Podcast Summary
Showing up despite imposter feelings: Don't let fear of rejection or failure define you. Push past imposter feelings and view setbacks as opportunities for growth. Persist and keep moving forward.
Radical Confidence, as described by Lisa Diu, is not about teaching people how to be confident, but rather how to show up even when they don't feel confident. Lisa shared her personal experience of reaching out to Gary Vee despite feeling like an imposter and the importance of pushing past the negative voice in your head that tells you that you don't belong or don't have the right to take action. Lisa emphasized the importance of not letting the fear of rejection or failure define you and instead viewing it as an opportunity for growth. She also discussed the importance of persistence and keeping moving forward, even when you're scared or unsure. Overall, the message is that confidence is not a prerequisite for success, but rather something that can be developed through action and determination.
Imposter Syndrome: Feeling Like a Fraud Despite Knowing Better: Our self-worth should come from within, not external validation. Imposter syndrome can lead to feelings of insecurity and confidence issues, caused by the weight of others' opinions. Remember, people don't have a complete understanding of who we are.
Our perception of ourselves and our worth can be heavily influenced by the opinions of others, even strangers. This was evident in a story shared about an interaction with a celebrity, where the speaker felt the weight of not living up to others' expectations, despite knowing that they don't truly know her. This phenomenon, known as imposter syndrome, is common and can lead to feelings of insecurity and confidence issues. The speaker also touched on the human capability to overvalue others' opinions, even though we logically understand that people don't have a complete understanding of who we are. It's important to remember that our values and self-worth should come from within, rather than external validation. Additionally, the speaker shared her personal fear of miscommunication and being misunderstood in social situations, highlighting the importance of clear communication and being present in the moment.
The power of authenticity and compassion in human interaction: Authenticity and compassion help us navigate relationships with confidence and resilience, focusing on the present moment and building meaningful connections.
While we may have an impact on how others perceive us, ultimately, we cannot control their feelings or reactions. The power of authenticity and compassion lies in our ability to show up as our best selves and respond with kindness, even when faced with adversity or rejection. Compassion is a powerful tool that can help us navigate relationships with confidence and resilience. It's important to remember that our emotions can sometimes cloud our judgment, and it's crucial to maintain a level of detachment from the results of our actions to avoid getting derailed from our path. Success and positive outcomes are not guaranteed, but the present moment and the relationships we build along the way are. By focusing on our authenticity, compassion, and detachment, we can navigate the complexities of human interaction and continue to grow and learn from each experience.
Forming judgments based on limited interactions or external validation can keep us stuck: Assess goals, risks, and resources to make informed decisions and avoid regrets in old age
People often form judgments based on limited interactions or external validation, which can keep them stuck in their current situation. Lisa shares her personal experience of being a stay-at-home wife for eight years, receiving validation from her community but staying trapped in a mundane life. She believes that regret is worse than losing and encourages taking calculated risks to avoid living with regret in old age. The concept of "no bullshit" game is introduced, where one sets a goal, assesses what it takes to achieve it, and decides whether to pursue it with clarity. This approach eliminates the "what if" regrets that come from not taking action. The discussion highlights the importance of self-assessment and decision-making, rather than relying on external validation or fear of judgment.
Realizing Insecurities Even in Success: Even successful individuals can have lingering insecurities. Embrace them and use as fuel to move forward.
Even after achieving great success, insecurities can still linger. For Lisa Benson, the realization came when she was offered a book deal despite her previous accomplishments with Quest, a billion-dollar company, and Impact Data with over half a billion views. Instead of feeling confident, her first reaction was to wonder who would buy the book for her. This moment served as a reminder that the insecure part of herself, which was present since her teenage years, was still there. However, Lisa learned that with radical confidence, she could still use her tools and show up despite her insecurities. It's a common experience for everyone to have pockets of insecurity and pockets of confidence in their lives. The key is to embrace the insecurity and use it as fuel to move forward.
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