Healing from Religious Conditioning & Trauma: Part 2 of 2

Humans experience circumstances vastly differently. One person can internalize an event as traumatic while someone else who experiences the same doesn't. What is this all about? What is the difference between primary and secondary trauma? Does it matter? Which type of trauma tends to remain unseen (people don't recognize a need to get support after the traumatic event(s))? 
As a coach (or any human), it's important to be aware of--especially with respect to current events. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What primary and secondary trauma is.
• Why we sometimes fail to recognize or acknowledge trauma,
• Signs to help you recognize secondary trauma,
• More about secondary trauma I've been healing from, and
• Societal expectations that condition us to minimize or ignore our trauma.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

I used to think I had to be thinner to go to the gym. That sneaky, perfectionistic belief can pop up in surprising ways with self-investment. I’ve had many clients come to me ashamed that they weren’t making “enough” money as a coach or didn’t have “enough” clients. In today’s episode I talk about this perfectionism and what it can look like, and ask questions to help you consider if money is one of the things holding you back from investing in yourself. We then talk about what beliefs you might need to release to open yourself up to receiving everything you’re deserving of. You don’t have to have everything figured out perfectly before investing, or going to the gym, or starting or doing the new thing you want to do.

In this episode you'll learn about:

• How that perfectionism can show up,
• Questions to consider if money is holding you back, and
• Beliefs you may need to release to open yourself up to receiving.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Today’s episode is all about healing, and parts of the healing journey that aren’t always talked about. I’m joined by Beth Schild, an empowerment and self love coach. Beth is actually an alumnus from my very first Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification as well. Beth bravely shares her experiences with childhood and religious trauma, and how being trauma informed has shifted the trajectory of her career.

Connect with Beth:
Website: https://shiftwithbeth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shiftwithbeth/

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Today’s episode is a really powerful conversation with my dear friend, Hailee. Some organizations, religions, or systems like to promise certainty. “Do things this way, and then you’ll get that result”. But what if it doesn’t work that way for all people? We are multidimensional beings, so it makes sense that different things will work for different people. Hailee and I discuss the before and after deconstructing that idea that there’s one tool or one way to heal and get the results you want. As humans, we crave certainty. But at what cost? Hailee bravely shares how scary it can be to lean into your intuition but when you do, it can bring so much goodness, knowledge, beauty, and healing into the world.

Connect with Hailee:
Website: https://www.haileemae.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haileemaecoaching/

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

When not processed or acknowledged, trauma can impact our whole body. Body, mind, brain, nervous system, all of it. Today’s episode will explain and illustrate examples of how this can happen and affect us mentally, physically, and spiritually.

This is why simply being a Certified Coach in 2024 isn't cutting it. Clients are smarter consumers and demanding/expecting more. This is one reason why being trauma-informed matters, so we can meet clients where they're at.

Are you one of these coaches opting into more than mindset work? If so, make sure you tune in for my special announcement and how you can take this work to the next level [pssstt! It has to do with my next round of certification starting soon . . . ;) ].

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

So many of us are carrying a lot right now, am I right? During the holidays, many of us become acutely aware of varied grief & loss that we're carrying or experiencing. This episode is meant to validate you wherever you are with respect to your grief, and to normalize how common it is.

And . . . you don't have to go through it alone! I have created a FREE GRIEF & GRATITUDE pop-up Facebook Group because, no one needs to carry loss or grief on their own--no one.  It is my hope you’ll feel validated and grant yourself  the permission available to open yourself to process any grief--as it feels safe for you. 

In this episode I discuss:

• Examples of how grief can show up around the holidays,
• The importance of processing grief,
• Truths (and myths) about grief, and
• A SURPRISE gift to have more support right NOW!  

Want more support processing and living with your grief this holiday season? Join my pop-up holiday grief group. Don't go it alone, friend. 

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Things get worse before they get better”. Today’s episode is all about contraction. That tightening or slinging back we often experience before slinging forward. This is important to talk about in relation to your coaching practice and other relationships because sometimes we forget that "up-leveling" isn't always daisies and dandelions. Let's remove some "shoulds," shall we? 

If you can relate, tune in to this episode where we’ll discuss:

• Questions to consider when you’re ready to move forward but triggers are pulling you back,
• Recognizing if your nervous system has the capacity to act on your intuition, and
• A helpful way I’ve found to think about constricting and releasing.

There's so much you can do to support yourself (or your clients) when you're feeling constricted.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

If you’ve been hustling and learned how to successfully run your business, but you can tell it’s not sustainable… this episode is for you. Supporters need support too, and I’ve found that many coaches need support in making sure that they're taking care of themselves so that they can sustainably continue to run their practice or business in a way that's aligned for them. I started a hybrid version of my Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for those who want that extra, personalized support for themselves and in turn, their clients; and in this episode I describe the benefits and also share a few clips from Molly Claire, an alumnus of this program.

And what would November be without offering amazing prime options for those who join my programs this month? Click here to get your PRIME PRICING for the hybrid version of this program AND to see my other NOVEMBER offers. 
https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/primepricing

Learn more about the Advanced Trauma Certification by clicking here.

Got questions? Book a call with me.

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Have you ever been in conversations with people that you couldn’t be fully present for, and you're not sure why? Or vice versa? What about as a coach, have you had calls with your clients where it feels like you aren't getting through or connecting and you're not sure why?  If so, you’re in good company. Today I’m speaking about a concept called the Window of Tolerance. Understanding this will support you in becoming more aware of your own optimal space for learning and using mindset work to your advantage. It will also help you see when to drop mindset models that aren't helping you or your clients. 

 In this episode you’ll learn:

• What the window of tolerance is,
• What it looks like to be above or below your window of tolerance,
• And what you can do to get out of that hyper or hypo arousal state;

All so that you can meet your clients where they're at to achieve the results they're looking for. And don't forget about you! Understanding this for yourself is paramount in creating the sustainable dream life you're deserving of. 

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...

Whatever the case may be, it can be hard to navigate current events on a macro (or even micro, personal) level. This episode is for those struggling to create safety during times like these without feeling guilt or shame.  Tune in to learn how to support yourself in times of crisis. And as always, be kind and gentle to your amazing self. 

In this episode I talk about:

• Letting your anger be  (and what it can be telling you),
• When guilt may be masking grief that needs to be felt,
• What "unconventional" self care can also look like, 
• Finding small moments of presence, and more.

Other mentions:
Episode on anger with Jill Freestone
Feminism 101 for Christians, free email series
Episode 52 on dehumanization and the limitations of the cognitive mind

Lindsay’s current program offerings:

• Are you a Certified Coach looking to deepen your skillset by Becoming Trauma-Informed? Click here to see if Lindsay's Advanced Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches is a fit for you. Our next round starts February 1st!
• Looking for a Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification? It’s time to Become a Trauma-Informed Coach. Learn more about Lindsay's life coach certification here.
• Are you needing help healing from Religious Conditioning, or expanding in your Spirituality–safely? Click here.
• Are you Healing from Betrayal Trauma in your Marriage? Click here.

Check out her website here: Website.
Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching

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Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentional healing started when she learned that her husband had been lying to her about pornography use for a greater part of their marriage. After processing a...