How Bad Do You Want It?

Social media is like a fun house mirror at the circus; there is some truth to it but it's an absolute distortion of reality. All of the "successful" people that you see have one true thing in common and it's not the Lambos and beachfront properties...it's that they've all FAILED more times than they could count.

It isn't popular to talk about failing. In fact, if you have any ego at all, it can actually be very embarassing. 

What if we knew that the ONLY way to accomplish the goals that we have is through failure? Would you be more likely to fail?

Derek talks about a few very specific instances of failure that have happened and how it has allowed him to grow despite the ego hits. These examples will show you why it is these "successful" people that we all see seem to continue winning...but it's always after failure.

If you live rural you definitely know what a bungee cord is. You've probably used them to tie down things or strap things in at some point. So...what does a bungee cord have to do with us holding back our progress?

In this episode, Derek dives deep into stretching our capacity and how it is the single greatest factor in growing our mindset and mental toughness. 

Most of us will never know why we are holding ourselves back because most of us won't ever push the limits far enough to know what we're actually capable of. It's hard to know how far we can stretch ourselves if we stay in our comfort zone. Almost all lives that aren't fulfilled come back to a capacity problem.  If you are wondering what is keeping you from hitting that next level, this is the episode specifically made for YOU!

Derek had a memory pop up from two years ago that can teach us all a HUGE lesson...

Two years ago, his daughter wasn't able to get a single minute of playing time in her team's championship game. With Derek's history in sports, he wasn't used to not being in the game and it was even harder to see his daughter not get a single second of playing time. 

This may not seem like the end of the world for most but kids take things like this pretty hard. They feel like it's "unfair" and want to become a victim. Is that attitude one that will help you have success though?

When we go through our own version of the storm, it can be very hard to move forward. We may want to just feel sorry for ourselves or think that it's taking to long to get to the daylight. 

After two short years, Derek's daughter is now pulled up to the varsity team and getting tons of playing time (as an 8th grader) because of what happened after that day two years ago. 

When it feels like everything is coming down on you, keep moving forward. It may only be an inch at a time...but over time those inches will turn into miles and you won't even recognize where you used to be.

We always hear how much people that achieve greatness have to sacrifice. Almost everyone has their own "success story" that they talk about. It could be the amount of hours that they had to put in. It could be how hard they had to work. It may be how much money they invested or borrowed. These are stories that are talked about ALL THE TIME.

But what about the cost of greatness that could impact our mental health?

What about the amount of hate that could come your way at any time?

After a week in Vegas and seeing what his former boss went through after some controversy, Derek is taking you through the little talked about downside of success: the amount of people that don't actually want you to succeed. It was on full display after his fromer boss' incident recently.

Not only will Derek walk you through what this looks like but more importantly, how you get past it. The jealousy and nay-sayers should NEVER hold you back. If you have ever felt this or if you are planning on achieving greatness, this is a must listen episode!

We all want to believe that we are irreplaceable, right? After all, most of us think we are the most important person ever created...but what if we actually aren't that important at all? 

In the past couple weeks, we have seen two of the most respected and successful coaches in football retire and each of them had their replacement hired within 48 hours. We've all seen loved ones and famous people pass away and life still goes on. What do you think will actually happen when it's your time to pass on? Most likely the same thing...

Understand that this shouldn't be all "doom and gloom" though. It is actually very freeing when you know that most of the world will move on when you're gone so you might as well keep that perspective when it comes to living to your truest form. In other words, if no one (outside of our closest friends and some family members) really cares, we should be able to eliminate all fear and attack life the way that we should...ALL OUT!

Tune into this episode if you struggle with a fear of judgement or if you just struggle to take in criticism. It will be a game changer!!!

Jeramiah Solven is a decorated former Army Ranger, an Ultra Racer (completing multiple 100+ mile races), a podcast host and a leadership and high performance coach. To say that he has completerd a few challenging things in his life would be a huge understatement. 

In this converstaion, Derek and Jeramiah dive into not just deciding what you want in life like so many will try to do and most likely fail. Why is that? Because it always comes back to who you must become in order to achieve what you want. It's not a destination, it's an identity.

This will be the hard hitting episode around mental toughness that will push you through all of those goals that you set for this new year and will also provide you with some of the critical tools needed to live the best life possible!

It's hard to argue that we have moved from a spiritual world to a digital world. Data, metrics and measurements have taken over where we might have been able to clearly hear our intuition. We can complain about it but we're all guilty.

If everything you do is only based on logic and data, are you missing out on a critical voice? Maybe even the voice of God? Derek believes so...

In this episode, Derek does his best to lay out a couple of real world stories that made him realize that the 6th sense that some talk about isn't some sort of woo-woo, fairy dust stuff...it's as real as any data that could be captured on a computer. 

Ignore those feelings and that "voice" at your own peril...

Will 2024 be one of, if not the most, chaotic years most of us have ever seen? If so, what can we do to THRIVE despite any of the chaos?

Do you have a gut feeling that we are walking into a pretty volatile year? So many people seem to have the feeling that we are. With so many different things that could escalate into chaos such as middle eastern wars, our southern border being wide open, civil unrest, high interest, cost of living and inflation and the list goes on and on. It seems like the table has been set for a very challenging year.

With that being said, we are not put here to live in a spirit of fear. In fact, it may be the best year ever to show your courage and mental toughness...if you have it. 

In this episode, Derek and Jess cover some of the heavy issues that could be heading our way but at the same time they lay out exactly what can be done to not only survive 2024 regardless of how tough it gets but how to THRIVE regardless of the circumstances!

Frank Sell has been an entreprenuer for over 20 years and has the bumps and bruises to show it. It all started with a $100 investment into a VHS tape to learn how to fix hail damaged cars.

For anyone that has ever started and grown a business, they know exactly how hard it can be to get things up and going. On the other hand, having someone tell you what you'll make and when you'll work and not work can be equally as hard so Frank chose the path of an entrepreneur. 

One of his famous quotes as to how he has achieved his success is "pound the pavement so hard that they'll send you a bill to fix the potholes," and that's exactly what he did.

After getting the taste of success, Frank when on to start multiple other businesses and is now in the process of scaling his coffee business called "Get SH!T Done!" Coffee Co which is as much as a lifestyle as it is a drink.

If you are looking for an afternoon shot motivation, make sure to check out this episode with Frank Sell!

Have you ever heard someone say "don't take it so personal?" Most of us have...

Rather than not taking things personal, maybe we should. Maybe we SHOULD hold enough of a grudge to fuel the fire that otherwise might not be there.

In this episode Derek goes through several examples of people that have taken things personally. From athletes to business owners and everyone in between, the best of the best always seem to be able to compartmentalize that darker energy and harness it for good.

The next time someone tells you to "not take it so personal," you absolutely should consider taking it VERY personal and using it as the fuel to crush your goals!