Money and Mental Health with LMFT Sheli Aquirre

Studies show that 68% of cancers are linked to unforgiveness. This deadly trait causes mothers to disconnect from their children, successful businesses to fall to pieces and relationships in general to destruct. Why is unforgiveness so prevalent though it's totally curable? Y'all let's get some HELP! Look no further - HELP IS HERE! Forgiveness Coach Stephanie McNeal joined me in the studio to address unforgiveness head on. Certified in relationship education, Stephanie was confronted with her lifelong anger and bitterness that she was carrying due to sexual trauma at a very young age that had gone unhealed until well into her adulthood. It wasn't until her need to be certified in her profession as a minster of reconciliation and forgiveness coach that she was forced to deal with her own unforgiveness. Fast forward to today, Stephanie is the author of Freed to Love - How Forgiveness Can Heal You From Broken Pieces To Master Peace and leads a movement that inspires countless men and women to produce a published collaborative work charting their own painful path to healing and opportunities to love again through the cathartic art of storytelling. Tune in. Listen Intently. Make an intentional decision to bury the burdens of your past. Forgive. To enroll in Stephanie's writing retreats, sign up for the Freed2Love writing collective or purchase her books, go to http://freed2love.com

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Dating different is not just for Singles! Dating different is doing relationships different!!

💥NEW EPISODE ALERT💥
Happy 2024! 🥂
This year is all about QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS! 💎

David Anthony is back!!!
After COVID, a traumatic  brain injury, out of work for 9 months and a hip surgery, David was at a  turning point. Life as he knew was over and as a man he had been broken down completely. The friends he had partied with left him and all he was left with was God. A recent follower of Christ at the time, why did God allow such horrible things to impact David’s life? Was David  mad a God for this untimely setback in his life? What was he going to do now? How would this impact his life and relationships going forward?
Listen to my conversation with podcaster, poet and men’s leader for new year insight on how men can be effective leaders in life, love and relationships.

During the holidays, you may feel lonely, have loss of appetite, have loss of sleep - even be sad or angry.  This is what's known as holiday blues.  Not to be confused with clinical depression or seasonal affective disorder, holiday blues effects approximately 44% of women and 33% of men according to the American Psychological Association. 

I had a talk with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Sheli Aguirre of Journey Forward Counseling and Wellness to understand how to identify the symptoms of holiday blues, understand its triggers and share examples of ways to cope just as receiving a hug, exercise, and dancing naked in the shower!!

You may contact Journey Forward Counseling and Wellness to inquire about services or for a referral at http://www.journeyforward.today or (813) 330-0529.

See below for some tips:

Typical sources of holiday sadness include:

• Stress

• Fatigue

• Unrealistic expectations

• Over-commercialization

• Financial stress

• The inability to be with one's family and friends

How can we HELP Others??

1. MHFA - Ask, Listen, Give Support, Educate on Self-help, Educate on Professional HELP

2. USE: NON-Violent Communication Observe/ Feelings, Needs, Ask

3. REGULATE YOURSELF - You can only truly support from a regulated nervous system

17 tips for coping with holiday stress and depression:

1. MAKE A PLAN and keep realistic expectations for the holiday season.

2. KEEP AN INTENTION. Ask yourself, who and how do I want to be this Holiday season? Choose a word

3. SELF-SOOTHE Find ways that will help you self soothe and regulate your mind and body when stressors build up and the Holiday happenings feel threatening! i.e.Take 5 Deep Breaths, Scan your Body

4. STEP AWAY literally - Take time to go for a walk, have a Dance Break, Shake it Out, 

5. MOVE YOUR BODY - Maintaining movement practices is vital to maintaining your feelings of health, wellness, and holiday joy. Do some Yoga, HIIT, Jog

6. SHIFT YOUR MINDSET check in on how you are perceiving your environment, triggers, others. Where do you feel out of control? Shift to what DO I have control over? What choices DO I have? 

7. VOLUNTEER If you are lonely, try volunteering some time to help others.

8. FIND FREE holiday activities that are free, such as looking at holiday decorations, going window shopping without buying, and watching the winter weather, whether it's a snowflake or a raindrop.

9. Limit drinking (Substance USE), since excessive drinking will only increase your feelings of depression.

10. Try something new. Celebrate the holidays in a new way.

11. CONNECT Spend time with supportive and caring people. Buddy Up! Find a buddy

12. GIVE SUPPORT - Give Support. Who else around you may be struggling? Giving is sometimes better than receiving. Who needs help raking or baking?

13. MAKE new FRIENDS Reach out and make new friends.

14. RECONNECT Make time to contact a long-lost friend or relative and spread some holiday cheer.

15. SELF-CARE Make time for yourself! You matter, and deserve to feel good.

16. Let others HELP share the responsibilities of holiday tasks.

17. TRACK SPENDING! Keep track of your holiday spending. Overspending can be a stressor when the bills arrive after the holidays are over.  

Are there dating rules? Is dating exciting or dreadful?  Have you lost hope in finding true love? Dating doesn't have to be difficult but you may want to consider doing different!

Join me with fellow Podcaster David Anthony of Better Gents Podcast with David Anthony as we take a deep dive into dating strategies  from a perspective  so simple that most think is too good to be true. This strategy even works for marriages, business partnerships and families.  Grab someone you love and take a listen!

Meet David Anthony: The Man He Was 5:39 - 6:58

What Now What Next? The Pivot: I'm Not Treating Women Right: 11:32 - 12:45

Dating in 2023 has its challenges. The male-female ratio is whack, long distance relationships can be frustrating, and emotional unavailability is a real thing! But what happens when women say they get ghosted because they have money? Can this be true? Listen in as I speak with Businesswoman Amanda Thomas with a male prospetive from Serial Entrepreneur Todd Smith about the phenomena that  has become the rule and not the exception. 

Men are integral in society. Specifically, the absence of a paternal parental can be devastating to a family and have negative consequences to community. Join me as I speak to paternal parental James A Toney, Jr. and mental health professional at Dr. Lauren Huff as we discuss the importance of father figures in our lives from adolescence to adulthood.

Have you every been crushed by love and didn't think you would bounce back?  Do you have a story of relationship resiliency that you would share if it encouraged others and freed you to love again?  These authors do!
Join me as Successful But Single Podcast talks to those who have love, loss, and took the steps of healing to love again!

Many deal with loneliness during the holidays - especially singles.  Listen in as we hear five great coping tips to champion loneliness from Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Sheli Aguirre of Journey Forward.  

Need help coping with trauma, depression or loneliness?  Contact Sheli at https://journeyforward.today/.

No one wants to admit they have failed and no one wants to admit that they are not free.

But the TRUTH is……….many of us  are STUCK! 

I am talking to the authors of The Journey to Love Again: An Anthology of Resilience  Stephanie McNeal, Jorgie Franks, Shenia Jackson, Selina Wiggins (Authors Harry Brown, Stephen Hudson, and Leslie Braggs not available for the interview) as they discuss  their journey to freedom and their upcoming book launch. These brave souls did the unthinkable- shared the pain and the process of finding love again on paper! 

Go to www.freed2love.com to get the book!

Is having preferences being picky? Join me in a chat with fellow podcasters Mr. Benja (The 8-Bit Cubist) and Colleen Kavanaugh (The Gig Girl) as we discuss the pros and cons of PREFERENCES!!!