Heart Leadership 44 - Devloping an attitude of Service

Making our Lives Easier

It is easy to get bogged down trying to find the optimal plan for change: the fastest way to lose weight, the best programme to build muscle, the perfect idea for a side job. We are so focused on figuring out the best approach that we never get around to taking action.

As Voltaire once wrote, “The best is the enemy of the good." This is the difference between being in motion and taking action. The two ideas sound similar, but they’re not the same. Let's explore....

This week we examine the cause of our bad habits and how to avoid them. The 'higklightd' are as follows....

The cause of our habits is the prediction that precedes them. (the 'activator') This prediction leads to a feeling. Habits are attractive when we associate them with positive feelings and unattractive when we associate them with negative ones.

When we create a motivation ritual by doing something we enjoy immediately before a difficult habit it then becomes a pleasure to do.

Let's examine this topic in more depth....

For a summary of the key points please find this link to an i-MindMap
https://jimbennett.global/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/ZeChanges-2.pdf

Whenever we are unsure how to act, we look to the group (the many) to guide our behaviour. We are constantly scanning our environment and wondering, “What is everyone else doing?” We check reviews on Amazon or Yelp or TripAdvisor because we want to imitate the “best” buying, eating, and travel habits....

Likewise, humans everywhere pursue power, prestige, and status. Historically, a person with greater power and status has access to more resources, worries less about survival, and proves to be a more attractive mate. Let's explore in more depth....

This week we look at culure and the role of family and friends in shaping our habits. Humans are herd animals. We want to fit in, to bond with others, and to earn the respect and approval of our peers. Such inclinations are essential to our survival. For most of our evolutionary history, our ancestors lived in tribes. Becoming separated from the tribe, or worse, being cast out—was a death sentence. “The lone wolf dies, but the pack survives.”

As Charles Darwin noted, “In the long history of humankind, those who learned to collaborate and improvise most effectively have prevailed.” As a result, one of the deepest human desires is to belong. And this ancient preference exerts a powerful influence on our modern behaviour.

We'll explore the powerful effect of those close to us in our social environment.....


Please click this link for more details
https://jimbennett.global/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/ZeChangesRev1.pdf

In our 2nd STEP of ZeChange let's learn how to make a habit attractive and irresistible.
It may not be possible to transform every habit into a supernormal stimulus, we can however make any habit more enticing. To do this, we must start by understanding what a craving is and how it works. Today we begin by examining a biological signature that all habits share—the dopamine spike.

Research has shwn that when it comes to habits dopamine is released not only when we experience pleasure,but when we anticipate it. It is the anticipation of a reward, not the fulfillment of it, that gets us to take action. Our brain has far more neural circuitry allocated for wanting rewards than for liking.

Let's explore in more depth....

Please click this link for a 'summarising' i-Midmap.
https://jimbennett.global/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/ZeChanges.pdf

As we move forward in our journey of culture and behavioural change in creating good habits lets look deeper into the secret's of self-control and review our 1st Step Principles as follows:

• The inversion of the 1st STEP of Behaviour Change is make it invisible.
• Once a habit is formed, it is unlikely to be forgotten.
• People with high self-control tend to spend less time in tempting situations. It’s easier to avoid temptation than resist it.
• One of the most practical ways to eliminate a bad habit is to reduce exposure to the cue that causes it. Self-control is a short-term strategy, not a long-term one.

We continue our journey of looking at Step 1 in Making it obvious where we discover the motivation can be overrated at times and our environment matters more ar certain times as follows:

1. Small changes in context can lead to large changes in behaviour over time.
2. Every habit is initiated by a cue. We are more likely to notice cues that stand out.
3. Make the cues of good habits obvious in your environment.
4. Gradually, your habits become associated not with a single trigger but with the entire context surrounding the behaviour. The context becomes the cue.
5. t is easier to build new habits in a new environment because you are not fighting against old cues.

The 1st STEP of Habit Behaviour Change is make it obvious.

The two most common cues are time and location:

• Creating an implementation intention is a strategy you can use to pair a new habit with a specific time and location.
• The implementation intention formula is: I will [BEHAVIOUR] at [TIME] in [LOCATION].
• Habit stacking is a strategy that you can use to pair a new habit with a current habit.
• The habit stacking formula is: After [CURRENT HABIT], I will [NEW HABIT].

Let's explore in some more depth.....

The human brain is a prediction machine. It is continuously taking in your surroundings and analyzing the information it comes across.

Whenever you experience something repeatedly your brain begins noticing what is important, sorting through the details and highlighting the relevant cues, and cataloguing that information for future use.

With enough practice, you can pick up on the cues that predict certain outcomes without consciously thinking about it. Automatically, your brain encodes the lessons learned through experience.

It gives us a way of observing the cues that creates our habits that help us change our behaviours...

A habit is a behaviour that has been repeated enough times to become automatic. The process of habit formation begins with trial and error. Whenever you encounter a new situation in life, your brain has to make a decision.

Occasionally, you stumble across a solution. You’re feeling anxious, and you discover that going for a run calms you down. You’re mentally exhausted from a long day of work, and you learn that playing video games relaxes you.

You’re exploring, exploring, exploring, and then —a 'Eureka moment' that gives a reward. After you stumble upon an unexpected reward, you alter your strategy for next time. Your brain immediately begins to catalog the events that preceded the reward. Wait a minute—that felt good. What did I do right before that?

Let's explore in more depth.....