personal touch. I got to meet a very, very sweet young man who was not only concerned with himself and serving his customers, Well, he was awesome at making sure his team members knew that “hey, the time is getting close. And you're you're almost off the clock. I hope you are excited about what you've got going on out outside of work today.” He was really invested in the people and he was around. But see, if I just rushed up there and got my order from him and took off. It wouldn't have been as magical a moment, I wouldn't have known his name. And I would have missed out on watching someone serve their fellow human beings so well.

So, that's all I'm going to talk about today. I just want to remind you to be participatory in your own life. Don't be anticipating so much and setting yourself up for failed hopes and dreams. It's okay to hope and dream, but don't romanticize them to the point that they're unattainable. Set yourself up to be participatory, to communicate your hopes and dreams in a way that you can see them walk themselves out.

So, as always, I'm your host, Angie Monroe. And I hope you join us next time on the warrior divas podcast

We're going to talk about more things that are real topics that real women want to discuss. So when unTill next time, this is Angie Monroe. Talk to you soon. Bye bye

Hello and welcome to warrior divas real talk for real women. This is your host, Angie Leigh Monroe, and I am super excited about getting to talk with you again this week. It's one of the highlights of my week is putting this podcast together and getting an opportunity to connect with you on another level. Many of you know we have our magazine out that you can go online and and read about we have our upcoming conference where you can meet us up close and personal and have some connection time with us. And and we've got our blogs up and going again. And we've got more people writing and guest writing for a magazine and for our blogs. And we always are welcoming all of you to be a part of that. But each week when I come together and I put these, these podcasts together, I'm really just looking at what is it that I'm hearing from the women that that we're interacting with? What is it that they need to hear on a more broader scale. And so that's why I'm super excited about coming in and doing the podcast and those of you that are watching on video, maybe noticing a little bit of a different scenery behind us we've we've made some strategic changes to be able to continue to add more to what we're doing for our women. And if you don't even know that we have a video version of it, it is on YouTube, we have a warrior divas podcast you can find on YouTube. And you can go click and subscribe and listen and engage with us. And we would totally love to just have another platform to engage with you on. Sometimes it's easy to put a face with a name and listen to somebody watching them for a little bit kind of get to know him a little bit better. So you'll see me and all my beautiful glory. I try and put makeup on. So fair warning there. But I try not to be inauthentic. One of the things is kind of a take me as I am kind of girl, it doesn't mean that it that I don't struggle with putting on airs for people as they say, does that mean that there's times that I don't go, Well, I know I could be better this than this, or I know I am better than this. So I'm just going to fake it till I make it I've had some of those too. I know. I know there are some of you out there feel like you're in that fake it till you make it stage. And then there's times that
I am way more than I'm giving myself credit for. And I'm kind of dumb it myself down so that other people will find me more palatable. And that's a rough thing to, to realize and to, to embrace for yourself. Like I said, we've got our conference coming up in October. And if you want to know anything about what we're doing, where we're going all that stuff, you can find all that information out at divas in pack.com. And you can listen to podcasts, Watch the YouTube, subscribe to the magazine, submit blogs, read blogs, you can do all that on our site there. But what I'm finding lately is I have a lot of women coming to me, and they're looking for a pace that they should be running at, they're not quite sure. They don't want to come in and seem too intimidating. And that blows my mind.
I know. It's something that I myself dealt with early on. And I'm if you haven't been able to tell by now I have a fairly strong personality. And it can be a little off putting I have been told sometimes in words that are not as nice as off putting. But in that, it's mainly that I have a strong sense of self confidence that if I'm going to accept a task, I believe that I have the ability and the skill set and the right people with me that we're going to accomplish that task. And so there's a certain confidence that comes with that. It's not something that we really put our finger on, it's not something that we even really realize I was talking with a good friend. And just the other day about this. There's some women that walk in a room and they wait to be seen. And then there's some women that walk in a room, and they're looking to see other people. Well, this friend and I are those ones that walk in a room looking to see other people. And I'm not talking about the big names in the room, I'm looking to see the woman that sitting by herself. I'm looking to see a woman I haven't connected with yet. I'm looking to see that friend of mine that's walking in the door that looks a little beat up from today's function and trying to get to where we're at, I'm looking at beyond what most people are looking for,
like,
years ago, I would sit in a church service and and we'd have what we call a prophetic service. And it just meant that they were giving words of encouragement. And a lot of times it was pastors sometimes lay leaders that were giving them words of encouragement to different people, just something God had placed on their heart. And I remember there would be times, I would sit in that service just hungry for word for myself. And you know, you had to sit up on the stat sheet on the seat a little better, you straighten up, you lean in, you press in, you're trying to without jumping up and down and raising your hand, you're trying to let them know that you are wanting a word. Well, here's the deal. When I go to networking events, when I go to women's events, when I go to speak at church, or at even corporate training offices and things like that, I can normally tell by the body language of the woman in the room, which one needs somebody to pay attention to them.
See,
we all have a desire to be seen, accepted and heard. And I don't know that we are all very good at helping others be seen, accepted and heard. I'm definitely not the best of it. I am not typically known as a relational type of person. But I approached my relationship building kind of as a task because I'm a test person. And I made that as as a task for myself. So I didn't use it as an excuse of I'm not a relational person. So I don't have to do that. I made it something that I could wrap my brain around to know the importance and why it's important in my life. See, it was 2000 I think was 2009. I had gotten an invitation 2008 I'd gotten an invitation to be a part of a Bible study at our church offices. We had already had a problem that there weren't many life groups for women that met at night. And so those of us that work during the day really didn't have a place to go. So are we had a Bible study that we met in the morning before work started. And it was in that Bible study that morning, that one of the women's pastors came up to me and asked me if I would be a part of a new group they were forming called Wild women in leadership development. And more than just wanting to be a part of that group. The most impactful moment of all of that was that somebody saw me as a person, somebody that had value as somebody that was worth being invited to things. They said, We know you're busy. We know your schedules demanding with your work. But if you and your boss can work out the hours, we'd love for you to be a part of it. Well, the working with the boss took a little finagling and things like that. But we got it done. And I was able to attend women in leadership development, which is where the seeds for divas impact now warrior divas podcast, and our magazine and the blog and all of that came out of that what women and leadership development course that that I went to. But here's
the other thing.
A lot of people look at me and tell me
you're too busy. Or
I didn't invite you because I thought you'd be too busy. I want to make it very clear that I have heard this said to pastor, I've heard this said to strong business women. I've heard this said to moms that volunteer in their community. I've heard this said to many, many, many women. And here's, here's the the truth of the matter is yes, we are busy, a lot of us are doing them a myriad of things. We're about juggling home, and health, and family and spirituality, and all of that stuff. And we need an outlet for somebody to just see us see us as worthy of spending time with without wanting anything from us, and just to be invited and accepted. So when I worked as a assistant for a pastor, I realized how many things were happening that they weren't inviting the pastor to. Because they assumed he was too busy.
And so
one of the things I started doing was I started praying for my pastor, I started praying friendships in my pastor, I started praying relationships. And for my pastor, I started praying relationships and friendships him for his wife, so that she would get people that they couples they could go and do things with. And then somebody said something very empowering to me. And she said, You know, I used to be the one that always had parties always did things and never invited anybody, any of the busy people in my life to it always invited those of us that were just always hanging around. And she served realize that her circle of friends was getting stale. You know, there was no, everybody was starting to agree about the same things. There was no friction and friction is not bad. It's a really good thing. It's just having healthy boundaries to have that friction, right.
So she started to realize
that there were more people she wanted to get to know and wanting to invite in. And so she started challenging other people in her group to start inviting people in. And one of the people that she finally asked, she goes, I know you're super busy, I know you probably can't come. But I wanted to invite you to this. And the lady goes, you know, I've been watching the stories about your group meetings and all your girlfriends getting together. And I've been jealous that nobody has ever invited me to be a part of something like that. And my friend told her said, Well, I just assumed you were always too busy. And she says I am busy. But I also need friendship. I also need companionship, I also need to build relationships with other people and take time for me. So if you're okay to ask the question, knowing that I may not be able to come every time, but I'm going to try my best to come as many times as I can, and not be afraid of me rejected you by saying I can't make it this time, then I will absolutely be there every time I possibly can. This totally blew my friends mind. My friend was like, it really wasn't about me thinking they were too busy. It was about me thinking that they may judge me for not being busy enough.
I want you to catch that.
It wasn't about my friend thinking this other lady was so busy that she couldn't be a part of it is about how she thought that lady was going to think about her at a conversation earlier this week with another podcaster. And we're going to be on each other shows here soon. But she was talking about making a transition. And she had worked in the school systems and as a teacher and school administrator for many years. And even though she she's taking two years to make the transition, she stepped away from that in May of this year. And there were some things that she shared, that were just inspiring to me, she said there was it wasn't so much what other people thought of her. But what she thought other people would think of her. See, that's what we call a self limiting belief. You are giving yourself I know you're giving yourself a limitation you are holding yourself back from something without ever posing the question out loud. Because we're doing a battle within our brain. We're battling between our ears, what never gets articulated. So I told you about the women in leadership development class, you know, that led to more that led to me being included in more things and being involved in more things and engaging with more people and building more relationships and serving our women's ministry helping out with the the events throughout the year and things like that. And when it was time to put that down. There was a
a sense of
will they even remember me? Was my impact big enough? See, I never did it for people to know who I was feel important, self important, any of that stuff. But as I was stepping out of it, all of a sudden, I was worried, you know, Will people know that I left of my own accord did will people remember the good things that I did here. And that did I set a set a bar a standard for others to come behind me and meet and excel at, and all those conflicting things came at me. And then it was just Angie, rest. So that's what I had to do that into an 18 month sabbatical that I went on, of just resting of just hearing myself and believing in myself and knowing who I am and what I was created for. And as where I thought I had dealt with stuff. Over the years, what I'd really done was I had stuffed and suppressed. And I use that term quite often when I'm talking with women is we go in and it's kind of like the old cartoon where they sweep the dirt underneath the rug, right? Why it swept the dirt underneath the rug so much that now the rug was taller than I was. And I just assumed that I always get back to that I always get back to that kind of the same way we throw things in the junk drawer and said will always come back to that right. And we never do that stuff in the junk drawer. There's stuff that's been there for 20 years, we've never touched it never used it. But we still have it in the junk drawer. Right? Same with the Stephen suppressed method. So with this, what I'm trying to bring about in you, what I'm trying to help you to realize is sometimes we get addicted to busy. My friend and former colleague, Brady Boyd wrote a book called addicted to busy, we get so busy doing things and we're doing them not so much to make ourselves look good or do good. A lot of times we're doing it because we're running away from dealing with the things we had slipped swept under the rug the stuff and suppress stuff we did. So in that 18 months that I took time off, things that I thought I dealt with years and years and years before, I still hadn't really dealt with just because it was out of sight didn't mean it was out of forming my thoughts, my opinions, my heart, my heart decisions, my mind decisions around things. There were fears that were brought up that I didn't quite understand why I had those fears. But they were attributed to things that happened 20 years earlier.
There were
there's going to be continual hurts and things that come up in life. But your reaction to them may be magnified. Because you haven't dealt with the previous ones, right. So earlier this week, I was sitting with Kim Slater, she's the one that puts our magazine together our beautiful magazine that we have. And she and I were talking about working with a couple of different people on some projects and all this stuff. And and I had some anxiety building up. Now. I've been doing this for 10 years, I've been doing business consulting, nonprofit consulting, launching books, all that stuff for 10 years. All right. So it's not like it's something new to me, it's not like, I'm going out for the first time trying to sell this project or, or coach this client or any of that stuff. I'm good there. That's not the problem. But some of the verbiage that had been used, whether it was intentional or not, brought up some anxiety in me, mainly because it was tied back to the way I had been treated by a previous client, a previous nonprofit I'd worked with just something that didn't end well, right. And so when things don't end well, and you feel like you've been devalued you feel like you've been used up and abused and all these things. If you don't deal with that, the very next thing you come up against, you're going to feel the same thing. So as I'm recording this today, I am in the season right now of identifying what are those things? How did I set myself up for failure in this? How did I set myself up for success in this in the past, and in the present? There are so many ways that we limit ourselves and we hide and we tried to be the girl that's got our whole thing together when quite frankly, we're put out there in words that I'm good. I'm awesome. I'm perfectly fine. When really we're just a straight up hot mess, right?
So
somebody asked me the other day about our SMS conference. And they're like, Well, my wife doesn't wear a mask. I'm like, okay, that's great. Can she help other women that maybe are wearing masks, I said, but if she's like most women, I bet you there's some areas in our life, that she hides even from herself. So here's, here's some of the things that I'm just going to share again, being transparent, and authentic with you about myself where I, I, at times, hide behind a mask. And it's a daily progression of just stepping out and trusting and believing that God's going to bring me to the places I need to be brought to. So telling my husband, my husband coming in and asking the question, I know none of you women out here, do this. I know nobody ever does this. I'm the only one. And yes, I'm being sarcastic. But here's the deal. When your husband asks, What's wrong with you? And you say nothing, I'm fine.
That's a mask.
Because you're not fine. You're livid about something, you you're upset about something you're hurt about something? No, you're not fine. I used to use the phrase you I'm an open book, you can ask me anything. And I would hold my arms out and signal to everybody and make sure they knew that I was a warm and inviting person, right? This was before my sabbatical. But what I realized I was doing during my sabbatical, I went through all my healing was, I was really saying, I'm an open book and I, in mentally, My hands were up in front of me. They were defending me, they were holding people back, because my mindset was, but if you knew me, you wouldn't have had to ask that question. Right. So sometimes the mask is there, not to hide who you are so much, but to hide from people what you don't want them to know about you. See, there's some people that have gotten healing about things. But they know that the audience that they're speaking to, may not be receptive to that.
The woman that's
had an abortion, and is speaking into a church audience is going to have a little bit deeper of a hill to climb than a woman that's had an abortion speaking on a main stage in a secular world. A woman that's married to a man that they're unequally yoked, or he's an alcoholic, or he's got porn addiction, or maybe she has porn, addiction, those are all things that they don't just bring up in the Bible studies anymore. These are the things that we look at. And we address and we talk about at this unmasked conference we're going to be doing, but these are the things that we look at and talk about every day, in, in my small groups, and in my coaching with women, we want to see you You be the best version of yourself. Excuse me, I'm still getting over a cold. It's been lagging for about a month now. But here's the deal. I want each and every woman to be able to walk boldly and confidently in the belief that they are the best woman for the moment of the life that they are living right now. And the only way we can do that is if we're being honest and open with ourselves, and surrounding ourselves with other women who will be open and honest with us. So it's my hope that you'll engage more with us whether you're listening to the podcast, reading the magazine, being part of our divas making an impact group coming to the mask conference, but not so much so that we can pour into you but the cheer life lessons can help another woman. Because that's the other mask we hide behind. A lot of times we say we've been through this. But we don't ever reach out and help others that are in the thick of it right now. Walk out of it. See, we've already been there. We've already been battered, we've already been bruised, we've already been there. We've already done that. We may have a closet full of T shirts. But until we're ready to turn around and help another woman with our story. Then why did we even accept going through it in the first place. There's a couple of books out there that a couple of other authors and podcasters and stuff that have different approaches is to thank you for raping me, or thank you for my part or my part in the rain or different things like that. And, and those are hard, hard things to accept, you know, they are very hard things to accept. But there's a lesson in everything we go through. It may not be an easy lesson, it may be a very difficult lesson. It may be a brutally honest, gut wrenching tear you up from one side to another lesson you have to learn. But the good that can come out of it to help somebody else
is magnificent.
And I want to challenge each and every one of you that have had some yuck in your life that maybe have swept it under the the carpet, maybe have ignored, stuffed and suppressed. I want you to just embrace the the suck, right? I want you to realize that there are times in our life that things happen, that suck, I'm just gonna say it, they suck. But if we can embrace the lessons that can come out of that about how much stronger we've become, how much more powerful we become, how we can help others not to put themselves in the rights into dangerous situations how to help themselves to see danger before it comes, how to help them defend themselves, how to help them see that there is far more out there for them than living held captive by the things that have happened to them, then all of what I've been through, makes it so much worthwhile. I don't say that I wish I had had my sexual assault, I absolutely do not. But if I had to endure it, I would want the enduring to happen so that I could benefit somebody else and help them know not to put themselves in the situation that I had myself. Now, I'm not blaming a victim, I'm not accepting blame for a victim, the person that perpetrated me was the wrong person. He did that he was the one that did that. But on the other side of it, some of us are victim of words. Some of us are victim of actions. And until those of us that have been through the suck of life, and embrace the lessons from it, are able to turn around and help those others that are stuck in the mire of the suck and the moment.
Then everything we went through was for nothing.
So
I'm going to talk about today's everyday diva. Because a few years ago, I went through a training class it was called mending the soul. And this was during the time that I was doing my sabbatical. And and I really didn't know what I was getting into. I kind of asked her about the class that she had. And she goes, Okay, you're in my group. That's it. And so I show up this group and the very first meeting at six people in a room and, and I'm told that it's like chemotherapy for the first five weeks.
Here's the deal.
I've never had cancer. I don't
ever want to have cancer, I'd seen people walk through it. But if I had ever had cancer, I would imagine that's what that first five to six weeks were. There were things that I wrote down in that book, there were things that I revealed to myself there was healing that went on inside myself, called mending the soul, where
I really did not want to admit.
But this leader walked us through ever so graciously non judgmental, non confronting, just kept asking the right questions in the right way to help us have self realization of where we've been and where we're going. And that everyday diva is Janet man or Janet mer manner is a woman who she's small, and she's petite. But she stands 10 foot tall. She is a wife of former Air Force guy who worked as a pilot and just retired they are living the life in Kansas now. And has three children that serve our country, in the armed services and, and she is a force to be reckoned with in the industry spiritual realm. And so she really helped facilitate the journey it took me through to be able to see that the things that happened to me in my past didn't have to hold me captive today. And the things that happened in my past could actually be a launching board for helping other people and not out of a chip on my shoulder. Not out of a I'm a victim mindset. But out of a I have found victory on the other side of the situation mindset. And I am so honored and so excited to name her today is everyday RD everyday divas. And I cannot wait for you to learn more about her. She has a group called real evolution. And she is just an amazing, dynamic woman. And you'll be seeing her more in our divas impact making a divas making an impact group on Facebook
if you're a part of that group
because what she does and and how she inspires and encourages women is done so with such a tempered hand of firmness, but of grace, and I am so excited to honor her today. So thank you so much for listening this week. Remember, you can nominate your own everyday divas you can submit articles for the magazine. We're always looking for guests to be on our show as we expand our show out to more episodes. And we are looking forward to our time with you next time so until then, have a blessed week.

Planning & Executing work, school, life flow

Hello and welcome to warrior divas real talk for real women. This is your host Angie Monroe and I am excited to be here with you today as we unpack a few fun things that we're going to talk about. The just an early reminder as we get going on in the show, you can always find out more information about what we do who we are how to get in touch with us by going to divas impact com that is divas impact.com you can listen to the podcast you can read our blogs, you can send us messages and learn more about our conference. This
Coming up. So, I am going to get us started today. You know, when I started divas impact a few years ago, I told people you know, we want to change the way women think and speak about themselves and others. And it sounded all nice and cute. I talked about, I told them we would talk about things like faith, family, fun, fitness, fashion, food and a lot of other words that begin with F and some that doubt. And, you know, over the time that we've started this podcast, we've talked about several different things. We've talked about freedom. We've talked about
finances a little bit. We haven't quite gotten into that one yet. But we haven't talked about fun, and it's the end of summer, schools just got back into session. And one of the things that I'm starting to realize is if parents don't have a good balance in their life work, and I'm not even calling that a balance, I'm calling it flow a work-life flow.
Then there, they don't give one to their kids. So this was a little bit more evident this year.
My daughter has two kids that are starting kindergarten and I don't have any kids in elementary, junior high or high school anymore. My youngest ones going back to college again. But as we started looking at, how do you plan, when you've gone from a schedule that summer vacation, summer camps, kids home all the time, kids eating you out of house and home, to now you have to plan a structured environment. You have to make sure they're in bed by a certain time. You have to make sure that their homework is done, you have to make sure that you have that time with them. There was a video up the other day on social media about a kid that was getting in trouble with the law because he had posted something in a video game he had written
Something out in a video game. And the cops were there. And they were talking to him and his mom and his mom were saying he's just a little boy, he was about 1516 years old. He's just a little boy. And so there was this whole big dynamic that was going on in there. So how do we, if we're not going to invest in time, energy and effort into our life flow to manage our own time? How are we going to teach our children and lead by example for our children to manage their time for their work-life flow? So over the summer, a lot of kids get up, they sleep and lay, they eat and eat and eat and eat. They play video games, they watch TV, if the scheduling around the house is good, they go to camps if they
if they don't have the money for camps and they play outside until it's time
to come
Man, I mean, that's what we did when we were growing up, right? The generation that we had, we didn't have all those video games we had Atari. I'm dating myself there at Atari, Nintendo, things like that. But we didn't have the things that kept us indoors. So summer meant hanging out by the pool, going to the lake playing outside playing soccer, playing baseball, whatever it was, we went outside, we played until our mom whistled, and if we were further away than our moms whistle, we knew we were in trouble, right? So we also knew that when the sun started going down, it was time to go home.
The other thing we knew that every parent in the neighborhood had the ability and the permission from our parents to whoop our butts if we missed
in their area. So I'm not saying today's parenting is bad. Today's parenting is different than what we had back in my day. So
With the challenges of YouTube, and yes, this is on the YouTube channel as well, of YouTube, of video games of cellular devices and tablets and all the things that we have come into our home. How do we find a way to make space for them to make decisions on their own, not just based on what's being fed to them from these devices, right?
So, my daughter, she's moved into a new home, she's set up her home with her and her kids and all that stuff getting ready for school, and she had to figure out okay, what do I do for meal plans? How do I set this up? And as I was telling a friend about this, they're like, you know, that's some information that would help me. So I'm going to go over the next few minutes here and just tell you a little bit of how I planned out a week when my kids were growing up to see if that might help some of you parents out there
That is back in the thick of things back to school sports starting up all that stuff and you don't know quite how to juggle it. So like I said, I had three kids that are raised. Then we had to bonus kids that lived with us at different times that road back and forth to practices. Their parents were single parents are worked odd hours and couldn't get them where they need to go. So we were those fill-in parents, so to speak. So whenever I got up on Saturday morning, you can choose whatever day of the week you want to do it. I prefer to do Saturday morning, I get up bright and early. I make a list of all the things we had planned for the week ahead. I'd look at the family calendar. I knew when practices where I knew when games were. I knew when they had to stay late at school. I knew everything that was going on from Sunday until the following Saturday, right? And so I would look at what all we had and then I
started making meal plans based on what our schedule was. I didn't want to make a five-course meal on a night that we had softball practice, and had baseball games at the same time. No, I needed to have things in place. So Sundays was always a big meal, we'd have a roast or we'd have sometimes it would be like a sports weekend where my kids just needed the veggies for the day. And so Sunday was our day of rest, we'd get up we'd go to church, we'd come home, and I would have things in different crockpots in the house, I'd have wings and I'd have
pulled pork for pulled pork sliders, and I'd have all these different things that they could just grab and go throughout the day. And they could rest. They could watch sports, they could do cut, catch up on homework, they could nap, they could do everything and there wasn't a structured time on Sunday for us to just have
The formal dinners and everything. Now Mondays, always made sure the meals could be done in 30 minutes or less. So one of the other things I did was a lot of times we cooked up all of our meat for the week on Sunday. So whether I was smoking a brisket or grilling some chicken or making hamburger patties up already, all of that stuff was already done on the weekend, I'd brown up hamburger meat or sausage or whatever to throw in with spaghetti later on the week. There were a lot of things that I did when I had bigger spaces of time, then I did during the week. So then all I had to do is come in warm-up some meat and put on the plate the vegetables that we needed, and if you buy fresh vegetables, I know we've been taught that cans are good. Even frozen is good. They're not there are too many preservatives in there. Fresh frozen is better than
canned, and fresh is better than frozen. I'm going to tell you that 100 times over. I know you're if you're watching on YouTube, you're looking at me going, what does she know about this? I'm just telling you, it will make a huge difference in what you're doing. But taking some green beans and pairing it with a chicken, having a salad that you can put on the plate that's already pre-made. You can do a lot of the prep work well ahead of time to where you're just throwing it all together, right. So when the kids come home from school, you're like, Yeah, but when they come home from school, they're starving and they want a snack and all that stuff. We had a basket that's set on our counter. They came in, they could get a certain drink off of a certain shelf in the refrigerator, and then they could grab one snack out of the basket on the counter. And that was all they got until dinnertime, that couldn't eat us out of house and home. That's what they got. There are nights that we had burgers where we would pack burgers in Ziploc bags and take them to the ballpark with us because
That's what we could afford to do. Yeah, we throw bags of chips or fruit or whatever with them, but it was stuff we could do. So finding a way to work with your schedule and still feed your family on a budget, because a lot of the times we're looking at things going, why can't feed my family healthfully on a budget?
hogwash, you absolutely can. The thing is, is knowing how to do that and knowing where to look for these things.
All the grocery stores sell these things in, in the organic and in a non-organic way. If you can't afford the not the organic, don't get organic, get the other ones. But find a way to find a place to start is what I'm telling you.
People are like well, I can't eat pasta. I can't eat pasta. That's great. Good zucchini. They have this little thing called a spiral. Iser you
You can buy one that fits in your hand spits on the counter, you put it through the spiral Iser, it makes these noodles you throw in the pan, they're done in five minutes, literally five minutes after the water's boiling. If you've gotten on the Insta pot craze, I made BBQ chicken the other night. I'm telling you 30 minutes frozen to cooked, completely cooked, it was all done. And that was me pulling it out of the pot ready to put it on the dish. Nice quick, easy things to keep you from going through the drive-thru.
Here's the thing. A lot of us are so stuck on instant gratification ourselves. That's what we're teaching our kids. We go and we order in a box and we drive up to the window and we expect our food to be ready when we get to the window. And so we're disabling a huge generation of children that aren't going to have healthy foods made for them because all they're going to do is speak into a box and drive-thru window to get
There, and we need to continue putting steps in place to educate ourselves and educate our kids on how to eat healthily. Now, I'm going to tell you some of the best meals we ever had. My mom and dad, my dad was a police officer. He didn't make a lot of money, my mom stayed home.
Back then at it. I don't know if anybody's ever heard of the government cheese. It's kind of like a big block of Velveeta cheese type thing. And we'd have the block of government cheese that we got. My mom would make homemade flour tortillas. That my friend, my friend's mom taught her how to make.
We had beans, like the beans that you buy in the store in the bag that you have to soak and then you cook. Well, we'd have been with a meal on Sunday, and then later on in the week, my mom would take those beans and refresh
them. Yes, like by hand in a skillet, not in a can read fry them. And then she would take that mix about a half to a quarter to a half a pound of hamburger meat in with those three fried beans.
We would have homemade salsa made from our garden because we had peppers and onions and tomatoes we grew in our backyard in this city. Just because you live in the city doesn't mean you can't have a garden. And nowadays a lot of cities have community gardens. So find yourself a community garden to get involved with because so you can learn about growing and educating yourself. So we had those things that we made and we did ourselves and those meals, we would take that that refried beans with the hamburger meat and the flour tortillas, spread it on there with some sausage and some cheese and have our homemade burritos.
Those were some of our favorite meals. Another one was back in the day when spam. Now I don't recommend spam anymore but back when spam was cheap, it wasn't a novelty.
We would get Kansas spam we would fry that up. We would have to make a sliced tomato sliced onion in a box of crackers and that would be our meal for the night. It's not about being over the top and trying to win Master Chef with your meals and having the perfect photo and all of that stuff. I shared a photo the other night my husband made he's trying to beat my recipe on pulled pork so he decided to smoke a pork shoulder and he brought it in and it had a great taste to it. All that stuff. It just didn't set up the way we would have expected it to had a great taste to it though. So I made the sandwich up with it, put it on the bun, poured some barbecue sauce over it, set it on the plate and the picture looks
Amazing even though it was sitting on a styrofoam plate,
the food was amazing. But it has, it's not about the pictures. It's not about even
having all the right colors on the plate and all of that stuff. It's about finding a way to balance yourself and how you do it. So take a look at your calendar. Look at what can you do this night maybe, you need to do the grilled chicken with a salad and maybe a fruit cup. You can make up a thing of fruit salad on Sunday and it'll last for at least three to four days if you put in the right juices to keep it all going together. Do you?
We did this week we did the pork shoulder on Sunday. We did some steak on Monday on.
On Saturday. We did the pork shoulder on we did
steak on Sunday we did the chicken on Monday, we went out to eat last night, celebrate my daughter, my friend's birthday. But tonight we're doing veggie packets. We're chopping up a whole bunch of vegetables, we're putting them together and we're pairing it with the leftover meat from those meals. Again, reuse leftovers. Don't just use them all at one time. Get your kids involved, have them be responsible for certain parts of the meal, whether it's setting the table, or whether it's helping to wash vegetables or get them ready in a pan or whatever it helps have them get involved.
Now,
a lot of the times they go Okay, well, that's great. You've made your meal plan for the week. What do you do? I said, Well, then I make my grocery list. Well, here's what I had. When I was growing up. I'd make my grocery list. And I had a spreadsheet that I knew at different parts of the store how the store was laid.
out that I was going to. If I was in the dairy aisle, these are all the things I need from the dairy aisle. This is all I need from the meat. I'm a little obsessive-compulsive when it comes to my grocery list, all right. But here's what you have now. You have online ordering.
You can go online, you can put your stuff in Walmart, at Albertsons, even Amazon, you can order ahead of time. You can tell them, you're going to come and pick it up at a certain time, and go get your food and you don't even have to walk in the store. Why is this important? Because it keeps you on task. You're not shopping at the store and wandering the aisles looking for things that you don't need.
And another thing, if you're in the store, and you're going up and down the aisles, you're probably in the worst part of the store you can be at all the best food for you to be eating is going to be on the perimeter.
The store. So you're your milk, your meat, your veggies, all of those things. If you look at a store, they're on the outer perimeter of the store. They're not on those aisles. So let's, let's explore some ways that you can make some wise choices for your meals. Ask your kids what they want. My one of the things my daughter's doing this week is some of the things some of the meals that they've made this week, they're saving some of the meats from that. And they're going to do make your pizzas this weekend. And so they'll have pepperoni and they'll have chicken and they'll even have some beef and some sausage and things like that from their meals this week that they've set aside to go with the meal on Saturday when they make their pizza and the kids are involved. And they've got the little Betty, Better Homes and Gardens, Junior cook cookbooks and Paula Deen Jr. cookbooks and
It gets the kids excited about investing in food. I was at my daughter's house last night watching them didn't have to go to a PTA meeting last night. That was awesome. Because my daughter is now having to go to those things. Hahaha. But as I'm sitting there at the meat is there at the meeting the kids were going, we want a snack. I'm like, have you had a snack? Yeah, we had one when we got home. Well, but we want another one. I'm like, well, dinner so much here. You want me to fix you dinner? No, we want to have dinner with mom and dad.
Here's the thing that a lot of you don't realize is the table. When you take time to sit at the table with your kids and have conversations about how their day went in putting cell phones away. Don't even let them come to the table. You sit there and have educated conversations with them. They will unveil their whole world to you.
You just have to show that you're interested.
I know some of you are sitting there going well, we don't have time to sit at a table. We don't have time to do this. Make time at least twice a week to do this. It's important.
There are test results and, and surveys and all that stuff that shows that kids learn and grow better and better adjusted. When they have dinner around the table, their grades are better. There's so much that happens when you have that bonding time at the table. Some people look at you nowadays and go, well I don't even know my child. Well, when was the last time you sit down with your child, when was the last time you sit and had a conversation with him?
Other than talking at them.
So these are some of the things that we want to work on with the life flow, get them out from behind those video games have them being involved. Another thing that
happened this week is
a sporting goods store and an NFL player went shopping with some of the kids for our local youth sports activity, a youth community program we have here. You heard us talk about a couple of weeks ago when I had Tracy Robertson Coburn on Metsys peewee football and cheerleading Association. Every community has a sports league that doesn't matter if it's soccer, softball, baseball, across hockey, archery, whatever it is, they have these youth organizations that are important to the community.
They're important because it's work kids learn to test their limits. It's where kids learn to believe in themselves and build self-confidence. They learn how to fail forward, they learn how to be successful, even when they're not winning. So there's a lot of things that come from being a part of these youth organizations. And I want to challenge every one of you
You do not only put your children in one, but find a way to be invest involved yourself, whether it's as a team mom, a coach, and investor, whatever that may be. We have gained over 20 years of our 20 plus years of involvement in this organization. It's going, my husband's been involved for over 20 years, I've been involved probably over 40 years with this organization.
We have had friends and loved ones that we trust to no end. And I have learned lessons from them. They have learned lessons from me. And we were the parents that help support each other when life got yucky, right. Sometimes people go well, that's my church, and that's great if your church is that way for you. But you know what, there's a lot of churches out there that just aren't that way for their people. So today
I want to challenge every one of us to find a
Way to feed our children and invest in our children, feed them with sunshine, make them get outside and play. Make them get out from behind the blue light of the computers in the video games, find a way to invest in them with time and energy, spit around the dinner table.
Find a way to invest with them
by feeding them healthy Whole Foods
and find a way to invest your flow of life
by knowing that you're going to touch generations with what you do today as their mom.
As I said, I've been dealing with the cold over the last few days. And so my voice is a little cranky and a little congested today. So I apologize for all of that. But today before we get going I want to talk about our everyday diva
I know the example of the importance of these things. Because my friend Kim Slater, who does all of our creative design here, her mom is somebody that helped instill some of these things and her mom is our editor for our magazine and our blogs and, and when we do our podcasts, she rewrites. She gives a fresh take on the podcast every week and the blogs that we do. And her name is Susie Tracy. And she is phenomenal at what she does. But she also knows the importance of spending time and investing in your children.
And so she's our everyday diva today because
we are benefiting right now of the investment she made in her daughter. And she's making now in her granddaughter and her daughter is making in her daughter
See, we're not talking about divas impact being something that it's just you and me in a room and we're just going to talk and happen and it's going to be us getting our stuff done.
Now what we're looking at is we're trying to make a shift, a cultural shift from where we're at right now, to doing better, being better, and paying it forward better. Then, then the last person.
Now again, I'm your girlfriend, and I'm not telling you that your parenting bad, I would never call a mom out on parenting bad. What I would do is I would say,
if you're struggling, let us know how we can help.
And only you know if you're struggling there, well, that some of us may be able to see it.
But until you're willing to admit you're struggling, you won't accept the help.
So feel free to email us you can email us at podcast at divas impact com you can nominate an everyday diva, you can
recommend a guest to be on our show. And you can send us your fun things, your family mealtimes, your special hacks, life hacks that you do to help your family stay on task and, and grow and develop and to have that good work-life flow, school life flow, whatever that is for you. And so today, I just want to thank you for joining us and being with us. And as always, I look forward to seeing you next time. Be a diva. make an impact.

Hello, and welcome to Warrior DIVAS | Real Talk for Real Women. This is your host Angie Leigh Monroe. And as I like to remind you, I am your girlfriend. So, we are going to dish a little bit today, but before we get started, we want to be able to talk with you in real life in our Facebook group, and even other social media streams. Just reach out, touch base with us. I know we've got a lot of people out there that are authors and speakers that listen to our show. Maybe you're wondering how to be a guest on the show. Maybe you're wanting to submit a blog or magazine article to our beautiful new magazine, then go on to our DIVASImpact.com and put in a request there. You can submit it all online there. And then also, don't forget about our conference in October, it's going to be amazing. It's DIVASImpact.com/unmasked is where you can find out information about it.
So today, we're going to talk about staging a comeback, right? So, if you're staging a comeback, I think I heard Serena Williams say you got to go somewhere first before you can have a comeback, right? Well, Serena Williams didn't go anywhere. She just had a baby, she stayed in shape the whole time she was pregnant, stayed in shape after her pregnancy, all of that stuff, and came back and just kind of cleaned up the court with people in truth or in a true Serena fashion but how many of us feel like we have things come out of nowhere in just BLINDSIGHT us, right. Like a railroad train going down the track and out of nowhere gets wiped out by mudslide. How many of you can say that you've actually had a situation in your life where that felt like it happened? Well, I know I've talked before about 2013. But let me talk to you about 2014. 2014 I had already booked speaking engagements I had from June of 2014 on. I was setting my speaking calendar; I was making plans I was excited. My youngest one would be graduating high school. And after 20 something years of raising children, I was going to be able to do what I wanted to do, and not have to worry about other people's schedules and, and just only be yourself possible to my husband and I for my schedule. And I know there's a couple of moms out there that have given up on your dreams, and I want to challenge you today to not give up on your dreams. One of the biggest things you can do for your children is pursue your dreams with a passion, because it helps them see that they can pursue their own dreams, right. So, one of the things that I hear from women all the time is I don't have the energy to dream. Well now you don't have the energy to dream you're too busy fanning the flame of your husband's dreams, the fan of the flame of your children's dreams, and taking care of me all the snotty noses and, and carpooling and all the stuff that goes in between all of that, right. But here's the deal. We've talked about it before, we're going to talk about it again, in the future, I'm sure you've got to take care of yourself first. It's not selfish to take care of yourself first. So, 2013 was off to a good start. I had all these things booked and planned. And in the summer of 2013. For the fall, for the following summer in 2014. I was super stoked. I was writing talks right and left, I've got file drawers of talks that have never even been heard people, file drawers of them. Because I was still honing my craft, even when I didn't have a platform to speak it from. Can I get an amen on that? If I really wanted to be a speaker, and I did not have the bandwidth to go out and do it at the time, I would still write the talk that I was going to give what was important what was impression upon me at the time. And you know what, now all I have to do is go back through those drawers and clean up those talks today for where we are today. There's some lessons I've learned since I wrote that talk that now makes that talk even better. say there's something that you're wanting to do today and you're going there's no way I can do it, but there's something you can do towards it. So how do you stage a comeback; you start doing today what you can so that your comeback can be epic.
So, like I said 2013 July, end of July rolled around and I woke up to the most god awful wailing sound I had ever heard. I ran downstairs and it was my youngest daughter. She had had a few classmates that

had been killed overnight. in a car accident. These are classmates when I say their classmates, they were more than classmates. My daughter was a trainer with their high school football team, wrestling to basketball team, you name it baseball team. She was the trainer for the high school. And a lot of these guys she had grown up from elementary on with, we had had them in our home. We had car pulled them. They were special young men. And in an instant, we lost three of them in one car accident out in New Mexico. And it didn't just impact my daughter. It impacted the whole community that was around us. And it was the next day that I went and I had a conversation with my friend Carrie. And we had determined that it was time for me to step away from volunteering in this department I was volunteering at the church is just that season was ending, right? I mean, we all have seasons in our life. And it was time for this one to end. And about a week later, my oldest daughter called home from college and told us she was pregnant and about a month later, we found out it was twins, the house we had bought, owner financed, something had gone awry with the people that we bought it owner financed with and we were going to be homeless at the end of October, which happened to be the same day that my son was leaving to join the army and my fake son Ricky was leaving two weeks after him.
Let me just tell you, going from a high in July of this is what my future looks like to being at the end of October going. Where am I going? What am I doing? What does this look like? It was a total mudslide running the train off the tracks moment, right. And it was during that time that I really felt that I just need to push pause. I didn't know what the future held. But I also know that I couldn't see it well enough to make future plans. I needed to be in the moment. And that's what I'm talking about with some of you right now. Some of you right now just need to be in the moment with your family, maybe you've got little ones maybe you've got ones in junior high, in high school. And, and for me, I don't know about you. But for me, my children needed me more at home during their junior high and high school years than they ever did during their elementary and preschool years. They needed someone to be accountable to, they need to know that mom was going to be there and checking the homework and making sure they were in bed at night. And, going where they said they were going to be going and not just wandering willy nilly all over the town, right? So that that puts a damper on things when you have to be a little more hands on, and you're thinking the teenage years or when I'm going to be set free, and it's really not that way, a lot of the times you need to progress and you need to be more involved. As hard as that season was that when lasted until December of 2015 or December of 2014. So basically, July of 2013 to December of 2014 was all focused-on family. I still wrote I still had hopes I still had dreams, I just didn't have a deadline or a date to those hopes and dreams coming real. So that's my message to you today. Your comeback can still be a comeback. If you just take a step towards it, no matter what it is just a baby step towards it each and every day.
Now, a couple of years ago, I had a friend of mine who was going through a bit of this and you'll read about her story a little bit in our magazine that's coming out this month. And as she was talking, you know, several of us even in those rough times where we were those words for the year, what is our word of the year going to be for this year, you know, and you know, depending on which group of friends I was with, there were some that were all about, I chose this word and then there are some that were like God gave me this word well for. For me, I was really going okay, what is the theme for this year going to be? I really want to call word the sheer like tenacity or you know, flex or you know something about how strong and powerful I am and all that stuff. Yeah, I got the word discipline that year. Who likes the word discipline? Come on, right. But you know what it was in that year of building that discipline that led to putting things into place for where we are today. One of the other things that came about was I was truthful and honest on social media that day, said, I asked for word like tenacity and I got the word discipline. And a friend of mine said, Well, I never saw you as someone who needed to be reminded that you are tenacious. See, I was asking for something already had so wouldn't have to do the work to be disciplined out, right? What does all this have to do with having a comeback?
Well, a few years ago when my friends start going through her, her challenges, you know, she was a CEO, I think it was the CEO, CEO, CFO, she was a C level executive with a trucking firm, right, her dad ran a trucking firm when she was growing up. And she was running this trucking firm. And she handled all the finances, she handled all the management of the trackers, the equipment that was going in and out and they hauled freight to and from the oil fields. So, there was a it was a pretty big deal and large volumes of money flowing in and out. And she made over six figures a year, she had a husband that worked out in the oil fields, and he was a welder. So, he made a pretty good amount of money as well, that had a nice piece of property, over 10 acres. With a house and a barn that had an apartment that she could lease out to people or let people stay in if they needed to. I mean, it was just a good place for them to be, and she has a story. And boy is her story a good one, right. And so, as she has her story, and she's walking out her story, she feels called to serve as the leader of a pregnancy Crisis Center. But let me just tell you, the pay for running a trucking company may be over six figures, the pay for running a crisis pregnancy center is not, like it is a third of the cost of what it costs what she gets paid for the other one, right, But that didn't matter to her. Because she knew in her heart of hearts, where she was being called to. She stepped out in faith. She put in her notice. She accepted the role as the leader of the CEO of this organization. And wow, let me just tell you, the turnaround she did with that organization in no time flat was amazing. I mean, the buy in from the community the things that they were able to do and continue to do.
Excuse me, I had to get a drink there.
She is just an amazing person. She also was feeling she is walking in her purpose. And about three to six months after she took over that role. Her husband decided to leave her safety net of income decided to shrivel up and go away. She was a little disheveled that she was making things go. She was still ever present in her girl's life, she was still learning the things she needed to learn, she was still stepping towards things she needs step towards, and she was still being faithful to who she was the circumstance of what her husband did, his choice of leaving her did not change who she was and who she was going to be. She didn't immediately quit working at the lower pay and go back to the other one. She trusted that she was where she was supposed to be, doing what she was supposed to be doing.
My mentor and friend John Maxwell reminded me a few years ago, she was in the middle of this, that when we're in the thick of the thick of the nasty of what we call the gross parts of life is when we are prime for the making for a miracle to happen in our life and a big one at that, right? Because I mean, sometimes you can't go in a lower, Something's got to give for you to move up. I get tickled when I think of so many people that are striving and plucking away trying to make things happen. And I'll be quite honest with you, as I'm recording this today. I'm kind of in the middle of this myself. I'm got some amazing things that have been happening. But there's just this one part we're not quite broken through yet on. And I'm trying to decide is it time to shift directions? Or do I keep pressing forward? And I'm not sure what's on the other side of it. But have you ever seen the cartoon of the guy with the little pickaxe and he's in the little tunnel and he's chipping away, chipping away and chipping away. And he finally decides he's going to give up and walk away, and literally it shows just a few inches beyond where he stopped is a whole tunnel of diamonds. So how do you know when to stop scraping by to get where you're wanting to be? Well, it goes back to what are you purposed for? What is the call on your life. If the path you're on is what your purpose for and the call for your life and lines up with your mission, then you will absolutely keep moving forward. I remember story Shalee Johnson said a few years ago, she's read her book “Push”, and if you've not ever read her book, it's a great book. But she talks about; she was on the line her and her husband and kids and gone snow skiing and she really didn't like the snow ski clothes she could find she thought they could do better. And so, she was going to design this whole new line of ski gear, right. And so, as she started looking at it and thinking about going and doing the skier, she started looking at how much this time this was going to take out of her life, how much energy it was going to take out of her life, and how did it line up with the overall mission for her life. And when she realized that it really didn't jive with anything else in her life, she realized that even though she could do it, and she had the money and she had the resources, she could give the time to it and stuff like that. It really wasn't something moving her closer to her overall mission. So, I want to challenge you today, start writing down some words, what is the mission for you?
My name is Angie Leigh Monroe, My mission is to empower and equip a global community of women change agents to make a positive impact on the world we live in.
Period, boom.
Everything I do has to be measured up against that, if I am doing things that is not empowering and equipping women, and it's not going to leave a positive impact. I don't do it. It's that simple. So, you position yourself to make this big comeback, by knowing where you're going and why you're doing it. Because you're going to measure everything else against that. I have walked through a lot of things with a lot of people and been through some rough things myself, as well as watching others go through their rough things. And one of the things I've learned, is comebacks are normally bigger and better than the original. So when I stepped off the stage in high school and stopped speaking and stopped doing what I was doing, it helped to know that eventually, one day, I would want to be back there even though I didn't know and believe a lot of the times that that was possible. But once I started writing, once I started putting things into action serving around people that were speakers working around the stage doing the things that I was doing that led up to it, it made perfect sense that when I sat down a few months ago, with a few key people that could help move me exponentially fast; forward faster and at a at a higher degree of thinking that I ever thought possible that we would be able to accomplish all the things we've accomplished in the last few months. I'm not negating all the work that happened before that, but the breakthrough happened in May. The breakthrough came when I was at the end of my rope. Remember that old sign poster from the 80s or 90s that had the cat with the hanging off of a piece of rope and it had a knot in it or whatever it said hang tight. You know, literally March, April, May of this year, I was just hanging tight, trying to figure out where we're going, what we're doing, what's this looks like. We didn't have the magazine back up and running. We didn't have the blogs back up and running. We didn't even have a podcast had been talked about for a year, but we didn't have the podcast, and we certainly didn't have a conference planned. And now we've got all of those things done. We have a learning center that we are launching later on this year. Live to the public in January, you only get access to it in October if you come to the conference. But in January, it'll go live to the public. And let me just tell you, all of that is because of the steps I put in place when I thought no one could see them. Let's see there were silent cries of my heart. There were things that I did, disciplining myself every day to write whether I ever thought it would be published or spoken or whatever. All of those little disciplines are leading to what you're seeing today. So, you may be in a place that it may be a while before. You have that big splash moment. But let me just tell you something. There are a lot of movie stars out there that are seen as overnight wonders who were anything but their overnight wonders because all of a sudden, you're hearing about them all the time. But you know, Bradley Cooper was on Law and Order SVU several years before he ever won an Oscar. Before he ever played Chris Kyle, you've got so many people that played so many roles and so many commercials for years and years and years before they ever struck it big. The lead dad off of This Is Us. He tells you flat out I'm not an overnight success. I've been in the business for 20 years, I'm a 20-year success. You know, it's what are you doing today to poise yourself for a comeback. Some of you may just needing a breakthrough. You don't need to come back. You're needing a breakthrough. You've not even been there yet. You've just are hoping to get there one day. So, whatever it is for you, whether it's launching a business, starting a nonprofit, writing a book, whatever it is, you have that power within you to move yourself forward.
Now I told you a little bit about my friend Connie and what we're talking about today. But Connie Wyatt Coleman is our EVERYDAY DIVA this week. She is a woman of many talents. powerful beyond measure. Like I said she's currently serves as the CEO of wise choices pregnancy Resource Center in Decatur, Texas, but let me tell you about my little girlfriend, Connie here. All right. Connie recently just got remarried. So, she is a woman who was adopted at birth. So, she has the pleasure of knowing our adoptive mom as well as her biological mom. She has walked through some of the biggest challenges of her life. Not always good ones, but not always bad ones either, and one of my favorite stories about her working at the trucking company was one of the guys came in one day and didn't have the truck parked just right, and apparently he didn't know Connie's background, right? So, she told him, you need to go straighten your truck up. He goes if you want it straight and you go and straighten it. So, she did. She got into that truck, pulling that trailer, drove it around, came back, parked it back, but put it nice and straight, and then the keys and said, and it better be parked like that every time. She wasn't showing off. She wasn't doing all that stuff. She was letting him know, something he didn't already know. Yeah, you may be able to test her but she's going to test you right back. She is a woman that she says she's a self-proclaimed type a control freak. I don't know that it's all self-proclaimed. But anyway, she is also a coffee addict. Yes, she's a coffee addict. She loves her coffee. And but those aren't the things that make her great. What makes her great is when her life was going down the railroad tracks and everything look like it was going nice and smooth in that mudslide hit. She never gave up hope. She never gave up faith, and she did not make any knee jerk reactions. She stayed steady the course, and she has come out smelling beautifully because of it, because so many people have watched her walk through that adversity and see that it can be done with grace, it can be done with dignity, and it can be done with excellence. So that is why she is our EVERYDAY DIVA today. And so, if you want to reach out to her, you can find her on our DIVAS Impact page, “DIVAS making an Impact” Facebook page. She is amazing. And she will be speaking at our conference in October so you'll get to meet her there. So, until next time, when we talk about bigger and more challenging things. This is Angie Leigh Monroe, your host of Warrior DIVAS | Real Talk for Real Women and I look forward to seeing you then. Bye now.