How To Handle The Big Changes That Make Us Grow

Welcome back to the Voices of Disruption podcast! I am glad that you’re here. This episode is all about coming back to spaces that we’ve left and asking ourselves: what gets to stay? and what still serves us this season of life? I get real and honest about how the past 10 months have been, including talking about friendship, emotional growth, my relationship with my therapist, and stillness.

TW (trigger warning), there is a mention of depression in this episode. I want to be authentic about what returning to the show means to me and how we can reimagine VOD together. More conversations on mental health are needed and the arts thrive from this place. As I continue to step into being a multimedia artist, disrupting my career path, and prioritizing wellness, owning this power looks like taking inventory for what’s next and what has been. When I first started the podcast, I was told that podfading (or not releasing an episode for more than 90 days) was the worst thing that could happen. Now that it has been almost 10 months, I realize that the breaks are inevitable and there is an art to returning to the things we love and care for. Find out more in the episode!

ABOUT THE SHOW // The VODPOD is all about centering voices and stories of Generation Z authentically, hosted by a routine pasta maker who is almost in her 20s or Deb Olatunji. As voices of disruption, we recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and embrace storytelling in a  way that sparks thought, inspiration, action, and conversation. Every time that you disrupt, you step into a power that allows you to create, uplift, and empower yourself and others. Thank you for listening! I appreciate your presence! All love, Deb <3

LIVE DISRUPTED // The questions to ask yourself after listening to this episode are now available on the podcast page! Check out @voicesofdisruption on Instagram and follow us for more disruption. We love hearing from you! Write a review because words of affirmation are my number one love language and I want know your thoughts <3

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We’re celebrating one year of the Voices of Disruption podcast on this week’s episode as well as the return of the podcast. After a much-needed break between the transition of summer to the new school year, the stories that need to be heard are coming in HOT from this space of vulnerability, empathy, and rejuvenation.

One year ago, I sat in my freshman dorm room and hit record on a software I was unfamiliar with using. This week’s episode was recorded in my sophomore dorm room with completely different world conditions than when that first episode went live. Sharing stories is such a huge part of my identity now, in the moments when I’m uploading regularly, being present with the people I love, and trying to understand the world around me. Thank you so much for being a member of this community. I really love and appreciate every single one of you.  Thanks again for listening and disrupting and sharing and growing with me!

In this episode of the VODPOD, I talk about what the past four months (June-September 2021) have been like, living with my close friends, moving from Boston to Philadelphia, navigating college life, and updates on my personal growth journey. I also share how shifts in my mental wellness have shaped my relationship with creativity and how I’ve dealt with some recent challenges in my life. I dive into the sacred practice of allowing others to show up for you and inviting softness into every area of connection. As someone who is often seen as a source of inspiration, I talk about the limitations behind the dimensions of our personhood online. The value of being present, speaking truths out loud, and discovering the new are all unraveled in this episode! Two months ago, I wrote the phrase “glory in the mystery” in a journaling session and this week I finally explored what this term means to me. I look at how this statement and affirmation to search for casual magic in the midst of madness has helped me through the constant change in my life, from changing my major to redefining what it means to be challenged as a student.

The VODPOD is all about centering voices and stories of Generation Z authentically. As voices of disruption, we recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and embrace storytelling in a  way that sparks thought, inspiration, action, and conversation. Every time that you disrupt, you step into a power that allows you to create, uplift, and empower yourself and others.

LIVE DISRUPTED: Questions to ask yourself after listening to this episode:

• What are things that I can celebrate in my life? (even the things that seem small)
• What does “finding glory in the mystery” mean to me in this season of my life?
• Who can I check in on today? How’s my well? What can I do to fill my well so I can check in on someone else?

You can follow my instagram @deb_olatunji, the podcast page,  and the website to stay updated and uplifted! Be sure to leave a rating and write a review so that we can continue to share the stories of how fellow disruptors are being connected and empowered all over the world. Let’s disrupt together now!

Happy August! Last week, we started to get into how our upbringing affects the way we view relationships, so it only makes sense to dive deeper this week into how culture shapes our entire lives and beliefs. As a Nigerian-American, I grew up between the crossroads of two different worlds, or as today’s guest would call it, the realities and stories of having a hyphenated identity. In this week’s episode, I chat with Phoebe Omonira to discuss empathy, growing gains and pains, leading generational shifts, establishing boundaries, navigating mental health support amongst stigma in the West African community, practicing mutual respect, and unlearning self-limiting beliefs. 

We talk about how parents and teenagers can coexist in a healthy way and try to understand the imposter syndrome that comes from growing up in two very different cultures. From anti-Blackness coded in language to not feeling Black enough in predominantly Black or white spaces, this episode tells the stories we wish we knew of growing up.  Culture is a gift; there are so many things that we are grateful for...but there are also many areas for growth and improvement.

Our childhood homes are the first places where we learn about how to be. Talking about problems in our families is typically seen as disrespectful, but it's only by discussing ways we want things to change for generational progress to happen. If family is a sensitive topic for you, I hope that this episode can bring you comfort and peace. None of us chose to be born, but the choices we make in our lives can lead us to the most incredible joys and discoveries. Sending everyone lots of love and light, regardless of your family situation!!

Learn more about our guest: Phoebe Omonira is an 18-year-old using her voice to raise awareness about the importance of empathy as the key to reducing inequality. Her advocacy work regarding empathy is centered around creating resources for kids and their grown-ups, working with the Center for Children’s Brainhealth of the University of Texas Dallas has been a great joy for her. She will be attending Southern Methodist University in the Fall of 2021 and double majoring in International Studies and Human Rights with a minor in Philosophy on the Pre-Law Track. Her children's book on empathy, Ollie the Elephant, is coming out in 2022. She is currently the Director of Community Outreach at Gen Z Girl Gang, where she works to redefine sisterhood for a new generation.

**This episode was recorded in March. Podcast Rec: Jesus and Jollof

The VODPOD is all about centering voices and stories of Generation Z authentically. As voices of disruption, we recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and embrace storytelling in a  way that sparks thought, inspiration, action, and conversation. Every time that you disrupt, you step into a power that allows you to create, uplift, and empower yourself and others.

LIVE DISRUPTED: Questions to ask yourself after listening to this episode:

• What has your culture taught you about respect? What’s missing?
• What’s something you would tell your younger self that you didn’t learn until later?
• What's been instilled in you that affects the way you interact with people of different cultural backgrounds?

Join and connect with the community on Instagram @deb_olatunji, the podcast page,  and the website! Be sure to leave a rating and write a review on Apple podcasts so that we can continue to share the stories of how fellow disruptors are being connected and empowered all over the world. Let’s disrupt together now!

Let's get straight to the point. The very thought of "shooting your shot" has a clear meaning⁠—making your desires about another person known to said person. They are the forbidden crushes that our parents tell us to ignore in place of academic success, especially if you grew up in an immigrant household. It's the 5 stages of denial, a learned practice we've become way too familiar with in navigating our emotions. 

But what if I told you that the act of shooting your shot is so much bigger than you think? And why has it been painted as taboo? As risqué? As BOLD? It's because going after what you want in relationships and love is one of the most powerful moves you can ever make. 

The nerve-wracking, stomach-turning, gut-tumbling realization that you like someone is a sure sign of your growing humanity and your acceptance of it. Honoring that pull, that rush, that eye-dilating fear to reach out means affirming your ability to want something and open a world of self-trust and confidence.

In this week's episode of the VODPOD, I sit down with my very close friend Amanda to unpack why "shooting your shot" is put below the pursuit of success and how our upbringing and culture view's on relationship building can make or break our courage to go after what we want. We dive straight into the "how," take a chance on all kinds of love (romantic, platonic, familial, etc.) and hold nothing back. 

Even though this episode was recorded in February, six months later it feels like a warm and special letter from the past. As we start to see the world open up, let's have the boldness to step out of ourselves, our fears, and our worries, and to instead step into the power that voicing our truth gives us. If you are looking for an honest and raw conversation on resisting struggle love, learning vulnerability, stopping self-sabotage, and making the first move, then this episode is for you.

p.s. Amanda and I finally did meet in April and again this summer after a year of connecting virtually!! **Stat check: The average person has 60,000 thoughts per day, according to the Cleveland Clinic.

The VODPOD is all about centering voices and stories of Generation Z authentically. As voices of disruption, we recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and embrace storytelling in a  way that sparks thought, inspiration, action, and conversation. Every time that you disrupt, you step into a power that allows you to create, uplift, and empower yourself and others.

LIVE DISRUPTED: Questions to ask yourself after listening to this episode:

• In what areas of my life have I been getting in my own way by not going after what I want?
• Who taught me about love and relationship building? What truth exists in what I was taught?
• How can I start stepping into my power this month? What does shooting my shot look like in this season of becoming?

Join and connect with the community on Instagram @deb_olatunji, the podcast page,  and the website! Be sure to leave a rating and write a review so that we can continue to share the stories of how fellow disruptors are being connected and empowered all over the world. Let’s disrupt together now!

Every other week, I get a message in my DMs asking about how to start a podcast and manage time. The people have (LOUDLY) spoken! This week, I go into the tools that I use, talk about some behind-the-scenes logistics for the VODPOD, and lessons I’ve learned from podcasting for almost a year now. For starters, podcasting is a slow burn. I dive into questions from you all like, “how to stay consistent with editing and recording?” “how I learned graphic design?” and “what was the hardest part of starting?” This episode talks all about the beauty of podcasting and also on why our generation needs to tap back into having hobbies in its different forms. There are hobbies that never see the face of the internet and ones that you share with just your friends and family members. If you’re looking to start something new⁠—whether that's podcasting, journaling, painting, curating, dancing, reading⁠—and need an extra boost of inspiration, this is the episode for you. I also include a conversation on the effects of hustle culture and toxic productivity on our generation, capitalism’s pull on our mental wellness, and the concept of building a home through our ability to choose and create.

The VODPOD is all about centering voices and stories of Generation Z authentically. As voices of disruption, we recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and embrace storytelling in a  way that sparks thought, inspiration, action, and conversation. Every time that you disrupt, you step into a power that allows you to create, uplift, and empower yourself and others.

LIVE DISRUPTED: Questions to ask yourself after listening to this episode:

• What’s a hobby I’ve been interested in exploring that I haven’t tapped into yet?
• How can I take control over my life and make choices that help me grow?
• What does intentional rest as a hobby look like? How can I start making time for things I really enjoy?
• In what ways do I engage with the hobbies of others? What can I discover from experiencing the art of someone else?

Join and connect with the community on Instagram @deb_olatunji, the podcast page,  and the website! Be sure to leave a rating and write a review so that we can continue to share the stories of how fellow disruptors are being connected and empowered all over the world. Let’s disrupt together now!

Change is something we’ve become all too familiar with over the course of the past 16 months. Along with the newness comes the chance to confront our self-limiting beliefs and unpack what we’ve been taught to believe about exploration and growth. In this episode, I share the story of how changing my major from nursing has disrupted the path of my life. I talk about how I came to making such a big decision, what I had plans for beforehand, and what plans I have for the future. This is probably one of the most vulnerable episodes I’ve ever recorded. So much so that my editing process has an additional step: the first cut and final cut. I wanted to make sure that I shared this story in a way that connects with anyone who usually doubts themselves, has one too many existential crises, or feels stuck in where they currently are.

Life is all about making choices and decisions. You are not alone in this life. I hope that you have or can find community and support here in the way you choose to live your life. With the use of affirmations and iffirmations, navigating and understanding the need for change can help us grow and feel more connected to ourselves.

**Stat correction at 7:12 - According to the CDC, Black women are three times more likely to die in childbirth than white women. 

The VODPOD is all about centering voices and stories of Generation Z authentically. As voices of disruption, we recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and embrace storytelling in a  way that sparks thought, inspiration, action, and conversation. Every time that you disrupt, you step into a power that allows you to create, uplift, and empower yourself and others.

LIVE DISRUPTED: Questions to ask yourself after listening to this episode:

• What if I am allowed to be interested in something new? In what ways am I allowing myself to change and explore?
• What if disappointing others means that I am no longer leaving myself behind?
• What if I can live this life freely and pursue new goals and dreams?

Join and connect with the community on Instagram @deb_olatunji, the podcast page,  and the website!Be sure to leave a rating and write a review so that we can continue to share the stories of how fellow disruptors are being connected and empowered all over the world. Let’s disrupt together now!

Welcome back to the Voices of Disruption Podcast! It's so great to be back. Thank you for being here. In this episode, I recap what the last five months have been like, borrow from the genius of the New Happy Co's Stephanie Harrison's philosophy on creating a healthy digital home, and share some tidbits of what Season 2 will be like. We've even got new cover art and there are some new life updates in this episode! I also talk about some skills I want to learn over the summer, some of what I learned from reading Untamed by Glennon Doyle, and how to make your mental health a priority this summer and beyond. 

The VODPOD is all about centering voices and stories of Generation Z authentically. As voices of disruption, we recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness, and embrace storytelling in a  way that sparks thought, inspiration, action, and conversation. Every time that you disrupt, you step into a power that allows you to create, uplift, and empower yourself and others.

LIVE DISRUPTED: Questions to ask yourself after listening to this episode:

• What does prioritizing mental health look like for me?
• Who is in my digital space and how does that affect my wellbeing?
• What energy am I cultivating? How do I start honoring all of my feelings?

Join and connect with the community on Instagram @deb_olatunji, the podcast page,  and the website! Be sure to leave a rating and write a review so that we can continue to share the stories of how fellow disruptors are being connected and empowered all over the world. Let’s disrupt together now!