Intimacy in Isolation #034

This Week's Episode:
One-on-one dates with our younger kids can be a great time to be together and to teach them the mechanics of how to go on a date when they get to that stage of life. This week, Rachael breaks down a recent date she took with one of our kids, including what he learned, what she enjoyed, and how much farting there ended up being...


Since we are talking about teaching our kids to date, the Stat of the Week is about how people use dating apps and which apps are most popular.


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This Week's Episode:
We are talking about toxic positivity again, but this time inside our marriages. We look at how passivity and "equanimity" (if we even use that word correctly) can make your spouse feel crazy.

This conversation covers wives inviting their husbands to communicate their feelings in order to fight the  isolation, loneliness and feelings of confusion wives often feel. We encourage husbands to start from a place of legitimizing wives' feelings even if they aren't packaged right.

On the lighter side, we also introduce horse and froggy and talk about how much baking soda is being used to fight smells in our house right now.


The Stat of the Week is about stay-at-home-dad trends since the 1970s.


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This Week's Episode:
We are back! Again...

After a longer-than-expected layoff, we are back to talk about toxic positivity in our parenting--how we sometimes rush over our kids' feelings in an attempt to make them "feel better." If we are being honest, it is often about us wanting to feel better without really acknowledging our kids' hurt / pain / disappointment / fear and just sitting with them in it.

We also talk about how David remains an idiot in countless ways, and why he needs to trim his eyebrow(s).


The Stat of the Week is about how much less time married parents are spending together...alone.


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This Week's Episode:
After a couple months off we are back to talk about how mom's can focus on being the mom they want to be, not the mom they think they are supposed to be.

Our discussion is inspired by "Yes Day," and the way that moms and dads can often see and think about parenting differently. We might have different eyes, and often mom's feel more pressure (internally and externally) to "do everything in parenting right."

It is important to be grounded in order to feel freedom to enjoy time with our kids. We all feel judged and guilty, no matter how disciplined or loose we are as parents. So, how do moms and dads work together to find more freedom, enjoyment, and connection with their kids?


The Stat of the Week is about the pandemic's impact on young adults living with their parents.


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This Week's Episode:
We come back to the issue of parenting guilt every few months...I guess because it is front of mind (and heart) for us. Maybe you can relate.

This week we are unpacking why we shouldn't feel so much guilt about how our kids spend their time during the summer. We remind ourselves about a few things:

• The summer doesn't have to be perfect.
• We don't have to curate a world of perfect adventures.
• It is ok--no, it is good--for our kids to be bored.
• It is normal to want space from our kids sometimes. They don't need a 24-hour a day cruise director.
• We should stop emotionally beating ourselves up over all of this.

The Stat of the Week is about the "changes" in how teens spend their time during the summer. 

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This Week's Episode:
Full of practical tips for making the most (and easiest) of summer activities--be it the pool, beach, hiking or whatever. [Bonus: David gets angry about bad, one-dimensional parenting advice on social media.)

The Stat of the Week is also pool-inspired and covers some swimming statistics like how many 18-29 year old Americans own a hot tub or pool and what percentage of people pee in the pool (it's higher than it should be and probably lower than it actually is)!


We mention a lot of different items in this episode. Here are links to a few of our favorites:

• Speedo mesh bags
• Turkish beach towel
• Wet dry bag
• Sunscreens:  Blue Lizard spray and lotion
• Small first aid kit
• Beach cup holder
• Yeti Coozie
• Yeti Hopper cooler
• Large Ziploc containers
• Mom bags
  • Scout beach bag
  • Scout Rocket Pocket bag
  • BOGG bag

This Week's Episode:
Have you ever felt like you just can't be enough...enough at work, enough at home, enough in your marriage, enough with your kids, enough in your friendships???

Of course you have...we all have.

This week we are lamenting a little, encouraging each other a lot, and hopefully providing some home and encouragement for you too!

The Stat of the Week is about the potential pandemic-induced Baby Bust and how many kids mothers are having these days versus the past).


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This Week's Episode:
We are reminding ourselves how to interact with our kids when they are being surly--no matter what age.

• Be emotionally engaged, but appropriately distanced.
• Don't expect our kids to be adults.
• Use humor (wisely).
• Listen with true curiosity.
• Communicate clearly.
• Catch your kids doing "good" things, and provide descriptive, specific praise.

The Stat of the Week is inspired by our sadness about Bill & Melinda Gates' divorce announcement and is all about divorce statistics.


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This Week's Episode:
Maybe you and your spouse have never fought. But, we have. So, we are dissecting some of our recent ones--how they look, how each of us reacts, what we do to resolve them. And, we take a trip down memory lane to diagnose in which ways we have improved at fighting.

This episode will make you laugh at us, but hopefully it will also encourage you that your fights are normal. Not only that, fighting gives the opportunity for reconciliation and for use to teach our kids about unconditional love.


The Stat of the Week covers the fears of returning to normal that many people have as the pandemic (hopefully) winds down. But, don't fear; our brains will adapt back to post-pandemic life.


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This Week's Episode:
We are talking about the benefits of old technologies (e.g., newspapers, answering machines and record players), as well as the positives of modern technology. This is not an episode just griping about "kids these days," but is a discussion related to how we mix the modern and the slightly less modern to find good balance and set our kids up well to succeed in relationships and life.


The Stat of the Week is an interesting study on why older people complain about how younger generations are lacking today.


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