How to Ask for Help

Do you wonder why you seem to keep choosing toxic relationships? Are you stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns? Do you make promises to yourself about how you will “never” allow someone to treat you "that way" again, only to find yourself right back in the same situation again and again?

If any of the above resonates, this episode is for you. 

In this episode, we will examine how loving yourself is the key to having healthy relationships.

As you heal your relationship with yourself through self-love then four things will begin to happen:

1.Your “chooser” will begin to heal
2.Your “tolerator” will begin to heal
3.Your “attractor” will begin to heal
4.Your “needer” will begin to heal 

I hope that by the end of this episode, you will see that the greatest gift you can give yourself and others in relationships is to first love yourself. 

“I can do nothing for you but work on myself...you can do nothing for me but work on yourself!” – Ram Daas

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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Asking the question "what if" can either spiral us into fear and hopelessness or catapult us into the life we want. 

One of the ways we heal is by using our imagination. When we dream of what we can be, we will begin to move ourselves in that direction. 

In this episode, we look at the following:

• The Power of Asking a Question
• How Asking "What If" Can Change Your Life
• Engaging the Creative Mind in Healing
• Switching From Fear to Faith
• Engaging Your Brain: Write it and Visualize it 
• Stepping Out and Taking Action

I hope by the end of this episode, you start asking yourself, "What if I deeply healed," "What if my life was full of love," "What if you gave yourself permission to love yourself."

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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Do you feel like your own worst enemy? Are you constantly avoiding yourself? Are you uncomfortable being in your own presence?

In this episode, I discuss the following:

1. What is self-avoidance
2. Why we avoid ourselves
3. What happens when we avoid ourselves
4. How we can stop avoiding ourselves
5. What happens when we return to ourselves
6. Why you are not your own worst enemy.
7. How solitude can help with self-connection
8. The benefits of meditation in healing self-avoidance
9. Living a mindful and self-connected life

This episode can really be a great tool in learning how to stop avoiding yourself and learn how to connect with your healer: YOU.

You are worthy of loving yourself,
Jerry

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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Shame is one of the most devious emotions. It tricks us into thinking we are the shame. 

Shame has to be addressed as a part of our healing process. We will stay stuck as long as we think we are the shame. Stuck believing that something is wrong with us and that we can’t heal.

The wonderful news is that we can heal and get free from shame, and one of the first places to start is to disidentify from it.

In this episode, we look at the following:

1. What is shame
2. What is the difference between guilt and shame
3. How do we become identified with shame
4. How do we get addicted to shame
5. How do we disidentify from shame and start to heal
6. How can we retrain ourselves to love ourselves and not feel shame

This is such an important episode, and understanding these principles was a milestone in my healing process. 

I am so grateful you are here and investing in your healing journey. 

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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Asking for help can be really hard, and it is a significant and brave step in our healing.

When we are serious about our healing, we will start to ask for help when we need it. 

But why is it so hard to ask for help? What keeps us from asking for help when we need it?

This episode is a continuation of the "How We Heal" series. 

In this episode, we take a look at the following:

1. What keeps us from asking for help.
2. Getting clarity on what you need help with.
3. Getting clarity on the right person or resource you need.
4. How to make the ask for help

I hope this episode helps you in taking the steps towards getting the help you need.

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You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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Over the next several months, I will be sharing step-by-step the process I went through to learn how to heal the childhood trauma I experienced, my life, and my relationships by healing my relationship with myself. 

In this episode, I share the first step, the choice to heal, and how to make that choice stick.

We often choose to heal, but shortly afterward, we feel the backward pull that ultimately causes us to give up on our healing journey.

Part of making the choice stick is understanding that change is possible, that change is possible for us, and that we are worthy of healing. 

As a part of this series, I would love to have you share topics and questions with me that you would find helpful for your journey.

You can heal, and it starts with the choice to start healing. 

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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Does our past really matter? Why does every therapist want to go digging around in our past? What is the connection between our past and our current struggles? 

In this episode, I am joined once again by my therapist, Lisa Kemppainen, as we discuss these questions and more. 

You can heal, and an important part of the healing process is returning to the parts of us that were wounded and learning to love them and to get them unstuck.

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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Have you ever wondered how yoga and meditation can help with healing from trauma? 

I'm so grateful to have my wife, Agatha, join me for this episode. 

Agatha spent six years studying yoga and meditation in India.  She is a certified yoga and meditation instructor with thousands of hours of training and teaching. 

In this episode, we discuss:

- How yoga and meditation were such important parts of Agatha's healing from childhood trauma and other painful life experiences. 
- How can yoga help calm our nervous systems?  
- How can our breath help us reconnect with ourselves?   
- How to live "off the mat"
- A guided meditation led by Agatha.

We both hope this episode can be helpful in your healing journey,
Jerry

Contact Information for Agatha:

Email:

namaste@akshayoga.com

Website:

https://www.akshayoga.com

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/aagathaah
Podcast:
Mindful Souls 101

Resources:

For yoga and meditation:

https://www.akshayoga.com

https://yogananda.org

https://www.headspace.com

https://insighttimer.com

https://theyogainstitute.org

Agatha's Recommended Reading List:

• The Yoga Sutras of Maharishi Patanjali
• The Bhagavad Gita
• AutoBiography of a Yogi - Paramahansa Yogananda
• Yoga for Better Living - Agatha Figueiroa Henderson
• Beyond Codependency - Melody Beattie
• Codependent No More - Melody Beattie

If you have a loved one who struggles with alcoholism:

https://al-anon.org

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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In the final part of our conversation, Lisa and I discussed how to connect with our emotions and understand what they are trying to tell us. As well as how to connect with our inner child for emotional healing. 

When was the last time you truly listened to what your anxiety or depression was trying to tell you? As I sit down with my therapist, Lisa, we peel back the layers of emotion to reveal the hidden messages within. 

This episode offers an enlightening perspective that invites you to shift the way you view these feelings, seeing them not as adversaries but as allies, signaling the need for self-care. 

Together, we navigate the uncomfortable but necessary process of completing emotional cycles that trauma may have interrupted, charting a course toward genuine healing and personal growth.

Growing up, we crafted survival strategies and carried self-blame into adulthood, often without realizing their origins in our childhood experiences. 

At the heart of our discussion lies the impact of these early traumas and their ongoing influence on how we perceive the world. Lisa guides us through understanding the crucial link between our adult selves and our inner child, shedding light on negative beliefs that may be holding us back. 

Embracing the practice of nurturing our inner child, we embark on a path to authenticity, self-awareness, and freedom from the shackles of the past.

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

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Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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Curiosity can completely change the energy on how we approach our healing process.

Come join Lisa and I as we discuss how curiosity can be a key factor in opening our hearts and helping us heal. 

This is part two of a conversation with my therapist about trauma, shame, and healing. 

In this episode, we discuss: 

- When Lisa and I first connected
- Addressing the problem not just the symptom
- Challenges with finding a good therapist
- Curiosity in the healing process
- Sitting with uncomfortable feelings. 
- Allowing discomfort as a part of healing. 
- A special offer for listeners/viewers

When I first connected with my therapist, Lisa, I had no idea just how transformative her unique approach to trauma would prove to be for me. 

In this series we reflect on our own paths through pain and the empowering role therapy has played in rediscovering our worth, a conversation that promises to resonate deeply with anyone who's ever felt lost in their own story. 

Our candid discussion serves as an invitation to listeners to embark on their own healing process, one gentle step at a time. 

If you would like to work with Lisa as a therapist or coach, you can contact her by email at greenlisa5164@me.com 

We hope this episode serves you on your journey of returning to yourself! 

You are worthy of your own love,
Jerry

My New Book:
Returning: Meditations and Reflections on Self-Love and Healing

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