How Do I Know If He Is Getting Better? with Michael and Kristin Cary

In this episode, Cody and Michelle share their devastating story of betrayal due to sexual addiction and affairs in the workplace. His actions completely blindsided Michelle while Cody lied and hid in self-protection mode, unable to face the reality of where his addiction had taken him. Their story begins, like most, before they were ever together but chose to seek individual and couple's work in an attempt to experience freedom and healing. Years later, they are now the newest addition to R2M Certified Coaches and are leading our next Couples Course 1 starting on Thursday, September 14th, 2023!

Listen now to hear how they share the hurt and pain of betrayal, the questions and conflicts they wrestled with, and how God took them from crisis to closeness.

Resources:
https://restored2more.com/courses/
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/

Hey, y'all! Wow, it has been a hot minute since we have been able to record!

Today we share what's happened and why we haven't recorded a podcast in four months. We update you on what we learned through losing our home and how God has used it for good in our lives. 

Next Tuesday, we launch course 1 for a new self-led 8-week session with a pivot that makes it more affordable, accessible, and convenient. Check out the details in this episode, and then sign up through the link below. Thank you for all your continued prayers and support!

Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/

Hillary Morgan Ferrer is the founder and Mama-Bear-in-Chief of Mama Bear Apologetics. She is the chief author and editor of the bestselling Mama Bear Apologetics: Empowering Your Kids to Challenge Cultural Lies and Mama Bear Apologetics Guide to Sexuality: Empowering Your Kids to Understand and Live Out God's Design. Hillary has her master's degree in biology from Clemson University and a master's degree in apologetics from Biola University. 

Today she shares how she was led to a deeper understanding of God and inclined to worship during her master's in biology. She explains how as she studied cell biology, she was given  example after example of how the physical attributes of our body point us to God and the spiritual realm. Her teachings and writings have inspired thousands of people to understand and experience how physical things continue to point us to the spiritual. 

She explains that if the physical points us to the spiritual, then gender and marriage have new meanings and purposes. She teaches that our bodies are the language of God's mystery, a roadmap guiding us into deeper intimacy with the Divine. 

One of our favorite moments in this recording was understanding how sex has been so perverted in our culture, distorting our view and understanding of God.  

One of the amazing questions Charity asked is, "What does it look like for us to celebrate our kid's sexuality, guide them in what is appropriate but avoid shaming them for things that they have done wrong?" Hillary takes the question and adds a new perspective on how gratitude and humility play a huge part in leading our kids in their sexuality. We too often avoid choosing gratitude and showing mercy because of our own brokenness and pride. If we can teach our kids to be self-aware through our own example of awareness, our children can choose Christ instead of merely abstaining from sin out of unhealthy motives. 

The challenge is: "Are we being then Deputy Holy Spirit to our kids and leading with shame? Or are we leading with an example of humility and gratitude?"

Hillary Morgan and Mama Bear Apologetics:
https://mamabearapologetics.com/
https://www.instagram.com/mamabearapologetics/


Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/

How many of us are affected by a story of sexual brokenness?
How many of us feel lost and isolated in our shame?
How many of us feel disconnected from community and are tempted to feel hopeless? 

In this podcast, we share the stats of sexual brokenness and the mission God has called us to. We invite YOU to be a part of the movement and ask if you would pray about partnering with us to reclaim enemy territory. Today, Clinton and I repent. We're sorry for trying to do too much on our own and not asking for your help sooner. We now see that we have deprived you of the blessing of sharing the load and burden for this ministry.

 In this episode, we vulnerably share the journey of Restored 2 More and God calling us out of our previous lines of work to build this ministry. We explain how it started, the trials we faced early on, and the struggles we now face that could potentially shut us down. We believe that God will make a way and is already impressing on people's hearts about how they can become a partner and a teammate for the restoration movement in Jesus' name.

Listen today, but most of all, pray. Pray and ask God how He wants to lead you. Pray that we would be humble yet bold. Pray that our faith would be unshakeable and that in all trials, we would consider it joy and press into Jesus. Thank you for listening, but more importantly, thank you for participating in the work God has called us to.

How to contact us to become a partner:

email: cmunoz@restored2more.com
https://restored2more.com/contact/#1
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/

Why do parents avoid talking to their kids about sex? John Fort says it comes down to four primary reasons:

1. It will strain my relationship with my kid.
2. I might ruin my child’s innocence.
3. My kid will find out about my past.
4. It will be too much work.

John shares resources and insights to help us navigate these fears and use our mistakes and sexual brokenness to build a bridge with our children. What we can view as a barrier is actually the glue that creates safety and connection while talking with our kids about sex. John repeatedly refers to a quote he often uses while teaching seminars and writing books, “Your failures are what qualify you to talk to your kids about sex.”

In the past two decades, parents have spent four times more time with their kids, setting the stage for these conversations. We, as parents, can need a little bit of guidance and handholding on how to start these conversations. Today John shares resources and practical tools to help us talk to kids who range in their ages from toddlers to adult children.  

Join us for a powerful message and teaching on how we as parents can talk about sex with our children. 

John Fort/Be Broken Ministries Resources:
https://2.bebroken.com/store/c2/books
https://2.bebroken.com/index.html
https://2.bebroken.com/parent-consult.html

Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/

Today's podcast is with Josh Glaser, Executive Director of Regeneration Ministries. 

Josh loved God and hated pornography from a young age but couldn't understand how God could let him struggle with his addiction. He shares how he shakes his fist at God one night in college and asks Him, "Why aren't you taking this away?!" Josh then shares a powerful story and brings to life a parable of Jesus that demonstrates the love of the Father and how His heart is more for his child's maturity and dependence than on the purging of something painful.

In this episode, Josh shares his heart for people to experience freedom and how sexuality and spirituality were never meant to be in opposition. Josh shares how his behavior demonstrated that he was reaching for something and only knew how to find comfort in misusing his sexuality. He elaborates on how his early childhood played a massive role in his dependence on pornography and how it offered him community, importance, comfort, and a way to feel loved and accepted. The way out for Josh was learning how to seek Jesus instead of seeking unwanted sexual behavior and understanding what he was truly seeking. Instead of God removing our unwanted sexual behavior, he can re-direct our focus and desire, allowing us to experience Jesus on a new level, changing our behavior and actions to reach for and experience Him.

This episode has many magic, intimate and inspirational moments. A big thanks to Josh for his powerful testimony and teaching,  transparency, revelation, and understanding.

Josh Glaser and Regeneration Resources:
https://www.regenerationministries.org/
https://www.regenerationministries.org/resources/
https://www.joshglaser.com/

Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/

While at a conference in St. Louis, I got the privilege to interview Linda Noble and Linda Stewart from The Conversation Workshop. In this episode, they share how understanding the meaning behind God's design of our body can bring us closer to Jesus and reveal a  new perspective on our biology.  

In a season of distress and depression, Linda Noble shares how God flipped the script and led her to experience Himself in a way she never had before. She states, "I had never understood that His love and was full of pursuit and that his utmost desire was for me to know him, flourish and thrive."  

How do we experience the love of Jesus? What does it mean to be a human person, and what is the meaning behind sex, singleness, marriage, and our body? What if understanding these topics could point us closer to Jesus and expand our understanding of His will for our lives?  

Linda Noble explains how the design of the human body reveals God's invitation for love and communion with Himself. And why the "rules, the dos and do nots" fall short because they lack the meaning behind God's message.

This podcast is pivotal not only for ourselves but also for us parents raising kids in a time where our body is being attacked by culture. As parents, we need to know the why behind our kids' questions and the meaning behind God's teachings. 

Join me today for a great conversation with the Lindas from The Conversation Workshop.

The Conversation Workshops Resources:
https://theconversationworkshop.com/
https://theconversationworkshop.com/book
https://www.facebook.com/theconversationworkshop/

Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/

Unfortunately, we were taught, “if you just have consistent sex, he  won’t desire or use pornography.” But if that were the case, we wouldn’t be here today leading Restored 2 More Inc.  We know first-hand how painful it is to act on a perspective that isn’t rooted in truth or that comes from a loving but uneducated person. 

In this episode, Clinton gets super raw and real about how he struggled after we were sexually intimate and reflects on the brokenness he constantly experienced.  We share how our perspective of sex was influenced by the church, our culture, families of origin, and our own experiences. 

As you listen to this episode, ask yourself: 
What do you believe about sex? 
What did the church, culture, or community teach you about sex?
How much of your belief is rooted in truth and the teachings of scripture?

We hope you realize that you are not alone and that help exists.  Today, alongside our course #1, we get to promote the fantastic work of Juli Slattery and her team at Authentic Intimacy. Check out the resources below.

 Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/

Authentic Intimacy
https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
https://www.authenticintimacy.com/rethinking

Roane and Eva Hunter are sexual wholeness missionaries. Yes, they are board-certified licensed professional counselors and certified sex addiction therapists, authors, speakers, and teachers, but their heart for Jesus has inspired it all.  After reading their newest book, Sex, God, and the Chaos of Betrayal, Charity and  I were excited to have them be on the podcast to discuss the book further. Today they educate us on other traumas present in their personal story, such as deception and disclosure trauma that they needed to heal from. We also get the opportunity to hear the behind-the-scenes of their story and pick their brain on a few topics they write about in their book, such as the trauma wall, the C’s of rebuilding trust and safety, and how to use Fanos for a healthy communication tool.

Check out their material below and get their newest book on Amazon or their website.

Roane and Eva's Resources:
https://sexgodchaos.com/
https://sexgodchaos.com/book

Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/

One day Clinton looked depressed after his therapy appointment. He was sad and had a distant look in his eyes. I asked him what was wrong, and his response made me feel confused, disturbed, and disgusted. His answer created a pit in my stomach, but something inside told me to ask questions and be curious instead of condemning and criticizing him. 

“I miss pornography,” he said.  “I’m grieving the relationship I’ve had with porn and masturbation, and today I am really feeling the weight of it being gone.”

“What?!” I thought, “how is this even possible that you could miss something so painful, damaging, and grotesque?!”

In this episode, we uncover what it looked like to grieve the loss of pornography and then adventure and discover a life free from the toxic relationship. We hope that in this episode, we can relate, educate and encourage you to continue your journey of becoming Restored 2 More!

 Our Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
https://restored2more.com/
https://restored2more.com/courses/