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    How To Find the Hidden Money You Are Entitled To During Your Divorce - with Tracy Coenen

    en-usJanuary 25, 2023
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    About this Episode

    BTGO welcomes forensic accountant and investigator Tracy Coenen (Instagram @divorcemoneyguide), who discusses how to tell if there's financial fraud in your marriage, why it's so important to do a cost/benefit analysis before hiring a forensic expert, and how to save yourself money during the discovery process.


    Need help with your own situation? Go to our website BeenThereGotOut.com and sign up for a free Discovery call (click the top red button on the homepage), and/or check out our weekly Legal Abuse Support Group (bottom blue button).


    If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.




    Recorded: December 1st, 2022

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