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    How Quality Time Impacts Our Health and Relationships

    enDecember 23, 2021
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    About this Episode

    David Sbarra is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Arizona, and he directs the Laboratory for Social Connectedness and Health. His research is centered around the psychological and physical health of relationships. David studies why and in what contexts relationships promote or hinder good health, the consequences of ending a relationship through breakup or divorce, and how people cope with difficult relationship transitions.

    In this episode…

    How do you connect with your partner on a deeper level? Is it possible to increase your level of satisfaction with your relationship and your mental health?

    There are opportunities to extend a deeper connection with your partner. How? David Sbarra says it is through attention and intention, you devote quality time to your partner and orient your relationship around self-esteem and personal growth. Are you ready to capture and put your relationship on the path to blossoming in the long run?

    In this episode of Our.Love Podcast, Jim Coan is joined by David Sbarra, Professor of Psychology at the University of Arizona, to discuss creating and maintaining value in your relationships. David talks about the research behind the association between relationships and mental health, responding to your partner’s needs, and the importance of cultivating your relationship by being attentive and digging deeper to connect deeply.

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